Asmr*Soft spoken* (some things I wanted to share with you all)🙌🍂🍁🙏
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
- Hello my sweeties.
I feel as though #worldmentalhealthday just passed...this video was important to share. unafraid of judgment & sharing what's been going on with me the last 2 years....thank you again for ALL the kindess you have shown this smaller channel of mine! hope to be back soon!
sending love & light 🌠🌏
One of the things I have noticed on social media is wholesale "bright siding" with the notion that if we are grateful that will heal what ails us as if mental illness is nothing more than ingratitude. I am a big believer in gratitude; however, I also know that we can be grateful and still struggle. Life is hard and beautiful at the same time. You are a "good enough" Mom (this is actually a mental health professional term that was used on me over the years) and I know that because of all that you are willing to do/sacrifice to mirror good mental health hygiene for your children. They are truly blessed no matter what kind of day you may be having. Peace to you and your family
I’m 25, no children and from England and I cannot tell you how much your videos and honesty have helped me over the years :) I’ve watched your videos since early 2012 and they have helped me with my anxiety and with sleeping since I was in school, then in university and now as an adult! I remember in your very early days of youtube, I once messaged you on here about anxiety and you replied and it meant so much to me :) I still watch lots of your ASMR videos regularly and they have been an invaluable tool for me to help me cope with my mental health. Your voice is so soothing but more than that your authenticity shines through! I listened to all of this and I feel for you and I hope there will be better times ahead for you and your family, sounds like you’re on a great path already 💛
Best Voice in the World™️
Love how real you are- you’re very unique in that way. Appreciate this video and glad you are feeling better although it’s a process of course.
Excited for your pod!
I appreciate your transparency and your willingness to share your story. We are all human and hearing other's human experience is very grounding and connects us on levels you cannot even explain. That is definitely a lot to go through - especially when it involves your children. I haven't had any children but I also have PMDD and I know exactly what you mean about it amplifying your anxiety and not being able to control it (although birth control does seem to help). You said you don't want any sympathy but I am very sorry you have been dealing with this (please accept this!!) :D I am happy to hear you are getting help and working through it in a positive manner. You are an absolutely amazing woman and mother, and again, thank you for sharing this aspect of your life. I have always felt like you are my UA-cam mom (even though I am only 10 yrs younger than you lololol) Love you so much!
My sweet girl. I can't imagine having it at a younger age. I'm always here if you ever need any advice 😘 your videos got me through many sleepless nights!!!! Still do! Taking care of your mental health is so so crucial & once you become a mama, I think so many women are afraid of being judged. I just hope to help people & let you all know that as long as you're trying, you're always ahead of the game. Love you 😍 💗
Good for you talking about this ❤️. As a mental health professional and also someone who’s mother had an elective hysterectomy for PMDD. This is real shit.
Thank you! That's an extreme case & very sad that was her last option probably. 😳 I so appreciate your input & all you do for the asmr community ❤ hoping the pill works well for me & gives me the hormones I'm lacking. What us women go through is astronomical
Thanks for talking about this. This whole journey into motherhood is so tough, physically, mentally, emotionally, on your relationship, on your friendships, on your identity, just everything. No one wants to talk about it, and that makes us all feel even more alone. Your honesty is so appreciated.
Thank you for watching. Yes! So many moms are ashamed or scared to admit they don't feel blissfully happy 24/7! Don't be. We are all struggling lol 😘😘😘😘
I appreciate this video so much. My twins were premature (33 weeks early) and my son came home a week before my daughter. I bonded with him during that week (he was a great sleeper and eater) and then she came home and flipped everything upside down - I didn’t really bond with her until months later and felt like complete shit about it. They are 3 1/2 now and I still struggle with feelings of sadness, anger/resentment and birth trauma. It’s so hard. I read something that I thought was so true: “I can love my children, but still miss my old life”… that’s how I feel. I wouldn’t trade my kids for anything in the world, but the emotional and physical toll I was not prepared for. All this is to say, you are certainly not alone. You’ve got a UA-cam motherhood tribe who is here for you, mama. 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Thank you so so much mama. God bless you on your journey. I felt what you said because YESSSSS!!!!! I am with you! It's amazing how much we love our babies & would literally die for them, but sometimes struggle with our own issues that create guilt. It's like when u can't wait for bedtime....yet look at 500 pics of them on your phone lol omg🤦♀️I stand with all my mama's. Can't wait to discuss my podcast ideas ❤❤❤❤
*just* by going to therapy and being open and honest, you are doing what millions of parents cannot or will not do for their families. You are a great parent.
Awww thank you. I wish everyone had a therapist! Lol they are so helpful 🧡🧡🧡🧡
It’s so crazy- I’ve been following you since the beginning and we are just always on the same journey. I also struggle(d) with ppd and pmdd (age 17 until present). I really appreciate your transparency because being a SAHM is super isolating and there’s so much left unsaid. Thank you xoxox
You're so welcome
I feel better knowing other moms feel this way too. Makes me feel less crazy lol sending love your way for positive days ahead 😘❤
I totally agree with you about so many things. I appreciate your honesty about motherhood. Although I’m not a mom, I am aware there’s a lot of things most moms WONT admit for one reason or another (guilt, shame, denial, trying to look perfect, whatever). I have chosen to not be a parent for most of your reasons mentioned, in addition to other things, such as finances. (I absolutely love babies and being apart of a family, so I’m not knocking parenthood at all! I know having no kids will come with it’s own issues). I remember you talking about the falling out with your mom, and I’m happy you worked it out, but I agree with your crumpled paper analogy. Once the trust is gone, or you feel betrayed, nothing will ever be nice and pretty again. I learned that the hard way by taking back a cheating ex. I’m still watching the video, but wanted to comment now because I’ll fall asleep soon 😂. I wish you and your husband success with therapy / independent therapy ♥️
Thank you so so much 💗 it was super hard to go through all of this with circumstances being not so good, adding to it! I honestly think I could deal with alot of what has happened with my sons behavior stuff & my mom alot better if I didn't have pmdd. That's what makes it worse. But I'm praying this pill helps🙏🧡
Love you! Thank you for all you’ve given to us and shared with us over the years. You make the world better 💜
Awwww thank you so so much. So kind of you ❤❤❤❤
Vic, thank you for sharing and talking about these subjects. even though it's hard, i was still very happy to see your video. I just wish you all the best. thank you for your honesty.
btw your soft spoken voice is absolutely amazing!!!! thanks again
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Thank you for sharing your journey with us; so much respect for your path into motherhood and raising awareness around PMDD. There is so much beauty, grace and hope in your approach to life.
The best way out is always through! Thank you again for sharing. 🌻
So agree with that!!!!!! Thank you!!!!! 😊 yes I hope I come out stronger through all of it. Xoxo
I wish I could sit n have a cup of coffee with you! I had my daughter sept 2019 and your story is very similar to mine! These past two years have been life changing literally, so glad we are not alone in this mom journey ❤️
Love you Vic! Thank you for always keeping it real with us, that's a reason I've always enjoyed your channel ❤
Love ya mama. Thank you for always being so loyal 🙏 💓
So beautiful vic. Im so proud that you shared your story with us. Love you always…. Here for you whenever u need!❤️
Thank you love 💘 ❤ 😍
Thank you for sharing your story. I think it could help people in the same boat to know they’re not alone and there’s help out there. I hope it continues to get better for you and your family. Also I love your soft spoken voice it’s very relaxing. xoxo
You're welcome! I too...hope to reach people & spread awareness ❤
It’s wonderful hearing from you. Blessings to y’all
I feel like this video answered all the questions I'm having lately. People like you are so valuable, especially for women and mothers.
My anxiety and mental health issues can make my life very difficult but I'm grateful for this strange journey...it can break but also empower you.
Sending lots of love to you and your family ❤
I'm glad I could help! You are not crazy. You're just trying to survive like all of us. I hope with my future podcast... I'm able to really help ppl ❤
@@Vicpic Thank you so much! ❤
This is so real, everything you said was so raw. Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us. I don’t have children but I do have family and friends who are mothers and they’ve expressed similar feelings of difficulty bonding, resentment, isolation, hormonal changes for months, sometimes a year+ after giving birth and I think your experience is a very common one. It’s sad how these things are still considered taboo to speak about and one thing I’ve noticed is that even with heightened awareness of mental health, PMDD and post partum changes are still regarded with stigma and misinformation. I had a good friend with PMDD and from firsthand witness I’ve seen that it’s an incredibly disabling condition that just gets written off as “that time of the month” when it’s a full scale physical and behavioral disorder. I’m glad birth control has helped you. I’ve been on birth control since high school and it’s made a world of difference in my own PMS. I also relate to your feelings of rage and uncontrollable emotions. I don’t have kids but I was diagnosed with PTSD several years ago and while it was unmanaged it’s the only time I’ve ever felt truly out of control emotionally. It’s a very scary, frustrating, isolating experience and I can’t imagine how much more stressful that would be with two children and a family falling out. It’s very disappointing to hear about the issues with your mom but you provided a lot of great insight into how differently you perceive people and situations as you grow older. We all at one point will see the faults in our families and it’s our responsibility to make those generational changes like you said!
The small look into your family that I have shows me that you and your husband have a deep level of respect for each other and that’s proof in how you have been able to manage the past few years. All couples fall on hard times but you both seem to be such active spouses, parents, family members, etc that your bond is built on mutual respect, trust, and love. I truly hope marriage counseling helps you and it’s fantastic that you’re both open to it. We all need help in our lives and relationships! You also mentioned that you apologize to your kids if you snap at them or have an off day which is an amazing foundation. Showing your kids respect and having the humility to admit when you too get impatient or frustrated is such a healthy way to connect. It’s so much better to talk about your feelings with your kids instead of shoving everything under the rug like a lot of people have been taught to. You and your family clearly have so much love and respect to go around and it’s what’s gotten you through the hard times. Society unfortunately becomes more and more isolated, people are more and more overworked and being a SAHMust amplify all of that. I hope the podcast gives you a fantastic source of support and happiness! You share a lot of relatable experiences so I’m sure other moms will love having a place where they feel understood. We all need that! No one is meant to do these things alone. Thank you so much for such an open and honest video!
Omg lovely lady! Thank YOU so so much for the kind words. It has Definitely been a challenge and then some. As you know....we don't try to "pretend to be a perfect family" because we're a mess most days. But you're right girl. The love is there!!!! I just get down on myself that I'm insane or not normal, so sharing my story makes me feel less alone. I tend to Google too much & then stress 😩 lolol so nick was like stay the hell off Google about this pill because you will create your own anxiety lol so definitely keep an eye out for this podcast info. I'm so on the fence about how I want to go about it. In my next asmr video I'm going to maybe do some personal attention & talk about it. ❤❤❤
THANK YOU SO MUCH FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART FOR BEING THIS HONEST REAL AND BOLD!!! IT MAKES ME FEEL NORMAL ,SO THANK YOU SO SO SOOOOO MUCH VICTORIA ,WE ALL LOVE YOU!!
You ARE normal! And I think accepting that anxiety comes in peaks & valleys is huge. We are all a work in progress!!!!!! 🙌❤ sending love ❤
I understand your situation. I went through a very similar thing. My relationship with my partner did not survive, despite counseling and trying so hard. You sound so wise and self-assured in this video. Thank you so so so much for sharing your story. I feel so much better about my struggle. I’m not alone. ❤️ You’re a lovely human with a beautiful soul.
I'm so sorry to hear this! I don't know what our future holds, but I will continue to try each day. Thankfully this pill is supposed to help the hormone aspect of it all. So I'm praying it works ! Sending you ❤
I absolutely appreciate your transparency. I also had a falling out with my mom (long story short she was always abusive and ended up going to jail) for the safety of my family and I almost 8 years ago I lost that support. It just wasn't worth the constant anxiety. I had to learn to rebuild my life without her and now I am so much better. It was a JOURNEY and I still grieve that loss. Thank you for sharing your story.
So sorry to hear this. My mom is around but i agree sometimes people cause more stress than good. One of the big reasons we want to move away! I think not seeing her so often will be much more beneficial for me. So glad you were able to rebuild & realized you deserve better 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
@@Vicpic Thank you so much! We all have our battles but it's nice to know I'm not alone in struggling with certain things. Love on your kiddos and your hubby and they can help you weather the storm.
@@Vicpic I just so relate on the mother issue. I broke the cycle with my son.
@@PumpkinBumpkin333 that's what I'm trying to do now! It's tough!
@@Vicpic Yes it is! 💚 You CAN do it. You are already on your way. Seeing a pattern and making steps toward changing that for you and your children is already taking the biggest leap. Be proud of yourself.
You are a very strong woman❤
So relaxing your amazing
This. Is. Everything. 💙
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I have PMDD and found that the implant birth control helped. I suspect it’s from too much estrogen relative to progesterone, especially with my heavy periods. I use natural supplements like evening primrose oil and lithium ororate to control the anxiety.
Ooohhh thank you...I will try those. I've noticed since being on the pill my anxiety has most definitely subsided. The rage moods....not so much yet. But I'm only like 6 days into it. I think for me I don't have enough estrogen & something else. When I was pregnant both times, I felt great, was happy & had little to no mood fluctuations. Then once I had my daughter....I was a mess. So unfortunately I developed an imbalance & the pill is giving me back those hormones I lack. I'll definitely try your suggestion 😉
@UCYg8BlNKIAJiE9_s3ONkmOg why are you on MY channel ordering ppl around and judging them?? Go raise your kids how you choose. You're teaching them to be non judgmental, kind to others and perfect so I think you're doing a good job!
I always say it takes balls to be a woman. Whether you have kids or don't. You never know what you're capable of until you have to go through it. Hormones are one of my biggest deal breakers into if I decided to ever have kids, I'm scared to death about how I'll be because of my anxiety and on my time of the month I either get very sad or very pissed off. I'm on medication but i hate the weight gain so it's like your damned if you do, damned if you don't i feel like.
Best advice is that if you feel like you DO want kids. Don't let fear stop you. I've been through hell....but watching my 2 BEAUTIFUL babies each day outweighs any bad. And yes hormones CAN be treated! If you decide not to... that's ok too. But never ever let fear stop you my dear. ❤