High Anxiety: Joy Purdy overcomes bridge fears

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  • @ryanshane8836
    @ryanshane8836 2 роки тому +76

    This should win an award. I really appreciate her for doing this.
    That bridge has scared me multiple times.

    • @LeahIsHereNow
      @LeahIsHereNow 3 місяці тому

      I’m crying because first of all just to see somebody else actually go through it and to know they really do understand, and then to see how little compassionate takes to be vulnerable and share so that you can help other people.
      People have been so horrible with no compassion at all. They make fun of me, even if I’m having a panic attack while they are driving on the highway. They make fun of me. It’s really starting to make me realize how many bad actors have been around me my whole life.

  • @leeannthomas6052
    @leeannthomas6052 2 роки тому +64

    Thanks for being brave enough to share this! Lots of people have anxiety with bridges.

  • @mysticRev
    @mysticRev 2 роки тому +18

    Wow, this is me 100%! Thank you for being brave enough to show your vulnerability to help others. 👍👍

  • @3BunniesandMe
    @3BunniesandMe Рік тому +20

    You are so brave to do this. This is me when I drive on bridges or big highways. I used to not care but as I get older the fear gets worse. I cry, breathe hard, and feel like I will pass out. I found that repeating a phrase over and over while I drive helps me take my mind off it.

    • @cocoteeeie
      @cocoteeeie Рік тому +5

      Same when I was younger it didn’t bother me but now it limits me so much and I hate it.

    • @kathyb72
      @kathyb72 Рік тому +4

      Same here! It's so maddening. I never used to be scared of things like this.

  • @sooofunny37
    @sooofunny37 5 місяців тому +4

    Thank you, Joy! If only my shrink was as good as yours. I decided this week to end my therapy sessions and just watch UA-cam because they just take notes and offer this Veteran zero tips on how to improve my anxiety. This 2min + video helped me more than a year's worth of "therapy."

    • @LeahIsHereNow
      @LeahIsHereNow 3 місяці тому

      Yeah, it sucks that so many people just blindly tell you to go to therapy because that’s gonna magically solve all your problems.
      I don’t even know how many therapist I’ve seen in my lifetime because I’ve been hospitalized before and stuff, but it’s probably at least a couple of dozen and not one of those people help me at all . In fact, they made things worse.
      When I was 19 and going through unimaginable trauma from every direction, I did drugs with needles and when I went to the hospital, the doctor told me, oh, it’s not that big of a deal. I’ve seen a lot worse. Pretty sure if you shoot up one time it’s a real big deal or could potentially be eventually.
      One therapist told me that I could not have mental illness because I was dressed too well.
      One therapist told me about how her client liked to have intercourse with his llama. I swear to God, I’m not making this up. I wish I was.
      One therapist told me that I could not have drug or alcohol problems because I have children and I’m a mother.
      One therapist told me that she could not treat me anymore and I had to leave because I told her I THOUGHT I might have borderline personality disorder. She literally made me leave.
      One therapist told me I had dissociative identity disorder because sometimes my handwriting was a little bit different.
      And the therapist talked on the phone told me that my ex-boyfriend was probably going to try to kill me, and I should leave immediately because I was an imminent danger and when I told her he did drugs, she said I was really in trouble because he was sprinkling hocus-pocus on it.
      And I can’t tell you how many times ER nurses or psychiatric care providers have told me that my life isn’t that bad and how dare I try to kill myself and I’m just a weak loser. Maybe not in those words, but that’s what they were saying.
      The Psychiatric community in this country is a cruel joke at best, but I’m glad she found a good one. And shared with all of us!

  • @DavidNordhausen
    @DavidNordhausen Рік тому +12

    Thank you for not being afraid of showing vulnerability!

    • @LeahIsHereNow
      @LeahIsHereNow 3 місяці тому

      Can you imagine how amazing it would be if more people actually did this so we could all help each other instead of judging each other and sometimes even making fun of each other when everybody knows they have vulnerabilities.
      Everybody. Has. Vulnerabilities.

  • @ToOpen6seven
    @ToOpen6seven Рік тому +7

    Thank you for taking the time to do this!! I was like you, just the shear presence of the bridge would put me into a panic and for me, I took the next road to avoid it.

  • @miguelreyna5066
    @miguelreyna5066 Рік тому +30

    I think the fear in those kinds of bridges is not just the height but that there is no shoulders where you can pull over. That’s a big trigger for me

    • @MadeInNewYork73
      @MadeInNewYork73 Рік тому +8

      I don't like to closed in AT ALL...even those concrete barriers in construction. Short..OK. BUT......long construction, can't do it. No exit

    • @henrynegro8397
      @henrynegro8397 7 місяців тому +3

      @@MadeInNewYork73I hate construction zones. Especially where I live in Indiana where they like to surprise you with sudden lane changes with no signs.

    • @henrynegro8397
      @henrynegro8397 7 місяців тому +3

      Don’t get me wrong, I respect why they repair roads. But please for gods sake put some signs on the road.

    • @summertime_trolls
      @summertime_trolls 5 місяців тому

      it’s the shoulders for me too! i wish so basalt bridges had shoulders…

  • @ginadrew153
    @ginadrew153 Рік тому +15

    I feel your pain. I hate having this anxiety. I love to travel but this is getting to be a major thing when planning a trip 😢

  • @mg9009
    @mg9009 Рік тому +17

    Why the f.... did the government not build higher walls or fences on the sides of bridges and overpasses? Why so narrow too? Should be 3 lanes and big walls on either side. Thats what really freaks me out...knowing that if I crash or pass out from the fear of heights that I will die. I feel exposed...like there is no safety. It feels like you are all alone in the sky. Then seeing the freeway below the freeway below the freeway...IT FEELS SO UNREASONABLE.

  • @MackDaddyVic
    @MackDaddyVic 6 місяців тому +7

    It’s so interesting to see this reporter going from super professional to very vulnerable and scared.

    • @LeahIsHereNow
      @LeahIsHereNow 3 місяці тому

      I wonder if it’s interesting to see you go from very professional to very vulnerable and scared. Or have you ever been brave enough?

    • @Shiggiesmalls02
      @Shiggiesmalls02 11 днів тому

      ⁠@@LeahIsHereNowit’s just an observation, it’s an uncommon thing to see and it’s interesting that she was willing to do this, he isn’t saying anything antagonistic so why are you?

  • @lukefromtexas
    @lukefromtexas 3 місяці тому +3

    I’ve just started suffering from this out of nowhere. I have no fear of heights. My body just starts tensing up, breathing gets shallow, and hands and feet become sweaty. I’m going to try this. Thank you.

    • @gardeniagorgeous4232
      @gardeniagorgeous4232 2 місяці тому +1

      Hi Luke, same here! Its so weird, I used to zip through highways, overpasses, bridges, as a teen and young adult and then in 30s, it popped up. I hate it. I feel less independent. I can't visit some friends or go places I want. It feels unfair. It sucks!

    • @monicasnotes
      @monicasnotes 28 днів тому

      Me too, it came out of nowhere a couple years ago. I learned that I was low in some nutrients, especially magnesium. Sometimes diet contributes. Maybe my comment will help somebody out there.

  • @tinyhouse9959
    @tinyhouse9959 2 роки тому +8

    Thank you so, so much for filming this event - your reaction is so similar to my very own. I cried with you!

  • @DRNKONWTR
    @DRNKONWTR 5 місяців тому +2

    I feel so heard watching and listening to this. Thank you for making this a story. It's a big deal for a lot of us. I really would like to conquer this fear so that I can get around more.

  • @patriciasawicki9774
    @patriciasawicki9774 2 роки тому +10

    Thanks for sharing, I have a fear of some bridges too.

  • @LeahIsHereNow
    @LeahIsHereNow 3 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for doing this! I’m crying and watching go through because I know how it feels. What a brave and amazing thing to do to be vulnerable.
    It makes me feel less of a basket case because of course you are a beautiful and very accomplished woman. So many people just treat you like you are a loser when you have these kind of issues and it’s really great to know that other people are going through it and I’m not just a lost cause.
    Because I need to drive on the highway to get to the right kind of jobs.

  • @Junjo11
    @Junjo11 2 роки тому +13

    Yes, this is like me. I have a fear of bridge. When I have to go offer it. I start having panick attack from few days before. This video will definitely help me to overcome.

  • @eleanorsvenson2958
    @eleanorsvenson2958 Рік тому

    She is so brave!!! So kind to share this common fear to help people and show you can overcome.

  • @wildorchird
    @wildorchird Рік тому +2

    This video was SO helpful!! Thanks 🙏

  • @B27-o2c
    @B27-o2c 2 роки тому +14

    I also suffer from this. I know exactly how she feels.

  • @DesireeHaskins
    @DesireeHaskins 3 місяці тому +2

    after the Baltimore bridge collapse I gained a new fear it didn't dawn of me of a bridge collapsing...I went over the Brooklyn bridge in the passenger seat with my baby father and had my Apple Watch on my heart rate was insane..even going through the holland tunnel thinking what if it floods or something.

    • @jmwasp
      @jmwasp 3 місяці тому +1

      Yup! I think my bridge fear comes from being stuck on the 59th outside lane when someone jumped. Almost three hours on there!

  • @blackthought6133
    @blackthought6133 4 місяці тому +3

    For me its the approach... once i hit the base if the bridge im okkkkkk

  • @lili19743
    @lili19743 Рік тому +3

    Yep thats me. Scared of heights. I don't cry. I break out in a cold sweat all over my body and hold my breath literally.

  • @gerardkinsella6034
    @gerardkinsella6034 Рік тому +6

    The fear and panic is real 1000% cant do bridges multi story car parks multi story shopping malls hills mountains cliffs tall buildings open spaces escolaters anything higher than a first floor is a no go feel like passing out anytime near these even looking at them anxiety ruins your life

  • @summertime_trolls
    @summertime_trolls 5 місяців тому

    i commend this woman for being vulnerable and showing her process. i have this exact experience living in the bay area. there is one bridge i avoid and will have that very same response.

  • @charliedemosmusic
    @charliedemosmusic Рік тому +1

    I’m working on it. This gives me hope

  • @stacej8957
    @stacej8957 2 роки тому +9

    I understand your anxiety it doesn't help either when you have idiots tailgating you rushing you across the bridge... Sometime what I did is I just listen to music if you know you're going across the bridge pick a good song that you can listen to and if you can do two things at once you make it.. don't follow the car in front of you too close... If the drivers respect the other drivers as they are driving, driving will be a good thing.

  • @karenc.6144
    @karenc.6144 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for your vulnerability! The same thing happens to me. I am doing better making myself do it!!

  • @marcussmith1338
    @marcussmith1338 Місяць тому

    Reading these comments, I realize it’s not just me. This started about 8 years ago. My son was playing AAU basketball and I had to drive him out to West Virginia thru western Maryland. This fear started with driving through mountains. It just overtook me all of a sudden and didn’t know where it came from. Since then it’s also moved to the fear of driving over big bridges

  • @leeriffee4606
    @leeriffee4606 5 місяців тому +1

    There was only one bridge I was ever afraid to drive over, and that was back when I was a teen with limited driving experience. I feared and avoided the Francis Scott Key Bridge (how ironic!) in Baltimore because I had seen pictures of it on TV where it looked for all the world like the most terrifying roller coaster ever. I had a bad phobia of rollercoasters back then and this local news channel often showed the Key Bridge from an angle that made it look gut wrenchingly steep and tall. It wasn't so much that it WAS a bridge, but my fear of it was all about the apparent steepness. There was no way in hell I was going to try and drive over something like that....
    The Key Bridge was easy to avoid (as were roller coasters) because I seldom had any reason to go to south Baltimore. That is, until one day I got lost (back in the days of paper maps) and went the wrong way on Rt 695...I got to the toll booth and thought I was going to go thru one of the tunnels, but boy was I in for a big surprise! Not only was I lost, it was a rainy winter day and that made me even more anxious. Suddenly on the horizon my nightmare appeared, and by then there was no exit (I can relate to the feeling of being trapped with no were to go but forward). I could have pulled off on the shoulder before the bridge, but still, there was no way to turn back.
    Instead, I punched the gas and gripped the wheel, determined to make it across that towering metal monster. And I did, breathing a sigh of relief that I had braved the Key Bridge. It was no where near as bad as they made it look on tv.
    As for the roller coasters, a few years later I was able to conquer that fear and since then I've become a huge fan of amusement parks and thrill rides.

  • @xavierowens8032
    @xavierowens8032 Рік тому

    She is so powerful and strong and beautiful

  • @77D777
    @77D777 2 роки тому +7

    Everyone is hard in duval till you cross the Dames point in the rain 😂

  • @brookecomeaux8880
    @brookecomeaux8880 Рік тому

    Good for you! It's a major phobia for me.

  • @jmi4265
    @jmi4265 7 місяців тому +2

    I thought it was just me. I feel that for some reason I'm going to let go of the steering wheel even though I'm holding on to it so then my hands get very sweaty so I become more nervous thinking that now for sure I will not have control of the steering wheel. I am unable to breath and have to crank up the air con. It's just awful and upsetting.

  • @bumblebeetv355
    @bumblebeetv355 Рік тому +1

    I use to cross that bridge every day for school. I remember the rails use to be there. I'm 47 now been in ATL since 94. But when I visit home I still hate crossing that bridge.

  • @EnergyCourtier
    @EnergyCourtier 6 місяців тому

    Great video.

  • @faa8882
    @faa8882 2 роки тому +6

    This anxiety seemed to have started 2yrs ago for me.

  • @wildstreak
    @wildstreak Рік тому

    Thank You!!

  • @robbyjacks667
    @robbyjacks667 Рік тому +2

    You are not alone I drive for a living and when I hit bridges I have to slow down to 10-15 miles under the speed limit and worry I'm going to pass out almost every time

  • @bluecollarbiker8005
    @bluecollarbiker8005 2 роки тому +10

    Try riding a motorcycle over it when the grade used to be on it and looking down at 50 mph the grade disappeared at that speed🤣

  • @LeahIsHereNow
    @LeahIsHereNow 3 місяці тому

    When we were in San Diego, just looking at the freeway that went basically over the ocean made me almost pass out. Somehow, I was able to be a passenger riding on it, but oh my Lord… Just the way it looked was terrifying. I don’t even know why!

  • @haulingfuel4759
    @haulingfuel4759 2 роки тому +8

    I’m more stressed about how bad the road is leading up to the bridge. Those big metal plates sticking out of the asphalt are real fun too. Great job major Curry!

    • @smitastic7030
      @smitastic7030 2 роки тому

      I would check into therapy for yourself. You have negative, pessimistic and instigating tendencies. If you're not alone yet, you will be.

  • @npwarr2651
    @npwarr2651 Рік тому

    This is so cool, thanks for sharing the story. One thing that helps me is to try to move my brain into a kinetic channel where I rub my legs and focus on that sensation instead of going over the bridge in the Heights and everything I’m taking visuallly

  • @movingtoportlandoregon
    @movingtoportlandoregon Рік тому

    Where is the link to the psychologist's video training for this you mention? I don't see the link. Great story and content!

  • @xxTheCatsMeow
    @xxTheCatsMeow 11 місяців тому +1

    I have a bridge phobia. I get vertigo, my knees feel weak, and I start panicking. If I have to cross a bridge while walking, I have to close my eyes and hold whoever im with so they can guide me, if I’m alone I simply won’t cross it. Can’t imagine driving over a bridge. I get an insane fight or flight response. But there’s no where to flight to, because you’re stuck on the bridge so once you’re on the bridge I feel stuck and there’s nowhere to escape to.

  • @MadeInNewYork73
    @MadeInNewYork73 Рік тому +1

    Had this since 1978. I know the tricks but there's times the tools don't do it. 😢

  • @ericgamble8728
    @ericgamble8728 Рік тому +1

    I’m having the same problem crossing the Walt Whitman bridge near philly thnx for the info

    • @natep9997
      @natep9997 9 місяців тому

      I'm the same. I will not cross the Walt Whitman at all. I'm from south jersey. I'll get off of 42 and take 130 north to the Tacony to go to Philly.

  • @blakmomba7923
    @blakmomba7923 10 місяців тому

    Go on get over it!!! You got this 🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @kathycarraher5014
    @kathycarraher5014 3 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for this.I have nightmares about going over a big bridge just like you video showed .Sometimes it is just the on ramp leading up to the bridge that starts the fear..I have no idea what the dream means but it is a reoccurring theme.

    • @THERSC216
      @THERSC216 3 місяці тому

      Same, going westbound on one bridge over the Cuyahoga River in Cleveland scares me. Eastbound I am ok other bridges over the Cuyahoga I am ok.

  • @blakmomba7923
    @blakmomba7923 10 місяців тому +1

    Me going over the sky way 😂😂😂

  • @deborahjackson3564
    @deborahjackson3564 2 роки тому +6

    I have the same problem

  • @jmjpmc
    @jmjpmc 2 роки тому +1

    GOOD FOR YOU.....🥳💃❤️

  • @tonymemory2279
    @tonymemory2279 2 роки тому

    JOY, On June 13th 2012. I left the Jacksonville Jail and WALKED OVER THE MATHEWS BRIDGE AT NIGHT!!!!!!!! Yes i violated the no walking rule. but stayed on the edge the whole time. I was 30 years old. A little nervous!! Its was construction Material all over like they were painting it. but i didn't let that scare me. I Give The Most Hgh God ALL THE CREDIT!!

  • @natep9997
    @natep9997 9 місяців тому

    I have extreme panic. Severe racing thoughts and panic on bridges. I honestly don't know how you did it or continue to.

  • @kjtrucker4553
    @kjtrucker4553 Рік тому +1

    I move over in the left lane and it doesn't feel so bad because it doesn't seem as if your hanging on the edge

  • @200x-v4k
    @200x-v4k Рік тому +3

    If I had been that scared, I wouldn’t have been crying, I would’ve been blacking out or freezing

    • @winniebarker
      @winniebarker Рік тому

      That happened to me today same thing the cops was talking about me I rather call them panic cause a wreck I'm saving my life and saving others let them laugh

    • @henrynegro8397
      @henrynegro8397 Місяць тому +1

      @@winniebarkerthere’s one bridge in Maryland that’s notorious for scaring a lot of people that the police dedicated an entire Division to escorting people across.

    • @winniebarker
      @winniebarker Місяць тому

      @henrynegro8397 aww that's amazing I been scared heights since I was a child

  • @darrylsmith1471
    @darrylsmith1471 Рік тому

    Some people fear crossing bridges because of the height of the bridge above the water and the tall cables and poles, they are there for your safety and to support the bridge not to frighten the driver, me personally, I am not afraid of the bridge itself, I am afraid of someone running into me on the bridge, your fear will go away once you start to drive over the bridge and reach the other side safely.

    • @gabrielleabraham5773
      @gabrielleabraham5773 Рік тому

      Yep that’s my fear even if I haven’t drove over a bridge yet by myself.

    • @kenrutherford1109
      @kenrutherford1109 9 місяців тому

      I see what you mean. I'm afraid to cross the Sunshine Skyway Bridge it's so high!

  • @rr7firefly
    @rr7firefly 2 роки тому +3

    Why was Doctor Pimentel laughing? I find that maddening.

  • @wendyj.3858
    @wendyj.3858 Рік тому

    This is how I feel just driving to the store.

  • @tonycocchiara7445
    @tonycocchiara7445 7 днів тому

    Im a man and 6 years ago i developed a phobia of bridges, im not sure what to do , can anyone help ?

  • @Douglas-1994
    @Douglas-1994 Рік тому

    I'm 30 years old and I've never driven on a Highway or Interstate by my self in my life.

    • @stephaniec7454
      @stephaniec7454 Рік тому

      i have avoided them for years now i drive on the highway everyday to work thanks to therapy. im still not a passenger

  • @thinthin54
    @thinthin54 Рік тому

    I have the same fear and the bridges I cross are not nearly as long or high.😧

  • @xavierrose8208
    @xavierrose8208 Рік тому

    I just wanted to tell her “Girl I got you, it’s okay” poor thing was like me

  • @gerardkinsella6034
    @gerardkinsella6034 Рік тому

    In the same boat we’ll done 💪

  • @allboroughllcfilm
    @allboroughllcfilm Рік тому

    I’m going through this right now 😢😢😢😢

  • @JB-fq9dp
    @JB-fq9dp 9 місяців тому

    I drive to Sacramento weekly and avoid the Benicia-Martinez Bridge and take Hwy 5 /99 instead. 🤣

  • @nazofarf5949
    @nazofarf5949 5 місяців тому

    I get anxiety after I become mother now I’m freaking to drive on high way or on bridges 😢😢😢😢

  • @GBooneoh
    @GBooneoh 2 роки тому

    haha i had the same thing. where im from our only bridge was 20 yards!

  • @Xodeladelamore
    @Xodeladelamore 2 роки тому +1

    This the worst i get this now alot on the highway its so annoyyng

  • @theodorehaskins3756
    @theodorehaskins3756 7 місяців тому

    So I’ve never heard of someone who actually drives a car having this type of anxiety about driving over a bridge.
    I am, however, happy to see that you have conquered this fear, and it’s clear from your heart rate, that this is no joke for someone who has experienced such an anxiety attack, particularly, when you have a situation where it almost caused you to crash into another vehicle.
    I mean that’s quite a traumatic experience for you have, particularly if it caused you to relive the experience over and over and over again.
    So at first I said, nah I don’t think this is real, she’s gotta be faking, as I’ve never heard anyone that had a fear of driving over a bridge, but being hooked up to that heart monitor proves that this isn’t fake, that it is real and having a panic attack situation isn’t something that anyone want to go through, and I certainly wouldn’t wish this on anyone, not even some of my worst enemies.
    So it’s hard for me to say that, because, like you said, about getting stressed out with your kids, but whatever your trigger is, this looks like a technique that anyone can use in the privacy of their own home to try to calm themselves, and realize that it’s really all in your head, and sometimes you gotta get out of your head so to speak, and this technique may help you or anyone to do just that, and hey, what do you have to lose?

    • @gardeniagorgeous4232
      @gardeniagorgeous4232 2 місяці тому

      Look at the comments sir! There are many of us. We don't have a ton of bridges where I live, but just going on really high overpasses I have the same reaction. I worry I will black out, drive off, lose control, the height alone makes me want to barf. It's horrendous.

  • @Treyvonstorytime
    @Treyvonstorytime Рік тому

    I am only scared of the bridge is called the misspie river me:💀💀💀💀

  • @mikegruber172
    @mikegruber172 Рік тому

    That is me

  • @Treyvonstorytime
    @Treyvonstorytime Рік тому

    It's not me though

    • @200x-v4k
      @200x-v4k Рік тому +1

      Then you do t need to watch it nor comment

  • @jmeree
    @jmeree 5 місяців тому

    This me

  • @kellyjones179
    @kellyjones179 2 роки тому +2

    All women?

    • @200x-v4k
      @200x-v4k Рік тому +3

      There are men with anxiety too we just don’t hear about them as often because I guess they are more embarrassed because it’s a huge giant thing for a man to admit in front of other men that he’s scared I understand

    • @mikegruber172
      @mikegruber172 Рік тому

      @@200x-v4k I am scared

  • @Chinoponce150
    @Chinoponce150 2 роки тому +4

    Good acting 🎭

    • @stopcensorship7365
      @stopcensorship7365 2 роки тому +12

      That wasn't acting. Exactly the same thing happens to me.

    • @gardeniagorgeous4232
      @gardeniagorgeous4232 2 місяці тому

      Hope you never are vulnerable with something and people accuse you of lying.

  • @gregdouglas5405
    @gregdouglas5405 2 роки тому +2

    That's silly joy

  • @HollywoodClipzz
    @HollywoodClipzz 6 місяців тому

    Lol people are scared of bridges really?? 😂😂

  • @dai4358
    @dai4358 Рік тому +1

    fake LOL