Watch it again, and listen this time. He didn’t say the guy shouldn’t pay. He said, if the first date is a coffee date, it’s a very low cost test the woman can do to learn. Why wouldn’t you want to test if the guy is going to accept your payment?
This video is so refreshing. I’ve been trying to distract myself after my breakup it’s still so fresh. We were together for seven years, and he ended things out of nowhere. I can’t stop thinking about him. I still feel like he’s the only one for me.
I completely understand. I felt the same way. I ended up reaching out to Father Akabu who was recommended by a friend , a spiritual guide who specializes in restoring relationships. He made all the difference for me, he brought my partner back
I work during the week , I’m tired after work. Would only be available on the weekend. Not interested in low expectation, no effort dating. I am from an older generation where dressing up for someone, taking someone out to someplace special, Romance and putting your best foot forward was the norm. What a disappointment this generation of men is . I feel sorry for my daughter.
I WISH you could tell my family this! Dating now is hard and I look at my peers' relationships and notice they're just together for financial reasons, sex, they simply dont want to be alone or they're waiting for the next best thing. Im glad you understand as a parent!
For real. 1 hour tops??? That just screams you’re not serious and not worth dating. A real date better be more than an hour. And getting to the first date - you should’ve already invested a bit of time to know you WANT a real date with this person. A first meeting is NOT a date. It’s just a meeting.
@@nicolemjohnson We are in a relationship and happy 😁❤️ There’s still hope out there. Just have to be the best version of yourself and know what you want!
He did say as a woman you’re testing the man by doing this. So I think that’s a good one. A lot of men tend to be very cheap with their woman. I rather know you’re cheap from the beginning before investing so much time with that person to then realize they’re a leech
I really enjoyed this video. Great tips for first dates! You’re spot on about keeping things simple and low-pressure. I totally agree with your point on avoiding big dinners and making sure expectations are realistic. On that note, another important tip I’d add is doing a background check before meeting someone. It’s always good to know a little about the person you’re going out with to stay safe and make sure they’re legit. Just adds an extra layer of peace of mind! Thanks for sharing these insights!
Yea no lol once you have men offering to pay for your Uber and reserving nice restaurants you will never want to go back to low effort men, first dates are a blueprint for how a man will treat you going forward
I don't want to give the false impression on the first date to a man that I would be a cheap, convenient and fast partner by any means. I only date men whom I find truly worth it so if he doesn't make the effort to provide me a proper first date, there would not be a future for us anyways.
I’m old school. Dinner only last as long as you want it too. Friday dinner for an hour….nothing wrong with that. Plus….Im in bed early in the weekdays after a long filled day with early work…gym and repeat.
I just watched a woman's perspective on a first date.And it was totally different from what you've said. It made me laugh because she pretty much was saying. Wear your best and walk in like you're a goddess. And then she specifically went into details about the things that you should say to a guy, and I just kept cringing, because I thought this girl has no clue what men want. I'm definitely going to take a man's perspective on a first date instead of a woman's. Men don't want some stuffy fancy dressed cocktail party girls sitting at their table, asking them stupid questions.They just want somebody they can talk to
I’ve had men tell me when I offer to pay especially a an inexpensive date it makes them feel like it’s a signal that the woman isn’t interested & then they don’t ask for a second date. Might it be better to offer the tip
I am older woman who has been very disappointed by online dating. I met someone new online though. I will first video chat tomorrow, see how it goes. I usually do not just meet a man in person. I message for a few days or weeks, then video chat. If there is no chemistry best to know and not meet him. I agree with everything you have said here. I have had men offer to meet me in a park. No way! You can't trust someone until you know him better. You could have a man act nice, but then over power you in the park? You should only meet in well lit public place, coffee shop. Do not park in an underground garage either where a man could walk you to your car in dark parking garage. Not safe. Women should always leave date name, info, location of meeting, it's phone # & address, just in case something were to happen? Leave as much details with your children or good friend.
He went from saying go for coffee, don’t expect dinner to, offer to pay for dinner so I don’t think you’re here for free food. You didn’t even offer food! Wtf?
I disagree with your 1st date philosophy. We are very busy and dont have time during the week . 1st date is a damn interview, always has been. We are married via some of these traditional ways of conducting things that now some of you are all undermining. You content creators just try and come up with things that dont add up, just to come across as presenting a fresh idea . It is what it is a fresh idea, not a must do or else ? There is no formula . Dont agree on the bill either, offering to pay the bill is off masculine energy and not feminine energy. Feminine does not operate that way . Men just dont know what they want. You say you are naturally providers , so why does it hurt to feed an extra mouth. This is Ludacris. What is food really that you be complaining about it. Before we leave , it probably remains in the toilet. Dont date if you dont want the cons that come with . Approaching dating like its investing in stocks and shares ? This is not a business transaction. Its matters of the heart , mind , soul and body . Not matters of try and keep the cost low to get profits 📈 That is business mindset not a dating mind-set. Stay home with your Netflix if you dont want to find a potential somebody while feeding them in the process . The only thing i agree with is the intimacy part . The rest is not make sure, computer is not computing.
100% I like a lunch break activity. A dinner date is too pricey. Why spend time and money on a complete unknown. Kisses are priceless. Does Tiffany"s have free samples? Not even.
i agree with some points but... a walk? pls i'm not a dog 😭😭 i'm not saying spend a fortune on me or we have to spend half a day together, a coffee date is fine for a first date IF we met online. the second date absolutely has to be something with a bit more effort. and i wouldn't accept a coffee date if the person already saw me in person before deciding to ask me out. trust me i've been the girl who was cool with low investment first "dates" (even second and third) and offering to split the bill and all of that. and lemme tell you the type of men who let that all happen are just not the kind you want. the relationship sets off with the entirely wrong dynamics. sure, SOME dudes (like 0.0001% probably - i havent personally met any but hypothetically they could exist) might not base your worth off that, but the vast majority will immediately assume you're a pushover who's just happy to be around a man and they'll start testing how far they can push your courtesy. better nip it at the bud and start out with a guy who does chivalry off the bat. in my humble opinion
I’m sorry but this is first impressions and accepting a low effort first date is already setting it up to accept low effort going forward. There’s no going back after that. But I do agree with the physical intimacy part.
The way you explain it sounds logical. But in real life I don't think it goes that way. If wish it did. When you don't do a fancy dinner date the first date, he will expect you to be the easy netflix & chill kind of woman. And than when you're expecting more of it, more romance, more effort, he doesn't get why suddenly all he does isn't good enough anymore. That's my experience at least.. He isn't going to change into a romantic dinnerdate type of man if he wasn't that already at the start.
Whoever invites the person to the date pays. The woman should never have to offer to pay or rummage around for her wallet on the first date. Plain and simple. Although, men should always pay at least for the first date.
My advice:Hunting outdoors is healthier than hunting online.If you’re hunting outdoors,unnoticed,you may discern real looks,behaviour,charms & communication skills of folks & you may discern what/who they need.Furthermore,if you can flirt & you find someone you need,you can & should flirt at it & avoid & upset Chads & Tyrones.
I don’t understand why so many women think a guy should pay. Sure there’s still a gender wage gap, but it just doesn’t seem like you’re that committed if paying for your own meal is a deal breaker.
What if you tell your date to keep it simple and you have no idea where you are going and your a single mom!!!???? I’d rather not eat or owe any many anything. I don’t like to ask for things or get things from others
While I do with agree with everything he said (including women offering to pay) I feel men should peep if their date offers to contribute starting on the 2nd date. If women offers to cover the tip on first date regardless, then that’s great. But it’s not a big indicator of a red flag if she doesn’t ask to chip in ON THE FIRST DATE. I’m starting to think it’s best a people discuss this topic prior to going out with their date to avoid this nonsense.
This is the worst dating advice lol I’m old school- take me out for dinner. High quality men will never take you to a coffee shop as your first date. If you can’t sit down and have a nice dinner with nice conversations then that’s how you present yourself for the rest of the relationship. Invest in your interests and your interests will invest in you!
Nowadays, there's so many tips, techniques and tricks that it's sometimes hard to know where to start. But it's not rocket science to get your man shivering with ecstasy just by changing the way you talk. As simple as this sounds, maybe try escalating it a step at a time, go’ogle something like Words of Desire by Celestine Dessike to sneakily crawl into his mind and let it build on from that.
This man is weird. I can choose to pay for your damn dinner ONLY IF I TAKE YOU OUT ON A DATE as we're already in a relationship. But first time you asking me out and you expect me to not sit pretty waiting for you to pay?? Who raised you sir?? Even if I could buy you a car on the spot, paying for my dinner is sexy😂 on the other hand, if you act like you left your wallet at home or you have insufficient funds, I'll definitely pay for everything 😂
When he said “offer to pay “ I knew right there he ain’t talking about my type👐🏽
Yep. The man has to pay. Periodt
EXACTLY
Same 😂
Right lol
Watch it again, and listen this time. He didn’t say the guy shouldn’t pay. He said, if the first date is a coffee date, it’s a very low cost test the woman can do to learn. Why wouldn’t you want to test if the guy is going to accept your payment?
This video is so refreshing. I’ve been trying to distract myself after my breakup it’s still so fresh. We were together for seven years, and he ended things out of nowhere. I can’t stop thinking about him. I still feel like he’s the only one for me.
I know how devastating that can be. This was me when my husband left my husband left.
Really? How did you handle it? I feel like I’m losing my mind. I just want him back.
I completely understand. I felt the same way. I ended up reaching out to Father Akabu who was recommended by a friend , a spiritual guide who specializes in restoring relationships. He made all the difference for me, he brought my partner back
That sounds incredible. Do you think he could help me? I just can’t imagine my life without him.
I’m sure he can. He’s helped so many people in situations like ours.
I work during the week , I’m tired after work. Would only be available on the weekend. Not interested in low expectation, no effort dating. I am from an older generation where dressing up for someone, taking someone out to someplace special, Romance and putting your best foot forward was the norm. What a disappointment this generation of men is . I feel sorry for my daughter.
100 % agree. Having a memorable date is not 30 minute coffee.
I WISH you could tell my family this! Dating now is hard and I look at my peers' relationships and notice they're just together for financial reasons, sex, they simply dont want to be alone or they're waiting for the next best thing.
Im glad you understand as a parent!
For real. 1 hour tops??? That just screams you’re not serious and not worth dating. A real date better be more than an hour.
And getting to the first date - you should’ve already invested a bit of time to know you WANT a real date with this person. A first meeting is NOT a date. It’s just a meeting.
Twit! The idea of a coffee date is to 'weed' out the weirdos so you don't get 'caught up in romance'
Me watching this on the way to a dinner date
Me too 😂
the question is: was the dinner date on weekend? and the 2nd one: was it your FIRST date with this person🥲🥲
@@mamasitatitahow’d it go? ❤😃
@@nicolemjohnson We are in a relationship and happy 😁❤️ There’s still hope out there. Just have to be the best version of yourself and know what you want!
Spot on.🎯 Except for the paying part. The guy should always pay if he's man enough.
Exactly. I also disagree
Agreed
He did say as a woman you’re testing the man by doing this. So I think that’s a good one. A lot of men tend to be very cheap with their woman. I rather know you’re cheap from the beginning before investing so much time with that person to then realize they’re a leech
I really enjoyed this video. Great tips for first dates! You’re spot on about keeping things simple and low-pressure. I totally agree with your point on avoiding big dinners and making sure expectations are realistic.
On that note, another important tip I’d add is doing a background check before meeting someone. It’s always good to know a little about the person you’re going out with to stay safe and make sure they’re legit. Just adds an extra layer of peace of mind! Thanks for sharing these insights!
Yea no lol once you have men offering to pay for your Uber and reserving nice restaurants you will never want to go back to low effort men, first dates are a blueprint for how a man will treat you going forward
I don't want to give the false impression on the first date to a man that I would be a cheap, convenient and fast partner by any means. I only date men whom I find truly worth it so if he doesn't make the effort to provide me a proper first date, there would not be a future for us anyways.
U will spend your life dating, chill
I’m old school. Dinner only last as long as you want it too. Friday dinner for an hour….nothing wrong with that. Plus….Im in bed early in the weekdays after a long filled day with early work…gym and repeat.
Love your practical and logical point of view. Thanks for sharing!
Where are men like you?! 🤣 Always a pleasure to watch your videos. Keep going 🤙
I knowww 😩
I just watched a woman's perspective on a first date.And it was totally different from what you've said. It made me laugh because she pretty much was saying. Wear your best and walk in like you're a goddess. And then she specifically went into details about the things that you should say to a guy, and I just kept cringing, because I thought this girl has no clue what men want. I'm definitely going to take a man's perspective on a first date instead of a woman's. Men don't want some stuffy fancy dressed cocktail party girls sitting at their table, asking them stupid questions.They just want somebody they can talk to
I agree men and women need to earn time. Time is priceless.
If I invite someone out to eat I usually pay for them so I think it depends on who asks who on the date
Men pay. Periodt.
I’ve had men tell me when I offer to pay especially a an inexpensive date it makes them feel like it’s a signal that the woman isn’t interested & then they don’t ask for a second date. Might it be better to offer the tip
I strongly disagree about paying the bill
No man wants a relationship anymore. Dating is done. Women can go chat with their 5 male friends they are not attracted to and thats it.
True lol
This is for masculine women . Never
I am older woman who has been very disappointed by online dating. I met someone new online though. I will first video chat tomorrow, see how it goes. I usually do not just meet a man in person. I message for a few days or weeks, then video chat. If there is no chemistry best to know and not meet him. I agree with everything you have said here. I have had men offer to meet me in a park. No way! You can't trust someone until you know him better. You could have a man act nice, but then over power you in the park? You should only meet in well lit public place, coffee shop. Do not park in an underground garage either where a man could walk you to your car in dark parking garage. Not safe. Women should always leave date name, info, location of meeting, it's phone # & address, just in case something were to happen? Leave as much details with your children or good friend.
He went from saying go for coffee, don’t expect dinner to, offer to pay for dinner so I don’t think you’re here for free food. You didn’t even offer food! Wtf?
I disagree with your 1st date philosophy. We are very busy and dont have time during the week . 1st date is a damn interview, always has been. We are married via some of these traditional ways of conducting things that now some of you are all undermining. You content creators just try and come up with things that dont add up, just to come across as presenting a fresh idea . It is what it is a fresh idea, not a must do or else ? There is no formula . Dont agree on the bill either, offering to pay the bill is off masculine energy and not feminine energy. Feminine does not operate that way . Men just dont know what they want. You say you are naturally providers , so why does it hurt to feed an extra mouth. This is Ludacris. What is food really that you be complaining about it. Before we leave , it probably remains in the toilet. Dont date if you dont want the cons that come with . Approaching dating like its investing in stocks and shares ? This is not a business transaction. Its matters of the heart , mind , soul and body . Not matters of try and keep the cost low to get profits 📈 That is business mindset not a dating mind-set. Stay home with your Netflix if you dont want to find a potential somebody while feeding them in the process . The only thing i agree with is the intimacy part . The rest is not make sure, computer is not computing.
100% I like a lunch break activity. A dinner date is too pricey. Why spend time and money on a complete unknown. Kisses are priceless. Does Tiffany"s have free samples? Not even.
i agree with some points but... a walk? pls i'm not a dog 😭😭
i'm not saying spend a fortune on me or we have to spend half a day together, a coffee date is fine for a first date IF we met online. the second date absolutely has to be something with a bit more effort. and i wouldn't accept a coffee date if the person already saw me in person before deciding to ask me out.
trust me i've been the girl who was cool with low investment first "dates" (even second and third) and offering to split the bill and all of that. and lemme tell you the type of men who let that all happen are just not the kind you want. the relationship sets off with the entirely wrong dynamics. sure, SOME dudes (like 0.0001% probably - i havent personally met any but hypothetically they could exist) might not base your worth off that, but the vast majority will immediately assume you're a pushover who's just happy to be around a man and they'll start testing how far they can push your courtesy.
better nip it at the bud and start out with a guy who does chivalry off the bat. in my humble opinion
Thank you! #1 really takes the pressure off!
How about no !!
I’m sorry but this is first impressions and accepting a low effort first date is already setting it up to accept low effort going forward. There’s no going back after that. But I do agree with the physical intimacy part.
The way you explain it sounds logical. But in real life I don't think it goes that way. If wish it did.
When you don't do a fancy dinner date the first date, he will expect you to be the easy netflix & chill kind of woman. And than when you're expecting more of it, more romance, more effort, he doesn't get why suddenly all he does isn't good enough anymore. That's my experience at least.. He isn't going to change into a romantic dinnerdate type of man if he wasn't that already at the start.
Listening to this just after having a coffee date and was wondering if it should have been dinner? 😆🥰
Whoever invites the person to the date pays. The woman should never have to offer to pay or rummage around for her wallet on the first date. Plain and simple. Although, men should always pay at least for the first date.
Coffee is not a date. Whoever invites should pay. It's not that complicated.
I'd love to do a short & sweet date but what if someone lives 90 minutes away?
Can you trust a guy wearing a cap backwards with dating tips. I don't.
My advice:Hunting outdoors is healthier than hunting online.If you’re hunting outdoors,unnoticed,you may discern real looks,behaviour,charms & communication skills of folks & you may discern what/who they need.Furthermore,if you can flirt & you find someone you need,you can & should flirt at it & avoid & upset Chads & Tyrones.
I don’t understand why so many women think a guy should pay. Sure there’s still a gender wage gap, but it just doesn’t seem like you’re that committed if paying for your own meal is a deal breaker.
OMG pay for your own coffee WTF
I can’t believe my ear
What if you tell your date to keep it simple and you have no idea where you are going and your a single mom!!!???? I’d rather not eat or owe any many anything. I don’t like to ask for things or get things from others
😅😅😅😂😂you made my day
While I do with agree with everything he said (including women offering to pay) I feel men should peep if their date offers to contribute starting on the 2nd date. If women offers to cover the tip on first date regardless, then that’s great. But it’s not a big indicator of a red flag if she doesn’t ask to chip in ON THE FIRST DATE.
I’m starting to think it’s best a people discuss this topic prior to going out with their date to avoid this nonsense.
Omg 🎉you are so right
Great video ❤ thank you
Me watching this going to the movies😅
He trying to convince women that low effort is a good thing 😂
Nonsense
number 2 is why I stress to even goooo!!
I am a hugger by nature a hand shack is way to formal so I do not agree with that. lol
I’m sorry but you sound like you want to give the least
Smart man
on point!
This is the worst dating advice lol I’m old school- take me out for dinner. High quality men will never take you to a coffee shop as your first date. If you can’t sit down and have a nice dinner with nice conversations then that’s how you present yourself for the rest of the relationship. Invest in your interests and your interests will invest in you!
Nah!!!! I am not offering to pay. No dusties! Be a man or go on....
cheap man
Nowadays, there's so many tips, techniques and tricks that it's sometimes hard to know where to start. But it's not rocket science to get your man shivering with ecstasy just by changing the way you talk. As simple as this sounds, maybe try escalating it a step at a time, go’ogle something like Words of Desire by Celestine Dessike to sneakily crawl into his mind and let it build on from that.
This is just asking women to lower their standards..
Thats because modern feminists should.
@anti-Russia-sigma my standards got me my man, no thank you
Hell nah 😂 he trynna teach us to be pickmeshas this is funny
This man is weird. I can choose to pay for your damn dinner ONLY IF I TAKE YOU OUT ON A DATE as we're already in a relationship. But first time you asking me out and you expect me to not sit pretty waiting for you to pay?? Who raised you sir?? Even if I could buy you a car on the spot, paying for my dinner is sexy😂 on the other hand, if you act like you left your wallet at home or you have insufficient funds, I'll definitely pay for everything 😂
Im game for a walk in the park. Do we even click.