I think one thing that fuels the fear of sleeplessness for so many of us is hearing medical experts pontificate and lecture us about how important sleep is and how detrimental it is when we dont get enough of it. That honestly just fans the obsessive flame. It sucks!
@@blaithin I totally can relate and I’m really sorry to hear that, but just know there are answers and it can be fixed. Medication can also help; it doesn’t fix anything obviously and side effects are certainly something to consider but meds (if they work for you) can at the very least buy you time so that you can work on the root of the problem while still getting the rest you need. Best of luck to you! You got this! 👍🏻
So relateble... This should be talked about more. They mean well and they want people to get more sleep but it has the absolute opposite effect on people. We are getting less of it because of them!
@@Lesegohhh Hello, and yeah, I can sleep. I guess sometimes theres times in our lives when we can't sleep/relax properly and that's okay. Last thing you should do is to worry about it. It's just gonna make it worse; so even if you can't sleep, don't stress much about it, just accept it. Thinking like this made me care less and I've been sleeping well ever since
This helped me get sleep last night! Ive been struggling with anxiety for most of my adult life. I’m embracing the fact that I deal with my thoughts differently than others, but I am learning coping skills that are going to help me get better. To those struggling with this, know that you are not crazy, you will not go crazy, you will not die, you will get through this. You will find ways to cope with your anxiety and you will be stronger because of it! Look at how many people are going through exactly what you are going through, it’s very common.
Thank you so much for this comment. I'm going through this exactly and I just got a panic attack last night. Not a very fun place to be. This has really helped me.
@@saizadmehadi2507 I'm going through the same thing you're going through. I think the best way, like the video is saying, is to just tackle it head on. MAN UP and not try to cower away and give your anxiety any power. I know it may sound insensitive to say it like this, but this is exactly how I dealt with discomfort or pain, is to try to avoid every little bit of it and after a few years of living in a comfort bubble, now any amount of discomfort snowballs into something much bigger than it should be. Anyways best of luck to you bro.
This is a constant struggle to all out there remember one thing it's just our thoughts which disturb us. You will not die of sleep deprivation. No body does by GOD will. It's a phobia and irrational fear. Keep functioning normal .your body will automatically adjust itself according to need . That's how it is made
I've been having the worst insomnia for 4 years. It is brought upon if I have something important the next day. I've tried to accept it and let time pass i.e. by not taking sleeping pills and telling my self if I don't sleep oh well. However I am going 3/4 days without sleep and working and I feel wrekced any advice?
@@lyviaortiz2065 lemme share another thing with you then! When I close my eyes I fear,I fear that I know I exist,isn't that weird? And I am desentisized as hell! Don't know what's wrong with me anymore,sorta tired of it,pray for me,I'll definitely do the same for you🖐🏼🌻
@@Son_of_aesthetics Every time I close my eyes somehow I get scared of being alone with myself and my conscious, I guess you could say I fear the those couple minutes between closing your eyes and finally sleeping because of how dark my thoughts get and I end up freaking out and eventually leading to a panic attack just over not sleeping. Don’t ever remember it being a problem a couple weeks ago, thank you so much. There’s nothing wrong with you or me we just think too much. Prayers🌟
@@lyviaortiz2065 "I get scared of being alone with myself and my conscious" Couldn't have said it better myself👌🏻 Exactly,I mean exactly we've got the same symptoms! And funny to know I can't remember I had this issue weeks ago either! So you think it is bcz of our overly overthinking?Cuz I have pure rumination ocd and over analysing,sometimes I can't quite define the line between genuine reasoning and ruminating! What should I do,do you think? It really is no fun man ☹💔
OMG! Yes, the constant checking and fighting was it for me. The main issue a lot of us here have is we are ALREADY people who struggle with some sort of anxiety, OCD or worry....maybe even health anxiety. Sleep anxiety is so much more common in people who have a history of anxiety. I wasn't freaking out about being tired, but the long term health effects we always hear about. The trickiest part is those health effects are REAL. It's scary when you feel your heart racing or pounding due to stress so trying not to focus on those when you've had LONG TERM sleep issues is hard. However, the truth is, if anxiety is the main problem, it's completely curable with work and time. That is what I had to keep telling myself. Also, the body has an AMAZING recovery system. We can heal. Also, I would offset my bad sleep a bit with positive things during the day like yoga, walking, nutrition, deep breathing (HUGELY helpful when you do it 15-20 x's a day). The deep breathing was a game-changer for my chronic fast heartbeat from anxiety and lack of sleep!!!! You have to do it multiple times per day though with emphasis on a LOOONG loud exhale!! I have been dealing with poor sleep since 2021 off and on and I'm much better now. Here's what else helped me... Mindfulness and acceptance has been the way out for me. It's hard at first because your inclination is to keep checking and wondering when you will sleep. I turned my clock on its face and that helped a LOT! Stretching!! I was shocked at how well this worked. I thought we had to calm our brains first, but actually relieving tension in your muscles helps calm the brain too! When your muscles are relaxed, your brain followers. I bought a massage gun to do my neck and shoulders. Most of us are already too tense. Saying calming words to myself over and over again like "Calm, Sleep, Relax etc." Just keep repeating. This works so well for me. Sometimes I'll yawn after just 2 minutes, that means my body is relaxing. I recommend journaling about your progress so you can make note of how things have improved. It's so easy to focus on the big picture, but there is always something to celebrate. The small wins matter. For example, you might notice that after listening to enjoyable podcasts before bed that your sleep has improved by one extra hour compared to last week. Those small improvements go a long way for your mental, and let's face it, this is 100% mental for many of us! At first, it's hard to focus on ANYTHING but checking in with yourself, but over time it gets better. But it definitely takes time when you have a habit of worrying. It's not going to fix itself in a few days if anxiety is chronic in your life. But yes, focusing too much on your sleep is the way to keep you stuck. Great video!
I've spent entire weeks in fight or flight mode because I was afraid I would just remain awake until I lost my mind and eventually died. I got over it but am having another bad episode now. This video is great for this insomnia and anxiety as a whole. Thank you for making it.
I'm going through the same thing. I had a panic attack yesterday and thought I was gonna die cuz I would lose my mind. I just watched this video so I hope it will help me tonight. It's so funny because just a few days ago, I didn't have any of this issues, but it snowballed into a monster. I guess I just have to remember that I was fine a few days ago so shouldn't be a big deal tonight.
Hey, are you still having issues every now and then? I'd like to know if you ever found anything because I was able to cure mine finally after 2 weeks of mental torture.
@@krayziez I’m having a similar problem currently. Probably 9 days with very little sleep each night. I’d be interested to know how you resolved this issue.
@@joesheppards1 I’m currently going through this as I’m typing this. I have been in fight or flight mode during bed trying to force myself to sleep. I’ve gone through periods like this before, how have you got past yours?
I have been struggling with this for 1.5 years now, sometimes months go by being ok, sometimes I struggle every day...I have started having this issues after going through hell dealing with the unexpected death of my 2 year old son. When the night comes, I become all alone, and the terror comes and all the sadness. And to top it off, a thought, what if I will never be able to sleep again. Some nights I just lay in terror waiting to fall asleep. Sometimes distraction helps other times it just causes me more pain. Antidepressants and talk therapy helped but it really comes down to accepting things as they are and not try to fight them. The problem for me also is, that after a hard night I have trouble finding any joy in life the next day, I feel depressed. This video really helped, thank you.
Thank you I needed this so so much right now. Currently having a panic attack about being led in bed for the last 7 damn hours trying to sleep. 6am now.
i can't believe i never watched this video before. this is so incredibly helpful! this is the exact reason why i have insomnia. people dont understand and i feel so alone. also reading these comments helps a lot, because i never met anyone with sleep anxiety. i always feel guilty for doing this to myself and for worrying about the most natural thing in the world. i hate the way i feel when i dont sleep, which creates a never ending cycle.
Girl same! Literally didn’t sleep a wink but just keep in mind this too shall pass. The more mentally resilient you become and more accepting rather than fighting it, the easier it will be!
Exactly same. I've been doing so much better but a really big trigger has started it up again. I am trying to see it as temporary but the fear, guilt and shame are back so strong along with horrendous sleep dep feelings. I'm sure if I can crack the shame thought/feeling the insomnia can't touch me anymore. V tough work -goes back to childhood but the urgency to get sleep makes working on it patiently v hard x
thank you 💗i have super bad sleep anxiety and i always worry about not having enough sleep, especially because i have work tomorrow. i need to remind myself that it is okay if i don’t sleep. it happens, and i will work around it, and handle it.
Facts fr fr. I haven’t slept properly in the past two days and it can really cripple me with fear. One thing that can help me is when I’m like this, I think about how when I get through it, I can remember and remind myself if I’m like that again that I have gone through this before.
We are all struggling to get rid of fear and sleep peacefully. I have this problem since a very long time, I sleep every night, even though I overthink of not getting proper sleep. I try to not overthink and sleep, but somehow that fears me and keeps me awake. I thought, nobody goes through such things, but I see so many people here, we need to motivate ourselves and get rid of this and make our mental health strong.
idk i just developed this fear when i haven't slept at all for 4 days, i'm literally shaking and my heart pounds so fast, i'm struggling with this shit every night since then, it interfere with my daily life and even school works, i'm only 16 and i'm feeling hopeless.. my mom bought melatonin for me, hope it works tho
That's exactly happened to me I'm just so worried and feel like I'll never gonna sleep i didn't slept last night and I'm so so scared of going to bed. Many thoughts are coming in my mind like I'll become crazy of not sleeping at all.
I know right? I've engineered my own comfort bubble all my life. Every little thing like if I wear short sleeves, my arms would be cold and I'd wear long sleeve, but put up the A/C a bit higher so it would be perfectly comfortable for me. Many other things too. But now all of that has made every little discomfort snowball into full blown panic attacks. I hope to figure out how to solve this myself. I think this video has great advice and will start with this.
Me too, I actually did embrace discomfort a few days ago, but regardless, I wasnt able to go to sleep at any point and I had to get ready for work the next day with 0 hours of sleep. I have a cold as well, so I dont know if that exacerbated my symptoms, but I felt terrible, every inch of my body hurt, felt feverish, my hands were shaking, felt nauseous.... so for me is not just discomfort, it feels like if I was very sick
This video was just what I needed! I almost just typed “I hope I can sleep tonight”...but I need to accept that I may or may not sleep. Thank you for the great advice!
I have OCD and this was a great help . I would be obsessing all night that I will never fall asleep and even had panic attacks over it but I have learned to accept it over time.
Thank you so much for this video. I have very bad health anxiety and my mind goes into catastrophic thinking when I feel like I can't sleep. This is really helpful. Currently struggling right now but your tips were good to hear.
Literally me😂 I watched a video recently on why sleep’s important and it mentioned all these benefits, but the real kicker was what happens when you don’t sleep or are sleep deprived. It said you’re at a higher risk of developing Alzheimer’s and that just stuck with me. I’ve had insomnia this past week and all I noticed is me trying to recall my memory and everything that happened throughout the day. If I forgot something, it made me really anxious and I start thinking like oh I have Alzheimer’s . It’s really silly now looking at this while typing but that’s really how I think. I seem to go from one worry to the next. But thanks for sharing I feel more at ease knowing I’m not alone when it comes to health anxiety
@@jeanomaly7776 Ah yeah, I have been through that before, hearing something negative related to health in a video can set my anxiety off so badly, sometimes it's hard to avoid running into that kind of thing. My paranoia can get set off really easily and yup I can relate to constantly checking for symptoms throughout the day of whatever condition I'm worrying about so I definitely get that. I'm sorry your insomnia has been bad this past week! Mine has been too. I hope you're able to relax a little and that the overthinking can calm down a bit, good luck!
@@kairiu7366 I'm sorry to hear you're going through the same thing, it can be tough sometimes and I still haven't 100% conquered it tbh although I think I am getting a little better. I try to focus on making relaxation my goal instead of sleep. If I tell myself "I'm just going to try to relax a bit," that can take off some pressure compared to thinking "I have to make myself fall asleep." If my mind is chaotic and racing, I try to think of how I can take myself from feeling "bad" to just "slightly less bad." Even if I can't be in a 100% "great" mood, if I'm feeling even just slightly calmer, it's still an improvement. I listen to ASMR and write. Overall I feel like I'm doing okay, I recently had some life events that threw my schedule off and made me anxious about sleep again, it happens, but yeah, using calming distractions and reminding myself that it will pass eventually helps me get through it a little better than before. I hope things can get easier for you and I really wish you the best.
haven't slept for 30+ hours, tried sleeping several times but each time i feel like im falling asleep i rapidly get adrenaline, my heart starts racing and its like mini anxiety attack, im so tired
did it pass ? because im exactly where you were 2 months ago i cant sleep , when im about to fall asleep my heart just keeps pounding and i feel like i should open my eyes or the pounding wont stop. it has been like that for a few days now
@@Tutankhamun1001 yes it passed :) it went on for around a week, i took aspirin few times just in case and started drinking melissa every night (worked for me more as placebo), and i tried to make my bed as cozy as possible. i think it passed exactly the day i got to hang out with my friends cuz the stress just went away and i naturally fell asleep without worries and after that i was just like "hey i did it! it means im safe" and i repeated that thought every night since then until i forgot about the problem. ALSO i really really recommend you app called "Dare", there's a section with audios for health anxiety, i found that very comforting. i hope you get better soon 🫶
@@Tutankhamun1001it passed :) i took aspirin few times just so i feel safe, started drinking melissa, made my bed as cozy as possible and used app called "Dare" which i really really recommend. there's a section with health anxiety, please try that out. i think my problem actually passed after hang out with friends, cuz the stress dissapeared and i fell asleep before i got to overthink it. since that night i just reminded myself that i survived sleep that day, it'll be fine, and over time I forgot about the problem. i hope you get better soon 🫶
Thank u so much for posting this!!! I haven't need able to fall asleep for almost 2 years now... But my mom is a great help. She helps me sleep almost every night and I am so grateful for that... But this video is a great help and I think this video helped lots of people!!! THANK YOU!!!!
Sounds like a great idea, unless you have plans, have an active lifestyle, or have kids. Accepting that you will feel like crap the next day is one thing, sure, that's mine to deal with, but other people having to deal with it is another.
Please make another video on sleep! I’m so scared to sleep because I’m scared I won’t ever sleep or I won’t get enough sleep and I’ll get ill. I hate that feeling and I’m constantly counting the hours I sleep please help me I’m struggling
My 8 year old son is literally crippled with sleep anxiety. I mentioned to him several months ago that kids need 10 to 12 hours of sleep to maintain a healthy immune system not thinking that it could or would ever do any harm. I had mentioned that he needed more sleep before several times over the years and it just went in one ear and out the other but for some reason this time it stuck and grew into a monster. I tried to take it back and reassure him that he would be fine if he didn't get that much sleep but he becomes sick with paranoia at bedtime and refuses to sleep by himself. He wakes me up every 15 minutes asking me what time it is until he finally falls asleep but then he wakes back up again 30 min later and it starts again. I need help bc I'm losing my mind. I'm losing my temper and it's just making his anxiety a million times worse. I've tried Melatonin, nightlights, security blankets, lavender oil, white noise, binaural beats, rubbing his back, etc. Etc.
i'm 15 and i have been having anxiety about sleep too. i think i might have some kind of OCD, because i just focus on things like healthy eating, lifestyle stuff, ect. for the past few weeks ive been kinda anxous about not falling asleep, but mostly not GETTING enough sleep. i watched some stupid video on youtube, about how 'ohh, everybody needs 8-9 hours of perfect sleep or were all gonna dieeeee ahhhhh!' and through my whole life basically, ive gotten about 7-8 hours of sleep, and felt great! -oh but thats not enough for teens! that just put unnecesarry anxiety in my life, and honestly, i think that 8-9 or 8-10 hours of sleep, is just too much sleep for me... anytime ive ever gotten that much sleep, was because i was sick or something. on my usual 7 hours of sleep, i never feel i need a nap, and im not usually tired until its my bedtime. so, i dont know if this helps, or if youll even read all of this, but pls just have patients, and remind him that, we all go through weird fazes, and that this too, shall pass. something that helps me on sleepless nights, is to just lay there in bed and say "this is my time to RELAX, even if i dont sleep, which i eventually will, im going to lay here quietly and close my eyes." my mom has been through this many times... thats what bedtimes all about. just relax, you dont have to do a thing :)
@ it's a no from me, thank you so much for your comments. My son is actually doing a lot better now. It seems he's phasing out of this for now thank God.
Sorry I am not commenting something useful,but it is so sweet of you trying to help your son with anxiety,I'm sure as heck it isn't an easy task to be a mother👍🏻 All I wish you and your family have a beautiful life and hope your dear son is doing better by now,much love
Omg i relate to you, my mom always told me that i should sleep 8-13 hours a day or else id get like leaukimia or ocd, it litteraly scared me to the point my sleep is only 2-3 hours everyday
I hope you found a way to resolve this problem! If not, a weighted blanket and reading before bed has always helped me. The weighted blanket worked because, not only did it help me sleep by preventing too much fidgeting that led to wakefulness, but it became a “safety symbol.” “Oh…. I sleep well with this blanket, so I don’t have to worry about not falling asleep anymore as long as I have it!” This helped prevent some of the fears of never falling asleep I always tried to combat that would keep me awake due to fighting myself.
One thing I do that helps me is I hide my clocks or turn them backwards. Seeing the time and how much has passed will DEFINITELY make things worse and give you more anxiety all night. It doesn't work like a charm but it helps me at least not focus on the time.
I am accepting that lately but the result is that I just stay awake the whole night. I still am checking and at the same time it feels like the acceptance becomes a decision. Lately once a thought appears in my mind its game over for me.
Awwww natasha this makes me feel less anxious about sleeping i will try this method i hope i could sleep tonight cause i've been sleepless for days because im worrid that i woukd never fall asleep again i eventually cried because these thoughts keep racing but this makes me feel better please pray for me so i can get out of this situation, im gonna do an update to this
I have the exact same problem my favorite way to fall asleep whenever that happens is to pray and talk to God about my day it distracts me and I will fall asleep I hope this helps and I highly recommend Headspace the meditation app you will learn how to meditate and calm yourself and learn to balance life, to stop worrying, and many other things my parents got me a trial for it and it’s helped a lot I will pray for you tonight ❤️ stay safe
I feel exactly the same with you guys.. Every night I sleep at 4 am and during the day everything is fine but when it's time to go to bed I feel so stressed and scared that I will never sleep again😭 But I'll pray for you guys you are not alone and please if you have an uptade let me now Hi it's me again after almost a week.. I just wanted to say to all of you who are stressed out for not sleeping. Please don't be! You'll be ok! The moment you'll stop worrying it's the moment you'll fall asleep. So there's nothing to be afraid you are ok and your health won't be affected from a few nights without sleep. Just think that you don't have to sleep and you'll feel sleepy! I did the same. I was so afraid that I would die if I wouldn't sleep..But that is not true! Please be strong and calm down and everything will be alright
@@kounelip1822 1 month later: Natasha has helped me so much and I entirely agree with you. the world won’t end if I don’t fall asleep and also I have had a much easier time falling asleep. For a wile things were okay but it’s starting to come back so I’m here at this video to help myself and tell myself it’s all alright. Thank you so much for helping me to know other kids (or adults) have the same problem. My prayers be with you, your family, and the other person that we replied to. I hope your anxiety has lessened!
@@kounelip1822 I am so scared do you have any tips how I can stop getting scared I’m so worried I’ll die if I don’t get enough sleep. And I count the hours I sleep and at night it makes me feel awful
This anxiety is exactly what I struggle with. Everyday when it becomes closer and closer to my bedtime I get anxious leaving me to feel uncomfortable. However I still manage to get at least 8 of hours of sleep almost everyday. So I find it weird. while, I have struggled with sleep at least 2 months back (which btw has traumatised me as I am someone to tends to sleep quickly and obtain tons of sleep) I have pretty much conquered not getting enough sleep and if I don't get any sleep I know how to eventually relax. I have put in a lot of effort to learn how to conquer this fear or at least I think I have. But still despite sleeping peacefully I still experience an uncomfortable feeling when it nears later times. Why is this? I don't get it. I can sleep well enough but I still feel this way, why? (sorry for the little rant there)
How are you now? I have the same problem. I went through bad insomnia but its over now, however I still fear it coming back every night. Even though it doesn't come back and I am sleeping about 90% well. I think its because the first bout of insomnia has traumatized me.
21 years old suffering from severe insomnia for 2 months so far , my sleep during every week is usually I do get some days of the week 4-5hours of sleep but for some reason it gets worse and end up 1-2 even 3 days in the row sometimes without sleep and after those sleepless nights fatigue gets me to sleep and the cycle repeats, the annoying symptoms that I get after sleepless nights are faster heart rate and shakiness , insomnia making my life miserable asf, a random panic attack in one morning was the trigger of my insomnia
How are you doing? I have ups and downs.. it got triggered again unfortunately. I notice exercising helps me, going to bed really tired. Will try to accept it again and… it remains working very hard.. 😕
This was super helpful Natasha and now I know I have to embrace the thought of not getting sleep and just focus on relaxing and feeling comfortable. The sleep will come naturally after that weirdly enough. Thank you
Thats what I did with hypnic jerks. I just eventually embraced them and stopped giving them power over my mind. Eventually they went away. Took me 2 months to finally break that chain.
What you described is exactly whats happening right now I knew this was the problem that I kept thinking that I need to sleep but I just needed to hear it
Thanks so much I have been having a hard time fighting my mind about going to sleep. I did fall asleep briefly for a hour or so in last 36 hours but yea relaxing is key trying to be greatful which releases anxiety as it’s from and part of the brain
Great Video Natasha! I haven't slept very much in two days and exactly what you said about the checks is what I was doing. I will try this new approach tonight. Thanks again.
This is me everyday this past week. I have stayed up 30 some odd hours everyday that passes and when I do sleep it’s not very much. I dread the thought of trying to go to bed every night and just keep checking the clock every half hour wondering why I’m still up. I think it’s because I know I’ll feel like absolute crap both physically and mentally if I don’t sleep. I have a number of auto immune diseases and severe depression so no sleep affects me greatly. I feel so much better if/when I am able to get decent sleep. I also have the fear of being the last one awake and have no idea why. I sleep better if someone else is awake and have spent a lot of my adult life sleeping days instead of nights because of this😔
I’ve been rlly anxious lately. That made me not be able to sleep and I started panicking because one of my biggest fears is developing insomnia. So whenevr I can’t the thought that I will b like that forever stays. But telling myself that millions of ppl go through that and are okay has helped me
@@rutujapatil2899for me the thought of not getting sleep was the real problem so I did what she told in this video. Just tell yourself that not falling asleep is ok.
3 months and 1 week postpartum. Sleep has been deprived hard. I used to sleep so well, and now it's a struggle to fall asleep and stay asleep. I hope I'll get better.
i find this ladies advice very helpful for this sleep issue i have this has been my problem for about two years now it just came out of the blue when i try to make myself go to sleep and i am64 yo
Guys i hope this hlep u.just think its just your mind your just overthinking and go to sleep and ur fear will be gone and u will sleep good and goodnight❤❤
I'm not afraid. I have knowledge that when I don't sleep, next day when I have to go to work, I'll be so sick with horrible migraines that I'll be throwing up and maybe leaving work for feeling too sick....having an involuntary sick day off. The worst thing that can happen to me is severe migraine throbbing pain, which will cause me throwing up non-stop for 10 times or more losing hydration and strength, potentially passing out.....If it was not for that, I would never worry about just being sleepy. I'm actually scared of getting severely sick again...
Thanks man. It’s weird to find myself here commenting on what’s fucked about me like everyone else, but I have been plagued by “if I can’t sleep I’ll be dysfunctional tomorrow, and if I keep doing this it will ruin my life”. The issue is that this thought is TRUE. But it’s entirely self-fulfilling. How do I disengage from a true, catastrophizing thought?
It started when I fall sick and I couldn't sleep since down I have dis fear that I can sleep and that makes my heart to rate and sometimes it's like something is missing in my life, and even when I sleep I don't have did joy or satisfaction. I always fear and my heart will start rating I will try this. Thank you ma
I had very bad sleeping problems,When i was a kid i would always cry before sleeping because i didnt want to wake up and go to sleep like the other nights,its so tireing!I always didnt want to be the last one to sleep,i would always be scared.This help alot tho
with all this things like " you need to sleep 7 to 8 hours" lack of sleep may cause dementia worries me and overshadow the belief that yeah I will be ok even if I have 5 or less hours of sleep the next day. I just hope I can get over this and I don't want to depend on sleeping pills.
I struggled with this around two years ago of me being constantly in bed until five or 6 AM, not being able to sleep having to wake up around 10 AM the next day and it went away. I don’t remember exactly how but I never worried about sleep until maybe a few days ago I had slept around 10pm only for an hour. I woke up around 11 PM and I was getting ready to do my usual sleep and I usually sleep around 3 AM for daily reasons and I was getting around 3 AM and that’s when I usually turn off my phone but I started worrying for no particular reason I used to have these months around the year where I did not sleep and I didn’t have a problem with it I was always out with friends until six in the morning. Heck, sometimes I’d get no sleep at all and then me and my friends would go to the lake at 7 AM jump with the ice cold water with no sleep and so it was strange to me. I began feeling anxious. about not being able to sleep. Since it happened so sudden, even though sometimes you can’t come to the conclusion that yeah you’re gonna be OK. It’s still hard for some of us even last night. I told myself I said you’re fine. There isn’t anything wrong with you because you were sleeping consistently for months and months at the same exact time so this has to be anxiety induced cause you’re always worried about not being able to sleep. Always checking the time worrying that time is gone by so fast but you’re not asleep yet. This video does help me confirm certain thoughts that relieve me since I know I do eventually fall asleep whether it be at 6 AM 7 AM whatever time I eventually do fall asleep, so it helps me with words of affirmation trust me I know it’s scary you start looking up how to hear your insomnia can insomnia be deadly then you find out there is a fatal type of insomnia and then you start wondering can happen out of nowhere. Is there a cure? What can I do if I’m not falling asleep constantly worrying when you should just be letting yourself go I used to struggle a lot with anxiety in general anxiety, and the moment I stopped caring about how the panic attack felt. I was fine. You honestly just have to put your faith in God. If you don’t believe in God, you have to put your faith in yourself something to comforts you
I know in my head that it doesn’t really matter if I fall asleep or not and I know my body will sleep when it needs to. I just still always have the nervous feeling there even though I know logically that it will be okay. Any suggestions?
None of these are my fears. I really do think I developed some type of phobia from a horrible, traumatic experience of sleep. Back in 2018, I woke up startled and felt like something was taking over my body, and ever since then, falling asleep easily has never been normal for me. I know I have a case of anxiety... And most likely sleep anxiety; I wish there was a way to combat this.
Hey! I just really wanted to thank you verry very much😁 you just described perfectly what ı was living for 2 months and this video made me relax really much! I always think about it like this: (oh ı did not sleep yesterday and ım tired if ı dont sleep today too ı will be reeallly tired and ıf ı dont sleep again...) but then with this video ı realised that it does not work like that! Now ı feel really nice! Thanks!!!!
It is very easy to give advice when you do not have sleep problem I take Sleep 3 with L-Thianine daily to get some sleep and still barely sleep but sometimes I sleep some hour not to deep only light sleep It is hard to be like this
For most of my life my mother told me to get an exact 8 hours or more of sleep which led me to anxiety. It worries me that if i dont get those 8 hours of sleep everyday id die of exhaustion
Stop worrying if ur not getting 8 hours of sleep ur fine i personally am strugling with insomnia i cant stop thinking about not falling asleep and it worries me just know that if u dont get 8 hours of sleep ur fine.
I remember having ocd so bad about sleep that i wouldn't sleep for 4 nights straight and would obsess about sleep all day, living hell, it still comes up frequently
Hello. Please help me, I constantly worry even in daytime if I will have a goodnight sleep. As a result, I can’t sleep because I feel nervous my heart palpitations kicked in and my thought will be “ I may die because of this.” Or “ I may get crazy.” There was one time I have no sleep for 3 days but i was able to sleep after that for only 4 hours. What should I do?
I have health anxiety. I already been doing good on my sleep until I saw a post about a sickness called ffi. Now I’m scared that I might not be able to sleep. I am thinking that I have disease because I can’t sleep. Well its a rare disease and its a familial type. But its hard for me. It sucks dealing with a health anxiety.
@@zredge823 im feeling good now. Started working already and got to adjust my body clock. I just put in my mind that i don’t need to force my self to be okay I just let em be like that then eventually im slowly healing and im getting used to it right now. Just live life and do what i gotta do.
@@GreaserJohnny Cool! It's great to hear this that u r fine, hey, what was ur age when u faced this issue? Also wanted to have a suggestion whatever I do I et that weird thought of thinking something stressful that makes me feel emotionless and hopeless...I get an unusual minor jerk through my eyes to neck, makes me feel anxious about what could it be or when will it over...maybe u would relate it with me? Any tip?
It’s incredibly frustrating for me to watch people around me fall asleep within 10-20 minutes after closing their eyes, while on my best nights, it takes me at least an hour and a half, and even then, with so much effort. I used to think I was losing my mind, especially during those nights when my anxiety kicks in. I start dreading bedtime, knowing I’m about to face the same struggle, and it feels like a battle I must win every night if I don’t want to feel terrible the next day. I’ve tried everything-magnesium, meditation techniques, hot showers, reading, and a consistent sleep routine-but none of it has really worked for me. The only thing that has helped so far is wine, but I don’t want to rely on that to fall asleep.
Mine is I have chronic pain and my chronic pain is worse when I don't sleep. Also as the night goes on the pain increases. So say I should be asleep at 12am as an example, if I'm not by 1 or 2am the pain starts to get worse. Which of course makes it even harder to relax and fall asleep. So it's not just the fear of being tired. That sucks I can sort of handle that. But feeling mentally like a zombie and hurting is just so overwhelming and yes very scary.
Hi all. I didn't sleep at all last night I went out with the guys got home at 1am and went to bed at 3am. I tried sleeping but would just lay there with my eyes closed awake. Next thing you know it's 6 am 7 am and I'm like wow the day is starting and I basically broke night. I've been up since yesterday morning at 8am I tried sleeping but I can't and now I'm worried that I won't sleep tonight either. It's just a cycle. Today feels like a waste of a day like I'm a floating zombie. I tried to do things in the house to help my wife with our 1 year old son but I feel so bad. I feel useless and my main worry is if I continue to think about sleep will I sleep? If not then what will happen to me. Sleep anxiety is the worse.
Nope. Here I am searching up videos because it's 4am and I can't sleep. It's been days now with no relief, and I'm getting scared that I'll die from sleep deprivation. You're not alone at all.
This was very helpful except I have a different problem it’s that I am afraid to sleep because most of the time when I sleep I have this insane nightmare which I cannot wake up from and it is hard for me to control my body or I feel that I am awake but I am not. (Sorry if this was very long but I just wanted to get it of my chest)
Same and I'm scared to fall asleep I haven't been sleeping at night for 2 days now but now I'm at my dad's house and my dad is more way more strict than my mom and I'm afraid I'll get caught
U guys r actually lucky because its just a nightmare, believe me ive been scared to not be able to fall asleep cause my mom told me if i dont get 8-10 hours my blood will get a desease & make my brain go crazy. Now ive been sleeping for 2-3 hours for the past 1 month
I have experienced this for almost a year now. In simple terms what you need to do is call your own brain’s bluff. That’s what it is. You don’t do it with hopes of dissolving or guarantees, this isn’t how it works. You do is as a “yolo” thing and eventually you don’t give a sh*t. This in turn slowly dissolves the shock in which you’re in (this is nothing but brain shock) and eventually you improve and return to normal but you’re not really checking in or caring because your thought process also returns to normal. You didn’t check before (prior to the state of impaired sleep) so you’re not going to be checking either when you return to normal again.
I think one thing that fuels the fear of sleeplessness for so many of us is hearing medical experts pontificate and lecture us about how important sleep is and how detrimental it is when we dont get enough of it. That honestly just fans the obsessive flame. It sucks!
I was thinking the same
100% 👍
worsens my insomnia so much
@@blaithin I totally can relate and I’m really sorry to hear that, but just know there are answers and it can be fixed. Medication can also help; it doesn’t fix anything obviously and side effects are certainly something to consider but meds (if they work for you) can at the very least buy you time so that you can work on the root of the problem while still getting the rest you need. Best of luck to you! You got this! 👍🏻
So relateble... This should be talked about more. They mean well and they want people to get more sleep but it has the absolute opposite effect on people. We are getting less of it because of them!
"The body will demand sleep when its ready" made me feel better
Really not true though.
@@Kane6676 how do you figure?
Absolutely! And honestly meds really can help if you have not tried them yet.
It's been 4 weeks since I've got even a minute of sleep . When is my body gonna demand for sleep 😑
@@xoxo-om2bx have you gone to the ER?
Bro, if you can’t fall asleep, its okay, relax, you got this!
can you sleep now ?
@@Lesegohhh Hello, and yeah, I can sleep. I guess sometimes theres times in our lives when we can't sleep/relax properly and that's okay. Last thing you should do is to worry about it. It's just gonna make it worse; so even if you can't sleep, don't stress much about it, just accept it. Thinking like this made me care less and I've been sleeping well ever since
This helped me get sleep last night! Ive been struggling with anxiety for most of my adult life. I’m embracing the fact that I deal with my thoughts differently than others, but I am learning coping skills that are going to help me get better. To those struggling with this, know that you are not crazy, you will not go crazy, you will not die, you will get through this. You will find ways to cope with your anxiety and you will be stronger because of it! Look at how many people are going through exactly what you are going through, it’s very common.
Bro it's tooo long for recovery im just exhausted 😩
Thank you so much for this comment. I'm going through this exactly and I just got a panic attack last night. Not a very fun place to be. This has really helped me.
@@saizadmehadi2507 I'm going through the same thing you're going through. I think the best way, like the video is saying, is to just tackle it head on. MAN UP and not try to cower away and give your anxiety any power. I know it may sound insensitive to say it like this, but this is exactly how I dealt with discomfort or pain, is to try to avoid every little bit of it and after a few years of living in a comfort bubble, now any amount of discomfort snowballs into something much bigger than it should be. Anyways best of luck to you bro.
@@krayziez Thank u so much bro for ur advice and take care
How many days you haven’t sleep?
This is a constant struggle to all out there remember one thing it's just our thoughts which disturb us. You will not die of sleep deprivation. No body does by GOD will. It's a phobia and irrational fear. Keep functioning normal .your body will automatically adjust itself according to need . That's how it is made
very helpful comment, thanks
Thank god this made me feel relieved and 3 times better
Will i die if i only have 3-4 hours everyday
@@BuCz2004 no you wont
I've been having the worst insomnia for 4 years. It is brought upon if I have something important the next day. I've tried to accept it and let time pass i.e. by not taking sleeping pills and telling my self if I don't sleep oh well. However I am going 3/4 days without sleep and working and I feel wrekced any advice?
Okay here we go again. Me sitting here shaking and my heart plumpling, sweating and i thinking/worrying i can't sleep
I'm afraid of sleeping itself,I can't understand at all
@@Son_of_aesthetics me either bud you’re not alone
@@lyviaortiz2065 lemme share another thing with you then!
When I close my eyes I fear,I fear that I know I exist,isn't that weird?
And I am desentisized as hell!
Don't know what's wrong with me anymore,sorta tired of it,pray for me,I'll definitely do the same for you🖐🏼🌻
@@Son_of_aesthetics Every time I close my eyes somehow I get scared of being alone with myself and my conscious, I guess you could say I fear the those couple minutes between closing your eyes and finally sleeping because of how dark my thoughts get and I end up freaking out and eventually leading to a panic attack just over not sleeping. Don’t ever remember it being a problem a couple weeks ago, thank you so much. There’s nothing wrong with you or me we just think too much. Prayers🌟
@@lyviaortiz2065 "I get scared of being alone with myself and my conscious"
Couldn't have said it better myself👌🏻
Exactly,I mean exactly we've got the same symptoms!
And funny to know I can't remember I had this issue weeks ago either!
So you think it is bcz of our overly overthinking?Cuz I have pure rumination ocd and over analysing,sometimes I can't quite define the line between genuine reasoning and ruminating!
What should I do,do you think?
It really is no fun man ☹💔
OMG! Yes, the constant checking and fighting was it for me. The main issue a lot of us here have is we are ALREADY people who struggle with some sort of anxiety, OCD or worry....maybe even health anxiety.
Sleep anxiety is so much more common in people who have a history of anxiety.
I wasn't freaking out about being tired, but the long term health effects we always hear about. The trickiest part is those health effects are REAL. It's scary when you feel your heart racing or pounding due to stress so trying not to focus on those when you've had LONG TERM sleep issues is hard.
However, the truth is, if anxiety is the main problem, it's completely curable with work and time. That is what I had to keep telling myself. Also, the body has an AMAZING recovery system. We can heal.
Also, I would offset my bad sleep a bit with positive things during the day like yoga, walking, nutrition, deep breathing (HUGELY helpful when you do it 15-20 x's a day). The deep breathing was a game-changer for my chronic fast heartbeat from anxiety and lack of sleep!!!! You have to do it multiple times per day though with emphasis on a LOOONG loud exhale!!
I have been dealing with poor sleep since 2021 off and on and I'm much better now. Here's what else helped me...
Mindfulness and acceptance has been the way out for me. It's hard at first because your inclination is to keep checking and wondering when you will sleep. I turned my clock on its face and that helped a LOT!
Stretching!! I was shocked at how well this worked. I thought we had to calm our brains first, but actually relieving tension in your muscles helps calm the brain too! When your muscles are relaxed, your brain followers. I bought a massage gun to do my neck and shoulders. Most of us are already too tense.
Saying calming words to myself over and over again like "Calm, Sleep, Relax etc." Just keep repeating. This works so well for me. Sometimes I'll yawn after just 2 minutes, that means my body is relaxing.
I recommend journaling about your progress so you can make note of how things have improved. It's so easy to focus on the big picture, but there is always something to celebrate. The small wins matter.
For example, you might notice that after listening to enjoyable podcasts before bed that your sleep has improved by one extra hour compared to last week. Those small improvements go a long way for your mental, and let's face it, this is 100% mental for many of us!
At first, it's hard to focus on ANYTHING but checking in with yourself, but over time it gets better.
But it definitely takes time when you have a habit of worrying. It's not going to fix itself in a few days if anxiety is chronic in your life. But yes, focusing too much on your sleep is the way to keep you stuck. Great video!
Thanks for this comment, its helpful
I've spent entire weeks in fight or flight mode because I was afraid I would just remain awake until I lost my mind and eventually died. I got over it but am having another bad episode now. This video is great for this insomnia and anxiety as a whole. Thank you for making it.
I'm going through the same thing. I had a panic attack yesterday and thought I was gonna die cuz I would lose my mind. I just watched this video so I hope it will help me tonight. It's so funny because just a few days ago, I didn't have any of this issues, but it snowballed into a monster. I guess I just have to remember that I was fine a few days ago so shouldn't be a big deal tonight.
Hey, are you still having issues every now and then? I'd like to know if you ever found anything because I was able to cure mine finally after 2 weeks of mental torture.
@@krayziez I’m having a similar problem currently. Probably 9 days with very little sleep each night. I’d be interested to know how you resolved this issue.
@@joesheppards1 I’m currently going through this as I’m typing this. I have been in fight or flight mode during bed trying to force myself to sleep. I’ve gone through periods like this before, how have you got past yours?
@@krayziezhow did u do that,
When she said you are not alone” in the beginning i gloomed up! :D
I have been struggling with this for 1.5 years now, sometimes months go by being ok, sometimes I struggle every day...I have started having this issues after going through hell dealing with the unexpected death of my 2 year old son.
When the night comes, I become all alone, and the terror comes and all the sadness. And to top it off, a thought, what if I will never be able to sleep again.
Some nights I just lay in terror waiting to fall asleep.
Sometimes distraction helps other times it just causes me more pain.
Antidepressants and talk therapy helped but it really comes down to accepting things as they are and not try to fight them.
The problem for me also is, that after a hard night I have trouble finding any joy in life the next day, I feel depressed.
This video really helped, thank you.
Thank you I needed this so so much right now. Currently having a panic attack about being led in bed for the last 7 damn hours trying to sleep. 6am now.
i’m sorry, i know exactly how you feel
i can't believe i never watched this video before. this is so incredibly helpful! this is the exact reason why i have insomnia. people dont understand and i feel so alone. also reading these comments helps a lot, because i never met anyone with sleep anxiety. i always feel guilty for doing this to myself and for worrying about the most natural thing in the world. i hate the way i feel when i dont sleep, which creates a never ending cycle.
Girl same! Literally didn’t sleep a wink but just keep in mind this too shall pass. The more mentally resilient you become and more accepting rather than fighting it, the easier it will be!
hey, are you now? Is that weird thing over? hopefully!?
Exactly same. I've been doing so much better but a really big trigger has started it up again. I am trying to see it as temporary but the fear, guilt and shame are back so strong along with horrendous sleep dep feelings. I'm sure if I can crack the shame thought/feeling the insomnia can't touch me anymore. V tough work -goes back to childhood but the urgency to get sleep makes working on it patiently v hard x
Same here but just wanna know are you better now?
Thank god there are people with similar issues like me i am sooo relieved right now
thank you 💗i have super bad sleep anxiety and i always worry about not having enough sleep, especially because i have work tomorrow. i need to remind myself that it is okay if i don’t sleep. it happens, and i will work around it, and handle it.
Facts fr fr. I haven’t slept properly in the past two days and it can really cripple me with fear. One thing that can help me is when I’m like this, I think about how when I get through it, I can remember and remind myself if I’m like that again that I have gone through this before.
music and fake scenarios tend to help me a lot, just thinking about laying in your loved ones lap with them comforting you.
Going to try this. Ugh.
We are all struggling to get rid of fear and sleep peacefully. I have this problem since a very long time, I sleep every night, even though I overthink of not getting proper sleep. I try to not overthink and sleep, but somehow that fears me and keeps me awake. I thought, nobody goes through such things, but I see so many people here, we need to motivate ourselves and get rid of this and make our mental health strong.
idk i just developed this fear when i haven't slept at all for 4 days, i'm literally shaking and my heart pounds so fast, i'm struggling with this shit every night since then, it interfere with my daily life and even school works, i'm only 16 and i'm feeling hopeless.. my mom bought melatonin for me, hope it works tho
@@kairiu7366 how are u now?
That's exactly happened to me I'm just so worried and feel like I'll never gonna sleep i didn't slept last night and I'm so so scared of going to bed. Many thoughts are coming in my mind like I'll become crazy of not sleeping at all.
@@kairiu7366 how are you now I have the same symptoms of severe lack of sleep
Accepting discomfort is definitely something I struggle with.
I know right? I've engineered my own comfort bubble all my life. Every little thing like if I wear short sleeves, my arms would be cold and I'd wear long sleeve, but put up the A/C a bit higher so it would be perfectly comfortable for me. Many other things too. But now all of that has made every little discomfort snowball into full blown panic attacks. I hope to figure out how to solve this myself. I think this video has great advice and will start with this.
Same. It's definitely tricky.
Me too, I actually did embrace discomfort a few days ago, but regardless, I wasnt able to go to sleep at any point and I had to get ready for work the next day with 0 hours of sleep. I have a cold as well, so I dont know if that exacerbated my symptoms, but I felt terrible, every inch of my body hurt, felt feverish, my hands were shaking, felt nauseous.... so for me is not just discomfort, it feels like if I was very sick
This video was just what I needed! I almost just typed “I hope I can sleep tonight”...but I need to accept that I may or may not sleep. Thank you for the great advice!
Were u able to sleep after thinking this way?
this is exactly what ive been going through in my head! what are the odds that you post a video about it 2 nights after. thanks :)
I have OCD and this was a great help . I would be obsessing all night that I will never fall asleep and even had panic attacks over it but I have learned to accept it over time.
Same here this video was great.
same whenever i cant sleep I get scared that ill never sleep
I am with you ✋✋ same
Lets get intouch people
Yhh
Thank you so much for this video. I have very bad health anxiety and my mind goes into catastrophic thinking when I feel like I can't sleep. This is really helpful. Currently struggling right now but your tips were good to hear.
Literally me😂 I watched a video recently on why sleep’s important and it mentioned all these benefits, but the real kicker was what happens when you don’t sleep or are sleep deprived. It said you’re at a higher risk of developing Alzheimer’s and that just stuck with me. I’ve had insomnia this past week and all I noticed is me trying to recall my memory and everything that happened throughout the day. If I forgot something, it made me really anxious and I start thinking like oh I have Alzheimer’s . It’s really silly now looking at this while typing but that’s really how I think. I seem to go from one worry to the next. But thanks for sharing I feel more at ease knowing I’m not alone when it comes to health anxiety
@@jeanomaly7776 Ah yeah, I have been through that before, hearing something negative related to health in a video can set my anxiety off so badly, sometimes it's hard to avoid running into that kind of thing. My paranoia can get set off really easily and yup I can relate to constantly checking for symptoms throughout the day of whatever condition I'm worrying about so I definitely get that. I'm sorry your insomnia has been bad this past week! Mine has been too. I hope you're able to relax a little and that the overthinking can calm down a bit, good luck!
how are u doing now? i'm going through the same thing😭
@@kairiu7366 I'm sorry to hear you're going through the same thing, it can be tough sometimes and I still haven't 100% conquered it tbh although I think I am getting a little better. I try to focus on making relaxation my goal instead of sleep. If I tell myself "I'm just going to try to relax a bit," that can take off some pressure compared to thinking "I have to make myself fall asleep." If my mind is chaotic and racing, I try to think of how I can take myself from feeling "bad" to just "slightly less bad." Even if I can't be in a 100% "great" mood, if I'm feeling even just slightly calmer, it's still an improvement. I listen to ASMR and write. Overall I feel like I'm doing okay, I recently had some life events that threw my schedule off and made me anxious about sleep again, it happens, but yeah, using calming distractions and reminding myself that it will pass eventually helps me get through it a little better than before. I hope things can get easier for you and I really wish you the best.
haven't slept for 30+ hours, tried sleeping several times but each time i feel like im falling asleep i rapidly get adrenaline, my heart starts racing and its like mini anxiety attack, im so tired
Don’t worry man me too it happens to all of us but it will pass
How how long it lasts..@@iahmed1534
did it pass ?
because im exactly where you were 2 months ago
i cant sleep , when im about to fall asleep my heart just keeps pounding and i feel like i should open my eyes or the pounding wont stop.
it has been like that for a few days now
@@Tutankhamun1001 yes it passed :) it went on for around a week, i took aspirin few times just in case and started drinking melissa every night (worked for me more as placebo), and i tried to make my bed as cozy as possible. i think it passed exactly the day i got to hang out with my friends cuz the stress just went away and i naturally fell asleep without worries and after that i was just like "hey i did it! it means im safe" and i repeated that thought every night since then until i forgot about the problem. ALSO i really really recommend you app called "Dare", there's a section with audios for health anxiety, i found that very comforting. i hope you get better soon 🫶
@@Tutankhamun1001it passed :) i took aspirin few times just so i feel safe, started drinking melissa, made my bed as cozy as possible and used app called "Dare" which i really really recommend. there's a section with health anxiety, please try that out. i think my problem actually passed after hang out with friends, cuz the stress dissapeared and i fell asleep before i got to overthink it. since that night i just reminded myself that i survived sleep that day, it'll be fine, and over time I forgot about the problem. i hope you get better soon 🫶
Thank u so much for posting this!!! I haven't need able to fall asleep for almost 2 years now... But my mom is a great help. She helps me sleep almost every night and I am so grateful for that... But this video is a great help and I think this video helped lots of people!!! THANK YOU!!!!
Super grateful for this advice. Clearly it affects a lot of people. Surrendering the uncontrollable anxiety of falling asleep.
She said what i couldn’t say this whole time!
This was so accurate and this made me feel more relaxed knowing im not the only one thank you
I worry about not sleeping affecting my health
Sounds like a great idea, unless you have plans, have an active lifestyle, or have kids.
Accepting that you will feel like crap the next day is one thing, sure, that's mine to deal with, but other people having to deal with it is another.
Please make another video on sleep! I’m so scared to sleep because I’m scared I won’t ever sleep or I won’t get enough sleep and I’ll get ill. I hate that feeling and I’m constantly counting the hours I sleep please help me I’m struggling
me too
Me to
U will fall asleep u will
me too
Omg we are so same!!
My 8 year old son is literally crippled with sleep anxiety. I mentioned to him several months ago that kids need 10 to 12 hours of sleep to maintain a healthy immune system not thinking that it could or would ever do any harm. I had mentioned that he needed more sleep before several times over the years and it just went in one ear and out the other but for some reason this time it stuck and grew into a monster. I tried to take it back and reassure him that he would be fine if he didn't get that much sleep but he becomes sick with paranoia at bedtime and refuses to sleep by himself. He wakes me up every 15 minutes asking me what time it is until he finally falls asleep but then he wakes back up again 30 min later and it starts again. I need help bc I'm losing my mind. I'm losing my temper and it's just making his anxiety a million times worse. I've tried Melatonin, nightlights, security blankets, lavender oil, white noise, binaural beats, rubbing his back, etc. Etc.
i'm 15 and i have been having anxiety about sleep too. i think i might have some kind of OCD, because i just focus on things like healthy eating, lifestyle stuff, ect. for the past few weeks ive been kinda anxous about not falling asleep, but mostly not GETTING enough sleep. i watched some stupid video on youtube, about how 'ohh, everybody needs 8-9 hours of perfect sleep or were all gonna dieeeee ahhhhh!' and through my whole life basically, ive gotten about 7-8 hours of sleep, and felt great! -oh but thats not enough for teens!
that just put unnecesarry anxiety in my life, and honestly, i think that 8-9 or 8-10 hours of sleep, is just too much sleep for me... anytime ive ever gotten that much sleep, was because i was sick or something. on my usual 7 hours of sleep, i never feel i need a nap, and im not usually tired until its my bedtime. so, i dont know if this helps, or if youll even read all of this, but pls just have patients, and remind him that, we all go through weird fazes, and that this too, shall pass. something that helps me on sleepless nights, is to just lay there in bed and say "this is my time to RELAX, even if i dont sleep, which i eventually will, im going to lay here quietly and close my eyes." my mom has been through this many times... thats what bedtimes all about. just relax, you dont have to do a thing :)
@ it's a no from me, thank you so much for your comments. My son is actually doing a lot better now. It seems he's phasing out of this for now thank God.
Sorry I am not commenting something useful,but it is so sweet of you trying to help your son with anxiety,I'm sure as heck it isn't an easy task to be a mother👍🏻
All I wish you and your family have a beautiful life and hope your dear son is doing better by now,much love
Omg i relate to you, my mom always told me that i should sleep 8-13 hours a day or else id get like leaukimia or ocd, it litteraly scared me to the point my sleep is only 2-3 hours everyday
I hope you found a way to resolve this problem! If not, a weighted blanket and reading before bed has always helped me. The weighted blanket worked because, not only did it help me sleep by preventing too much fidgeting that led to wakefulness, but it became a “safety symbol.” “Oh…. I sleep well with this blanket, so I don’t have to worry about not falling asleep anymore as long as I have it!” This helped prevent some of the fears of never falling asleep I always tried to combat that would keep me awake due to fighting myself.
One thing I do that helps me is I hide my clocks or turn them backwards. Seeing the time and how much has passed will DEFINITELY make things worse and give you more anxiety all night. It doesn't work like a charm but it helps me at least not focus on the time.
Yes!! This is huge! Even though I may have an idea, it's not the same as seeing the time.
Kings & Queens: Believe me its not just you, I have cried every night and ending up punching the wall, ❤
I am accepting that lately but the result is that I just stay awake the whole night. I still am checking and at the same time it feels like the acceptance becomes a decision. Lately once a thought appears in my mind its game over for me.
how is your sleeping now ? I can’t sleep at all and I don’t feel sleepy duo to fear , had you have experience this ?
@@user-mp9lq3xv5b it has gotten better. Now I fall asleep in an instant.
@@lunaticpoetry What did you do bro?
Awwww natasha this makes me feel less anxious about sleeping i will try this method i hope i could sleep tonight cause i've been sleepless for days because im worrid that i woukd never fall asleep again i eventually cried because these thoughts keep racing but this makes me feel better please pray for me so i can get out of this situation, im gonna do an update to this
I have the exact same problem my favorite way to fall asleep whenever that happens is to pray and talk to God about my day it distracts me and I will fall asleep I hope this helps and I highly recommend Headspace the meditation app you will learn how to meditate and calm yourself and learn to balance life, to stop worrying, and many other things my parents got me a trial for it and it’s helped a lot I will pray for you tonight ❤️ stay safe
I feel exactly the same with you guys.. Every night I sleep at 4 am and during the day everything is fine but when it's time to go to bed I feel so stressed and scared that I will never sleep again😭 But I'll pray for you guys you are not alone and please if you have an uptade let me now
Hi it's me again after almost a week.. I just wanted to say to all of you who are stressed out for not sleeping. Please don't be! You'll be ok! The moment you'll stop worrying it's the moment you'll fall asleep. So there's nothing to be afraid you are ok and your health won't be affected from a few nights without sleep. Just think that you don't have to sleep and you'll feel sleepy! I did the same. I was so afraid that I would die if I wouldn't sleep..But that is not true! Please be strong and calm down and everything will be alright
@@kounelip1822 1 month later: Natasha has helped me so much and I entirely agree with you. the world won’t end if I don’t fall asleep and also I have had a much easier time falling asleep. For a wile things were okay but it’s starting to come back so I’m here at this video to help myself and tell myself it’s all alright. Thank you so much for helping me to know other kids (or adults) have the same problem. My prayers be with you, your family, and the other person that we replied to. I hope your anxiety has lessened!
@@kounelip1822 I am so scared do you have any tips how I can stop getting scared I’m so worried I’ll die if I don’t get enough sleep. And I count the hours I sleep and at night it makes me feel awful
@@kounelip1822 how did you recover from this?
This anxiety is exactly what I struggle with. Everyday when it becomes closer and closer to my bedtime I get anxious leaving me to feel uncomfortable. However I still manage to get at least 8 of hours of sleep almost everyday. So I find it weird. while, I have struggled with sleep at least 2 months back (which btw has traumatised me as I am someone to tends to sleep quickly and obtain tons of sleep) I have pretty much conquered not getting enough sleep and if I don't get any sleep I know how to eventually relax. I have put in a lot of effort to learn how to conquer this fear or at least I think I have. But still despite sleeping peacefully I still experience an uncomfortable feeling when it nears later times. Why is this? I don't get it. I can sleep well enough but I still feel this way, why? (sorry for the little rant there)
How are you now? I have the same problem. I went through bad insomnia but its over now, however I still fear it coming back every night. Even though it doesn't come back and I am sleeping about 90% well. I think its because the first bout of insomnia has traumatized me.
@@gibememoni how to conquer that fear you can’t sleep ?
I think that this feeling will eventually go away. When you go through some insomnia or anxiety on the night, it can affect somehow the subconscious
same happening with me
@@osiris7945 tell yourself that not getting sleep is absolutely ok. who cares? you have to get this type of mindset
21 years old suffering from severe insomnia for 2 months so far , my sleep during every week is usually I do get some days of the week 4-5hours of sleep but for some reason it gets worse and end up 1-2 even 3 days in the row sometimes without sleep and after those sleepless nights fatigue gets me to sleep and the cycle repeats, the annoying symptoms that I get after sleepless nights are faster heart rate and shakiness , insomnia making my life miserable asf, a random panic attack in one morning was the trigger of my insomnia
Your not alone
Same with me 🙂
@@Blissfulhindutvasubham bhai ab kaise ho app pls reply 😢😢
@@BhanuSingh-j2s thik hu bhai
How are you doing? I have ups and downs.. it got triggered again unfortunately. I notice exercising helps me, going to bed really tired. Will try to accept it again and… it remains working very hard.. 😕
This was super helpful Natasha and now I know I have to embrace the thought of not getting sleep and just focus on relaxing and feeling comfortable. The sleep will come naturally after that weirdly enough. Thank you
I'm a teen been to many doctors for sleep but no one lit no one could explain it better than u
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I loved this. Insomnia is so debilitating.
Thats what I did with hypnic jerks. I just eventually embraced them and stopped giving them power over my mind. Eventually they went away. Took me 2 months to finally break that chain.
Hypnic jerks r u not sleeping at night
You are so right and so helpful, this is so motivating
omg i love you i tried to talk to my family about this but they dismissed it thx u!
What you described is exactly whats happening right now I knew this was the problem that I kept thinking that I need to sleep but I just needed to hear it
Thanks so much I have been having a hard time fighting my mind about going to sleep. I did fall asleep briefly for a hour or so in last 36 hours but yea relaxing is key trying to be greatful which releases anxiety as it’s from and part of the brain
This video is giving me anxiety more than helping out
Thank you I had this problem for a while this is a big help
Been awake 2 days turning into 3. I'm terrified. Tried everything. So exhausted and full of fear and sickness
Hi. I'm currently experiencing this. Scared I'll never be able to sleep again. Did you manage to sleep and if so, how?
Great Video Natasha! I haven't slept very much in two days and exactly what you said about the checks is what I was doing. I will try this new approach tonight. Thanks again.
This is me everyday this past week. I have stayed up 30 some odd hours everyday that passes and when I do sleep it’s not very much. I dread the thought of trying to go to bed every night and just keep checking the clock every half hour wondering why I’m still up. I think it’s because I know I’ll feel like absolute crap both physically and mentally if I don’t sleep. I have a number of auto immune diseases and severe depression so no sleep affects me greatly. I feel so much better if/when I am able to get decent sleep. I also have the fear of being the last one awake and have no idea why. I sleep better if someone else is awake and have spent a lot of my adult life sleeping days instead of nights because of this😔
How did you get past this and how long did it last?
Give an update please
@@Jojobeans1755give me your update pls😢
I’ve been rlly anxious lately. That made me not be able to sleep and I started panicking because one of my biggest fears is developing insomnia. So whenevr I can’t the thought that I will b like that forever stays. But telling myself that millions of ppl go through that and are okay has helped me
😂😂😂 weak
Sleep anxiety sucks 😔
But anyway your video been real helpful
Yes
@@rutujapatil2899for me the thought of not getting sleep was the real problem so I did what she told in this video. Just tell yourself that not falling asleep is ok.
@@rutujapatil2899 did you try melatonin I heard it's pretty effective with almost no side effects
Thank you . Im watching from a vessel . I cant sleep for how many days hope this can help . Thank you
How r you now?
3 months and 1 week postpartum. Sleep has been deprived hard. I used to sleep so well, and now it's a struggle to fall asleep and stay asleep. I hope I'll get better.
Well, you are in my head! Good video and helpful
i find this ladies advice very helpful for this sleep issue i have this has been my problem for about two years now it just came out of the blue when i try to make myself go to sleep and i am64 yo
Thank you so much for this so reassuring
Looks like my at night time watching TV 💯🙏❤️
Guys i hope this hlep u.just think its just your mind your just overthinking and go to sleep and ur fear will be gone and u will sleep good and goodnight❤❤
Thank you very much for this most helpful video. It is exactly my issue
I'm not afraid. I have knowledge that when I don't sleep, next day when I have to go to work, I'll be so sick with horrible migraines that I'll be throwing up and maybe leaving work for feeling too sick....having an involuntary sick day off. The worst thing that can happen to me is severe migraine throbbing pain, which will cause me throwing up non-stop for 10 times or more losing hydration and strength, potentially passing out.....If it was not for that, I would never worry about just being sleepy. I'm actually scared of getting severely sick again...
I just feel so alone I been crying because I fear not sleeping and it scares me
How are you doing now ?
I can definitely relate to this, how did you overcome this?
I pretty much just took it one day at a time and spoke to people
How are you now sleep coming or not
@@thegeneral1597 you'll get through it buddy we're all going through it
Thanks man. It’s weird to find myself here commenting on what’s fucked about me like everyone else, but I have been plagued by “if I can’t sleep I’ll be dysfunctional tomorrow, and if I keep doing this it will ruin my life”.
The issue is that this thought is TRUE. But it’s entirely self-fulfilling. How do I disengage from a true, catastrophizing thought?
It started when I fall sick and I couldn't sleep since down I have dis fear that I can sleep and that makes my heart to rate and sometimes it's like something is missing in my life, and even when I sleep I don't have did joy or satisfaction. I always fear and my heart will start rating
I will try this. Thank you ma
4:30 am not falling à sleep fighting my fear and anxiety of not falling asleep. This helps and omg a lot of people have this I thought I was crazy ocd
Sometimes,we might fail to notice those thougths coming and be fighting with those without our awareness.
Thank you so much this is definitely me
Incredible, very true and very helpful.
So much easier said then done 😅😅
I feel safe after hearing this😢
thank you so much...this gave me a different view on my problem
Your videos help me so much❤️
same
I had very bad sleeping problems,When i was a kid i would always cry before sleeping because i didnt want to wake up and go to sleep like the other nights,its so tireing!I always didnt want to be the last one to sleep,i would always be scared.This help alot tho
This is something I recently am going through, thank you!
with all this things like " you need to sleep 7 to 8 hours" lack of sleep may cause dementia worries me and overshadow the belief that yeah I will be ok even if I have 5 or less hours of sleep the next day. I just hope I can get over this and I don't want to depend on sleeping pills.
I struggled with this around two years ago of me being constantly in bed until five or 6 AM, not being able to sleep having to wake up around 10 AM the next day and it went away. I don’t remember exactly how but I never worried about sleep until maybe a few days ago I had slept around 10pm only for an hour. I woke up around 11 PM and I was getting ready to do my usual sleep and I usually sleep around 3 AM for daily reasons and I was getting around 3 AM and that’s when I usually turn off my phone but I started worrying for no particular reason I used to have these months around the year where I did not sleep and I didn’t have a problem with it I was always out with friends until six in the morning. Heck, sometimes I’d get no sleep at all and then me and my friends would go to the lake at 7 AM jump with the ice cold water with no sleep and so it was strange to me. I began feeling anxious. about not being able to sleep. Since it happened so sudden, even though sometimes you can’t come to the conclusion that yeah you’re gonna be OK. It’s still hard for some of us even last night. I told myself I said you’re fine. There isn’t anything wrong with you because you were sleeping consistently for months and months at the same exact time so this has to be anxiety induced cause you’re always worried about not being able to sleep. Always checking the time worrying that time is gone by so fast but you’re not asleep yet. This video does help me confirm certain thoughts that relieve me since I know I do eventually fall asleep whether it be at 6 AM 7 AM whatever time I eventually do fall asleep, so it helps me with words of affirmation trust me I know it’s scary you start looking up how to hear your insomnia can insomnia be deadly then you find out there is a fatal type of insomnia and then you start wondering can happen out of nowhere. Is there a cure? What can I do if I’m not falling asleep constantly worrying when you should just be letting yourself go I used to struggle a lot with anxiety in general anxiety, and the moment I stopped caring about how the panic attack felt. I was fine. You honestly just have to put your faith in God. If you don’t believe in God, you have to put your faith in yourself something to comforts you
I know in my head that it doesn’t really matter if I fall asleep or not and I know my body will sleep when it needs to. I just still always have the nervous feeling there even though I know logically that it will be okay. Any suggestions?
Have you gotten through this phase?
@@bapexbill7242 it’s gotten better, not completely though
@@northofficially are you taking any medications? I am also going through this for more than a month now and Im worried.
@@jessicaalonzo7125hey..is it going better now?
This is definitely the key.
None of these are my fears. I really do think I developed some type of phobia from a horrible, traumatic experience of sleep. Back in 2018, I woke up startled and felt like something was taking over my body, and ever since then, falling asleep easily has never been normal for me. I know I have a case of anxiety... And most likely sleep anxiety; I wish there was a way to combat this.
Thankyou for this video Natasha x
Hey! I just really wanted to thank you verry very much😁 you just described perfectly what ı was living for 2 months and this video made me relax really much! I always think about it like this: (oh ı did not sleep yesterday and ım tired if ı dont sleep today too ı will be reeallly tired and ıf ı dont sleep again...) but then with this video ı realised that it does not work like that! Now ı feel really nice! Thanks!!!!
This helped me so much❤️
It is very easy to give advice when you do not have sleep problem
I take Sleep 3 with L-Thianine daily to get some sleep and still barely sleep but sometimes I sleep some hour not to deep only light sleep
It is hard to be like this
For most of my life my mother told me to get an exact 8 hours or more of sleep which led me to anxiety. It worries me that if i dont get those 8 hours of sleep everyday id die of exhaustion
Stop worrying if ur not getting 8 hours of sleep ur fine i personally am strugling with insomnia i cant stop thinking about not falling asleep and it worries me just know that if u dont get 8 hours of sleep ur fine.
I remember having ocd so bad about sleep that i wouldn't sleep for 4 nights straight and would obsess about sleep all day, living hell, it still comes up frequently
Going through another rough faze again right now, hardly slept last night took me untill 7 to get a bit of rest
@@chazzat3113 are you still going through it, how did you get over it?
Have you recovered
Hello. Please help me, I constantly worry even in daytime if I will have a goodnight sleep. As a result, I can’t sleep because I feel nervous my heart palpitations kicked in and my thought will be “ I may die because of this.” Or “ I may get crazy.” There was one time I have no sleep for 3 days but i was able to sleep after that for only 4 hours. What should I do?
Are you still having this issue?
Omg same 😭
Same here
@@samanthapaclibar5079how are you now ? Same situation
What if have benzodiazepine protracted withdrawal when body dies not sleep on its own?
Thanks for this video ❤
I have health anxiety. I already been doing good on my sleep until I saw a post about a sickness called ffi. Now I’m scared that I might not be able to sleep. I am thinking that I have disease because I can’t sleep. Well its a rare disease and its a familial type. But its hard for me. It sucks dealing with a health anxiety.
Bro, same fucking here. LOL. That's what basically started my sleep anxiety. Not sure how I can get rid of that.
@@2infnbynd how r u feeling now?
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@@zredge823 im feeling good now. Started working already and got to adjust my body clock. I just put in my mind that i don’t need to force my self to be okay I just let em be like that then eventually im slowly healing and im getting used to it right now. Just live life and do what i gotta do.
@@GreaserJohnny Cool! It's great to hear this that u r fine, hey, what was ur age when u faced this issue? Also wanted to have a suggestion whatever I do I et that weird thought of thinking something stressful that makes me feel emotionless and hopeless...I get an unusual minor jerk through my eyes to neck, makes me feel anxious about what could it be or when will it over...maybe u would relate it with me? Any tip?
How simple and helpful. Thank you so much, God bless you! 💕
It’s incredibly frustrating for me to watch people around me fall asleep within 10-20 minutes after closing their eyes, while on my best nights, it takes me at least an hour and a half, and even then, with so much effort. I used to think I was losing my mind, especially during those nights when my anxiety kicks in. I start dreading bedtime, knowing I’m about to face the same struggle, and it feels like a battle I must win every night if I don’t want to feel terrible the next day.
I’ve tried everything-magnesium, meditation techniques, hot showers, reading, and a consistent sleep routine-but none of it has really worked for me. The only thing that has helped so far is wine, but I don’t want to rely on that to fall asleep.
Reading all of these comments make me feel that Im not alonw
Mine is I have chronic pain and my chronic pain is worse when I don't sleep. Also as the night goes on the pain increases. So say I should be asleep at 12am as an example, if I'm not by 1 or 2am the pain starts to get worse. Which of course makes it even harder to relax and fall asleep. So it's not just the fear of being tired. That sucks I can sort of handle that. But feeling mentally like a zombie and hurting is just so overwhelming and yes very scary.
Hi all. I didn't sleep at all last night I went out with the guys got home at 1am and went to bed at 3am. I tried sleeping but would just lay there with my eyes closed awake. Next thing you know it's 6 am 7 am and I'm like wow the day is starting and I basically broke night. I've been up since yesterday morning at 8am I tried sleeping but I can't and now I'm worried that I won't sleep tonight either. It's just a cycle. Today feels like a waste of a day like I'm a floating zombie. I tried to do things in the house to help my wife with our 1 year old son but I feel so bad. I feel useless and my main worry is if I continue to think about sleep will I sleep? If not then what will happen to me. Sleep anxiety is the worse.
music help me so much with out worlds
I thought I was the only one until I watched this
Nope. Here I am searching up videos because it's 4am and I can't sleep. It's been days now with no relief, and I'm getting scared that I'll die from sleep deprivation. You're not alone at all.
This was very helpful except I have a different problem it’s that I am afraid to sleep because most of the time when I sleep I have this insane nightmare which I cannot wake up from and it is hard for me to control my body or I feel that I am awake but I am not. (Sorry if this was very long but I just wanted to get it of my chest)
Same and I'm scared to fall asleep I haven't been sleeping at night for 2 days now but now I'm at my dad's house and my dad is more way more strict than my mom and I'm afraid I'll get caught
U guys r actually lucky because its just a nightmare, believe me ive been scared to not be able to fall asleep cause my mom told me if i dont get 8-10 hours my blood will get a desease & make my brain go crazy. Now ive been sleeping for 2-3 hours for the past 1 month
Thank you so much
Thank you so much!
I've been saying it's okay not to sleep for the last 5 hours straight
I have experienced this for almost a year now. In simple terms what you need to do is call your own brain’s bluff. That’s what it is. You don’t do it with hopes of dissolving or guarantees, this isn’t how it works. You do is as a “yolo” thing and eventually you don’t give a sh*t. This in turn slowly dissolves the shock in which you’re in (this is nothing but brain shock) and eventually you improve and return to normal but you’re not really checking in or caring because your thought process also returns to normal. You didn’t check before (prior to the state of impaired sleep) so you’re not going to be checking either when you return to normal again.
Hi bro