I gave birth 25 years ago.... and I was shocked at what happens after baby is born. Postpartum and menopause is something that should be discussed openly and honestly.
I agree! I had a C-section with my first baby (and second) but I was shocked about everything that happened with my body after the surgery. I just thought they took her (and everything gross) out via the large incision they made on my stomach and that was that. I was totally shocked when I found out that I would still bleed (massive amounts, and large other tissues) vaginally for weeks after. I didn’t know all the blood and tissue still had to come out naturally. It was so unexpected.
Agreed. I had no idea what to expect after my first child was born. And no idea what to expect with menopause outside of hot flashes and weight gain. We definitely need more people talking honestly about what really happens to our bodies.
I totally agree! I didn't have any education about what happen, and it was difficult for me to care for myself and baby without my Husbands help! He was amazing help with me!
I had my first baby 40 years ago. I was completely unprepared. Back then, la- maz was popular, so I took a course in that. That was a complete waste of time, and I was so nieve. After a 24-hour, extremely painful labor, and 2 pushes, I had a healthy baby girl. Back then, we didn't know what sex the baby was. I wanted a sonogram to find out, but my old-fashioned dr said no. I threw up for 9 months and lost 50 lbs, and had extreme post partum depression. Everyone around me talked about how much they loved being pregnant, and I was miserable. I had an epidural with my second child ( boy). I had a different dr and went to a bigger hospital. I knew I was having a boy. That was a completely different and lovely experience. I'm so sorry you had so much trouble with your epidural. I hadn't thought about the possibility of a cerebro spinal leak. I'm going to have a total hip replacement next month, and they want to do the surgery using a spinal. Now I'm wondering if I want that option over general anesthesia. I'll be asking a lot of questions.
I’m 67 years old, when I was about 41 years old my period was late so I went to see my OB/GYN fearing I was pregnant, I had two teenage daughters and I didn’t want anymore children. The good news my doctor said you’re not pregnant but you are Perimenopausal! I said I never heard of Perimenopause before. The doctor said there’s Perimenopause, Menopause, and Post Menopause! I made a joke and we both laughed so hard! I try to talk to young women about our bodies. I went through it all at a young age.
I’m a nurse and felt that I had to be especially stoic during my first L&D. I ended up also having a very difficult post partum which resulted in an extra week of hospitalization and complications. It made me feel like such a failure to not have that “perfect” birth story. I’ve come to realize that every birth that results in a healthy baby and mama is perfect. The rest we can recover from. Take care of yourself!
I think it’s great to talk about it because nobody thinks about how bad the pain is and being able to have an epidural. I wasn’t so lucky but for you to talk about everything going into and after will really help other is really great. And scary for any new mother.
Hi Becky. I love how you're protecting your baby from the camera and keeping him all for yourself and Josh. I think it's enough that you share so much of yourself without feeling the need to share your little bundle of joy. Keep him innocent and all to yourself! Enjoy this time and continue to show yourself grace.
Well I’m sad I didn’t get to see baby Acre. I do understand why you don’t want to show him and I respect your decision not to show him. It’s like a cake you baked but don’t want to show us what it looks like when it came out of the oven. ❤❤❤😂😂😂
@@workinprogress3609 you should be more understanding. It's not just us "friends" that watch the videos you never know what's around on the internet. I totally support her decision even tho I feel curious about the name too and I'd probably do the same. She's just doing her job as a mama to protect her baby, if you shouldn't feel entitled to any information related to that.
Becky, thank you for being willing to talk about the "aftermath" of delivering a baby. It was like having a private conversation with a sister or girlfriend and very much appreciated. Some people don't have that sister or girlfriend in their life to have these kind of conversations with. I think it is very important for us to be able to talk about such things.
As a retired registered nurse in labor and delivery as part of my career, thank you for all of this information. Women want and need to hear the nitty gritty too. Take care.
I had my first of 3 in 1990. Pre-internet and UA-cam. I am so glad my daughters have all this help and open dialogue. I didn't have any knowledge of half those bathroom aids. That spray! O how I wish I knew about that in 1990, if it even existed!
@loriheller2500 I had my first in 1982. We didn't have all that stuff. I remember using a sitz bath with betadine in the water. There were no freezer ice packs. No tucks. No period underwear. And not much education either. Just what friends and family will tell you. I remember my aunt saying " don't tell her. You'll scare her".
Do I have kids? Nope. Have I ever been pregnant? Again, nope. Will I ever have kids? Unfortunately, probably not. But, did I watch this whole video from start to finish? Yes, yes I did. This was so helpful and informative to any new momma out there. I love how real and laid back your content is. Your channel is definitely one of my favorites on this platform.
Exactly the same with me. At 62 this train has gone by for a long time. But I did learn a lot I didn't know and I can imagine this is a whole huge blessing for any woman preparing to have children. Sometimes you just need the straight facts without beating around the bush. Bless you, Becky!!
I watched the whole thing & I'm 70. I just love Becky no matter what she's talking about. Just wish I had her energy. That ship sailed 10 years ago. lol
God bless you Becky for sharing the real nitty gritty of post partum recovery. I'm 32 weeks pregnant and this is the first time I'm hearing about what to expect. I'm so emotional and angry that none of the women in my life, or at any time in my education, ever shared the reality of pregnancy/birth with me. I told my husband tonight that I feel like I didn't get to make an informed decision about if I wanted a baby or not because there is so much I didn't know I was consenting to. I'm not saying I would have chosen differently and I do want my baby, but my pregnancy would have been a lot less emotionally traumatic if I had known all this sooner. Thank you so much for giving me the heads up now so I can prepare myself for what's to come. I really am overwhelmingly grateful for your willingness to share your full story with us. I pray for the best for you and your family and I hope you know how much you have touched my life and how grateful I am for all your videos. God bless ❤️
My mother, 1st baby age 20, asked the nurse where was the baby going to come out of. Her answer, "the way it went in is the way it will come out." My mother from a strict Itslian family, 70 years ago knew nothing.
I know I'm a stranger on the internet but I am sending you all the happy feels over my phone screen. And I'll be holding your hand in spirit when you start your labor. I've been slowly trying to get all the information I can on pregnancy because I'm not sure I want kids(25 yr old so I do have time for thinking 😂). I still barely know anything on healing. I hate the idea of a mama going through what your going through. You might not have a youtube channel but you also have people rooting for you! I hope I see you in the comments saying you have a fucking fabulous birth and you and baby and happy and healthy(pardon my swearing... I get passionate).🤣💗💜💖
Yeah my SIL told me some stuff and I was shocked. I realized society discourages talking about it because that would affect birth numbers honestly. If people knew ALL the possible outcomes and issues and not just the happy about all the parties they have now(gender reveal, baby shower) and pregnancy and being a new mom being so overjoyed with baby from the bonding hormones etc.
Some people make Childbirth and postpartum sound way worse than it is. I have 6 kids, had complications with my last 2 pregnancies. The recovery wasn’t to bad. Depression is horrible tho. Just make sure you have a good support system. Your maternal instincts will kick in and follow what your gut tells you. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and if you don’t get the answers you feel comfortable with, ask a different person. Don’t ever feel like someone is trying to shut you up or rush your concerns or “A first time mom” BS!! I hope your pregnancy and delivery go well. 😊
Alexa, congrats on your up coming little one. I'm a mom of 3 adults and 11 grandchildren. If you have questions concerns feel free to ask away. I'll be more than happy to be real with you. Sometimes it's just the not knowing that is scary. If I don't know I'm sure a lot of these wonderful ladies here can help also. I'll give you a tidbit my daughter told me that I should have told her.. she never realized different places on her were going to change color ha.. booty sore for a bit(those tucks will help soothe that area also). There's just a couple no one might not have mentioned. Ask away&best wishes
Josh installing a warming bidet for your postpartum comfort is so sweet 😭 you are so awesome Becky! We appreciate your openness to share so much with us!
Right?! Not only is she super informative with her skills in the kitchen, but when she explains anything she really knows how to make you understand. Becky is by far one of my favorite UA-camrs! She’s real people!
Thank you for shearing. You do look great after all you went through you are a strong woman. Love the bidet idea with warm water…possible to share the brand or where it was bought?
As a side note to first time pregnant people. I highly suggest allergy testing both the benzocaine and tucks pads on an arm prior to delivery. I had NO idea I was allergic to witch hazel until the day after I delivered my oldest. I felt great! Was up and around and feeling amazing and healing great. Annnnnd then the fires of hell lit up in my crotch, I was swollen and bright red and had hives ALLLL down there. The docs determined it was the witch hazel in the tucks pads. So it’s just a tip I pass on to all first time pregnant peoples.
I’m so sorry that happened. That definitely is a good idea to do and if someone did break out, it won’t be the hell on wheels of pain on top of the healing in the private area like u had to endure. ❤ I wished I was informed 13 years ago when I had my son that when a epidural was given that it was mixed with a heavy narcotic like Fentanyl or another substance with the lidocaine. Unfortunately my Dr was not on call and I had some other dr . My body literally rejects all pain medications especially narcotics and even OTC . I look and feel like someone withdrawing from addiction. I was bedridden for over two weeks. My mom had to take care of my son as I couldn’t move. (Father was useless) I would have opted to go natural or if there was alternative treatment that didn’t involve narcotics.
I was a labor and delivery nurse for 31 years. And just as an FYI, afterbirth cramping usually doesn’t occur with first baby. When moms come back for the second time they get quite a surprise. And they tend to get worse the more babies you have. So Becky, hang on the that tincture for little Acre’s little sister. 😊
I second this! My first birth I didn't have afterbirth contractions. I did the second time but not horrible, and every birth after that they have gotten worse. Coming up on the 5th baby now and I will not be caught without that tincture.
I have had four and I can concer it does indeed get more intense after each birth. I was surprised when my second we born because no one tolled me or I wasn't paying attention lol.
I am way past child birthing years but wanted to say, I wish someone back then had been as honest and shared like you have today. You will probably never know how many expecting Moms or yet-to-be Moms you have helped with this video. You're a blessing.
We don't ever need to compare ourselves to anyone else. If she could do it, why can't I, is something we never need to ask, because we're all individuals and we're each special. Thank you for sharing your story with us 💚
I am so so so happy that you are fully protecting Baby A's privacy. So many UA-camrs put their kids out there for the world to see and it's nice and refreshing to see parents like you making sure to not do that. So glad you're feeling better now as well, pregnancy and childbirth is no joke!
That was so incredibly thoughtful of your nurse to ask if you wanted to implement those things on your birth plan like your music and lights. She wanted to make sure your birth experience was as close to what you hoped for as possible and that is so sweet.
I am 36 weeks pregnant and I love how raw and honest you are. So much vulnerability and bravery! I truly Appreciate it! ❤️ thank you for sharing your story and I am so happy you’re back to feeling better!🙌🏽
I am a woman who doesn't want to ever be pregnant, so I very much appreciate and understand you talking about how this whole show is not exactly this glowing fairy-tale experience that instagram and marketing is trying to present.
It's very very true that people only show others what they want them to see on social media. tik tok and instagram and the others are doing a disservice in this aspect. I've had two children. It was not a storybook event either time and I hate labor, frankly. And I'm okay with that. It was a price I was willing to pay to have my kids, but it ain't for everyone. Big hugs to you, I know you probably get crap from everybody all the time about your decision.
My goodness it is not a fairytale well some have amazing times other don’t I had 8 pregnancies only 3 births and now only have 2 surviving kids definitely no fairytale no one tells you of the risks of the bad things that can happen and no one tells you you may not even bond with your baby at first and that feeling of intense love sometimes takes awhile or postnatal depressions/illnesses can last years and give you PTSD.. I think it’s rewarding and worth it but no defiantly not always a fairytale
Most people show the good side . Not the whole picture. When I was young I thought how easy no complications people had a perfect birth. Then I grew up and realized oh that’s not true. Even tho I never had kids . ( I wanted kids badly but my ex husband could not get me pregnant. ) So we adopted a child. Only one boy with fetal alcohol syndrome and ADHD. He’s in a host home now . But family members had babies and I heard about it and I have had friends say things. Having a baby is ruff. Even if you don’t have some of the trouble Becky had it’s still hard. Becky is a trooper.
As a mother of five little girls who had no female in my life going into the birth of our oldest this is an amazing video. I absolutely wish I would have had this before I had our first about all the unknowns. As someone with no family except for my spouse and daughters I am so glad you had all of the support from your family. That is such a foreign concept to me since I have never been on the receiving end of that. We will be there for our girls in the future, they will never know what it is like to not have support from their family.
Wow, I’m so blown away by the expectations so many women put on themselves during this period (I’m 34 weeks today). The goal used to be (and still is) getting out of the whole ordeal alive, for both you and the baby as long as this happens, everything else is a bonus! I’m so happy that you’re talking about the postpartum and I expect it to suck royally but gals, lets give ourselves a break, this whole process is damn hard work and we should share and care. Congratulations on your openness and frank information it is hugely helpful!
My oldest is 33 and things are very different just since I had her. From birth, products, etc. The postpartum products are the most surprising to me. I had stitches and everything but I never had any after instruction or products. Just huge pads. No sprays, ice packs, nothing lol
My oldest is 31 and I had stitches, was instructed on using the Tucks pads, squirt bottle, all that stuff. They told me to do sitz baths, I preferred to just get in the shower (we ALWAYS have hand held spray attachments in the shower!) Maybe it depends on the hospital??
I was in the hospital for 4 months with heart failure at the end of 2020, I deff have a new respect for nurses too, they do so much and are incredible.
Agree. I was in the hospital for a month with Covid pneumonia and sepsis in January 2021. My nursing team was awesome and took such great care of me! I will never forget them.
It’s important to give ourselves as well as others, grace. Your birth story isn’t what you planned, doesn’t make it any less beautiful. Mine wasn’t what I planned. I had every intention of a vaginal birth but my son was 2 weeks past his due date and it was discovered that I was also pre-eclampsia. We induced and after 15 hours of labor he was no where ready and becoming stressed. I went full blown eclampsia and was rushed into an emergency c-section. Minutes later I had a beautiful healthy son and as my mother, an RN happily told everyone- “It wasn’t the birth experience she wanted but he has the prettiest head I’ve ever seen on a newborn!” LoL There is always a bright side. He just turned 30 and over these many years I have hardly ever given his birth a second thought. Also, he still has a beautiful head.😉
What I love about you Becky is that you’re real. You did an amazing job of planning for your birth experience but what really impresses me is that you went with the feelings you were having in that moment. So many people would have forced themselves to live out that plan but you were strong enough to recognize what you truly needed and sensitive enough to give yourself that grace. Be very proud of that!
@@waltercroft4963 she is the only one that experienced giving birth. She had to push the baby out all by herself. It’s her body, so if she wants to share what happened to her body before and after giving birth then she has every right to do so. Becky being real and sharing her story has been very insightful and honest. She isn’t exploiting anything. Respectfully, it’s not our business what she named her child and she has every right not to share it.
@@waltercroft4963 LOL, you are one (or all) of the other women who come on here filled with bitterness, hate and jealousy. Go find happiness and a life. You’ll NEVER succeed in besmirching Becky’s good name, her incredible UA-cam success or the love we her subscribers have for her, Josh, her baby and entire family. Boom! 🎤
Thank you for being so open &honest. Talking about the icky, uncomfortable/unpleasant and personal details that happen to women's bodies & no one mentions. You're helping people more than you know. Josh gets a gold star for installing that bidet ⭐, and Baby A is a lucky little one with such great parents 🥰
God Bless Josh for everything he did to comfort Becky ❤ He installed a heated bidet toilet???! OMG that had to be SO amazing! It's been 28+ yrs since I gave birth; but, I remember being VERY sensitive & tender down there and when she talked about Josh doing that for her...WOW 😌 THAT MAN IS A SAINT! You 2 make an amazing parenting team! 💞
As a new mom... Sometimes a shower is tough... And we wait until we are comfortable... You don't want to faint in the shower and hurt yourself. I'm so happy you feel better now and are recovering! Baby A needs you ☺
The safest way to enjoy a shower is to invest in a plastic lawn chair, usually white, sells for less than $10. It is waterproof, has a back you can relax against, and arms. Fits in your tub or shower. I have a bad heart with AFib. It works great.
I had a plastic patio chair in our shower for weeks after both my daughter’s births…… I just couldn’t stand long enough without getting giddy or wobbly on my feet … After passing out in the shower in hospital I was very careful for months afterwards …..
@@hez5537 Yes it was. I applaud Becky for being real. I think no one told me about what to expect because they didn’t want to scare me I guess. Seriously, I wish I had some heads up.
Pam here….so many women will benefit from your honesty. As a nurse, I find educating a patient and helping them over come fear of unknown! Those period underwear sound like a great option for women with urine leakage…thanks for the information about them!!
I was thinking the same thing about the period underwear, just wondering if they're just as absorbent after a couple washings. Not paying $30 @ pair either, I'll be checking Amazon for cheaper prices like Becky did.
Becky, my 1st birth was traumatic & I had complications. I didn’t take a shower either. But my 2nd birth was so great & I did take a shower the following morning. And like you, if I talk about my first, I become emotional. I am happy to report that my first baby is perfectly healthy & is in her 3rd year of college & is currently applying to medical school.
Becky, I absolutely love your honesty and how you are very REAL and not afraid to show your emotions on your experiences. With my births, I was worried about bladder control due to my urgency issues. I used depends undies with an extra poise pad and never had any leaks. Also, Just wanted to give you a little encouragement…. I remember you talking about maybe feeling resentful of not having that “perfect” birth story, however, ALL birth stories are perfect. Each birth story is unique to that child and that’s what makes it so special. You’ll never have the same birth story twice. And you and you baby will forever share their FIRST EVER story of their very own and no one can take it away from you. And to me, that’s pretty amazing.
I made my daughters hospital gowns, with opening, ties, etc., but it was made to fit her and not a "one size fit all". She still talks about how much nicer and easier they were to use than the regular hospital gowns. I made one of a pretty print and since she forgot an outfit for "baby picture", she wrapped Baby Evy in the gown and her pics were adorable. Any of you that sew, it's a great gift for a soon-to-be mother.
I am a mama to 3 kiddos- 6 and under. I never heard anything about postpartum during my 1st pregnancy. It was a shocker. I am happy you shared your story, because it is so very true that no one ever talks about postpartum care- even after taking baby classes at the hospital. I also share as much as I can when friends/ family are having babies. I don't think you are dehumanzing anyone- we are women and this is a part of having children. We have to go through the nitty gritty in order to have that baby. The only thing that stinks is that it is not taught or shared before baby is born! Hope your healing is going well :)
Dear Becky I’m sure women that need this information will appreciate your honesty and openness very much, this is so important information, love the way you explain things that are necessary, this is real life, I wish I had that kind of information when I had my kids, love you for who you are, don’t stop being real 🥰
I always say that there are 2 things I never have to do again...1. Get married for the first time. 2. Have a first baby again. Yes, we all get through these things, but that does not make it easy!
I wish I had something like this when I had my girls 14 and 9 years ago. No one talked about aftercare for mom. I remember asking my mom why no one or the books I read talked about it. I’m so happy you put this out there.
Scary is a perfect word! It’s the unknown that is scary. The unexpected is scary. It’s also ok that you still become emotional when talking about your birth story. You are still mourning the experience you hoped for. With time it will become easier to discuss. You did a fabulous job sharing your postpartum experience. Love, A mom of 3 and a nurse ♥️ PS you have convinced me to order period panties for my 12 yr old.
You’ve been so brave Becky through all of this. Don’t feel you have to say sorry for getting emotional. It’s no wonder you feel emotional after all you’ve been through. Well done for keeping going but allow yourself time to process what you’ve been through 😊
As a nurse, KUDOS for the information you have shared. I have ALWAYS believed in the more information you have, the less fears. Also, great telling people to rest, I always preach to people, listen to your body! It will tell you what it needs, what it wants. LISTEN! Thank you do much again, for all you do, and for who you are. CONGRATULATIONS MAMA, YOU DID IT!!
Yes! Normalizing talking about these things is so important. Most of the fear is fear of the unknown. You share in such a real and honest way while still encouraging - I had a very similar recent birth experience and there was a lot of fear around the re-admission without a lot of information. Grateful to be in the other side!
Becky, I can’t tell you what it means to watch you and you being so normal and truthful. My second birth story is everything you went through and more. My son was 15 weeks premature and was completely healthy. He only weighed 2 lbs and 4 ozs. But I had the all the same issues you had gone through. I can’t believe you went home with the headache from hell. I’m thankful they caught mine on the second day. The blood patch was not successful on the first attempt also. And I spent a total of 6 days in the hospital. You are a Wonder Woman in my eyes. Please look in the mirror and be proud of yourself. You rocked it. I was not as strong as you. You are a blessing to us all. ❤
I wanted to thank you for posting this. I have always been freaked out by postpartum healing and you made it sound like something I could handle. It's such a huge mystery because no one talks about it! Thank you and congratulations on Baby A, I'm so happy for you and your family!
I was given magnesium in both of my labors because they were preterm (it's supposed to help stop it). Your description of just feeling horrible with it is so spot on. It just takes so much out of you. There's so much we're told, as women, to not tell others because it might scare them is such garbage. Had I known going in the first time what it was going to do to me, I wouldn't have been so scared. Thanks for sharing and being honest. We need more of that.
So true! I love that Becky has shared everything and hope it encourages other women to do the same. Fear of the unknown is the worst and the more women know up front the better!
Absolutely true! It's way scarier not knowing what to expect than if we did. I wish we were more open about the weird and hard nitty-gritty stuff that our bodies go through.
After my last birth I was diagnosed with postpartum preeclampsia. My doctor treated me with both BP meds as well as magnesium. As a nurse even I had no idea that such a thing existed because we were taught that preeclampsia was cured by delivering. Glad you’re feeling better. I always look forward to your videos
Currently 33 weeks pregnant with my first and so thankful for all of your honesty. The day after watching your birth story videos, I had a high blood pressure reading at a routine appointment and had to be tested for preeclampsia. Your honesty with experiencing complications helped me process all of the information my midwife was giving me and helped me stay calm knowing I wasn’t alone. Thankfully at this point of my pregnancy I do not have preeclampsia. Long story short, know that your vulnerability is so appreciated and your story is beautiful no matter how messy or unpredicted it was. ❤️
I know it’s been awhile since u have had your baby. I personally adopted and am so grateful for all my kiddos. When u were telling your story I was able to picture what it may have been like. Bless u Becky and your family. Thanks for sharing.
Coming from an entirely different culture, I am amazed how much care you get during labor, delivery and postpartum. Imagine to be on your own, even without visits until you go home, sometimes no hot water for showers, some pills for pain if you're lucky, grumpy nurses who don't care about you....Never take for granted what you have!
Becky, for being 16 days post partum in this video, you look absolutely wonderful! This is such a great video for upcoming first time moms. One thing I can say is that hospital pads don't sound like they've changed much in the 40 years since I had my first born. 😂😂😂
I appreciate your transparency and willingness to talk about the postpartum experience. When I had my kids I felt totally unprepared for postpartum. I knew nothing going into it.
The more you talk about all of this the less teary eyed you'll get! I call it getting your "Ya-Ya's" out and it's helps to tell this stuff on repeat to help work throught it all. I was told by my Dr. to tell as many people as possible to help me recover from being the person that saved my momma from drowning. It's was traumatic for both of us and it was very necessary to get my Yaya's out because I felt better each time I talked about it. You are doing great Love.
I love this! I also went through a traumatic experience in my teenage years and bottling it inside only made things worse. I didn't start to recover until I told other people. Now I tell anyone who asks (aside from online of course) and it truly helps reestablish that we are all human and life happen but we don't have to go through it alone. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Much love from Alabama!
Had my first in 1973 and I've never heard of all those useful items you had and wish we'd had available. No one thought of post partum needs, not even us mothers. We didn't even have peri bottles, just very large pads. Thank you for speaking about these things for all those young people who may have a million questions.
I had mine in the 90s and none of this fancy stuff! Lol I had pajamas and sweat pants and 2 pairs of underwear in my bag. Its probably a good thing Amazon didn’t exist back then for me. Lol
As a female who would like children in my future I really appreciate this from you, I have a huge fear of the entire process of birth and after the birth. I'm big on planning for things before they happen, and hearing all this from you has given me more confidence in the future situations. So thank you so much for your advice and sharing your experiences. I had no idea the tucks pads weren't just used like wipes, also the bra was enlightening for me, as well as the squirt bottle temperatures.
Becky, you did an amazing job sharing your experience. It is completely different for every woman. As a Healthcare worker that worked in women's health, I've seen my fair share of new moms. You did fabulously! 👏👏👏 I'm so glad your feeling better, I'm sure I wasn't the only one to be praying for you. As soon as you mentioned your headache in your birth video, I became worried and started praying for you. You have the best personality and are a joy to watch. You have a beautiful soul and aura. Bless you and your new family of 3.
Hi Becky. I think I have what could be seen as a "difficult story". I feel the urge to talk about what happened to me to other people for my sanity, even if I have regular checkups with a psychologist. But I was too afraid to tell my story, because I thought hearing my experience would just frighten other people. Seeing you be open and vulnerable about what happened to you allowed me to place myself as a recipient of a "difficult story". It made me realise how you telling your story and being vulnerable actually helped me feel relieved and compassionate, more than anxious. Thank you. I might share my story also, as I feel that it would help me, and who knows, maybe others.
Well I’m 65 this year and my one experience having a baby resulted in a C section- I wanted to say even today the miracle of life and birthing a baby brings tears to my eyes❤It truly is a miracle each time! Wishing daily wonder & blessings to you, Josh and Baby A Beckie!
I had severe postpartum depression after my daughter was born. That was 25 years ago. I felt so lost and lonely. I hope that is talked about more than it was back then. Thanks for the good video.
I can’t believe how much birthing has changed since I had my daughter 50 years ago. Post partum was just not dealt with. I also had cloth diapers for her and had to double rinse them because she couldn’t stand detergent or pampers.
I 100% support you protecting the privacy of baby a. I hope you continue to protect his privacy. No one online deserves to see your baby. You have that choice. Hope the family is happy and healthy.
I was with my sister during the birth of my niece, and nothing was shared with family or the at home support team. There are so many videos, books, and help regarding care of baby, but it is hard to find anything for care for the mother after baby is born. The knowledge that you, Becky, have shared with all of us, is a good thing. All women should know about this, to help new mothers when or if an extra pair of hands is needed thank you for sharing your journey.....
I am well beyond the childbirth age-my kids are 33 & 20-but I have had a ton of hospital experience. I have had 25 surgeries & even spent almost 6 months in a nursing home. I can never say enough about how amazing nurses are! Never hold back from asking for anything you need or even want. They will almost always bend over backwards to help you with anything you can possibly want. This is one thing that has not changed for as long as I can remember...especially after delivering babies and after surgery. I brought home many of the same things you did after my kids and those nurses are incredible at pampering Mom!
The high blood pressure and I.C. flare sounds like vasculitis. Can be triggered by absolutely anything, but stress (hello birth and lack of sleep) can really, really make it act up.
You’re doing a great job Becky, Motherhood definitely suits you. You have every right to get emotional, it’s still early days and no two birth stories are the same. Please tell Josh he’s doing an amazing job too, it’s team work that helps new parents get through the first few months and beyond. I think my Mum must have been a bit of a pioneer of her generation, she had me at home in the late 1950’s which was not the norm in those days.
I'm 9 months PP with my 3rd baby and it was by far the best and scariest one for me. My nurses after delivery was so amazing! Some of the most beautiful,kind and caring ones I've had yet. We was the only baby in L&D for those 3 days so you can imagine all the attention we got 🤣
I have a bidet at home. You get VERY used to it. Then when traveling I didn't feel "clean enough" using the TP anymore. I went on Amazon and ordered one of those peri bottles for my suitcase. So I recommend that you go ahead and store that in your luggage for future use! Lol
The after pains gets worse after you have had the second and each one after gets worse. My daughter is pregnant with her first baby and I am going to send this video to her. I am so glad you were so honest. We need to have more honesty about women’s bodies and not shame them for natural functions.
I am so proud of you for sharing this difficult part of your birthing journey. I am a mother of 3 young adults now and was never given the tools or insite to think to ask some of the questions you clarified for me. Thank you so much!!!
Yes yes yes!! Postpartum is a messy game and it should be discussed. I had my first at 19 and had NO idea about it. I was stitched too tight and I knew I was sore but I didn’t know it wasn’t normal until they went to take them out so this video is what we need more of for mums!! Thank you beautiful mama x
Hello Becky, You are so awesome to share your experience! I’m sure there is someone out there that need to listen to these videos. I sure wish I had had your videos when I delivered my boys. I didn’t have a mom and no one to tell me what to expect. Keep up your good job!!
Depending on what type of BP meds you are on, many of them also contain a diuretic in them. That can definitely make urgency and frequency issues way more pronounced. Also your pelvic floor has gone through 10 months of trauma (weight of baby/ligament streaching/birth) it has to heal from, which usually presents as urinary issues. Just having a catheter can cause lingering urinary issues.
I had four babies and experienced what felt like a UTI after every one. Even the smallest amount in my bladder would feel like a 5 lb weight. Having a new baby is wonderful but can also be overwhelming. I’m very type A and always insisted I was fine and could manage without help. Unfortunately, I didn’t develop humility until I was much older!
I too was unable to shower due to health issues. But, boy, those nurses gave me a sponge bath. Let me tell you. I felt like a queen! To all the nurses, you rock! All the emotions you feel are normal and the baby Acre, He is beautiful and thank you for sharing and being real!
I had a lot of bladder issues starting as a teen. I would often get symptoms that felt like I was getting a UTI. In my mid 20’s, I finally found a great urologist and he tested me for interstitial cystitis. It was a very easy test and it came back positive. If you haven’t been tested, I would recommend talking to your doctor. A lot of your symptoms sound familiar. Interstitial cystitis is one of those things that really falls through the crack and is often under diagnosed in females. Edit - I commented prior to watching your entire video.
I finally came to the conclusion of IC after a year of struggling and so many different tests to rule out everything else...I was told that that's the only way to find out if you have it is basically rule out kidney stones and I also had a scope into my bladder as a final check for cysts (which I did not have) do you mind me asking what easy test they used to figure out you had it? That wsd one of the most frustrating years of my life feeling like I had a UTI all the time and the doctors just giving me the runaround when I would come in for a UA. glad I have an answer finally but still wish it wouldn't have been such a long process to come to that conclusion.
@@brittanypeeler4088 , it’s been almost 20 years since I was first diagnosed. The urologist did a couple exams. He inserted a scope with a camera into my bladder to take a look and found tares in the lining of my bladder. He also did a test ( I don’t recall the name) where he pushed 2 or 3 different types of a liquids directly into my bladder to see what happened. He would push each in one at a time. There was one liquid that as soon as he started pushing it in, the pain was so bad I almost came off the exam table. He immediately stopped with that one. It was after this test that he diagnosed me with interstitial cystitis. I know some diagnosis are made by ruling other things out and we’d done that, but he acted like that last test was the confirmation he needed. I’ve been taking a bladder control medication for years now and it helps. I’ve also had to figure out what foods and drinks irritate my bladder. My urologist recommended I take Benadryl at night. I can’t recall the exact reason but it had to do with the antihistamine. I wasn’t able to take it though because of other meds I took. There was no magic fix even when I had a diagnosis with a name. But I’ve been able to control my symptoms pretty well with the medication and being aware of what I eat and drink. I don’t have many flare ups very often now.
@@daveshoemaker7137 , I’m sorry your wife hasn’t been helped with her pain. I’ve been there. I take a medication for bladder control. It does help me with the painful bladder spams I had. I also had to figure out on my own what foods and drinks irritated my bladder. That took a while. But once I figure it out, I was able to avoid foods and drinks that caused painful flare ups. I hope your wife is able to find some relief!
So glad you're being totally open and honest about the "nitty gritty and gross" part of giving birth and dealing with the issues that come up afterwards. Even some nurses don't really go over that stuff. Thanks for sharing not just your experience giving birth and the aftermath but just your and Josh's lives. You are an inspiration Becky. Bless you and your family.
Thank you Becky for the wonderful comments you made about nurses. I'm a retired registered nurse and people have no idea what nurses actually do. I'm so glad you shared your story. I had my children in 1980, 1981, and 1989. I was terrified having a baby only 13 months apart. The idea of labor again was awful. Things have really changed for the better for moms I actually feel a tad jealous! Best wishes for your family, Debbie Lavigne
Thank you so much for your open honesty. I’m in my late forties with grown children and a 1 year old grandson. I’m obviously done with pregnancy etc but I’m always looking to learn new information and I love women helping women with stuff like this.
I admire your kindness towards your fellow women, you share stuff you didn’t have to put yourself out there.. thanks, Blessings to your beautiful baby boy and your wonderful family ❤️
Becky you are the sweetest! Sharing your personal journey with all is very special and brave. I’m glad you’re doing better. Enjoy every cuddle with that sweet baby of yours ❤
I will be 70 in a few months and I'm glad that you're open about this you will help others because I didn't know any of this and my mother had two kids after me I still didn't know anyting
I’m a retired nurse. I was a postpartum nurse MANY moons ago.☺️ I actually was put on strict bedrest and had to quit my 12 hr night shifts while pregnant. I had colleagues berate me for not being able to work while pregnant because “they could horseback ride” while pregnant. It was emotionally draining to get that from fellow nurses. Not every woman or birth experience is alike. I almost miscarried at 7 wks and 21 weeks. My baby was born 37 wks and with heart defects. You are blessed to have the support system and understanding nurses you had during your ordeal. 🥰 Women can be the hardest with other women sometimes. I love your videos Becky♥️Thank you for putting your honest experiences out there for other new moms to relate to and empathize with. Josh is a gem too! Definitely a keeper☺️
With my interstitial cystitis, anything acidic flares it up. Thousands of times I thought I had a UTI and I usually didn’t. I finally started ordering dip sticks and sterile cups on Amazon so I could do my own UTI testing at home.
I absolutely love that you are willing to talk so openly about your experience and that we have platforms like this to share our stories. My kids are in their 30’s and back when I had them we all shared stories but not as publicly, mainly because we just didn’t have the means to. I’m glad for other young women who may be experiencing their first pregnancy/birth as well that videos like this are available. This can be so helpful. I’m glad you are feeling so much better too!
My goodness Becky, this felt like having coffee with my daughter and listening to what L&D is like now. I had the same type of delivery with the exception of ending with a C section because of my 10 lb baby boy❤️. I wish I had been as prepared as you. That’s 30 years ago now 😂. I will say, I had the most exceptional nurses ever! One in particular washed and braided my hair and sat with me one night and chatted for a bit with me. No paternity leave for my husband so I was on my own when I got home, I appreciated her preparing me for post partum, post C section. I still remember her name, she was lovely. Thank you for posting this for the women who really need this info now and for us older gals so we can marvel at what is available now. ❤
I love how laid back and honest you are in all your content. I moved to a menstrual cup and cloth pads when I was having a hard time tolerating everything. The pain/severity of my periods decreased dramatically once I transitioned away from disposables. I feel like I was reacting to tampons and disposable pads for a long time without realizing it - I never even knew that could be a possibility. I could never go back now. I used the diva cup until menopause and still use the cloth liners every day. I made my own (there were very few options to buy at the time) and was able to tweak the pattern and materials until I came up with my current style....it's layered flannel on the inside and fleece on the outside with plastic snaps on the wings. If period panties had been an option for me back then, I probably would have loved them. I think women need to hear more about the alternatives out there and find what works best for them. Life is too short to go through it just surviving.
I commend you for sharing this information even though some of it must've been hard for you to. I'm sure there are many women appreciating this information. I know I would have 40+ years ago. My mother didn't tell me anything so I was on my own, plus I was older than my two sisters, so they couldn't help either. I did try to help them with information when it was their first time. You are so caring and thoughtful and sweet Becky ❤️
Thanks for being vulnerable and honest, Becky! As a note for other pregnant mommas, my hospital didn't have the ice packs like Becky showed but instead took a newborn diaper, pulled it apart and filled the middle with ice. They gave me a small pack of newborn diapers to take home so I could make them myself and I usually pulled them out before they lost the cold sensation.
You are a breath of fresh air sometimes. I'm 71 & a grandmother. When I was having babies women talked about it all among each other. But that's a hit & miss process. The main thing to understand is it's going to be different. It's still good to hear your story. You went into labor & delivery with a plan & the awareness that you needed to be flexible. Of all the information you shared, hardships & blessings alike, you did it quietly & calmly. Although I can only imagine the pain you experienced with the spinal bleed. Your voice is matter of fact. I'm so glad you & Josh are a real team. I hope you give him a biggg huggg, that bond is precious. Be well, Becky.
Thank you for being so open about these things. Women who are the first in their group have no one to go to without you. My youngest is 12 and even with that, ice pads weren't an option I'd heard of. Also, I didn't hear about period underwear or Diva cup until 5 years ago
I'm a granny (young as though I am lol) & no no one ever told me anything it was like a secret. It's awesome that this generation is not afraid of knowledge & sharing that knowledge. Thanks sweety
I gave birth 25 years ago.... and I was shocked at what happens after baby is born. Postpartum and menopause is something that should be discussed openly and honestly.
I agree! I had a C-section with my first baby (and second) but I was shocked about everything that happened with my body after the surgery. I just thought they took her (and everything gross) out via the large incision they made on my stomach and that was that. I was totally shocked when I found out that I would still bleed (massive amounts, and large other tissues) vaginally for weeks after. I didn’t know all the blood and tissue still had to come out naturally. It was so unexpected.
Agreed. I had no idea what to expect after my first child was born. And no idea what to expect with menopause outside of hot flashes and weight gain. We definitely need more people talking honestly about what really happens to our bodies.
I totally agree! I didn't have any education about what happen, and it was difficult for me to care for myself and baby without my Husbands help! He was amazing help with me!
I had my first baby 40 years ago. I was completely unprepared. Back then, la- maz was popular, so I took a course in that. That was a complete waste of time, and I was so nieve. After a 24-hour, extremely painful labor, and 2 pushes, I had a healthy baby girl. Back then, we didn't know what sex the baby was. I wanted a sonogram to find out, but my old-fashioned dr said no. I threw up for 9 months and lost 50 lbs, and had extreme post partum depression. Everyone around me talked about how much they loved being pregnant, and I was miserable. I had an epidural with my second child ( boy). I had a different dr and went to a bigger hospital. I knew I was having a boy. That was a completely different and lovely experience. I'm so sorry you had so much trouble with your epidural. I hadn't thought about the possibility of a cerebro spinal leak. I'm going to have a total hip replacement next month, and they want to do the surgery using a spinal. Now I'm wondering if I want that option over general anesthesia. I'll be asking a lot of questions.
I’m 67 years old, when I was about 41 years old my period was late so I went to see my OB/GYN fearing I was pregnant, I had two teenage daughters and I didn’t want anymore children.
The good news my doctor said you’re not pregnant but you are Perimenopausal!
I said I never heard of Perimenopause before.
The doctor said there’s Perimenopause, Menopause, and Post Menopause!
I made a joke and we both laughed so hard!
I try to talk to young women about our bodies.
I went through it all at a young age.
I’m a nurse and felt that I had to be especially stoic during my first L&D. I ended up also having a very difficult post partum which resulted in an extra week of hospitalization and complications. It made me feel like such a failure to not have that “perfect” birth story. I’ve come to realize that every birth that results in a healthy baby and mama is perfect. The rest we can recover from. Take care of yourself!
Its weird being on the other side, isnt it? ESPECIALLY in the hospital
Ain't that the truth! No wonder we nurses make such lousy patients.
Well said.
I think it’s great to talk about it because nobody thinks about how bad the pain is and being able to have an epidural. I wasn’t so lucky but for you to talk about everything going into and after will really help other is really great. And scary for any new mother.
Amen!
Hi Becky. I love how you're protecting your baby from the camera and keeping him all for yourself and Josh. I think it's enough that you share so much of yourself without feeling the need to share your little bundle of joy. Keep him innocent and all to yourself! Enjoy this time and continue to show yourself grace.
👏🏻 I agree
Me too.
Well I’m sad I didn’t get to see baby Acre. I do understand why you don’t want to show him and I respect your decision not to show him. It’s like a cake you baked but don’t want to show us what it looks like when it came out of the oven. ❤❤❤😂😂😂
@@workinprogress3609 you should be more understanding. It's not just us "friends" that watch the videos you never know what's around on the internet. I totally support her decision even tho I feel curious about the name too and I'd probably do the same. She's just doing her job as a mama to protect her baby, if you shouldn't feel entitled to any information related to that.
@@workinprogress3609 well you dont have to watch honey. Go and find yourself another youtube channel then
Becky, thank you for being willing to talk about the "aftermath" of delivering a baby. It was like having a private conversation with a sister or girlfriend and very much appreciated. Some people don't have that sister or girlfriend in their life to have these kind of conversations with. I think it is very important for us to be able to talk about such things.
Agree 💯
As a retired registered nurse in labor and delivery as part of my career, thank you for all of this information. Women want and need to hear the nitty gritty too. Take care.
I had my first of 3 in 1990. Pre-internet and UA-cam. I am so glad my daughters have all this help and open dialogue. I didn't have any knowledge of half those bathroom aids. That spray! O how I wish I knew about that in 1990, if it even existed!
@@loriheller2500 yes, me too. I teared and had stitches. I would have been very appreciated for this spray 😂 my first was 1993.
Absolutely I wish I had known alot more than I did.
@loriheller2500 I had my first in 1982. We didn't have all that stuff. I remember using a sitz bath with betadine in the water. There were no freezer ice packs. No tucks. No period underwear. And not much education either. Just what friends and family will tell you. I remember my aunt saying " don't tell her. You'll scare her".
Do I have kids? Nope. Have I ever been pregnant? Again, nope. Will I ever have kids? Unfortunately, probably not. But, did I watch this whole video from start to finish? Yes, yes I did. This was so helpful and informative to any new momma out there. I love how real and laid back your content is. Your channel is definitely one of my favorites on this platform.
Exactly the same with me. At 62 this train has gone by for a long time. But I did learn a lot I didn't know and I can imagine this is a whole huge blessing for any woman preparing to have children. Sometimes you just need the straight facts without beating around the bush. Bless you, Becky!!
You may have an opportunity to share this information with someone who needs it ❤️
Hada same here
Same girlfriend, same.
I watched the whole thing & I'm 70. I just love Becky no matter what she's talking about. Just wish I had her energy. That ship sailed 10 years ago. lol
God bless you Becky for sharing the real nitty gritty of post partum recovery. I'm 32 weeks pregnant and this is the first time I'm hearing about what to expect. I'm so emotional and angry that none of the women in my life, or at any time in my education, ever shared the reality of pregnancy/birth with me. I told my husband tonight that I feel like I didn't get to make an informed decision about if I wanted a baby or not because there is so much I didn't know I was consenting to. I'm not saying I would have chosen differently and I do want my baby, but my pregnancy would have been a lot less emotionally traumatic if I had known all this sooner. Thank you so much for giving me the heads up now so I can prepare myself for what's to come. I really am overwhelmingly grateful for your willingness to share your full story with us. I pray for the best for you and your family and I hope you know how much you have touched my life and how grateful I am for all your videos. God bless ❤️
My mother, 1st baby age 20, asked the nurse where was the baby going to come out of. Her answer, "the way it went in is the way it will come out." My mother from a strict Itslian family, 70 years ago knew nothing.
I know I'm a stranger on the internet but I am sending you all the happy feels over my phone screen. And I'll be holding your hand in spirit when you start your labor. I've been slowly trying to get all the information I can on pregnancy because I'm not sure I want kids(25 yr old so I do have time for thinking 😂). I still barely know anything on healing. I hate the idea of a mama going through what your going through. You might not have a youtube channel but you also have people rooting for you! I hope I see you in the comments saying you have a fucking fabulous birth and you and baby and happy and healthy(pardon my swearing... I get passionate).🤣💗💜💖
Yeah my SIL told me some stuff and I was shocked. I realized society discourages talking about it because that would affect birth numbers honestly. If people knew ALL the possible outcomes and issues and not just the happy about all the parties they have now(gender reveal, baby shower) and pregnancy and being a new mom being so overjoyed with baby from the bonding hormones etc.
Some people make Childbirth and postpartum sound way worse than it is. I have 6 kids, had complications with my last 2 pregnancies. The recovery wasn’t to bad. Depression is horrible tho. Just make sure you have a good support system. Your maternal instincts will kick in and follow what your gut tells you. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and if you don’t get the answers you feel comfortable with, ask a different person. Don’t ever feel like someone is trying to shut you up or rush your concerns or “A first time mom” BS!! I hope your pregnancy and delivery go well. 😊
Alexa, congrats on your up coming little one. I'm a mom of 3 adults and 11 grandchildren. If you have questions concerns feel free to ask away. I'll be more than happy to be real with you. Sometimes it's just the not knowing that is scary. If I don't know I'm sure a lot of these wonderful ladies here can help also. I'll give you a tidbit my daughter told me that I should have told her.. she never realized different places on her were going to change color ha.. booty sore for a bit(those tucks will help soothe that area also). There's just a couple no one might not have mentioned. Ask away&best wishes
Josh installing a warming bidet for your postpartum comfort is so sweet 😭 you are so awesome Becky! We appreciate your openness to share so much with us!
Open, frank, honest conversation about a normal bodily function is a very good thing! Go Becky! Go Josh! What a great husband & support system!!
I agree! You said in a few sentences what it took me two long comments to say😄
Right?! Not only is she super informative with her skills in the kitchen, but when she explains anything she really knows how to make you understand. Becky is by far one of my favorite UA-camrs! She’s real people!
I love that your husband installed a heated bidet for you! Now that is love!
Thank you for shearing. You do look great after all you went through you are a strong woman. Love the bidet idea with warm water…possible to share the brand or where it was bought?
As a side note to first time pregnant people. I highly suggest allergy testing both the benzocaine and tucks pads on an arm prior to delivery. I had NO idea I was allergic to witch hazel until the day after I delivered my oldest. I felt great! Was up and around and feeling amazing and healing great. Annnnnd then the fires of hell lit up in my crotch, I was swollen and bright red and had hives ALLLL down there. The docs determined it was the witch hazel in the tucks pads.
So it’s just a tip I pass on to all first time pregnant peoples.
I’m so sorry that happened. That definitely is a good idea to do and if someone did break out, it won’t be the hell on wheels of pain on top of the healing in the private area like u had to endure. ❤ I wished I was informed 13 years ago when I had my son that when a epidural was given that it was mixed with a heavy narcotic like Fentanyl or another substance with the lidocaine. Unfortunately my Dr was not on call and I had some other dr . My body literally rejects all pain medications especially narcotics and even OTC . I look and feel like someone withdrawing from addiction. I was bedridden for over two weeks. My mom had to take care of my son as I couldn’t move. (Father was useless) I would have opted to go natural or if there was alternative treatment that didn’t involve narcotics.
I was a labor and delivery nurse for 31 years. And just as an FYI, afterbirth cramping usually doesn’t occur with first baby. When moms come back for the second time they get quite a surprise. And they tend to get worse the more babies you have. So Becky, hang on the that tincture for little Acre’s little sister. 😊
This is exactly what I was thinking, lol came as a surprise to me 35 years ago!
I second this! My first birth I didn't have afterbirth contractions. I did the second time but not horrible, and every birth after that they have gotten worse. Coming up on the 5th baby now and I will not be caught without that tincture.
Just had my fifth, the after pain was horrible
Yes cramping is difficult after 2nd baby…3rd was worse
I have had four and I can concer it does indeed get more intense after each birth. I was surprised when my second we born because no one tolled me or I wasn't paying attention lol.
I am way past child birthing years but wanted to say, I wish someone back then had been as honest and shared like you have today. You will probably never know how many expecting Moms or yet-to-be Moms you have helped with this video. You're a blessing.
We don't ever need to compare ourselves to anyone else. If she could do it, why can't I, is something we never need to ask, because we're all individuals and we're each special. Thank you for sharing your story with us 💚
My LICSW coworker says “compare and despair” 😊
I am so so so happy that you are fully protecting Baby A's privacy. So many UA-camrs put their kids out there for the world to see and it's nice and refreshing to see parents like you making sure to not do that. So glad you're feeling better now as well, pregnancy and childbirth is no joke!
That was so incredibly thoughtful of your nurse to ask if you wanted to implement those things on your birth plan like your music and lights. She wanted to make sure your birth experience was as close to what you hoped for as possible and that is so sweet.
I am 36 weeks pregnant and I love how raw and honest you are. So much vulnerability and bravery! I truly
Appreciate it! ❤️ thank you for sharing your story and I am so happy you’re back to feeling better!🙌🏽
Congratulations SoilSista, praying for safe and wonderful delivery!! Many blessings to you and your family 🙏🏾
I’m 37 weeks in a couple days 😁
@@AandM8 Aww... Such a beautiful journey. Congratulations SoilSista, praying for you and your new bundle of joy 💜
I am a woman who doesn't want to ever be pregnant, so I very much appreciate and understand you talking about how this whole show is not exactly this glowing fairy-tale experience that instagram and marketing is trying to present.
It's very very true that people only show others what they want them to see on social media. tik tok and instagram and the others are doing a disservice in this aspect. I've had two children. It was not a storybook event either time and I hate labor, frankly. And I'm okay with that. It was a price I was willing to pay to have my kids, but it ain't for everyone. Big hugs to you, I know you probably get crap from everybody all the time about your decision.
My goodness it is not a fairytale well some have amazing times other don’t I had 8 pregnancies only 3 births and now only have 2 surviving kids definitely no fairytale no one tells you of the risks of the bad things that can happen and no one tells you you may not even bond with your baby at first and that feeling of intense love sometimes takes awhile or postnatal depressions/illnesses can last years and give you PTSD.. I think it’s rewarding and worth it but no defiantly not always a fairytale
Do you want more children?
@@Lockz5789 who me? Erm no well I’d love more children but there is too much of a risk of more children with disabilities
Most people show the good side . Not the whole picture.
When I was young I thought how easy no complications people had a perfect birth.
Then I grew up and realized oh that’s not true. Even tho I never had kids . ( I wanted kids badly but my ex husband could not get me pregnant. )
So we adopted a child. Only one boy with fetal alcohol syndrome and ADHD. He’s in a host home now .
But family members had babies and I heard about it and I have had friends say things.
Having a baby is ruff. Even if you don’t have some of the trouble Becky had it’s still hard.
Becky is a trooper.
As a mother of five little girls who had no female in my life going into the birth of our oldest this is an amazing video. I absolutely wish I would have had this before I had our first about all the unknowns. As someone with no family except for my spouse and daughters I am so glad you had all of the support from your family. That is such a foreign concept to me since I have never been on the receiving end of that. We will be there for our girls in the future, they will never know what it is like to not have support from their family.
Amen.
Wow, I’m so blown away by the expectations so many women put on themselves during this period (I’m 34 weeks today). The goal used to be (and still is) getting out of the whole ordeal alive, for both you and the baby as long as this happens, everything else is a bonus! I’m so happy that you’re talking about the postpartum and I expect it to suck royally but gals, lets give ourselves a break, this whole process is damn hard work and we should share and care. Congratulations on your openness and frank information it is hugely helpful!
My oldest is 33 and things are very different just since I had her. From birth, products, etc. The postpartum products are the most surprising to me. I had stitches and everything but I never had any after instruction or products. Just huge pads. No sprays, ice packs, nothing lol
Same here my Son is 34, and all we had in the UK was a antiseptic bath and thick maternity pads !! 😂. we are tough. 💐
My kids are 53, 48 and 31. All my births were different and after birth treatments. The last child came at 42! Very different experience.
Me to my baby is 40
Me too - times have changed for the better
My oldest is 31 and I had stitches, was instructed on using the Tucks pads, squirt bottle, all that stuff. They told me to do sitz baths, I preferred to just get in the shower (we ALWAYS have hand held spray attachments in the shower!) Maybe it depends on the hospital??
I was in the hospital for 4 months with heart failure at the end of 2020, I deff have a new respect for nurses too, they do so much and are incredible.
Agree. I was in the hospital for a month with Covid pneumonia and sepsis in January 2021. My nursing team was awesome and took such great care of me! I will never forget them.
I hope you both are on the road to recovery and doing well. It sounds like you both went through a lot. Best wishes 🙏
@@beckiepatrick6900 thank you ❤️
You are in my thoughts and prayers that you and your child continue to get better.
It’s important to give ourselves as well as others, grace. Your birth story isn’t what you planned, doesn’t make it any less beautiful. Mine wasn’t what I planned. I had every intention of a vaginal birth but my son was 2 weeks past his due date and it was discovered that I was also pre-eclampsia. We induced and after 15 hours of labor he was no where ready and becoming stressed. I went full blown eclampsia and was rushed into an emergency c-section. Minutes later I had a beautiful healthy son and as my mother, an RN happily told everyone- “It wasn’t the birth experience she wanted but he has the prettiest head I’ve ever seen on a newborn!” LoL There is always a bright side. He just turned 30 and over these many years I have hardly ever given his birth a second thought. Also, he still has a beautiful head.😉
What I love about you Becky is that you’re real. You did an amazing job of planning for your birth experience but what really impresses me is that you went with the feelings you were having in that moment. So many people would have forced themselves to live out that plan but you were strong enough to recognize what you truly needed and sensitive enough to give yourself that grace. Be very proud of that!
You're right Becky, not enough people talk about the reality of postpartum maintenance & healing. Thanks for being so open!
I went in 20 years ago, knowing none of these things. I would have loved a “Becky” video then
I just want to applaud you for not exposing your baby to the internet❤️ I know many think it would be lovely to know but I am so glad to not know!!
Her story is not exploiting her child🤦♀️ it’s her story as much as babies…
@@waltercroft4963 she is the only one that experienced giving birth. She had to push the baby out all by herself. It’s her body, so if she wants to share what happened to her body before and after giving birth then she has every right to do so. Becky being real and sharing her story has been very insightful and honest. She isn’t exploiting anything. Respectfully, it’s not our business what she named her child and she has every right not to share it.
@@waltercroft4963 LOL, you are one (or all) of the other women who come on here filled with bitterness, hate and jealousy. Go find happiness and a life. You’ll NEVER succeed in besmirching Becky’s good name, her incredible UA-cam success or the love we her subscribers have for her, Josh, her baby and entire family. Boom! 🎤
Thank you for being so open &honest. Talking about the icky, uncomfortable/unpleasant and personal details that happen to women's bodies & no one mentions. You're helping people more than you know. Josh gets a gold star for installing that bidet ⭐, and Baby A is a lucky little one with such great parents 🥰
God Bless Josh for everything he did to comfort Becky ❤
He installed a heated bidet toilet???! OMG that had to be SO amazing! It's been 28+ yrs since I gave birth; but, I remember being VERY sensitive & tender down there and when she talked about Josh doing that for her...WOW 😌 THAT MAN IS A SAINT! You 2 make an amazing parenting team! 💞
As a new mom... Sometimes a shower is tough... And we wait until we are comfortable... You don't want to faint in the shower and hurt yourself. I'm so happy you feel better now and are recovering! Baby A needs you ☺
The safest way to enjoy a shower is to invest in a plastic lawn chair, usually white, sells for less than $10. It is waterproof, has a back you can relax against, and arms. Fits in your tub or shower. I have a bad heart with AFib. It works great.
I felt better after my shower but it was not enjoyable to take a shower. I was sore and exhausted.
@@cathleencaratan3373 it's just a rough time for a new mama.... All around
I had a plastic patio chair in our shower for weeks after both my daughter’s births…… I just couldn’t stand long enough without getting giddy or wobbly on my feet …
After passing out in the shower in hospital I was very careful for months afterwards …..
@@hez5537 Yes it was. I applaud Becky for being real. I think no one told me about what to expect because they didn’t want to scare me I guess. Seriously, I wish I had some heads up.
Pam here….so many women will benefit from your honesty. As a nurse, I find educating a patient and helping them over come fear of unknown! Those period underwear sound like a great option for women with urine leakage…thanks for the information about them!!
I was thinking the same thing about the period underwear, just wondering if they're just as absorbent after a couple washings. Not paying $30 @ pair either, I'll be checking Amazon for cheaper prices like Becky did.
@Debra Wichmann I've had mine since late 2019 and they're still going as strong as new
I hadn't thought about using them for that. Thank you😊
@@Mickybird15 thanks for the info. I've been thinking about getting some.
@@Mickybird15 what brand did you get?
Becky, my 1st birth was traumatic & I had complications. I didn’t take a shower either. But my 2nd birth was so great & I did take a shower the following morning. And like you, if I talk about my first, I become emotional. I am happy to report that my first baby is perfectly healthy & is in her 3rd year of college & is currently applying to medical school.
Becky, I absolutely love your honesty and how you are very REAL and not afraid to show your emotions on your experiences. With my births, I was worried about bladder control due to my urgency issues. I used depends undies with an extra poise pad and never had any leaks.
Also, Just wanted to give you a little encouragement…. I remember you talking about maybe feeling resentful of not having that “perfect” birth story, however, ALL birth stories are perfect. Each birth story is unique to that child and that’s what makes it so special. You’ll never have the same birth story twice. And you and you baby will forever share their FIRST EVER story of their very own and no one can take it away from you. And to me, that’s pretty amazing.
Josh installing a bidet is love in action!!!! Bless you all!!!
Bidets are so amazing…
OH PLEASE!!
Right? I really want one not just for post partum but in general so I can feel nice and clean lol.
I made my daughters hospital gowns, with opening, ties, etc., but it was made to fit her and not a "one size fit all". She still talks about how much nicer and easier they were to use than the regular hospital gowns. I made one of a pretty print and since she forgot an outfit for "baby picture", she wrapped Baby Evy in the gown and her pics were adorable. Any of you that sew, it's a great gift for a soon-to-be mother.
What a lovely idea. Can you recommend a pattern?
What a thoughtful gift!
Brilliant!
I am a mama to 3 kiddos- 6 and under. I never heard anything about postpartum during my 1st pregnancy. It was a shocker. I am happy you shared your story, because it is so very true that no one ever talks about postpartum care- even after taking baby classes at the hospital. I also share as much as I can when friends/ family are having babies. I don't think you are dehumanzing anyone- we are women and this is a part of having children. We have to go through the nitty gritty in order to have that baby. The only thing that stinks is that it is not taught or shared before baby is born! Hope your healing is going well :)
Dear Becky I’m sure women that need this information will appreciate your honesty and openness very much, this is so important information, love the way you explain things that are necessary, this is real life, I wish I had that kind of information when I had my kids, love you for who you are, don’t stop being real 🥰
I always say that there are 2 things I never have to do again...1. Get married for the first time.
2. Have a first baby again.
Yes, we all get through these things, but that does not make it easy!
I wish I had something like this when I had my girls 14 and 9 years ago. No one talked about aftercare for mom. I remember asking my mom why no one or the books I read talked about it. I’m so happy you put this out there.
Scary is a perfect word! It’s the unknown that is scary. The unexpected is scary. It’s also ok that you still become emotional when talking about your birth story. You are still mourning the experience you hoped for. With time it will become easier to discuss. You did a fabulous job sharing your postpartum experience.
Love, A mom of 3 and a nurse ♥️
PS you have convinced me to order period panties for my 12 yr old.
You’ve been so brave Becky through all of this. Don’t feel you have to say sorry for getting emotional. It’s no wonder you feel emotional after all you’ve been through. Well done for keeping going but allow yourself time to process what you’ve been through 😊
As a nurse, KUDOS for the information you have shared. I have ALWAYS believed in the more information you have, the less fears. Also, great telling people to rest, I always preach to people, listen to your body! It will tell you what it needs, what it wants. LISTEN! Thank you do much again, for all you do, and for who you are. CONGRATULATIONS MAMA, YOU DID IT!!
Becky you are in my prayers. You are so loved by this community.
Yes! Normalizing talking about these things is so important. Most of the fear is fear of the unknown. You share in such a real and honest way while still encouraging - I had a very similar recent birth experience and there was a lot of fear around the re-admission without a lot of information. Grateful to be in the other side!
A someone who hopes to be a father one day, videos like this help me to be the best husband and partner I can possibly be.
Thats beautiful..You are important!
Becky, I can’t tell you what it means to watch you and you being so normal and truthful. My second birth story is everything you went through and more. My son was 15 weeks premature and was completely healthy. He only weighed 2 lbs and 4 ozs. But I had the all the same issues you had gone through. I can’t believe you went home with the headache from hell. I’m thankful they caught mine on the second day. The blood patch was not successful on the first attempt also. And I spent a total of 6 days in the hospital. You are a Wonder Woman in my eyes. Please look in the mirror and be proud of yourself. You rocked it. I was not as strong as you. You are a blessing to us all. ❤
I think the period underwear has been a brilliant design. I wished they had been around when I was younger!
I love your honesty! 😊
Love the lady diapers
Your openness and honesty is a gift to so many! ❤
I wanted to thank you for posting this. I have always been freaked out by postpartum healing and you made it sound like something I could handle. It's such a huge mystery because no one talks about it! Thank you and congratulations on Baby A, I'm so happy for you and your family!
I was given magnesium in both of my labors because they were preterm (it's supposed to help stop it). Your description of just feeling horrible with it is so spot on. It just takes so much out of you. There's so much we're told, as women, to not tell others because it might scare them is such garbage. Had I known going in the first time what it was going to do to me, I wouldn't have been so scared. Thanks for sharing and being honest. We need more of that.
So true! I love that Becky has shared everything and hope it encourages other women to do the same. Fear of the unknown is the worst and the more women know up front the better!
Absolutely true! It's way scarier not knowing what to expect than if we did. I wish we were more open about the weird and hard nitty-gritty stuff that our bodies go through.
After my last birth I was diagnosed with postpartum preeclampsia. My doctor treated me with both BP meds as well as magnesium. As a nurse even I had no idea that such a thing existed because we were taught that preeclampsia was cured by delivering. Glad you’re feeling better. I always look forward to your videos
Currently 33 weeks pregnant with my first and so thankful for all of your honesty. The day after watching your birth story videos, I had a high blood pressure reading at a routine appointment and had to be tested for preeclampsia. Your honesty with experiencing complications helped me process all of the information my midwife was giving me and helped me stay calm knowing I wasn’t alone. Thankfully at this point of my pregnancy I do not have preeclampsia. Long story short, know that your vulnerability is so appreciated and your story is beautiful no matter how messy or unpredicted it was. ❤️
I know it’s been awhile since u have had your baby. I personally adopted and am so grateful for all my kiddos. When u were telling your story I was able to picture what it may have been like. Bless u Becky and your family. Thanks for sharing.
Coming from an entirely different culture, I am amazed how much care you get during labor, delivery and postpartum. Imagine to be on your own, even without visits until you go home, sometimes no hot water for showers, some pills for pain if you're lucky, grumpy nurses who don't care about you....Never take for granted what you have!
Amen!
Goodness, sorry you had such a bad experience!
Love that you do the Momma lullaby sway when you’re holding your baby. You’re glowing with love Becky! ❤️
Becky, for being 16 days post partum in this video, you look absolutely wonderful! This is such a great video for upcoming first time moms. One thing I can say is that hospital pads don't sound like they've changed much in the 40 years since I had my first born. 😂😂😂
True
I appreciate your transparency and willingness to talk about the postpartum experience. When I had my kids I felt totally unprepared for postpartum. I knew nothing going into it.
The more you talk about all of this the less teary eyed you'll get! I call it getting your "Ya-Ya's" out and it's helps to tell this stuff on repeat to help work throught it all.
I was told by my Dr. to tell as many people as possible to help me recover from being the person that saved my momma from drowning. It's was traumatic for both of us and it was very necessary to get my Yaya's out because I felt better each time I talked about it. You are doing great Love.
I love this! I also went through a traumatic experience in my teenage years and bottling it inside only made things worse. I didn't start to recover until I told other people. Now I tell anyone who asks (aside from online of course) and it truly helps reestablish that we are all human and life happen but we don't have to go through it alone. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Much love from Alabama!
Had my first in 1973 and I've never heard of all those useful items you had and wish we'd had available. No one thought of post partum needs, not even us mothers. We didn't even have peri bottles, just very large pads. Thank you for speaking about these things for all those young people who may have a million questions.
I had mine in the 90s and none of this fancy stuff! Lol I had pajamas and sweat pants and 2 pairs of underwear in my bag. Its probably a good thing Amazon didn’t exist back then for me. Lol
We have a lady in our estate who passed 3wks after birth from BP.... Self-care and following the doctor's advice is important
As a female who would like children in my future I really appreciate this from you, I have a huge fear of the entire process of birth and after the birth. I'm big on planning for things before they happen, and hearing all this from you has given me more confidence in the future situations. So thank you so much for your advice and sharing your experiences. I had no idea the tucks pads weren't just used like wipes, also the bra was enlightening for me, as well as the squirt bottle temperatures.
Becky, you did an amazing job sharing your experience. It is completely different for every woman. As a Healthcare worker that worked in women's health, I've seen my fair share of new moms. You did fabulously! 👏👏👏 I'm so glad your feeling better, I'm sure I wasn't the only one to be praying for you. As soon as you mentioned your headache in your birth video, I became worried and started praying for you. You have the best personality and are a joy to watch. You have a beautiful soul and aura. Bless you and your new family of 3.
Hi Becky. I think I have what could be seen as a "difficult story". I feel the urge to talk about what happened to me to other people for my sanity, even if I have regular checkups with a psychologist. But I was too afraid to tell my story, because I thought hearing my experience would just frighten other people. Seeing you be open and vulnerable about what happened to you allowed me to place myself as a recipient of a "difficult story". It made me realise how you telling your story and being vulnerable actually helped me feel relieved and compassionate, more than anxious. Thank you. I might share my story also, as I feel that it would help me, and who knows, maybe others.
Well I’m 65 this year and my one experience having a baby resulted in a C section- I wanted to say even today the miracle of life and birthing a baby brings tears to my eyes❤It truly is a miracle each time! Wishing daily wonder & blessings to you, Josh and Baby A Beckie!
I had severe postpartum depression after my daughter was born. That was 25 years ago. I felt so lost and lonely. I hope that is talked about more than it was back then. Thanks for the good video.
I can’t believe how much birthing has changed since I had my daughter 50 years ago. Post partum was just not dealt with. I also had cloth diapers for her and had to double rinse them because she couldn’t stand detergent or pampers.
Happy New Year from me in Norway (in Oslo there’s even Jordal Amfi, a stadium)… 🤗💓🇳🇴🇺🇸
Costco (Kirkland brand diapers & Wipes) are a godsend! They’re not scented, they’re cheap and they’re super high quality! Check them out for baby A ❤
Thank you for all of your honesty it was very refreshing for someone to talk about what ACTUALLY happens during and after birthing our babies. ❤
Seriously! This stuff should be COMMON KNOWLEDGE.
I 100% support you protecting the privacy of baby a. I hope you continue to protect his privacy. No one online deserves to see your baby. You have that choice. Hope the family is happy and healthy.
I was with my sister during the birth of my niece, and nothing was shared with family or the at home support team. There are so many videos, books, and help regarding care of baby, but it is hard to find anything for care for the mother after baby is born. The knowledge that you, Becky, have shared with all of us, is a good thing. All women should know about this, to help new mothers when or if an extra pair of hands is needed thank you for sharing your journey.....
Josh gets all the gold stars. What a blessing he must be. Thanks for sharing.
I am well beyond the childbirth age-my kids are 33 & 20-but I have had a ton of hospital experience. I have had 25 surgeries & even spent almost 6 months in a nursing home. I can never say enough about how amazing nurses are! Never hold back from asking for anything you need or even want. They will almost always bend over backwards to help you with anything you can possibly want. This is one thing that has not changed for as long as I can remember...especially after delivering babies and after surgery. I brought home many of the same things you did after my kids and those nurses are incredible at pampering Mom!
The high blood pressure and I.C. flare sounds like vasculitis. Can be triggered by absolutely anything, but stress (hello birth and lack of sleep) can really, really make it act up.
My youngest Daughter's name is Bambi and her sister is Fawn they are 42 & 44 born on the same day 2 yrs apart Bambi was born at 6 months .
That’s true but with Becky it was a spinal tap headache
@@queenizzy01 Yes I know that I really felt bad for her. I'm glad that she is feeling better 😊
You’re doing a great job Becky, Motherhood definitely suits you. You have every right to get emotional, it’s still early days and no two birth stories are the same. Please tell Josh he’s doing an amazing job too, it’s team work that helps new parents get through the first few months and beyond. I think my Mum must have been a bit of a pioneer of her generation, she had me at home in the late 1950’s which was not the norm in those days.
I'm 9 months PP with my 3rd baby and it was by far the best and scariest one for me. My nurses after delivery was so amazing! Some of the most beautiful,kind and caring ones I've had yet. We was the only baby in L&D for those 3 days so you can imagine all the attention we got 🤣
I have a bidet at home. You get VERY used to it. Then when traveling I didn't feel "clean enough" using the TP anymore. I went on Amazon and ordered one of those peri bottles for my suitcase. So I recommend that you go ahead and store that in your luggage for future use! Lol
The after pains gets worse after you have had the second and each one after gets worse.
My daughter is pregnant with her first baby and I am going to send this video to her. I am so glad you were so honest. We need to have more honesty about women’s bodies and not shame them for natural functions.
I had terrible after birth pains with my first, and only. I was also an older mom at the time, 46 yrs old so that might have been it.
Fred dn write that post, his wife Paige, me, did! 😆
@@fredrose9285 my first I had almost none but it did get worse with each child. I have had 4
I am so proud of you for sharing this difficult part of your birthing journey. I am a mother of 3 young adults now and was never given the tools or insite to think to ask some of the questions you clarified for me. Thank you so much!!!
Yes yes yes!! Postpartum is a messy game and it should be discussed. I had my first at 19 and had NO idea about it. I was stitched too tight and I knew I was sore but I didn’t know it wasn’t normal until they went to take them out so this video is what we need more of for mums!! Thank you beautiful mama x
Hello Becky, You are so awesome to share your experience! I’m sure there is someone out there that need to listen to these videos. I sure wish I had had your videos when I delivered my boys. I didn’t have a mom and no one to tell me what to expect. Keep up your good job!!
Depending on what type of BP meds you are on, many of them also contain a diuretic in them. That can definitely make urgency and frequency issues way more pronounced. Also your pelvic floor has gone through 10 months of trauma (weight of baby/ligament streaching/birth) it has to heal from, which usually presents as urinary issues. Just having a catheter can cause lingering urinary issues.
Yes! This is so rarely talked about.
Insertion of a urinary catheter can introduce bacteria into the urethral tract which can cause a UTI.
I had four babies and experienced what felt like a UTI after every one. Even the smallest amount in my bladder would feel like a 5 lb weight. Having a new baby is wonderful but can also be overwhelming. I’m very type A and always insisted I was fine and could manage without help. Unfortunately, I didn’t develop humility until I was much older!
Nurses are the TRUE HERO'S of the world!! Thanks for sharing your story Becky!
I too was unable to shower due to health issues. But, boy, those nurses gave me a sponge bath. Let me tell you. I felt like a queen! To all the nurses, you rock! All the emotions you feel are normal and the baby Acre, He is beautiful and thank you for sharing and being real!
I had a lot of bladder issues starting as a teen. I would often get symptoms that felt like I was getting a UTI. In my mid 20’s, I finally found a great urologist and he tested me for interstitial cystitis. It was a very easy test and it came back positive. If you haven’t been tested, I would recommend talking to your doctor. A lot of your symptoms sound familiar. Interstitial cystitis is one of those things that really falls through the crack and is often under diagnosed in females.
Edit - I commented prior to watching your entire video.
I finally came to the conclusion of IC after a year of struggling and so many different tests to rule out everything else...I was told that that's the only way to find out if you have it is basically rule out kidney stones and I also had a scope into my bladder as a final check for cysts (which I did not have) do you mind me asking what easy test they used to figure out you had it? That wsd one of the most frustrating years of my life feeling like I had a UTI all the time and the doctors just giving me the runaround when I would come in for a UA. glad I have an answer finally but still wish it wouldn't have been such a long process to come to that conclusion.
I have IC and there’s literally nothing you can do about it other than treat you for an overactive bladder. 32:09
@@brittanypeeler4088 , it’s been almost 20 years since I was first diagnosed. The urologist did a couple exams. He inserted a scope with a camera into my bladder to take a look and found tares in the lining of my bladder. He also did a test ( I don’t recall the name) where he pushed 2 or 3 different types of a liquids directly into my bladder to see what happened. He would push each in one at a time. There was one liquid that as soon as he started pushing it in, the pain was so bad I almost came off the exam table. He immediately stopped with that one. It was after this test that he diagnosed me with interstitial cystitis. I know some diagnosis are made by ruling other things out and we’d done that, but he acted like that last test was the confirmation he needed.
I’ve been taking a bladder control medication for years now and it helps. I’ve also had to figure out what foods and drinks irritate my bladder. My urologist recommended I take Benadryl at night. I can’t recall the exact reason but it had to do with the antihistamine. I wasn’t able to take it though because of other meds I took.
There was no magic fix even when I had a diagnosis with a name. But I’ve been able to control my symptoms pretty well with the medication and being aware of what I eat and drink. I don’t have many flare ups very often now.
@@daveshoemaker7137 , I’m sorry your wife hasn’t been helped with her pain. I’ve been there. I take a medication for bladder control. It does help me with the painful bladder spams I had. I also had to figure out on my own what foods and drinks irritated my bladder. That took a while. But once I figure it out, I was able to avoid foods and drinks that caused painful flare ups. I hope your wife is able to find some relief!
@@daveshoemaker7137 I take Ditropan.
So glad you're being totally open and honest about the "nitty gritty and gross" part of giving birth and dealing with the issues that come up afterwards. Even some nurses don't really go over that stuff. Thanks for sharing not just your experience giving birth and the aftermath but just your and Josh's lives. You are an inspiration Becky. Bless you and your family.
Thank you Becky for the wonderful comments you made about nurses. I'm a retired registered nurse and people have no idea what nurses actually do. I'm so glad you shared your story. I had my children in 1980, 1981, and 1989. I was terrified having a baby only 13 months apart. The idea of labor again was awful. Things have really changed for the better for moms I actually feel a tad jealous! Best wishes for your family, Debbie Lavigne
Thank you so much for your open honesty. I’m in my late forties with grown children and a 1 year old grandson. I’m obviously done with pregnancy etc but I’m always looking to learn new information and I love women helping women with stuff like this.
I admire your kindness towards your fellow women, you share stuff you didn’t have to put yourself out there.. thanks, Blessings to your beautiful baby boy and your wonderful family ❤️
Becky you are the sweetest! Sharing your personal journey with all is very special and brave. I’m glad you’re doing better. Enjoy every cuddle with that sweet baby of yours ❤
I will be 70 in a few months and I'm glad that you're open about this you will help others because I didn't know any of this and my mother had two kids after me I still didn't know anyting
I’m a retired nurse. I was a postpartum nurse MANY moons ago.☺️ I actually was put on strict bedrest and had to quit my 12 hr night shifts while pregnant. I had colleagues berate me for not being able to work while pregnant because “they could horseback ride” while pregnant. It was emotionally draining to get that from fellow nurses. Not every woman or birth experience is alike. I almost miscarried at 7 wks and 21 weeks. My baby was born 37 wks and with heart defects. You are blessed to have the support system and understanding nurses you had during your ordeal. 🥰 Women can be the hardest with other women sometimes. I love your videos Becky♥️Thank you for putting your honest experiences out there for other new moms to relate to and empathize with. Josh is a gem too! Definitely a keeper☺️
With my interstitial cystitis, anything acidic flares it up. Thousands of times I thought I had a UTI and I usually didn’t. I finally started ordering dip sticks and sterile cups on Amazon so I could do my own UTI testing at home.
I absolutely love that you are willing to talk so openly about your experience and that we have platforms like this to share our stories. My kids are in their 30’s and back when I had them we all shared stories but not as publicly, mainly because we just didn’t have the means to. I’m glad for other young women who may be experiencing their first pregnancy/birth as well that videos like this are available. This can be so helpful. I’m glad you are feeling so much better too!
My goodness Becky, this felt like having coffee with my daughter and listening to what L&D is like now. I had the same type of delivery with the exception of ending with a C section because of my 10 lb baby boy❤️. I wish I had been as prepared as you. That’s 30 years ago now 😂. I will say, I had the most exceptional nurses ever! One in particular washed and braided my hair and sat with me one night and chatted for a bit with me. No paternity leave for my husband so I was on my own when I got home, I appreciated her preparing me for post partum, post C section. I still remember her name, she was lovely. Thank you for posting this for the women who really need this info now and for us older gals so we can marvel at what is available now. ❤
I love how laid back and honest you are in all your content. I moved to a menstrual cup and cloth pads when I was having a hard time tolerating everything. The pain/severity of my periods decreased dramatically once I transitioned away from disposables. I feel like I was reacting to tampons and disposable pads for a long time without realizing it - I never even knew that could be a possibility. I could never go back now. I used the diva cup until menopause and still use the cloth liners every day. I made my own (there were very few options to buy at the time) and was able to tweak the pattern and materials until I came up with my current style....it's layered flannel on the inside and fleece on the outside with plastic snaps on the wings. If period panties had been an option for me back then, I probably would have loved them. I think women need to hear more about the alternatives out there and find what works best for them. Life is too short to go through it just surviving.
I commend you for sharing this information even though some of it must've been hard for you to. I'm sure there are many women appreciating this information. I know I would have 40+ years ago. My mother didn't tell me anything so I was on my own, plus I was older than my two sisters, so they couldn't help either. I did try to help them with information when it was their first time. You are so caring and thoughtful and sweet Becky ❤️
Thanks for being vulnerable and honest, Becky!
As a note for other pregnant mommas, my hospital didn't have the ice packs like Becky showed but instead took a newborn diaper, pulled it apart and filled the middle with ice. They gave me a small pack of newborn diapers to take home so I could make them myself and I usually pulled them out before they lost the cold sensation.
You are a breath of fresh air sometimes. I'm 71 & a grandmother. When I was having babies women talked about it all among each other. But that's a hit & miss process. The main thing to understand is it's going to be different. It's still good to hear your story.
You went into labor & delivery with a plan & the awareness that you needed to be flexible. Of all the information you shared, hardships & blessings alike, you did it quietly & calmly. Although I can only imagine the pain you experienced with the spinal bleed. Your voice is matter of fact.
I'm so glad you & Josh are a real team. I hope you give him a biggg huggg, that bond is precious. Be well, Becky.
Thank you for being so open about these things. Women who are the first in their group have no one to go to without you. My youngest is 12 and even with that, ice pads weren't an option I'd heard of. Also, I didn't hear about period underwear or Diva cup until 5 years ago
I'm a granny (young as though I am lol) & no no one ever told me anything it was like a secret. It's awesome that this generation is not afraid of knowledge & sharing that knowledge. Thanks sweety