My black wife met me at a 'Barnes & Noble' store while I was drinking coffee and reading 'Another Country' by James Baldwin. We discoveted that we shared similar interests and our relationship blossomed. We have been happily married for 24 years and have two beautiful biracial daughters. .
This is absolutely true! I've met a lot of men with money who are not just cheapskates but who have such an inflated sense of entitlement and it's disgusting. I would rather a man who is stable and can provide and is KIND and actually loves me for who I am as a person and not simply as a piece of arm candy or status symbol.
Liked the table metaphor. I never understood the e-harmony approach of finding someone you match perfectly with. Of course you want to have some things in common but I want a partner who is good at the things that I am not and I'm good at the things that she isn't, that way we compliment each other better and we can learn from each other. Your teaching skills shine through. Keep up the great work.
Aww thank you so much! I definitely felt like I was in class with this video haha but I do love sharing my own experiences in as informative a way as possible. Be well! ✨💕
Great video Amanda. I’m glad to see BW opening their options and getting good results. In London where I live I’m meeting so many BWWM couples who look so great together
It is really lovely to see! I’m seeing more interracial couples in Washington and it’s just awesome thinking black women are finally broadening their horizons. Even if the “attempt” is “unsuccessful” it’s the bravery in the attempt that matters!
Amanda, you are amazing and I say thank you for all your inspirational videos. I think the best thing for black women to do in terms of dating out and marrying up is to leave America. More black women are getting US Passports and traveling overseas. Once I saw the plethora of Black Women Solo Travelers Vlogs I knew that traveling overseas outside of America was the way to go. US Passport applications are high among black women and more black women are documenting their global travel. There are 4.1 Billion men on earth and us black ladies have more options than we know what to do with. I say lets make 2024 the year that black women take on the world and start finding the love of our life. 🌍✈🚶🏾♀🧳
First of all, thank you so much! You are so kind. And yes, I would love to see and hear of more black women going abroad and expanding their horizons. Even if romance isn’t involved just the experience alone is one well worth it! ✨💕
@@AmandaAwakens Europe is wonderful. I was in the military and I was stationed in Germany and I dated so many guys when I was stationed there. I am also married to a WM. I loved Europe and would love to go back.
My next relationship will definitely not be with another Black male. My issue is I'm only attracted to a very small number of non Black men. Also, the only place I really frequent on a regular basis is the gym. I definitely need to get out more. And I'm a Virgo too!
Definitely, if you’re not open to online dating you’ll want to put yourself out there more and maximize your presence when you are out and about. And yay a fellow Virgo! I stand on it that we might be nit picky but you won’t find a better lover or friend than us! ✨💕
I've dated interracially, but I don't think you should rule someone out based on their race. You said your next relationship definitely wouldn't be a black man, but what if you meet a black man who's a really good guy? You should never choose or not choose a partner only based on their race.
As a black woman who dates out and will marry up and I will marry a non-American Non Black male I say this. If black women are going to break the generation cycle of black female poverty and give birth to the next generation of children born from black women NOT in poverty, then we must date out and absolutely marry up. There are 4.1 billion men on earth so we do have options in the dating market. We have to leave what I call THE PLANTATION OF PAIN POVERTY AND STRUGGLE LOVE. And you are smart to not want your next man to be a black man. Get your passport and travel and meet men of a better quality and from good stock. Good luck to you.
I love Amanda's shows because they open doors in all our minds and expand our horizons. She will tell you where....I'll tell you how. Just look your candidate straight in his eyes and then smile. If he's too stunned to utter a sound, also say "Hi, how are you?" and await his answer. Simple. A quick question will garner a verbal response from anyone worth learning more about. Good Luck.
Amanda, another great video and advice. And ladies, don't be so tied up that you miss the man in front of you with stars in his eyes starting a conversation or just giving a hello. Pay attention is all I'm saying.
I think you have some very insightful videos Amanda from Tacoma. I happen to live in Spokane Washington and love your perspective. I agree with most of your points. I have dated outside "white " more than a few times. As a guy ( of any race) I don't really care what race a woman is as long as she ultimately wants me to be the best I can be and a Great Woman can bring that out in any man she blesses enough to love. ( For the Record: Black Women just seem to be the best at seeing how to make us truly be the man and leader,father and husband we were truly meant to be) just saying. Keep it coming!
Thank you so much for watching! I absolutely love hearing from other Washingtonians. I haven't been out to Spokane since first moving here but would love to head back again now that the summer has passed and it's not so hot in Eastern Washington lol. Be well and have a lovely weekend!
For all the reasons you said, I don’t think it’s good to date outside your race to get even with black men. That won’t work. There is no magic answer to dating. Don’t go into interracial dating for those reasons, you’ll waste your time and who wants to waste valuable time. If you really love being with a black men, but you haven’t met the right one, don’t waste your time with other men of other races. You won’t be happy. You don’t wanna go into interracial dating for the wrong reasons. Rebounding is a wrong reason. Listen to what this lady is saying, she will save you a lot of time.
@@AmandaAwakensWhen I found out that Williams married a white man I was very surprised. A black woman with a brutally strong physique choosing a white man was a surprise to me. I'm white and I would never imagine that a black woman like Serena would have a white husband. I never imagined that she would choose a white one.
From experience, I would suggest preparing for "compatibility testing" from friends & family. This probably includes learning new interests, habits, having to win over social circles thru charm & etiquette, etc ... bc you will be judged. And the man might have to consider their negative input.
Great video Amanda! I think it's important to understand that many (not all) American men of any race are a bit lacking. So, black women who are thinking outside the box, opening up their options, and willing to take the road less traveled are traveling outside the US. Thank God for social media because black women are documenting their travels and dating life and the plethora of marriage proposal videos, and wedding videos, and birthing videos between black women and nonblack men is skyrocketing. The world is our oyster Amanda and I predict that 2024 will further show that black women are the new "It Girls" of the dating market. Thank you Amanda🥰
Yeah, I definitely am hoping black women are able to find their person regardless of if they stay or they go. We are so worthy! Be well and have a lovely, lovely weekend!
@@AmandaAwakens Damn right Amanda! Its 2023 and black women need to get out of their comfort zone and travel. 2024 is coming and its gone to be the year black women make some serious moves and one big move is getting out of the US.
Hello, my lovely kindred spirit. I'm sure I've said this before, but I love hearing how happy Ginger Snap is making you, and that he's taking good care of my good sis. 🥲❤ You are so deserving. I'm going to preface this by saying that maybe I'm reaching/over analyzing things, you know us Virgos. 🤭 These are my thoughts. To your first point: I get so heated when I see and hear some Black women announcing, proclaiming that they are no longer dating Black men and are now dating white men. First of all, that seems really disrespectful towards white men. They're treating them as some sort of second option; and the fact that it has to be announced, (in my opinion) means that it is just an attention-seeking tactic to get a brutha to act right. 🙄 Meanwhile, these theatrics makes it very problematic for those of us Black women who sincerely want to date white men. 🤨😑
Girl, I could write a whole dissertation on how good of a human being Michael is. I’m incredibly fortunate for him. And girl I could say a lot on that point but I’m choosing peace and not violence lol. I appreciate you so much my kindred spirit! Have a lovely Sunday. ✨💕
I’m so glad you liked it lol because I know it was long winded but I hope people realize that we can’t just look at ourselves as just “prizes” or “the table” but what areas in our lives do we have flaws and gaps so that when we find a partner we have someone who can truly add value to our lives. ✨
I’m seeing way more females than ever at the gun range, but they are almost always with guys. For women that have not tried that activity, many public ranges are offering lessons/group shoots specifically for females. These are generally a very safe way to shoot because you have certified instructors working with the people and in a lot of states you can do this without having a license to carry and using firearms rented from the range. In the northeast all the ranges make you take a written safety test after reading a short booklet and they run you through a data base to make sure you are not a prohibited person. Even if you only do it once it is a very fun activity! Oh and from what I’ve noticed over years females generally do very well and enjoy themselves!!
I do date outside my race I always have Ive just been around diversity and I prefer it growing up in a military family I can talk get along with hang out with different races I was married to a white guy (no longer married Im very single) have bi racial children. Im just having a hard time finding anyone right now.
Yes, of course we’re all fundamentally the same. As per all my videos I only speak from my personal experiences which are not the standard or the rule.
Lol while I appreciate that I would make for an awful dating coach. Really, I don't believe any dating coach is worth investing money in. Dating is too nuanced and there's just too much luck, timing, circumstances, etc. involved. As a friendly voice online though I can offer you my best wishes and encourage you to keep your head up!
Hello Ms. Amanda As an african american woman who used to date white men, its sad that there are not many interracial marriages when it comes to black women and white men with asian and white that's a different story but the vast majority of white men want a white woman and sadly there is nothing we can do about it, the white men that i mostly dated were online dates and sadly the relationships didn't last long. my question to you is (coming from a black woman) should i stay with my ex boyfriend who is asian or just forget about him the last time i saw him was in 2015 can you help a sister out ? thanks.
Yes, I believe in general numbers show that most people of all demographics tend to marry and date within their own race. And that's okay. As far as your situation goes, I mean this in the most respectful way possible but I do not know you or your ex partner and so I don't feel comfortable giving advice. All I can do is offer some questions. What made you two break up in the first place? And since then have you seen substantial change/growth within yourself and within your ex? If this hasn't happened then the issues that occurred the first time around can crop up again. Hope that helps!
My black wife met me at a 'Barnes & Noble' store while I was drinking coffee and reading 'Another Country' by James Baldwin. We discoveted that we shared similar interests and our relationship blossomed. We have been happily married for 24 years and have two beautiful biracial daughters. .
What a lovely story! Thank you so much for sharing. ✨💕
I apologize for the 'discoveted' typo. As it should be 'discovered.' My small phone can be frustrating to type on sometimes.
@@AmandaAwakensWould you marry a white man or not?
Yes, I would and plan to marry the one I’m with now. ❤️
Remember just because he has money doesn’t mean he’s generous.
This is absolutely true! I've met a lot of men with money who are not just cheapskates but who have such an inflated sense of entitlement and it's disgusting. I would rather a man who is stable and can provide and is KIND and actually loves me for who I am as a person and not simply as a piece of arm candy or status symbol.
@@AmandaAwakens I concur.
Liked the table metaphor. I never understood the e-harmony approach of finding someone you match perfectly with. Of course you want to have some things in common but I want a partner who is good at the things that I am not and I'm good at the things that she isn't, that way we compliment each other better and we can learn from each other. Your teaching skills shine through. Keep up the great work.
Aww thank you so much! I definitely felt like I was in class with this video haha but I do love sharing my own experiences in as informative a way as possible. Be well! ✨💕
Great video Amanda. I’m glad to see BW opening their options and getting good results. In London where I live I’m meeting so many BWWM couples who look so great together
It is really lovely to see! I’m seeing more interracial couples in Washington and it’s just awesome thinking black women are finally broadening their horizons. Even if the “attempt” is “unsuccessful” it’s the bravery in the attempt that matters!
As usual this is "spot on". We should all work to be better versions of ourselves and not just "the table". Keep the great videos coming😍
Thank you so so much! I hope it didn’t come off as too preachy. Be well and happy Sunday! ✨💕
@@AmandaAwakens not at all preachy. It's clear you deliver your messages out of a kind heart.
Amanda, you are amazing and I say thank you for all your inspirational videos. I think the best thing for black women to do in terms of dating out and marrying up is to leave America. More black women are getting US Passports and traveling overseas. Once I saw the plethora of Black Women Solo Travelers Vlogs I knew that traveling overseas outside of America was the way to go. US Passport applications are high among black women and more black women are documenting their global travel. There are 4.1 Billion men on earth and us black ladies have more options than we know what to do with. I say lets make 2024 the year that black women take on the world and start finding the love of our life. 🌍✈🚶🏾♀🧳
First of all, thank you so much! You are so kind. And yes, I would love to see and hear of more black women going abroad and expanding their horizons. Even if romance isn’t involved just the experience alone is one well worth it! ✨💕
@@AmandaAwakens Europe is wonderful. I was in the military and I was stationed in Germany and I dated so many guys when I was stationed there. I am also married to a WM. I loved Europe and would love to go back.
My next relationship will definitely not be with another Black male. My issue is I'm only attracted to a very small number of non Black men. Also, the only place I really frequent on a regular basis is the gym. I definitely need to get out more.
And I'm a Virgo too!
Definitely, if you’re not open to online dating you’ll want to put yourself out there more and maximize your presence when you are out and about. And yay a fellow Virgo! I stand on it that we might be nit picky but you won’t find a better lover or friend than us! ✨💕
I've dated interracially, but I don't think you should rule someone out based on their race. You said your next relationship definitely wouldn't be a black man, but what if you meet a black man who's a really good guy? You should never choose or not choose a partner only based on their race.
@TatumSheffield I’m a Pisces moon and my boyfriend is a Capricorn so I can agree with this but I’m still going with Virgos for the win 😉
As a black woman who dates out and will marry up and I will marry a non-American Non Black male I say this. If black women are going to break the generation cycle of black female poverty and give birth to the next generation of children born from black women NOT in poverty, then we must date out and absolutely marry up. There are 4.1 billion men on earth so we do have options in the dating market. We have to leave what I call THE PLANTATION OF PAIN POVERTY AND STRUGGLE LOVE. And you are smart to not want your next man to be a black man. Get your passport and travel and meet men of a better quality and from good stock. Good luck to you.
I love Amanda's shows because they open doors in all our minds and expand our horizons. She will tell you where....I'll tell you how. Just look your candidate straight in his eyes and then smile. If he's too stunned to utter a sound, also say "Hi, how are you?" and await his answer. Simple. A quick question will garner a verbal response from anyone worth learning more about. Good Luck.
Thank you for sharing this and for your support of me and the channel! ✨💕
Amanda, another great video and advice. And ladies, don't be so tied up that you miss the man in front of you with stars in his eyes starting a conversation or just giving a hello. Pay attention is all I'm saying.
This is a good point! Thanks for sharing. Have a lovely evening. ✨💕
I think you have some very insightful videos Amanda from Tacoma. I happen to live in Spokane Washington and love your perspective. I agree with most of your points. I have dated outside "white " more than a few times. As a guy ( of any race) I don't really care what race a woman is as long as she ultimately wants me to be the best I can be and a Great Woman can bring that out in any man she blesses enough to love. ( For the Record: Black Women just seem to be the best at seeing how to make us truly be the man and leader,father and husband we were truly meant to be) just saying. Keep it coming!
Thank you so much for watching! I absolutely love hearing from other Washingtonians. I haven't been out to Spokane since first moving here but would love to head back again now that the summer has passed and it's not so hot in Eastern Washington lol. Be well and have a lovely weekend!
For all the reasons you said, I don’t think it’s good to date outside your race to get even with black men. That won’t work. There is no magic answer to dating. Don’t go into interracial dating for those reasons, you’ll waste your time and who wants to waste valuable time. If you really love being with a black men, but you haven’t met the right one, don’t waste your time with other men of other races. You won’t be happy. You don’t wanna go into interracial dating for the wrong reasons. Rebounding is a wrong reason. Listen to what this lady is saying, she will save you a lot of time.
I would eat at your table because I burnt my turkey.
Hahaha I know it was an extended metaphor but I hope it made sense. ✨
Love the table metaphor.
Don't worry, even when you "yell", I still feel the love!😊❤
It’s always with love! ❤
Another great vid. You give a muck needed intelligent view to a cmplex topic.❤❤😂😂😂
Thank you so much! ✨💕
@@AmandaAwakensWhen I found out that Williams married a white man I was very surprised. A black woman with a brutally strong physique choosing a white man was a surprise to me. I'm white and I would never imagine that a black woman like Serena would have a white husband. I never imagined that she would choose a white one.
From experience, I would suggest preparing for "compatibility testing" from friends & family. This probably includes learning new interests, habits, having to win over social circles thru charm & etiquette, etc ... bc you will be judged. And the man might have to consider their negative input.
You are amazing Amanda. 😊
Thank you so much! What a super sweet comment. ✨💕
Great video Amanda! I think it's important to understand that many (not all) American men of any race are a bit lacking. So, black women who are thinking outside the box, opening up their options, and willing to take the road less traveled are traveling outside the US. Thank God for social media because black women are documenting their travels and dating life and the plethora of marriage proposal videos, and wedding videos, and birthing videos between black women and nonblack men is skyrocketing. The world is our oyster Amanda and I predict that 2024 will further show that black women are the new "It Girls" of the dating market. Thank you Amanda🥰
Yeah, I definitely am hoping black women are able to find their person regardless of if they stay or they go. We are so worthy! Be well and have a lovely, lovely weekend!
@@AmandaAwakens Damn right Amanda! Its 2023 and black women need to get out of their comfort zone and travel. 2024 is coming and its gone to be the year black women make some serious moves and one big move is getting out of the US.
Thankyou Amanda!! Have a Blessed Day!!
Great video😊 Thankyou!!
Thanks Amanda for another insightful video.
Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment! I appreciate you dearly. ✨💕
Hello, my lovely kindred spirit. I'm sure I've said this before, but I love hearing how happy Ginger Snap is making you, and that he's taking good care of my good sis. 🥲❤ You are so deserving.
I'm going to preface this by saying that maybe I'm reaching/over analyzing things, you know us Virgos. 🤭 These are my thoughts. To your first point: I get so heated when I see and hear some Black women announcing, proclaiming that they are no longer dating Black men and are now dating white men. First of all, that seems really disrespectful towards white men. They're treating them as some sort of second option; and the fact that it has to be announced, (in my opinion) means that it is just an attention-seeking tactic to get a brutha to act right. 🙄 Meanwhile, these theatrics makes it very problematic for those of us Black women who sincerely want to date white men. 🤨😑
Girl, I could write a whole dissertation on how good of a human being Michael is. I’m incredibly fortunate for him.
And girl I could say a lot on that point but I’m choosing peace and not violence lol. I appreciate you so much my kindred spirit! Have a lovely Sunday. ✨💕
I've actually always preferred white men.
I like your table theory Amanda. Another great video
I’m so glad you liked it lol because I know it was long winded but I hope people realize that we can’t just look at ourselves as just “prizes” or “the table” but what areas in our lives do we have flaws and gaps so that when we find a partner we have someone who can truly add value to our lives. ✨
Thank you😊
You are oh so welcome! Thank you for your viewership. ❤
Great video! Thanks for your insight.
You are oh so welcome! I hope all is well with you.
I’m seeing way more females than ever at the gun range, but they are almost always with guys. For women that have not tried that activity, many public ranges are offering lessons/group shoots specifically for females. These are generally a very safe way to shoot because you have certified instructors working with the people and in a lot of states you can do this without having a license to carry and using firearms rented from the range. In the northeast all the ranges make you take a written safety test after reading a short booklet and they run you through a data base to make sure you are not a prohibited person.
Even if you only do it once it is a very fun activity! Oh and from what I’ve noticed over years females generally do very well and enjoy themselves!!
I do date outside my race I always have Ive just been around diversity and I prefer it growing up in a military family I can talk get along with hang out with different races I was married to a white guy (no longer married Im very single) have bi racial children. Im just having a hard time finding anyone right now.
Are we not all the same whether white, black or purple. Its not about race but learned behaviour. All of this us learned behaviour as to who we date
Yes, of course we’re all fundamentally the same. As per all my videos I only speak from my personal experiences which are not the standard or the rule.
I like to have you as a dating coach
Lol while I appreciate that I would make for an awful dating coach. Really, I don't believe any dating coach is worth investing money in. Dating is too nuanced and there's just too much luck, timing, circumstances, etc. involved. As a friendly voice online though I can offer you my best wishes and encourage you to keep your head up!
Hello Ms. Amanda As an african american woman who used to date white men, its sad that there are not many interracial marriages when it comes to black women and white men with asian and white that's a different story but the vast majority of white men want a white woman and sadly there is nothing we can do about it, the white men that i mostly dated were online dates and sadly the relationships didn't last long. my question to you is (coming from a black woman) should i stay with my ex boyfriend who is asian or just forget about him the last time i saw him was in 2015 can you help a sister out ? thanks.
Yes, I believe in general numbers show that most people of all demographics tend to marry and date within their own race. And that's okay. As far as your situation goes, I mean this in the most respectful way possible but I do not know you or your ex partner and so I don't feel comfortable giving advice. All I can do is offer some questions. What made you two break up in the first place? And since then have you seen substantial change/growth within yourself and within your ex? If this hasn't happened then the issues that occurred the first time around can crop up again. Hope that helps!
@@AmandaAwakens ok have a great day stay safe
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Pray Allah for that.
You Nymphomaniacs never cease.
I don’t think they’re supposed to…