I’m an ISTJ, girl. Hate small talks, it looks like a waste of time. Travelling and moving away to other countries gave me the happiest experience of my life: new skills, a happy relationship, confidence and flexibility, a prosperous lifestyle. Super responsible and organised, feel deeply, but hesitant about sharing feelings. People like my jokes but it’s difficult to build friendships with me, because I’m friendly, but mostly closed and formal with new people. Get a lot of fulfillment from my goals and achievements, as well as books and podcasts. Life-long learner (now I’m learning English for writing) :)
And doing very well with your English. I find that I am comfortable with strangers and close friends (I have a couple), but stiff and standoffish with acquaintances. I seem to put most people off, so I get very nervous until I know them well.
ISTJs are the people who you can rely on to keep the world turning and not really demand to be praised (but it doesn't mean that they don't deserve it). I appreciate them.
I am an INTJ and I was in a relationship with an ISTJ for 13 years. So I feel qualified to say that all of this is spot on. Many of the described traits are also true for INTJs since we share the second and third function. I feel very safe and relaxed around ISTJs. They are such good and easily to handle people if you know how they tick. No drama. Probably the most underrated type.
I am an ENTP thinking of dating someone who I think is an ISTJ. Almost everything he says is the opposite of how I would do stuff, but I find the other point of view very interesting. Also I started working on some very high but risky goals work wise so I like the stability this man brings and this video confirms what I experienced. Since there are a lot a ISTJs in this comment section: How far can I bring chaos and "going with the flow" trying new things to his life before I get dumbed? I really want to push some boundaries but maybe not that one 😅
How it's going with your relationship? My wife is istj and I'm ENTP and it's exactly how you described. I think they are just amazed how we can function with all that chaos around us and that's interesting too. 😂
@@Siara87 Sadly I ended it. We both work in civil engineering. But he actually works in construction and I work in research. Every time I wanted to tell him about my projects he was getting upset that things might change in his work field and he will have to get used to change. So he was hoping we wouldn't succeed. And I know it is hard for him so I really was patient (I think... patience is not my strong quality), but I want someone in my life that I can tell about my ideas and projects without scaring them. How did you manage to make it work without traumatizing your wife weekly by your ideas? 😅
This video makes me happy. As you mentioned we are stereotyped as boring/bland and it annoys me because I feel like I can be really fun. I like who I am. Being a well rounded healthy ISTJ. Thank you for showing your appreciation for our type xx
I can say as an ISTJ leadership isn’t appealing to me, not because I don’t think I wouldn’t be good at it but because I hate having to deal with other people’s drama. I currently work with a couple of people who are very similar personality to my own, we work well together without having to constantly talk about what needs to be done, it just gets done. However, we also have people we work with peripherally and they drive me crazy with the way they do things, trying to deal with that chaos is just too taxing.
@@aae638 If you are confused between T and F (Thinking vs Feeling) I daresay you are probably an F because if you were a T you would know you are a T. The easiest way to think about the difference between the two is imagine you have a problem and how you would expect others to react to it, if you are and F you want others to sympathise with your plight, but an T would prefer constructive solutions and would disregard sympathy as a useless waste of time.
@@forgivemenot1isn't this a bit stereotypical? when you've exhausted all your options and there's no solution to a problem, isn't it just natural to want people to know you've suffered?
@@hyukleberry5567 No, I don't really care, it’s nice to be acknowledged for hard work done but I don't need praise or platitudes or sympathy. The point being is that an F does need such things but a T find such things mostly empty gestures, and if I was to do it for another person it would be because I can tell they need such affirmation or out of politeness not because I truly understand it myself.
My mother is an ISTJ. She's a math expert focusing on statistics and she hates inefficient people. She has worked for the same company for 30 years and even now, almost retiring, she is always competing and wants to be the best. And yes, she's a goofball, she's the funniest person I know (although she tells the same funny story over and over...). Great video. :)
Im an ISTJ and a musician. IT SUCKS to network because everything about the entertainment bis is about being a socialite and passing the 'vibe check'. I want to hold my contacts close, take them seriously, and fulfil my function beyond the recommended. I dont have the energy for all this fake socialising crap.
I love ISTJs!! My husband is an ISTJ and is very smart, matter of fact, responsible and serious about money, but he is also one of the funniest people I know. Not in a goofy sense but a dry wit and quick comebacks
Okay... so I am not an INTJ, but an ISTJ. Apart from a bruised ego, it's so nice to see positive things about the ISTJ. There seems to be very little about the ISTJ online, and most of the articles I come upon paint ISTJs in a very negative light.
I especially liked your point about how Si doms can actually be a very diverse group of people. This point leads to many of ISTJs feeling like they were mistyped because they didn’t fit into a box, because their life experiences and interests differed from the stereotype of what an ISTJ is supposed to look like. This point about ISxJs should definitely be included in more beginner level MBTI websites and reading material (such as 16 personalities), so that people would be less confused on what Si doms actually could look like on the outside looking in.
Something annoying about Si is that lots of times when I’m processing things alone, it’s only then that I realize how I feel, or realize someone was flirting or trying to manipulate me
Or as your processing/ reliving the moment you think of something that you should have said that sounds better or a comeback that would have been wittier or a missed opportunity to say a funny joke etc. -ISTJ
I’m an enfp I hate small talk lol 😂 I am always looking for a bigger meaning my husband honestly loves (istj) our deep and not always agreeing conversations we truly are opposites that attract and where one lacks the other picks up ❤happily married 5 years 🎉
I am an ISTJ but I am not a typical one so this was 98% accurate for me!! Yes the longer people get to know us the more better our relationship does become that is true and yes we secretly are goofballs and deep .. I believe I am really bubbly to those closer to me or who I am more comfortable with. I also like to use my energy wisely ... and we are known as jack of all trades!! Glad someone likes us! 🙂
I'm an ISTJ, and I'm impressed at how thoroughly you understood me, despite never meeting me (unless you watched my interview with Rational Typology, then maybe...) It seems like we ISTJs really desire feedback from other types, because the term "swept under the rug" was practically invented for us, because we have so much to give, yet so much reluctance to share it. I think you'll appreciate my own UA-cam Channel, as I've really tried to do some crazy things on there, while at the same time, maintaining a level of consistency so that I can someday have the World Record of "Longest-Running UA-cam Channel." I also hope you'll continue using such precise language and making well-organized lists, as that helps me keep track of everything you're saying!
How refreshing it is to finally come across a video of someone actually understanding the ISTJ. You’ve pretty much described everything about me. Most people just describes us as robotic and boring, and I can tell those individuals have never met an ISTJ because we have so much more to offer.
I'm married to an ISTJ. I'm INTP. She was so spot on here with you ISTJs. You all don't get enough credit for sure. My husband's mind still always has me surprised and in wonder after many years of marriage. Not boring at all. Very open-minded, deep, thoughtful, unique. Except my husband is good at small talk. (I'm not). You're MBTIs best kept secret imo.
I’m an ISTJ, married to an ESTJ. We are really good together, but since 2020, I’m even more introverted, and my hubs, who recently retired is becoming too isolated. I am my own best friend and all my favorite activities are solo. Crochet, sewing, reading, gardening, and even cooking. I’m happy this way. I find social events absolutely exhausting.
This is probably the best description of ISTJ I've ever heard. Most other descriptions suck. This video really resonates with me being an iSTJ. The 4th quadrant I have a hard time using or getting a high % utilization out of. I never take vacations, rarely do anything crafty, don't take risks, have difficulty finding fun in life. I am open to trying new things but typically only when others suggest them. Quadrant 3 is definitely my weaknesses that show when things aren't going well for me. I definitely feel isolated, work ethic diminishes, my inner feelings take over, as well as pessimism. I need to focus more on Quadrant 2 and realize that I'm good at those things instead of letting quadrant 3 turn me into complaining why I'm always the one planning stuff with friends. Other random things. Still never married and single but hoping to find that special someone. I don't care for small talk. I've lived in the same area my whole life. It was a big deal internally to just move from the east side of my city to the west side. I want to do something, learn about others or places, teach others what I know, or talk about interests. People that say like or whatever word constantly that doesn't belong irritates me but I'm nice about it. Inefficient things people do are also irritating.
The Fi aspect of ISTJs really explain why they might be pessimistic towards challenges in relationships as well. Especially if it's uncharted territory. They know what's already not working for them but they're also likely closed off from trying something new because they're so used to sticking to what they perceive to be traditional/commonplace in relationships even if it seems rigid, stagnant, and restrictive.
Wow... I've never heard someone describe me as perfectly and thoroughly as you have! I know that extroversion makes me more successful, so I've learned to push myself that direction, when needed. I just can't believe how much you hit the nail on the head for me. Right down to liking crafts, even! Wow.
As an ISTJ/INTJ I do like to go to vacations at the same spot, but I do like to try new things as well. I like buying souvenirs. At my first of my job I used to delegate a lot with my co-workers. My boss like to give us assignments and she told us to split up the assignments between myself and other workers. I always took the initiative and delegated work with my co-workers, since some of my co-workers did not speak Spanish and I do, I always took the caseloads with most Spanish-Speakers.
I LOVE this. My boyfriend is an ISTJ and I am an INFJ. He is a natural born leader, so grounded, so fun and (somewhat secretly) goofy! I hate the impression that the MBTI community has given the world of ISTJs as “boring” - they’re anything but. Our function stacks share nothing in common, which presents an amazing opportunity for growth since we have invested so much into our relationship and both have a growth-mindset. Before I ever thought about what our personality types are, I made the observation that my relationship with him is the first one that has made me want to “be a better person” and to grow. They say the best relationships do that, and I think it’s true. Our strengths and weaknesses are so opposite, no wonder there is such tremendous opportunity for balance. Before I knew about the cognitive functions, I assumed opposites attract in superficial ways, and likes attract in deep ways (such as the way you see the world and process information). I assumed that the best relationship or the easiest relationship would be something like ISTJ - ESTP or INFJ - ENFP. To use MBTI only for the dichotomy of the 8 letters does us a great disservice. To use MBTI to limit ourselves, predict behaviour, predict relationship outcomes etc also does us a great disservice. But to use it as a tool for personal growth and to understand others, mwuah chefs kiss. Thank you for your educational videos on UA-cam. You are an excellent teacher and break down information so clearly.
I just recently got typed as an ISTJ. Honestly, I should have figured out this was my type a long time ago; I was that 11-year-old child who unironically said, "This year, I'm going to work REALLY hard on being more relaxed!" :/ But yes, I definitely have a goofball side, too. People are always surprised when they first discover my deadpan sense of humor.
Damn when you talked about the leadership section it kind of described my thoughts to a tee. I don’t want to be a leader I’m project settings but I was made defacto leader because I was the only one who was able to effectively organize everyone efficiently lol
I've learned and laughed my way through 150+ videos from Frank, and tried to learn from the Portland couple, but YOU just laid down an incredible wealth of information in 24 minutes. You're VERY good at explaining and teaching, and your focused yet relaxed style easy to listen to. I wasn't surprised to learn that you're a teacher. I've subbed, and will watch the rest of your videos in the next few days. Keep up the great content.
I have a crush on an ISTJ so I'm here for some insight as an ENFP... I feel like you have described him perfectly. Now I just need to figure out how to approach this situation!
I’m also an ENFP and I’m falling in love with an ISTJ that honestly, makes me so happy bc he breaks the “boring” stereotype and is lovely, caring, fun and tries to understand my feelings
Ahhhh Enfps. Attracted to the mysterious and trying to take chances for deep connections. It sounds good, but this personality will likely just annoy and overchallenge the istj. (At least in my experience). Good luck and share please if this at all works out!
As an istj small talk gives me major anxiety and always seems super pointless. Like I could be doing so much right now, but instead, I have to talk about the weather?
I am an istj. For the next academic year, my school organization will be changing officers and none in my year level presents a good candidate for the president position. I was silently contemplating whether i'd go for it because of the benefit i'd get. The only thing that's making me unsure is the uncertainty that i am qualified. Watching this now, that position does not seem to be too big.
The definition that made the most sense to me was that introversion / extroversion is where you get your energy. Introverts gain energy from quiet more intimate activities; they are drained from loud energetic or larger social activities. Extroverts are the opposite of that - they gain energy from social interaction and may get more drained from being alone with their own thoughts or in the quiet.
I definitely get better as I open up, I hate small talk. I’m happy were getting some love 🙏🏾💚 people want me to be an extrovert so bad but I need my me time lol
I’m insanely introverted, but project management comes so naturally. It’s like I’m in a different zone and just get shit done - though you have to remember not to hold everyone to your own insanely high standards and be open to other people’s way of operating. True that I have absolutely no time for incompetence. Also can and do spend weeks alone in the wilderness.
Wow. So much detail. I can relate. Goofball, yeah I guess. In my head a lot, definitely. Can be extravert, yes. Competative, subconciously hooked when someone tries to pass me on the road that could have pulled safely in behind me but instead cuts off the buffer I left myself between my car and the one ahead of me. There is a well of negativity that get's filled and sometimes I have to drain the water when I struggle but doesn't everybody. It helps to have an understanding sounding board when I'm reflecting.
I used to think I was an INFP because of the type’s functions, how I see myself-someone that appreciates honesty and authenticity a lot-and how my really close friends see me; with time I realized that the functions’ positioning were really off. I get really stressed when I feel like I’m wasting my time resting when I could be doing *anything* else that could either subjectively or objectively beneficial. I also realized that (if my opinion is requested) I tend to prioritize honesty over coming off as a “good” person, and I find it totally pointless and rude to lie about something that could totally be discussed. And something else that was really throwing me off is that I daydream a lot, which is what I usually hear about the stereotypical INFP, but it’s usually on things I have previously experienced. I like to think about what things could’ve turned out differently if a variety of actions were taken, or just about details that I might have missed. Towards the end of the video you mentioned how ISTJs have a little ENFP in them, and it reminded me of a time I was watching The Office with my partner, and she mentioned Michael was like my inner self, a person that a small group of people get to see and experience, but not the person that is usually shown to the world.
I am an ISTJ with diagnosed autism and even though I appreciate the profile given here there is a huge pitfall to this personality and for me it's personal intimate relationships. I can take on tasks and challenges with an efficiency and accuracy that blows peoples mind, and I have amazing friends that vocalize their respect for the way I am able to provide and deliver on any expectation. HOWEVER. I am completely blindsided by emotional connection and intimacy, it confuses me even though the love I feel is so incredibly strong and overwhelming that I want to be vulnerable and deeply give myself to someone but every time I get that opportunity my rational brain wins and creates a scenario where people either become intimidated or overbearing. I am currently working on myself because I want to explore that vulnerability and emotional connection but I find it extremely difficult to submit to it, even though my heart is craving for it. If any ISTJ reads this and identifies with more information. I'd love to hear it.
I am a ISTJ-A and I agree with you. I am also a small leader in my company. Ever since the first day I become this leadership role, it comes completely natural to me. And I excel in my job, make good money. I also be able to purchase house and do investments for passive income. When I was younger, I am a complete INFP, now as I grown, I have a much bigger portion of my brain is tends to logical\ Thinkjng\ juedging, my life just become so much better. Still an introvert, eat lunch alone, or stay quiet from time to time, but allowing more and more of my extrovert side comes out really makes me popular among people. I am extremely neat, clean and organized, and because I am in the medical industry which just so suitable for me. And my brain feels comfortable all the time. Absolutely no drama no gossip no small talk with me. Not easily get mad or emotion, always fact check. I don’t find many girls have the same personality like me tho.
I'm getting a lot of confirmation with this video with certain things. They can follow but also be leaders. As at 8:30, the "turning outward to group's thoughts, data, metrics, goals. Confirms for me a saying I heard one time that I always believed in, but never saw enacted that went something like, "the best way to captain the ship is to listen to the crew." Amazing confirmation. Will also come back to this video for self-improvement. Please tell me that Meyers-Briggs is solid. Thank you.
I came here to listen in order to boost my ego but i didn't expect actual good advice from you. Thanks for this video, you really understand me more than what i do myself.
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!!! Thank you for making me feel proud to be an ISTJ. You’re absolutely right, when you say the community doesn’t embrace how great we can be. Has anyone stopped to think that these over thinkers might have a hard time with being labeled as boring? 🤔 By the end of the video, I’m yelling at my screen like my husband when he watches a football game, and now I want to send this to everyone I know LOL
Thank you so much for this video~~I would say you nailed it! I am a 61-yo ISTJ who can very much tap into my ENFP side and am usually considered the life of most parties because I love to dance and get people talking and doing things. (I'm exhausted afterwards, but that's okay, it's worth it!) And yes, we certainly do learn people, haha! Great job on this video.
Thank you! As an ISTJ who has written and directed musicals for teens and directed adults too, plus stage-managed, created props, etc, I felt totally left out by the ISTJ stereotype of the number cruncher who does the same job every day. My biggest problem is the risk taking. I have found that when I have a supportive group of friends and co-workers, I am much more able to take risks and do new things. But put me in a new place and it feels impossible.
ISTJ here, yes small talk is annoying and something I struggle with at work. I have made efforts to work on my 3rd and 4th parts of my personality but starting and keeping conversations going is a struggle. One thing I try to avoid in social situations but I seem to keep doing is the "introvert entrance/exit". I have been referred to as a cat and been told that I need to wear a bell because I will quietly enter a room or someone's personal space usually startling them. The exit is sort of a reaction to avoid the awkward ending of a conversation or when the conversation goes awkwardly quiet and involves quietly slipping away without a formal cutting off of the conversation. Think of the meme with Homer Simpson slowly slinking back into the bushes.
this is a really amazing description of ISTJ's. Thank you for breaking this down so that ISTJ's and non-ISTJ's can understand the strengths and weaknesses of the ISTJ processing of information and life in general
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all I have to say is thank you. I simultaneously appreciate this description and relate so, so much, and feel that it's undeserved
I am an ISTJ, I like this explanation given. She gave cues as a sort of rehabilitation for the blind spots or difficulties faced by ISTJ, it's true! We need to use our extravated Thinking a lot more than we do! We have the best reasoning but at times we are not confident enough to speak up or take initiatives to lead people.
This is spot on😂I literally hate small talk, its such a waste of time to me, like idc about nothing they’re saying, unless its a philosophical conversation or with an elderly women
My boss is an istj. I was able to convince him to take the myers briggs. He came back istj obviously. He loves vacationing in the same spot. Great manager of things. Im an Intp and i dont have that ability like he does to be a manager. I love coming up with new innovative things and he allows me now after almost 7 years to do what ever project i want. Of course i get some one else to mostly make these things. At least for the most part…. I just like coming up with new things and solving all the problems before anyone sees it.
I appreciate the growth advice! I almost brushed off your video as 'half baked' but saw the timestamps/chapters. Thanks for sharing the knowledge & solid content :)
I am 61% Introverted down 2% from last year. It so so difficult to make female companions. I have tremendous self-restraint & have fears of bothering someone, making someone uncomfortable which may make me feel guilt & burden. I think more carefully before what I say or do. It is the fear of not exactly rejection but, failure. It gets personal when I take time analyzing & studying to have it fail. I wish women had more patience because similar to a turtle, I am hard on the outside but soft on the inside.
I feel this. I'm new to this personality testing stuff, and am ISTJ and INFJ. Bothering someone is uncomfortable for me, but I don't think I could nail that down until I read your comment. Interesting. And now I'm analyzing why I don't want to be a bother, lol. Lucky for me, analyzing is my sport of preference. At any rate, I'm thankful for your comment. I'll be thinking on this.
Hubby's tested as an INFJ, and a friend convinced him to think about *maybe* ISFJ, but the more I look into it, I'm more and more sure that he's an ISTJ. Thanks for your thoroughness on all of these type videos! I loved when you said they have an inner ENFP. I'm an ENFP and I feel like my husband and yin/yang beautifully!
I made the personality test yesterday just because my GF said I should do one... ISTJ... read the Pro's and Con's and it's like someone was reading my mind haha.... I mean like 95% of it is completely me. And yeah, I can be a complete goofball in the right environment if I am in the right mood for it :D
Thank you for this video. I'm an ISTJ who's been called by his family and friends as ''weird'' and ''antisocial''. But I feel it's because the ISTJ stereotype says you should be super boring and predictable. No, I just happen to have private and complex thoughts about the world, doesn't make me an automaric N type.
Awesome! I haven't even started yet, about to take a walk with my son, but I was hoping you would do an ISTJ breakdown soon. My wife is ISTJ, and looking for every competitive advantage possible! :P
This describes my best friend to a “T”. I’ve known him for 11 years and I felt like I really knew him… while that may be true… I feel this video helped me to understand him on a whole new level. Furthermore, I feel this helped describe some aspects of me as well. Interesting!
Older ISTJs are deeeep reservoirs of practical knowledge and wisdom. Just watch any Charlie Munger interview. In my observation, they are probably the most introverted of all 16 types. Yep, they literally are the backbone of society, even more so than ISFJs. They also have mechanical abilities that rival ISTPs. They are rule enforcers and can be quite tough. They make excellent customs officers. They can be a bit rigid, IMO. and can advocate for certain ideas which are far past their sell by date. ISTJs are human like everybody else. As such, they are not all smart. I have met a handful that are dummer than a bag of rocks.
General 11 👍‼️ Thank you so much for this excellent video. It provides so much clarity for both my positive and negative traits/choices. Understanding the “relative to my standards vs to those around me” was extremely enlightening. Your explanations also provided insight into why I tend to obsess over minute details (even word choices) a bit too much, why I spend so much time contemplating & planning, and why I’m drawn to more technical sports/hobbies, e.g. skydiving, rock/ice climbing, metalsmithing, etc. After a tad tragic accident, I dwelled in the Fi region too much. But 2 years ago, I was asked to lead a volunteer team composed of 5 committees that included 100+ members. I was extremely hesitant because I felt I was not qualified (an all too common feeling) and didn’t have an understanding about each committees’ work. In the end, I accepted the role and based on feedback from others, excelled at it. This experience was so rewarding for me because it was impactful on team efficiency & productivity, increasing membership by ~40 volunteers, improving members’ skills by providing training, and helping others tap into unexplored strengths. It also helped my understanding the world by gaining perspectives from engaging with such diverse members and developed my skills for adapting to dynamic, ever-changing situations. I could go on and on, but ultimately, I just want you to know how much I appreciate your video; because of it, I will make more conscience efforts to develop the Ne traits. (｡^‿^｡)
Thank you Alexis for this crisp explanation. I love the way you even integrate and link all functions together and you mentioned the Si Fi loop. Brilliant explanation!!!! Really big-picture thingy, and easy to implement in my life :) I'm an ISTJ. And yes, i stay with my parents, while my friends in uni they far from home to go to school, so I lack a certain of skills. I have problem with meeting deadlines on time, it's usually late. I got my friends, my dad complains about that. That obviously irritates me, but at the same time, I learn how crucial deadline is. It's a dot of your process of data-gathering Si, processing, critical thinking, making conclusions, and writing down - Te - in the report. It is the motivation to get my butt up and do the learn to get it done. I learn Eisenhower matrix too, which helps me a lot on sort out my priorities. I'm still working on it. Thank you for the Growth advice. Yes, I was working on the Group Project (now it's all done, yesterday hehe) and i ended up taking learning of parts which not mine. I usually work alone in years in uni time. And I got hella confused when i went into a group project. I just notice so many details details that can go wrong and my two partners xSTP can crash w me real hard. And i learn to prioritize right, so my focus can land on my stuff, I can fully 100% control it. I try to write and explain really crisp and to-the-point for readers to understand at my understanding of the spike problem so they have no-more-possible-vague-questions, without go in so many details-thingy :) It applies in my nerve ways of thinking and saying things too. Yes, i choose major Electrical Engineering cause my ESTJ dad has his company in this major. 18-yo me didn't choose to be an artist - it's too risky and needs innovation and ideas (which is Ne :), though i can draw realistic well, but I invest my time to learn on 'practical subjects' like Math, Physics and Chemistry more. At first i didn't like this major, i went to a real bad addiction and get stuck with Si Fi loop for a long time. I had a real hard time in my life - speaking in MBTI - an unhealthy personality. I had been trying both on inner healing and outer performance. In the Graduation Project, I crash with xSTP partners and i learn more about Cognitive functions, and my weaknesses, which i didn't pay much attention before. Now i know how much potential i can be, and how i can improve in the ISTJ way :) Now it's a new journey nearly post- graduation on working in my dad's company. And it's the time for Si Te :) So from now on, i implement SiTe mindset and way of thinking and problem solving things, get conclusions in things, get it done and move on to the next thing. I'm still in touch with Fi, I partake in an Online community that has supportive people helps me a lot on healing in recovery healing journey of that addiction i mentioned. And also develop Ne, like finding more insights, cooking tuts from other UA-camrs or Insta-ers. I use Ne more in critical thinking in part of Si Te for more to-the-point understanding. :) So my 5th to 8th functions were Se Ti Fe Ni. And i learn how to combine functions i have to manifest results of functions i don't have, to resolve problems in my life :) Knowing about MBTI is a huge blessing, after my healing journey and ignite the light of improvement in my upcoming journey :)
Yeah 13:34 that's true. I've been sacrificing myself 😂for group projects, because I feel insecure when I'm not the only one who is gonna do the whole work 😅.
Lol I so I guess I'm not 100% istj because I'm not book smart and it takes me a while to learn things and if I don't use it I loose it unless it's tied to emotion. But I am a jack of all trades and everything else you said fits me
Thank you very much this is one of best and well explain Istj video i have ever heard. I am an Istj personality type and a sigma female too. I get a lot of complements like i am cold, unfriendly, serious and stuffs like that.
Znakomite komplementy dostajesz od innych🤷🤣. Ja jako ISTJ-A dostaję prośby w rodzaju: jakiś zdenerwowany jesteś, czy mi się wydaje; mógłbyś się bardziej uśmiechać; dlaczego tak mało mówisz? Pozdrawiam.
Extraversion has only caused me pain and nothing good has ever come from except for realizing I was right all along, and I need to just do my own thing but then that pisses everybody off too
I'm sorry to hear you've had that experience. I hear this type of thing from ISTP's a lot (their Ti voicing dissent and willing to challenge the group's ideas and others interpret that with ill-intent; and also their main extraverted function Se having a hard time being useful in people situations, it's more physical than people-oriented.) I know you commented on an ISTJ video, but I wanted to point out that many ISTP's see themselves as lone wolves and it's worth looking into. ua-cam.com/video/uUClHIaL6hw/v-deo.html
Ja jestem ISTJ. Kiedyś inni mnie opisując robili mi coś w rodzaju zarzutów. Jakby przeszkadzało im, że jestem tym kim jestem. To mnie frustrowało. Frustrowało, bo nie byłem podobny innym. Teraz jest inaczej. Frustrujące byłoby, gdybym udawał kogoś kim nie jestem. Pozdrawiam z Polski,👋.
Wow! This is such a great video ! It is so thorough. I watched it to help me understand someone else, and it was so helpful. I can’t wait to watch the one for my personality type.😊
I don't know you and yet you know me so well. You are a bona fide creep. Hahaha. Just pulling your leg. Thank you for the detailed explanation and exploration of our kind. Really needed the kind words and encouragement during the tough times I'm going through. Have a great day Alexis.
my ENFP sister said I'm "so boring" and a lot of other people also said that i "look mean" for a first impression. they don't know, I'm considered one of the class clowns and am bestfriends with an ESFP so yeah im fun af😎
I am an istj , but am i the only one who doesn't consider myself intelligent or smart? I'm not good in maths and i study on an average level , and people around me perceive me as intelligent but im not!
Would it be possible to do a video how these personality types would be different if they are in a really bad place? I am an INFJ in a marriage with an ISTJ that has had lots of depression most of which is due to chronic insomnia, but also past issues.
“I imagine istjs would rly hate small talk”. Yup. I can confirm that small talk can only be had with an elderly person on a train out of politeness.
Lol 💯
No, thank you to the small talk, that's what headphones are for, to protect me from small talk. 😅😅
Yes I can relate to your comment ,The lady who cuts my hair is 65 yrs old and she's the only one I would have a small talk with.
Yeah it sucks
Lol, so true
I’m an ISTJ, girl. Hate small talks, it looks like a waste of time. Travelling and moving away to other countries gave me the happiest experience of my life: new skills, a happy relationship, confidence and flexibility, a prosperous lifestyle. Super responsible and organised, feel deeply, but hesitant about sharing feelings. People like my jokes but it’s difficult to build friendships with me, because I’m friendly, but mostly closed and formal with new people. Get a lot of fulfillment from my goals and achievements, as well as books and podcasts. Life-long learner (now I’m learning English for writing) :)
And doing very well with your English. I find that I am comfortable with strangers and close friends (I have a couple), but stiff and standoffish with acquaintances. I seem to put most people off, so I get very nervous until I know them well.
ISTJ woman here... only thing i have to say is #Ditto
Me too...hate small talk...let's get on with it, esp if work needs to get done.
@@MagnoliaZZZZ yep 👍
ISTJs are the people who you can rely on to keep the world turning and not really demand to be praised (but it doesn't mean that they don't deserve it). I appreciate them.
What's your MBTI?
@@soa2444 multiple tests and profilers point to me having INTP preferences. I've never had other results.
Perhaps the most reliable temperament . Iam only an infj
@@self7341 same here
A thank you is really apreciated from time to time.
I don’t know if this is just an istj thing but I can’t stand when people don’t follow through with the things they said.
That is SUCH an ISTJ thing!
@@AlexisKingsley Is this pet peeve also something that infj’s could relate to?
@@brickwall9706 probably lots of types can, but for different reasons. I think xSxJ's have this pet peeve the biggest :) Especially xSTJ's.
same pisses me off so much
Same with me
I am an INTJ and I was in a relationship with an ISTJ for 13 years. So I feel qualified to say that all of this is spot on. Many of the described traits are also true for INTJs since we share the second and third function. I feel very safe and relaxed around ISTJs. They are such good and easily to handle people if you know how they tick. No drama. Probably the most underrated type.
I am an ENTP thinking of dating someone who I think is an ISTJ. Almost everything he says is the opposite of how I would do stuff, but I find the other point of view very interesting. Also I started working on some very high but risky goals work wise so I like the stability this man brings and this video confirms what I experienced. Since there are a lot a ISTJs in this comment section: How far can I bring chaos and "going with the flow" trying new things to his life before I get dumbed? I really want to push some boundaries but maybe not that one 😅
How it's going with your relationship? My wife is istj and I'm ENTP and it's exactly how you described. I think they are just amazed how we can function with all that chaos around us and that's interesting too. 😂
@@Siara87 Sadly I ended it. We both work in civil engineering. But he actually works in construction and I work in research. Every time I wanted to tell him about my projects he was getting upset that things might change in his work field and he will have to get used to change. So he was hoping we wouldn't succeed. And I know it is hard for him so I really was patient (I think... patience is not my strong quality), but I want someone in my life that I can tell about my ideas and projects without scaring them. How did you manage to make it work without traumatizing your wife weekly by your ideas? 😅
This video makes me happy. As you mentioned we are stereotyped as boring/bland and it annoys me because I feel like I can be really fun. I like who I am. Being a well rounded healthy ISTJ. Thank you for showing your appreciation for our type xx
Same!
I can say as an ISTJ leadership isn’t appealing to me, not because I don’t think I wouldn’t be good at it but because I hate having to deal with other people’s drama.
I currently work with a couple of people who are very similar personality to my own, we work well together without having to constantly talk about what needs to be done, it just gets done.
However, we also have people we work with peripherally and they drive me crazy with the way they do things, trying to deal with that chaos is just too taxing.
I could relate to that
I feel the same, that’s the reason why I still don’t know if i’m really an ISTJ… I’m confused between ISTJ and ISFJ
@@aae638 If you are confused between T and F (Thinking vs Feeling) I daresay you are probably an F because if you were a T you would know you are a T.
The easiest way to think about the difference between the two is imagine you have a problem and how you would expect others to react to it, if you are and F you want others to sympathise with your plight, but an T would prefer constructive solutions and would disregard sympathy as a useless waste of time.
@@forgivemenot1isn't this a bit stereotypical? when you've exhausted all your options and there's no solution to a problem, isn't it just natural to want people to know you've suffered?
@@hyukleberry5567 No, I don't really care, it’s nice to be acknowledged for hard work done but I don't need praise or platitudes or sympathy.
The point being is that an F does need such things but a T find such things mostly empty gestures, and if I was to do it for another person it would be because I can tell they need such affirmation or out of politeness not because I truly understand it myself.
My mother is an ISTJ. She's a math expert focusing on statistics and she hates inefficient people. She has worked for the same company for 30 years and even now, almost retiring, she is always competing and wants to be the best. And yes, she's a goofball, she's the funniest person I know (although she tells the same funny story over and over...). Great video. :)
Im an ISTJ and a musician. IT SUCKS to network because everything about the entertainment bis is about being a socialite and passing the 'vibe check'. I want to hold my contacts close, take them seriously, and fulfil my function beyond the recommended. I dont have the energy for all this fake socialising crap.
Let your music speak for you 🎶
I love ISTJs!! My husband is an ISTJ and is very smart, matter of fact, responsible and serious about money, but he is also one of the funniest people I know. Not in a goofy sense but a dry wit and quick comebacks
what's your MBTI?
Okay... so I am not an INTJ, but an ISTJ. Apart from a bruised ego, it's so nice to see positive things about the ISTJ. There seems to be very little about the ISTJ online, and most of the articles I come upon paint ISTJs in a very negative light.
That be very true
I found myself in the same situation!
I especially liked your point about how Si doms can actually be a very diverse group of people. This point leads to many of ISTJs feeling like they were mistyped because they didn’t fit into a box, because their life experiences and interests differed from the stereotype of what an ISTJ is supposed to look like. This point about ISxJs should definitely be included in more beginner level MBTI websites and reading material (such as 16 personalities), so that people would be less confused on what Si doms actually could look like on the outside looking in.
Something annoying about Si is that lots of times when I’m processing things alone, it’s only then that I realize how I feel, or realize someone was flirting or trying to manipulate me
Yes happens to me too. I hate that shit too
Or as your processing/ reliving the moment you think of something that you should have said that sounds better or a comeback that would have been wittier or a missed opportunity to say a funny joke etc. -ISTJ
write it down and learn from it- also learn what it looks like to recognize it again
...but then a similar event happens again and then this time we know how to react since we've processed it before ;D
@@ambrosiafem6550 Except that it doesn't happen again. That's the joke, lads.
(C) Me - ISTJ
I’m an enfp I hate small talk lol 😂 I am always looking for a bigger meaning my husband honestly loves (istj) our deep and not always agreeing conversations we truly are opposites that attract and where one lacks the other picks up ❤happily married 5 years 🎉
I am an ISTJ but I am not a typical one so this was 98% accurate for me!! Yes the longer people get to know us the more better our relationship does become that is true and yes we secretly are goofballs and deep .. I believe I am really bubbly to those closer to me or who I am more comfortable with. I also like to use my energy wisely ... and we are known as jack of all trades!! Glad someone likes us! 🙂
Your profile name is incredibly accurate!!
I'm an ISTJ, and I'm impressed at how thoroughly you understood me, despite never meeting me (unless you watched my interview with Rational Typology, then maybe...) It seems like we ISTJs really desire feedback from other types, because the term "swept under the rug" was practically invented for us, because we have so much to give, yet so much reluctance to share it.
I think you'll appreciate my own UA-cam Channel, as I've really tried to do some crazy things on there, while at the same time, maintaining a level of consistency so that I can someday have the World Record of "Longest-Running UA-cam Channel." I also hope you'll continue using such precise language and making well-organized lists, as that helps me keep track of everything you're saying!
How refreshing it is to finally come across a video of someone actually understanding the ISTJ. You’ve pretty much described everything about me. Most people just describes us as robotic and boring, and I can tell those individuals have never met an ISTJ because we have so much more to offer.
I'm married to an ISTJ.
I'm INTP.
She was so spot on here with you ISTJs.
You all don't get enough credit for sure.
My husband's mind still always has me surprised and in wonder after many years of marriage.
Not boring at all.
Very open-minded, deep, thoughtful, unique.
Except my husband is good at small talk. (I'm not).
You're MBTIs best kept secret imo.
I’m an ISTJ, married to an ESTJ. We are really good together, but since 2020, I’m even more introverted, and my hubs, who recently retired is becoming too isolated. I am my own best friend and all my favorite activities are solo. Crochet, sewing, reading, gardening, and even cooking. I’m happy this way. I find social events absolutely exhausting.
This is probably the best description of ISTJ I've ever heard. Most other descriptions suck. This video really resonates with me being an iSTJ. The 4th quadrant I have a hard time using or getting a high % utilization out of. I never take vacations, rarely do anything crafty, don't take risks, have difficulty finding fun in life. I am open to trying new things but typically only when others suggest them. Quadrant 3 is definitely my weaknesses that show when things aren't going well for me. I definitely feel isolated, work ethic diminishes, my inner feelings take over, as well as pessimism. I need to focus more on Quadrant 2 and realize that I'm good at those things instead of letting quadrant 3 turn me into complaining why I'm always the one planning stuff with friends. Other random things. Still never married and single but hoping to find that special someone. I don't care for small talk. I've lived in the same area my whole life. It was a big deal internally to just move from the east side of my city to the west side. I want to do something, learn about others or places, teach others what I know, or talk about interests. People that say like or whatever word constantly that doesn't belong irritates me but I'm nice about it. Inefficient things people do are also irritating.
As an ISTJ I loved Japan. Trains are on time every time. It’s very peaceful there but so interesting to explore and learn/see historic places
The Fi aspect of ISTJs really explain why they might be pessimistic towards challenges in relationships as well. Especially if it's uncharted territory. They know what's already not working for them but they're also likely closed off from trying something new because they're so used to sticking to what they perceive to be traditional/commonplace in relationships even if it seems rigid, stagnant, and restrictive.
Wow... I've never heard someone describe me as perfectly and thoroughly as you have! I know that extroversion makes me more successful, so I've learned to push myself that direction, when needed. I just can't believe how much you hit the nail on the head for me. Right down to liking crafts, even! Wow.
As an ISTJ/INTJ I do like to go to vacations at the same spot, but I do like to try new things as well. I like buying souvenirs.
At my first of my job I used to delegate a lot with my co-workers. My boss like to give us assignments and she told us to split up the assignments between myself and other workers. I always took the initiative and delegated work with my co-workers, since some of my co-workers did not speak Spanish and I do, I always took the caseloads with most Spanish-Speakers.
I LOVE this. My boyfriend is an ISTJ and I am an INFJ. He is a natural born leader, so grounded, so fun and (somewhat secretly) goofy! I hate the impression that the MBTI community has given the world of ISTJs as “boring” - they’re anything but.
Our function stacks share nothing in common, which presents an amazing opportunity for growth since we have invested so much into our relationship and both have a growth-mindset. Before I ever thought about what our personality types are, I made the observation that my relationship with him is the first one that has made me want to “be a better person” and to grow. They say the best relationships do that, and I think it’s true. Our strengths and weaknesses are so opposite, no wonder there is such tremendous opportunity for balance.
Before I knew about the cognitive functions, I assumed opposites attract in superficial ways, and likes attract in deep ways (such as the way you see the world and process information). I assumed that the best relationship or the easiest relationship would be something like ISTJ - ESTP or INFJ - ENFP.
To use MBTI only for the dichotomy of the 8 letters does us a great disservice. To use MBTI to limit ourselves, predict behaviour, predict relationship outcomes etc also does us a great disservice. But to use it as a tool for personal growth and to understand others, mwuah chefs kiss.
Thank you for your educational videos on UA-cam. You are an excellent teacher and break down information so clearly.
Me too❤ Im INFJ and my boyfriend ISTJ ❤ We are 14 years old togheter and I think this relationship is very developing.
I just recently got typed as an ISTJ. Honestly, I should have figured out this was my type a long time ago; I was that 11-year-old child who unironically said, "This year, I'm going to work REALLY hard on being more relaxed!" :/
But yes, I definitely have a goofball side, too. People are always surprised when they first discover my deadpan sense of humor.
Same 😂 In middle school I wrote down a whole list/plan of “how to be more outgoing and friendly”
I am stuck and inlove with ISTJ, I am an INFJ 😆. I'd always say, can I "install" ISTJ qualities please haha. ISTJ can calm an INFJ down.
Damn when you talked about the leadership section it kind of described my thoughts to a tee. I don’t want to be a leader I’m project settings but I was made defacto leader because I was the only one who was able to effectively organize everyone efficiently lol
I've learned and laughed my way through 150+ videos from Frank, and tried to learn from the Portland couple, but YOU just laid down an incredible wealth of information in 24 minutes. You're VERY good at explaining and teaching, and your focused yet relaxed style easy to listen to. I wasn't surprised to learn that you're a teacher. I've subbed, and will watch the rest of your videos in the next few days. Keep up the great content.
I have a crush on an ISTJ so I'm here for some insight as an ENFP... I feel like you have described him perfectly. Now I just need to figure out how to approach this situation!
I'm an enfp too and have a crush on ISTJ! Their calm, cool, collected and mysterious vibe is so attractive to me.
I’m also an ENFP and I’m falling in love with an ISTJ that honestly, makes me so happy bc he breaks the “boring” stereotype and is lovely, caring, fun and tries to understand my feelings
Ahhhh Enfps. Attracted to the mysterious and trying to take chances for deep connections. It sounds good, but this personality will likely just annoy and overchallenge the istj. (At least in my experience). Good luck and share please if this at all works out!
"Sometimes, introverted feelers can be kinda like martyrs" - As an Fi dominant type, I have never heard anything more accurate.
As an istj small talk gives me major anxiety and always seems super pointless. Like I could be doing so much right now, but instead, I have to talk about the weather?
I am an istj. For the next academic year, my school organization will be changing officers and none in my year level presents a good candidate for the president position. I was silently contemplating whether i'd go for it because of the benefit i'd get. The only thing that's making me unsure is the uncertainty that i am qualified. Watching this now, that position does not seem to be too big.
The definition that made the most sense to me was that introversion / extroversion is where you get your energy. Introverts gain energy from quiet more intimate activities; they are drained from loud energetic or larger social activities. Extroverts are the opposite of that - they gain energy from social interaction and may get more drained from being alone with their own thoughts or in the quiet.
I definitely get better as I open up, I hate small talk. I’m happy were getting some love 🙏🏾💚 people want me to be an extrovert so bad but I need my me time lol
I’m insanely introverted, but project management comes so naturally. It’s like I’m in a different zone and just get shit done - though you have to remember not to hold everyone to your own insanely high standards and be open to other people’s way of operating.
True that I have absolutely no time for incompetence.
Also can and do spend weeks alone in the wilderness.
Wow. So much detail. I can relate. Goofball, yeah I guess. In my head a lot, definitely. Can be extravert, yes. Competative, subconciously hooked when someone tries to pass me on the road that could have pulled safely in behind me but instead cuts off the buffer I left myself between my car and the one ahead of me. There is a well of negativity that get's filled and sometimes I have to drain the water when I struggle but doesn't everybody. It helps to have an understanding sounding board when I'm reflecting.
I have never felt more understood by someone in my whole life lmao
I used to think I was an INFP because of the type’s functions, how I see myself-someone that appreciates honesty and authenticity a lot-and how my really close friends see me; with time I realized that the functions’ positioning were really off. I get really stressed when I feel like I’m wasting my time resting when I could be doing *anything* else that could either subjectively or objectively beneficial. I also realized that (if my opinion is requested) I tend to prioritize honesty over coming off as a “good” person, and I find it totally pointless and rude to lie about something that could totally be discussed. And something else that was really throwing me off is that I daydream a lot, which is what I usually hear about the stereotypical INFP, but it’s usually on things I have previously experienced. I like to think about what things could’ve turned out differently if a variety of actions were taken, or just about details that I might have missed.
Towards the end of the video you mentioned how ISTJs have a little ENFP in them, and it reminded me of a time I was watching The Office with my partner, and she mentioned Michael was like my inner self, a person that a small group of people get to see and experience, but not the person that is usually shown to the world.
I am an ISTJ with diagnosed autism and even though I appreciate the profile given here there is a huge pitfall to this personality and for me it's personal intimate relationships. I can take on tasks and challenges with an efficiency and accuracy that blows peoples mind, and I have amazing friends that vocalize their respect for the way I am able to provide and deliver on any expectation.
HOWEVER. I am completely blindsided by emotional connection and intimacy, it confuses me even though the love I feel is so incredibly strong and overwhelming that I want to be vulnerable and deeply give myself to someone but every time I get that opportunity my rational brain wins and creates a scenario where people either become intimidated or overbearing.
I am currently working on myself because I want to explore that vulnerability and emotional connection but I find it extremely difficult to submit to it, even though my heart is craving for it.
If any ISTJ reads this and identifies with more information. I'd love to hear it.
I am a ISTJ-A and I agree with you. I am also a small leader in my company. Ever since the first day I become this leadership role, it comes completely natural to me. And I excel in my job, make good money. I also be able to purchase house and do investments for passive income. When I was younger, I am a complete INFP, now as I grown, I have a much bigger portion of my brain is tends to logical\ Thinkjng\ juedging, my life just become so much better. Still an introvert, eat lunch alone, or stay quiet from time to time, but allowing more and more of my extrovert side comes out really makes me popular among people. I am extremely neat, clean and organized, and because I am in the medical industry which just so suitable for me. And my brain feels comfortable all the time. Absolutely no drama no gossip no small talk with me. Not easily get mad or emotion, always fact check. I don’t find many girls have the same personality like me tho.
I'm getting a lot of confirmation with this video with certain things. They can follow but also be leaders. As at 8:30, the "turning outward to group's thoughts, data, metrics, goals. Confirms for me a saying I heard one time that I always believed in, but never saw enacted that went something like, "the best way to captain the ship is to listen to the crew." Amazing confirmation. Will also come back to this video for self-improvement. Please tell me that Meyers-Briggs is solid. Thank you.
What a way to start the morning. I feel really good about being an ISTJ now. Thanks for the pep talk!
Thank you for this spoken love letter, I really needed to hear some appreciation for my efforts after being overworked...musician life :)
You are so welcome
I'm an istj-t... your introduction makes me happy☺
Wow! As an ISTJ, this was one of the most uplifting videos I have seen. Thanks for your intelligence and excellence.
I came here to listen in order to boost my ego but i didn't expect actual good advice from you. Thanks for this video, you really understand me more than what i do myself.
Excellent! Yes, istj's are genius level smart.
-enfp.
New follower!
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!!!
Thank you for making me feel proud to be an ISTJ. You’re absolutely right, when you say the community doesn’t embrace how great we can be. Has anyone stopped to think that these over thinkers might have a hard time with being labeled as boring? 🤔
By the end of the video, I’m yelling at my screen like my husband when he watches a football game, and now I want to send this to everyone I know LOL
Thank you so much for this video~~I would say you nailed it! I am a 61-yo ISTJ who can very much tap into my ENFP side and am usually considered the life of most parties because I love to dance and get people talking and doing things. (I'm exhausted afterwards, but that's okay, it's worth it!) And yes, we certainly do learn people, haha! Great job on this video.
Thank you! As an ISTJ who has written and directed musicals for teens and directed adults too, plus stage-managed, created props, etc, I felt totally left out by the ISTJ stereotype of the number cruncher who does the same job every day.
My biggest problem is the risk taking. I have found that when I have a supportive group of friends and co-workers, I am much more able to take risks and do new things. But put me in a new place and it feels impossible.
Thank you for getting to the point quickly, and staying on it!
Great video. I would love you do a video ISTJ vs INTJ...
Me too!
I would like one too!
ISTJ here, yes small talk is annoying and something I struggle with at work. I have made efforts to work on my 3rd and 4th parts of my personality but starting and keeping conversations going is a struggle. One thing I try to avoid in social situations but I seem to keep doing is the "introvert entrance/exit". I have been referred to as a cat and been told that I need to wear a bell because I will quietly enter a room or someone's personal space usually startling them. The exit is sort of a reaction to avoid the awkward ending of a conversation or when the conversation goes awkwardly quiet and involves quietly slipping away without a formal cutting off of the conversation. Think of the meme with Homer Simpson slowly slinking back into the bushes.
this is a really amazing description of ISTJ's. Thank you for breaking this down so that ISTJ's and non-ISTJ's can understand the strengths and weaknesses of the ISTJ processing of information and life in general
all I have to say is thank you. I simultaneously appreciate this description and relate so, so much, and feel that it's undeserved
I am an ISTJ, I like this explanation given. She gave cues as a sort of rehabilitation for the blind spots or difficulties faced by ISTJ, it's true! We need to use our extravated Thinking a lot more than we do! We have the best reasoning but at times we are not confident enough to speak up or take initiatives to lead people.
This is spot on😂I literally hate small talk, its such a waste of time to me, like idc about nothing they’re saying, unless its a philosophical conversation or with an elderly women
One of the most helpful and inspiring videos I've ever seen on youtube. Thank you so much!
My boss is an istj. I was able to convince him to take the myers briggs. He came back istj obviously. He loves vacationing in the same spot. Great manager of things. Im an Intp and i dont have that ability like he does to be a manager. I love coming up with new innovative things and he allows me now after almost 7 years to do what ever project i want. Of course i get some one else to mostly make these things. At least for the most part…. I just like coming up with new things and solving all the problems before anyone sees it.
As an istj, i often fascinated by intp. Glad there are intp out there who appreciate us. Thank you!
You intp’s are so mysterious in your ways of explaining things. Always with your unnamed “projects” and and analyzing things behind the scenes. 😋
I am ISTJ i am genius thank you
Wow. The depth of analysis is epic! I’m forever intrigued by this! I could watch you repeatedly! Impressive!! 👏🏾
I appreciate the growth advice! I almost brushed off your video as 'half baked' but saw the timestamps/chapters. Thanks for sharing the knowledge & solid content :)
Thanks. Your voice and delivery are easy to follow. You illuminated this information in such a way that I have learned a lot.
I am 61% Introverted down 2% from last year. It so so difficult to make female companions. I have tremendous self-restraint & have fears of bothering someone, making someone uncomfortable which may make me feel guilt & burden. I think more carefully before what I say or do. It is the fear of not exactly rejection but, failure. It gets personal when I take time analyzing & studying to have it fail. I wish women had more patience because similar to a turtle, I am hard on the outside but soft on the inside.
I feel this.
I'm new to this personality testing stuff, and am ISTJ and INFJ.
Bothering someone is uncomfortable for me, but I don't think I could nail that down until I read your comment.
Interesting. And now I'm analyzing why I don't want to be a bother, lol.
Lucky for me, analyzing is my sport of preference.
At any rate, I'm thankful for your comment. I'll be thinking on this.
Hubby's tested as an INFJ, and a friend convinced him to think about *maybe* ISFJ, but the more I look into it, I'm more and more sure that he's an ISTJ. Thanks for your thoroughness on all of these type videos! I loved when you said they have an inner ENFP. I'm an ENFP and I feel like my husband and yin/yang beautifully!
I made the personality test yesterday just because my GF said I should do one... ISTJ... read the Pro's and Con's and it's like someone was reading my mind haha.... I mean like 95% of it is completely me. And yeah, I can be a complete goofball in the right environment if I am in the right mood for it :D
Thank you for this video. I'm an ISTJ who's been called by his family and friends as ''weird'' and ''antisocial''. But I feel it's because the ISTJ stereotype says you should be super boring and predictable. No, I just happen to have private and complex thoughts about the world, doesn't make me an automaric N type.
Awesome! I haven't even started yet, about to take a walk with my son, but I was hoping you would do an ISTJ breakdown soon. My wife is ISTJ, and looking for every competitive advantage possible! :P
Just watched 10 minutes of the video and can say, best explanation hands down
Subscription earned 🙏🏻
So much of this is on point, but I'll comment on small-talk... YES, I loathe small-talk! Great video. Thank you.
It's curious that ISTJs and INFPs have the same two functions in a different priority order (Fi-Si for loop for INFP VS Si-Fi loop for ISTJ).
Im an istj and i like sewing as my creative thing
This describes my best friend to a “T”. I’ve known him for 11 years and I felt like I really knew him… while that may be true… I feel this video helped me to understand him on a whole new level.
Furthermore, I feel this helped describe some aspects of me as well. Interesting!
Older ISTJs are deeeep reservoirs of practical knowledge and wisdom. Just watch any Charlie Munger interview.
In my observation, they are probably the most introverted of all 16 types.
Yep, they literally are the backbone of society, even more so than ISFJs. They also have mechanical abilities that rival ISTPs.
They are rule enforcers and can be quite tough. They make excellent customs officers.
They can be a bit rigid, IMO. and can advocate for certain ideas which are far past their sell by date.
ISTJs are human like everybody else. As such, they are not all smart. I have met a handful that are dummer than a bag of rocks.
Thank you for an interesting collection of observations.
I've met some amazing people in my 59 years but my istj wife tops them all. I'm an infj
You explained the function stack so concisely. I have ALWAYS struggled to find a method that doesn't take at least 10-15 mins 😂
😂thanks!
@@AlexisKingsley my wife is an ISTJ too -- our relationship is incredible
@@GhostofJung that's so interesting!! I've never heard of that relationship combo before. We'll have to chat about it!
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11 👍‼️ Thank you so much for this excellent video. It provides so much clarity for both my positive and negative traits/choices. Understanding the “relative to my standards vs to those around me” was extremely enlightening. Your explanations also provided insight into why I tend to obsess over minute details (even word choices) a bit too much, why I spend so much time contemplating & planning, and why I’m drawn to more technical sports/hobbies, e.g. skydiving, rock/ice climbing, metalsmithing, etc.
After a tad tragic accident, I dwelled in the Fi region too much. But 2 years ago, I was asked to lead a volunteer team composed of 5 committees that included 100+ members. I was extremely hesitant because I felt I was not qualified (an all too common feeling) and didn’t have an understanding about each committees’ work. In the end, I accepted the role and based on feedback from others, excelled at it. This experience was so rewarding for me because it was impactful on team efficiency & productivity, increasing membership by ~40 volunteers, improving members’ skills by providing training, and helping others tap into unexplored strengths. It also helped my understanding the world by gaining perspectives from engaging with such diverse members and developed my skills for adapting to dynamic, ever-changing situations.
I could go on and on, but ultimately, I just want you to know how much I appreciate your video; because of it, I will make more conscience efforts to develop the Ne traits. (｡^‿^｡)
Thank you Alexis for this crisp explanation. I love the way you even integrate and link all functions together and you mentioned the Si Fi loop. Brilliant explanation!!!! Really big-picture thingy, and easy to implement in my life :)
I'm an ISTJ. And yes, i stay with my parents, while my friends in uni they far from home to go to school, so I lack a certain of skills.
I have problem with meeting deadlines on time, it's usually late. I got my friends, my dad complains about that. That obviously irritates me, but at the same time, I learn how crucial deadline is. It's a dot of your process of data-gathering Si, processing, critical thinking, making conclusions, and writing down - Te - in the report. It is the motivation to get my butt up and do the learn to get it done. I learn Eisenhower matrix too, which helps me a lot on sort out my priorities. I'm still working on it.
Thank you for the Growth advice. Yes, I was working on the Group Project (now it's all done, yesterday hehe) and i ended up taking learning of parts which not mine. I usually work alone in years in uni time. And I got hella confused when i went into a group project. I just notice so many details details that can go wrong and my two partners xSTP can crash w me real hard. And i learn to prioritize right, so my focus can land on my stuff, I can fully 100% control it. I try to write and explain really crisp and to-the-point for readers to understand at my understanding of the spike problem so they have no-more-possible-vague-questions, without go in so many details-thingy :) It applies in my nerve ways of thinking and saying things too.
Yes, i choose major Electrical Engineering cause my ESTJ dad has his company in this major. 18-yo me didn't choose to be an artist - it's too risky and needs innovation and ideas (which is Ne :), though i can draw realistic well, but I invest my time to learn on 'practical subjects' like Math, Physics and Chemistry more. At first i didn't like this major, i went to a real bad addiction and get stuck with Si Fi loop for a long time. I had a real hard time in my life - speaking in MBTI - an unhealthy personality. I had been trying both on inner healing and outer performance.
In the Graduation Project, I crash with xSTP partners and i learn more about Cognitive functions, and my weaknesses, which i didn't pay much attention before. Now i know how much potential i can be, and how i can improve in the ISTJ way :) Now it's a new journey nearly post- graduation on working in my dad's company. And it's the time for Si Te :) So from now on, i implement SiTe mindset and way of thinking and problem solving things, get conclusions in things, get it done and move on to the next thing. I'm still in touch with Fi, I partake in an Online community that has supportive people helps me a lot on healing in recovery healing journey of that addiction i mentioned. And also develop Ne, like finding more insights, cooking tuts from other UA-camrs or Insta-ers. I use Ne more in critical thinking in part of Si Te for more to-the-point understanding. :)
So my 5th to 8th functions were Se Ti Fe Ni. And i learn how to combine functions i have to manifest results of functions i don't have, to resolve problems in my life :) Knowing about MBTI is a huge blessing, after my healing journey and ignite the light of improvement in my upcoming journey :)
Wow this was great. The explications were way more unique than many of the other personalities videos I've watched. Well done 👏
Yeah 13:34 that's true. I've been sacrificing myself 😂for group projects, because I feel insecure when I'm not the only one who is gonna do the whole work 😅.
I'm a ISTJ/INTJ I am both personalities 50/50. I like to make jokes and say I'm twice the nerd.
Lol I so I guess I'm not 100% istj because I'm not book smart and it takes me a while to learn things and if I don't use it I loose it unless it's tied to emotion. But I am a jack of all trades and everything else you said fits me
LOL, I totally get "little" souvenirs, enamel pins, when I go to new places!
Thank you very much this is one of best and well explain Istj video i have ever heard. I am an Istj personality type and a sigma female too. I get a lot of complements like i am cold, unfriendly, serious and stuffs like that.
Znakomite komplementy dostajesz od innych🤷🤣. Ja jako ISTJ-A dostaję prośby w rodzaju: jakiś zdenerwowany jesteś, czy mi się wydaje; mógłbyś się bardziej uśmiechać; dlaczego tak mało mówisz? Pozdrawiam.
Extraversion has only caused me pain and nothing good has ever come from except for realizing I was right all along, and I need to just do my own thing but then that pisses everybody off too
I'm sorry to hear you've had that experience. I hear this type of thing from ISTP's a lot (their Ti voicing dissent and willing to challenge the group's ideas and others interpret that with ill-intent; and also their main extraverted function Se having a hard time being useful in people situations, it's more physical than people-oriented.) I know you commented on an ISTJ video, but I wanted to point out that many ISTP's see themselves as lone wolves and it's worth looking into. ua-cam.com/video/uUClHIaL6hw/v-deo.html
Ja jestem ISTJ. Kiedyś inni mnie opisując robili mi coś w rodzaju zarzutów. Jakby przeszkadzało im, że jestem tym kim jestem. To mnie frustrowało. Frustrowało, bo nie byłem podobny innym. Teraz jest inaczej. Frustrujące byłoby, gdybym udawał kogoś kim nie jestem. Pozdrawiam z Polski,👋.
Wow! This is such a great video ! It is so thorough. I watched it to help me understand someone else, and it was so helpful. I can’t wait to watch the one for my personality type.😊
Omg this explains why my mom, an ISTJ, is so obsessed with scrapbooking travel photos hahaha
I don't know you and yet you know me so well. You are a bona fide creep. Hahaha. Just pulling your leg.
Thank you for the detailed explanation and exploration of our kind. Really needed the kind words and encouragement during the tough times I'm going through. Have a great day Alexis.
Um, you're amazing at explaining :D thanks.
Thank you!!!
It’s so funny the times I have stepped up into a leadership role every time I thought to myself I would do it better than they are doing it.
my ENFP sister said I'm "so boring" and a lot of other people also said that i "look mean" for a first impression. they don't know, I'm considered one of the class clowns and am bestfriends with an ESFP so yeah im fun af😎
I am an istj , but am i the only one who doesn't consider myself intelligent or smart? I'm not good in maths and i study on an average level , and people around me perceive me as intelligent but im not!
Omg, I get it now why I can't stop learning even after collage. This is the answer. I am istj btw for two test
Wow this a very great video...had me hooked till the end
Do you know how hard it is to accept a risky carrer? You said that and i shivered lmao
Thank you so much for explaining this so well.
I love this channel! I’m an istj 😝
The wife is an ISTJ keeps me check
Would it be possible to do a video how these personality types would be different if they are in a really bad place?
I am an INFJ in a marriage with an ISTJ that has had lots of depression most of which is due to chronic insomnia, but also past issues.
istj girl here studying philosophy!