Did you know these things? I wish I learned them much sooner. If you're needing help healing from trauma, anxiety, panic attacks, and depersonalization/derealization, watch this free masterclass "The 5 Shifts To Heal From Trauma". Also at the end, if you meet the requirements, there is an opportunity to apply to work with us. 5shiftsmasterclass.coachjordanhardgrave.com/webinar-page To hear my story of experiencing depersonalization and derealization as well as an opportunity to begin The S5 method, which is the method I created after working with 5,000 depersonalization and derealization symptom suffers, visit:
17:15 is my exact situation. I've improved my mindset for years and don't have any problems accepting the difficulties of life. yet I've seen 0 progress with DPDR. Only thing that helped was getting back into my body on a daily basis. I, too, am one of those people who wish I found you earlier. I would gladly pay any amount of money to get the last few years back. this is all to say, I hope your business continues to grow and you can keep helping more people. I'm on my path to recovery already and don't think I need to buy from you, but I encourage anyone else who's considering it to try to work with Jordan. It's taken me 2 1/2 years of learning on my own to get to this point of understanding that you can presumably get people to within the 12 week program.
Hey Jordan you helped me so much to overcome DP/DR and I just recently got hit with it again and I was confused why because I only got it at work and this video just helped me understand something completely different I always thought it was anxiety but you saying that it’s because of couped up emotions really made me understand so much more thank you so much you literally are my hero to make me feel normal again
1) Any tips on what to do when it gets REALLY bad in the moment? Had a moment yesterday where the dpdr reached a 10/10 (10 being it's the worst; forgotten where I was, how I got there. Felt like looking at things for the first time, etc) 2) After building better interoception from your cause, I hold all of my tension in my neck, shoulders and back in particular. Any (fast) pmr techniques for your back? Thank you!!
Hey! The key is to prevent Dpdr vs respond to it in the moment. So that’s what I would focus on. If it does get bad you may want to take a very hot bath and get on your phone for 20 minutes. Also sprinting for 30 seconds can sometimes help then 20 minutes of pmr. But this is not a long term solution, the key is to address the things happening in your body and life that are creating stress and fatigue.
@@coachjordanhardgrave I don't think I have much stressors in my life. I know the course says to start enabling boundaries, or cut some people out, etc. But I can't identify any big stressor apart from being hypervigilant around people's moods (memorising footstep sounds and associating them to moods etc)
You will be aware of some of these sensory triggers but most of them you won't be. That's why it's important to stay in tune with your body and feel when your body is going into fight flight freeze response and do things to interrupt those responses (self regulation) which will desensitize the sensory triggers even if you don't know what they are.
Hi Jordan, I have been through a breakup with divorce, emetophobia, depressed feelings and lots of DR. 80% of the time I feel great, every now and then DR kinda still shows for example if I go away alone for a day without my beautiful children for once. I can't imagine where the root of it is supposed to be except maybe that my brain and nervous system still reacts like that even if there is just a little stress that would otherwise be managable. Do you have any experience there?
Hey Jordan, quick question. Has anyone you know that has recovered, also had ADHD? ADHD has made dp/dr really challenging for me and I'm sure many others. Thanks!
I’m starting to feel more feeling again after feeling really nothing before and it’s bad I feel that I’m now falling in to a depressive state I don’t know what to do
Do you think if we go to therapy and start working on those complex situations of trauma we can start to heal as well? I'm starting EMDR therapy this week and I'm curious about your thoughts on this. This all started for me 12 years ago from a bad trip on shrooms. I got over it and recently its just been normal life stress that has reached its limit and the DPDR came back.
Yea happens to me to that it goes away on its own then comes back. How I try to cope with it is distracting myself with hobbies and exercise. It’s not life threatening but it can uncomfortable and annoying. Just keep in mind that it will go away and even though it comes back do not stress it will go away once you trick your brain to think that it does not need to protect you.
@@stephaniecruz6012 oh yeah im completely out of it now. EMDR for me did not work. It only made my nervous system more sensitive. What did help was pure acceptance. Allowing all of my anxious thoughts to be there and just living my life with all the symptoms I was getting. I stopped reacting with panic and rumination and instead just sat there being uncomfortable as hell and just allowed the symptoms to live with me. I stopped fighting them and it took me like 7 months of doing this before the DPDR went away.
I was a long term drug addict & alchoholic. I developed dpdr during this. I'm recovering from addiction Now yet my dpdr symptoms still remain. I understand I created my own trauma & I'm really trying to understand the mental problems I created myself
Your environment can play a big role in derealization and depersonalization. I have experienced this for years. What are your thoughts on getting over brain fog for years due to Benzodiazepine usage and hyperacousis induced by trauma?
What us your opinion on using certain substances while experiencing these symptoms? For example I use caffeine daily and I know that effects your sympathetic nervous system. I also occasionally drink alcohol on the weekends. Would you recommend I quit these?
Have had many sever traumatic events, everything has been an illusion and dream since I was 11. I am 46 now. Unfortunately, it was not a bad drug experience. Just can’t remember anything anymore. 🙏💝🙏
Do the people you work with also struggle with depression? I feel like this is actually a bigger issue for me right now than DPDR. Therapy hasn't been helpful and I can't tolerate meds.
hi jordan. if my pf muscles (dont know if its ok to put this information here for free lol) are constantly tight (even after getting 3!!!! massages in a day the best way to 'open' them up again is TRE right? its weird i had a moment one week ago where they just relaxed COMPLETELY for like 10mins and it was the best most relaxed 10mins ever haha. then they closed again, i guess that means that the stressed part of my nervous system is very overractive rn right? is that normal that it takes time for these muscles to open and close etc. and way to speed up this process? thank you so much love you man!!
and jordan one more question, i completely respect and understand if you dont have the time to answer buuut, what is it called when grief opens up old wounds? of abandoment, attachment wounds etc? if trauma is 'only' the body part? isnt there whole brain chemicals missing if you have bad attachment wounds / injuries or am i missing something here, what is that called then, no trauma right? no criticism whatsoever, just very interested! :)
for example if you have a whole wall between you and other people (which people with attachment wounds / trauma have) how is it possible then to resolve this with ONLY the body part? isnt the missing piece here connection which has nothing to do with the body?
@@NoMansLand901 Trauma effects people in many many different ways for sure. It effects the mind, body, and emotions, beliefs, identity, and many other things in dozens of ways.
@@coachjordanhardgrave please just say yes that it’s a good sign that they open and close and open and close again!!! Man everytime your answer it’s like I get a birthday present. Haha
I want to be like you, i promise to my self that if i can beat this i Just want to help other people, One of my best Friends have too, and i want to help him. I Just want a response tò you. I can do the S5 method and coaching even if i am in Italy? ( Italian) but i am studiyng english only to understand Better and comunicate. Just a yes or no please. @Trauma Free Academy
Did you know these things? I wish I learned them much sooner. If you're needing help healing from trauma, anxiety, panic attacks, and depersonalization/derealization, watch this free masterclass "The 5 Shifts To Heal From Trauma". Also at the end, if you meet the requirements, there is an opportunity to apply to work with us.
5shiftsmasterclass.coachjordanhardgrave.com/webinar-page
To hear my story of experiencing depersonalization and derealization as well as an opportunity to begin The S5 method, which is the method I created after working with 5,000 depersonalization and derealization symptom suffers, visit:
is there a customer service email? I bought your course last year and I can not get into my account
Hi
17:15 is my exact situation. I've improved my mindset for years and don't have any problems accepting the difficulties of life. yet I've seen 0 progress with DPDR. Only thing that helped was getting back into my body on a daily basis. I, too, am one of those people who wish I found you earlier. I would gladly pay any amount of money to get the last few years back.
this is all to say, I hope your business continues to grow and you can keep helping more people. I'm on my path to recovery already and don't think I need to buy from you, but I encourage anyone else who's considering it to try to work with Jordan. It's taken me 2 1/2 years of learning on my own to get to this point of understanding that you can presumably get people to within the 12 week program.
Did u recover
Hey Jordan you helped me so much to overcome DP/DR and I just recently got hit with it again and I was confused why because I only got it at work and this video just helped me understand something completely different I always thought it was anxiety but you saying that it’s because of couped up emotions really made me understand so much more thank you so much you literally are my hero to make me feel normal again
So happy to hear this video helped!
Can you please help me??
I m going through v bad time
When the tention releases out ur body it feels so good best felling ever
1) Any tips on what to do when it gets REALLY bad in the moment? Had a moment yesterday where the dpdr reached a 10/10 (10 being it's the worst; forgotten where I was, how I got there. Felt like looking at things for the first time, etc)
2) After building better interoception from your cause, I hold all of my tension in my neck, shoulders and back in particular. Any (fast) pmr techniques for your back?
Thank you!!
Hey! The key is to prevent Dpdr vs respond to it in the moment. So that’s what I would focus on. If it does get bad you may want to take a very hot bath and get on your phone for 20 minutes. Also sprinting for 30 seconds can sometimes help then 20 minutes of pmr. But this is not a long term solution, the key is to address the things happening in your body and life that are creating stress and fatigue.
@@coachjordanhardgrave I don't think I have much stressors in my life. I know the course says to start enabling boundaries, or cut some people out, etc. But I can't identify any big stressor apart from being hypervigilant around people's moods (memorising footstep sounds and associating them to moods etc)
@@kirstencorbett2289 the stressors are mostly sensory triggers similar to painful things from your past that trigger stress sub consciously.
You will be aware of some of these sensory triggers but most of them you won't be. That's why it's important to stay in tune with your body and feel when your body is going into fight flight freeze response and do things to interrupt those responses (self regulation) which will desensitize the sensory triggers even if you don't know what they are.
Hey jordan, would love to work with you. How can we speak one on one? Just found your channel and boy did I need it.
Hey buddy. Apply at coachjordanhardgrave.com/apply
Mine was toxic relationship I couldn't say no I did everything like superman and it caught up to me
It happens! Glad you recognized it
Hi Jordan, I have been through a breakup with divorce, emetophobia, depressed feelings and lots of DR. 80% of the time I feel great, every now and then DR kinda still shows for example if I go away alone for a day without my beautiful children for once. I can't imagine where the root of it is supposed to be except maybe that my brain and nervous system still reacts like that even if there is just a little stress that would otherwise be managable. Do you have any experience there?
Hey Jordan, quick question. Has anyone you know that has recovered, also had ADHD? ADHD has made dp/dr really challenging for me and I'm sure many others. Thanks!
Yeah this is a questin i wanna know aswell
I’m starting to feel more feeling again after feeling really nothing before and it’s bad I feel that I’m now falling in to a depressive state I don’t know what to do
I saw you today!
Hey! It was great to get to speak to you guys! Have a great day
@@coachjordanhardgrave I never thought I would meet a UA-camr
Good night
Do you think if we go to therapy and start working on those complex situations of trauma we can start to heal as well? I'm starting EMDR therapy this week and I'm curious about your thoughts on this. This all started for me 12 years ago from a bad trip on shrooms. I got over it and recently its just been normal life stress that has reached its limit and the DPDR came back.
Update has the therapy helped ?
Yea happens to me to that it goes away on its own then comes back. How I try to cope with it is distracting myself with hobbies and exercise. It’s not life threatening but it can uncomfortable and annoying. Just keep in mind that it will go away and even though it comes back do not stress it will go away once you trick your brain to think that it does not need to protect you.
Any update?
@@stephaniecruz6012 oh yeah im completely out of it now. EMDR for me did not work. It only made my nervous system more sensitive. What did help was pure acceptance. Allowing all of my anxious thoughts to be there and just living my life with all the symptoms I was getting. I stopped reacting with panic and rumination and instead just sat there being uncomfortable as hell and just allowed the symptoms to live with me. I stopped fighting them and it took me like 7 months of doing this before the DPDR went away.
@@Zamoxi Thanks for the answer. I still dont know how to accept it maybe, all the somatic symptoms are driving me crazy.
I was a long term drug addict & alchoholic. I developed dpdr during this. I'm recovering from addiction Now yet my dpdr symptoms still remain.
I understand I created my own trauma & I'm really trying to understand the mental problems I created myself
Me too
Your environment can play a big role in derealization and depersonalization. I have experienced this for years. What are your thoughts on getting over brain fog for years due to Benzodiazepine usage and hyperacousis induced by trauma?
How do I know if I’m not having derealization I think I’m stuck in it that I don’t even know the difference of feeling normal 😔
7th year in DPDR. Cannot figure the riddle out. Any chance I can purchase the course for free?
What us your opinion on using certain substances while experiencing these symptoms? For example I use caffeine daily and I know that effects your sympathetic nervous system. I also occasionally drink alcohol on the weekends. Would you recommend I quit these?
Caffeine is terrible for recovery. Alcohol also something I would stay away from.
@@coachjordanhardgrave okay will do, thank you for the response!
Hmm, I wonder if SK are the initials of the programme lead for the very expensive programme you mention at 16.55 lol.
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Have had many sever traumatic events, everything has been an illusion and dream since I was 11. I am 46 now. Unfortunately, it was not a bad drug experience. Just can’t remember anything anymore. 🙏💝🙏
hey jordan, how do i know i'm not getting psychosis?
You will not get psychotic. Just discard this thought completely.
Do the people you work with also struggle with depression? I feel like this is actually a bigger issue for me right now than DPDR. Therapy hasn't been helpful and I can't tolerate meds.
Read the book “the depression cure”
@@coachjordanhardgrave good stuff! I appreciate how plainly this book lays out actionable strategies to feel better. Thank you!
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Jordan do you play call of duty lmao
I have twice lol
hi jordan. if my pf muscles (dont know if its ok to put this information here for free lol) are constantly tight (even after getting 3!!!! massages in a day the best way to 'open' them up again is TRE right? its weird i had a moment one week ago where they just relaxed COMPLETELY for like 10mins and it was the best most relaxed 10mins ever haha. then they closed again, i guess that means that the stressed part of my nervous system is very overractive rn right? is that normal that it takes time for these muscles to open and close etc. and way to speed up this process? thank you so much love you man!!
and jordan one more question, i completely respect and understand if you dont have the time to answer buuut, what is it called when grief opens up old wounds? of abandoment, attachment wounds etc? if trauma is 'only' the body part? isnt there whole brain chemicals missing if you have bad attachment wounds / injuries or am i missing something here, what is that called then, no trauma right? no criticism whatsoever, just very interested! :)
for example if you have a whole wall between you and other people (which people with attachment wounds / trauma have) how is it possible then to resolve this with ONLY the body part? isnt the missing piece here connection which has nothing to do with the body?
Hey! Yes takes a lot of time, but sounds like you're doing great!
@@NoMansLand901 Trauma effects people in many many different ways for sure. It effects the mind, body, and emotions, beliefs, identity, and many other things in dozens of ways.
@@coachjordanhardgrave please just say yes that it’s a good sign that they open and close and open and close again!!! Man everytime your answer it’s like I get a birthday present. Haha
I want to be like you, i promise to my self that if i can beat this i Just want to help other people, One of my best Friends have too, and i want to help him. I Just want a response tò you. I can do the S5 method and coaching even if i am in Italy? ( Italian) but i am studiyng english only to understand Better and comunicate. Just a yes or no please. @Trauma Free Academy