Feeling Sorry for Yourself?
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- Опубліковано 14 тра 2019
- What good does feeling sorry for yourself do? Fr. Mike points out a hard truth in saying-while you have the right to grieve when tragic things happen in your life-you never have the right, or permission, to feel sorry for yourself. All it does is shrink the universe down to the size of you. It blocks out the blessings God gave you that you should be thankful for, and paralyzes you from joyfully giving to others. When you feel the temptation to feel sorry for yourself coming on, in the words of St. Paul, Fr. Mike recommends:
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful” (Colossians 3:15).
Quote from G.I. Jane:
“I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself” (Viggo Mortensen as Master Chief John James Urgayle in G.I. Jane, original quote from D.H. Lawrence, 20th century English writer).
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It is a form of pride. Whenever I feel self pity or even self loathing due to low self esteem, I ask God to help me be humble. Praying the Litany of Humility has helped me a lot with this.
Thank you for the comment. I just tried the Litany of Humility. I really need that too!
I needed to hear this. I’ve been feeling so sorry for myself after my son, my first, died in labor last year. My heart is still so broken. There is still so much trauma that keeps me up at night. But I was letting my sorrow turn inward and it was turning to bitterness and anger and jealousy of others who have their children. It’s not right for me to live in self pity. It doesn’t help me either and it doesn’t do anything for my son. It only makes people like me less. The only thing that helps at all is focusing on Jesus.
I am so deeply sorry for your loss Carolyn. I cannot even imagine the tremendous amount of pain you're carrying. My heart hurts for you. You are unbelievably strong and I pray you give yourself the time you need to go through all of the stages of grief you're allowed to feel. There isn't a time frame. You're a mother who's hurting for the loss of her son. You're doing the best that you can. Be gentle with yourself. Your cross isn't light and not everyone can carry what you're carrying or understand it. You're closest to our Lord in your pain. Unite to him and our holy mother in all your sorrow. I pray they comfort you, bring you peace and the strength to live your life for the Glory of God. Take care of yourself. I send you love and hugs through prayer.
God will give you many more children... Trust him like Hannah of the Bible.. 😘
❤️🙏🏻🌹
In my prayers hon.
Praying for your healing 🙏❤
I will not feel sorry for myself. I will thank him for my cross and let his glory shine through me. Amen.
I'd like to say the same, but I'm not sure - and I've thought about it some. I've never experienced rough times the likes of which I hear and read about from others. I hope I can accept whatever the Lord sends my way. My old pastor used to have a bad back (I'm sure he still does, but he's got a different parish now). He tried to remain joyful and accept the suffering, but he said to me once that he couldn't always do that very well.
That is the exact right attitude to have...even though I don't always achieve it, I realize that we have to "take up our cross daily and follow the Lord." Still striving for that.
@@paulmiller3469 it's a constant struggle to remember and accept our cross, sometimes you feel like you dont deserve this but, I then remember Christ's passion for our sins and through it Gods love for us. I have to say it's not easy. I'll fight to accept my cross against my own self and then to develop the relationship with holy spirit that will guide me through it. In the end you will rejoice the journey.
I will look upon the crucified and be silent
Amen 🙏 well said! ✝️🌹🌹🌹✝️😇😇😇✝️ That is how we become saints! God Bless all of you on this comment thread!! ✝️✝️✝️🌹🌹
I love your lectures. I'm going to become Catholic! You ate a beautiful man. Thank you Father
Hahaha im sorry but you said he ate a beautiful man and i can not stop laughing
@@iamtomie4745 you couldn't just say welcome? You felt the need to by pass the message and laugh at him for a typo?
Welcome Bryan! May your journey be joyful and fruitful.
@@MyMindsEye10 it is an innocent typo and i thought he would get a good laugh as well if he noticed hahaha. Ma'am have a good day taking everything seriously! God bless!
@@MyMindsEye10 i am also in the process of becoming catholic, but you make me nervous. Im wondering are all catholics judgemental and take everything seriously?
I have Parkinson's disease. Diagnosed 3 years ago. Talk about difficult life. I sure wish I could deal with this better than I am. And yes I pray everyday. Some of those prayers are to have God take me home.
I'm hoping you can start a support group so you can share with others who also have Parkinson's and help each other
Fr. Mike is like . . . the best big brother for us!
3 Hail Marys on Fr. Mike's behalf.
Amen!
We have to embrace the cross. The cross comes before the resurrection. Keep on going.
Amen!
No cross, no crown!
"The cross is the only ladder to heaven."
- St. Rose of Lima.
But we understand also that talking about embracing ones cross is easier than the doing of it. So to everyone, we all have to embrace our crosses.
Feelings are not right or wrong. We are allowed to feel anything, but we should remind ourselves of what is true. My strengths, weaknesses, failures, successes, the abuse I may have gone through... doesn't define me. I'm a beloved child of God and God is with me always. He will see me through anything. Those are the realities that we should keep in mind. 'Pick up your mat and walk.'
Ian Hernandez you are allowed to feel anything but you don't have to act on it. We need to have a truth check. Question those feelings and remind ourselves of what is true.
Amen!!! Anyone who is stuck in the “victim role” is not moving forward or helping any situation get better. Absolutely!
And this is actually what makes people to focus on their past meanwhile their their past doesn’t equal their future.
Father, I can see, by the way that you look into the camera, how much you care for us. Thank you.
Yes , he is truly sincere..Praise God
Thank you Father.
Yes he has the most kindest eyes I have ever seen in a priest, thank you deeply Father Mike for all you do for us, God bless you ❤✌🦋🦋🦋🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
I am at present going through some health issues that involve rather severe pain. I needed to hear this so badly. One of the things that comforts me about being Catholic is the idea that our suffering is not without purpose and can be used to draw us closer to Christ and even to help others. THANK YOU for the gentle reminder.
I hope you are feeling better, Adrian, I am going though one of the most painful times of my life, right now, & the reminder that suffering can be transformed & valuable is so important.
Catholics are not the only one that believes and teaches this concept..
@@MG-qh1qi I am sure you are correct. But it is where I was exposed to the concept.
@@Peaceshiet812 I am doing better. Thank you. I hope you are too.
@@adrianhollow8352 so pleased to hear that Andrew, I’m doing much better too xx
To a large extent, those who have experienced trauma cannot simply "stop." Their nervous system, which is probably in a shutdown or threatened state, prevents them from feeling safe and connecting with others. They may be stuck until they find a situation where they can get their nervous systems to stop trying to overprotect them. What I don't like about this this message is that it makes the solution sound simply cognitive. It may be sometimes. But not after significant trauma.
I feel hurt and saddened by different circumstances that may occur but I refuse to feel sorry for myself, I will not complain and bellyache. Will I be happy about it? No, but life goes on. Please pray for me 🙏😇💓✝️🔥🕊️🇻🇦
When I start to feel sorry for myself I just take a look around me. Most people have it a lot tougher than I do. I am so grateful for my life.
Thank you, Father Mike! I definitely needed this today. I was just feeling sorry for myself for the situation I am in, and I got the notification for your video. It made me smile. Thank you, and God Bless!
Hi
God’s timing 💓
This could not have come at a better time! I spent all weekend crying my eyes out, wallowing in self-pity. Not exactly what one likes to hear when you're going through difficult times, but EXACTLY what I NEEDED to hear. Thank you Fr. Mike!
Chanda God bless you!
They say feeling sorry for yourself is wrong and self-destructive, but I'll guarantee you if you had my life you would feel sorry for yourself
I’ve seen a person complaining and blaming others and feeling sorry for herself for decades. Not only did she make herself miserable, she made the other family members miserable and condemned everyone (herself included) to loneliness. In the end, it’s like she’s crumbled inwards or imploded. It’s horrible.
So, even though I may feel angry and envious of people who didn’t have that kind of problem, I know Father Schmitz is right, I must look beyond myself to resolve that pain.
People are allowed ALL of their emotions, including self- pity. Criticizing an emotional response leads to suppression of emotions, which get expressed in illness and destructive behaviors and habits. The key is to be aware of your emotions and meet them with the love and kindness and compassion with which God meets us, and they will subside. What we resist, persists.
I hope you, whoever you are, whatever you do in life are treating yourself as well and as fair as you possibly can, now life can sometimes be stressful can sometimes be difficult, treat yourself with kindness and remember if you ever need help, its always out there.
I needed this right now! Thank you Fr.Mike
Hi
This Covid isolation is weighing on me. I'm 73, live by myself, work from home, have a lung issue, and hardly see anyone. And so I seem to becoming way more self-centered, focusing more and more on myself and thinking less and less of other people...family, friends. When I can't sleep at night, when there are age related aches and pains, I do resort to this "felling sorry for myself." Prayer helps, but It is difficult sometimes anyway I I hope this Covid-19 crisis ends soon, because I need other people to care about. The TV, You Tube, Alexa music, etc. don't always cut it ! Being this alone is not easy, but I also can't risk getting sick. With my age and lung issue, getting Covid would mean "game over."
God Bless you. It’s hard at times not being distracted with our feelings, especially when it’s sadness and loneliness, I think to try and understand it, and it’s hard to get away from the feelings
Thank you, Fr. Mike. I needed to hear this. And coincidentally I now start my rosary petitions for being thankful (grateful) for things I have been blessed with.
This hits home for me too.
How do you manage to have such impeccable timing? I'm literally crying my eyeballs out because of news I received just a few minutes before I bumped into this video, and I'm watching it 6 minutes after it was posted. (I had to pause to write this comment). Thank you and God bless
@@justin15157 definitely 📿
I have felt sorry for myself due to a chest pain I've had for 9 months. 9 months of waking up with pain and pressure. It was a dark night of the soul for me, the lowest of the low. The words that the holy spirit gave upon Fr. Mike gives me a push. Soon ill have treatment finally, blessed be the lord!
Thanks Father... I do not have permission to feel sorry
I’m not even Christian, but this really, really, hit home. Thank you.
Blessed are those who are poor in spirit
The talk about being a "wild thing" kept making me think of C.S. Lewis and "He's not a tame lion." Definitely put a grin on my face.
The Holy Spirit used you today, to get through to me, keep it coming father, stay the course. To the other listeners, lets keep praying for Fr. Mike and all the priests, Satan wants to tear them to shreds.
Your statement of being called to be wild for Christ puts the vision of John the Baptist in my mind.
Wild and bold, unapologetic for God’s glory!
I'm going through a separation and my wife wants a divorce.please pray that God heals our souls and changes our hearts so we can love each other for glory.
Praying for you brother 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you brother.
Awwwwww I hope you get your wife back ❤
This is a hard pill to swallow but once it is taken, it feels better to take a step back and think maybe the reason the other person caused pain is cuz they themselves r hurting and feel neglected too
Praise be God! Give me the grace to accept my troubles! Amen
You know what? I needed to hear that today! Thank you! Amen.
..just realised just how lucky I am! #blessedbeyondmeasure
"As a Catholic you don't have the right or permission for feeling sorry for yourself."
Super! Wonderful! I Thanks. Thanks thanks all the way from Brazil.
I NEEDED this convicting message. Been feeling sorry for myself for mistakes I MADE. PRAISE GOD for this message. Just an absolute blessing and sign of his never ending love
The Virgin Mother told Saint Bernadette that she will not be promised an easy life. That message was also for all of us.
This video gave me reassurance and confirmation that God is with us through the good and the bad. For that I'm thankful, I thank him for my cross, because He will be at the end waiting for me with open arms.
This happens when you see no possitive steps forward.
I learn now that life is designed to break you down this way.
Great video! Could you do a video on Self-centeredness? I feel like that's a big problem under catholics today...
Yeeeess.... Agree!!
It is very easy to become self centered or think you are the only one with problems
I felt sorry for myself when I was tired Saturday through Monday. I was sleeping instead of praying those days and it's because I liked feeling sorry for myself
My melancholy personality needed to hear this! Thank you!
THE ROAD LESS TRAVELED: I HEAVILY RECOMMEND THIS BOOK! It changed my life. Read it like twice or more.
Thank you!! I’ve been feeling sorry for myself for way too long... I told someone a couple weeks ago that I needed to move on from “feeling sorry for myself”. Evidently my phone spying algorithm is a couple weeks behind on what videos and articles it recommends per what it hears me say. Lol. ..
We are just human beings! We never asked to be born. But the brains inside the heads will feel. 😔😔😢but you are doing a good job to comfort us. 🙏🏻
This was awesome. I thank God that he sends the Holy Spirit to speak through you in order to announce His messages. Life is hard. It definitely is, but it’s through constant reminder that we strive to move forward in a manner that is like Jesus. Thanks again Father Mike. This was well received today!
I have tried very hard to find things to be thankful for.....
I just lost my father who I adore...I thank God I had such a caring and amazing father.
My husband struggles with anger after a young adult cancer attacked twice and destroyed so much ...I thank God he survived.
My young daughter cries at bedtime missing Grandpa, wanting a sibling that i will most likely never give her, missing last year’s class and teachers...I thank God that she at least had the experience of one good year in school and that my dad got to see her learn to read.
There are more....
However, I still struggle....I do ask God why these things happened to me. I am trying to give up complaining for Lent, but it is hard when your life is so different from those around you.
I'm not sure I understand the distinction between feeling sadness and grieving for yourself and feeling sorry for yourself.
I experienced a lot of trauma as a child. I still have to deal with some of that trauma today. I feel sorry for myself. I don't think it's fair that I had to go through that, but by having compassion towards myself and pitying myself, it makes me not only want to help myself get though what I'm been through, but it also makes me want to help others to either not have to go though what I go through or help then get through.
I don't think feeling sorry for yourself is necessarily selfish as long as you recognize that you're not the only one who went through that.
But, I think it can be dangerous to tell someone who is in the midst of serious mental illness that they shouldn't feel sorry for themselves because its selfish. That's what causes people to turn to self-harm and suicide. I know its caused me to do that. It invalidates their feelings in a lot of ways.
Sometimes people have to care about themselves before they can care about others for the sake of their mental health. It's not selfish. And for someone like me who has dedicated her life to helping children, sometimes I need to take a break from my work and focus on myself so I can help myself.
Unless feeling sorry for yourself means something other than what I think it does, but I've always thought it means recognizing the injustice towards yourself and having compassion towards yourself. Perhaps if you're just sad and dont do anything about it.
Caterina Eremondi im sorry you went through that, but im not sure youre the audience this was meant for exactly. I am glad youre better.
@@bethoumyvision1346 The "intended audience" is everyone, not just the "normal" people.
This video really did a very poor job communicating the intended message.
I'd say "feeling sorry for yourself" is a long term mindset. While sadness and grief are temporary emotions that we all experience and have a RIGHT to experience.
Fr. Mike , You are so very gifted by God to Communicate and Express Gods plan for His Beloved Children, with such simplicity and enthusiasm! Thanks be to God for the Gift of Fr.Mike! You truly Feed Gods Sheep! My Our Blessed Lord continue to Bless and Keep You and make His face shine upon You and give you His Peace!
Wow totally answer so much about how i feel and never do i feel sorry for myself i am greiving and its a process thank u
My I love myself so much.. and I still plead for my situation..
Thank you so much for this video. It really helped me a lot. Sometimes I have a bad tendency to feel sorry for myself, even though my life is very positive and I shouldn’t really feel sorry for myself. Instead, I will look at the positives in life and count my blessings!
God Bless!
I have been struggling this week. thank you. I had 3 miscarriages last year. we want a baby, I started new diets and changing what I eat and keep getting more set backs. now its my thyroid and food allergies. I feel like it wont happen and its hard to not get discouraged.
Thank you, Father Mike…needed this today. I appreciate the allowance of grieving and the difference between it and feeling sorry for myself. Lost my Mom going on 5 years now & every day is a struggle not to live in self-pity, but to celebrate and remember her life and the love she has for all of us. An extra prayer for Father Mike today.
❤ these thoughts resonate with me thank you for your comments
Thank you, Lord, for letting me watch this video. This made me realized why i should not be sorry for myself. I always had a feeling of self pity once in awhile most especially when i feel like the burden is too heavy and is supposed to be shared between parents for their children. I felt i shouldered all the burden when i should have shared it with the father of my kids.
for a few minutes I thought well I have good reasons to feel sorry for myself but after reading the comments here it's made me see how bravely so many people are facing their difficulties
THANK GOD for keeping me too busy to focus on my LORD JESUS and don't have time to feel sorry for myself.
Thank you for the wonderful video Father Mike! Great information, yes, great movie with Demi Moore trying out for the Navy Seals
This was too good just watch once.
I was taught in AA that the agent for a wet drunk is alcohol. The agent for a dry drunk is self-pity out of control. To stay out of self pity, I have to have gratitude in my life, no matter what, share with another person and have a sense of humor about myself without putting myself down. I has been the foundation of my life for a very long time.
Great message that I really needed to hear. I love that line from that book as well. I only wish you had finished his thought. He follows by saying, "Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult."
Wow, this hits the nail on the head
This is amazing. Direct and very much waking me up before I fall into a slippery slope of sadness and yes self pity which I’m trying to stay away from..which led me to your videos. 😅your guidance( Jesus divine guidance) through you Fr. Mike is always helpful. That quote is what caught me and reminded me ❤ it actually has a personal message for me. I appreciate that. my grandmother reminds me of how Jesus was as a human but no matter how much the lady(gma) suffered she was always where her feet were and was always praying and remained focused. it reminds me to be strong. I am a wild daughter of Christ 😂 thank you Fr. Mike 🎉 you’re the best.
I do feel sorry for myself I am very ill and have shut out my family and friends as I can't deal with anything, I pray every day hoping the lord heals me but feel now that maybe it's not his will as I think it would have happened before now, im heartbroken as I'm going to receive my 4rd grandchild in December and don't think i will be here my sons first baby he needs me I need them lord have mercy please lord let me live give me strenght you can heal me completely I believe in you lord I trust you I thank you in Jesus mighty name Amen 🙏
Your own self pity is not only worthless, it’s also damaging. Instead, let God have pity on you. Give glory to God when you are in any kind of physical or emotional pain. God sees all of your pain and all of it is extremely important to Him. Give all of your pain and suffering to Him and he honored to do so. I’ve come to realize through my own experience that this is very powerful. Trust in His love for you.
There are so many things to be thankful for
Fr. Mike thank you for the Ascension Presents series. I have benefited from hearing you give a meaningful explanation of the many questions I have. I am so grateful for your time with us.
Oh, Father Mike this hit me right between the eyes. I have been feeling sorry for my self all this week . I didn’t have any idea why . You just made me see how selfish I have been. Thank you so much for your videos they always give me a way of seeing things differently .May God Bless you for helping me see things differently.
Hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus. Holy Mary mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
Thank you Father Mike for sharing this video; you can see the joy of knowing our Lord Jesus in your face.
Talk about perfect timing, thank you Father Mike! God is good 🙏
All the time God is good
God's given him so much wisdom.
Thanks fr. I needed something to lead me to be wild like Jesus and not feel sorry but stronger ☺️💪🏻
Father grant that I must never seek to be consoled as to console🙏🌻
Thank you for showing me that I’ve been so caught up in my pain that in reality I’ve been so focused on me feeling sorry without knowing it. ❤🙏🏻
thank you 💗
Thank you Padre .
Really needed to hear this! Thanks Fr. Mike!
Thanks Fr.
Thank you
Scott Peck MD I read it over and over again along with Norman Vincent Peale: The Power 🔋 of Positive Thinking.
The BIBLE and the CATECHISM and your help understanding them. JESUS IS an AWESOME HEALER... ✝️❤️🕊🙏
Thank you for your pure honesty. We don’t have any reason to feel sorry for ourselves I never thought it even Jesus & his mother didn’t feel sorry for himself or even
You are so right and good.
I’m glad I saw your video this morning just before dawn. It made me feel so much better. I was feeling sad for the way things had been going these past few weeks. It helped me to snap out of it. Saving your good words.
No, champion. Fight him, be angry at him, but feeling sorry? Never.
Now my mind getting clearer as ur advice is very good,nothing can do about feeling sorry 😢 to myself, I need to listen to ur words, and god is always there to listen my prayers, thank you so much.
Congratulations on your "Feeling Sorry For Yourself?" inspirational thanks for sharing. Britain Work And Bills. 💌
Thanks father so needed message 🙏
Thank you, Father…I needed that. ✝️
Sweet Quote!
Thank you...I needed this😇
Thank you, Fr!
thank you for your word.
God bless
Thank you, I needed to hear this.
I need this! Thanks Father Mike!
I needed to hear this so badly. Thank you so much! God bless
Soooo good. Thank you Fr. Mike!!
Thanks for sharing the quote...😀
Thanks, Father Mike!