I have been alienated from my children for nearly 5 years. Parental Alienation is a brutal form of abuse. A big thanks to the GB news and Jan who have said it all.
Trust me, My child & I went though this years back & my ex wishes she hadn't alienated me now as the relationship I have with my daughter is so strong.
My ex also has not only alienated by manipulation, false accusations and stories, my 3 kids but kidnapped them altogether January 2016. I have no knowledge about them ever since. That has happened with the allowance of the social services she has succeeded to manipulate as well. Despite all the legislation, institutions and professions there is, or ought to be, to protect children, their cause and well-being, not a singke one has cared about them a bit, and has never been interesred when I have been in touch to authorities etc. I know I'm not the only one. The problem is huge. The system is rotten, and the one of the reasons is every one is a woman in the institutions like the social services.
@@joncullen5382, do and how they do it. I would advise you to write a letter to your local mayor explaining what is happening and asking for his or her intervention. Above all, keep strong and never give up. I wish you all the best.
Lawyers and family court judges are absolutely useless in protecting children from an abusive alienating parent. Most cases the child stays with the abusive parent.
We are thousands of parents suffering this crime against our children. I sympathize with everyone here posting their histories. Despite all the pain and grief that this process can cause to each member of the family of the alienated parent I encourage you dads and mums to Keep up the good fight for the sake of our children, it is not about us any more, it is about them‼️ 💪
In many cases its the DWP child maintenances services (formally the CSA which was shut down for false accounting) encouraging parental alienation.....the system is open to abuse based on more money for less/no contact with the kids .
Any parent who uses their child as a weapon against their ex is a disgusting example of a parent and doesn't deserve that child. It's horrible, I hate my ex for what he did to me but that has nothing to do with our child and I won't have anyone bad mouth my sons dad in front of him. My son has every right and his father has every right to see each other and unless he was a real threat to our child I would never step on their relationship.
Well done, unfortunately I’m going to court. But the evidence is stacked up against her. Consistent breaking of a 50/50 court order and allowing me access a month/fortnight. Hopefully the high court hearing in May will put a stop to her nonsense.
BRAVO!!! Kudos to everyone involved!🙌 Thousands of children will now hopefully be saved from abuse and parents will hopefully be recognised as victims of domestic abuse!🤞
I've been the Alienated parent for 6 years. It's like banging my head against a brick wall whenever I try to get any sort of authority to listen to me. He's 13 now but was 7 when this started. It's absolutely heartbreaking.
I have given up hope with the family courts. Not seen my eldest in over 3 years and younger two in over a year. Family courts and cafcass DO NOT understand parental alienation. I have considered suicide and have lost everything. Next week I move into a caravan to live as am a broken man.
No Bob, all children become adults. Work hard, save and make something of your life and once your children are adult you can explain. Difficult but doable.
Can you get legal aid? Can you get books on the legal precedence? Can you gather any evidence of being prohibited from seeing you child (via messages/emails)? Can you go via the civil/criminal courts or tribunal for the other parent violating a court order?
@@fingerscrossed2453 the police do not take parental alienation serious it's not a criminal offence otherwise trust the country would change overnight and family court was be redundant in terms of child arrangements. Also there is no legal aid for civil family matters only if you can prove you're a domestic violence victim.
i was alienated from my children they were stolen from me for over 4 years by their narcissist dad during the course of my custody matter, a family friend introduced me to an ict service page @hacker_slick01 on instagram and their service was so helpful in court. they helped me as a private investigator on ps ( child protection services) and i was able to get proofs and evidence to show up in court. this dude also help on all divorce, custody cases, narcissist issues, criminal records, loan clearance, tracking and locating of missing persons and properties. perhaps, you are in a similar situation or going through abuse and you need help or you just crave that extra teeny bit of closure, you can get in touch with them @hacker_slick01
Going back to court about a week from now for the 6th time to reinstate contact with my son nothing is ever done to the perpetrators in a court of law I have little faith in the system as they words mean nothing to the people that use kids as weapons very sad
Family courts are corrupt. Look at "fringe" solicitors who aren't devoted to family law. If court orders/injunctions have been missed, then this violation should be counted. Family courts brush this off, but it is contempt of court.
Sadly, we now have a society riddled with serious social/personal/familial issues all of which are surrounded by problems of unemployment, housing, crime, local infrastructure issues, the list goes on. On top of this is laid a very thin coverall of administrations attempting to support laws, regulations, support services etc etc, for all these issues. The reality pretty much being, all of them under funded & staffed! And, for an ever growing diverse population! Its not hard to see why most of it simply doesn´t work, its overload in the extreme! There simply isn´t enough govt money or will to solve it. And, the rich get richer and the poor....etc.
Yes. I was very close with my children. I tried so hard to keep that relationship after I had left, and the relationship broke down more and more and I knew what she was doing. I was systematically cut out. My children were 8 and 10. They're now 25 and 23. They have nothing whatsoever to do with me now. And its apparently all my doing. It is soooooo hard, you cant actually fully recover from it, you get to a point where you have to just let go and get on with life .. but it never goes away
Its outrageous that some parents are just evil & using the child as a tool against the other parent, & grand parents, any partner that does this should be sent to jail. for child abuse. Sadly its a money making manipulation of the system & solicitors 6k you'll waste going though the courts.
I’m 3k down and solicitor wants another 1.5k and probably another soon after plus Barrister of £2000… I’m working every hour just to keep up with their fees. But sufferinng. The end is not too far. Hope i make it.
dont just talk about it . pass the law and name and shame every MP or organisation/ rights group/activists who opposes making it a criminal offence. sack every judge, lawyer and social worker who enables this( put their name on the public record for the court case) prosecute the acrimonious parent that does it ( and thats mean NO lenient sentencing crap that you give to mothers either)
Jan James, a wonderful human being. Should really be recognised on the birthdays houours list. But as this issue is a social taboo, it will sadly not happen. But this whole issue must be highlighted and fixed. signed alienated father
Any parent who does this does not deserve to be a parent. My husbands ex continued her abuse of him in this way after he fled the property from her physical abuse. On another note this also makes it more difficult for the ones who are genuinely protecting their children as they just get tarred with the same brush.
On another note this also makes it more difficult for the ones who are genuinely protecting their children as they just get tarred with the same brush. errm no. there have already been attempts to play that card. if one parent is going to attempt to make an allegation, then they should either produce evidence set to a criminal standard or accept that their kids have to go into care until the matter is resolved. courts have back logs because of the false allegation tactic used by one particular party and enabled by their solicitors and various "rights" groups who received large amount of taxpayers funding... Im sorry to hear that your husbands ex did this to him( i understand from personal ongoing experience), but there needs to be major reform of the whole system to stop this and its starts with legal consequences( of equal weight to both genders) and their solcitors( and some of the judges/magistrates)
@@TheRahsoft I turely feel for you because what my husband and our family went through with his ex was absolutely awful. I think you misunderstood what I was saying. I mean the parents who have had to prove their ex is a danger in both criminal and family court and have had all of the evidence. They are still seen in the same light as those who abuse the system which I do not think is fair. There needs to be real punishment for those who are not genuine and willfully alienate the other parent for their own selfish gain.
I've found this so consuming on my own wellbeing.. having been an alienated child myself too .. that I'm needing to step away from my career and yet again give up the life I've made. I'm almost 60. I have had lots of success in life, yet nothing yo show for it .. because of the inner turmoil daily, the bad advice from my alienator mum, and my unwise choices of friends and partners. Do, I'm doing the only thing I can possibly devote my life to .. raising awareness of this abuse ..
My partner did this years ago and he kept it going until my children were teenagers he threatened me over going for custody of my children he also planned every birthday Christmas school play and outing and never informed me only time he made contact was when he wanted money for school uniforms Christmas presents school outings birthdays I always gave money as I wanted to give my kids the best he lied to family friends and even my kids telling them I never offered him a penny and he did it all in hindsight I should have accounted for everything spent when I asked him to sign for money he became defensive asking why he has lied lied and lied but truth has come out with other people who were friends who he tried to hoodwink with lies making him look a victim and still to this day he cannot be civil even at events birthdays he still continues his behaviour
This needs talking about more. Parental alienation is real and is suppresses by cafcass for the benefit of maintaining a biased system, determined to break down families. I suffered PA and have had half siblings follow suit. This damages individuals. It utterly breeds hate.
Boom ,soon as divorce is finalized..contact will be endlessly problematic , and usually the father will have to jump through hoops for his contact, but basically what will happen is ,one family will be totally cut off instantly as result and the bond will be totally broken .awful topic
In 2 years i have seeing my son for less than 48 hrs. Thus there a court order my husband denies me access to my son . My husband is killing our son . Help me !!
I have indirect contact took place in school i get reports every monthly i sent gifts some reports he happy some report and Last month my son don't want any gifts and Don't want to see me in he life I think mum is parental alienation I have not see my son since 2018
I have a question. You know when you hear a girl has been sexually abused by a father/brother/uncle/grandfather and that girl grows up not having an attraction to men or having an aversion to men? Is the same aversion possible if a girl has been alienated against her father? What if the girl also goes to a same sex school so no boys to distract her?
There is just no rational reason for parental alienation to be allowed to be continued. It's one of the worst types of abuse in our society, and criminal that the majority of perpetrators get away with it. I've been going through it to some degree since my daughter's birth (she's 11 now) and have endured three different periods of complete alienation (no contact), with the longest being six months. My daughter and I now attend systemic family therapy to help mend what was a very broken relationship. Her mum would only agree to it because the solicitor had her back up against the wall. Sadly, that's what it had to come to, and we are trying to resist yet another court hearing. We are coming up to 12 months of uninterrupted contact now and my daughter spent Christmas with me this year. However, there is not a day that passes in which I don't feel like our relationship is hanging from a thread. I can constantly feel the wolf knocking at the door, threatening to blow everything down again.
@Neria Wolf not in numbers. Women perpetrate a lot more than men - by a country mile. Men have little to no rights in the family court. *I'm a child victim of this.
There is a better way. Parental custody of children is actually a very simple matter to solve given the true desire of “What is best for the child”. We need to separate and discard marriage from family law as they no longer seem to be connected and "Marriage makes people treat each other as articles of property and no longer as free human beings. Einstein". We can develop protocols that confer (over time) equal parental rights and responsibilities,…..once parentage is proven. Children’s natural maturation process has 3 essential stages of need. A.The unconditional love of the mother from birth until about 7 years of age. The mother to have “thefinalsay” and to receive child allowance. B.The conditional love of the father, who takes his children out into the world, gives security and teaches social boundaries from 7 until about 13 years of age. The father to have “thefinalsay” and to receive child allowance. C.The friendship and respect of peers from 13 until 18 years of age. The child to have “thefinalsay”. If these 3 stages are not gone through in order, maturation is unlikely to be satisfactorily achieved and mental resilience reduced. This has now become generational. Such a regime of equal parenting rights (over time) would bind parents into a co-operative relationship, because (over time) each will hold the power of “thefinalsay” sequentially when they are best favoured to use it. Such family protocols would be the default position, (allowing love, courtesy and humour to prevail) but could in exceptional cases be varied by the court. Buckminster Fuller said:- “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete”. To alleviate suffering is worthy. To prevent it is divine, but thankless.
I have been alienated from my children for nearly 5 years. Parental Alienation is a brutal form of abuse. A big thanks to the GB news and Jan who have said it all.
Trust me, My child & I went though this years back & my ex wishes she hadn't alienated me now as the relationship I have with my daughter is so strong.
@@Rosario19580 you're lucky. How did you get it back together with your daughter?
My ex also has not only alienated by manipulation, false accusations and stories, my 3 kids but kidnapped them altogether January 2016. I have no knowledge about them ever since. That has happened with the allowance of the social services she has succeeded to manipulate as well. Despite all the legislation, institutions and professions there is, or ought to be, to protect children, their cause and well-being, not a singke one has cared about them a bit, and has never been interesred when I have been in touch to authorities etc.
I know I'm not the only one. The problem is huge. The system is rotten, and the one of the reasons is every one is a woman in the institutions like the social services.
It's been I years for me ,15 times through the family court and still no progress ,but according to CAFCASS its alignment and not alienation.🙄
@@joncullen5382, do and how they do it. I would advise you to write a letter to your local mayor explaining what is happening and asking for his or her intervention. Above all, keep strong and never give up. I wish you all the best.
Lawyers and family court judges are absolutely useless in protecting children from an abusive alienating parent. Most cases the child stays with the abusive parent.
We are thousands of parents suffering this crime against our children.
I sympathize with everyone here posting their histories.
Despite all the pain and grief that this process can cause to each member of the family of the alienated parent I encourage you dads and mums to Keep up the good fight for the sake of our children, it is not about us any more, it is about them‼️ 💪
Yes when the mother wont let the father see the child for no reason at all. children used as weapons. Disgusting behaviour. Poor kids.
In many cases its the DWP child maintenances services (formally the CSA which was shut down for false accounting) encouraging parental alienation.....the system is open to abuse based on more money for less/no contact with the kids .
@@sham69332 its as if they want kids to fail.
Any parent who uses their child as a weapon against their ex is a disgusting example of a parent and doesn't deserve that child. It's horrible, I hate my ex for what he did to me but that has nothing to do with our child and I won't have anyone bad mouth my sons dad in front of him. My son has every right and his father has every right to see each other and unless he was a real threat to our child I would never step on their relationship.
It's refreshing to see this.
Ex tried this, thankfully i stopped it without going to courts and thankfully my strong bond with my kids won the day
Well done, unfortunately I’m going to court. But the evidence is stacked up against her. Consistent breaking of a 50/50 court order and allowing me access a month/fortnight. Hopefully the high court hearing in May will put a stop to her nonsense.
@@fhabib8243 you're smart if you went outside the family courts. They are corrupt beyond belief.
@fhabib8243 How did it go mate? I hope you had a good result buddy 👍
Well done Jan! so true and one of the worst forms of child abuse 🤬
BRAVO!!! Kudos to everyone involved!🙌 Thousands of children will now hopefully be saved from abuse and parents will hopefully be recognised as victims of domestic abuse!🤞
It happens to parents and grandparents and this is abuse and children suffer...
I've been the Alienated parent for 6 years. It's like banging my head against a brick wall whenever I try to get any sort of authority to listen to me. He's 13 now but was 7 when this started. It's absolutely heartbreaking.
I have given up hope with the family courts. Not seen my eldest in over 3 years and younger two in over a year. Family courts and cafcass DO NOT understand parental alienation. I have considered suicide and have lost everything. Next week I move into a caravan to live as am a broken man.
Sorry to hear this please keep your head up 🙏🏼
No Bob, all children become adults. Work hard, save and make something of your life and once your children are adult you can explain. Difficult but doable.
Can you get legal aid?
Can you get books on the legal precedence?
Can you gather any evidence of being prohibited from seeing you child (via messages/emails)?
Can you go via the civil/criminal courts or tribunal for the other parent violating a court order?
@@fingerscrossed2453 the police do not take parental alienation serious it's not a criminal offence otherwise trust the country would change overnight and family court was be redundant in terms of child arrangements. Also there is no legal aid for civil family matters only if you can prove you're a domestic violence victim.
Give a thumbs up if you've had a partner attempt to do this to you and your child...
i was alienated from my children they were stolen from me for over 4 years by their narcissist dad during the course of my custody matter, a family friend introduced me to an ict service page @hacker_slick01 on instagram and their service was so helpful in court. they helped me as a private investigator on ps ( child protection services) and i was able to get proofs and evidence to show up in court. this dude also help on all divorce, custody cases, narcissist issues, criminal records, loan clearance, tracking and locating of missing persons and properties. perhaps, you are in a similar situation or going through abuse and you need help or you just crave that extra teeny bit of closure, you can get in touch with them @hacker_slick01
My story 🙏🏽💜🙏🏽💜
Going back to court about a week from now for the 6th time to reinstate contact with my son nothing is ever done to the perpetrators in a court of law I have little faith in the system as they words mean nothing to the people that use kids as weapons very sad
Family courts are corrupt. Look at "fringe" solicitors who aren't devoted to family law. If court orders/injunctions have been missed, then this violation should be counted.
Family courts brush this off, but it is contempt of court.
Sadly, we now have a society riddled with serious social/personal/familial
issues all of which are surrounded by problems of unemployment, housing,
crime, local infrastructure issues, the list goes on. On top of this is laid a very
thin coverall of administrations attempting to support laws, regulations,
support services etc etc, for all these issues. The reality pretty much being,
all of them under funded & staffed! And, for an ever growing diverse
population! Its not hard to see why most of it simply doesn´t work, its
overload in the extreme! There simply isn´t enough govt money or will
to solve it. And, the rich get richer and the poor....etc.
Yes. I was very close with my children. I tried so hard to keep that relationship after I had left, and the relationship broke down more and more and I knew what she was doing. I was systematically cut out. My children were 8 and 10. They're now 25 and 23. They have nothing whatsoever to do with me now. And its apparently all my doing. It is soooooo hard, you cant actually fully recover from it, you get to a point where you have to just let go and get on with life .. but it never goes away
Its outrageous that some parents are just evil & using the child as a tool against the other parent, & grand parents, any partner that does this should be sent to jail. for child abuse. Sadly its a money making manipulation of the system & solicitors 6k you'll waste going though the courts.
I’m 3k down and solicitor wants another 1.5k and probably another soon after plus Barrister of £2000… I’m working every hour just to keep up with their fees. But sufferinng. The end is not too far. Hope i make it.
@@fhabib8243 try a non family court lawyer. Ones in the system are on the side of the social workers and corrupt cafcass.
A million dollar question, eggsellently answered! Great campaign,
This is the worst form of abuse. What resources are there in the states to help with this?
dont just talk about it .
pass the law and name and shame every MP or organisation/ rights group/activists who opposes making it a criminal offence.
sack every judge, lawyer and social worker who enables this( put their name on the public record for the court case)
prosecute the acrimonious parent that does it ( and thats mean NO lenient sentencing crap that you give to mothers either)
You have ZERO chance of them holding women accountable
I haven’t seen my son in 10 years even tho I won in court
Not uncommon.
Keep the court papers, make a copy and give them to your son when he comes looking for you (and he will).
Grandparents are stopped from seeing their grandchildren. They have no laws to help them. Maybe a 'Grandparents Act' is the way forward.
Jan James, a wonderful human being. Should really be recognised on the birthdays houours list. But as this issue is a social taboo, it will sadly not happen. But this whole issue must be highlighted and fixed. signed alienated father
🙏🏽✨💜
Any parent who does this does not deserve to be a parent. My husbands ex continued her abuse of him in this way after he fled the property from her physical abuse.
On another note this also makes it more difficult for the ones who are genuinely protecting their children as they just get tarred with the same brush.
On another note this also makes it more difficult for the ones who are genuinely protecting their children as they just get tarred with the same brush.
errm no. there have already been attempts to play that card. if one parent is going to attempt to make an allegation, then they should either produce evidence set to a criminal standard or accept that their kids have to go into care until the matter is resolved. courts have back logs because of the false allegation tactic used by one particular party and enabled by their solicitors and various "rights" groups who received large amount of taxpayers funding...
Im sorry to hear that your husbands ex did this to him( i understand from personal ongoing experience), but there needs to be major reform of the whole system to stop this and its starts with legal consequences( of equal weight to both genders) and their solcitors( and some of the judges/magistrates)
@@TheRahsoft I turely feel for you because what my husband and our family went through with his ex was absolutely awful.
I think you misunderstood what I was saying. I mean the parents who have had to prove their ex is a danger in both criminal and family court and have had all of the evidence. They are still seen in the same light as those who abuse the system which I do not think is fair.
There needs to be real punishment for those who are not genuine and willfully alienate the other parent for their own selfish gain.
This breaks my heart as a victim of this.
I've found this so consuming on my own wellbeing.. having been an alienated child myself too .. that I'm needing to step away from my career and yet again give up the life I've made. I'm almost 60. I have had lots of success in life, yet nothing yo show for it .. because of the inner turmoil daily, the bad advice from my alienator mum, and my unwise choices of friends and partners. Do, I'm doing the only thing I can possibly devote my life to .. raising awareness of this abuse ..
My partner did this years ago and he kept it going until my children were teenagers he threatened me over going for custody of my children he also planned every birthday Christmas school play and outing and never informed me only time he made contact was when he wanted money for school uniforms Christmas presents school outings birthdays I always gave money as I wanted to give my kids the best he lied to family friends and even my kids telling them I never offered him a penny and he did it all in hindsight I should have accounted for everything spent when I asked him to sign for money he became defensive asking why he has lied lied and lied but truth has come out with other people who were friends who he tried to hoodwink with lies making him look a victim and still to this day he cannot be civil even at events birthdays he still continues his behaviour
This needs talking about more.
Parental alienation is real and is suppresses by cafcass for the benefit of maintaining a biased system, determined to break down families.
I suffered PA and have had half siblings follow suit.
This damages individuals. It utterly breeds hate.
Psychotronic Harassement is about Physics too
Boom ,soon as divorce is finalized..contact will be endlessly problematic , and usually the father will have to jump through hoops for his contact, but basically what will happen is ,one family will be totally cut off instantly as result and the bond will be totally broken .awful topic
In 2 years i have seeing my son for less than 48 hrs. Thus there a court order my husband denies me access to my son . My husband is killing our son . Help me !!
I have indirect contact took place in school i get reports every monthly i sent gifts some reports he happy some report and Last month my son don't want any gifts and Don't want to see me in he life I think mum is parental alienation I have not see my son since 2018
Are there really around 90% of the orders enforced. I think its less that 10% of the orders that are enforced.
Heavy stuff, but very important
I have a question.
You know when you hear a girl has been sexually abused by a father/brother/uncle/grandfather and that girl grows up not having an attraction to men or having an aversion to men? Is the same aversion possible if a girl has been alienated against her father? What if the girl also goes to a same sex school so no boys to distract her?
👏👌
There is just no rational reason for parental alienation to be allowed to be continued. It's one of the worst types of abuse in our society, and criminal that the majority of perpetrators get away with it. I've been going through it to some degree since my daughter's birth (she's 11 now) and have endured three different periods of complete alienation (no contact), with the longest being six months. My daughter and I now attend systemic family therapy to help mend what was a very broken relationship. Her mum would only agree to it because the solicitor had her back up against the wall. Sadly, that's what it had to come to, and we are trying to resist yet another court hearing. We are coming up to 12 months of uninterrupted contact now and my daughter spent Christmas with me this year. However, there is not a day that passes in which I don't feel like our relationship is hanging from a thread. I can constantly feel the wolf knocking at the door, threatening to blow everything down again.
it turned out daddy was loving men for years mummy was devasted understandably thats life lets go hardon
Yeah it's called a woman
@Neria Wolf
Rarely does a man have enough clout in court for that to happen
@Neria Wolf most cases are women ,not all but most .
Alienation IS NOT gender specific - I have lived this for 17 years...long before it had a name that I understood!
@Neria Wolf not in numbers. Women perpetrate a lot more than men - by a country mile.
Men have little to no rights in the family court.
*I'm a child victim of this.
@@DebiRichens it's uncommon for a mother to go through this. Look at the stats
There is a better way. Parental custody of children is actually a very simple matter to solve given the true desire of “What is best for the child”.
We need to separate and discard marriage from family law as they no longer seem to be connected and "Marriage makes people treat each other as articles of property and no longer as free human beings. Einstein".
We can develop protocols that confer (over time) equal parental rights and responsibilities,…..once parentage is proven.
Children’s natural maturation process has 3 essential stages of need.
A.The unconditional love of the mother from birth until about 7 years of age. The mother to have “thefinalsay” and to receive child allowance.
B.The conditional love of the father, who takes his children out into the world, gives security and teaches social boundaries from 7 until about 13 years of age. The father to have “thefinalsay” and to receive child allowance.
C.The friendship and respect of peers from 13 until 18 years of age. The child to have “thefinalsay”.
If these 3 stages are not gone through in order, maturation is unlikely to be satisfactorily achieved and mental resilience reduced. This has now become generational.
Such a regime of equal parenting rights (over time) would bind parents into a co-operative relationship, because (over time) each will hold the power of “thefinalsay” sequentially when they are best favoured to use it.
Such family protocols would be the default position, (allowing love, courtesy and humour to prevail) but could in exceptional cases be varied by the court.
Buckminster Fuller said:-
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete”.
To alleviate suffering is worthy. To prevent it is divine, but thankless.