By far one of the most annoying things about being an aspie girl (aside from the symptoms) is when you tell people and they say "aw I don't think you have autism, you seem fine" it's just so rude and people need to stop doubting doctors and psychologists opinions
Amelia W...How about when they are like, "I think I'm a LITTLE Autistic myself!" OR they explain how most people do certain Autistic things you explain about yourself...Like it's not it's own thing and not that big of a deal...That's annoying!... I know being disabled is a big thing, but I don't necessarily let it be a big thing, cause it's just a part of me and so you have hard ass days for sure, but you learn to deal and roll with the punches. 🎃
@@-belue-6697 yeah and when people say "everyone's a little autistic" it's like they are saying that autism isn't a thing, because if everyone had it it wouldn't be a condition that takes a year long waiting list to diagnose. People are just very uneducated on high functioning autism
I hate when you find psychologists or other professionals who don’t realise/remember Autism is a spectrum and if you meet one person with Autism or Aspergers, you’ve met ONE person with Autism or Aspergers! One psychologist said that people with ‘true’ Autism can’t hold themselves together through school or work and will just meltdown any time and where... I still feel my daughter has Aspergers (my eldest son does) but have to push for her to be reassessed through a private service.
I always get told im "not disabled enough" because you cant see my disability. This definitely frustrates me because it limits me on the help i need to receive but cants because im "not disabled enough"
When Chloe said “people assume that I should be extremely good at doing this thing” and she said “but I’m not” I was like “well you are good at crying about One Direction” 😂😂😂
I love this! I'm in the Autism spectrum and it's so frustrating because people don't know that I have a disability and when I get overwhelmed or start flapping my hands or get overly excited or upset people keep are like what's wrong with you? I also have a lot of friends with physical disabilities and the world is not as accessible as it needs to be for them or for mev
Because I am autistic, (Diagnosed at a young age) I learnt so much from using my own learning disability to learn about others, I have been around people that I otherwise would have not been around had I been neurotypical. This makes me think of making travel a bit more accessible for all.
I agree with the hand dryers!!!! My child cries. They terrify them. They bother me too but my baby is more sensitive in that way. Thank you for this video!!!!! You are so helpful and I am so glad I found you!
My girlfriend (Cerebral Palsy) and I (autism) talk about this a lot. One thing that's kind of funny is that because she walks with a limp people think I'm the one that takes care of her and while I like to say we take care of each other, she probably takes care of me more. She's had to stay up til 3:00am just constantly reminding me that she loves me and that things are going to be okay cause I was on the brink of a meltdown, the most I've really had to do is massage a spasm out of her leg and request a wheelchair at a flower garden and that's just cause she was on the phone with her mom.
I almost became a school shooter on account of bullying. One round to empty that one kids chest cavity....it was through the guidance of a sniper who's gun I was actually gonna use, that I realized the gravity of what I almost did. They don't realize how serious bullying is, and dispite what they say their bullying policies are, they still don't do shit in fact they seem to punish kids for protecting themselves from it.
I legit nearly cried when I was scrolling my feed and saw Sam with you!! The Greatest Showman is an absolute masterpiece of a movie and this is the first time me seeing both of you together on a Q&A style vid!!! *squeals with happiness*
you came to my school today, im the girl who was with that girl with the purple hair. i literally loved meeting you, and you're such a kind and fun person. keep it up :)
I want to thank you Chole as much as Sam for making this video:)!! You guys both would really understand what I am going through!!! I have experienced copious amounts of stigma because I have physical problems that can not be seen with the naked eyes and I also have learning disabilities. I have Auto-Immune Problems as well as physical injuries. I have Interstitial Cystitis which is a disease of the bladder walls as well as severe Diarrhea Problems. People can be very mean to me when I get spells in using the bathroom several times in an hour. Since, I do not "look sick" many people can think its "emotional" when it is really physical when I have to go to the bathroom. I also have a history of Barret's Esophagus and have to take medicine to eat solid food. Everyone also can not see inside my Esophagus any more than they can see inside my bladder or bowels. Since, I do not "look sick" I can be judged, mistreated, and some people will want to believe that I am either "emotionally ill" or "lazy", which is not true at all!!! The only thing everyone can see is my Raynaud's Disease which is a disease of the blood vessels in which when I am cold my hands turn black and blue. I also have arthritis and a herniated disc in my back. Thus, between my bladder disease and other physical problems that I mentioned that cause chronic physical pain, but because people can not "see it" most people expect me to be able to do more than I am able to do. Some people have been mean to me when I was at my sickest and in a lot of physical pain, but I do not look sick so they feel justified to be judgmental and down right cruel. Also, I have learning disabilities, but I am average intelligence. Because I can speak well, but have trouble memorizing and concentrating, some people can get down right angry if I do not learn something fast. Also, sometimes when people hear I am learning disabled, they can treat me like I am retarded, when that is just not the truth. So, I could go on and on with how much I have been mistreated because people can not "see" what is physically wrong with me with their naked eyes, but I would be writing a book. So thank you Chole and Sam for addressing the stigmas of disabilities seen and unseen. I would like to see more of these videos in the future:).
Your both amazing! I'm autistic with odc and I used to lose a lot of my time praying, similar to how Sam loses time trying to accomplish 2 minute tasks. Back to listening to One Direction!
I find watching you so calming and uplifting Chloe! I love your energy and your outgoingness and you’re so bubbly. My daughter is so like you (the you that we see in your vids, is what she is in life), she’s 7 and different, and I hope she never loses those qualities and zest! We are so lucky to have differently abled people in this world because you all light up the world!
One time I told my mom about how I was being talked down to and how much I hated it and she just said “ well it seems like their just trying to be nice Made me so mad
I told my friends that I was get tested for autism and one of them gave me such a weird look I don’t know if she was being rude or just realised everything made sense haven’t talked to her in quite a few months because I’m at a more appropriate school and I’m very glad about that
I am pretty sure I have ADHD / ASD and I would really like to get a diagnosis sometime soon so I can get accommodations in college but I am concerned about how professors will react, mainly because I am in the honors college and am extremely smart. People might insist I don't need any accommodations because I already get really good grades. but I know I will struggle with things other than everyday coursework, and even if I do okay, doesn't everyone deserve a chance to reach their full potential?
As an Autistic person, it meant so much to me that they included a person with an invisible disability in Jeremy the Dud. In particular I found it so powerful that they didn't explain. The message that not all disabilities are obvious and that doesn't need to be explained was so clear.
I'm not diagnosed with autism yet, but looking for one. The part about working and being autistic really hits me. I was probably the best employee at my previous job, but they wouldn't let move up as a manager because of the way I acted sometimes. I've now realized that they were my (possible) autistic tendencies, but no one understood why I did the things I did, even myself for a while. I'm now looking for a job that could be better for me and could possibly help cater to things I'd need (letting me stim, helping if I'm sensory overloaded, being able to work by myself when needed).
Instant like and subscribe because I'm a 4 foot 9, 27 year old Autistic hermit with Cystic Fibrosis, and a long list of comorbids. This all adds up to me having mental and physical disabilities, both visible and invisible. Because I use accessibility items like my walker, backpack of needed items including a stuffed animal and noise blockers, and an able bodied companion, people automatically know I'm *Very Disabled*. Which means *A Lot* of staring, all of it awkward. There's a ton of stigma there too, most of it instant, and some of it due to other areas of my life. Luckily, as a hermit, the vast majority of my life is accessible, because the places I do go to are Walmart, Fast Food, and Dr's offices, and I'm otherwise in my very accessible home. I don't have a driver's license anymore as I happily switched it for an ID card. PS, I adore watching your hands as you talk, because I'm the same with my hands.
I am legally blind I have about six mental health diagnoses and may have but I’m not sure yet have autism and believe me when it comes down to being hit slap flat in the face with accessibility issues and people not understanding or realizing things is a big problem correction make that seven because I also have major depressive disorder which is kind of hidden but can make itself known so when you throw all of my mental health issues and the possibility of having autism in the same mix with being legally blind and trying to get around not be scared out of my mind by everything really is hard for people to understand or difficulty with navigating because of it all hate noise can’t stay in large crowds I struggle with all of that let alone socializing and talking with people it’s very hard because it I can’t catch on to the social cues or sometimes I can tell when somebody’s joking but mostly not exactly
Did u film this the same day you came to south Geelong primary school? I’m the one that came from my high school just to see u and was wearing the butterfly different not less pin.
I consistently rely on my physical disabilities when I need time off work bc it doesn't feel like my invisible ones are "legitimate" enough-- and I know that's just the overall societal stigma bc we work with disable populations, particularly autistic and dyslexic kids, regularly and my bosses are amazingly understanding all the time. Yet I still default to the gastroparesis and endometriosis over the autism, anxiety, or depression when I'm having a bad day
i always love how you look, but your appearance on this video is my favorite ♥️ i love your cheek makeup, the headband and your sparkly shirt, i want to touch it ✨✨ i loved sam too, i didn't know him until today but he's funny and nice 🦋 i liked him
I have a mental illness and if I say something get the but you don't look/seem like it. I am high functioning so get the 3rd degree when people hear that I am on disability (same thing capable in some areas but it impinges my life enough that I can't hold down a job).
The other side of being assumed you can't do things, if assuming you can! You don't get support unless you ask for it, which (I'm sure not only speaking for myself), I'm so ashamed to ask & fearful of harsh judgement. So people with invisible disabilities mortgages often can struggle alone daily.
i mean i dont think this is a disability but i have a mood disorder where i cant process my emotions well, sometimes at all. and i fidget a lot but again not dissabled. right? if it is considered a diasbility like
Chloe, Sam, Thank you for your practical insights into being different. As you mentioned, we're all oddballs. But, there are societal generalizations about what is "normal". And, if we don't fit neatly into the (harmful) generalization, we're going to experience some negative impacts. This begs the question of how we (society) can move toward open consideration of almost everyone. This is an important issue. Any ideas from your experiences? Thanks, Dave
We need a diverse world then yes it will cater to all types of individuals needs...just takes some level of empathy and planning. There are many places now that do have toilets for people with disabilities and they are called disabked toilets so i have to call them that too, says that on the door. Many cafes and shopping centres and cinemas do have wheel chair access....so our world is changing but slowly. We need to acknowkedge the changes in order to move forwards. This is a great vid i really enjoyed listening to you both...i 💖 your energy its infectious 😊
I definitely get that. People don't just recognize that I'm autistic, but alot of the time when they do, (meaning when I actually tell them) they start talking to me in more simplex terms and use a tone similar to that used when taking to a very young child. It makes me so mad I almost wanna build and detonate a wicked bomb just so I can be like "you think I'm a fukn kid huh? Can kids make bombs? Huh? HUH!?" But then I realize....shit, I definitely shouldn't do that I'm probably gonna terrify them and get myself shot. But DAMN it's so frustrating lmfao 😆
When you have a pension or concession card in Australia (Disability, carers, single parents, low income). You then get a concession. A concession makes it cheaper. Myki is the card used for public transport in the state of Victoria.
i was in a abusive relationship he had as like me i left him then went into a hostel i didn't to go to my mum i blamed her for people thinking i was disabled
I love grestest showman its not nice assuming small people are five years old and not capable people like that are not worth knowing and perhaps it's them with the disability and not the small people I have aspergers the other aspies bullying me claiming mine was visiable and theres wasn't well my bullys were stupid druggies and theres nothing wrong with hand flapping
By far one of the most annoying things about being an aspie girl (aside from the symptoms) is when you tell people and they say "aw I don't think you have autism, you seem fine" it's just so rude and people need to stop doubting doctors and psychologists opinions
Amelia W...How about when they are like, "I think I'm a LITTLE Autistic myself!" OR they explain how most people do certain Autistic things you explain about yourself...Like it's not it's own thing and not that big of a deal...That's annoying!...
I know being disabled is a big thing, but I don't necessarily let it be a big thing, cause it's just a part of me and so you have hard ass days for sure, but you learn to deal and roll with the punches. 🎃
@@-belue-6697 yeah and when people say "everyone's a little autistic" it's like they are saying that autism isn't a thing, because if everyone had it it wouldn't be a condition that takes a year long waiting list to diagnose. People are just very uneducated on high functioning autism
I hate when you find psychologists or other professionals who don’t realise/remember Autism is a spectrum and if you meet one person with Autism or Aspergers, you’ve met ONE person with Autism or Aspergers!
One psychologist said that people with ‘true’ Autism can’t hold themselves together through school or work and will just meltdown any time and where...
I still feel my daughter has Aspergers (my eldest son does) but have to push for her to be reassessed through a private service.
as if they know more about your mind than you or your psychologist 🙄
I always get told im "not disabled enough" because you cant see my disability. This definitely frustrates me because it limits me on the help i need to receive but cants because im "not disabled enough"
When Chloe said “people assume that I should be extremely good at doing this thing” and she said “but I’m not” I was like “well you are good at crying about One Direction” 😂😂😂
I love this! I'm in the Autism spectrum and it's so frustrating because people don't know that I have a disability and when I get overwhelmed or start flapping my hands or get overly excited or upset people keep are like what's wrong with you? I also have a lot of friends with physical disabilities and the world is not as accessible as it needs to be for them or for mev
@Chantilly Marie I totally agree society is the one that needs to change
Because I am autistic, (Diagnosed at a young age) I learnt so much from using my own learning disability to learn about others, I have been around people that I otherwise would have not been around had I been neurotypical.
This makes me think of making travel a bit more accessible for all.
I have gotten the " What's wrong with you?" One too :(
I agree with the hand dryers!!!! My child cries. They terrify them. They bother me too but my baby is more sensitive in that way. Thank you for this video!!!!! You are so helpful and I am so glad I found you!
The Dyson blade handdyrer is terrifying
My girlfriend (Cerebral Palsy) and I (autism) talk about this a lot. One thing that's kind of funny is that because she walks with a limp people think I'm the one that takes care of her and while I like to say we take care of each other, she probably takes care of me more. She's had to stay up til 3:00am just constantly reminding me that she loves me and that things are going to be okay cause I was on the brink of a meltdown, the most I've really had to do is massage a spasm out of her leg and request a wheelchair at a flower garden and that's just cause she was on the phone with her mom.
Ahhhh, The greatest Showman is one of my favorite movies
I used to be ruthlessly bullied just because of my autism...
*I'm homeschooling now*
Wassa BB me as well
@@jordangraybill1374 does leaving school and going on a program for education count as dropping out?
I almost became a school shooter on account of bullying. One round to empty that one kids chest cavity....it was through the guidance of a sniper who's gun I was actually gonna use, that I realized the gravity of what I almost did. They don't realize how serious bullying is, and dispite what they say their bullying policies are, they still don't do shit in fact they seem to punish kids for protecting themselves from it.
Me to
I legit nearly cried when I was scrolling my feed and saw Sam with you!! The Greatest Showman is an absolute masterpiece of a movie and this is the first time me seeing both of you together on a Q&A style vid!!! *squeals with happiness*
you came to my school today, im the girl who was with that girl with the purple hair. i literally loved meeting you, and you're such a kind and fun person. keep it up :)
I want to thank you Chole as much as Sam for making this video:)!! You guys both would really understand what I am going through!!! I have experienced copious amounts of stigma because I have physical problems that can not be seen with the naked eyes and I also have learning disabilities. I have Auto-Immune Problems as well as physical injuries. I have Interstitial Cystitis which is a disease of the bladder walls as well as severe Diarrhea Problems. People can be very mean to me when I get spells in using the bathroom several times in an hour. Since, I do not "look sick" many people can think its "emotional" when it is really physical when I have to go to the bathroom. I also have a history of Barret's Esophagus and have to take medicine to eat solid food. Everyone also can not see inside my Esophagus any more than they can see inside my bladder or bowels. Since, I do not "look sick" I can be judged, mistreated, and some people will want to believe that I am either "emotionally ill" or "lazy", which is not true at all!!! The only thing everyone can see is my Raynaud's Disease which is a disease of the blood vessels in which when I am cold my hands turn black and blue. I also have arthritis and a herniated disc in my back. Thus, between my bladder disease and other physical problems that I mentioned that cause chronic physical pain, but because people can not "see it" most people expect me to be able to do more than I am able to do. Some people have been mean to me when I was at my sickest and in a lot of physical pain, but I do not look sick so they feel justified to be judgmental and down right cruel. Also, I have learning disabilities, but I am average intelligence. Because I can speak well, but have trouble memorizing and concentrating, some people can get down right angry if I do not learn something fast. Also, sometimes when people hear I am learning disabled, they can treat me like I am retarded, when that is just not the truth. So, I could go on and on with how much I have been mistreated because people can not "see" what is physically wrong with me with their naked eyes, but I would be writing a book. So thank you Chole and Sam for addressing the stigmas of disabilities seen and unseen. I would like to see more of these videos in the future:).
Your both amazing! I'm autistic with odc and I used to lose a lot of my time praying, similar to how Sam loses time trying to accomplish 2 minute tasks. Back to listening to One Direction!
I find watching you so calming and uplifting Chloe! I love your energy and your outgoingness and you’re so bubbly. My daughter is so like you (the you that we see in your vids, is what she is in life), she’s 7 and different, and I hope she never loses those qualities and zest!
We are so lucky to have differently abled people in this world because you all light up the world!
One time I told my mom about how I was being talked down to and how much I hated it and she just said “ well it seems like their just trying to be nice
Made me so mad
Loved this discussion, it was relatable to me even on just a mental health perspective. Would love to see more videos with Sam!
I told my friends that I was get tested for autism and one of them gave me such a weird look I don’t know if she was being rude or just realised everything made sense haven’t talked to her in quite a few months because I’m at a more appropriate school and I’m very glad about that
I am pretty sure I have ADHD / ASD and I would really like to get a diagnosis sometime soon so I can get accommodations in college but I am concerned about how professors will react, mainly because I am in the honors college and am extremely smart. People might insist I don't need any accommodations because I already get really good grades. but I know I will struggle with things other than everyday coursework, and even if I do okay, doesn't everyone deserve a chance to reach their full potential?
As an Autistic person, it meant so much to me that they included a person with an invisible disability in Jeremy the Dud. In particular I found it so powerful that they didn't explain. The message that not all disabilities are obvious and that doesn't need to be explained was so clear.
I'm not diagnosed with autism yet, but looking for one. The part about working and being autistic really hits me. I was probably the best employee at my previous job, but they wouldn't let move up as a manager because of the way I acted sometimes. I've now realized that they were my (possible) autistic tendencies, but no one understood why I did the things I did, even myself for a while. I'm now looking for a job that could be better for me and could possibly help cater to things I'd need (letting me stim, helping if I'm sensory overloaded, being able to work by myself when needed).
Instant like and subscribe because I'm a 4 foot 9, 27 year old Autistic hermit with Cystic Fibrosis, and a long list of comorbids. This all adds up to me having mental and physical disabilities, both visible and invisible. Because I use accessibility items like my walker, backpack of needed items including a stuffed animal and noise blockers, and an able bodied companion, people automatically know I'm *Very Disabled*. Which means *A Lot* of staring, all of it awkward. There's a ton of stigma there too, most of it instant, and some of it due to other areas of my life. Luckily, as a hermit, the vast majority of my life is accessible, because the places I do go to are Walmart, Fast Food, and Dr's offices, and I'm otherwise in my very accessible home. I don't have a driver's license anymore as I happily switched it for an ID card.
PS, I adore watching your hands as you talk, because I'm the same with my hands.
I am legally blind I have about six mental health diagnoses and may have but I’m not sure yet have autism and believe me when it comes down to being hit slap flat in the face with accessibility issues and people not understanding or realizing things is a big problem correction make that seven because I also have major depressive disorder which is kind of hidden but can make itself known so when you throw all of my mental health issues and the possibility of having autism in the same mix with being legally blind and trying to get around not be scared out of my mind by everything really is hard for people to understand or difficulty with navigating because of it all hate noise can’t stay in large crowds I struggle with all of that let alone socializing and talking with people it’s very hard because it I can’t catch on to the social cues or sometimes I can tell when somebody’s joking but mostly not exactly
Did u film this the same day you came to south Geelong primary school? I’m the one that came from my high school just to see u and was wearing the butterfly different not less pin.
I consistently rely on my physical disabilities when I need time off work bc it doesn't feel like my invisible ones are "legitimate" enough-- and I know that's just the overall societal stigma bc we work with disable populations, particularly autistic and dyslexic kids, regularly and my bosses are amazingly understanding all the time.
Yet I still default to the gastroparesis and endometriosis over the autism, anxiety, or depression when I'm having a bad day
i always love how you look, but your appearance on this video is my favorite ♥️ i love your cheek makeup, the headband and your sparkly shirt, i want to touch it ✨✨ i loved sam too, i didn't know him until today but he's funny and nice 🦋 i liked him
I have a mental illness and if I say something get the but you don't look/seem like it. I am high functioning so get the 3rd degree when people hear that I am on disability (same thing capable in some areas but it impinges my life enough that I can't hold down a job).
You're so hype!! And he's so chilled!! Hehe
Great video 😊
You two are amazing!
The other side of being assumed you can't do things, if assuming you can!
You don't get support unless you ask for it, which (I'm sure not only speaking for myself), I'm so ashamed to ask & fearful of harsh judgement.
So people with invisible disabilities mortgages often can struggle alone daily.
Relatable
you came to my school today.... :) loved the speech tho.
i mean i dont think this is a disability but i have a mood disorder where i cant process my emotions well, sometimes at all. and i fidget a lot but again not dissabled. right? if it is considered a diasbility like
Chloe, Sam, Thank you for your practical insights into being different. As you mentioned, we're all oddballs. But, there are societal generalizations about what is "normal". And, if we don't fit neatly into the (harmful) generalization, we're going to experience some negative impacts. This begs the question of how we (society) can move toward open consideration of almost everyone. This is an important issue. Any ideas from your experiences? Thanks, Dave
We need a diverse world then yes it will cater to all types of individuals needs...just takes some level of empathy and planning. There are many places now that do have toilets for people with disabilities and they are called disabked toilets so i have to call them that too, says that on the door. Many cafes and shopping centres and cinemas do have wheel chair access....so our world is changing but slowly. We need to acknowkedge the changes in order to move forwards. This is a great vid i really enjoyed listening to you both...i 💖 your energy its infectious 😊
I definitely get that. People don't just recognize that I'm autistic, but alot of the time when they do, (meaning when I actually tell them) they start talking to me in more simplex terms and use a tone similar to that used when taking to a very young child. It makes me so mad I almost wanna build and detonate a wicked bomb just so I can be like "you think I'm a fukn kid huh? Can kids make bombs? Huh? HUH!?" But then I realize....shit, I definitely shouldn't do that I'm probably gonna terrify them and get myself shot. But DAMN it's so frustrating lmfao 😆
I have an invisible disability and I I don't get taken seriously
What is a concession myki?
When you have a pension or concession card in Australia (Disability, carers, single parents, low income). You then get a concession. A concession makes it cheaper. Myki is the card used for public transport in the state of Victoria.
I have both visible and invisible disabilities.
What is a concession myki? I don't speak Australian.
i was in a abusive relationship he had as like me i left him then went into a hostel i didn't to go to my mum i blamed her for people thinking i was disabled
*Some disabilities are invisible, your reaction to them is not.*
I love grestest showman its not nice assuming small people are five years old and not capable people like that are not worth knowing and perhaps it's them with the disability and not the small people I have aspergers the other aspies bullying me claiming mine was visiable and theres wasn't well my bullys were stupid druggies and theres nothing wrong with hand flapping
it's all about a persons personality that's people should see sod ignorant people I wouldn't spit on them if they were on fire
Wow getting the OCD shout out is weird in like an affirming way. Not used to us being mentioned.
epic video👍👍👍👍
I am autistic and still can't play the piano