Wow. This completely changed my perspective. You are so right that the problem lies in my own head and I can't blame anyone but myself, but it feels so good to know that I also have all the power to change it. I can hardly believe you were ever awkward because you seem so effortlessly cool but I guess the coolest people are always the ones who had it rough and learned from it. Thanks a lot :)
Love your videos bro. I actually started my social skills journey a couple of weeks before I discovered your channel. However, your videos fueled my momentum drastically, especially when it comes to dealing with those loses, embarrasing moments and not overthinking. I have two thinks that I would love your advise on. 1. I always find myself trying to imitate your how you speak. I would really appreciate a guide on speaking skills / voice in general. 2. What do you do in social situations that you just are not comfortable in? (For me its always cooking with friends. I feel really bad at cooking and in those situations I always close off and behave awkwardly) Thanks again man, its only a matter of time and persistance until you hit it big.
@@gerthain6382 thank you for the comment, Gert. It sounds like you’re on your WAY with your social journey, I have no doubt big progress is coming soon. I’ll get cooking on a guide to speaking👨🍳 Something to keep in mind with situations you’re uncomfortable in is the fact that it’s only in this moment that you feel that way. The feeling will pass. When you do it enough, one, you’ll get better at cooking (definitely a win), but two, you’ll no longer be uncomfortable just because it’s your new normal, something you do with friends all the time. What might help is just really thinking and journaling, “why do I get uncomfortable in this situation, really?” When you have an answer, ask “why” and then again “why”, until you reach a deep root cause. Then you can assess, “is it rational or bring any value to my life to feel this way?”. Just by labeling and facing what you’re really feeling, you kill a lot of the power it has over you and you’re able to change. Thank you again for your support bro, keep me updated on your journey.
My biggest problem is I’m not confident, I’ve had a shit life so far and I’ve been really alone and I’m not proud of the way I look and if anything bad happens I blame it on the way I look, I’ve always been like this, if someone doesn’t want to be my friend or doesn’t text back or whatever I just blame it on myself and it’s quite hard to change that
@@Tortl3_3 that’s a difficult place to be in bro. I used to be very insecure about how I looked and had some similar mindsets. A huge shift for me was realizing it’s never personal. Life isn’t fair but most times your results come from your actions. This is incredibly important to know because it means you can change your actions to change your results. If someone doesn’t want to be your friend or rejects you, it’s not personal, it never is. They have other shit going on. The first step to changing is acting on that even if you don’t yet believe it. Once you start to see a difference, your mindset will start to change. The world will start to feel almost malleable and that’s such a great place to be because you start to feel powerful again. It first starts with belief you can do better (become more attractive, more social, a better flirt) or if not full belief, doing it anyway until you see your results change. Hope that helped bro, keep up the good effort👍
could you please make a video explaining how you speak so nicely? in an earlier video you said you speak from your belly or smthg..could you please elaborate about that🙏🙏 i also find your voice a little 'seductive' lol
@@cool_dude_27 good question, I feel like I didn’t exactly cover that well enough. The point is to be completely honest. If someone says “how are you”, to genuinely take the question in and think about it. I like to say how I’m genuinely feeling, then give a reason behind it. I might say, “bro, I’m on top of the world right now because I just had the best pasta of my life.”
@@hey_wassup-hg9rn great question bro, there’s a certain energy you bring when you exercise restraint that is really attractive to give off. I’d love to go more in depth on a video if it’s something you’d like to see :)
How are you doing?
Better than yesterday
@@st8tch790 this^^
Not a guy but this still seems helpful because I'm new to college and don't really have any friends from high school
@@tolmeme4102 you got this👍
Wow. This completely changed my perspective. You are so right that the problem lies in my own head and I can't blame anyone but myself, but it feels so good to know that I also have all the power to change it. I can hardly believe you were ever awkward because you seem so effortlessly cool but I guess the coolest people are always the ones who had it rough and learned from it. Thanks a lot :)
@@rainyday9002 that’s really kind of you to say, thank you. Keep me updated you how things go🤝
I'm new to your channel and I already love your vids. I needed social advice and your videos have helped me out so much. Keep posting more.
Sick video dude, I was surprised to see you didn’t have more subs.
@@swahilayplays thanks man, grateful for your comment👍
Great vid man! I feel like it's just a matter of time until that subscriber count skyrockets, really just amazing quality content!
@@AntoniosSpiliotopoulos thank you Antonios, thanks super kind!
Love your videos bro. I actually started my social skills journey a couple of weeks before I discovered your channel. However, your videos fueled my momentum drastically, especially when it comes to dealing with those loses, embarrasing moments and not overthinking.
I have two thinks that I would love your advise on.
1. I always find myself trying to imitate your how you speak. I would really appreciate a guide on speaking skills / voice in general.
2. What do you do in social situations that you just are not comfortable in? (For me its always cooking with friends. I feel really bad at cooking and in those situations I always close off and behave awkwardly)
Thanks again man, its only a matter of time and persistance until you hit it big.
@@gerthain6382 thank you for the comment, Gert. It sounds like you’re on your WAY with your social journey, I have no doubt big progress is coming soon.
I’ll get cooking on a guide to speaking👨🍳
Something to keep in mind with situations you’re uncomfortable in is the fact that it’s only in this moment that you feel that way. The feeling will pass. When you do it enough, one, you’ll get better at cooking (definitely a win), but two, you’ll no longer be uncomfortable just because it’s your new normal, something you do with friends all the time.
What might help is just really thinking and journaling, “why do I get uncomfortable in this situation, really?” When you have an answer, ask “why” and then again “why”, until you reach a deep root cause. Then you can assess, “is it rational or bring any value to my life to feel this way?”.
Just by labeling and facing what you’re really feeling, you kill a lot of the power it has over you and you’re able to change.
Thank you again for your support bro, keep me updated on your journey.
My biggest problem is I’m not confident, I’ve had a shit life so far and I’ve been really alone and I’m not proud of the way I look and if anything bad happens I blame it on the way I look, I’ve always been like this, if someone doesn’t want to be my friend or doesn’t text back or whatever I just blame it on myself and it’s quite hard to change that
@@Tortl3_3 that’s a difficult place to be in bro. I used to be very insecure about how I looked and had some similar mindsets. A huge shift for me was realizing it’s never personal. Life isn’t fair but most times your results come from your actions. This is incredibly important to know because it means you can change your actions to change your results. If someone doesn’t want to be your friend or rejects you, it’s not personal, it never is. They have other shit going on.
The first step to changing is acting on that even if you don’t yet believe it. Once you start to see a difference, your mindset will start to change. The world will start to feel almost malleable and that’s such a great place to be because you start to feel powerful again.
It first starts with belief you can do better (become more attractive, more social, a better flirt) or if not full belief, doing it anyway until you see your results change.
Hope that helped bro, keep up the good effort👍
This video felt like listening to a best friend
@@chaneke984 you and me be like: 🤝
Real good video, i was really confused by how little likes you have now
glad algorythm got me here, good job
@@kirr.p thank you :)
The NPC multiple choice responses are thee worst 😭
@@karasu_tengu14 truth, I’m just out here trynna not be an NPC
could you please make a video explaining how you speak so nicely? in an earlier video you said you speak from your belly or smthg..could you please elaborate about that🙏🙏 i also find your voice a little 'seductive' lol
@@cool_dude_27 I’ll get cooking👨🍳
@@Luke_Grenoble thanks!!
love your content bro
@@noahfanson4040 thank you for your support brother
Really like your videos
@@arindamsaha789 thank you Arindam, I super appreciate it
Me going up to a big guy
You look liek you love food
Me after🤕
How are you doing?
Better than yesterday
I feel regulated enough
Not too bad, but I’m ready to go
Excited for the weekend
this guy cooks
@@theredsaurian *chefs kiss*
hey bro what would you say if someone asked you, "how are you?" and "what are you up to?". idk what to say other than "fine" and "nothing new"
@@cool_dude_27 good question, I feel like I didn’t exactly cover that well enough.
The point is to be completely honest. If someone says “how are you”, to genuinely take the question in and think about it. I like to say how I’m genuinely feeling, then give a reason behind it.
I might say, “bro, I’m on top of the world right now because I just had the best pasta of my life.”
@@Luke_Grenoble thank you for the reply bro!
off topic but what are your thoughts on s*m*n retention/ nof*p?
@@hey_wassup-hg9rn great question bro, there’s a certain energy you bring when you exercise restraint that is really attractive to give off.
I’d love to go more in depth on a video if it’s something you’d like to see :)