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Doug, it seems my more explanatory post did not take. This video incidentally corrobarates so much of Buddha's teaching: kamma, intention, blame and praise, our frontal context & meditation, free will, the interconnectedness of the soup of experience we exist within and are apart of. I have come yo appreciate the insights of the Buddhs even more & more as time goes on. Whole video is good, but if timeisimited start at about 39 minutes in. ua-cam.com/video/PNMLlX7tyQk/v-deo.htmlsi=Qk10AHOuIHtEX2vz
Doug is a wonderful teacher, open, questioning, thoughtful, non-dogmatic, and whose "intention" comes from a good place. I love his work, but with an intentuonal and proper detachement. 😊🎉
To your point about the difficulty of forgiveness: I find it intensely liberating to recall that there is no stable self to whom we can direct our grudge. There are only causes and conditions in the past that resulted in a painful experience. I hasten to add that this viewpoint does NOT entail that we should willingly put ourselves back into similar circumstances where we are likely to be hurt again (e.g., staying with an abusive partner). I mean only to suggest that the insight of no-self can help us let go of some painful fixations regarding past trauma. 🙏
I’ve recently read a graphic novel about the story of Buddha, I’ve always been interested in Buddhism randomly but after learning about the noble truths and everything else I decided to dive deeper and become more involved in the practices and way of living, so these videos are perfect and are being released at the best time so I can take a minute and think more about everything instead of seeing the next video and immediately delving into more, but yes these are very good and helpful videos and I’m excited to learn more in the future
Harmlessness doesn't have to be expensive. When combined with renunciation, it can take the form of not wasting. For example, being mindful of food when shopping to make sure that you buy only what you will eat, and then preparing it by using it completely, and then making sure you eat all the leftovers at a later time. It's in the long run cheaper, but takes more effort and intention to do.
Thank you for your continued work and dedication. You have helped me continue to develop tools to help me let go and live and appreciate each moment more and more often in my day to day.
I recently renounced plastic water bottles, I got a metal canteen to stay hydrated now that will not cause harm to the planet like my former habit of water bottles.
Hi Doug! Thank you for the good content as always! 9:50, about the practice of Meta "But we have to remember that these practices are about us, not about them. (...) What they did is theirs and not ours. The point is to practice for our own purification, rather than the purification of other beings. It will make our own lives happier. So we have to understand that this is not about them at all." I understand why you have to make this argument there (if one can't practice meta at al, it is better to practice under these terms), but do you really feel like this in your own practice? Somehow I feel like this goes against everything else discussed in the video, and does not look like right intention to me (a very unenlightened person and a beginner of the path, I must say). If I were to sit everyday to practice meta with this kind of thinking, I wonder if it would be actually beneficial for becoming a kinder person and generating less anger. That aside, thank you so much for this series of videos! I enjoyed the last one so much, and this one as well, looking forward to the next ones! Also intend to get the book once the series is finished for a more formal study of it! 🙏
To have not is to have - just society keeps pushing us to work too much, consume and die whether you like it nor not. On the bright side if you buy something someone gets a job I suppose. Lets champion the 4 day working week and have more time to enjoy with our friends and family.
I enjoyed the video. Good food for thought. I do collect stuff, but I understand that I'm the temporary custodian of a temporary form. Anyway, just wondering if those were Doug's coins as I definitely spotted a USSR mid 1920s ruble and 50 kopeks in the album!
I have met very few caucasian, blue-collar Theravadin Buddhists. Is this down to kamma, or lack of privilege, or bad luck? It's very hard to find dana, or the opportunity to go on retreat, or practice renunciation, when you're living paycheck to paycheck.
Maybe so, but recall that Buddhism arose in a culture that was much poorer in virtually all respects than our own. Dana is understood to be voluntary and depending on one's capabilities, it doesn't need to be material even.
I practice loving kindness meditation at the end of each vipassana session, for about 10 minutes most days. If i do this consistently, what i find is that in daily life i'm more prone to recognising the humanness, or frailties of people i don't get on with. I find myself considering their perspectives too. Ordinarily, my dislike for that person would be fixed and unwavering. I may even feel quite hateful which i know is wrong.
I believe we cannot forgive someone, who does not seek forgiveness. How can we forgive them, if they are not sorry for the hurt they have inflicted and they are not asking to be forgiven?
he explains it in the video, forgiveness is to help you process the pain from a new perspective - it’s not healthy to repress negative feelings, but after a certain point it isn’t healthy to hold on to them either. it’s to help you let go of the resentment from the pain they caused you, not to make amends depending on the situation forgiveness might not be what helps you cope with it, or maybe the feelings are too fresh and it isn’t time yet. it’s to help you reframe pain in a way that will set you up better for future scenarios, but if it doesn’t help you, it’s disingenuous to force it
I think this argument is kind of outdated now that people tend to collect digital things. If you have a large collection of digital things, you can share it with others but that doesn't mean you have to give away anything. People can obtain a copy while you retain your copy and both copies are equally valuable. In the digital realm, there is no scarcity. All digitized culture (books, movies, pictures, music, apps, etc..) is just a bunch of large numbers and all numbers essentially belong to the public domain.
I think all collecting causes attachment and in that way suffering. You may lose your collection, access to it, ... You will spend time on your collection which you cannot spend on friends, meditation, ...
@@thegoodnamesaretaken I think this is a very questionable interpretation of things. In the digital realm, things are so widely available that it's pretty much irrelevant that you could lose the collection, because it can easily be put together again. Not to mention that it's very unlikely that you could lose the collection if you've been sharing it with all friends who are willing to share it with you. Also you can derive a lot of pleasure from exploring the collection, so I think interpreting pleasure as suffering is very strange. As long as your collection allows you to cultivate an increasingly nuanced and profound appreciation of the things you're collecting, I think that is a form of mental growth and development that is rewarding in the long run.
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Samma Sankappa literally means right concepts. E.g, disappointment about nature, equanimity, leaving time/nature.
Doug, it seems my more explanatory post did not take. This video incidentally corrobarates so much of Buddha's teaching: kamma, intention, blame and praise, our frontal context & meditation, free will, the interconnectedness of the soup of experience we exist within and are apart of. I have come yo appreciate the insights of the Buddhs even more & more as time goes on. Whole video is good, but if timeisimited start at about 39 minutes in. ua-cam.com/video/PNMLlX7tyQk/v-deo.htmlsi=Qk10AHOuIHtEX2vz
Doug is a wonderful teacher, open, questioning, thoughtful, non-dogmatic, and whose "intention" comes from a good place. I love his work, but with an intentuonal and proper detachement. 😊🎉
@@MundaSquire I’m learning
I dont think Doug even realizes how much he helps people EVERY DAY. I so appreciate ya my friend.
To your point about the difficulty of forgiveness: I find it intensely liberating to recall that there is no stable self to whom we can direct our grudge. There are only causes and conditions in the past that resulted in a painful experience.
I hasten to add that this viewpoint does NOT entail that we should willingly put ourselves back into similar circumstances where we are likely to be hurt again (e.g., staying with an abusive partner). I mean only to suggest that the insight of no-self can help us let go of some painful fixations regarding past trauma. 🙏
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I’ve recently read a graphic novel about the story of Buddha, I’ve always been interested in Buddhism randomly but after learning about the noble truths and everything else I decided to dive deeper and become more involved in the practices and way of living, so these videos are perfect and are being released at the best time so I can take a minute and think more about everything instead of seeing the next video and immediately delving into more, but yes these are very good and helpful videos and I’m excited to learn more in the future
Great, glad to hear!
Harmlessness doesn't have to be expensive. When combined with renunciation, it can take the form of not wasting. For example, being mindful of food when shopping to make sure that you buy only what you will eat, and then preparing it by using it completely, and then making sure you eat all the leftovers at a later time. It's in the long run cheaper, but takes more effort and intention to do.
Yes minimizing waste is also important.
Thank you for your continued work and dedication. You have helped me continue to develop tools to help me let go and live and appreciate each moment more and more often in my day to day.
Glad to help!
I recently renounced plastic water bottles, I got a metal canteen to stay hydrated now that will not cause harm to the planet like my former habit of water bottles.
Everything is weighed with motives. Good motives result in good outcomes.
Great Video
Hi Doug! Thank you for the good content as always!
9:50, about the practice of Meta "But we have to remember that these practices are about us, not about them. (...) What they did is theirs and not ours. The point is to practice for our own purification, rather than the purification of other beings. It will make our own lives happier. So we have to understand that this is not about them at all."
I understand why you have to make this argument there (if one can't practice meta at al, it is better to practice under these terms), but do you really feel like this in your own practice?
Somehow I feel like this goes against everything else discussed in the video, and does not look like right intention to me (a very unenlightened person and a beginner of the path, I must say).
If I were to sit everyday to practice meta with this kind of thinking, I wonder if it would be actually beneficial for becoming a kinder person and generating less anger.
That aside, thank you so much for this series of videos! I enjoyed the last one so much, and this one as well, looking forward to the next ones!
Also intend to get the book once the series is finished for a more formal study of it! 🙏
Your karma is your own, so you cannot purify others directly. You can practice kindness and compassion, which are critical to practice.
To have not is to have - just society keeps pushing us to work too much, consume and die whether you like it nor not. On the bright side if you buy something someone gets a job I suppose. Lets champion the 4 day working week and have more time to enjoy with our friends and family.
Good series
One thing that's obvious about death is that we can bring nothing materialistic to afterlife.
True, obvious to us ... not so much to the Egyptian pharaohs! 😄
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I enjoyed the video. Good food for thought. I do collect stuff, but I understand that I'm the temporary custodian of a temporary form.
Anyway, just wondering if those were Doug's coins as I definitely spotted a USSR mid 1920s ruble and 50 kopeks in the album!
Not my coins! 😄
I have met very few caucasian, blue-collar Theravadin Buddhists. Is this down to kamma, or lack of privilege, or bad luck? It's very hard to find dana, or the opportunity to go on retreat, or practice renunciation, when you're living paycheck to paycheck.
Maybe so, but recall that Buddhism arose in a culture that was much poorer in virtually all respects than our own. Dana is understood to be voluntary and depending on one's capabilities, it doesn't need to be material even.
I practice loving kindness meditation at the end of each vipassana session, for about 10 minutes most days. If i do this consistently, what i find is that in daily life i'm more prone to recognising the humanness, or frailties of people i don't get on with. I find myself considering their perspectives too. Ordinarily, my dislike for that person would be fixed and unwavering. I may even feel quite hateful which i know is wrong.
Yes lovingkindness is a very worthwhile practice.
I believe we cannot forgive someone, who does not seek forgiveness. How can we forgive them, if they are not sorry for the hurt they have inflicted and they are not asking to be forgiven?
he explains it in the video, forgiveness is to help you process the pain from a new perspective - it’s not healthy to repress negative feelings, but after a certain point it isn’t healthy to hold on to them either. it’s to help you let go of the resentment from the pain they caused you, not to make amends
depending on the situation forgiveness might not be what helps you cope with it, or maybe the feelings are too fresh and it isn’t time yet. it’s to help you reframe pain in a way that will set you up better for future scenarios, but if it doesn’t help you, it’s disingenuous to force it
Please have someone put these in spanish
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Beany babies… Haven’t heard of them for a while. Lol
What do you think that,why Buddhism decline in India,monk were corrupted? Why ?why Buddhist monk were failed to saved Budhhisum,
I did an earlier video on that topic: ua-cam.com/video/y8GNgWatUwE/v-deo.html
Would it be fair to call this a non-consequentialist view? As in, there's merit to having the right intention, whether it really helps or not.
yes, but your intention is important for your karma/experience, not the outcome
Whether it helps others or not, it will help you. Through helping you, it should also help others.
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I think this argument is kind of outdated now that people tend to collect digital things. If you have a large collection of digital things, you can share it with others but that doesn't mean you have to give away anything. People can obtain a copy while you retain your copy and both copies are equally valuable. In the digital realm, there is no scarcity. All digitized culture (books, movies, pictures, music, apps, etc..) is just a bunch of large numbers and all numbers essentially belong to the public domain.
I think all collecting causes attachment and in that way suffering. You may lose your collection, access to it, ... You will spend time on your collection which you cannot spend on friends, meditation, ...
@@thegoodnamesaretaken I think this is a very questionable interpretation of things. In the digital realm, things are so widely available that it's pretty much irrelevant that you could lose the collection, because it can easily be put together again. Not to mention that it's very unlikely that you could lose the collection if you've been sharing it with all friends who are willing to share it with you. Also you can derive a lot of pleasure from exploring the collection, so I think interpreting pleasure as suffering is very strange. As long as your collection allows you to cultivate an increasingly nuanced and profound appreciation of the things you're collecting, I think that is a form of mental growth and development that is rewarding in the long run.
People on the news you can't feel compassionate towards 🤣 who could be addressed here… 🎃