Can a relationship recover after cheating - Benjamin Zulu

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  • @ndagirecynthia7952
    @ndagirecynthia7952 4 роки тому +161

    Am i the only one who likes even before watching
    As long as it's Benjamin
    I know for sure it's always wisdom😍😍

  • @MsKanyi
    @MsKanyi 4 роки тому +171

    Spot On Joyce! Women need to value themselves and stop making men feel like they are doing them a favour marrying them. Rather be single with standards than "married" degraded & disrespected

    • @linetatieno4594
      @linetatieno4594 4 роки тому +4

      I like that, very true but bcz of title many endure so much

    • @edithmacharia9901
      @edithmacharia9901 4 роки тому

      ua-cam.com/video/vrvNMotMj6Q/v-deo.html

    • @shikukim5428
      @shikukim5428 4 роки тому +4

      Oh yes I can't stand some relationship for a day

    • @linetjoy5545
      @linetjoy5545 4 роки тому +3

      Exactly, i second you on this, you should never lose your value or even on self esteem because you are married

    • @martinmutugi2073
      @martinmutugi2073 3 роки тому +1

      Many thanks, been searching for "how to fix infidelity" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Qenamilla Strayer Magnet - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my partner got cool success with it.

  • @tokelolove7234
    @tokelolove7234 4 роки тому +83

    If you're married, cheating is never by mistake! Whether it's for the 1st time or not. Women need to truly realise their self worth, because most women who've forgiven their husbands for cheating, the husbands wouldn't even think twice about leaving them if the wives were the ones that cheated. Fetch your life and live it up sis! You are still a complete person without that man, you won't lose a limb or have an organ failure! There's no such thing as men are polygamists by nature, it's only because our societies were structured around patriachy. If a man feels he can't remain in a marriage/relationship without cheating in anyway, he doesn't deserve a wife to begin with.

    • @gracemaina6593
      @gracemaina6593 4 роки тому +1

      Truth

    • @rispathequeen
      @rispathequeen 3 роки тому

      100%true

    • @burundishallsmile1day109
      @burundishallsmile1day109 3 роки тому +2

      😊😊Very wrong about everything you say!
      A woman body has more power of collecting memories.
      They cheat after thinking about it and planning on it even deciding. Once she sleeps with a man, her body keeps memories of that manor those men. they ll always stuck with her, if she comes across or speak with them again, emotional memories react she feels connected. Men don't have these powers, they don't keep emotional connection to someone they don't love but temporarily get feeling. Next day no feelings, they may even ignore the person the woman they ve slept with last night and pass without saying Hello after doing her.
      Woman cheats with a person she feels connected to until body gets confused and never gets satisfied with no man in her life. That y it's a serious offense when a woman goes a stray.

    • @cyee2802
      @cyee2802 2 роки тому +4

      @@burundishallsmile1day109
      It hurts the same way...there's nothing you saying here. These are just excuses to infedility.

    • @nickolazcarters
      @nickolazcarters 2 роки тому

      Cheaters are human too.

  • @stellaonyang7609
    @stellaonyang7609 4 роки тому +40

    Dear ladies when a man cheats on you stop attaching that has your fault because you have not done something wrong.
    Let me tell you men who cheat do it has away of raising their standards.
    But to us women let's not stop keeping out standard regardless of a cheating man let him not lower you down because he has cheated. The more you continue working hard as you planned in terms of settling your self and the children. That man will face his own fate and he will be more ashamed if he finds you more stable that's when they turn back to settle with u if at all you need him. But never consider moving on as a solution to a cheating husband heal and develop your self first because financial consequence make has fall in the hands of those guys.

  • @magdalenekioko4021
    @magdalenekioko4021 4 роки тому +99

    A person cheats because he/she is a cheater. No one cheats by accident.

  • @keziahnyambura3852
    @keziahnyambura3852 4 роки тому +77

    I feel new, powerful n wiser every time I watch Benjamin. Thanks to this guys knowledge. Joyce u are great too

    • @megkarugi9665
      @megkarugi9665 4 роки тому +2

      Same case here, love him for educating me everytime

    • @faithkimathi4068
      @faithkimathi4068 4 роки тому +1

      @@megkarugi9665 there are reasons why a narcissist will educate his or her spouse. I used to think it was out of love and tender care which they will always try to show in public.
      Later, he told me the reasons, why it was necessary for me to be well schooled. I was shocked.

    • @rosematuru5377
      @rosematuru5377 4 роки тому

      Benja you and your colleague are really good at it. You have answered all the questions very well. I didn't want it to end

    • @rosemarys8026
      @rosemarys8026 3 роки тому

      22

  • @tshegofatsolentsoana6242
    @tshegofatsolentsoana6242 4 роки тому +13

    If you cheat just know its over. Mminapshiri mmakakola dibata from 🇿🇦

  • @asahlobo5423
    @asahlobo5423 4 роки тому +38

    When he says " Don't do that" I always feel it😀😀

  • @imanikemunto4545
    @imanikemunto4545 4 роки тому +32

    Me have learned that my presence in someone’s life is conditional... it’s either you do right or walk out.....

  • @S.Abbigael
    @S.Abbigael 4 роки тому +22

    "You are don't hurt someone and dictate when you want them to heal ..."**

    • @0r807
      @0r807 3 роки тому

      ?? What do u mean?

    • @maryajode9319
      @maryajode9319 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@0r807she ment to say that you don't hurt someone and dictate to them when to heal

  • @blackqueen7710
    @blackqueen7710 4 роки тому +15

    Mashallah...you are very wise Zulu...every time I listens to your advice I feels wiser also...Joyce you are also wise ..you always asks relevant questions relating to the immediate topic...keep the 🔥 burning.....and also talk about how to manage long distance relationship please

  • @planetshow3747
    @planetshow3747 3 роки тому +7

    I don't get enough of Benjamin wisdom
    It's on another level 💯 🙌 👌 👏 😎
    May God bless 🙏 you for the teachings

    • @saintmarybulicek567
      @saintmarybulicek567 3 роки тому +1

      If you are feeling your partner might be cheating on you, but there's no definite evidence. You're faced with two alternatives seek out the facts, or to turn a blind eye. Selecting the first choice, although often suitable in the short term, is incredibly damaging for you personally, But for your children and family, not only in the long run too. Seeking the truth out isn't simple either as I mentioned before, technology had made infidelity much easier to conceal than in the past, however it also provides opportunities for revealing getting the evidence needed to establish them & affairs. I hate cheaters, my husband never gave me a reason to be suspicious until I found him and her colleague at a romantic restaurant. They told me it was work stuff but something wasn't right. I was worried until I was introduced to darkebprohack who offer Remote Installation to the his device, They build a web Dashboard for monitoring, 24x7 monitoring (Live GPS), They also gave me full access into the Social apps (Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp, etc. Their service is 100 % Anonymous, SHA-256 Encrypted Data, They also recover all Deleted Messages and Data you can contact via gmail darkwebprohack@ gmail com or whatsapp +1 6614855860 wishing you the best .

  • @MwaleWaGitau
    @MwaleWaGitau 4 роки тому +17

    Cheating repeatedly is not a mistake, it;s a habit. A bad character. Apology is the behavior you maintain after the apology, not the words "am sorry". People heal at their own pace & not as expected by the offender. Forgiveness is commanded, Reconciliation.

    • @reneekelley4279
      @reneekelley4279 4 роки тому +1

      need to be watchful when dealing with long distance relationship, No one really deserves to be cheated upon and I believe smartness is important in any relationship, my worst experience was discovering my cheating Narcissist husband through the help of an hacker who helped cloned his cell and i got access to all his Text messages, Whats-app, Facebook, Messenger, Kik, Snap-chat, Instagram, Skype, Twitter, Email and Social media chat, i was able to read both his new and deleted messages without touching his mobile . I was hurt when i read conversation of my husband always sex chatting with an other lady , i felt so broken, I’m here in California , USA and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable contact him on his mobile phone, text,whats-app +17076225057. I hope you find peace just like me after I found out about his doings

  • @timewithruth
    @timewithruth 4 роки тому +35

    Knowledge is power! This man is filled with wisdom, almost watched every video now 😅
    P.s I love the sound of kswahili, want to learn!

    • @elizabethlitabe5427
      @elizabethlitabe5427 3 роки тому +2

      Zulu thank you, I gone through that hell life for 17 years. My eyes only got opened last year. I just felt like I couldn't take it anymore. Be blessed

  • @constancesidi3386
    @constancesidi3386 4 роки тому +22

    Benjamin your wisdom is God given.
    No book can give you this

  • @Lillian-pt7tp
    @Lillian-pt7tp 4 роки тому +8

    Mr. Zulu you do make my day with your great word of advice. Relationship are a test in life...

    • @favoursenfuma1500
      @favoursenfuma1500 4 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on (+2349159597426) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

  • @Cegle73
    @Cegle73 4 роки тому +12

    Benjamin the best is to leave and never look back to the level of changing the state or province or city.. Far to the change of religion.... Change hairstyle... leave.... Don't attend even a funeral.... Just leave..... Leave don't argue try to talk or mend thing.. No leave....

  • @relelekata5361
    @relelekata5361 2 роки тому +3

    I am watching from RSA
    Thank you for your good lessons I wish I had met you earlier, definitely I would have done better decisions in life.

  • @marywanjiru6226
    @marywanjiru6226 4 роки тому +5

    I love the words from this man,, Benjamin ur a blessing in this generation

  • @Godornothingevangelicalhub
    @Godornothingevangelicalhub 4 роки тому +5

    Here Zulu you are also teaching managerial stages of forming a group. Indeed marriage is a special group.

  • @rahabnganga2793
    @rahabnganga2793 4 роки тому +6

    Benjamin thank you, I'm teaching my girls a lot these days. Joyce love you

  • @virginiamuthoni3746
    @virginiamuthoni3746 4 роки тому +36

    Personally I don't think a relationship can recorver after cheating.A man who loves and values you will never cheat on you.

    • @favoursenfuma1500
      @favoursenfuma1500 4 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on (+2349159597426) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

    • @sg5720
      @sg5720 3 роки тому +11

      I’m a married woman and I thought the same thing until I grew in my marriage. If my husband cheated I can honestly say he still loves me but made a wrong decision. The growth in my marriage the love I see from him everyday I know I would give him a second chance if he cheated. Now if he did it again then I know how he values himself and his family is extremely low and regardless how much I know he loves me- I have too much respect for myself and my kids that I could not continue in my marriage. A lot of woman say “I will leave him right away if he cheats on me” you just never know until you in that situation. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @adoliivy3658
      @adoliivy3658 3 роки тому

      I think you wrong my dear

    • @sg5720
      @sg5720 3 роки тому +1

      @@adoliivy3658 everyone including you deserves a second chance- God knows growing up from a teenager into adulthood- I wish I had second chances. Just remember your not perfect and you will want a second chance.

    • @adoliivy3658
      @adoliivy3658 3 роки тому

      @@sg5720 yeah I know that I think you haven't understood where my comment is heading to an sayng Virginia is wrong by what she's saying

  • @sneakerstones3442
    @sneakerstones3442 4 роки тому +11

    My wife cheated and she doesn’t want to talk about it...I’ve only watched this show to learn she is a Narcissist, so even if the apology came it will be a fake...after all I’m an object. The show keeps on toes, thanks guys.

    • @themarriagecornershow4417
      @themarriagecornershow4417 4 роки тому +1

      Sorry bout that. I hope you find help

    • @rahab1918
      @rahab1918 3 роки тому

      That is very wrong especially not wanting to talk about it does she expect you to move on like nothing happened

    • @Rassy_
      @Rassy_ 3 роки тому

      Are you are still with her? 😲 and how did you discover she cheated?

  • @r..6842
    @r..6842 3 роки тому +9

    Actually old habits die hard if a person cheats on you leave immediately ...

  • @samgtabu
    @samgtabu 4 роки тому +8

    I like the Interview, Benjamin guy is 👌🏾 and I also like Joyce's relationship standards. She has No grey areas.

    • @janenyanchama1740
      @janenyanchama1740 4 роки тому

      Thanks Benjamin. I like your knowledge and wisdom.
      Pls talk more about children who are dating and those who marry at ayoung age. Its a mess out here with our childrean. And they dont listen to tye parents.

  • @divinejackie1993
    @divinejackie1993 4 роки тому +8

    THIS MAN IS EVERYTHINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

  • @emmahwanjaria6192
    @emmahwanjaria6192 4 роки тому +12

    Amazing topics on relationships as always I always enjoy and learn a lot from Mr Benjamin Zulu he's so wise and his advice is everything as for me women need to value themselves to tolerate nonsense we need to set standards for ourselves as women. if a man values you he'll never do such nonsense so I think women need to respect themselves and love themselves to be manipulated.I think you should have a topic on how women can set standards for themselves.

  • @funart4everyone81
    @funart4everyone81 4 роки тому +13

    Spot on guys..If you are reading this just know that you are blessed. Amazing and beautiful don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I wish all your dreams would come true just as I want all my youtube dreams to come true thank you.

  • @nametsophoma7816
    @nametsophoma7816 4 роки тому +3

    Benjamin has wisdom...
    Watching from Botswana

  • @smdg6939
    @smdg6939 4 роки тому +9

    I think forgiveness is the best way to rebuild the relationship, always forgive them at first time

  • @janejomo6181
    @janejomo6181 4 роки тому +4

    Waaah this man,he oozes pure wisdom in relationship matters,I looove his advices.

  • @felistamashinga123
    @felistamashinga123 4 місяці тому +1

    STOP breaking your own heart by try to make a relationship work, you can't force someone to care about you,to be loyal or you can't force someone to be the person you need them to be,sometimes the person you want most is the person your best without,somethings are meant to happen but just not meant to be..something are meant to come to your life but not to stay,don't loose yourself by trying to mend what meant to stay broken,you can't get the relationship you need from someone who is not ready to give it to you,,,don't put your happiness on hold for someone who is not holding to you period

  • @eugenekaiga
    @eugenekaiga 4 роки тому +4

    I really need to speak to this guy because I clearly have some unresolved issues that I need help with. At some point in this interview, it felt as if he was talking about me to the last detail. Ladies and gentlemen, if you ever cheat on someone you love and are willing to make things work; please follow the teachings he has just prescribed and never take "closure" for granted, it is the only way to get healing over time.

  • @neema1
    @neema1 4 роки тому +17

    You cheat just pack your bags and go. I will not even listen. I'd rather die from a heartbreak than stay with even a reformed cheater. Periodt.

  • @v.a.m.2549
    @v.a.m.2549 4 роки тому +7

    Cheating is not a big deal, but apologising and recheating again with the same person i am out.

  • @durbansaladyinaccra2173
    @durbansaladyinaccra2173 3 роки тому +5

    "Are you bound at the hip?" 😂😂😂

  • @imanikemunto4545
    @imanikemunto4545 4 роки тому +13

    Cheating is not a mistake if it’s repeatedly....Am a if you don’t see my value in your life I won’t force you type a woman.

    • @favoursenfuma1500
      @favoursenfuma1500 4 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on (+2349159597426) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

  • @nwabisaphikwa9790
    @nwabisaphikwa9790 4 роки тому +2

    Wow!! I am always learning so much from Benjamin🙏🏼

  • @zamashezi8497
    @zamashezi8497 4 роки тому +3

    We shud stop idealising marriage it's tough. No breaks, for as long as u alive u in it

  • @marydanwarungakiraunigiaku4990
    @marydanwarungakiraunigiaku4990 3 роки тому +1

    For married couples it’s ok to take a break, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 in order to reconcile

  • @Maka20537
    @Maka20537 4 роки тому +23

    Yeah those that can forgive cheating should forgive. Me I graduated from these men.

  • @adambasiganga1135
    @adambasiganga1135 4 роки тому +7

    Disrespect is very painful,and it can continue for ever.Talk to us about disrespect.

  • @marthakimani8081
    @marthakimani8081 2 роки тому +1

    My husband lied I had cheated on him and we involved both family and community to resolve, I forgave him and even today he changed me nd my life, I don't love anybody coz I don't trust because I had no even intentions of cheating neither had I cheated on him since I was married to him, so no relationship can be the same after cheating.. married for 17yrs now..

  • @OnoriodePriscilla-ti8zd
    @OnoriodePriscilla-ti8zd Рік тому +2

    I keep remembering it and everything i do I feel like the whole world is against me I just wondered what I have done to deserve such treatment I loved him more than my life am a good woman and I know he has never find fault in me then why is he cheating on me continuously I haven't been myself for long time now and it's killing me slowly I don't know what to do anymore I might die one day😢

    • @LiviaMurungi
      @LiviaMurungi 2 місяці тому +1

      Why die my dear for someone who doesn't even care. love yourself a lot and get a better man *10.Thats the best revenge!

  • @naightengale101
    @naightengale101 4 роки тому +3

    Joyce, I really appreciate hearing more English. I am from the Caribbean.

  • @cinthiamuthoni2849
    @cinthiamuthoni2849 4 роки тому +3

    Am so addicted to listening to zulu

  • @xolanihlongwa2438
    @xolanihlongwa2438 4 роки тому +6

    Zulu you wise like Zulus in South Africa.please come back home broe😀

    • @faithkimathi4068
      @faithkimathi4068 4 роки тому +1

      Sabwona Xolani. Kkkkk.

    • @ornatestyle2646
      @ornatestyle2646 4 роки тому +2

      Could @switch please enable the download button.
      It only allows us to watch later on our devices if your worry is we will share.

  • @tshegofatsolentsoana6242
    @tshegofatsolentsoana6242 4 роки тому +2

    Molekane wa ka a ba le mokaola kamano ya rena ya phuhlama le semeetseng 🤞🏾 a ke kgone go kgotlelelo ditšie badimo. Mminapshiri mmakakola dibata from 🇿🇦

  • @Detky
    @Detky 4 роки тому +5

    Cheating is a choice. You don't trip and fall on it! Most people get stuck at the second stage. Forgiving and healing hence becomes a challenge coz they don't know how to tell whether the affair was really a mistake or a behavior. This is also depended on the one who stepped out... how he/she handles the whole thing.

  • @gladysfrancis4552
    @gladysfrancis4552 4 роки тому +2

    Joyce thank you so much for trying to keep things in English, I can see the change in your dialogue.

  • @cynthiacharles8825
    @cynthiacharles8825 4 роки тому +3

    This man has too much
    I love and always love the show

  • @jephsymwasaru9820
    @jephsymwasaru9820 4 роки тому +5

    YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD. ... was in the verge, dillemma but now i know!!!

  • @franciscahndanu8581
    @franciscahndanu8581 2 роки тому

    I had to search for this. What am going through right now, i feel like giving up for real.
    Nimechukulia jamaa loans mpaka saa hii sina salo. I want to leave but my worry is my kids na salo napata 5k per month coz ya kulipa madeni.

  • @michellekenneth2453
    @michellekenneth2453 4 роки тому +5

    This suits looks good on him

  • @abigaelkemboi7756
    @abigaelkemboi7756 4 роки тому +10

    Switch should allow us to download to watch it later😥😥😥😥

    • @faithtitus2887
      @faithtitus2887 4 роки тому

      @Abigael kemboi .you can download vidmate app from chrome then you can search the video clips and download them using that app

  • @Phylishiko
    @Phylishiko 4 роки тому +1

    Wow wow Benjamin Zulu uko hapa good job my friend

  • @mahlodimolokomme1233
    @mahlodimolokomme1233 4 роки тому +3

    Can the admin activate download button😭😭😭

  • @agadafrank1026
    @agadafrank1026 Рік тому

    Genesis 26:34
    [34]When Esau was forty years old, he married two Hittite women, Judith the daughter of Beeri, and Basemath the daughter of Elon.
    Genesis 29:21-22,30
    [21]Then Jacob said to Laban, “The time is up; let me marry your daughter.”
    [22]So Laban gave a wedding feast and invited everyone.
    [30]Jacob had intercourse with Rachel also, and he loved her more than Leah. Then he worked for Laban another seven years.
    1 Samuel 1:2-3
    [2]Elkanah had two wives, Hannah and Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had none.
    [3]Every year Elkanah went from Ramah to worship and offer sacrifices to the Lord Almighty at Shiloh, where Hophni and Phinehas, the two sons of Eli, were priests of the Lord.
    1 Samuel 25:43-44
    [43]David had married Ahinoam from Jezreel, and now Abigail also became his wife.
    [44]Meanwhile, Saul had given his daughter Michal, who had been David's wife, to Palti son of Laish, who was from the town of Gallim.
    1 Kings 11:2-4
    [2]He married them even though the Lord had commanded the Israelites not to intermarry with these people, because they would cause the Israelites to give their loyalty to other gods.
    [3]Solomon married 700 princesses and also had 300 concubines. They made him turn away from God
    [4]and by the time he was old they had led him into the worship of foreign gods. He was not faithful to the Lord his God, as his father David had been.
    2 Samuel 5:13-14
    [13]After moving from Hebron to Jerusalem, David took more concubines and wives, and had more sons and daughters.
    [14]The following children were born to him in Jerusalem: Shammua, Shobab, Nathan, Solomon,
    2 Samuel 12:7-8
    [7]“You are that man,” Nathan said to David. “And this is what the Lord God of Israel says: ‘I made you king of Israel and rescued you from Saul.
    [8]I gave you his kingdom and his wives; I made you king over Israel and Judah. If this had not been enough, I would have given you twice as much.
    2 Chronicles 11:21
    21 Rehoboam loved Maakah daughter of Absalom more than any of his other wives and concubines. In all, he had eighteen wives and sixty concubines, twenty-eight sons and sixty daughters
    2 Chronicles 13:21
    21 But Abijah grew in strength. He married fourteen wives and had twenty-two sons and sixteen daughters.
    Genesis 30:4
    4 So she gave him her servant Bilhah as a wife. Jacob slept with her
    Judges 8:30
    30 He had seventy sons of his own, for he had many wives.
    Numbers 12:1
    1 Miriam and Aaron began to talk against Moses because of his Cushite wife, for he had married a Cushite.
    Ezekiel 23:1-4
    1 The word of the LORD came to me:
    2 “Son of man, there were two women, daughters of the same mother.
    3 They became prostitutes in Egypt, engaging in prostitution from their youth. In that land their breasts were fondled and their virgin bosoms caressed.
    4 The older was named Oholah, and her sister was Oholibah. They were mine and gave birth to sons and daughters. Oholah is Samaria, and Oholibah is Jerusalem
    Deuteronomy 25:5-10
    5 If brothers are living together and one of them dies without a son, his widow must not marry outside the family. Her husband’s brother shall take her and marry her and fulfill the duty of a brother-in-law to her.
    6 The first son she bears shall carry on the name of the dead brother so that his name will not be blotted out from Israel.
    7 However, if a man does not want to marry his brother’s wife, she shall go to the elders at the town gate and say, “My husband’s brother refuses to carry on his brother’s name in Israel. He will not fulfill the duty of a brother-in-law to me.”
    8 Then the elders of his town shall summon him and talk to him. If he persists in saying, “I do not want to marry her,”
    9 his brother’s widow shall go up to him in the presence of the elders, take off one of his sandals, spit in his face and say, “This is what is done to the man who will not build up his brother’s family line.”
    10 That man’s line shall be known in Israel as The Family of the Unsandaled
    1 Chronicles 3:1-9
    1 These were the sons of David born to him in Hebron: The firstborn was Amnon the son of Ahinoam of Jezreel; the second, Daniel the son of Abigail of Carmel;
    2 the third, Absalom the son of Maakah daughter of Talmai king of Geshur; the fourth, Adonijah the son of Haggith;
    3 the fifth, Shephatiah the son of Abital; and the sixth, Ithream, by his wife Eglah.
    4 These six were born to David in Hebron, where he reigned seven years and six months. David reigned in Jerusalem thirty-three years,
    5 and these were the children born to him there: Shammua, Shobab, Nathan and Solomon. These four were by Bathsheba daughter of Ammiel.
    6 There were also Ibhar, Elishua, Eliphelet,
    7 Nogah, Nepheg, Japhia,
    8 Elishama, Eliada and Eliphelet-nine in all.
    9 All these were the sons of David, besides his sons by his concubines. And Tamar was their sister
    Exodus 21:10
    [10]If a man takes a second wife, he must continue to give his first wife the same amount of food and clothing and the same rights that she had before.
    2 Chronicles 24:2-3
    And Joash did what was right in the eyes of the Lord all the days of Jehoiada the priest. Jehoiada got for him two wives, and he had sons and daughters
    2 Chronicles 11:21
    Rehoboam loved Maacah the daughter of Absalom above all his wives and concubines (he took eighteen wives and sixty concubines, and fathered twenty-eight sons and sixty daughters
    Proverbs 14:1
    The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.
    Judges 8:30
    Now Gideon had seventy sons, his own offspring, for he had many wives
    2 Chronicles 13:21
    But Abijah grew mighty. And he took fourteen wives and had twenty-two sons and sixteen daughters.
    1 Samuel 1:2
    He had two wives. The name of the one was Hannah, and the name of the other, Peninnah. And Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no children
    house of Israel and of Judah. And if this were too little, I would add to you as much more.
    Deuteronomy 21:15-16
    [15]“Suppose a man has two wives and they both bear him sons, but the first son is not the child of his favourite wife.
    [16]When the man decides how he is going to divide his property among his children, he is not to show partiality to the son of his favourite wife by giving him the share that belongs to the firstborn son.
    Isaiah 4:1
    And seven women shall take hold of one man in that day, saying, “We will eat our own bread and wear our own clothes, only let us be called by your name; take away our reproach
    Deuteronomy 17:17-18
    [17]The king is not to have many wives, because this would make him turn away from the Lord; and he is not to make himself rich with silver and gold.
    [18]When he becomes king, he is to have a copy of the book of God's laws and teachings made from the original copy kept by the levitical priests.
    1 Samuel 1:2-3
    [2]Elkanah had two wives, Hannah and Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had none.
    [3]Every year Elkanah went from Ramah to worship and offer sacrifices to the Lord Almighty at Shiloh, where Hophni and Phinehas, the two sons of Eli, were priests of the Lord.

  • @mercynjeri4603
    @mercynjeri4603 Рік тому

    Cheating is very painful.when my man cheated it really hit me.i didn't eat for 3days coz my stomach was very full then I lost weight in 2 wks coz I was just stressed.

  • @Revtgunn
    @Revtgunn Місяць тому

    What if there is no repententance or admitting?

  • @travisdavis180
    @travisdavis180 3 місяці тому

    Just found out he cheated during my post parturm he said it was a one time thing but i found this texts and pictures of the girl unclothed on his messages so it wasn't a one time thing .He couldn't wait for me to recover 😢😢

  • @juliekley7
    @juliekley7 4 роки тому +4

    How can i get intouch with Benjamin? I need some counseling too

    • @favoursenfuma1500
      @favoursenfuma1500 4 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on (+2349159597426) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

    • @christineprempeh1591
      @christineprempeh1591 3 роки тому

      This is powerful

  • @faustinepeter2766
    @faustinepeter2766 2 роки тому +1

    Niko na 25 years now but my mum used to tell me to get married yet am not ready for that ..Can someone help me,,,how will i answer my mum without hurting her.

    • @cutie-c6b
      @cutie-c6b Місяць тому

      Honestly it's your choice ukiolewa just for her sake wewe ndio utaumia kwa hiyo ndoa

  • @daphnekemunto8420
    @daphnekemunto8420 4 роки тому +11

    Hey Joyce and Benjamin. Kindly can you do a show on how to deal with a man who has baby mamas that they still communicate in the name of kids. Can such men be trusted? Kindly reply

    • @faithkimathi4068
      @faithkimathi4068 4 роки тому +3

      A man with several mama babies mostly has NPD and can never change. Sorry.

    • @daphnekemunto8420
      @daphnekemunto8420 4 роки тому

      Faith Kimathi NPD in full please

    • @faithkimathi4068
      @faithkimathi4068 4 роки тому +6

      Narcissists personality disorder. The are people with extreme narcissist traits. NPDs have no remorse/ empath. According to psy, they are wired directly. They manipulate everyone, lie, hv good visions with no actions, have no regret in life, they hurt spouses either emotionally, physical etc then play the victim roles. .
      They are normal, their relatives believe their lullubies. Its almost impossible to understand a true NPD. They are complex and always searching for a new "supply" (fulfillment/catch to boost their big ego) OR going back an old supply discarded sometime back.
      Think of a lady, the dad of her child is back after years, gives them some hope and then disappears again leaving them with empty promises.

    • @sarmoses
      @sarmoses 4 роки тому +3

      Mine has two baby mamas.....two....m actually the third one.... N it's been like hell.... It's quite a bad triangle... Moves from one house to the other when they is a misunderstanding....talk of a real narcissistic man.. with no empathy....
      My advice stay off any man with baby Mama.... Reality hits when you realize they never really separated....

    • @faithkimathi4068
      @faithkimathi4068 4 роки тому +1

      @@sarmoses By age of 50, sorry Waithers, there is a possible of having two more. Speaking from experience. So watch out my dear. Think fast, are you dealing with a narcissist or a case of "mistake" , if that word is correct when it comes to making babies in the modern times.

  • @nalukwagosusan5055
    @nalukwagosusan5055 4 роки тому +7

    For sure cheating can't be forgiven and I can't really stand it.

  • @Revtgunn
    @Revtgunn Місяць тому

    Is it possible to trust again?

  • @lizzyshayo209
    @lizzyshayo209 4 роки тому +7

    Like how joyce talks,,so i decided to pretend talk like her

  • @danielmajeza4761
    @danielmajeza4761 4 роки тому +15

    you two need a whole hour..i would actually pay to hear u guys..needless to say, ur segments should be longer

    • @favoursenfuma1500
      @favoursenfuma1500 4 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on (+2349159597426) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

  • @marywanjiru6226
    @marywanjiru6226 4 роки тому +7

    Lovers are not ur gods!

  • @andisa9599
    @andisa9599 4 роки тому +3

    If we’re being blatantly honest with ourselves though, Is it okay to call somebody that’s not your partner by a petname or affectionate name?

    • @carolineakosa9835
      @carolineakosa9835 4 роки тому

      What is the reason?

    • @andisa9599
      @andisa9599 4 роки тому

      @@carolineakosa9835 my point is that, a person shouldn’t call just any person by a petname

    • @arts_centa
      @arts_centa Рік тому

      Then what would be the difference between me and them. Pet names are for your spouse. The most I can accept is dear

  • @dikeledimolele6868
    @dikeledimolele6868 3 роки тому +2

    Joyce your ‘wololo’ 😂

  • @hildahnamutali4312
    @hildahnamutali4312 4 роки тому +1

    @joyce what was the next segment after this interested can i get a link

  • @rebeccawarugi2992
    @rebeccawarugi2992 3 роки тому +2

    I stopped seeing a guy when he said "..men can cheat,not women.."

  • @clareshawiza9166
    @clareshawiza9166 Рік тому

    God does not answer a prayer of choice.We are supposed to choose life or death,if you choose like stealing, you choose death.If someone cheats/flirts, it's a choice.If you have a spouse who does such, don't pray and fast for him/her.Its a choice and God does not answer prayer of choice.My thought

  • @Mummie_g
    @Mummie_g Рік тому

    In this case men believe women dont need forgiveness ,only them deserve...when he cheats he deserve a serious punishment because he think he is the only one who deserve forgiveneaa

  • @dramphin4448
    @dramphin4448 4 роки тому +9

    This man is hilarious

    • @favoursenfuma1500
      @favoursenfuma1500 4 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on (+2349159597426) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

  • @ed000
    @ed000 4 роки тому +5

    What do you do if the cheating partner is not willing to communicate what led him to cheating but rather says he's fighting his Demons and uses religion,dreams to avoid taking responsibility for his actions??

  • @kikikiki3216
    @kikikiki3216 3 роки тому

    I love Joyce's hair here...

  • @jonesagatha
    @jonesagatha Рік тому

    If a woman cheats the man must have all the answers like who, where what and when! If a man cheats he expects a woman not to ask questions. He just keeps saying I’m sorry!!!!

  • @malineachieng3148
    @malineachieng3148 4 роки тому +1

    Great content💯

  • @giftkatambo1991
    @giftkatambo1991 3 роки тому

    It will take Gods grace ! For me its a no no! its irreversible

  • @cathy3842
    @cathy3842 4 роки тому +4

    Benjamin Benjamin Benjamin your the best

    • @favoursenfuma1500
      @favoursenfuma1500 4 роки тому +1

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on (+2349159597426) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

    • @cathy3842
      @cathy3842 4 роки тому

      Go to hell

  • @mosesmutyaba8069
    @mosesmutyaba8069 5 місяців тому

    I Love the show.

  • @rumbijc5314
    @rumbijc5314 4 роки тому +2

    Can you please ask Benjamin to cover cheating in a long time marriage, that result to children.
    Does one except the child/children from a mistress.
    We have 4 boys and he went out cause he wants a daughter.
    The mistress of 6 years gave him a daughter who is 4 months apart from my son.

    • @wanjiruciru6237
      @wanjiruciru6237 4 роки тому +4

      😌Hope you don't beat yourself down coz of him having a daughter outside of marriage.It ain't your fault,he carries the determining chromosome.

    • @wanjiruciru6237
      @wanjiruciru6237 4 роки тому +5

      6years is a long time I think that one graduated to a second wife a long time ago.Take heart mama.

    • @BlackPanther-lt7wr
      @BlackPanther-lt7wr 4 роки тому +2

      It had nothing to do with him wanting a daughter. Let's just say you've been in a polygamous relationship

    • @sg5720
      @sg5720 3 роки тому +1

      I would have to end my marriage- not worth it. All this shows is that the husband is selfish. Wanted a daughter so bad willing to turn his back on his family to get it?! What else would he do besides that. Yah, I would be getting a divorce real quick. This man way to selfish to be husband worthy.

    • @ngaakamatuka9577
      @ngaakamatuka9577 Рік тому

      They always want to blame other people for their actions he just had sex with this lady n got her pregnant and now it’s your fault….it’s really terrible sorry I went through the same thing ….

  • @carolinechepkorir8855
    @carolinechepkorir8855 4 роки тому +2

    What about those who cheat with family members, hiyo ni disrespect pia?

  • @samanthab4524
    @samanthab4524 4 роки тому +3

    😢 I'm on stage 3... I'm a walking zombie

  • @lucyngungu3613
    @lucyngungu3613 Рік тому

    Very helpful

  • @sandrasandie3806
    @sandrasandie3806 4 роки тому +1

    Wow thanks

  • @reginahbellovictor7927
    @reginahbellovictor7927 2 місяці тому

    I have caught my partner 7times cheating but every time he says forgive me and he repeats and now am tired for giving is it bad if stop sex with him

    • @cutie-c6b
      @cutie-c6b Місяць тому

      Please leave him or he will infect you with Hiv

  • @jackiekoech7212
    @jackiekoech7212 3 роки тому

    Insightful.

  • @magdalenewanjala6957
    @magdalenewanjala6957 4 роки тому +1

    Wekeni download jameni

  • @OnoriodePriscilla-ti8zd
    @OnoriodePriscilla-ti8zd Рік тому

    I don't know what am feeling anymore am suffering 😭

  • @beautyscolary1743
    @beautyscolary1743 3 роки тому +1

    My husband doesn't understand English. How much we missing out!...

    • @samsonmama6733
      @samsonmama6733 3 роки тому

      A powerful man helped me get my ex lover back he can help you too..

    • @samsonmama6733
      @samsonmama6733 3 роки тому

      Text him via WhatsApp.... ..

  • @GoEunbeol_049
    @GoEunbeol_049 4 роки тому +1

    I just don't know what to say .

  • @dedrad4501
    @dedrad4501 3 роки тому

    What if he cheats and have a baby on the way with the side chick?

  • @thef22raptor15
    @thef22raptor15 51 хвилина тому

    Marriage just doesn't work nowadays

  • @sblessed3017
    @sblessed3017 4 роки тому +3

    Love the accent what country are they from

  • @emmilynyagudi1148
    @emmilynyagudi1148 4 роки тому +1

    pretty always

  • @garettclement6671
    @garettclement6671 4 роки тому +1

    What's Benjamin's number? Someone..?

    • @josephinekabura9732
      @josephinekabura9732 4 роки тому

      Search for him in Facebook "Benjamin nzulu ke" you will get his contacts there

    • @neema1
      @neema1 4 роки тому +1

      Check his Facebook

  • @collenlunga8841
    @collenlunga8841 4 роки тому +1

    Is Benjamin Zulu a south African?? Or it's just a surname