AITA for giving music as a wedding gift
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You did the right thing. Just because they saw you doing it for free, for your sister, its diffrent between people you dont know
NTA your time cost money because if you did it for someone who didn't know you you would still charge them
NTA in any way. That's a gift for sure. I would never have expected a gift it someone gave me the gift of music at my wedding
They just want to use you so they dont have to pay for music
You did the right thing, you gave them a choice 😊👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Ur distant relatives are not the same as a sibiling. Them asking you for the same treatment is just plain entitled.
Even after he's done it for one sibling, the amount of work that's going into planning the performance, they should take that as a wedding gift!
Certainly NTA! Family can be the worst freeloading AH alive. You have a profession and if they want your talents they should pay. What you did for your sister (immediate family) is totally up to you and not for them to dictate who gets what. So I would in future not do anything for anyone else! Boundaries and that’s it! And state firmly that if they had a cake shop and every family member came and expected cakes for free they wouldn’t like it and say no!
NTA. Your making it clear with them from the beginning, if they have an issue than they should not be asking you to perform.
Obviously you are good at what you do. You are not the bad guy. I would take that as a gift! No hesitation no hemming and hawing!! Your performance is worth something, nobody should be expecting you to do it for free just because they are friends or family!!
She was just warning her, probably saving her from future bad things that might happen. NTA
NTA. You can choose to gift or not gift your abilities to anyone you please and however you please. It’s such a whiney toddler kinda thing to whine that someone else got something they wanted like your getting married so your clearly old enough to not be like “waaaahhh das not fair!!! She got music and a gift” like buddy maybe there’s a reason he did that for his sister and not everyone else? Idk maybe it’s cause he’s likely closer to his sister then any of you guys or maybe he just respects his time and realized how much of a hassle it is to do that for a wedding and decided that amount of effort IS a gift. I do art commissions sometimes but I also often gift friends art. Imagine if someone came to me asking for free art and make the argument “well you made them free art! That’s not fair!” Like grow up
Even with people you know. That is his sister
It is tacky. I wouldn't mention a gift at all. And if they come after you for not giving a gift (which is also tacky) you could tell them the performance was free.
I think it's completely two different weddings it was your sister's wedding of course you're going to give it to her for free and also give her a gift it was your sister everybody else who says you should do both it is completely absurd and they are greedy people saxophones are very beautiful music and it takes a long time to learn songs if they want somebody playing music there then they get their gifts for free. His sister is his sister but everybody else is not his sister
Not the a******
Nta....they aren't entitled....
NTA
I dont have familly but is the Sister someone for who you would do it for free and buy a gift bc of love? And there is difrence betwen how much you love your siblings and cousins of uncles or aunts? I always was thinking that other relatives you only like but not love.
Im very close with even my distant relatives so if u r then i would consider u an ah for this but if ur not then nta
It was his own decision to perform for free + give a gift TO HIS SISTER
Anyone else doesn’t need that same treatment
@@LesbianImpact please fucking read what i said. I said if OP is very close to their distant relatives then that would make them an ah, if not the nta.
@@CrystalPheonix close or not, nobody needs to get a free performance AND a gift
@@LesbianImpact i mean if ur extremely close to someone then its kinda exoected u go above and beyond for them, especially family wise, but maybe thats just my culture and at the end of the day thats my personal opinion that im allowed to have. Just as ur allowed to have urs. These stories r very opinions based so what someone else might find ok someone else might not. Ur entitled to ur opinion and how u feel, but kindly respect that i too am allowed that same right.
The music was gift to siste. He got a gift for the new bro-in-law. You pay the pianist/organist. I.e. you purchase someone's time to prep and play st the ceremony. BTW: the people who usually play at weddings funerals usually play the same music every time. A saxophonist would be starting with new, unfamiliar music. That means A LOT of time spent learning new songs. His time is worth something! Anyway, a gift is given
Noone should be expecting one.
Giving someone a gift for getting married is stupid as fuck
So op is “cheap & selfish” for not doing it for them for free, but they ain’t for refusing/not wanting to pay?