This is so good. I have great chemistry with a lot of people, simply because I’m a people person. But are we compatible?. Do we serve the same purpose? Are our foundations and beliefs the same.? Just because they look good, make you laugh, and enjoy your company, doesn’t mean they’re meant to do life with you. After the infatuation phase die down, what else do we have????? They’re just an associate/friend not your Wife/Husband. And that’s Perfectly okay. We are human! I’ve learned to date and follow my purpose. And let God do the Alignment. I’ll be able to Sustain a Marriage better that way!
Bl15 Grace 😆 not staring lol... yessss I’ve had those type of relationships in the past as well and i get bored quick so they don’t hold up. But now that I’m preparing for marriage i had to start looking deeper and further into compatibility. It’s cute and all when you’re young but now i want to hold value. I want someone who has the same purpose as me. You’ll be more driven and committed to the marriage.
@@AllThingsTiffanyTV yessssss! Marriage is a whole other ball game. Compatibility is what ensures it stands. Lol you're literally my mirror, I get bored SO easily! I want a marriage but I'm afraid of this trait of mine.. So I'm definitely looking deeper before walking down the aisle for the second time 💎
I was with someone as great friends for 6 years, we always liked each other but were in relationships with other people. After both of us got single, we tried it( and he is really hot), but kissing him felt wrong, I didn’t like it. I didn’t like his skin smel too.., so I guess after 6 years of great friendship and being attracted to him, it took real close physical connection to understand that I cannot do it, literally!
Yes chemistry is overrated. I’ve had chemistry with many people. Certain personalities can have chemistry with anyone. Literally every man thinks we have chemistry. Or that we “vibe”. Vibing takes place easily when your vibrational frequency is high(of love). So I never concur until I confirm it with my own discernment. Also the same with compatibility. Compatibility imo isn’t finding a twin. It’s someone who BALANCES you. Compliments who you are for your own growth and expansion. Your most compatible person is likely to stretch you, not keep you comfortable and agree with you on every little thing. Healthy Balance!
I love this breakdown too. Can anyone tell me how to distinguish from someone who balances you vs “opposites attract type. I’m having the hardest time finding balance in general..
Yes I was just praying about this today. Its usually someone who is your TOTAL OPPOSITE that will not only CHANGE YOU BUT CHALLENGE you in the BEST WAYS POSSIBLE. No manipulation needed. That's Balance. When your relationship continues to EVOLVE and not REVOLVE
they also need to be transparent ..when a man is silent when you say something..its a red flag..funny recently I have met few men where there is no connection /chemistry..hard to talk to them..they need to agree on moral issues though..
If your faking time will actually be the tell tell sign! Rushing to have a physical relationship changes perception of what’s real. Learning to slow things down tells you what is real ! #BeBlessed #GodsPlanIsBetter
Tony you’re so full of in depth knowledge. This is that brand of anointing that was on Jesus’ life. There are teachers and there are teachers but it’s the wisdom that makes the difference. Thank you.
Another thing to look for in compatibility is mentality. I’ve met men who met all the foundational standards mentioned here but (as example) they had a spirit of defense/a disagreeable spirit/a chip on their shoulder. Me being “cup is half full” minded or seeing the best in people/life, a cynical person would be draining for me. I believe your General view on life should be aligned in order to be compatible as well. Unless you enjoy that kind of struggle loll Just something that came to mind 🙂
yes I have a male friend that I feel like he is not interested really in what I have to say..I dont know how to describe..we ll talk about subjects but I feel its hard if I bring a subject ..he doesnt have a spirit of defence..but he ll be silent..also he is way younger than me..so could be the reason..
Disagreeable spirit..Sis…yes! Thank you for saying that. I couldn’t ever figure out what it was with my ex. And that’s it. He has a disagreeable spirit.
Chemistry is fleeting so pay attention to his/her authenticity before you think it’s heaven sent. Now on compatibility, are your standards/foundational beliefs the same...if so your views on faith family and finances will agree. That’s what you want to look for keeping in mind that you may not have the same taste in music or food which is good because you’ll bring balance to one another. They both matter- the key is take the TIME to figure if they mix.
yes..ive been single forever almost and have new male friends and men approaching me recently..and the conversation is off..and I can feel they have no real interest in me..I realise this is why I shut down men..because they approach me and dont want to hear me out and switch the conversation to them..and it s off..I cant express myself..Im sorry but I wouldnt be able to open my legs to a man who dont let express myself and if the conversation makes no sense..or they have nothing to add to what you say!!
The devil 😈 knows what we like; God know who we need because He knows best. The appearance is appealing to our physical eyes; character goes to the heart of a person.
Wow! The puzzle demonstration was an " Ah ha" moment. I never looked at it t like that. Wow! God bless you and the way you allow God to use your talent/ ministry to counsel.
When I was with my Fiancé, I fell in love with him bc we were soooo much a like, we were both photographers, both vegan at the time, even looked alike low key... so we fell hard. When we moved in together, I seen the major things that we Needed to be compatible with... ex: paying bills, learning to fight fair, reading books and articles... we Had Nothing In Common and it caused a lot of riffs. So that whole compatibility and chemistry piece means nothing if the person isn’t Foundationally on the same page! We had so much a like but fought like cats and dogs. We planned for our beautiful son and I can say that’s the only thing I left with of value.
You are the smartest person I have ever listened to regarding relationships. I just found you about a month ago and your insights have truly expanded me. I love that you speak so honestly . It is uplifting to listen to you because of the vast experience and truth you bring. And your expressions and style of speaking is so funny! You are entertaining but with deep content. and love for people. Thank you Tony. And yes, I have subscribed because I want to support your work. You're a wonderful person.
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I believe in God and that Jesus is the son of God. The guy that has been showing interest in me believes in a God but does not believe that Jesus is the son of God. Also he says marriage is not necessary it is just a piece of paper. I believe what God says about marriage so I am realizing that we are not compatible. Thank you Tony
This made me realize how compatible my boyfriend and i are. My previous boyfriend was too much like me and it was draining. But my current boyfriend and i shared new things that brings us closer. We have the same humour and maturity and love for each other, but theres differences that pushes us and doesnt leave us stagnant.
Chemistry seems more of short term influence, maybe sexual tension/chemistry. Compatibility seems more long-term, how everything settles/falls into place. Chemistry sparks the relationship, where as compatibility keeps it afloat.
Come on Tony with that puzzle analogy!!!! Honestly one thing I look for is an extroverted person because I can get comfortable isolating myself. The parts of my old relationships that I’ve loved is when someone can pull me out of that sometimes which helps me to grow and experience new things but with the support of a partner.
🙏🏽😊 I agree , I and my boyfriend are completely different we have some things in common . If we were alike we wouldn’t be together . Bringing different perspectives. Compatibility , is imperative when making necessary decisions . I’m more health concise as well my boyfriend is different he’s white he will only eat some veggies 🌽. I have more of a health background from my undergrad . Whereas my boyfriend ,is passionate about finance and great at managing finances and out going . He believes in God as , I do . We introduce one another to different things . We are working to marriage possibly this year at some point .❤️👩🏽🤵🏻💍
This is so true because you can have physical chemistry but not be compatible mentally and emotionally. There are deeper parts of a person you need to explore in order to know they are for you. And I agree, when you are different you share strengths and weaknesses. Areas that you aren’t great in, I’m there to bring you up.
Yes to standards!! Chemistry-Yes Compatability-No I cannot stand when a man agrees and compromises, but later change everything to gain total control where the woman has no say and is demeaned..... I am in separation about to Divorce because of this🤔🙁
Hmmm, I had did this to my bf and he did get upset with me. He said I can’t just make plans and then change them, then get overwhelmed because I changed the plans last minute. I KNOW I do that but it opened my eyes to know he sees the flaws I know I have
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Tony this is by far the best video you have done. It touched the core of what both women and men believe is the roadmap to love. They choose to love based on chemistry but you know NOBODY ever told us there was a difference between chemistry and compatibility. It is VERY IMPORTANT to strike a balance between the two and know the difference. Once you know then govern yourself accordingly. This is the recipe for a long happy relationship. Thank you Tony God bless all you do your anointing for this work is evident!
This is why I am attracted to outgoing assertive men, because it balances my quietness. And my parents think Mr. Right should also like the outdoors (like me), but those foundational values are so much more important to me! Different hobbies do make things more interesting. Thank you for touching on types and attraction. Attraction isn't everything but it does matter.
Tony, I enjoy hearing your perspectives...so down to earth, intelligent, humorous and Insightful..keep bringing the content... And I Like how you Love your Wife!! "Fit together like a Puzzle"
Most modern relationships are built on CHEMISTRY . Think about what will happen when all the butterflies are gone the reality hits you. Now u got to agree to make it work.
This is so on point for me!!!! I never looked at the fact chemistry does not mean compatible!!!! This is exactly why things did not work out with a guy I fell in love with. I was able to walk away after two years of on and off. This information helps me to put the PERIOT on a relationship I should have never entertained. Thanks Tony G
At first when I seen the title of this video, I was like “obviously people know the difference” but easier said than done. I noticed this is one of my toxic relationship patterns. Ty for the confirmation Tony! I am such a fan! My future husband will definitely be getting coaching lessons from you ❤️
Good information! I never even considered what chemistry or compatibility meant until my husband of almost 10 years said we are not compatible. I didn't know what he was referring to. I was so confused because I thought it had something to do with the fact that I was not like all those other women he was reaching out to through his Facebook messenger.
Be blessed, Tony! I made it till the end of all your videos I've watched the last two months, and I've never experienced such a divine wisdom in my life!! ✝️💗
Be blessed!! Tony, what a word today!!! I was enriched by how you expounded upon chemistry vs. compatibility. It makes a difference in any relationship. A person must not be fooled by chemistry but WAIT to see if you both are compatible. I am excited and expecting how God is going to continue to use you. Especially during this Corona virus social distancing season. Take care & stay healthy!!
By listening to Tony today it was very refreshing: what I found out was compatibility is rooted in Standards! And Chemistry is equal to preferences: but still watching at 29 minutes so let’s see what my Lil Brother Tony says!! From another mother lol 😂
Thank you Tony! That was informative and broken down quite well. You're right we learn in society that chemistry is what you should be after. I know that's what I thought. I am understanding now that having the same value system that you speak of Faith, Family and Finances be the foundation is monumental the other things that we seek will come if we allow time. As always thank you for your wisdom and transparency. Keep these videos coming even the length of them is just right for me. Be blessed Gaskin family!
Thank you Mr. Gaskins for this info. I did not know that compatibility was best described as opposites attract and it makes sense. My parents were too much like and they are now divorced. They were both stubborn and immature. My dad told me they were not compatible. They just had good chemistry because they liked the same foods and came from a two parent home. Now I know what that means thanks to you ! Be Blessed
Thanks Tony Gaskins this video really brought a better understanding to me about compatibility vs chemistry. Compatibility does bring unity and harmony. I rather have strong compatibility than strong Chemistry
Chemistry = preferences; Compatibility = standards. Compatibility is the foundation, but chemistry is still important. Makes sense! Another great video, thanks Tony!
I must say Rev... You're videos are changing the world.. I appreciate your service and your purpose.. it does not go to waste . Sometimes. The title chooses you
And believe me ladies, whether you like it or not, your verbal and non-verbal communication and body language reveals a lot to a man about what chemistry may mean to you. If chemistry is mainly sexual to a woman, then the man picks up that vibe instantly. If he gets the vibe that you are ok with sex being just a physical act, he will give you just that. It’s a lot of work and nearly impossible however it’s important for a man to change his own narrative of what sex is to him. Make a man, to want to make love to you.
Chemistry is an attraction for someone. It feels like you are being pulled in their direction for sexual attractions. It can be very strong and you get butterflies and your heart pounds fast. Compatibility is you complete each other in things you both like. Be Blessed 🙏✝️🙂
Another great podcast. Chemistry and attraction does not create relationship success. Compatibility is shared values emotional maturity and a blendable lifestyle.
This makes so much sense, that chemistry can be created. "It is our responsibility to determine if the chemitry is authentic. You must put chemistry to the test of compatibility. Compatibility in relationships does not mean an exact replica. The key component is if the foundation is the same" - TG
Great breakdown of the difference between the two. I see how compatibility and chemistry can easily be confused in the beginning stages of a relationship. I guess that's why people refer to new relationships as being in the "honeymoon" phase. I will definitely save this video and watch it again later as reference.
This is a very good video and sooo true. But men try to change you when they see your different, instead of letting you be you. They want to change you because they don’t and can’t understand you... some men are use to the same old things in women... when they get some one different they become scared.
Nephew Tony you taught me something today. Clear talk makes for clear understanding. You were clear and I was understanding. Thank you for that. God bless you and your family. SDG
This message hit hard. I once dated a man with a different religious background he was always objective never wanted to celebrate what was important to me. I acknowledge and appreciate your videos. 🙏🏾
Take home message>>> dont look for compatability in prefrences e.g food ,music etc but look for compatabilty in values e.g family, religion, belief etc
Go ahead and preach it Bro Tony, like you said I like it all these 6's we putting in and end up with a devil . Amen Bro Tony am loving the word of God that's coming from the spirit of God as he leading you to teach. Thanks so much God bless you.
hit tony i wasn't really interested in this topic but i just started listening to you its a fairly good topic im trying to get my granddaughter interested so that she'd understand what so me boys want
Compromising makes opposites have healthy relationship. It is important for all relationships overall. Chemistry gives u a rush Compatibility on d other hand makes u think reasonable and logical 👍
The puzzle piece bit is very apt ... it further extends to the couple having a better grasp on everything in the world than they would if they were just alike ... twice as much territory can be covered at least ... if both are growing and have the same core VALUES, they will forever be of interest and learn from each other ... intuitively I have been thinking this... it is so easy to go be with the same kinds of people and run in the same circles, but I KNEW there was a reason the Lord caused me to have to move out of all of those circles even before Covid-19. Even from a friendship and business level, finding "puzzle pieces" has been essential and productive ... so this makes good sense from a relationship perspective.
This is a really good video and this analysis is why i'm weary of internet dating because you browse a catalogue and can easily pick a clone and not a complimentary person.
Before you even said it, I knew you were going to say that the key is being compatible on your foundational beliefs. Makes so much sense because if you can't agree on the basis of life you'll never be compatible & the chemistry won't matter at all. Safe to say I learned this not only from your teaching, but also from my dating experience. I have never been with a man that had the same foundational beliefs as me. Religion being the one of most concern. Many play the role, but very few are living it.
This is so good. I have great chemistry with a lot of people, simply because I’m a people person. But are we compatible?. Do we serve the same purpose? Are our foundations and beliefs the same.? Just because they look good, make you laugh, and enjoy your company, doesn’t mean they’re meant to do life with you. After the infatuation phase die down, what else do we have????? They’re just an associate/friend not your Wife/Husband. And that’s Perfectly okay. We are human! I’ve learned to date and follow my purpose. And let God do the Alignment. I’ll be able to Sustain a Marriage better that way!
Urghhh!! Thisssss... You worded my situation perfectly. When the dust settles what do we have left? 👀 Just staring at each other in the end.
Bl15 Grace 😆 not staring lol... yessss I’ve had those type of relationships in the past as well and i get bored quick so they don’t hold up. But now that I’m preparing for marriage i had to start looking deeper and further into compatibility. It’s cute and all when you’re young but now i want to hold value. I want someone who has the same purpose as me. You’ll be more driven and committed to the marriage.
Truth be told!💯💯
Amen Indeed I agree sis!!!👑💃🙌
@@AllThingsTiffanyTV yessssss! Marriage is a whole other ball game. Compatibility is what ensures it stands. Lol you're literally my mirror, I get bored SO easily! I want a marriage but I'm afraid of this trait of mine.. So I'm definitely looking deeper before walking down the aisle for the second time 💎
The way he does his fingers... you on your back!!! Lol 😂 comedy
I was with someone as great friends for 6 years, we always liked each other but were in relationships with other people. After both of us got single, we tried it( and he is really hot), but kissing him felt wrong, I didn’t like it. I didn’t like his skin smel too.., so I guess after 6 years of great friendship and being attracted to him, it took real close physical connection to understand that I cannot do it, literally!
Lol I love that too 😂😂 ✌🏾 boom on ya bike
It is SO funny!! "On your "bike" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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BOLDANDOUTLOUDENT he so dam country and a
lil ghetto too O-kaaay✌🏾
“When you see what you like, you end up on your bike (back). That’s chemistry.” TG. Let’s look for compatibility.
Dr. Elaine 😂😂😂
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Absolutely, directly on your bike
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This dude is a comedian!!!!🤣🤣🤣
Yes chemistry is overrated. I’ve had chemistry with many people. Certain personalities can have chemistry with anyone. Literally every man thinks we have chemistry. Or that we “vibe”. Vibing takes place easily when your vibrational frequency is high(of love). So I never concur until I confirm it with my own discernment. Also the same with compatibility. Compatibility imo isn’t finding a twin. It’s someone who BALANCES you. Compliments who you are for your own growth and expansion. Your most compatible person is likely to stretch you, not keep you comfortable and agree with you on every little thing. Healthy Balance!
Yes! Love this breakdown.
I love this breakdown too. Can anyone tell me how to distinguish from someone who balances you vs “opposites attract type. I’m having the hardest time finding balance in general..
Well stated 👍
Yes I was just praying about this today. Its usually someone who is your TOTAL OPPOSITE that will not only CHANGE YOU BUT CHALLENGE you in the BEST WAYS POSSIBLE. No manipulation needed. That's Balance. When your relationship continues to EVOLVE and not REVOLVE
they also need to be transparent ..when a man is silent when you say something..its a red flag..funny recently I have met few men where there is no connection /chemistry..hard to talk to them..they need to agree on moral issues though..
Wow the chemistry is “around your preferences” - game changer
If your faking time will actually be the tell tell sign! Rushing to have a physical relationship changes perception of what’s real. Learning to slow things down tells you what is real ! #BeBlessed #GodsPlanIsBetter
Tony you’re so full of in depth knowledge. This is that brand of anointing that was on Jesus’ life. There are teachers and there are teachers but it’s the wisdom that makes the difference. Thank you.
Sashisroyal One hallelujah now!!!👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You on your bike 😂😂 it’s funny how he says that. (Back)
Thanks Tony i appreciate how you broke down Chemistry vs Compatibility. This helped me!!
Another thing to look for in compatibility is mentality. I’ve met men who met all the foundational standards mentioned here but (as example) they had a spirit of defense/a disagreeable spirit/a chip on their shoulder. Me being “cup is half full” minded or seeing the best in people/life, a cynical person would be draining for me. I believe your General view on life should be aligned in order to be compatible as well. Unless you enjoy that kind of struggle loll Just something that came to mind 🙂
Very true
Girl I met a 51 year old I’m 40 and he acts 30 and thinks he’s a therapist 😩
yes I have a male friend that I feel like he is not interested really in what I have to say..I dont know how to describe..we ll talk about subjects but I feel its hard if I bring a subject ..he doesnt have a spirit of defence..but he ll be silent..also he is way younger than me..so could be the reason..
Disagreeable spirit..Sis…yes! Thank you for saying that. I couldn’t ever figure out what it was with my ex. And that’s it. He has a disagreeable spirit.
Chemistry is fleeting so pay attention to his/her authenticity before you think it’s heaven sent. Now on compatibility, are your standards/foundational beliefs the same...if so your views on faith family and finances will agree. That’s what you want to look for keeping in mind that you may not have the same taste in music or food which is good because you’ll bring balance to one another. They both matter- the key is take the TIME to figure if they mix.
yes..ive been single forever almost and have new male friends and men approaching me recently..and the conversation is off..and I can feel they have no real interest in me..I realise this is why I shut down men..because they approach me and dont want to hear me out and switch the conversation to them..and it s off..I cant express myself..Im sorry but I wouldnt be able to open my legs to a man who dont let express myself and if the conversation makes no sense..or they have nothing to add to what you say!!
99.999% of us NEEDED to hear this! This Tony Gaskins KNOWS his work💯 This message is crystal clear!
The devil 😈 knows what we like; God know who we need because He knows best. The appearance is appealing to our physical eyes; character goes to the heart of a person.
Tony, Tony, Tony!!! God is using you heavily!! I've been discussing this recently but I'm excited to hear your wisdom on this topic. 🙏🏾
Wow! The puzzle demonstration was an " Ah ha" moment. I never looked at it t like that. Wow! God bless you and the way you allow God to use your talent/ ministry to counsel.
The part about players create chemistry took me off my feet because a guy did this to me . Wow !!
Me too. Recently!
@@sexcsisi now we both know 😂😂
Me too.
When I was with my Fiancé, I fell in love with him bc we were soooo much a like, we were both photographers, both vegan at the time, even looked alike low key... so we fell hard. When we moved in together, I seen the major things that we Needed to be compatible with... ex: paying bills, learning to fight fair, reading books and articles... we Had Nothing In Common and it caused a lot of riffs. So that whole compatibility and chemistry piece means nothing if the person isn’t Foundationally on the same page! We had so much a like but fought like cats and dogs. We planned for our beautiful son and I can say that’s the only thing I left with of value.
You are the smartest person I have ever listened to regarding relationships. I just found you about a month ago and your insights have truly expanded me. I love that you speak so honestly . It is uplifting to listen to you because of the vast experience and truth you bring. And your expressions and style of speaking is so funny! You are entertaining but with deep content. and love for people. Thank you Tony. And yes, I have subscribed because I want to support your work. You're a wonderful person.
I like Listening to Tony as well but also check out in addition to Tony ,RC Blakes Jr and Kev Hicks. All three are awesome to listen to. I love what each represents pass information along for those who may need some help.
I stay confused, so i need professor Gaskins lecture today 😂😂😂..seriously, i am interested in this breakdown.
I believe in God and that Jesus is the son of God. The guy that has been showing interest in me believes in a God but does not believe that Jesus is the son of God. Also he says marriage is not necessary it is just a piece of paper. I believe what God says about marriage so I am realizing that we are not compatible. Thank you Tony
"You're Aquafina down there." 😂🤣💯
This made me realize how compatible my boyfriend and i are. My previous boyfriend was too much like me and it was draining. But my current boyfriend and i shared new things that brings us closer. We have the same humour and maturity and love for each other, but theres differences that pushes us and doesnt leave us stagnant.
Chemistry seems more of short term influence, maybe sexual tension/chemistry. Compatibility seems more long-term, how everything settles/falls into place. Chemistry sparks the relationship, where as compatibility keeps it afloat.
It's back, just basic....
How many dates to know if you're "long term compatible?"
Come on Tony with that puzzle analogy!!!! Honestly one thing I look for is an extroverted person because I can get comfortable isolating myself. The parts of my old relationships that I’ve loved is when someone can pull me out of that sometimes which helps me to grow and experience new things but with the support of a partner.
1. Attraction
2. Compatibility + Chemistry = Love Connection ❤️
🙏🏽😊 I agree , I and my boyfriend are completely different we have some things in common . If we were alike we wouldn’t be together . Bringing different perspectives. Compatibility , is imperative when making necessary decisions . I’m more health concise as well my boyfriend is different he’s white he will only eat some veggies 🌽. I have more of a health background from my undergrad . Whereas my boyfriend ,is passionate about finance and great at managing finances and out going . He believes in God as , I do . We introduce one another to different things . We are working to marriage possibly this year at some point .❤️👩🏽🤵🏻💍
Are you both Born Again CHRISTIANS ?
Ooh I pray you have a fruitful marriage together, growing together in peace!
Chemistry = Lust
Agreed
I'm only 17 minutes in and this is one of the best videos so far hands down! Tony Gaskin this should have been lesson #1 long time ago... thank you
This was me up until recently...every situation I was in was chemistry smh. Glad it’s never too late to change.
This is so true because you can have physical chemistry but not be compatible mentally and emotionally. There are deeper parts of a person you need to explore in order to know they are for you. And I agree, when you are different you share strengths and weaknesses. Areas that you aren’t great in, I’m there to bring you up.
It sounds like you and Mrs. Gaskins are very complimentary to one another, which is a good attribute to have.
Yes to standards!!
Chemistry-Yes
Compatability-No
I cannot stand when a man agrees and compromises, but later change everything to gain total control where the woman has no say and is demeaned.....
I am in separation about to Divorce because of this🤔🙁
YEP
Hmmm, I had did this to my bf and he did get upset with me. He said I can’t just make plans and then change them, then get overwhelmed because I changed the plans last minute. I KNOW I do that but it opened my eyes to know he sees the flaws I know I have
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Out of all of the videos that I have watched this has got to be one of my favorites 👏👏👏👏👍🤜💥💥💥
Tony’s videos are long, but the most insightful information that I have come across. Very truthful and anointed! Bless you and thank You Jesus that my questions were ALL answered 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾🤣 Please support this channel!
Tony this is by far the best video you have done. It touched the core of what both women and men believe is the roadmap to love. They choose to love based on chemistry but you know NOBODY ever told us there was a difference between chemistry and compatibility. It is VERY IMPORTANT to strike a balance between the two and know the difference. Once you know then govern yourself accordingly. This is the recipe for a long happy relationship. Thank you Tony God bless all you do your anointing for this work is evident!
The only vice I have is these videos. These videos are my pillar of strength. A video a day keeps me on the right track. Be blessed.
This is why I am attracted to outgoing assertive men, because it balances my quietness. And my parents think Mr. Right should also like the outdoors (like me), but those foundational values are so much more important to me! Different hobbies do make things more interesting. Thank you for touching on types and attraction. Attraction isn't everything but it does matter.
Lol Tony, "Aquafina down there" omg hehehe😂🤣
Julie Franklin I was on the floor
Tony, I enjoy hearing your perspectives...so down to earth, intelligent, humorous and
Insightful..keep bringing the content...
And I Like how you Love your Wife!!
"Fit together like a Puzzle"
Most modern relationships are built on CHEMISTRY . Think about what will happen when all the butterflies are gone the reality hits you. Now u got to agree to make it work.
True, it starts there!
Tony I had to go on ahead and get YT Premium yesterday. These ads was gonna ruin me 😂. I couldn’t be happier now. Freedom !!!
Right! Invest in yourself! lol
This was soooo good! Chemistry has to do with preferences & Compatibility has to do with standards! 🎤 drop! Tony was preachin' on dis one 😎
This is so on point for me!!!! I never looked at the fact chemistry does not mean compatible!!!!
This is exactly why things did not work out with a guy I fell in love with. I was able to walk away after two years of on and off. This information helps me to put the PERIOT on a relationship I should have never entertained. Thanks Tony G
At first when I seen the title of this video, I was like “obviously people know the difference” but easier said than done. I noticed this is one of my toxic relationship patterns. Ty for the confirmation Tony! I am such a fan! My future husband will definitely be getting coaching lessons from you ❤️
Good information! I never even considered what chemistry or compatibility meant until my husband of almost 10 years said we are not compatible. I didn't know what he was referring to. I was so confused because I thought it had something to do with the fact that I was not like all those other women he was reaching out to through his Facebook messenger.
Be blessed, Tony!
I made it till the end of all your videos I've watched the last two months, and I've never experienced such a divine wisdom in my life!!
✝️💗
I needed this video right now. I’m talking to guy now during quarantine. It is so great. I was worried about chemistry. I’m less worried now.
Be blessed!! Tony, what a word today!!! I was enriched by how you expounded upon chemistry vs. compatibility. It makes a difference in any relationship. A person must not be fooled by chemistry but WAIT to see if you both are compatible. I am excited and expecting how God is going to continue to use you. Especially during this Corona virus social distancing season. Take care & stay healthy!!
By listening to Tony today it was very refreshing: what I found out was compatibility is rooted in Standards! And Chemistry is equal to preferences: but still watching at 29 minutes so let’s see what my Lil Brother Tony says!! From another mother lol 😂
You broke this down so well! God bless !!
Compatibility = Meat Chemistry = Seasoning
That is how this is registering in my mind .
I'm returning to these teachings again and again, helps me to have clear vision
His face when he said he went to Europe for 6 weeks. That bill was running through his mind as he brought it up. Lmao
My sister and I had a great laugh at that! 😂😂😂😂
“They love to file bankruptcy “!😂😂
LOL
Thank you Tony!
That was informative and broken down quite well. You're right we learn in society that chemistry is what you should be after. I know that's what I thought.
I am understanding now that having the same value system that you speak of Faith, Family and Finances be the foundation is monumental the other things that we seek will come if we allow time.
As always thank you for your wisdom and transparency. Keep these videos coming even the length of them is just right for me.
Be blessed Gaskin family!
Not the Grandma purse snatch!!! Chile I am tooo done!!! Lol 😂
Thank you Mr. Gaskins for this info. I did not know that compatibility was best described as opposites attract and it makes sense. My parents were too much like and they are now divorced. They were both stubborn and immature. My dad told me they were not compatible. They just had good chemistry because they liked the same foods and came from a two parent home. Now I know what that means thanks to you ! Be Blessed
Thanks Tony Gaskins this video really brought a better understanding to me about compatibility vs chemistry. Compatibility does bring unity and harmony. I rather have strong compatibility than strong Chemistry
Tony, you've done it again. Another topic that is soooo needed💯
Ty for this. I'm learning what I should have been taught as a child. I'm 47 now.
Compatibility Lab 🧪 : Natural Science 🧫
Real; Organic 💯 i.e. Standards 👉🏾💪🏾☺️
Chemistry = preferences; Compatibility = standards. Compatibility is the foundation, but chemistry is still important. Makes sense! Another great video, thanks Tony!
Thank you for really dropping some needed detailed wisdom .
I must say Rev... You're videos are changing the world.. I appreciate your service and your purpose.. it does not go to waste . Sometimes. The title chooses you
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you’re Aquafina down there 😂😂😂😂😂 you’re feeling so good, the next thing you know, you’re on your back!! Omg
Real talk 🤣🤣🤣
This exactly how it goes down 😩😩😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
And believe me ladies, whether you like it or not, your verbal and non-verbal communication and body language reveals a lot to a man about what chemistry may mean to you. If chemistry is mainly sexual to a woman, then the man picks up that vibe instantly. If he gets the vibe that you are ok with sex being just a physical act, he will give you just that.
It’s a lot of work and nearly impossible however it’s important for a man to change his own narrative of what sex is to him. Make a man, to want to make love to you.
Chemistry is an attraction for someone. It feels like you are being pulled in their direction for sexual attractions. It can be very strong and you get butterflies and your heart pounds fast. Compatibility is you complete each other in things you both like. Be Blessed 🙏✝️🙂
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
Very clear and comprehensible. Thank you! Be blessed!!!
Chemistry relates to your preferences and compatibility relates to your standards. Both matters.- TG
Another great podcast. Chemistry and attraction does not create relationship success.
Compatibility is shared values emotional maturity and a blendable lifestyle.
This makes so much sense, that chemistry can be created. "It is our responsibility to determine if the chemitry is authentic. You must put chemistry to the test of compatibility. Compatibility in relationships does not mean an exact replica. The key component is if the foundation is the same" - TG
You have no idea this is right on time for me. Met a man who is my type just like you described but our religion is different!
Gods Daughter +1 Right on time!
Great breakdown of the difference between the two. I see how compatibility and chemistry can easily be confused in the beginning stages of a relationship. I guess that's why people refer to new relationships as being in the "honeymoon" phase. I will definitely save this video and watch it again later as reference.
The devil wears" Prada"! Looks aren't everything!
Be blessed. Everything you just said is true. Wish I knew them before now.
This is a very good video and sooo true. But men try to change you when they see your different, instead of letting you be you. They want to change you because they don’t and can’t understand you... some men are use to the same old things in women... when they get some one different they become scared.
Oooo speak up amen
Thank you for this indepth clarification.😊
When you're both the same one of you is unnecessary ....Oops‼️
Thanks Tony, God bless you!
I want both. And this video has definitely woke me up to what I really want from a relationship.
Chemistry can explode in your face 👏🏾😌 Ooo lord
Tony May god bless you and keep showering his blessings over u and your family....❤️ I love your videos
Good morning everyone 🙏🏽❤️
Gaskins the relationship/marriage G.O.A.T
This is the real explanation thanks Tony this helps me a lot.
Nephew Tony you taught me something today. Clear talk makes for clear understanding. You were clear and I was understanding. Thank you for that. God bless you and your family. SDG
This message hit hard. I once dated a man with a different religious background he was always objective never wanted to celebrate what was important to me. I acknowledge and appreciate your videos. 🙏🏾
Take home message>>> dont look for compatability in prefrences e.g food ,music etc but look for compatabilty in values e.g family, religion, belief etc
Great message, thanks for sharing...be blessed!
Amazing! I'm learning so much and determined to make the change! Thx Tony!
Go ahead and preach it Bro Tony, like you said I like it all these 6's we putting in and end up with a devil . Amen Bro Tony am loving the word of God that's coming from the spirit of God as he leading you to teach. Thanks so much God bless you.
Preach Pastor 🙌🏽🙌🏽
hit tony i wasn't really interested in this topic but i just started listening to you its a
fairly good topic im trying to get my granddaughter interested so that she'd understand what so me boys want
Compromising makes opposites have healthy relationship. It is important for all relationships overall.
Chemistry gives u a rush Compatibility on d other hand makes u think reasonable and logical 👍
Beside myself grateful for the work u do!!!
Thank you
Amen
OMG, THANK YOU TONY!... 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾This is a great topic
This video blessed me. And the vocabulary words were off the hook!
The puzzle piece bit is very apt ... it further extends to the couple having a better grasp on everything in the world than they would if they were just alike ... twice as much territory can be covered at least ... if both are growing and have the same core VALUES, they will forever be of interest and learn from each other ... intuitively I have been thinking this... it is so easy to go be with the same kinds of people and run in the same circles, but I KNEW there was a reason the Lord caused me to have to move out of all of those circles even before Covid-19. Even from a friendship and business level, finding "puzzle pieces" has been essential and productive ... so this makes good sense from a relationship perspective.
This is a really good video and this analysis is why i'm weary of internet dating because you browse a catalogue and can easily pick a clone and not a complimentary person.
Thank you so very much for your support and understanding.
Before you even said it, I knew you were going to say that the key is being compatible on your foundational beliefs. Makes so much sense because if you can't agree on the basis of life you'll never be compatible & the chemistry won't matter at all. Safe to say I learned this not only from your teaching, but also from my dating experience. I have never been with a man that had the same foundational beliefs as me. Religion being the one of most concern. Many play the role, but very few are living it.