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- Conversation with @TheQueenMaker The role of masculinity in marriage.
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Hits the nail square on the head here! Never heard it explained so well. I was so tired of "being the man" in the family and handling everything and anything that was difficult.
Great advice and words, I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, please accept my condolences. 🙏 It's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Baruch HaShem and Thank You for Rabbi Manis Friedman. Wisdom, Knowledge and Patience were crucial in this interview. Humanity is under attack and needs Righteous leadership to see through it and overcome the challenges we face. Also Bless You Rabbi Friedman!
Great advice and words, I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, please accept my condolences. 🙏 It's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Serving God is something that my fellow Christians often forget. It is there but often we get so caught up that we forget.
Men who need to be told every thing that needs to be done are children. It’s hard to have an adult relationship with someone who has no initiative or drive in any area of life except (maybe) at work. When I was married I felt like the dude. But I was also the mom. And the wife. And the financial planner. And the purchaser of homes and furnishings. Lol. I hated it. Now I’m a single mom, and at least I understand why I do everything. Before, it didn’t make sense why I did everything. I wanted a partner so badly - not even that, I wanted a husband to lean on and depend on. Instead, I was that rock for him. It wasn’t fair that he got to enjoy my dream role and I did everything else for the both of us lol. It’s not the reason I divorced, but it did contribute to me wondering exactly what this man brought into my life that was actually positive….the answer was: nothing, he brought nothing but chaos. He wouldn’t even keep a day job while he pursued his business dreams. Of course when he divorced, he took money and property from me lol. He was the woman right up until the end.
Sorry that you had to go through this! Such a shame and so common nowadays. I pray that we all meet the masculine energy that will be our compliment & support.
This Wisdom is pure Gold; thank you for your services!
This was the best discussion I've seen in a long time. You both make a lot of sense. Too bad some of these men leaving comments are weak and cannot handle the truth.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemy.
Help me to guard my heart above all else.
My body will grow old and weak, but my heart and mind are Yours forever. Guide my heart to follow Your course.
I have never seen a woman who thinks profoundly.. the way she’s asking questions and making statements is absolutely phenomenal. May God bless her.
Such women are rare these days.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman!! Shavua Tov!!💪✡️🙏❤️🔥🎶
Been married to a child, too. It's tiresome.
Is she like my wife?
We call men like this manchild they want mothers so much me hie difficult it must be to desire sex from a helpless man it’s awful these moody man children destroy every shred of a natural woman not only masculizing them destroy the feminine essence
New society norms have created a monster marriages high divorce rates 😢
"Goodness is the most Natural of all things" ❤
Married with Children was a TV show, unfortunately some watched and repeated... I was never down with that! Happily married 💕 with great children. Keep it old school and respect 🙏 each other. Remember, the family that prays together stays together ❤️ .
Shalom 🙂
Beautiful Thank you both ❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🪷🇬🇧🇮🇱
Thank you and much appreciative words. I don’t know much about Jewish but open to learning and hopefully converting if I find a true Jewish Family, I heard a lot of beautiful stories about the Jews, but never had a chance to sit and discuss with one yet hope someday soon. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Wow!!!! Great conversation 👌 👏 👍 🙌
Thank you rabbi
Beautiful wise woman!
Two brilliant minds and deeps souls.
People bring lots of baggage into a marriage
Thank you and much appreciative words. I don’t know much about Jewish but open to learning and hopefully converting if I find a true Jewish Family, I heard a lot of beautiful stories about the Jews, but never had a chance to sit and discuss with one yet hope someday soon. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
I’ve seen this woman on other platforms and she clearly hates males. I feel like they were having 2 completely different conversations. He would make certain points and each time she tried to bring it back to a point about how the male is so bad for the world but it doesn’t even make sense or really relate to what he said. What I see here is one person speaking from her trauma who grew up in an environment where she wasn’t protected and another person speaking from a perspective where he’s never experienced the things she has and doesn’t seem to possess the emotional intelligence to realize where she is or maybe he does possess the emotional intelligence to read her and just wants to keep the peace so he gives a response that can be appeasing to her. She brought up a good point about young men needing male guidance and I wholeheartedly agree with that. He then says “or a grandmother”.. I’m like what?! A grandmother is not a father and these new grandmothers are not like the grandmothers of yesterday. The problem in the world today is a lack of maturity and a lot people, including grandmothers, don’t want to do the work to grow up. She said the damaged don’t know that they’re damaged. I think that’s a perfect statement for her because everytime I hear her speak, all I can think is this woman needs therapy. I can see the pain in her energy.
Your analysis is spot on. I've been watching this exchange for a few weeks and recognize how both are coming from opposing viewpoints. The rabbi believes that marriage is G-d's design for men and women. And the woman (who is a lesbian) detests men and attempts to use science to claim the sexes should have nothing to do with each other.
You are absolutely spot on!
Hates men??? Wow, I didn't see that all! Just the opposite.
It's the latter. He always assumes the other has a sincere point, which is based on trying to be better and make the world better, and tries to find common ground.
He nailed it in the first minute. She is astray because she had weak men in and around her family and they folded like lawn chairs in their presence. Without an example of masculine leadership, she only had her mother or grandmother to provide an example of what leadership should be like. The stressor of the woman having to awkwardly fill the role of the masculine while the man awkwardly fills the role of the feminine is at the root of the woman's discontent in the example he used at the start.
Brilliant 👏 👏 👏 💯💯💯👌👌👌
So true, this is my ex partner. Such a femenine energy.
Even when I told him we should’ve break up, he was like… ok.
Then in our life, I was the only one with initiative. He just wanted to m eat mushrooms (psychodelics), Watch porn when I was not around, and go the mountain with his cousin.
(Seeing myself writing this surprises me til this day)
It is so so painful to be in a relationship with someone like that…
I am so glad God made that fall apart.
It takes two to tango!
We don’t value grandparents My adult children have been convinced that me and their elders are ignorant and social media tells them this It is so hard to know what family needs and no one will even try it
Glorifying God and bring God joy
I would have loved to hear the Rabbi speak more. He's wisdom is amazing.
What a fine chat with which I've been graced today on a verdant Sunday in May. Thank you from a couple of lovers in NY
🖤❤🤍💙 thank you @queenlover and Rabbi Manis Friedman for this helpful 💬 and healthy discussion. I appreciate the calm manner and light spirit being employed here to convey how crucial our roles are in our most critical relationships. I feel like a fly on the wall 🪰 in the presence of giants. I am utterly grateful & thankful for this opportunity.
Yess 🙏
the sanchos and mistresses of the dark like a neighbors❤
"The system"
I always cringe when people say that. What system?
Goodness is not a given. It won't emerge if we just tear down the "system." Many people have figured this out the hard way when visiting uncivilized societies of "indigenous" tribes in still remote areas of the globe.
My opinion is that the world runs on a dialectic of us versus them where you can substitute anything into that equation where one camp is pitted against the other while the hidden hand behind the veil knows the truth is in neither camp and revels in the hateful energy generated by the "system"
@wale8748 This logic has led to many great tragedies.
In free society, there is no "the system" but rather a distributed network of free people and associations. There isn't any one entity pulling the strings forcing people into anything. There are many interests at play, and often competing with each other. If this is "the system" we are to fight, then we are to fight our own freedom, and we'll get what we deserve.
“The system” is a broad set of structured institutions and organizations that governs, influences , or control various aspects of American life. This can include political, economic, social and legal frameworks that shape the operation of the country and affect its citizens.
@FreeBirdee That's a very broad category. Just throw everything into a trash bin and call it "the system."
Like I said, there is no coherent system. Rather, a distributed network of free associations. No one is forcing you to play video games or vote blue or red. There are more than two parties. No one is forcing you to watch TV or UA-cam or waste time on social media.
Take some responsibility for yourself and your family.
I agree the world is tragic and it's because of this sad fact... freedom has been fed us but we are slaves and most are unaware of the ball and chain. The best thing I've found is to step outside every camp as best as possible and be as self sufficient as possible. I homeschool, raise animals, garden, have an orchard, have some solar panels and a small windmill, have food enough stored away for many rainy days and don't watch TV ever. I try to feed my soul every day with the beauty of creation and family that the Father has blessed me with right here where I live...
My husband doesn’t think of doing anything on his own. He wants me to tell him what to do. I don’t want to be his mother, I want him to take charge and do it. We’ve had this conversation many times and now we are separating because he’s very unhappy with me because I’m not happy. Not what I want but he’s given upon the marriage.
You married a feminine energy
No woman no 😭
Women are so independent these days, they need to control situations. ( call it women’s intuition) BUT women need to be mindful of their man. Let them take control sometimes, let them make mistakes, let them take care of you. It may not be to your 100% liking the way he does it for you, but does it have to be? Life is not perfect! Why ask for a perfect man….women will never get it! AND you as a women hav3 insecurities that you need to address. Yes? Yes!!!
Divorce is not allowed, you both should reconsider .
Woe unto him if he does something on his own, you might start telling him he is not your dad to not involve you.
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I hope rav manis becomes new lubavich rebbe and new moshiach
Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
Both parties need too be conscious of the same thing though don't you think.. in alignment. Finding someone who has a similar blueprint in this solar system as you isn't easy with everyone's birth chart placements.
It would be wise to check out birth charts before getting in over our heads with anyone...people should make that a thing... 😅
Well that may be so but there are plenty of females who try to make their husbands to be a certain way
And when he is the way she wanted him she doesn't want him anymore either. Especially if she thinks she can fix him lol and when she does she doesn't want him anymore and say he is boring nothing for her to fix
@@em7937 '''feminist men destroy marriages'' what im seeing here is men being blamed - as usual. Because women can never do anything wrong, nor do they ever need to hold responsibility or have to stand up and take a leadership role. ''protect the women and children''. Its about time women collectively grow up and take charge of their life.
Then when genders are *actually* equal, we can start making it about individual people's need to grow up and take charge of their lives.
@@em7937 What you are doing is the typical gaslighting behaviour: flip things around.
@@em7937
Your EGO got triggered did it you must be young.
I've been married for close to 50 years
And have seen many marriages and reasons as to why they got married and divorced as well.
What does it have to do with it maybe plenty and maybe nothing at all.
There is more that is missing she married that man.
Since he is a Rabbi he knows that everything comes from within.
He also knows to correct the outside one has to go with in themselves to the end.
And who is within every one to solve any problem of life.
I'm going to give you a little hint
I Am
@@em7937 You are providing another example of gaslighting
Entertainment is important to God.
You can do to much , love and bend over backwards, worship the ground she walks on , but soon as she cheats
And you have children, that man is now signing his death sentence if he knows in his heart; it's the ultimate betrayal
You will only bring paranoia will annoy until she does it again
And then you see me in subway
Now is it like that for a woman
Because I wasn't 18yrs loving someone
Who destroyed me just like that
And I did everything she asked when we lost a child, got clean , why fighting for my life , cheated again become a idol worshipper of white table salt and it's mantra's, yet if I walked away 15yrs ago , no death of child , no mental health broken ribs ect
So yeah no one stands a chance of the blocks rabbi sir
Yet IAM at fault because in the beginning, having a child
Who was actually born a year later to the day her nan died age 43
Same day 28th Nov
And I didn't get a job buck up my ideas
For life my first born
Yet I did for the death of child
So life's pretty grim at the moment
I'm 8yrs clean out of trouble
Yet lost all my family
Now half dead , waiting for my grandparents to die, parents to die
And now don't take drugs
Age 39 26yrs in the flames
And age 40 is 27 yrs
Wasted my my life
So you can say it's karma
But then rabbi I'm thinking
Why get clean and be good
So my evil inclination
And Redhead nature and being Aries
Is in a fight again with the self
Worse than the battle to get clean
But this is my journey
And my struggle
And God must won't me in such a state of affairs
To teach me a lesson
Yet the lesson I can't lie rabbi
Is a constant fight against
Taking my own life
Not knowing this world I've came back down too
But yeah this is the ultimate test of forgiveness, because I'm battling with if I didn't forgive so it's a pretty lonely place hell ♈
There has always been nebbishes around.
Jewish husbands are always this way
You think a man will listen for 45bmin of advice without ⚽️🏀🏉🏈 lol thank you R. Manish for your good help.
Yehuda Brecher may your memory be blessed.
I hope my woman does tge right thinks in due time He he he
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This is jezabel speaking here. Ignore her serpent tongue.
Since THE SERPENT, EVE AND ADAM IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN.
If feminine men ruin marriage, then masculine women ruin dating. Balanced as all things should be.
Wrong. When the man is genuinely masculine the women around him become feminine. That's what it is to LEAD. To initiate and care is masculinity. Women become feminine and soften when things are taken care of.
Women are only masculine when men fail to be. Woman came from the rib of man. If a woman is put in any position to man up she will but it def. isnt her fault or choice.
I agree to some point. If a man is feminine, the woman will most likely become masculine if she was already feminine and he was feminine. she will never let go of her masculinity because she hast to stay masculine.
If the man is masculine and she feels safe and femininity then she’ll let go of masculinity.
However, many women do not feel safe in femininity, and therefore hold onto masculinity in a relationship. This could be from society telling them that they need to be masculine and they can’t trust men. This could be from having bad relationships with their fathers or ex-boyfriend or husbands.
So while it’s important for a man to be naturally masculine, so a woman can trust him to let her guard down and tap into her femininity. It’s also important for him as a man to look out for women who want a masculine man so they can be feminine. some women will never let go of masculinity.
Uh oh who is the person in the baseball hat?
That person gets my head spinning.
PRINCELLA THE QUEENMAKER ❤
Why the rabbi sat thought this lady complaining about men? I don't know. The rabbi tried every way to steer the convo to a rational point of view while this lady kept dumping on men and bringing up ego. Her points were videos and influencers....enough said.
Men are always trying to steer the conversation to their benefit.
The Rabbi is no exception.
Ask any man if they would feel comfortable allowing their daughter to sleep over with a bunch of boys..they’d all say no . Ask them if they’d let their male friends babysit, they’d say no. Ask them how nervous they are when they have a daughter, they’ll all say they’re scared to death because they know the nature of men. Ask them who they say they are protecting women from. They’ll say other men, but let a woman say any of this and she’s crazy.😂😂
Lady??? Please what an insult to us actual ladies.
Don't you see the way she is dressed? Even like a man. Her identity is distorted. So she even has no business talking about such matters of femininity and maculinity
and also using misattributed quotes in order to further her point
@@Danielscottrhoades Do you feel like your Ego being attacked
@@FreeBirdee I have come to terms with my condition, so no.
as a femine man, . thats plain wrong, u just need to stop bickering to eachother.lacking comunication causes millions of divorse, not femboy fathers
Instead of Superman we should have Microman. Maybe he could be the size of a flea, but really annoying. People are more afraid of mosquitoes more than bears.
I was never a fan of physical machoness. What she said about mental masculinity is so true and so overlooked by everyone.
There's something calming about the idea that as a man I'm nothing. Kind of reminds me of Buddhism. And yeah it sounds better coming from the rabbi than a woman.
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God bless the jews .🇮🇱
Who is this woman? Please identify the people the Rabbi speaks with
Thank you and much appreciative words. I don’t know much about Jewish but open to learning and hopefully converting if I find a true Jewish Family, I heard a lot of beautiful stories about the Jews, but never had a chance to sit and discuss with one yet hope someday soon. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Marriage is def designed to benefit men today for sure
You blind
@@bra195 what ? Am I blind about?
@@rdbeckett590 women are, men dont
Man hater
What do men benefit exactly that women don't?
And can women get into it if they have nothing to benefit from it?
God destroys marriages, because he's a divorce lawyer who loves money above all else.