Me Too | RAPE (My Story)

Поділитися
Вставка
  • Опубліковано 21 лис 2024

КОМЕНТАРІ • 279

  • @alexawilsonartvideos
    @alexawilsonartvideos 8 місяців тому +7

    I'm sorry that everyone failed you, It makes me very angry to hear how a grown man could do this to anyone but a young girl, truly evil. You are very strong, and thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad your sister finally helped, and the family took it seriously. Much love and respect for your continued healing, and for helping others who may be experiencing this too.

  • @jdm5282
    @jdm5282 Рік тому +67

    I am a 58 year old father of 3 girls who are now 33, twins almost 30 and i am so sorry that you had to go thru what you went thru!!! You are a brave young lady and i look forward to that next video!!! Life is just to short so whatever time you need to move on and live just take!!!! God will watch over you. Thanks Dave

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +16

      Thank you, David! I will definitely have another video soon. Thank you so much. I truly appreciate the support!

    • @lonzo123456
      @lonzo123456 Рік тому +3

      Hugs❤

    • @timmotel5804
      @timmotel5804 10 місяців тому +1

      This "God" didn't watch over her last time... Don't hold your breath

    • @RoseorRosieHWeinstein
      @RoseorRosieHWeinstein 2 місяці тому

      Thanks honey 😘 for 😢 telling me the hell you went through stay strong baby

    • @gerritforest7114
      @gerritforest7114 Місяць тому

      All I can say I love your strength. You are strong.! (YOU ARE STRONG)

  • @emmavrijburg6676
    @emmavrijburg6676 Рік тому +45

    Just. Wow.. i am so sorry this happened to you and i have so much admiration for your bravery to be so vulnerable. Sending you love from the Netherlands

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +13

      Omg! I never thought my video would ever make it to anyone out of my state. I'm so thankful that it's reached you in the Netherlands! Thank you so much! I truly appreciate it. 🙏🏽

  • @rfrancoi
    @rfrancoi Рік тому +23

    You are a VERY brave young woman. People like this creep should be exposed in public.

  • @ryanap8396
    @ryanap8396 Рік тому +30

    I’m so sorry this happened to you, stay strong and keep fighting!

  • @josueperalta2773
    @josueperalta2773 Рік тому +12

    As a Papa… this hurts my soul to hear… i thank God for your brave survival story🙏🏽… I pray for you and your family as well as my family

  • @mitchdalen86
    @mitchdalen86 Рік тому +9

    When the people that are suppose to keep you safe and protect you hurt you deeply , it affects your entire foundation. As a young boy, I was not strong enough to protect my family or myself. You’ve done an admirable job keeping it together and maintaining a good heart. Thank you for sharing a relatable experience.

  • @rickyhipsher2896
    @rickyhipsher2896 11 місяців тому +21

    Truly a heart wrenching story that should never happen to any child. I am a father of two daughters. 23 and 25. If someone ever did that to one of my girls they would never make it to court. I can promise you that. And some people just shouldn't be parents.

    • @b4dt3mp3r4
      @b4dt3mp3r4 9 місяців тому +1

      This is exactly what I used to try telling my ex gf who had been raped a couple different times in the past once was actually a family friend and her father n mother did F all about it barely cared and yet she still loved her family 🙄 she was an idiot

    • @ConcernedCiti-Zen
      @ConcernedCiti-Zen 8 місяців тому

      You have to be kind and forgiving towards your ex gf. No need to to refer to her as an idiot.@@b4dt3mp3r4

    • @BurnerBoy-mw7tx
      @BurnerBoy-mw7tx 8 місяців тому

      @@b4dt3mp3r4a lot still love their families and stuff I never understood

  • @farmerfootball27
    @farmerfootball27 Рік тому +19

    Most of the girls I have dated (I've dated about 10) have told me their stories about how some guy sexually assaulted them. They make things worse for everyone. Not just the ones they hurt. But everyone in the person they hurt lives. These victims have so much trouble experiencing basic things like love and affection that we all need. There's no need for any of this to happen. It's so sick

    • @kendrawaddams3174
      @kendrawaddams3174 3 місяці тому

      Yes. I don't believe in the 1 in 3 woman statistic. At 50 years old, it's about 80% of the women I've known. I'm still surprised when women tell me it's never happened to them. Most often, after thinking about it, they come back with 'Well, there was this one time . . .' Often, denial is survival. Thanks for posting. 🙏

    • @haileyjuliasuarez6988
      @haileyjuliasuarez6988 2 місяці тому

      @@kendrawaddams3174sorry but i was sexually assaulted

  • @toddgraham6006
    @toddgraham6006 10 місяців тому +4

    I am so sorry for your pain and loss. I certainly hope that you will victorious in your life and a great recovery and future.

  • @ronniea8745
    @ronniea8745 Рік тому +26

    Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so happy I’m not alone! 🥰

  • @mayetorresfineart8626
    @mayetorresfineart8626 Рік тому +14

    I’m so so so sorry you had to go through that violence!!! It’s amazing nobody stopped him!!!! Why would people around you accept this horrible behavior!? I’m so sorry!!!! Your strength and amazing spirit and soul can never be taken away!!! Sending 100,000 angels to surround you and protect you always

  • @peterbadham1875
    @peterbadham1875 Рік тому +14

    I am so sorry for what you went through, this video should have so many more likes. Thank you for being so honest and open. Sending hugs or whatever is appropriate x

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +3

      Thank you! I really appreciate it. Just trying to share my experience to let others know they are not alone. 🤍

    • @dennishunt787
      @dennishunt787 Рік тому

      If you got raped I'm sorry this happento you

  • @kingkong905
    @kingkong905 Рік тому +8

    "it literally gets to the point where you just stop fighting.." Those words resonate with me. That's how i feel with my abusers when i was a child. My mom sees the abuse, does a little bit but doesn't do enough to protect me from them. If i told others, they probably wouldn't have believed me or done enough to stop the abuse. Eventually, i just gave up in a way because trying to fight only made things worse. It made me look bad and more helpless.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +1

      We are never helpless. Our abusers are helpless and they will have to answer to God. It took me so long to be able to switch my mindset over the situation but once you switch your mindset they no longer have control over you. When I was younger I use to think I would be forever damaged goods. I'm more than that. You are more than that. Your mom should be ashamed of herself. Hold your head high and just remember at the end of the day we will always win. They have no more hold on us.

    • @kingkong905
      @kingkong905 Рік тому +2

      Right, judging from your story - i feel your mom let your stepfather molest you because she was also molested as a child. Its like she was still a child in an adult body from how she handled everything to try to protect herself in a way. I'm upset at my mom for not doing enough to protect me but realized she was forced to be a parent. She admitted she was too weak to discipline her children. Deep down, i feel she's suppressing her traumatic childhood. My abusers are helpless because they're slaves to their impulses. I dislike when people say stuff like "that girl is damaged goods.." It sounds dehumanizing especially to victims of sexual abuse.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +2

      @@kingkong905 exactly! I have mixed emotions about the subject when it comes to my mom. She wasn't sexually abused as a child but she was physically abused from what she says. Either way our relationship will never be the same. You have to break the cycle and she didn't.

  • @victoriaford8449
    @victoriaford8449 10 місяців тому +4

    I really think she's so strong for sharing her story and that stepfather was a real sicko😮 you are strong girl and you keep fighting if telling a story helps other victims then I applaud 👏👏you so much for helping others who don't have the courage to talk❤❤

  • @terryferguson1459
    @terryferguson1459 Рік тому +5

    Please take care of yourself, I am so sorry this happened to you!
    My wife went through the same thing and she was 12 when it started, it was her best friend’s older brother.
    I was with my wife for 20 years, married for 7 of those before she told me about it.
    I was the first to know!
    We are still together, 50 years now but it’s crazy just how much she was and still is messed up by this.
    Rightfully so!
    I wish she would have sought help year’s sooner.
    God bless you for telling your story!

  • @kass_G59
    @kass_G59 Рік тому +21

    You’re so strong & brave for telling your story. Thank you. ❤️‍🩹

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +6

      Thank you for listening, 🤍 We’re all in this together!

    • @kass_G59
      @kass_G59 Рік тому +3

      @@thehennesseyfamily583 Of course💖
      &Yes we are girl. We’re all strong, resilient, badass women! Sending you all the love & a virtual hug 🫂🫶🏻

  • @SOFTGUYERA2024
    @SOFTGUYERA2024 Рік тому +27

    What a strong lady, thank you for sharing. This is all her mom's fault, she was a hood rat that never put her kids first. I hope this dysfunctional cycle doesn't continue, the role of a good parent is to provide, protect & mentor.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +10

      Yes, this has taught me to be the best woman and mother I can be! 🤍 Your welcome, thank you for listening!

  • @keithadair1846
    @keithadair1846 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for sharing your story. All mothers need to hear this. Heart breaking.

  • @LilBrujoFH18
    @LilBrujoFH18 Рік тому +6

    words can never DO nothing what you went through. take it one day at a time. you are so beyond strong and you seem to have an amazing heart. i hope you are surrounded with people who love and care for you.

  • @gilbertogonzales5015
    @gilbertogonzales5015 Рік тому +4

    Powerful moving story, thank you. Your anger is not misplaced, a parent''s self centered attitude is toxic to any family. On our journeys to peace and wellness we cast off or censor people who never really mattered.

  • @vanessarubio9915
    @vanessarubio9915 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for sharing.
    I understand.
    It’s our time to protect our new generation .

  • @greggdpa
    @greggdpa Рік тому +16

    I get a feeling that everyone noticed something wrong!
    But fear of him kept the denial going.
    It’s takes me back to when I noticed something wasn’t right between 2 relatives.
    I pulled the girls mother aside immediately and expressed firmly my concern.
    I felt like she thought I was just causing problems in the family and being ridiculous.
    About 6 mos later the 15 girl involved spoke up to her mother.
    The mother insinuated that the girl had problems separating dreams from reality and of course the pig involved took that alibi.
    As the Uncle, it destroyed our entire family!
    I can never forgive!
    You’re in a lot of good company and certainly not alone!
    My situation was about 30 years ago,
    I abandoned everyone that that took his back!
    Essentially, my entire family.
    I’m truly sorry for what happened to you!
    Keep your Faith

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +8

      You did the right thing! It's extremely pitiful how people will take the abusers side. You stuck up for that girl and I'm sure she thanks you for that. 🤍 The world needs more people like you. Never change for anyone.

  • @OnlyOneLife696
    @OnlyOneLife696 Рік тому +3

    You're such a wonderful, brave & strong woman. I'm so sorry for the bad things you have been through. Wish you all the best for the rest of your life. ❤

  • @CAMBY608
    @CAMBY608 11 місяців тому +2

    You are loved, and you are valued, and I hear you. I'm sorry no one around you advocated for you or could see any of the glaring red flags all around you! I can't believe your mom didn't know something. I'm a mom of now an adult son, but when he was young, I could sense if he had a stomachache at school for crying out loud! Again, you did not deserve what you received. I'm glad and proud of the courage you have of telling your truth. I know you are helping others out there! Thank you! Prayers and blessings to you! :)

  • @bmj9221
    @bmj9221 Рік тому +5

    This is a very sad life experience you endure, my heart goes out to you.Some men are worst than animal, 12 years of sentenced is never enough for his crimes.you a beautiful lady, keep living life to best, hope you have the courage and faith to move on. I have daughters and can't imagine someone doing bad things to them,I bet they will pay their lives for it.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +1

      Thank you. I have moved on and healed from this trauma. I just hope that by me telling my story I’lll be an inspiration to the next girl. 🤍

  • @wt460
    @wt460 Рік тому +2

    This is just astounding that this happened and went on for three years. You are a very strong woman, and I wish for you a time when you can let go and let God heal your soul. You are beautiful inside and out!!! Plz allow yourself to breathe and don’t let this overwhelm the many good people that are out here for you!

  • @rickynoronha5813
    @rickynoronha5813 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for telling your story. Made me more vigilant and aware of this terrible stuff that happens to so so many young girls. Sorry. My apologies for the sorry guys around. Makes me wanna redouble my efforts to stop this horror.

  • @flightisallright
    @flightisallright Рік тому +19

    Home should be a safe haven. It should be the place were you learn to trust. Very sorry it wasn't for you.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +4

      Thank you! After my experience, I'm determined to give my kids a safe haven. Our home will be full of love & comfort. A safe place! 🤍🙏🏽

    • @GlenGray-dk3dv
      @GlenGray-dk3dv 7 місяців тому

      You say the guy would ground you? What’s that? By the way, I hope this hasn’t screwed up your sex life?!❤❤❤

  • @mynahinn
    @mynahinn Рік тому +15

    Hi! Thank you for your courage and strength to do this and get through, despite the tears and trauma! I’m recovering from family abuse myself, that’s how I found you. It’s so crazy how your step dad could’ve done all those horrible things to you in front of so many people. That’s insane! I can’t imagine how that could’ve happened. Of course everybody knew! As a recovering family scapegoat, I totally feel like your family might’ve treated you like a scapegoat. Have you ever felt that way?
    Idk if you plan to do a follow up but I’d like to hear how NOBODY saw that in the living room? How? You also said he had tried to put it in while your mom was in bed, but he couldn’t. Like, how on earth was that happening and your mom ‘not notice’? Sorry, it’s just so gruesome to believe. Thank you for the encouragement, that there’s hope in the lord. Your faith shines through you. Blessings, sister.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +5

      Thank you so much! Also, sometimes I do feel like that as well. It's truly surprising what they can get away with when you're scared to death to speak out. Ive come a long way from this. It does eventually get better, but you have to put the work in to make it better. Its completely unfair & extremely wrong what has happened to us. I might do a follow up soon so I will definitely let you know. I'm truly thankful that I was able to reach you and shine a light on you. That was my only goal for this video was to just reach at least one person. Always remember we are not damaged, we are not useless, and we are loved. We are US and we are worth far more than what has happened to us!!

  • @andreaclarke161
    @andreaclarke161 Рік тому +3

    So sorry for what happened to you. Pray for your healing. Your mom has some blame but maybe she was afraid of him . Forgiving your mom is part of your healing

  • @pamelapalmer2832
    @pamelapalmer2832 Рік тому +4

    They all plead guilty because they will get less time than if they took it to trial. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I have CPTSD from the abuse from a small child. Thank you for being so brave. You're stronger than you realize. Much love and peace to you. ❤

  • @alyssavictoriano99
    @alyssavictoriano99 Рік тому +8

    Hey I'm Rayann I just thought I'd say sorry to hear that what you experienced and been through .. just keep your head high and never give up 💯 you got this girl! Your also very beautiful too 🥰☺️ we can be best friends if you're interested.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +3

      Thank you so much for the kind words! I truly appreciate it. Yes, of course add me on Instagram! @destinyculton

  • @johsenior1535
    @johsenior1535 Рік тому +3

    So sad to hear! I hope your life gets better from now on, stay strong!

  • @antoinelittle6623
    @antoinelittle6623 10 місяців тому +1

    I am truly sorry that you had to go through this. I want you to know that you are truly a blessing from Gods. That you are a lovely, brave, and caring young lady. May you continue to heal and have peace in your life. As a cop I have dedicated my life to protecting people, such as yourself and get devils like this off of the street. I promise you and everyone else that I will be an angel of peace. I will do my best so this does not ever happen to anyone else. Thank you for telling all of us your story
    God bless now and forever,
    Antoine

  • @cliffordnewell2445
    @cliffordnewell2445 Рік тому +4

    You are so brave to do this. I hope you continue to heal.

  • @williamledbetter2223
    @williamledbetter2223 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for your courage. Your survival is a testament to the power of the human spirit. Keep healing; keep living.

  • @qsmooth7805
    @qsmooth7805 Рік тому +2

    I’m so sorry that happened to you. I’m glad you got out of it. God bless you.

  • @BurnerBoy-mw7tx
    @BurnerBoy-mw7tx 8 місяців тому

    I’m lost for words..I’m sorry. This story reminded me of my encounters as a child but I can’t even imagine going through this. I hope you heal and continue..I’m truly lost for words I’m sorry

  • @ocdraridrogonel
    @ocdraridrogonel 8 місяців тому +1

    I know a woman now who went through this with her step father and she wont tell anyone, the only reason I know is because I caught her in a vulnerable place and she trust me enough to tell me the truth. This made it so she will never have a good relationship with any man and now has a son. The boy will be going through a very bad time with his mother and no one is there to stop this cycle... smh!

  • @juantomas3630
    @juantomas3630 Рік тому +5

    My heart goes out to you, no one should ever have to go through what you and others who are raped !! Keep GOD in your heart, he will never leave you. That man should have gotten LIFE, anyone who rapes someone should get LIFE no matter the age of the person being raped !!!

  • @MultiJustice78
    @MultiJustice78 5 місяців тому

    As a father I tried real hard to hold back tears. I pray for strength and healing my sister.

  • @shirleyhilton-v5c
    @shirleyhilton-v5c 4 місяці тому

    You are so brave! You are helping other girls telling your story. You didn't deserve this. Your mom failed you....moving in a total stranger. Can't believe she never noticed him leaving Ed and never checked to see where he was. You are beautiful inside and out.

  • @good_to_be_gold8
    @good_to_be_gold8 4 місяці тому

    Give yourself hugs. You deserve love every time you feel sadness. I know it's tough to come on here and share something so dark. My wife is a survivor and as a listener I truly admire the courage you have. I hope everything you feel has given you some type of peace. Sincerely, stay strong.

  • @lorrainebarbieri3445
    @lorrainebarbieri3445 Рік тому +2

    Stay strong young lady. I think that you will overcome this in the most valuable way one day. You are a very intelligent young lady and I know that the dysfunction of your mother will not be carried on by you. You will make sure of that as you are so aware of it. Good luck and I hope you can have a happy life and use this as a tool I’m your life don’t let it use you. Xxx

  • @kimberlydavis5034
    @kimberlydavis5034 Рік тому +6

    I went through sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment. I feel your pain and you're very brave for telling your story.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому

      Thank you so much. We are survivors girl! I'll keep you in my prayers! 🙏🏽

  • @jugheadmullin
    @jugheadmullin 10 місяців тому

    I admire you being able to tell your full story, that takes so much courage. You are so strong, and so are so many other survivors. I've never been able to tell my full story to anyone except the police, but here's what most of the people in my life know. I'm a man that was assigned female at birth. I was sexually abused almost five years ago. It was right after I told people that I'm trans. One of the phrases that my abuser loved to say was "if you think you're not a girl, I'm going to show you how much of a girl you actually are." I grew up with my abuser, they're less than a year older than me, and they were my 'best friend' throughout my childhood. Countless men and women have been through these experiences, and we need to band together and fight to get all of the bad seeds plucked.

  • @hughunger
    @hughunger Рік тому +2

    So sorry for what happened to you, but God can help you overcome and make something good. Come out of it. Love you in the Lord take care can’t wait to see what God does with you.

  • @aldenpenney1
    @aldenpenney1 Рік тому +3

    You are a brave girl for telling your story.

  • @joannepatti884
    @joannepatti884 16 днів тому

    I’m so sorry you had to go through this . What a sick bastard. Stay strong chica and thank you for sharing your story. Continue to share with the world because your are being a voice for a lot of young girls and woman that never speak up. You’re awesome chica and brave for doing what you’re doing. Keep your head up chica🙏😊you will overcome this traumatic event . Give yourself time and trust God in all things 🙏

  • @elizeesylvains1062
    @elizeesylvains1062 Рік тому +2

    im sorry that this had to happen to u god bless u for telling ur story hope u can heal from this tragedy

  • @benhill31
    @benhill31 3 місяці тому

    I’m sorry this happened to you! It’s very sad that he took your childhood away and stained you mentally! God Bless you young lady!

  • @jellams1317
    @jellams1317 Рік тому +25

    You did nothing wrong. You had normal reactions to abnormal events. Always take care of yourself

  • @dj...channel2549
    @dj...channel2549 Рік тому +3

    I am totally understand your story.. because same happened to my family 🥺👍

  • @hasanmir
    @hasanmir Рік тому +2

    I'm so very sorry this happened to you.
    When your mom asked you if he did anything to you, did she ask any of your other siblings as well or just you?
    If she asked just you then it is obvious that she figured it out ar at least suspected but eventually did nothing and turned a blind eye. She might have done it out of fear as well because the guy was a felon with guns in the house. Still that was horrible of her.
    I wish you all the best and hope that you can heal and recover from this and live a great life.

  • @randymcadoo8977
    @randymcadoo8977 Рік тому

    That is so sad I pray she can get good help so she can lead a normal life, and have normal relationships.May God be with you ❤

  • @AndreaHagan-yi5il
    @AndreaHagan-yi5il 10 місяців тому +1

    When I was 4 I was raped by my dad and my mom did nothing about it my dad ended up getting me pregnant and had the baby at 12. We both have different perspectives but both should had not been parents I am glad that we are both are alive.

  • @andyhuang7526
    @andyhuang7526 Рік тому

    You are a strong woman and I hope you already find a man who can protect you and take care of you ! ❤you deserve way better ! ❤poor little girl- you !

  • @Cazador60140
    @Cazador60140 Рік тому

    You are a beautiful angel who lived with demons ,may God bless you all your life

  • @elope10000
    @elope10000 Рік тому +3

    I will never understand why a mother can't just have a man away from home. I have dedicated myself to not make the same mistake as my mother I will never bring a man into my home. I don't trust them. I went through almost the same thing, and she never noticed and even after I told her he was sexually harassing me...she still married him. It's like I didn't matter and as an old ass woman I can't let that go and I don't know how to let it go.

    • @kat-75
      @kat-75 Рік тому

      So you were a single mom n your kids got hurt so u couldn't trust them again after that?

  • @jailessawyatt-tu4np
    @jailessawyatt-tu4np Рік тому +1

    Mannnn destiny this just broke my whole heart you are very very brave to talk about this and i understand the point but oh my goodness 💔💔💔💔I am so sorry

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +2

      Yes, it’s something I’ve ran from my whole life. I’ve faced it and done the work. I won’t let it control me any longer. Thank you for listening! 🤍

    • @jailessawyatt-tu4np
      @jailessawyatt-tu4np Рік тому +2

      Your welcome I’m bout to talk to my girls now after hearing this just to tell them they can trust me with anything and just make sure they are aware

  • @carmensongao689
    @carmensongao689 Рік тому +3

    This happened to me but I never ever told anyone because he told me he was going to kill my sister (his girlfriend) so I didn’t know what to do and to this day I haven’t told anyone . I’m sorry this happened to you

    • @12yearssober
      @12yearssober 9 місяців тому

      It's not too late to tell someone

  • @tajos703
    @tajos703 2 місяці тому

    Hi, I just want to check on you to see how you’re doing. It sounds like you may be nearing a very stressful time. I hope you are continuing to heal with learning more & more trust for yourself by following your strengths & truths. You have immense courage to share your story. I understand the impact on yourself & your relationships, & I hope that little bit by little bit you learn & see that you can trust yourself & others. Hearing your story helps as it helps me relate, unlock, & step towards unburdening & healing. When we can relate & share our truths it helps us heal. Please let us know if you need anything (including anything related to paranormal things, that is the video that put you on my radar). Wishing you safe, secure, happy, & well.

  • @baileymoran8585
    @baileymoran8585 Рік тому +1

    I was around 13 when it happened the first time. It wasn’t a family member, thankfully. My abusers were a group of older peers who went to the same private school. My parents worked a lot and I was an only child. They would drive alongside of me when I was walking home from school. I knew them and got a ride from them the first few times. Then they would have a more harassing tone so I started ignoring them. I had formerly had a crush on one of them. But the things he would say made me find all of them disgusting. I finally stopped just passively ignoring them, and started yelling, and then one day, I threw a rock, hit the mirror of the driver’s SUV, and they stopped the car and got out. I tried to run, and something hit me in the back of the head. I woke up in an empty lot near my house, put my clothes back on, except for my missing underwear, and walked home. It was in a rural area and nobody saw a bloody tween girl walking in a daze. I got home, threw up, and called my parents. I they were out of town for something my dad was doing for work. I lied and said I wasn’t feeling well, and never told anyone until I was almost 30. By that point I had noticed a pattern. I could not spot dangerous people on my own life, and I had a fear of men. I had to address this thing that had happened so long ago. I never talked about it before that. Never really admitted to myself what likely happened because I was unconscious. I was afraid at first that they would show up at my house and kill me, at first. I was often alone, and they knew where I lived. Then I didn’t talk about it because I didn’t want to think about it. I thought I’d be in trouble for ‘instigating’ and for damaging their car. I thought nobody would believe me as the months and years went by. So many reasons. But it got to a point where I couldn’t keep it in anymore. I wish id talked sooner because my abusers were not that much older than me. Maybe they would have been young enough still to change with intense consequences and therapy. I can only imagine how sick they are as adults if that’s what they did at 16-17. I have never looked them up because I don’t want to know. I’m not ready. I don’t know if it scares me more to find out any one of them went on to do something worse, or to find out they grew up and never harmed another soul. Either scenario would probably raise so many questions and unhealthy old thoughts I’ve mostly gotten under control since admitting what happened. I had to do a lot of self work and therapy to undue the damage done by them, and later damage from others. I had to learn how to see red flags when they impacted me. I could always spot them with others, but I would run to them like a bull. I’m married now. My husband was the first person I told… and he is the first and only healthy relationship I’ve had. Healing is rough but I’ve healed more than I thought possible, though I feel like it’s a lifelong journey. Best of luck to you with your healing. You deserved none of this. You are right to forgive or not forgive, as we can’t really control that. Just saying the words doesn’t do shit. It’s something that may or may not be a part of your path. For me it feels more natural to just mentally grieve the people who hurt you, cut them out if/when applicable, and think of them less and less, but everyone is different. May you heal in a way that is best for you.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому

      Thank you so much for sharing this with me. It means a lot to me that you could open up and share your story. Thank you for that. I’ve done a lot of self work. I let the abuse run my life and damage the woman I was suppose to be. After a long time of healing and therapy I’m finally where I need to be. 🤍 Bless your heart. I figured sharing my story might help another person to not be scared to put their abusers on the stand. Come out and tell their truth. That’s all I wanted from this was to help someone else. Again, thank you for sharing!

  • @bdrakmrju7635
    @bdrakmrju7635 Рік тому +1

    I am so hurt by what you have gone through that I feel a knot in my chest, that someone did not notice it all throughout,. Please make a video how to make other young girls in your position should do to bring this out in the open right when first it happens. There exist protectors of the universe that young children need to know that they have to report to. Parents and teachers must strongly teach this that no matter how scared you are there is help available. It is a do or die situation, you have to report it or die.

  • @RoseorRosieHWeinstein
    @RoseorRosieHWeinstein 2 місяці тому

    I'm very sorry 😢 about what happened to you sweetie you're one brave young woman

  • @richardhankla6887
    @richardhankla6887 Рік тому +4

    I'm a75 year male, I love young people, men that do that crime to daughter, step daughters, or any female should be castrated. I'm so sorry as a father that you had to go through this, I'm so very sorry you had to go through this, stay strong Beautiful and God Bless You and the rest of your family.

    • @fgcpeak9591
      @fgcpeak9591 Рік тому

      you jusdt want a piece of the pie you old perv lol

  • @andrewill9308
    @andrewill9308 Рік тому +1

    My honest advice to you is make sure you're in thearphy and addressing these issues head on, if your in a relationship with someone make sure they are supportive, understanding and caring. If your single stay single till you have fully addressed and dealt with this for yourself first and foremost as you need to fully heal. Take all the time you need so when you decide to eventually deal with someone again your going into that situation on healthy strong grounds with the right mindset and mental state of mind. If you got a guy you still may have deep routed issues that needs to address so your partner will have to be willing to stand by you and be there for you. Other than that I got nothing but best wishes going forward

  • @abhimanyusingh5465
    @abhimanyusingh5465 Рік тому

    I loved the video and its so inspiring it was shot almost a year ago but to hear your story was truely inspiring and the events that occured were mind boggling at the same time lots of love Destiny From INDIA❤❤

  • @elaibesummers906
    @elaibesummers906 Рік тому

    Sorry you went through such a horrendous experience. Maybe your mum moved this sick monster in so quickly because he manipulated the situation. These sick monster's are master manipulators, they say and do anything to a child to get what they want. I can relate to your story, I was 9 years old. Your going to believe what those sick monster's say to you as a child. I don't understand how you ended up in the same bed, but in those days, it seems the norm. I can relate to pleading with your eyes, for someone to notice! Please get counselling if you have not had any, it does help. In those days people didn't want to see or chose to ignore it! my mum and dad knew and apart from throwing my half sibling out, 1 night, that was it. I needed to hear you say you refuse to let him affect your life anymore. That has helped me. Thank you for sharing such a difficult story. Your a beautiful lady and I wish you continued healing❤🙏🏾

  • @MamaBear009
    @MamaBear009 Рік тому +1

    I am 30 years old today and my whole family isn’t speaking to me because I told the police that my step dad tried to go down on me at the age of 15 first I hated myself for saying something because my twin sister said I should of kept it in the family 😢 now am getting married and I just gave birth to my daughter on Christmas Eve and I have no one to walk me down the isle only my fiancé’s family that will attend to our wedding just because everyone hates me for speaking up but am not gonna let it bother cause listening to your story I know it happens to almost everyone and I am not alone in this and at least I was strong enough to speak up and not a coward and been silent about it I also feel like it’s not fair smh but it’s okay all these bad ppl will attend to god when it’s judgement day

  • @expedientej.paranormal9465
    @expedientej.paranormal9465 Рік тому +6

    Keep your head up

  • @jackienyamunda8641
    @jackienyamunda8641 Рік тому +1

    I'm so sorry that you went through all that! Jesus loves you! I thank God that he delivered you out of that situation.

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому +4

      Thank you. I also thank him as well. He’s been great to me and although the devil tried to ruin me. My God is greater. 🤍

  • @stephenfiore9960
    @stephenfiore9960 Рік тому +1

    ..Horrific. Thank you for sharing, what a nightmare. Thank God he went to jail. I don’t know why God allows these things, but Jesus and God the father is our only hope for Heaven. Thank you for being brave. May God Bless you through the Lord Jesus Christ. Many Blessings to you. You are so beautiful inside and out trying to protect your sister and all.

  • @johnzook5491
    @johnzook5491 Рік тому

    Wow, its hard to express how bad I feel for this girl. I hope the rest of her life can somehow be great.

  • @betseyterry844
    @betseyterry844 10 місяців тому

    I completely agree with you. This is not your fault. It’s your mother’s. I truly believe your mother knew. She would have never asked you any questions if she didn’t. It’s probably better for you not to have any relationship with your mother. Save yourself, sometimes it not good to have relationships with your mother. Good luck with your life and try to find happiness.

  • @rolfkjellberg2403
    @rolfkjellberg2403 Рік тому

    Terrible he destroyd so much in your life I know from my own experiense ,thank you for talking about it.❤

  • @barbarabarlow1535
    @barbarabarlow1535 Рік тому +2

    Oh my. This girl is trapped. Hope she finds healing

  • @tonyaboggs5367
    @tonyaboggs5367 Місяць тому

    You are allowing him to affect you whenever you blame other people for what he did to you❤

  • @hav1byte
    @hav1byte Рік тому

    beautiful woman, so sorry, stay strong & prayers to you

  • @pimps1986
    @pimps1986 Рік тому +1

    Hi Destiny, how are you? I am very sorry this happened to you. Nobody should have to got through that. You were only 12 years old when this happened, that's much worse. The sexual assault happened for three years (3), holy s**t! The guy who raped you will get what's coming to him; that's messed up. At 27:00, I want to reach inside the computer screen and give you a big hug and tell you it's going to be okay. Thank you for being so brave to tell your story, we really appreciate it. I love you, God Bless you and have a nice day. (blows you a kiss)😘

  • @charles17508
    @charles17508 Рік тому

    Im a dad of 3 girls 16 13 and 11 you deserved a lot better and that sucks that you whent through that make sure your careful who comes around your kids .

  • @russellroot2670
    @russellroot2670 Рік тому

    He got 12yrs? Well that's a start for your healing because people hear you now. I think all here have had suffered some abuse and carry hate and anger that we'll deal with. All the best.

  • @carlosmark9840
    @carlosmark9840 11 місяців тому +1

    That predator picked the perfect victim if not for your sister he would still abuse you to this day you never would have spoke up…unfortunately this has happened to many times and most didn’t have a sister to save them.
    Your mom is at fault 100% and I understand your fear as a child.
    Hope your healing daily

  • @marioreyes2711
    @marioreyes2711 Рік тому

    Hello Destiny, I am so happy you told your story. Im sorry that happened to you. But it opened my eyes of my 1stGirlfriends and later my wifes feelings and how we went through this together. Because I walked in on her and her Dad, and I was threatened and eventually was made to participate and later it was a daily thing that was becoming as normal thing. I even felt sometimes that my girlfriend began to be more flirty. And noticed that the father would like to do stuff in front of me. And my GF would be naughty in front of my Mom and Dad. And I was worried to say something cuz I didnt want to hurt her, but I started noticing that she was starting to enjoy it. And would tell me do you like watching me. And I felt so bad that yes I started to enjoy watching her. Our sexlife was very good and she would talk about the rape like it turned her on talking about it. And sometimes I would get jealous. Then I would feel bad for feeling that way. There are alot of things I cant say cuz im too embarrassed and the privacy of my family. The threat was real her Dad and my Dad were Mafia members and I'll continue another time. But thanks for being brave, and with all the respect in the world your beautiful and very sexy and like my GF a early developer and it worked against you both. Im here if you need anything I feel like your my family Lol.❤❤❤ God bless

  • @vinnyivanov2906
    @vinnyivanov2906 11 місяців тому

    Take away here is to not have broken families and to speak up, dont stay quiet. People need to talk about this out loud and not have this be a big secret. There are truly sick people among us and the victims need to know that we will not be quiet

  • @WilliamCarr-tn5qp
    @WilliamCarr-tn5qp 5 місяців тому

    I agree with you that it should never happen. 😢 and it's not your fault that someone else had a sick mind.

  • @Itaintover239
    @Itaintover239 5 місяців тому

    sorry this happen to you glad you made it out!!!

  • @shirleyhilton-v5c
    @shirleyhilton-v5c 4 місяці тому

    You did an amazing job. God bless you

  • @dagmawizelalem2522
    @dagmawizelalem2522 Рік тому +2

    i am so sorry.

  • @49Macman
    @49Macman Місяць тому

    My prayers are with you!

  • @leebarnes5679
    @leebarnes5679 5 місяців тому

    Hello I know what you want to because my wife also went through very similar thing the least she was able to put her life back together properly I did lose her February 16th of this year but you on girl we all do just remember be strong

  • @Kevin-b2po
    @Kevin-b2po 11 місяців тому

    Sad 😢 I’m sorry you went through that

  • @tonyaboggs5367
    @tonyaboggs5367 Місяць тому

    Girl has a mother not only would I be devastated if my child ever got touched from anybody I ever talk to...... But if my child held a grudge against me I would feel more shame. Nobody deserves it not even your mother

  • @Jamal33270
    @Jamal33270 Рік тому

    I have 2 daughters! Smh! This heartbreaking to me! I protect my daughters by always asking them questions. They are teenagers. I often take them to the doctor to see if they are still Virgins. My oldest is 15! Her sister is 13! I talk to them about what someone shouldn’t do or touch their body. I can’t imagine how any person can have this kind of evil in them. This happen to one of my friend’s daughters. His girlfriend always isolated his daughter from him while she was with any and every man. Once he asked his daughter what was wrong she couldn’t explain it . He seen her energy changed any something was wrong. After I looked at her I immediately said. Let’s go find the dude she with. Soon as we pulled up at her house the guy had fear on his face. If he wasn’t guilty of anything that energy wouldn’t have shown itself. Let’s just say . He won’t be doing anything else to anyone else kid.. I have a deep hatred for this type of Evil. After that I really surrounded my girls. I will protect any kid I see.
    Your such a beautiful woman. You are strong ! Watching this video and hearing you are hurt brings the wrath of out me to protect you. As a father of girls. I hope you are healing and finding a way to see the beauty that was taken away from you!
    May God protect you the rest of your days ! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @danielessiet4063
    @danielessiet4063 Рік тому +1

    It is heartbreaking!

  • @liliarose791
    @liliarose791 Рік тому +1

    Sorry this happened to you I can relate ❤

  • @anthonymorgan7972
    @anthonymorgan7972 6 місяців тому

    This was not your fault he was what we call a predator and you are beautiful and you are worth a lot more hope this will give you peace of mind 🇬🇧❤❤❤❤❤take care my friend 🙏🙏

  • @brianscott5857
    @brianscott5857 Рік тому

    I'm sorry you didn't do anything wrong he did I am a guy and I pray to God you can have a great rest of your life.

  • @1pcmedic
    @1pcmedic Рік тому +7

    Very sad.......

    • @thehennesseyfamily583
      @thehennesseyfamily583  Рік тому

      Yes, very. Literally the worst moments of my life.

    • @1pcmedic
      @1pcmedic Рік тому +1

      @@thehennesseyfamily583 You are a very strong person to tell your story so that others may be able to alert the police on the first attempt. It will be tough but look for the positive things in the future. NOTHING that happened is your fault, NOTHING. Never let a monster define who YOU are. From the way you speak one can tell you have a lot going for you. You are young, wish you the best!