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Having options is what causes procrastination from what I’ve observed. I had the choice to go climbing or to hit the gym, or to play games, or go to work. Shit took me 30min to figure out what I should do. Once I realized I had to many options and just said fuck it the choice came naturally
Procrastinate is a term used as an assessment of behavior. Almost all people are mistaken on how human behavior works. Because of this, the term procrastinate, at best, is not very useful and at worst damaging.
1) Talk about your interests = be yourself Being yourself gives you confidence. Confidence = success 2) Live an interesting life = Pursue a lifestyle filled with your passions and the shared interests of those who are close to you 3)Break out of your comfort zone so as to not become complacent 4)Be in the moment so you when you share an interesting story while being in the moment, you are fully capturing peak interest. Just a couple thoughts!
"No one ever sits down and zones in on details about strangers" I've always done this. I've always been observant of everything as much as I can. this is literally a thing classic 2d animators do. they'll sit in a public location and just study the people who pass as part of thier studies. I doubt many other than me practices this technique though, so your practically correct. This does mean though that 90% when people are actively paying attention like that when most wouldn't, it problibly means they are an artist.
i do it all the time not sure why though it’s quite a bad habit because people will catch me staring at them but i don’t realise i do it i just like to imagine their life by looking at them i think
Reminds me of of Guy sensei “if I lose this game of Rock Paper Scissors, I’ll walk around the village 500 times on my hands”. He coaches himself by putting a lot on the line for every challenge, no matter how small, so he’s forced to do his best.
I watched a lot of videos about improving my inner self but this one is different, you are hilarious, your jokes brightened my day and what i realised the more time you spend with people like you (high sense of humour) the more you going to be funny as well... Thanks for this vid
Only reason I clicked on this video is to say, you are not boring. Be yourself, doesn’t matter what others think of you. People could think your boring, but you have to do what makes you happy and you have to make yourself happy before anything else. Let people think what they want let them be wrong. As long as you are honest with yourself you will attract people who will love you for who you are, even if you’ve spent your whole life lonely, I promise you you will meet people one day that you are going to love and they will love you back just the same, it’ll be beautiful. Never give up on yourself because you are important no matter what anybody thinks of you. Now click off this video and know that you are not boring.
If only a simple text like this would fix things… What you wrote sounds good on paper, but doesn’t produce anything more than a temporary “feel good” sadly.
While what you said is true, Julian does try to teach authenticity while also teaching about confidence, getting out of your comfort zone, and just general socialization. A shy and insecure person is certainly lovable and deserving of love. That still doesn't mean that the person necessarily has proper social skills or will attract healthy relationships. Everyone is lovable and no one is boring. It's simply about, if you really want open social skills outside of your shell, you have to try new things and break the barriers to new experiences and connections and conversations.
Listening to his talk I thought.. "what kind of people are those who don't even try to take a look to their surroundings?" I am very aware to so many things around me and it is a pleasure to be able to notice every little new details. I am the opposite to the kind of person who he is talking about, and I am proud of it
The kind of person he is talking about doesn’t exist. It is horrible advice to tell someone that “normal people” don’t judge those around them. Everyone is looking at those around them to some extent, we notice weirdos just as much as we notice 10/10s. Looking average and being average means you’ll probably be forgotten first after someone notices you. This is what the speaker experiences and claims as the normal when he’s never experienced a lot of the things he speaks about.
I'm not an observant person and mostly focus on myself, but I don't do that intentionally. People like us exist too, you know, everyone's unique. You can't expect others to be your replica.
Middle of last year I was at the peak of overcoming my anxiety. I felt like I could literally do anything. I practiced not caring what others thought, doing things without thinking and looking to the bright side of things. After a few months of constant practice, I honestly felt like no one could stop me from doing anything. It was honestly the best few months of my life. It lasted only for a few months though. I caved in and fell into bad habits again. I'm going to do it again! First step is to just stop thinking and get up and go do the thing you're thinking about right now. Start with that micro step!
Watched you back then in my cringy pickup phase just when i was about to hit 18. Watching your stuff now helps me much better at improving myself mentally, thank you.
I notice everything. I'm suppose to be going in for adult adhd and autism tests as my ex thinks thus is why I'm allover the place. When it's not fucking me over mentally actually it's really handy and useful. There's an endless stream of cool shit to notice and quite often it's easily flipped into humour. It fucks me up when someone is talking to me and they have a scar on there face and instead of listening all I want to do is ask if they are a pirate.
Yo bro not going to lie. Ive been thinking about taking some therapy to see if i have ADHD but i realized that you are not as wrong as you think you are cause other people are just lame to even have a glimpse of your perception. Dont waste your time on them. See how you can use it to better yourself cause whatever you got has been destined to be your sword in the fight. Learn to wield it and you’ll master the art you desire. People would make you feel likeyou are the crazy one. Dont listen to these basic life stocks. Fine tune what you think is your weakest point about you and with dedication you will master your game.
@@warlord-cw8ff cheers bro. I'm 10 years into this self growth, self development stuff. I fell into it through books, power of now, Steven covey. Then speakers Tony Robins, les brown and I was hooked. I got nick named shelf help Andy as I would be spouting stuff I was learning to anyone that had ears. I binned off most of my old friends as they didn't get my trajectory. From the freak metal head dreamer to rocking out around the world on big stages. It was awesome. I now live by the beach and life is ace. One gift of hyper focus is the ability to dismantle problems, people situations extremely fast. Like you said to a standard Human it looks like magic but sometimes it can get hijacked by the self sabotage monkey mind and cause issues. Even if I go get help if it doesn't pass me ripping it apart in discussion I will thank them and decline there options and opinions.
I know someone with ADHD who is a marketer and networker as per job. And he freaking lives his job, he is really enthusiastic and it is just amazing. If you got this little bit of craziness, it makes people like you, so just embrace it, you already do like I can read from your 2nd comment but still.
Late to this vid, but there's a big difference between actually not noticing someone or a change about them, versus CHOOSING not to comment despite noticing the change or person in general. Case in point, ton of attractive people get noticed in passing but many choose not to say anything for one reason or another, and plenty of those reasons aren't due to lack of confidence.
when I really get confortable with someone I can literally talk about anything, but getting there is Soo hard. Edit, yoooo I'm famous!!!!! also for everyone that watched this video, you deserve a big hug for trying to improve yourself, so yeah❤️
I was like this and then I stopped talking to people and people stopped talking to me. And now I feel like I can't anymore. Like there's some mental block
@@dylan1160 damn bro that sucks. I saw in another video that if you close your eyes and imagine a conversation with someone it helped to be more expressive and outgoing. I hope this helps my guy❤️
People look at me at work all the time and notice when I’m tired, new haircut, or the shirts I wear. I can’t speak for the rest of the world but I can speak for my coworkers and they notice everything. The problem is I get noticed by people I don’t really care to be noticed by. It’s the ones you want to notice that don’t….
That’s a good opportunity. Ask them about it. I think that’ll be a great way to find new topics to talk about. “Dave, you have new sketchers?” Hell yeah I do, and they light up!
This should be called "How to not care about whether you are boring or not". the whole idea is to eliminate anxiety because we all know essentially that it is the fear of the uncertain and such. you must let go of mental attachments and micro adjustments in order to find your center. this is why meditation works. focusing on the breath dissociates your conscious awareness from micro adjusting and beings your focus to the motion of the body in congruence with the cosmic energy that brings us life and that which makes up the environment you acclimate to. you must understand your emotions and limitations before creating the life you desire to live.
Kinda reminds me of when Julien talked about when he first moved to LA Lived with a bodybuilder on a blow up matress or some shit. And would pull girls to the bathroom. Its just stimulating to the girl. Even if your room is messy or something, some guys use that as an excuse but in reality it just makes the story more fun Positive or Negative. Its still more drama and entertainment. Think about a movie, if its too predictable and positive its boring I like the idea of giving the girl a full range of emotions. Just something different than the next guy that makes you stand out. Anyways good vid
I struggled for years with this. I have aspergers and I literally take in all stimuli around me at all times, I never realized other people don't do that too so it was very hard to shake.
Same, as someone with Asperger’s it was very hard for me to build self awareness, as the only thing that ever ran through my head was “what are they thinking”. It was like a paranoia born from the anxiety that comes with the disorder. It took me a while to realize that people only care about themselves. I’ve learned to see that and avoid people like that, and only make friends with people as equally fucked as I. I watched this video because I’m forcing myself out of my comfort zone by learning to be the center of attention, cause the only way I learn is if I’m uncomfortable and the only way I’m uncomfortable is when I force myself to be and that takes work and planning, one of which I’m incredible at and the other I never did growing up because I was too anxious that they would change slightly and I would have a mental breakdown. I’m very high and forgot why I started typing this so ig you enjoyed reading it? 😅🤷🏼
I've never been interesting, or am rarely interesting to another person. At some point I had to just accept it about myself. I am introverted, quiet, and I like it. I can barely handle what Ive got! Live a more interesting life just sounds exhausting. Work, kids and a home is my life. And that is ok. And what has helped? Completely quit social media. If theres no possibility I can become interesting by sharing into the social media void, theres no reason to feel bad about living a slower, less interesting life. Im also terrible at telling stories. I had to accept that as well. I dont have the brain for it. So even if I had an interesting life, I wouldn't be able to share it in an interesting way lol. I also no longer need to impress anyone. Letting go of it all was sooooo freeing.
Talk about shit that excites me. Why am not I living an interesting life? Break my routine (what can I do). Coach myself. Know my excuses and comebacks. How can I do that I don't have a choice? (Money) Who cares more about this conversation, who has more value? Switch a lot of topics and leave them open.
@@davidtolle9533 Lmao forgot about this comment. Yessir! Had a couple decent jobs since then. A little over a year ago I started a roadtrip and have been traveling around the country while bringing in the most consistent money I ever have. Nothing crazy but better than before. Made great connections literally everywhere I've been. Dropped RSD, found mentors/coaches better suited to me and still working on leveling up even more.
hes right, i spent 2 hours listening to this guy who hitchhiked his way across the US with nothing but a big backpack, and a guitar. This dudes stories were crazy.
The thing about this advice that i hear constantly is, i dont do that. When i walk past people i see them. Its like I see people through to their souls and yes i do judge harshly unintentionally. How can I accept that other people dont do that when i do that?
Some of this advice I cant follow and stay genuine to myself. Which is fine, means I can take it with a grain of salt. Recognizing your judgmental (or any) thoughts can help you understand who you are as a person. Once you figure that out you can work with whatever thoughts come and choose to honor and let go
I also sometimes do that. My advice, change how you think they think about you, OR change how harshly you judge them. Either way takes a while to really get in the habit, but it’ll help out a lot.
Yes, a lot of people don't notice a lot of things. I am not arguing that our society is becoming increasingly self-absorbed either. However, the combination of those two statements brings up a certain percentage of people who are observant but just don't care. So either way, people aren't nit-picking every small detail about you. On one hand, you may have people look at you and guarantee, they made a judgment or observation but that's all they did. A very insignificant thought in the entirety of all thoughts ever.
being someone who is always very aware of my surroundings and i always look much further than my hands, i literally thought everyone did this, so i had a hard time believing people wont notice you, coz i notice all people around me. giving me a hard time walking straight and proud, but after this video i asked around and you know what.? you're absolutely right. no one fcking notices 🤣 tho not noticing ur wife got a haircut is sad imo 🤣 maybe thats just me being very aware and stuff i dont know
Yea man same. Like I’m on my own and listen to my surroundings. I hear things from different conversations and if I look around I notice different things. I thought everyone does the same but I’m just overthinking too much shit. This was eye opening and funny too.
6:00 -> Talk about what you like? To be nice to someone other, for me it’s nicer to ask an interesting question to the other one and show real interest instead of talking about myself…..
First class is better regardless of stories. And some of the people you'd meet in first class I'm sure you'll get great stories from. Although I don't live my life for a story to tell someone else. I live it for me & mine.
Talk about shit that excites me, talk to others in a more ADD type of way n live a more interesting life, keep the stories open ended n switch between them, figure out whos more invested and whos reacting. Ask questions w a good vibe and add on them without explanation
i actually watch people and i notice details about them even if their farther than my arms length, and i sometimes wonder if they notice me or the things i notice, but what julien says in the beginning explains some weird behaviour i've been seeing!
@@Simp4Addison - If they didn't, bullies wouldn't exist. The military wouldnt care if your uniform was wrinkled. Schools and Clubs wouldnt have a dress code. And that's not reality. - Not sure what world you live in where people aren't criticized for their appearance, but it's not this one.
honestly i do notice the way people even strangers look- they arent just "blurry"... And then create an image in my head of who that person is and form an opinion of them, even if I dont remember later. Im always judging people around me too(i know its not healthy, but almost everyone does) based on how they act or look. And if you're a friend, then I'll absolutely notice any changes in your appearance, like new earrings or lip tint or not wearing a jacket for once. My friends notice stuff about me too, like my "perfect" eyeliner or my nails. This goes for the classroom too, i noticed when my history teacher got a new hairstyle or some guy got a haircut(which was horrible) or when my maths teacher shaved off his beard.
The part about giving the money to a friend as a motivator for you taking action is huge - I was thinking about that today and a lot recently. What are the consequences of not doing what I know I need to do?
your friend isn't going to keep it from you forever the point is that you can't have the money back until you achieve the goal you set forward for yourself. So they hold on to it until you're driven enough to get your money back
People feel inadequate and choose to watch videos like these to change who they are. If you're not the kinda person like in the video, you don't have to be. Good people won't criticize you for who you are and you shouldn't want to change to impress bad people.
I liked all of the advice except for the last one where you ask random questions and then pretend like you were never interested, it just doesn't feel right and very probably only serves to make the other person feel bad
Dr. K has explained how its impossible for a human to be boring. Its an oxymoron but the more non-interesting someone is, it makes them more interesting
Last sentence makes no sense tho. If someone doesnt reveal anything about themselves, and/or arent super energetic around new people, that doesnt entice curiosity, that person just ends up as the outsider.
@@reservationatdorsias3215 this scenario i’m using is when you’re only focusing on one person, not when you’re looking at a grand amount of people. My point is that we are all unique and interesting
2.10 - i have to disagree, i analyse a lot of people when i walk through the street and i imagine lots of other people do too - checking out girls, people watching etc. its called being aware of your surroundings
2:38 MANY do that actually ... Ppl sitting in parks, ppl at a red light, even passerbys... It's a known fact that old people or young kids do it more often than not...
It's funny because I have this one coworker who always comments on my face. She notices my makeup and normally it's a positive thing but sometimes it's like bro why are you so invested on the small differences in my eye liner or mascara
@Uriel Sigtuna That's a whole point of been an introvert, we introvert we take a lot of time to process information and it may take us a long time to finally decide what we want to do in life. All my cousins and family members are extroverts they are living the average life living on the average dreams. I have bIG dreams and I don't want to be average (nothing wrong with it) but u can choose to step yourself out of "society norms and expectations" its not a race and you shouldn't care of what others think of you and your long term Goals.
Uhh, when he says people don't analyze strangers I'm a little off put because I do. I see people's pimples, wrinkles and messy hair. Do I care? Not really it just adds to a person to see their full picture not just their perfection. It does bother me though because I want to fix it for them which is rude so I can't. Things like the way they stand and nervous ticks are interesting to me too.
Just tossing this question out into the ether. What if your "uninteresting" life is what you enjoy doing? Do you just force yourself to do hobbies/ activities you're not feeling just to be more interesting to other people?
@@JulienHimself Thank you for the response! It's fascinating to see someone replying to as many comments as you do given your audience size. I hope you continue to fan that flame and passion because your work is incredibly valuable!
I once convinced myself that it defies the laws of physics to use another set of dishes before I clean the last ones I used. "Dammit! Can't build up a stack of dirty dishes".
I notice the smallest things. And I remember the smallest things. So I just assume everyone else has the same ability. And it's hard to tell what the average person does and doesn't notice.
I’ll watch the video in its entirety but already I disagree with a lot of what you’re saying. In the grand scheme of things people won’t notice what you’re doing or what you look like, but not people are actively looking at and judging those around them. How do you know you’re in a safe area if you aren’t judging your surroundings. To say no one is outside people watching is the same as saying no one inside their home looking at social media judging their friends and network. People absolutely are, and more than this person would say
I always wanted an interesting life and meet people from different countries and travel but as a Syrian guy I'm f*ckin doomed everywhere . I have tried a lot and I really like people but my life is actually doomed. Nationality is not a choice it's a privilege either you have it or not.
change your way ,how you look to your self.Do 100 pushups a day ,10every hour,then do 200a day ,build yourself!dont care about ohers !care about yourself.
@@mojekonto9287 Nationality still actually matter but I’m having a very different life now in a good way. Thanks to the internet I built a business and made money investing in crypto and NFT’s I made it cause everyone is equal on the internet 👈🏻
Infinity-Productions it’s a sickness were the person has too much energy. People with ADHD will find it hard to only focus on one topic at a time because of attention problems. They are overly active, etc. Have a friend who have it.
I would say 90% is true but there's always a variant .. people are all different you cant put them all in the same box so dont take this theories for granted.. but they definitly help you feeling better about yourself
Tom Brady still practices throwing a football. Take your break but don’t make the mistake of assuming you understand it all now and never need a reminder. I made that mistake before.
@@bogusshmogus1670 That's me right now that's why I'm back 😂 I've completely lost my way with girls. Stopped growing and now I feel like I'm regressing
Not even my gf of 8 years notices when I get a haircut or trim my beard/mustache. I don’t notice when she gets her nails done or trims her hair. And we live together
The only way you can ever become more social is by having good amount of rest, breathing in oxygen or exhaling carbon dioxide ever moment of your life as possible and to have a stable life in your mind. Psalm 23 is where it's at: do nothing 24/7 and God will do everything for you 24/7 .
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Don’t procrastinate is something to keep in our heads always. As long as you’re not hurting someone else or yourself, go for the goals you want
Sigh, I guess I’ll keep procrastinating on becoming a serial killer then
@@베이킹베이컨 i support you
Having options is what causes procrastination from what I’ve observed.
I had the choice to go climbing or to hit the gym, or to play games, or go to work. Shit took me 30min to figure out what I should do. Once I realized I had to many options and just said fuck it the choice came naturally
Procrastinate is a term used as an assessment of behavior. Almost all people are mistaken on how human behavior works.
Because of this, the term procrastinate, at best, is not very useful and at worst damaging.
1) Talk about your interests = be yourself
Being yourself gives you confidence. Confidence = success
2) Live an interesting life = Pursue a lifestyle filled with your passions and the shared interests of those who are close to you
3)Break out of your comfort zone so as to not become complacent
4)Be in the moment so you when you share an interesting story while being in the moment, you are fully capturing peak interest.
Just a couple thoughts!
5) be ADD in conversation willing to change subject and abandon subject for the sake of chasing thoughts more then subjects.
“People watching” is an actual thing some people do to pass time though
"No one ever sits down and zones in on details about strangers"
I've always done this. I've always been observant of everything as much as I can. this is literally a thing classic 2d animators do. they'll sit in a public location and just study the people who pass as part of thier studies. I doubt many other than me practices this technique though, so your practically correct. This does mean though that 90% when people are actively paying attention like that when most wouldn't, it problibly means they are an artist.
Guess I’m an artist
i do it all the time not sure why though it’s quite a bad habit because people will catch me staring at them but i don’t realise i do it i just like to imagine their life by looking at them i think
Guess this just validates the saying of "Never say ever"
I'm an artistic type, and I anilyse everyone I meet. Not in a negative way tho..
Quit thinking youre that special, most personality disorders do this to people.
Reminds me of of Guy sensei “if I lose this game of Rock Paper Scissors, I’ll walk around the village 500 times on my hands”. He coaches himself by putting a lot on the line for every challenge, no matter how small, so he’s forced to do his best.
Typical J type behaviour Ik 🙄🤷♀️
I watched a lot of videos about improving my inner self but this one is different, you are hilarious, your jokes brightened my day and what i realised the more time you spend with people like you (high sense of humour) the more you going to be funny as well... Thanks for this vid
AMAZING to hear! You're very welcome! 🙏
Only reason I clicked on this video is to say, you are not boring. Be yourself, doesn’t matter what others think of you. People could think your boring, but you have to do what makes you happy and you have to make yourself happy before anything else. Let people think what they want let them be wrong. As long as you are honest with yourself you will attract people who will love you for who you are, even if you’ve spent your whole life lonely, I promise you you will meet people one day that you are going to love and they will love you back just the same, it’ll be beautiful. Never give up on yourself because you are important no matter what anybody thinks of you. Now click off this video and know that you are not boring.
If only a simple text like this would fix things… What you wrote sounds good on paper, but doesn’t produce anything more than a temporary “feel good” sadly.
🤣🤣🤣 stop lying to the poor boring ppl
@@JulienHimself aren’t you all about being authentic and doing what you want??? Well now I’m confused
While what you said is true, Julian does try to teach authenticity while also teaching about confidence, getting out of your comfort zone, and just general socialization. A shy and insecure person is certainly lovable and deserving of love. That still doesn't mean that the person necessarily has proper social skills or will attract healthy relationships. Everyone is lovable and no one is boring. It's simply about, if you really want open social skills outside of your shell, you have to try new things and break the barriers to new experiences and connections and conversations.
I live a super interesting life. But, I can't talk about it. It's all classified.
On God.
4 sure
Serial killer?
i feel like i live a disgusting life. to embarrassed to talk about
@@Froy_YTYt felt
Listening to his talk I thought.. "what kind of people are those who don't even try to take a look to their surroundings?" I am very aware to so many things around me and it is a pleasure to be able to notice every little new details. I am the opposite to the kind of person who he is talking about, and I am proud of it
The kind of person he is talking about doesn’t exist. It is horrible advice to tell someone that “normal people” don’t judge those around them. Everyone is looking at those around them to some extent, we notice weirdos just as much as we notice 10/10s. Looking average and being average means you’ll probably be forgotten first after someone notices you. This is what the speaker experiences and claims as the normal when he’s never experienced a lot of the things he speaks about.
I'm not an observant person and mostly focus on myself, but I don't do that intentionally. People like us exist too, you know, everyone's unique. You can't expect others to be your replica.
Middle of last year I was at the peak of overcoming my anxiety. I felt like I could literally do anything. I practiced not caring what others thought, doing things without thinking and looking to the bright side of things. After a few months of constant practice, I honestly felt like no one could stop me from doing anything. It was honestly the best few months of my life. It lasted only for a few months though. I caved in and fell into bad habits again. I'm going to do it again! First step is to just stop thinking and get up and go do the thing you're thinking about right now. Start with that micro step!
Watched you back then in my cringy pickup phase just when i was about to hit 18.
Watching your stuff now helps me much better at improving myself mentally, thank you.
You're very welcome! And welcome back! 🙏
I notice everything. I'm suppose to be going in for adult adhd and autism tests as my ex thinks thus is why I'm allover the place. When it's not fucking me over mentally actually it's really handy and useful. There's an endless stream of cool shit to notice and quite often it's easily flipped into humour. It fucks me up when someone is talking to me and they have a scar on there face and instead of listening all I want to do is ask if they are a pirate.
Yo bro not going to lie. Ive been thinking about taking some therapy to see if i have ADHD but i realized that you are not as wrong as you think you are cause other people are just lame to even have a glimpse of your perception. Dont waste your time on them. See how you can use it to better yourself cause whatever you got has been destined to be your sword in the fight. Learn to wield it and you’ll master the art you desire. People would make you feel likeyou are the crazy one. Dont listen to these basic life stocks. Fine tune what you think is your weakest point about you and with dedication you will master your game.
@@warlord-cw8ff cheers bro. I'm 10 years into this self growth, self development stuff. I fell into it through books, power of now, Steven covey. Then speakers Tony Robins, les brown and I was hooked. I got nick named shelf help Andy as I would be spouting stuff I was learning to anyone that had ears. I binned off most of my old friends as they didn't get my trajectory. From the freak metal head dreamer to rocking out around the world on big stages. It was awesome. I now live by the beach and life is ace. One gift of hyper focus is the ability to dismantle problems, people situations extremely fast. Like you said to a standard Human it looks like magic but sometimes it can get hijacked by the self sabotage monkey mind and cause issues. Even if I go get help if it doesn't pass me ripping it apart in discussion I will thank them and decline there options and opinions.
Yeah I'd say you have aspergers my man, we take in all stimuli constantly, its the main difference between a neurotypical brain and and autistic one.
I have adhd and I kid you not it is the EXACT same stinking thing for me
I know someone with ADHD who is a marketer and networker as per job. And he freaking lives his job, he is really enthusiastic and it is just amazing. If you got this little bit of craziness, it makes people like you, so just embrace it, you already do like I can read from your 2nd comment but still.
Late to this vid, but there's a big difference between actually not noticing someone or a change about them, versus CHOOSING not to comment despite noticing the change or person in general. Case in point, ton of attractive people get noticed in passing but many choose not to say anything for one reason or another, and plenty of those reasons aren't due to lack of confidence.
when I really get confortable with someone I can literally talk about anything, but getting there is Soo hard.
Edit, yoooo I'm famous!!!!! also for everyone that watched this video, you deserve a big hug for trying to improve yourself, so yeah❤️
SAME
yaa
Same but I want change. I'll do it for myself.
I was like this and then I stopped talking to people and people stopped talking to me. And now I feel like I can't anymore. Like there's some mental block
@@dylan1160 damn bro that sucks. I saw in another video that if you close your eyes and imagine a conversation with someone it helped to be more expressive and outgoing. I hope this helps my guy❤️
People look at me at work all the time and notice when I’m tired, new haircut, or the shirts I wear. I can’t speak for the rest of the world but I can speak for my coworkers and they notice everything. The problem is I get noticed by people I don’t really care to be noticed by. It’s the ones you want to notice that don’t….
That’s a good opportunity. Ask them about it. I think that’ll be a great way to find new topics to talk about. “Dave, you have new sketchers?” Hell yeah I do, and they light up!
This should be called "How to not care about whether you are boring or not". the whole idea is to eliminate anxiety because we all know essentially that it is the fear of the uncertain and such. you must let go of mental attachments and micro adjustments in order to find your center. this is why meditation works. focusing on the breath dissociates your conscious awareness from micro adjusting and beings your focus to the motion of the body in congruence with the cosmic energy that brings us life and that which makes up the environment you acclimate to. you must understand your emotions and limitations before creating the life you desire to live.
Kinda reminds me of when Julien talked about when he first moved to LA
Lived with a bodybuilder on a blow up matress or some shit. And would pull girls to the bathroom. Its just stimulating to the girl.
Even if your room is messy or something, some guys use that as an excuse but in reality it just makes the story more fun
Positive or Negative. Its still more drama and entertainment. Think about a movie, if its too predictable and positive its boring
I like the idea of giving the girl a full range of emotions. Just something different than the next guy that makes you stand out.
Anyways good vid
I struggled for years with this. I have aspergers and I literally take in all stimuli around me at all times, I never realized other people don't do that too so it was very hard to shake.
Same, as someone with Asperger’s it was very hard for me to build self awareness, as the only thing that ever ran through my head was “what are they thinking”. It was like a paranoia born from the anxiety that comes with the disorder. It took me a while to realize that people only care about themselves. I’ve learned to see that and avoid people like that, and only make friends with people as equally fucked as I. I watched this video because I’m forcing myself out of my comfort zone by learning to be the center of attention, cause the only way I learn is if I’m uncomfortable and the only way I’m uncomfortable is when I force myself to be and that takes work and planning, one of which I’m incredible at and the other I never did growing up because I was too anxious that they would change slightly and I would have a mental breakdown. I’m very high and forgot why I started typing this so ig you enjoyed reading it? 😅🤷🏼
I’m Glad Y’all Still Working Out Here Despite The Virus. Be Safe Brother. Peace & Blessings
He shot this in 2019-2019. He tells that Avengers end game would be similar to Avengers infinite war!
I've never been interesting, or am rarely interesting to another person. At some point I had to just accept it about myself. I am introverted, quiet, and I like it. I can barely handle what Ive got! Live a more interesting life just sounds exhausting. Work, kids and a home is my life. And that is ok. And what has helped? Completely quit social media. If theres no possibility I can become interesting by sharing into the social media void, theres no reason to feel bad about living a slower, less interesting life. Im also terrible at telling stories. I had to accept that as well. I dont have the brain for it. So even if I had an interesting life, I wouldn't be able to share it in an interesting way lol. I also no longer need to impress anyone. Letting go of it all was sooooo freeing.
Talk about shit that excites me. Why am not I living an interesting life? Break my routine (what can I do). Coach myself. Know my excuses and comebacks. How can I do that I don't have a choice? (Money) Who cares more about this conversation, who has more value? Switch a lot of topics and leave them open.
I need to coach myself more. I have been stuck in a routine for too long and need to grow!
But you won’t
Desmond Scott you wont
@@MultiStar84 weirdo
Have you grown?
@@davidtolle9533 Lmao forgot about this comment.
Yessir! Had a couple decent jobs since then. A little over a year ago I started a roadtrip and have been traveling around the country while bringing in the most consistent money I ever have. Nothing crazy but better than before.
Made great connections literally everywhere I've been. Dropped RSD, found mentors/coaches better suited to me and still working on leveling up even more.
hes right, i spent 2 hours listening to this guy who hitchhiked his way across the US with nothing but a big backpack, and a guitar. This dudes stories were crazy.
Nice!
The thing about this advice that i hear constantly is, i dont do that. When i walk past people i see them. Its like I see people through to their souls and yes i do judge harshly unintentionally. How can I accept that other people dont do that when i do that?
Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/w3lXgZ_2PME/v-deo.html
Some of this advice I cant follow and stay genuine to myself. Which is fine, means I can take it with a grain of salt.
Recognizing your judgmental (or any) thoughts can help you understand who you are as a person. Once you figure that out you can work with whatever thoughts come and choose to honor and let go
I also sometimes do that. My advice, change how you think they think about you, OR change how harshly you judge them. Either way takes a while to really get in the habit, but it’ll help out a lot.
@@damobeck1 thank you. Im working on that
Guys like this are able to exist because a lot of us don’t know who we truly are.
One of the best videos! It offers so much value! I loooooooove it Julien! Thank you! I'm gonna apply it from right-fucking-now!
Agreed
Yes, a lot of people don't notice a lot of things. I am not arguing that our society is becoming increasingly self-absorbed either. However, the combination of those two statements brings up a certain percentage of people who are observant but just don't care. So either way, people aren't nit-picking every small detail about you. On one hand, you may have people look at you and guarantee, they made a judgment or observation but that's all they did. A very insignificant thought in the entirety of all thoughts ever.
Video starts @ 4:50
Thank you 🙏
Yo thanks
"Do you ever zone in on strangers? No!"
My ADHD-Ass: Actually, yes. I do. 😂
walk out the the door, turn right and just walk straight. Genius! :-)
being someone who is always very aware of my surroundings and i always look much further than my hands, i literally thought everyone did this, so i had a hard time believing people wont notice you, coz i notice all people around me. giving me a hard time walking straight and proud, but after this video i asked around and you know what.? you're absolutely right. no one fcking notices 🤣
tho not noticing ur wife got a haircut is sad imo 🤣 maybe thats just me being very aware and stuff i dont know
Best real life description yet
Yea man same. Like I’m on my own and listen to my surroundings. I hear things from different conversations and if I look around I notice different things. I thought everyone does the same but I’m just overthinking too much shit. This was eye opening and funny too.
I'm someone that tends to talk fast since I can't get a word in otherwise with most people. It works so I guess it depends on the situation
Funny you say that because I always have plenty to say, so I talk fast to make sure I get it all out.
6:00 -> Talk about what you like? To be nice to someone other, for me it’s nicer to ask an interesting question to the other one and show real interest instead of talking about myself…..
First class is better regardless of stories. And some of the people you'd meet in first class I'm sure you'll get great stories from. Although I don't live my life for a story to tell someone else. I live it for me & mine.
Talk about shit that excites me, talk to others in a more ADD type of way n live a more interesting life, keep the stories open ended n switch between them, figure out whos more invested and whos reacting. Ask questions w a good vibe and add on them without explanation
Yes! Nice takeaways! 👊
i actually watch people and i notice details about them even if their farther than my arms length, and i sometimes wonder if they notice me or the things i notice, but what julien says in the beginning explains some weird behaviour i've been seeing!
Yeah same
i was trained in the Marines to pay attention to detail so i look at every thing. I even see threads on peoples clothes (Irish Penants)
Actually some of us notice a lot with others, how they look, their eyes, their mood etc.
The first part, where he says "No one does that".
And I'm like, Dude... EVERYONE does that.
BRUH🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
They don’t tho
@@Simp4Addison - If they didn't, bullies wouldn't exist. The military wouldnt care if your uniform was wrinkled. Schools and Clubs wouldnt have a dress code. And that's not reality.
- Not sure what world you live in where people aren't criticized for their appearance, but it's not this one.
@@jvd3339 well if they hate u n going out their way to do that then yeah but I’m talking about in general
@@Simp4Addison - Bullies, Military, School, Work... Those are pretty Generic areas where that lvl of scrutiny exists...
“Who zones in on people” me most of the time 😅 I love looking at people while walking
14:00 that was an amazing little bit😂 you should try standup comedy you would murder as an opening act right away
honestly i do notice the way people even strangers look- they arent just "blurry"... And then create an image in my head of who that person is and form an opinion of them, even if I dont remember later. Im always judging people around me too(i know its not healthy, but almost everyone does) based on how they act or look. And if you're a friend, then I'll absolutely notice any changes in your appearance, like new earrings or lip tint or not wearing a jacket for once. My friends notice stuff about me too, like my "perfect" eyeliner or my nails. This goes for the classroom too, i noticed when my history teacher got a new hairstyle or some guy got a haircut(which was horrible) or when my maths teacher shaved off his beard.
The part about giving the money to a friend as a motivator for you taking action is huge - I was thinking about that today and a lot recently. What are the consequences of not doing what I know I need to do?
your friend isn't going to keep it from you forever the point is that you can't have the money back until you achieve the goal you set forward for yourself. So they hold on to it until you're driven enough to get your money back
Yeah, the fun part comes when you don't care about money, so even if 1K is a lot for you, you're still not gonna do it :(
I do everything you said at the beginning of the video. I actually assumed everyone did this too.
People feel inadequate and choose to watch videos like these to change who they are. If you're not the kinda person like in the video, you don't have to be. Good people won't criticize you for who you are and you shouldn't want to change to impress bad people.
Watch this video: ua-cam.com/video/3LWZIfYcZJo/v-deo.html 😉
I liked all of the advice except for the last one where you ask random questions and then pretend like you were never interested, it just doesn't feel right and very probably only serves to make the other person feel bad
That must be done from a WIN WIN place of self amusement... Playful teasing. NOT to make someone feel bad.
Dr. K has explained how its impossible for a human to be boring. Its an oxymoron but the more non-interesting someone is, it makes them more interesting
Hey thats interesting! In what video was it ?
Last sentence makes no sense tho. If someone doesnt reveal anything about themselves, and/or arent super energetic around new people, that doesnt entice curiosity, that person just ends up as the outsider.
@@reservationatdorsias3215 this scenario i’m using is when you’re only focusing on one person, not when you’re looking at a grand amount of people. My point is that we are all unique and interesting
@@lalfada9637 ill get back to this comment once i find it. Ive seen a to of his videos so it might take a bit lmao
@@reservationatdorsias3215 it makes perfect sense bruh😂
damm that
was something
This is like self help n stand up comedy rolled into one I love it. Not laughed like this in a good while
I never knew why I was being so funny to people. Let’s rewatch Julian’s video to be reminded
Feel like I saw this video before, but love it!
2.10 - i have to disagree, i analyse a lot of people when i walk through the street and i imagine lots of other people do too - checking out girls, people watching etc. its called being aware of your surroundings
real, i even notice people's nails lol, and judge them based on that
2:38 MANY do that actually ... Ppl sitting in parks, ppl at a red light, even passerbys... It's a known fact that old people or young kids do it more often than not...
It's funny because I have this one coworker who always comments on my face. She notices my makeup and normally it's a positive thing but sometimes it's like bro why are you so invested on the small differences in my eye liner or mascara
Hell yeah Julian, great video!!
He is calling "introverts" boring when the introverts built most of the world but extroverts are living in it..
@Uriel Sigtuna That's a whole point of been an introvert, we introvert we take a lot of time to process information and it may take us a long time to finally decide what we want to do in life. All my cousins and family members are extroverts they are living the average life living on the average dreams. I have bIG dreams and I don't want to be average (nothing wrong with it) but u can choose to step yourself out of "society norms and expectations" its not a race and you shouldn't care of what others think of you and your long term Goals.
Autistics built the world we live in. Many use "introvert" as a cope for not being able to express emotions
Based on a study most of the Engineers are introvert so the lifestyle more or less take effect positively.
This found me perfectly!
Great! 🙌
Remember this, a lot of people are shit at communicating, it takes 2 to tango!
goddamn that endgame predicition was on point
The breard thing resonates with me
Uhh, when he says people don't analyze strangers I'm a little off put because I do. I see people's pimples, wrinkles and messy hair. Do I care? Not really it just adds to a person to see their full picture not just their perfection. It does bother me though because I want to fix it for them which is rude so I can't.
Things like the way they stand and nervous ticks are interesting to me too.
you and Jaison Capital are so similar hope you collab soon!"!!
TWNerd yea jc and julien should collab
Just tossing this question out into the ether. What if your "uninteresting" life is what you enjoy doing? Do you just force yourself to do hobbies/ activities you're not feeling just to be more interesting to other people?
No! Own what you're doing! What makes something "interesting" is you being INTERESTED in it! 😉
@@JulienHimself Thank you for the response! It's fascinating to see someone replying to as many comments as you do given your audience size. I hope you continue to fan that flame and passion because your work is incredibly valuable!
I once convinced myself that it defies the laws of physics to use another set of dishes before I clean the last ones I used. "Dammit! Can't build up a stack of dirty dishes".
9:37
why is there a dead person in the bottom left? 😞
I notice the smallest things. And I remember the smallest things. So I just assume everyone else has the same ability. And it's hard to tell what the average person does and doesn't notice.
Tommorows Anzac day. Going to ceremony at 5 in the morning, that my excuse. I’m out for the whole day but I’ll definitely try the next day!
10:48 Find ways to make yourself to not have a choice for not doing something
Im just glad you said right, otherwise on left i might end up robbed or beaten up xd
i think i do many of those things "naturally". Maybe I am blessed. Nice watch!
Good topic. Plus high status is important
the iron man captain america example is so trueee omg
Jesus I’m ADD 😂😂.. I flit topic wise so much but that’s what I do 🤷♀️😂😂.. beginning middle and end.. what even is that? 😂xx
thank you julien
You're very welcome! 🙏
I zone in on all the details so yes
17:48 that guy is really cool tho haha, also i love that girl smiling, great video!
I’ll watch the video in its entirety but already I disagree with a lot of what you’re saying. In the grand scheme of things people won’t notice what you’re doing or what you look like, but not people are actively looking at and judging those around them. How do you know you’re in a safe area if you aren’t judging your surroundings. To say no one is outside people watching is the same as saying no one inside their home looking at social media judging their friends and network. People absolutely are, and more than this person would say
I'm so boring I ended up watching this video.. fml
2:39 I do that actually LOOOL
very nice man, your talks got better
8:04 Good point
Thanks! 👊
I always wanted an interesting life and meet people from different countries and travel but as a Syrian guy I'm f*ckin doomed everywhere . I have tried a lot and I really like people but my life is actually doomed. Nationality is not a choice it's a privilege either you have it or not.
change your way ,how you look to your self.Do 100 pushups a day ,10every hour,then do 200a day ,build yourself!dont care about ohers !care about yourself.
So, how are you doing now? Have you already realized by now that your nationality really does not matter to people as long as you can communicate ? :)
@@mojekonto9287 Nationality still actually matter but I’m having a very different life now in a good way. Thanks to the internet I built a business and made money investing in crypto and NFT’s
I made it cause everyone is equal on the internet 👈🏻
@@FaridFakhouri wow, that is awesome man! :) Good luck with your business! And yes, if persistent enough, one can do wonders within internet world :)
@@mojekonto9287 Thanks! Good luck to you too ☘️
What does ADD mean?
This video is so sick. Thanks, Father J😎👌
ADHD.
@@Gigusx yes sorry. What does that mean?
Infinity-Productions google it
Infinity-Productions it’s a sickness were the person has too much energy. People with ADHD will find it hard to only focus on one topic at a time because of attention problems. They are overly active, etc. Have a friend who have it.
@@andersmidtgard6584 got it. In Germany it is called ADHS. I was confused and thought he was talking about something different. Thanks!
Thing is. I actualy look at people. Not to juge them but I like analising peoples. So its normal for me to feel like peoples are looking at me
Clicked on the video just to say, you either have it or you don’t. Don’t waste your time watching these videos.
✌️
9:02 Leave ur phone home while walking no negative thats a bad idea bc u could get robbed killed or kidnapped
That stuff can happen with a phone too or has the new iphone got a pepperspray app?
How many of us have turned left and walked 40mins straight no phone?
Hard Style me
@@MatheusAlves-ej7nz oh shit fr? Howd it go?!
I almost got robbed hahah
this fucking HELPED a lot thanks father J
I would say 90% is true but there's always a variant .. people are all different you cant put them all in the same box so dont take this theories for granted.. but they definitly help you feeling better about yourself
I had to stop watching these types of videos because I realized I was identifying with the part of me that thinks I'm boring.
Tom Brady still practices throwing a football. Take your break but don’t make the mistake of assuming you understand it all now and never need a reminder. I made that mistake before.
@@bogusshmogus1670 That's me right now that's why I'm back 😂 I've completely lost my way with girls. Stopped growing and now I feel like I'm regressing
@@millerturq4418 literally felt this
I felt like i was the only one who had such intrusive thoughts
What's most personal is most universal... 🙏
For some reason, I don't like you! But keep doing what you're doing, it seems that you help a lot of people with your work
i mostly nowadays put sunglasses on outside because i have trouble with my eyes but when the sun is not shining everyone is staring at me lolll
This is helpful.
Glad to hear it! What was your top takeaway?
Literally everyone in the comments:
I’m actually Sherlock, I observe everything!
Brxton bully slide with a hoodie put two in the woody
Not even my gf of 8 years notices when I get a haircut or trim my beard/mustache. I don’t notice when she gets her nails done or trims her hair. And we live together
can you talk about -how to talk to a camera without being shy
Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/bfLKZStYBss/v-deo.html
I didn't understand the part about tonality and adding value. How exactly to do that that is.
This video here goes deeper on this: ua-cam.com/video/u8YYk87c-QY/v-deo.html
whoooaa, please, thank you!!!!
The only way you can ever become more social is by having good amount of rest, breathing in oxygen or exhaling carbon dioxide ever moment of your life as possible and to have a stable life in your mind. Psalm 23 is where it's at: do nothing 24/7 and God will do everything for you 24/7 .