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  • Опубліковано 9 сер 2019
  • Ruth Singer Strunck and Mike Strunck are parents of two adult children with autism. The couple gives an inside look at what the future holds for their children who are both in their twenties and are starting their own businesses.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 386

  • @lait3967
    @lait3967 Рік тому +266

    I don't think any child could ask for better parents. A real gift to the world, this family.

  • @sharonrigs7999
    @sharonrigs7999 Рік тому +330

    I once had a client who was a non verbal person with autism.
    He was a big teddy bear of a man. Very sweet and kind, never got violent. Although he was non verbal, he had good communication skills through gestures.
    He was an avid cyclist and a talented artist.
    RIP Rudy, I miss you bud

  • @thelastminmom5251
    @thelastminmom5251 2 роки тому +281

    It’s so crazy to think that some ppl are caretakers their entire lives. That is very very hard. Even when you are willing to do this for your own kids. This is tough. I pray you get some help and peace of mind for their futures. You guys deserve it. Amazing parents

    • @Rippenhengst
      @Rippenhengst Рік тому +1

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      Stop scamming the peoples!

    • @boxeswithfoxes
      @boxeswithfoxes Рік тому +1

      @Azim Premji wait what

    • @shanimates2588
      @shanimates2588 Рік тому +6

      ​@@boxeswithfoxes That's misinformation,please report them for spreading dangerous misinformation

    • @sammax4245
      @sammax4245 11 місяців тому

      @@shanimates2588
      scammers

    • @sammax4245
      @sammax4245 11 місяців тому

      @@boxeswithfoxes
      scammers

  • @100peopledislikedyourcomme6
    @100peopledislikedyourcomme6 6 місяців тому +118

    This hits home. As a parent of a special needs child, I worry about this every day. 😢

    • @Autism_Forever
      @Autism_Forever 4 місяці тому +3

      Stop worrying and start working, changing society and creating accommodations and acceptance. That is much harder than worrying but much better use of your processing power.

    • @ChelsiBoo92
      @ChelsiBoo92 4 місяці тому +7

      I completely understand hun! I have a 10 year old non verbal son who relies on me completely. It’s good to have a plan in place for worst case scenarios. If you don’t have close family willing to be apart of that plan then reach out to the community for information and resources. My heartbreaks every time my mind wanders to the what if’s. Will my son understand? Will he think I’ve abandoned him? Will he be loved and properly cared for? I don’t think it’s right to be told there’s a better use of your processing power because those concerns are REAL and VALID. Sending all my love to you and your child. ❤️

    • @LilyRose_Tiger
      @LilyRose_Tiger 3 місяці тому +2

      ​​​@@ChelsiBoo92I am so sorry but Im gonna be very honest and say something directly from my heart hear this
      You sound like an A M A Z I N G mom
      I mean wow wow WOW!!!
      I am so sorry for being this way and I wish they could take this away with operation or anything at all IT BREAKS my heart when I see caregivers suffer so so much you really do and for that I will be sorry eternally
      😥😰😣❤❤❤❤❤
      Youre the best mom I ever heard from in a comment and wow your son is lucky beyond words thank you so much for giving me now some hope for the world if there are parents like you in this world it might not be so scary after all
      But I am sorry ❤
      Thank you❤❤❤
      Edit: sorry I completely forgot to tell you how beautiful you are in your pictiure

    • @ChelsiBoo92
      @ChelsiBoo92 3 місяці тому +1

      @@LilyRose_Tiger thank you hun! 🥰❤️

  • @brooketeague4985
    @brooketeague4985 6 місяців тому +46

    It is so precious to see mom and dad still touching Andy with love the way they do. Our sons aren’t touched enough after a certain age. Mama’s touch does so much for a child!

  • @LucyMahala
    @LucyMahala 3 роки тому +300

    My son is 6 and has severe autism. It's true, the thing that you worry about most is what will happen when I'm gone... Will anyone love them as much as I do? Will anyone make sure they're okay? Will anyone be kind to them or will people not care and get away with treating them badly because they can't talk and tell anyone? It's so stressful 😔. I wish I had a guarantee that he would be loved and looked after forever, then every day would be so much easier. These parents are wonderful, their kids are too 💜💜

    • @MB-ml8ti
      @MB-ml8ti 3 роки тому +10

      Our son will be 3 in april. Waiting for final bloods before diagnosis i may, they already told us he will be level 3. Its so hard to think about. I know we will care for him and look after him until we die, he has an older sister that may step in, after that who knows. I just hope its kind

    • @vanessakrugman2781
      @vanessakrugman2781 3 роки тому +34

      Im in the same boat..My son is severe autism and non verbal and is 20 and I take care of him at home and I worry everyday what is going to happen to my baby when In gone..It hurts my soul to its core

    • @LucyMahala
      @LucyMahala 3 роки тому +8

      @@MB-ml8ti I am sure that there will be family around to help and be kind etc, that's what I'm hoping too. I have two other sons, I pray they will look after Joshua when I'm gone. It's just that worry, it eats away at you. I hope you're all doing well xx

    • @LucyMahala
      @LucyMahala 3 роки тому +5

      @@vanessakrugman2781 bless you both, it is so difficult. You are an amazing mum, he's so lucky to have you. I think all we can do is hope that the majority of the people in care roles are there because they want to be. You hear horror stories of course, but hopefully the majority of people are kind and loving and that these services are regulated. I wish we could guarantee they would be okay. But all we can do is the best for them whilst we are able to. Xx

    • @vanessakrugman2781
      @vanessakrugman2781 3 роки тому +4

      @@LucyMahala So true and I am praying for you and your son..xxoo

  • @clarisahernandez5280
    @clarisahernandez5280 4 місяці тому +20

    😭 I became disabled at 47 and lived with my parents for a time. I am able to care for myself now but I'm sure they saw their retirement going differently. Bravo to all the parent caregivers.

  • @joansmith3807
    @joansmith3807 3 роки тому +258

    I have a 43 year old Autistic son who cannot care for himself. He is so sweet and funny. My biggest fear is what will happen to him when I die. I have no support system and the thought freezes me with fear.

    • @Quaronna
      @Quaronna 2 роки тому +8

      💗💗💗💗

    • @nadineblades6108
      @nadineblades6108 2 роки тому +2

      💜💜💜💜💜

    • @MrPillowStudios
      @MrPillowStudios 2 роки тому +1

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    • @user-sf9gs2pg1b
      @user-sf9gs2pg1b 2 роки тому +2

      @@MrPillowStudios
      💀

    • @ExtremeSpeedMewtwo
      @ExtremeSpeedMewtwo 2 роки тому

      @Цигано_убиеца_gypsy_killer Autism affects different people differently. You can't apply your experiences of autism to everyone else with autism thinking they experience it the same way - also your demonstrating a common autism symptom (finding it difficult to understand others experiences differently to ones own). I'm saying this being autistic myself.

  • @carolynrogers9860
    @carolynrogers9860 4 роки тому +204

    Beautiful Loving Parents.

    • @paulwashington98e
      @paulwashington98e 2 роки тому +1

      Hi there? How are you doing? Hope you’re fine and staying safe?

  • @seebzm8338
    @seebzm8338 Рік тому +72

    I am also a paremt of two severely autistic children. The fear of leaving this world before them is what scares us most too. Gets me low and sad all the time, so I try to avoid thinking about it.
    You are amazing parents and may God bless and reward you ❤️

    • @MayISpeak
      @MayISpeak 5 місяців тому +2

      Same with my younger brother. He’s the youngest of all my siblings. He’s pretty much the baby of the family. It always scares me to think about us leaving him behind.

    • @alexslieker9744
      @alexslieker9744 4 місяці тому +1

      That sucks man to be honest.

  • @MsCrazyClassic
    @MsCrazyClassic 4 роки тому +248

    With all you’re doing to prepare them and for the day you’re gone I know they’ll be just fine. There really needs to be more funding put towards care and housing for special needs adults because this is a real need for many families facing this reality.

    • @felislupus2
      @felislupus2 3 роки тому +21

      Even more high functioning people who've been severely neglected would benefit as well

    • @amalmilan1555
      @amalmilan1555 2 роки тому

      Rwrtwryewwrwywrwtewr

    • @amalmilan1555
      @amalmilan1555 2 роки тому

      Rywrwer

    • @tarahstiktoktea
      @tarahstiktoktea Рік тому

      I agree 100%

    • @queenelizabeth4242
      @queenelizabeth4242 Рік тому +4

      Wth?! I would think that the parents aren't going to die at the same time. But nothing can prepare you to be ok when your support system dies.

  • @V_ampyre
    @V_ampyre Рік тому +19

    My nephew has autism too. It's not easy for my entire family but we are always there for him.

  • @jesusgarcia1589
    @jesusgarcia1589 Рік тому +19

    We have 3 children all in the spectrum , every week it comes to mind. That one day they are all going to grow old. And the fear sets in. God give us strength

    • @anthonyruiz6365
      @anthonyruiz6365 3 місяці тому +1

      God bless you and you children. God will heal and guide them to change m. If you mind me asking are they mild or severe?

  • @burgaweddie1
    @burgaweddie1 4 роки тому +58

    Living the same life with our 31 year old son, the scary part not talked about here are all the dark thoughts I am sure all of us parents have

    • @jennifermurray4387
      @jennifermurray4387 4 роки тому +3

      God bless you...you are in my prayers especially at this very scary time. Much love.💗💞💞

    • @user-zr4ci7oc9t
      @user-zr4ci7oc9t 3 роки тому +1

      What dark thoughts are they?

    • @LS-jv9hp
      @LS-jv9hp 3 роки тому +18

      @@user-zr4ci7oc9t Thoughts that are perfectly normal to have but make you feel sick for having them

    • @amish256
      @amish256 Рік тому

      @Azim Premji what herbs?

  • @lucyii
    @lucyii 3 роки тому +78

    So so beautiful!! I love how the mother encouraged the daughter to make her own bath bombs for a little business. How wonderful. So lovely to see something positive and happy here on UA-cam. Thank you TODAY 😊🥰

    • @paulwashington98e
      @paulwashington98e 2 роки тому

      Hi 👋 there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe?

  • @DeepakSharma-rb5bp
    @DeepakSharma-rb5bp 3 роки тому +53

    I have a nephew who is an autistic kid. His mother (my sister) has schizoid personality disorder and battles with here own illeness time and again. Her husband abandoned her once he knew that his son has autism. Which is very sad and depressing. The struggle to be happy and stay clam in my home is almost out of the box. My folks are getting old and they just have just one concern about what will happen to the poor kid after them. Who's gonna take care of him. I really feel very hopeless whenever I hear it from my mom. I guess, I need to take care of him after them as, he has no one who would look after him. Idk but I can totally relate to the situation what you are going through.

    • @vanessavanessa4892
      @vanessavanessa4892 2 роки тому +9

      My heart goes out to your family. I’m a single mother of a child with special needs and she’s aggressive. I worry so much about her future, especially when I’m no longer here. We attend a summer camp for special needs children and I met an uncle there with his nephew. He became the sole caretaker for him and was so incredibly invested in helping out his nephew…I was pretty awestruck. I’m sending you and your family good vibes and hopefully a solution that’s best for all will eventually come your way.

    • @DeepakSharma-rb5bp
      @DeepakSharma-rb5bp 2 роки тому +6

      @@vanessavanessa4892 Thank you so much for all your kind words. It really means alot.

    • @MayISpeak
      @MayISpeak 5 місяців тому +1

      Wow, so sad

  • @agegaplove927
    @agegaplove927 4 роки тому +74

    Idk why ppl think putting their child in supportive or assisted living is so wrong.
    I have a brother with severe developmental disabilities and my parents already have him at an assisted living facility.
    I'll always be there for my brother, but I'm married and have 2 kids now. I have to make them my priority and when my brother is angry or just having a bad day.
    He becomes violent and unintentionally hurt you. I cant put my kids at risk

    • @user-zr4ci7oc9t
      @user-zr4ci7oc9t 3 роки тому +37

      That's because abuse of every sort can be really well covered up in places like those...it's hard to trust that the people who work there will deal with the situations appropriately, especially if somebody is not able to talk about what is happening to them.

    • @LS-jv9hp
      @LS-jv9hp 3 роки тому +26

      @@user-zr4ci7oc9t What other choice is there? Not everyone has a degree in social developmental care along with an extra two years of training in adult mental health nurse. Most people dont have the time or resources the only thing they can do is try their hardest to make sure the facility is a good one.

    • @np100
      @np100 2 роки тому +4

      Assisted living is not always available and when it is in my state, the parent must leave the house and depend on people who have little to no experience with autism.

    • @umberwyld
      @umberwyld 2 роки тому +13

      @@np100 Again, what is she supposed to do? Allow her children to be put in harms way or was she supposed sacrifice her life and not get married, have children or choose certain careers so she can take of her brother. People like you never seem to have an answer.

    • @stephanie3848
      @stephanie3848 Рік тому +4

      @@umberwyld I know right? I think a good group home is the answer. They are not always abusive. Elderly people are in assisted living places and that is common. I think a group home is the best option.

  • @beckee6282
    @beckee6282 3 місяці тому +5

    As someone with a disability, I wish society would understand that disability are more disabling when people don’t treat us like human beings. If people would only be more empathic and compassionate, they would see how amazing people with disabilities can be. We are people first before anything else. Stop defining us based on stereotypes and negatives.

  • @ithacacomments4811
    @ithacacomments4811 4 роки тому +68

    My adult children are on the autism spectrum. They are very high functioning. They have jobs. My son is married.
    They do not understand my needs as an older adult. They will go no contact. When this happens my heart hurts so much.
    I just keep emailing and texting them quick notes...sometimes weeks later, they will respond.
    I tell myself that they don't understand my needs therefore they can't give what they don't have a capacity to understand.
    It still hurts.

    • @kristitrimble9658
      @kristitrimble9658 3 роки тому +6

      That's sad...

    • @user-zr4ci7oc9t
      @user-zr4ci7oc9t 3 роки тому +20

      People don't go no contact for no reason. Maybe they are doing it for a reason. I would talk to them and tell them how you feel, maybe they will address it with you.

    • @lovewins4436
      @lovewins4436 3 роки тому +1

      Wow 😳 so sad! I thought autistic they would be obsessed with you

    • @nofinn1044
      @nofinn1044 3 роки тому +11

      @@user-zr4ci7oc9t Communication frequency for those of us on the spectrum. I’m a flight attendant with autism. I can go an entire week just working, and realise it’s been a week since I called my husband.

    • @starandeath4735
      @starandeath4735 2 роки тому +9

      @@user-zr4ci7oc9t people on the spectrum will go no contact cause they know their family is doing fine, nothing is happening. Why should we call our parents? They care for us and we care for them even if we had no contact. Kind of mindset. They are not neurotypical that need to be checked in all the time just to reconnect for them connection is there even if you dont connect

  • @ryo1177
    @ryo1177 3 роки тому +78

    Reading through the comments, it makes me sad to see how little people know about autism. Autism is not just rowdy behavior and uncontrollable fits. Yes, people with autism do get aggressive but it comes in different degrees and it does become manageable once you get educated on how to communicate with them. My eldest brother has severe nonverbal autism and our parents have the exact same worry as these couple. I'm grateful that my brother has 4 loving younger siblings that will always be there for him. Some people act like it's unfortunate to have an autistic loved one but I never thought so. I wouldn't trade anything for my brother. He kept me and my family strong and we all love him very much.
    Huge respect for the parents for taking the steps for their children's future. They will continue to grow happily knowing that they have parents who shower them with love and care!

    • @tylerbozinovski4624
      @tylerbozinovski4624 3 роки тому +1

      Autism also makes you socially ostracised. I know how that feels. But autism is nonetheless a filthy disease.

    • @noreply3424
      @noreply3424 10 місяців тому +1

      You are the child I dream of. It starts with the parents. If you teach your kids love and the importance of family you should have no worries because they will keep that when you leave. I pray my baby will have siblings like you. That I won’t have to pay to look after him when I’m gone. Hopefully they’ll use the money to stay close and enjoy life without cash setbacks 💕

  • @mohammedhasan3639
    @mohammedhasan3639 4 роки тому +18

    The boy looks like his father when he was young.
    And the man is very lovely with them. He says I’m afraid what happen when we aren’t here????

  • @indazone1
    @indazone1 Рік тому +10

    I like how they brushed over the “he gets angry sometimes”

  • @survivingitall5263
    @survivingitall5263 2 роки тому +13

    Very well spoken and you guys handled the "once our kids get past the cute ages it isn't as easy to find help for them" issue we go through.

    • @shellydrelly
      @shellydrelly Рік тому +1

      @Azim Premji How much is he paying you to post this?

  • @tamekiab1499
    @tamekiab1499 5 місяців тому +5

    This hit home so hard for me 😢 I have 2 on the ASD spectrum as well, 16 and 6. It's so hard trying to do the day to day for them, constant appointments, teaching (and reteaching) basic care and hygiene, and that's just my 16 yo verbal child. My 6 yo nonverbal child is still not potty trained and has no sense of danger. I pretty much do everything, and I'm burnt out. My husband works nights, so it's mainly me 😢

  • @celtickitc
    @celtickitc 4 роки тому +35

    We are going through the same thing with our adult son with severe autism. Thanks TODAY for sharing this with parents everywhere 💖

    • @paulwashington98e
      @paulwashington98e 2 роки тому

      Hi 👋 there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe?

    • @celtickitc
      @celtickitc 2 роки тому

      @Joice Omo who is doc oyalo...?

    • @celtickitc
      @celtickitc Рік тому

      What state? ... and does he accept Medicaid/Medicare insurance?

  • @malleysmama
    @malleysmama Рік тому +7

    These parents are incredible may anyone with the same struggles with their child be inspired and find creative ways for them to be self sufficient and know they’ll be ok with peace of mind for their future.

  • @philomenalapinska9095
    @philomenalapinska9095 3 роки тому +31

    I know how you both feel, what happens when your both not around anymore? My Daughter is very Autistic no language but very sweet, The state here in the U.K. pay for my Daughters Care , she lives in her own house with Support 24/7 she’s a very lucky girl, I hope that your children will get the support they need

    • @DRX998
      @DRX998 Рік тому

      Hi Philomena , I live in the uk and my kids are autistic. Who should we contact when they grow up for 24/7 care ?

  • @rrprobinsyanavlogs5938
    @rrprobinsyanavlogs5938 4 роки тому +68

    God blessed you both god will provided everything u need cus i know you are both good parent

  • @bmckong
    @bmckong 4 роки тому +36

    I love this family so much. Thank you for sharing your story. 💛💛💛

  • @angelanetherton8240
    @angelanetherton8240 4 роки тому +9

    Bless these 2 angels!.. I have a son with Autism as well and I understand fully everything they say. We are blessed to have special children God haves us them because he knows we r the ones who can take care and love them the best. It is hard at times you do get tired but the rewards of their smiles hugs and kisses is worth every bit.

    • @angelanetherton8240
      @angelanetherton8240 2 роки тому

      @Azim Premji wow I’m so happy for you and your son. What herbs are they? Does he know what causes autism and why are so many children being diagnosed with it ?

    • @auburneytuckerson2959
      @auburneytuckerson2959 Рік тому

      @@angelanetherton8240 You don't need to try to cure your son. He's fine the way he is--as himself, especially, with how you described him.

  • @kimwright6292
    @kimwright6292 4 роки тому +40

    Beautiful story and such loving parents.

    • @paulwashington98e
      @paulwashington98e 2 роки тому

      Hi 👋 there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe?

  • @senseofwonder4734
    @senseofwonder4734 4 роки тому +5

    Tou are the absolute best of human kind! Seeing your story both brought tears to my eyes and made my heart sing.

  • @tarahstiktoktea
    @tarahstiktoktea Рік тому +28

    I respect you both so much for what you're doing for your children. I'm a widowed now single mother with a nonverbal autistic 6 year old. My biggest fear is also what happens to my daughter when I'm gone. It's so scary, expessily bc I do not have my husband to make decisions, or just have someone to support me and my daughter.
    Thank you for making this, it's hard to address what Autism is to other parents bc we weren't really educated about the disability.
    God bless you both, I'll be praying for you and your family.

  • @saraho9568
    @saraho9568 4 роки тому +34

    Bless you for loving them so. I hope they have a fun and fulfilling lives. ❤❤❤

  • @ashlynsnatchingwigs
    @ashlynsnatchingwigs 3 роки тому +5

    this keeps me up at night because my son is on the severe end of the spectrum hes 5 so you never kdnow what the future holds but i know the possibility of living home with me and my husband forever is really high

  • @sandrine2009
    @sandrine2009 2 роки тому +1

    OMG.... I feel their pain and their concern... I wish this world offered good options for people like them.

  • @elizabethflores1920
    @elizabethflores1920 Рік тому +3

    I ask myself these same questions. Thank you for this video, it helps so much to know your not alone

  • @donnaadom8483
    @donnaadom8483 3 роки тому +98

    We SO need to get back into a more cooperative living environment. I would have NO problem giving bits of time here and there, to neighbors with disabilities...any Needs..just as I'm sure they could find reciprocal ways to help with some of My needs. First we need to start talking and listening to each other..😄..good lord, how did we all get so separate and ...greedy?

    • @oppressednolonger1497
      @oppressednolonger1497 3 роки тому +4

      Amen, Donna. Sidenote, Im in a similar boat as these parents. Difference is theirs is audibly & visibly less highly functioning from appearances and from the parents commentary.

    • @thelastminmom5251
      @thelastminmom5251 2 роки тому

      Well….Covid restrictions didn’t help. We become even more anti social. Staying 6ft apart, masking. For a while ppl wouldn’t even make eye contact, for fear of spreading covid. Needed to be sure no one breathed on us. Ya know. We use to nod, and say hello, maybe even smile at each other!? Crazy huh. Well that all went out the window w lockdowns.

    • @stephanie3848
      @stephanie3848 Рік тому

      I know!

  • @ManisoPreddi95
    @ManisoPreddi95 3 роки тому +27

    Going through the same problem with my not so little, little brother who just turned 21❤ he is low on the spectrum and has no concept of life outside of home. My mom has had issues with keeping people on staff for him. I am a staff right now but I'm pregnant with my first baby. And unfortunately have to quit. And she isn't taking it well.

  • @Daniela-2208
    @Daniela-2208 13 днів тому

    These parents are amazing. So sweet how loving they are and affectionate

  • @benderbending7514
    @benderbending7514 Рік тому +5

    Such a beautiful and thoughtful family

  • @jyotsanagrover5551
    @jyotsanagrover5551 2 роки тому +7

    Amazing parents. Hats off

  • @prefertostayanonymous8558
    @prefertostayanonymous8558 4 роки тому +12

    Wonderful parents and wonderful children. I share the view that the state should assist with establishing the conditions so that people with disabilities are able to live a fulfilling life even after their parents are no longer with them. I wish you all the best.

  • @kimberlymitchell7630
    @kimberlymitchell7630 3 роки тому +5

    My son has non verbal autism is 19 and we are in Australia. Even though we do you a lot of help here all autistic adults don't fit in to the same box. I was also thinking of something similar here on land with tiny houses. So much could be done with right help.

  • @jeannehall6546
    @jeannehall6546 7 місяців тому +2

    That’s great that the parents in the video have helped start BAFA businesses (By Autistics For Autistics) and are in the process of starting a residential/activities center for them and other Autistics besides.
    More BAFA businesses and residential/activities centers are needed all over the country for Autistics!

  • @urara8400
    @urara8400 4 роки тому +2

    May God bless you ;) Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story! praying for you all x

  • @ACoolMom
    @ACoolMom 6 місяців тому +2

    As a mama with a special needs 5 year old, this really hits home. I think of this all the time.🥺

  • @JodyLuvsHumanity777
    @JodyLuvsHumanity777 7 місяців тому +4

    Would love ❤️ to see a follow-up to see how everything worked out and any challenges they may still face? So true when they said you live with the daily stress of not knowing whether or not your adult kiddos with special needs will be okay long after you're gone.

  • @xoticeyes
    @xoticeyes 3 роки тому +6

    Yes same fear - what will happen to my son when I am gone- pray for the best and do what we can to be the best so, they can be the best.🙏🏼💛

    • @liklyhoys2491
      @liklyhoys2491 Рік тому

      Are you spamming the comments because autism is irreversible so either you messed up your kid into masking , your lying or someone else supported your son to learn life and communication skills and to any other commenters who want to believe this bullshit
      Autism can not be cured only helped to progress children with the condition into stable adults and it isn’t a bad thing people with autism still have fulfilling lives they just need support to do so

  • @Valz_Marie
    @Valz_Marie Рік тому +3

    Bless this family

  • @joannafarias9432
    @joannafarias9432 3 роки тому +4

    I love you ruth n mike for your amazing work!

  • @michaelpaul9208
    @michaelpaul9208 2 роки тому +19

    I'm autistic I live on my own, and pay my own bills, and I'm so blessed to have such great people in my life and to live on my own God is sooo good to me I'm forever grateful 🙏

  • @JayaTaj-zh5cp
    @JayaTaj-zh5cp 7 місяців тому +1

    This couple are amazing 👏 parents to their kids I pray for you all sending big Love ❤

  • @anthonyruiz6365
    @anthonyruiz6365 4 місяці тому

    So sad, stressful and heart breaking. God bless these parents 🙏!

  • @nickp4961
    @nickp4961 6 місяців тому +1

    God bless these wonderful parents and their lovely children.

  • @michellecox1742
    @michellecox1742 5 місяців тому

    Wow! What incredible human beings! May God bless this whole family on their journeys through life!

  • @schawnettarobinson8584
    @schawnettarobinson8584 5 місяців тому +3

    This is the main concern: once a parent dies, the child has to go on. People aren’t understanding. Losing a parent especially the favorite parent is very difficult and tough. I can’t imagine being a special needs person.

  • @Equisaso
    @Equisaso 2 місяці тому

    We as a society should prioritize taking care of people. I wish i had the means to lift the weight off the shoulders of this couple. I couldnt imagine the anguish. I pray God blesses them.

  • @lightblueandyellow3566
    @lightblueandyellow3566 11 днів тому

    Hugs to parents and long and healthy life together!

  • @jessgrn
    @jessgrn 4 роки тому

    Bless this parents

  • @donnie1238
    @donnie1238 3 роки тому

    Awesome video!☺️☺️

  • @Brandonhayhew
    @Brandonhayhew 3 роки тому +8

    I am still living with my mother and i want to go to school and has a part time job. I want to leave my mother and be an adult to support my mother but first learn to support myself then my mother

    • @Brandonhayhew
      @Brandonhayhew 2 роки тому

      @Azim Premji if it didn’t works?

  • @kristineill2378
    @kristineill2378 3 роки тому +7

    It feels like my husband and I can't find support or relate to anyone in the autism community. My son isn't mildly autistic or even severe but he is profoundly affected and it is a lonely world.

    • @nofinn1044
      @nofinn1044 3 роки тому +1

      I think the issue is the autistic community seems to prioritized the voices of high functioning autistic adults nowadays, rather than the caregivers of high needs autistic individuals. I’m sorry you are going though this, you sound like a living mother. Make time for yourself if you can

  • @muddlasvegas
    @muddlasvegas 6 місяців тому +1

    I feel the anxiety that these parents feel. My son is 22 and worry about his future also. It’s so terrifying to me to think of him being alone. It is a 24 hour worry!

  • @nanaof9
    @nanaof9 3 місяці тому +2

    I totally understand how they feel

  • @yournightmare1151
    @yournightmare1151 3 роки тому +19

    They should set up online bath bombs made by the daughter to raise money. I'd buy a bulk every month to help them raise money for the future to care for their beautiful children 🙏🏽

    • @YistheRumGon
      @YistheRumGon 3 роки тому +3

      For real! I don’t give a crap about bath bombs and would buy from their daughter in a heartbeat.

  • @abigailuselton
    @abigailuselton 3 роки тому +5

    These parents are doing it right.

  • @Savetheworldfirebidennow
    @Savetheworldfirebidennow 4 місяці тому

    How precious

  • @africanawang2674
    @africanawang2674 Рік тому +2

    Nobody will ever love them like you do but the love you have given them over the years will sustain them even when you're gone. Just ensure they are well provided for, enrol them into care programs, you may even appoint a guardian(s) and give them sufficient instructions on what to do when you're not there. you can even take a holiday to gauge whether the children understand the assignment. all will be well

  • @kerryjennings2624
    @kerryjennings2624 4 роки тому +2

    Yes I understand that situation, my brother is autism as well. And yes it very hard, to know where they going live at, who going to take care them. If my parents pass away in near future, they know that he can come stay with my husband and I. What if something happen to us, than we be thinking the same way. My brother like the 80s music and Mardi Gras beads. He repeated the words, when he trying talk to you.

  • @ericolsen67vw
    @ericolsen67vw 3 роки тому +2

    You guys are awesome

  • @sayamire5754
    @sayamire5754 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much

  • @heathor.Autismo.educacion
    @heathor.Autismo.educacion 3 місяці тому

    I have 10 years asking me the same question, I am doing the right thing for him? what’s gonna happen with him when not longer available to provide for him. It’s feels uplifting to know there are people sharing same questions and positions solutions

  • @bikkeychettri1333
    @bikkeychettri1333 Рік тому +1

    We are struggling with one of my brother having an severe non verbal autism. He is already 25. Sometimes he tries to hurt my mom and father. He even bit off my mom and dad's thumb. Sometimes I want to cry but We have to be strong.

    • @michaelcandido2824
      @michaelcandido2824 Рік тому +1

      I’m sorry to here that and I sympathize with them. When this happens it seems that they can’t vent their frustration properly so they can get aggressive. I think somehow they need to get his attention to something he likes so he won’t be violent because obviously he has a hard time expressing himself. It’s especially harder when your older and they become stronger and bigger.

    • @bikkeychettri1333
      @bikkeychettri1333 Рік тому

      @@michaelcandido2824 yes, because of other family responsibilities my mom dad also couldn't give much time to understand him. And also as siblings, we were far from home for studies. And now he has become stronger and more violent. He doesn't sleep at night. My mother who sleeps with him also have to constantly wake up with him fearing that he will bite and pill hair. Looking the situation I feel desperately sad.

  • @MissTJ516
    @MissTJ516 Місяць тому

    Bless them 🤍

  • @paulineminnis4457
    @paulineminnis4457 29 днів тому

    God bless these parents they are full of love for their children

  • @Shanelie
    @Shanelie 6 місяців тому +2

    I’d love an update on how things are going!

  • @johnellegorman334
    @johnellegorman334 3 роки тому +1

    Beautiful parents

  • @talalztube
    @talalztube 2 роки тому +2

    I hope they are/were able to place the 2 in a safe & happy place, heart goes out to these Angels on earth

  • @gingerdurbin2726
    @gingerdurbin2726 6 місяців тому +1

    Wonderful wonderful parents.

  • @plynch113
    @plynch113 4 місяці тому +2

    Eventually they will end up in jails and prisons because no where else for them. I work in corrections and this is a major problem. Our staff can't handle these people.

  • @JohnDoe-ix6my
    @JohnDoe-ix6my 3 роки тому +10

    i feel so bad for these parents

  • @sopheakchey5905
    @sopheakchey5905 11 місяців тому +1

    I think about this everyday with my daughter

  • @Sdoddi
    @Sdoddi Рік тому +2

    People really need to read the DSM to understand how autism works. People diagnosed me with PDD-nos, which is similar to Asperger syndrome .

  • @imkrisyoung
    @imkrisyoung Рік тому +10

    Personally I think our society needs to change the way autistic people are supported throughout their lives. For example, I believe that autistic people need to be taught from a young age the importance of consent, autonomy and self determination rather than conformity, assimilation and compliance.
    I’m autistic and I wish I was taught the former as a child.

  • @johnhalbe6530
    @johnhalbe6530 2 місяці тому +1

    What life skills does he have.

  • @youngdudefromcali529
    @youngdudefromcali529 Рік тому +2

    I’m 24 with an autistic child and one of my biggest worry is what happens when I’m gone. I know I’m young. I’m still finishing school but he’s my baby boy. It’s scary

  • @xoticeyes
    @xoticeyes 3 роки тому +7

    Yes, i thought of that like the “dementia village” in the netherlands but, for autism.

    • @liklyhoys2491
      @liklyhoys2491 Рік тому

      Oh no there’s another one a herb can not change the Brain wiring I wonder how far you’ve abused your children to get these results or someone took them to a correct type of therapy and it’s a natural improvement of the therapy

  • @user-nc5xz9jx2c
    @user-nc5xz9jx2c 26 днів тому

    They are so adorable ❤❤

  • @np100
    @np100 6 місяців тому +2

    What agencies are you working with to establish this resdential/work program?

  • @brownelcamino3051
    @brownelcamino3051 2 роки тому

    This is beautiful

  • @sarahshanahan2222
    @sarahshanahan2222 2 роки тому +2

    I work in pediatric home health. Many parents don't even want to I hear about the options for adult care centers when they are young. The problem is many of these programs have 15+ YEAR long waiting lists!!! Do the math... that means that at 5 years old and below.... that's the time to put your baby on a waiting list. I don't understand the resistance and discomfort for doing so... I just feel the discomfort when you have a 30 year old nonverbal child living at home and you are climbing up into your 60s.... this is discomfort

  • @keilaz7253
    @keilaz7253 Рік тому +1

    Both of my children are also autistic. A boy 7 and a girl 5. I am so scared. I need to live forever.

  • @thegrayarea2225
    @thegrayarea2225 2 роки тому +3

    My son just turned 4. Non verbal. He's so smart. Understands more than I know! I do think about it. When I get older and pass away one day I hope he is well taken care of if he is unable to be on his own ❤️

    • @crystalhaynes5786
      @crystalhaynes5786 2 роки тому

      #Druromi has guaranteed working approved herbal treatment for Autism and speech delay.

    • @TomikaKelly
      @TomikaKelly Рік тому +2

      Hope is not a strategy....

  • @weizou4667
    @weizou4667 2 роки тому +6

    America used to have institutes for them, but that lady in supreme court cancelled all the institutes, she said people with mental health should live like normal people. ..We know institutes have problems, but it is better than living in homeless tents..we should improve the institutes instead of cancelling them.

  • @AA-rr9ly
    @AA-rr9ly 3 роки тому +5

    My 8 year old cousin has autism he can speak a few words but most of the time he repeats his nursery rhymes. They are very sweet, my cousin always likes to give hugs to people. ☺️

    • @AA-rr9ly
      @AA-rr9ly 2 роки тому

      @Azim Premji oh really what kind of herbs?

    • @auburneytuckerson2959
      @auburneytuckerson2959 Рік тому

      @Azim Premji Why? I like being autistic. I just don't like that the world refuses to accommodate my Neurotype. Besides, reversing autism would be like rewiring someone's brain and making them a different person, but that's impossible, and I don't want it to be possible. Einstein was probably autistic. Eminem is autistic. Mozart probably was, too. Cure them, and they wouldn't have their special interests that would lead them to their successful careers today. So do you really want to get rid of us?

    • @lindsay8081
      @lindsay8081 Рік тому +1

      @@AA-rr9ly it's a scam!

  • @Jocelyn_Games_And_More7216
    @Jocelyn_Games_And_More7216 Рік тому +1

    I’m a 20 year old on the somewhat high side of the autism spectrum but I’m neither going to go back to school nor ever work however if trying to for disability doesn’t work out maybe I could work since my autism isn’t really as bad as other people may have it but as far as future goes I don’t know what would happen to me should every adult in my life unite with god honestly that’s hard to think of and I think I’d be completely lost in life without the adults in my family still with me I just hope my sister would be willing enough to take me in to live with her if every adult in our family isn’t around anymore because I know it’s either that or I’d have to be somewhere with other autistic people in my age group but whatever must happen I know I’d have to be prepared for it both mentally and physically

  • @craftmom5302
    @craftmom5302 6 місяців тому

    Amen, the biggest thing we parents of disabled children is what happens to them when we're gone. It's so scary to think about the outcomes, but thankfully in my situation. He has a Big Brother that will be there for him. Everybody needs. Some sort of family weather it be.
    Biological family or non-biological family. But you need that community to help hold them in their scary times when you're not here anymore. And I think that's the biggest thing. That's our biggest fears who is going to hold their hand and give them a hug. And they're scary times

  • @sweetriver9063
    @sweetriver9063 3 місяці тому

    I would love to work at a place like this. No parents should have to worry about the safety of their children after they are gone.

  • @notsurewhattobelieve2990
    @notsurewhattobelieve2990 4 роки тому +1

    What wonderful caring parents. Sounds a great place.