Bob D. - AA Speaker - "The Matters of Fear and Relationships" 12-Step Alcoholism Recovery

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  • @marydonovan6681
    @marydonovan6681 3 роки тому +84

    I am in Al-Anon, and this presentation tells me that alcoholics have the same kind of emotions as a non-alcoholic. The fear is is a universal complaint, but when you sincerely practice the 12 Steps, fear gives way to faith. Our relationship with our Higher Power is the remedy for overcoming needless fears. Bob D is beautifully honest.

    • @Brian-drummer
      @Brian-drummer Рік тому +2

      Wow, appreciate ur view, alcohol is terrible 😑, and I'm a alcoholic since 15, a drummer, FEAR IS EVERYTHING ABOUT ALCOHOL, BUT THAT IS A SYMPTOM OF OUR UNDERLYING PROBLEMS,. Now u r cool, but the problem lives in us both,

    • @τζωρτζιναπριντζιου
      @τζωρτζιναπριντζιου Рік тому

      ​@@Brian-drummer😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

    • @loricroft9092
      @loricroft9092 10 місяців тому +3

      Food addict here......same, the acting out is different but the problem and solution is same

    • @eamonnmurphy5385
      @eamonnmurphy5385 10 місяців тому +1

      Live a 'simple holy life (without craftiness) Maintain good order, selfless action and compassion...

    • @AlanThomas-hp3fn
      @AlanThomas-hp3fn 6 місяців тому

      ​​@@eamonnmurphy5385what the AA al none crowd does not understand is their 12 steps is essentialy the age old Catholic Rubic for contrition confession penance restitution prayer and discipline regular attendance at required holly days and mandatory Sunday mass duty. Spiritual advisors and just follow the rules and steps in place. All AA discovered is the rules for living in sanctifing grace and growing in holiness.

  • @dinglepeninsula
    @dinglepeninsula Рік тому +8

    best AA speaker in my opinion!

  • @codeyal-hammad3018
    @codeyal-hammad3018 2 роки тому +14

    19 months clean & sober but still rely on my own self will... I must let God take the wheel

    • @djcb421
      @djcb421 5 місяців тому +1

      Progress not perfection my friend of Bill W.

  • @Genxmom
    @Genxmom Рік тому +19

    I needed this exact talk today. God sent this to me. Thank you 🙏 ❤

  • @unoecho974
    @unoecho974 4 роки тому +90

    This man has lit a fire under me for recovery. Not sobriety but recovery! Thank you, thank you God!

    • @pamkruczkowski7280
      @pamkruczkowski7280 3 роки тому +6

      Recovery exactly. 24 years Sober. New additions to Recovery!

    • @aldosanchez374
      @aldosanchez374 3 роки тому +2

      So how u doing 🤞🙏

    • @ellenauldridge5902
      @ellenauldridge5902 2 роки тому +1

      I feel they are the same, though used in different programs, am very excited for you and hope the best. Keep coming back.

    • @kriscowley3241
      @kriscowley3241 2 роки тому +4

      Bob D - Joe H - Chris R - Mark H ❤️ old timers - direct from the book. Truth based in experience - greetings from England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 fellow traveller

    • @ChazHaz-p7l
      @ChazHaz-p7l 4 місяці тому

      Me too

  • @jaredpoling3123
    @jaredpoling3123 2 роки тому +14

    I’m very new in recovery. My sponsor told me to check out Bob D. I can’t stop listening to his recordings. The way he explains his process and the actions he made to change his thinking and IMPROVE his recovery even after being sober 10.5 years . He’s truly an inspiration to me .

    • @ChazHaz-p7l
      @ChazHaz-p7l 4 місяці тому

      Nice...I listen to Bob everyday. Check out Charlie & Katie Parker, Mark Houston, Chris Raymer, Scott Lee and Sandy Beach. All the best to you on your journey🙏

  • @cm.6061
    @cm.6061 4 місяці тому +6

    I miss Lee🌻
    Every time I hear Bob do you speak I’m on fire for recovery every single time he brings that big book 📚 alive thank you Bob D.

  • @Mitzy--
    @Mitzy-- Рік тому +4

    Bob D is my hero!

  • @davidlacey1924
    @davidlacey1924 2 роки тому +21

    This is exactly what I needed to hear, the fear inventory I did not do it properly and after 4 years of sobriety My Ego has been growing. Jealousy is rearing it’s ugly head and controlling my every thought. Time for me to redo my step work. Put my life back into my higher powers hands and out of me trying to control everything

  • @margueritetaylor1112
    @margueritetaylor1112 2 роки тому +31

    I have never had any issues with alcohol but I can’t stop listening to Bob D - this message is useful for everyone 💕

  • @XxPoisonedSpiderxX
    @XxPoisonedSpiderxX 2 роки тому +8

    had the pleasure of meeting Bob this past year. he’s one of the best communicators we have. he’s got an aura about him when he walks into a room. he walks the walk, doesn’t just talk the talk.

    • @edwardvasquez3678
      @edwardvasquez3678 2 роки тому +1

      Cool, I met him about 5 years ago when he presented to us here in Tucson. One of AA's greatest storytellers in addition to interpretation of The Book

  • @kellybean1289
    @kellybean1289 6 років тому +47

    I listen to a speaker tape every morning to start my day and Bob D is one of the best, thank you!

    • @DEE-ee4jw
      @DEE-ee4jw Рік тому +1

      I do that too. Life is good, when I let it be.

  • @clancykobane9102
    @clancykobane9102 6 років тому +93

    "The times in my life that I looked the toughest, looked the angriest, and looked the hardest; was the times that I was probably the most afraid. And I didn't know it. I didn't know it."

    • @micahrenshaw9408
      @micahrenshaw9408 2 роки тому +1

      Same here brother

    • @monicaramirez51015
      @monicaramirez51015 5 місяців тому

      So very true 😮I celebrated 9 years sobriety on 5-10-2024 😊and this new design for living just keeps getting more beautiful ❤

  • @BB-dk8bk
    @BB-dk8bk 4 роки тому +23

    BOB D! I learn, laugh, cry. I am sober. Listening to BOB D is a gift! Been listening for years. Hoped to have met him in August in Florida until convention cancelled but one day! Love you BOB D.

  • @mikeking7582
    @mikeking7582 10 років тому +36

    So glad I found this, God can I relate. Bob is one of the best speakers I've heard in my 20 years of being clean.

  • @バクさん-w1x
    @バクさん-w1x 2 роки тому +10

    I am a Gamanon member in Japan, now at 8th step, cannot stop listening to his speech. Especially the story of trust burst me into tears. I have the exact feeling same as him, how can I let go of my life and let God come in.

  • @Brickellcigars
    @Brickellcigars Рік тому +5

    Nothing better than Bob d talk on a Saturday night. I was a pleasure seeing him in Florida 2 months ago I was I would have found his message before he makes to steps so simple 🎉🎉 thanks Bob I’ll be a my sober cruise this year

  • @keithguyman8495
    @keithguyman8495 7 років тому +66

    He is a responsible member of AA He is still at it, He lives the AA program. Goes into the jails too and talks about our responsibility to the new comer as well and talks about the tradtions and concepts. I have met him several times and has dinner with him a few times as well. He is also my Grand-sponsor .

    • @patriciavarani7498
      @patriciavarani7498 4 роки тому +4

      @@SeafloraSkincare what time and day are this meeting in zoom? Can you also post the link, pelase? Thank you

    • @Surferjoefwb
      @Surferjoefwb 3 роки тому +3

      I’m heading to Las Vegas in November. I’d like to go to a meeting and meet Bob D. Any meeting suggestions to find him?

    • @JennzOrs
      @JennzOrs 3 роки тому +3

      @@Surferjoefwb I live here and I wanted to know that too. He's so inspirational, and I'd love to find him if he still speaks at speaker meetings

  • @gottagoguylo
    @gottagoguylo 2 роки тому +10

    A thin line between insanity and surrender… 💯

  • @virginia_diverdown1
    @virginia_diverdown1 Рік тому +5

    Bob D helps me as he describes all things that I need to hear.

  • @michelebeuttel3289
    @michelebeuttel3289 3 роки тому +6

    You and the others with you have been my hero’s for years. At 31, I’ve had, finally the freedom to know nothing is personal, but I made the same moves in AA....attachments vs relationships.
    We give up who we are to keep the relationships we need for our survival - mom and dad, booze, outside issues, AA, and finally we can be our authentic selves only in a HP

  • @wherethebuffaloroam8584
    @wherethebuffaloroam8584 10 років тому +32

    My one true love is an alcoholic....Bob educates me every time I listen to him......Thanks Bob......

  • @pauleblacas
    @pauleblacas 4 роки тому +10

    The way Bob see's and explains these step really is has open my view to another level. Thanks Bob !

  • @Beemerkid16
    @Beemerkid16 10 років тому +25

    One of my favorite speakers. Bob Nails it again

  • @data-science-ai
    @data-science-ai 7 років тому +16

    This is very comprehensive. He connects everything he is talking about to complex concepts only he breaks it down into understandable portions.

  • @beeferish
    @beeferish 10 років тому +15

    Bob is real! His message is one of hope for me and countless alcoholics

  • @valerieramsey27
    @valerieramsey27 10 років тому +16

    Bob D is amazing! Brings so much truth to my awareness! I cannot THANK him enough!!! A MUST LISTEN for EVERYONE!!!

  • @Jordanlewis316
    @Jordanlewis316 4 роки тому +18

    I have listened to this about 25 times, I was stuck on my fear inventory as well and this helped me do my inventory and I have seen in doing the nightly inventory regularly that fear and many things still crop up alot and feel very blessed to have a process to deal with these things that fly under the radar

  • @carkrueger
    @carkrueger 7 років тому +25

    Simply the best share on fears, I have EVER heard.

  • @brandenrice5074
    @brandenrice5074 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you Bob. A true hero for all of us.

  • @TherealAlene
    @TherealAlene 4 роки тому +11

    I'm glad I discovered you Bob D. You've really opened my eyes! Thank you!

  • @WilliamSeery
    @WilliamSeery 6 років тому +36

    Bob helped me with this talk. I really like to hear him speak. This talk brought up some things I needed for my 4th step. Thanks Bob!!!

  • @neo_101__
    @neo_101__ Рік тому +2

    Just made an amends to my during this. She replied around the 53 minute mark. Which is the year my Dad was born.

  • @eonschuylerwhitney
    @eonschuylerwhitney 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you, Bob Daryll . I absolutely would love to hear you in person

  • @bigmellow
    @bigmellow Рік тому +2

    That was the breakthrough I've been waiting for!

  • @chaos4854
    @chaos4854 8 років тому +43

    i recommend this guy to all my sponsees.

  • @bethdamndonahue
    @bethdamndonahue 3 роки тому +1

    If you only listen to one AA speaker make it Bob D!

  • @traviskeast5375
    @traviskeast5375 4 роки тому +1

    I was floored when he talks about how we imagine the qualities in a person

  • @erfra71
    @erfra71 8 років тому +15

    Oh I need to listen few more times. It that good.

  • @jellyrcw12
    @jellyrcw12 3 роки тому +2

    "A relationship is never designed to take the place of G-d" SO TRUE!!

  • @dakotadailey4069
    @dakotadailey4069 5 років тому +2

    This guys my great great grandsponser. I listen to him often and he always speaks the solution I need.

  • @dd70blondee
    @dd70blondee 7 років тому +12

    This is a phenomenal message. Thank you again Bob.

  • @josephinesquires8753
    @josephinesquires8753 5 років тому +5

    Ty Bob for sharing your experience ,strength and hope ,you shared on Fear and you made me take a look at my Fears Wow I haven't even begun to start 🌌Lord Help Me

  • @soberlife2822
    @soberlife2822 5 років тому +4

    One of my favorite speakers of all time!

  • @theandypandy1962
    @theandypandy1962 3 роки тому +1

    I met Bob a few years ago in the Uk , I love listening to him .

  • @jenniferfuhrer1396
    @jenniferfuhrer1396 3 роки тому +4

    I love this, yet has anyone ever had the experience that time has stopped for you, but the rest of the world is still moving after doing this?
    I also experienced an extreme headache in my forehead afterwards as well.
    This was after I have done the meditation a few times.

  • @amandaseevers9199
    @amandaseevers9199 8 днів тому

    The most eye opening share i have heard on fear. Describing what I'm experiencing. This is helpful for me right now as im working on step 4

  • @todddeckard7771
    @todddeckard7771 8 років тому +7

    Bob D always gives great program talks! I love this channel. Very helpful

  • @impish285
    @impish285 3 роки тому +2

    Beautiful. Just. Beautiful.

  • @ayequiny_
    @ayequiny_ Рік тому +3

    This talks helped me alot THANKYOU

  • @keithoyoung34
    @keithoyoung34 5 років тому +8

    Thanks Bob.This came along at the right time.Funny how that happens when I am suffering.

  • @SkyRomero-t7r
    @SkyRomero-t7r 11 місяців тому +2

    I’m on the 4th step again and I never realized how self centered I’m selfish…… for sure that’s a big character defect I want work on and lots of fear … so please pray for me

  • @Apastioli
    @Apastioli 7 місяців тому

    Seek and ye shall find. I’ve done and felt exactly what Bob talks about here

    • @GranPepo
      @GranPepo 4 місяці тому

      Is that a question?

  • @adriennegallotta2890
    @adriennegallotta2890 Рік тому +1

    Bob at his best.

  • @kencress3665
    @kencress3665 Рік тому +3

    Why haven't I been able to get continuous sobriety? I hear the same things everybody else does, I freely admit I am an alcoholic addict in no particular order sobriety sure beats the hell out of active addiction, blessings to all

    • @MC-mq9rg
      @MC-mq9rg Рік тому

      Did you do 90 meetings in 90 days and get a sponsor and do step 1,2,3? Keep coming back.

    • @tinaschraier6724
      @tinaschraier6724 2 дні тому

      Ask at a mens meeting for a great sponsor and ask him where a men's recovery home is to help you stay on track and extra support.

  • @sircaptainMO
    @sircaptainMO 5 років тому +5

    Thank you so much, amazing talk. I’ve never had anyone speak my language of smoke and mirrors. We are so alike, this has made me better.

  • @jg6320
    @jg6320 5 років тому +11

    This is great - both funny & tender - & soooo true omg lol. Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @lasandraballinger6094
    @lasandraballinger6094 10 років тому +24

    I love this speakers message , FEAR Face everything and recover

  • @ciaranocarroll5435
    @ciaranocarroll5435 6 років тому +2

    I love listening to bob D powerful speaker

  • @somebodyu.usedtoknow
    @somebodyu.usedtoknow 4 роки тому +2

    When intelligent n emotion are in conflict with eachother emotion always wins

  • @rorymonkey
    @rorymonkey 4 роки тому +6

    Bob D still saving my ass. My #1 favorite speaker.

  • @emmaclarke6990
    @emmaclarke6990 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you HP for Bob D 🙌🙏🏽❤️

  • @stephenfinch2120
    @stephenfinch2120 3 роки тому +2

    Hey. Thank you for this. Humourous yet honest insight.

  • @glamary_mua
    @glamary_mua 6 років тому +4

    i m in the programme for 2 years and i m working on the steps..i had major changes in all departments of my life..i m just struggling wid fear of talking to ppl..hopefully i will br able to put this right as well
    i had posted this ..sometime back.. these fears have become quite powerful.. hopefully they will be gone completely

    • @1975480able
      @1975480able 5 років тому +2

      anonymous m
      I'm okay with strangers, but fearful of neighbours and folk who know me??? It's killing me at this stage, I've been sober 2.5 years ....

    • @glamary_mua
      @glamary_mua 5 років тому +1

      @@1975480able I have the same problem..glad to know I m not alone..continue meetings..I will pray for u too

    • @fattyboysi
      @fattyboysi 4 роки тому

      Hey Glamery. I also struggle with this fear. I don’t think program is gonna remove this fear from me. It looks like I need professional help. If you wanna be in touch about how I’m dealing with it, please reach out

  • @mb-vf3qb
    @mb-vf3qb 7 років тому +9

    this is so good. identify all the way

  • @brandonwilson2732
    @brandonwilson2732 5 років тому +3

    Amazing. Thanks Bob. 🙏🏻🙏🏻💕

  • @garylord2219
    @garylord2219 9 років тому +3

    Always a treat....

  • @jellyrcw12
    @jellyrcw12 3 роки тому +1

    I love the funny speakers. Really help me connect to the material more.

  • @johnmac4278
    @johnmac4278 4 роки тому +2

    Love this guy,s explanation magic Bob so helpful thank you

  • @SkyRomero-t7r
    @SkyRomero-t7r 11 місяців тому +2

    Amen ❤

  • @lindsaywalsh8747
    @lindsaywalsh8747 6 років тому +2

    Thanks God, and thanks bob.

  • @tinacarlson4842
    @tinacarlson4842 4 роки тому +2

    Awesome speaker

  • @JanTijmes
    @JanTijmes 9 років тому +19

    this is a very deep and powerful audio with many layers.
    I don't understand the laughter.. it's not too funny. it's direct and helpful for my recovery.

    • @peterbogdan1185
      @peterbogdan1185 8 років тому +10

      +Jan Tijmes :In some years you will laugh too. It sounds like when parents say: One day you will know.." - :) But its really like that. Laughung is identification...- so all the listeners know exactly what he is talking about,.cause they all got through...and of course Bob has an amazing way to tell stories and a nice sense of humour. G24

    • @kimjohnson8471
      @kimjohnson8471 8 років тому +7

      +peter bogdan I've just got a little over 30 days.
      I agree with you. This
      $#!t ain't funny....at least not yet. I'll pray for you. You pray for me.

    • @douglashanneman9663
      @douglashanneman9663 7 років тому +9

      Jan Tijmes...because we are not a glum lot. We have escaped certain death and are doing God's bidding. Peace is not avoidable, it's inevitable.

    • @hafniafc
      @hafniafc 6 років тому +1

      Because it is a way to deal with our alcoholism - using humor and laughter.

    • @erinelizabethrigby5321
      @erinelizabethrigby5321 5 років тому +3

      Steen Randa-Boldt
      I laugh because for once in my life, I am not alone. The laughter you hear is joy at being apart of, not apart from anymore.

  • @HoudaSuleiman
    @HoudaSuleiman Місяць тому

    Iove Bob! Is he still with us?

  • @paulmassey7504
    @paulmassey7504 8 років тому +4

    wow, fantastic, i needed this. thank you

  • @craigrand9591
    @craigrand9591 10 років тому +6

    Amazing stuff. Thanks Bob :)

  • @eshjane
    @eshjane 8 років тому +4

    Thank you!!

  • @Freddy-p4b
    @Freddy-p4b Місяць тому

    I working the steps for the third time and I'm stuck on 4 because I worked through resentments I held since childhood

  • @ryans7121
    @ryans7121 9 років тому +5

    i hope so. im 4 mo in. i hole new life is needed. i lost all

  • @dianem3012
    @dianem3012 4 роки тому +2

    Amazing, thank you! I🙏

  • @jeremykelly5331
    @jeremykelly5331 9 років тому +2

    Wow... Just wow...

  • @Jasonsmith-sn5rp
    @Jasonsmith-sn5rp 5 років тому +3

    16:35 Blew my fucking mind!!! Thank you for sharing!!

  • @WadeStrifeTV
    @WadeStrifeTV 9 років тому +2

    Thank u I really need this now hasn't been the first time I've been here either but at least I know where to go

  • @karencondon2003
    @karencondon2003 3 роки тому +2

    What a guy✌️😎

  • @aabarnes1
    @aabarnes1 8 років тому +3

    Brilliant

  • @jasoncunningham6394
    @jasoncunningham6394 7 років тому +6

    I can laugh at somethings Bob says because I have had some of the same experiences happen to me. And for someone else to be able to relate to me is funny.

  • @sandwich2003
    @sandwich2003 8 років тому +3

    I heard two out of the six fear inventory things he does, wondered about the other four.

  • @NoMasPivo
    @NoMasPivo 6 років тому +18

    Get in the wheelbarrow!

  • @ajdacosta9546
    @ajdacosta9546 7 років тому +2

    Amazing

  • @donniemrodriguez1436
    @donniemrodriguez1436 7 років тому +3

    An addict named Donnie in long term recovery!

  • @mistielliott4513
    @mistielliott4513 3 місяці тому

    I need to get in the barrel on a few things❤❤❤

  • @wendylee3882
    @wendylee3882 9 років тому +2

    Great share!

  • @harps1577
    @harps1577 7 років тому +2

    Good stuff

  • @TheBanderin91
    @TheBanderin91 9 років тому +2

    AMEN!

  • @twelvesteps8431
    @twelvesteps8431 4 роки тому +3

    Read pages 87 88 watch this video and you will feel so much relief it's amazing

  • @karencondon2003
    @karencondon2003 3 роки тому

    Awesome 👏

  • @ryans7121
    @ryans7121 9 років тому +2

    ive been sober just over 3 months. im gonna lose my liscense and alot of money per year. (truck driver) im terrified!!

    • @drearose2375
      @drearose2375 6 років тому +1

      I don't know where you are... But I've been where you have been. I hope someone reached back, I hope you are sober and happy somewhere.

  • @garylord2219
    @garylord2219 9 років тому +3

    AMEN...
    ..

  • @benpayne4815
    @benpayne4815 6 років тому +5

    Bob d tells the truth booze sex drugs food !@@top man spiritual giant I hope I get what he's got god bless x

  • @keithsalberg3824
    @keithsalberg3824 6 років тому +4

    💚

    • @keithsalberg3824
      @keithsalberg3824 6 років тому +1

      Thanks to my sponsor, who SUGGESTED that I listen.