Sis you are not wrong for feeling the way that you do. You’ve dwelled in the guilt for too long…forgive your dad and yourself and let go. Look towards the future and focus towards building your little family. You’ll be okay. Thank you for sharing your story and good luck to you and your hubby.
A lot of bs people here telling her to forgive her father when the people here are not in her shoes....her father was a perv....i bet they would not forgive their father too...stop the bs by telling her to forgive....
Forgiveness is really about making peace and moving on. It doesn't mean that you forget about the facts. It just means you have come to an understanding, and it doesn't haunt your mind & soul. It takes practice. I hope you find peace in all of this, and good luck to you!❤🙏
What most people don't understand is that forgiveness has NOTHING to do with letting the perp off the hook (that's between them and their Maker) but EVERYTHING to do with the victim (or others affected by the incident) letting the burden of hate go in order to move on with life without anger and hate poisoning their spirit. You held onto that hate and disgust for your father for so long that it took your father literally being on death's doorstep for you to say anything kind to your father, hence, your deep sense of guilt and sorrow for not forgiving him sooner. You NEED to now forgive yourself----first you hated your father, now you hate yourself; you need to let go of this burden and just live your life knowing that you did make up with your father, even if it was only for a very brief moment. If there is truly nothing wrong, physically, with you and your husband's ability to procreate, then this is the thing preventing you from getting pregnant----your own body is doing this to you because your mind is so full of guilt and anger still. Let it go...your friend (actual victim) was able to let it go in order to unburden her soul so now it's time you let it go too!
Do not feel guilty for yourself that was your dad faults, you do the right things. If your dad did that stupid thing for somebody it wasn’t your friend your dad had been in jail more 20 yrs for sure
You’ve said it yourself that you grew up in a Christian family church. Your best bet to make peace with yourself. You need to forgive your father. I understand what he did was wrong but you need to forgive him just like Christ has forgiven you. We all are born to sinners. And now you need to forgive yourself or you will never have peace in your life.
You need to stick with one religion only, you can’t be lube warm. If you grew up as a Christian you should know all that already. Just remember the song I have decided to follow Jesus, no turning back. You asked for advice so, this is my advice to you. Good luck on your journey, we all have our own giant to defeat.
Mentxhais muaj menyuam thiab tsis muaj los txhob ntshaw2 thiab os mog .kuv thaum ub kuv tsis muaj nim nrhiav2 tshuaj muaj tej niag pab Tam sim no es tsis muaj leej twg xa yuav yus mas Haj yam tu siab os mog
Thank you for sharing your story. What your father did was wrong. You had the right to be mad at him. I would be too. Your father loved you regardless of what he did. Forgive yourself, heal, and move on. I know it’s easier said than done. Good luck to you and your husband on the baby.
If your dad has that kind of evil heart, he could do it to you, your siblings, your neices, your own kids. If i were u, i would stay away from him and keep my kids away from him too.
You did the right thing and should not feel guilty. Every father should know better not to have feelings like that towards their daughters and her friends. Just be thankful for that your friend didn't put him in jail and someone else did that for him to learn his lesson. Praying for you and your husband to have kids and live happiness with any guilty.
Cov niag txiv laus khaus mas ntxim ntxub kawg nkaus li hmoob aw!!! YOG KOJ YUAV THOV VAJTSWV NO CES LEES KOJ TEJ KEV TXHAUM TAG MAM ROV LOS THOV PEB LEEJ TXIV TUS KWS MUAJ KOOB HMOOV THIAJ LI YUAV MUAJ LOS RAU KOJ MOG!❤
You are not wrong to be angry at your dad. He did something unimaginable and broke your heart. It is good that you forgave him before he passed. So move on and live your best life. Infertility is so common, so don't blame yourself. It may have nothing to do with your dad.
That's a stopid comment. Just because her dad didn't touch her, she shouldn't cut her dad off? So she should only be mad at him and cut him off if he did it to her? What kind of messed up mentality is this? Wrong is wrong, no matter who it is. That's the typical hmong mentality where families will still support their pedophile/rapist sons/husbands/brothers bc he didn't do it to them or their kids. I'm glad the girl in the story has brain, knows what's right and wrong, and is upset and against her dad.
To the daughter of this story, don't feel guilty for not forgiving your dad. Your dad just don't want to admit that you were right. Your dad is lucky your best friend didn't put him in jail. People like your dad can either be very protective of their own or opposite, but i'm sure deep down, he does love you. You not conceiving may not have anything to do with what happened between you and your dad. You may asked for children from your dad up above, but if you ever visit his grave, ask him there. May have to take birth control to have regular period and or ask for herbal meds. Good luck to you and your husband.
Sometimes, our biggest mistake is letting a few negative things in our lives erase all the many wonderful, loving memories that we've created togerher. Your father, while saying his last good bye, probably triggered all those great memories, and in the mist of these many memory drops, realizes that you played an integral part in all these great memories. But know that your father was never mad at you. He didn't know how to apologize to you in a way that you can accept and forgive him. He even tried to give his most prize asset to you, his hunting land, as a token of his appreciation for being such a wonderful daughter. I believe that your father loved and appreciated everything that you stand for. Given that, I hope you find peace in your life sister. And I pray that God, or whoever it is up there, bless you and your husband with a beautiful child or 10. Lol
Txawj yog kj txiv neb muaj teeb meem lo zam txim rau kj txiv yog g muaj kj txiv g muaj kj kj tu phooj ywg g muaj qi npaum kj txiv kj txiv yog tu txaug tab si kj g ua zoo hai kj saib kj tu phooj ywg Kim txhaj kj txiv muaj kj txiv kj tiaj loj lhob
Thank you for sharing your story. Your father is wrong to molested your friend then disowned you because of his actions. Your father’s actions hurts you in more ways than 1. He embarrassed and hurt both you and your best friend. Your father’s indecent actions caused your friendship with your best friend. Although, you’re your father’s daughter, you do have the right to your own feelings and view of his betrayal. No one can ever understand the pain until they walk in your shoes. You need to forgive him for yourself so you can heal.
I do believed that your dad's action was intentional. Once, yeah, maybe mistaken, but twice, is pure evil heart was meant to grabbed, to eat, to hurt, but you guys were there to saved. I do believed that your dad does fear foe life especially after the 2nd attempt. But nothing strongly happened, so that's why he did the 3rd time with your Nyab !!! Super red flag right there !!!! But still nothing strong enough to put him away for good. Now that he's living with guilt and shamed, but his time has come and you're the only person that knows the truth about him, so he just wanna be clean before he face God. If punishment from people on Earth is not severe enough than in heaven he might have a chance to reduce his sentence and be borned clean again... Supposed his crimes on Earth is hatred , hatnouse and heavy, he will not have a chance in heaven, especially when he himself is a Christian man.
your father is disgusted himself. he intentionally tried to molest your friend. he ruined her and the family entire trip.you did the right thing to disregard your father because what he did was unacceptable to your friend and you. he has a sick mind about women. i wouldn’t forgive him in this life, especially what he intended to do for your best friend.
Don't be so hard on urself, ur dad didn't admit his wrong and didn't ask forgiveness from u as well when he was alive. He did wrong to u, ur friend, ur mom n ur family. U having no children yet has nothing to do with him.
What your dad did to your friend was wrong but we’re all humans and make mistakes and have flaws. You just need to think of all the good and wonderful things he’s done for you and put the negative aside… you hated him for tooo long… at the end of the day, he was always supportive and loving when you were younger…. Yes it’s too late for you… you should feel guilty for hating your dad for this long…
Me ntxhais koj txiv yeej ua txaum lawm tab sis koj txiv thiaj yog tus yug koj hos koj tus phooj ywg tsis yog tus yug koj es cia nws mam mus ris nws lub txim thaum nws mus txog Vaj tswv. Koj ua tsis yog lawm mog. Tus yuav chim mas yuav tsum yog koj niam tus yuav ua teeb meem rau koj txiv yuav tsum cia rau koj niam mog.
every action, there's a consequence. we live and learn and live with the consequence. to forgive, one has to admitted their wrong doing and beg for forgiveness. if you cave in, he's going to repeat it and doing to others. So sometime to save or to stop the abuser, this is what has to be done to show your father that that's not ok. He could end up and die in jail. you save him from child molester rapist so don't feel bad. we always feel pity for our love one but sometime do the right thing is not always easy. good luck have a happy life and don't feel bad. you already forgive your father in your heart so that's what it count.
Forgiveness comes from the heart. You didn’t do anything wrong. Your dad was in the wrong && he didn’t even see it. Still step out on your mother too. He was going to die & just needed your forgiveness so he can die peacefully. Everything already happen so don’t punish yourself. && you having kids is up to your fate. Give it some time. When your time comes you’ll know it. Kids don’t come when you’re ready, they come when you least expect it.
Mi ntxhais maiv dawb aws tej zaum yuav tsis tim yog koj ab tsi os mog tej mi nyuam ko muaj tsis muaj los kav liam mog muaj tsuas yog lam ntshaw xwb muaj mi nyuam los yog kev nyuaj siab tu siab xwb tsis muaj los ua vaj tswv tsaug xwb os mog vim kuv muaj mi nyuam coob kuv paub tias muaj tsis muaj los tsis ntxiv ab tsi os mog
Doing the right thing is not wrong. However, you dont have to forget what your dad did, but you can forgive him. I'm sure he feels bad enough to willing to share his fortune to you. Let God deal with him.
Ok. Why are you forcing Jennifer to keep being your best friend , she's uncomfortable around y'all, I think keep in touch here and there but still being in her life is too much, nws tu siab txaus lawm
You are not wrong! I'd feel sad too if my dad was a pervert!!! However, you should forgive your Father as we are humans & make mistakes!!! Babies are a blessing from the Lord...I Wouldn't betray my Faith! You need to repent of your sins too & ask God to forgive you...if you are still a Christ believer.
When the time is right for you to bear children, it will come. You’re a righteous person, God will grant you children, sister. If I were you, I would do the same if he was still alive. Since he has died, forgive him and let him go because God will punish him.
Koj thiaj yog 1 tug ntxhais ntshe heev g yog li ces nws tseem mus thab dua lwm tus deferent dua Jennifer ces nws mag nkuaj .txhob muab lub txim 6 koj ev hnyav os you protect your own rights xwb g yog tim koj cursed es thiaj g muaj baby os
You can forgive him because he is your father, but you cannot deny the fact that your dad is those type of men. I do not believe it that's why you have no kids. I believe its because you are too stressed out. Your mom forgave him because she is his wife. She didn't want to lose everything she had built with him. That doesn't excuse him for being a nasty old man. Do not feel bad. You felt disgusted by your dad which you should.
Tus sister aws li cas los yog yus txiv os mog ....es kuv paub ua neeb thiab kuv txoj kev xa ces koj mus thov koj txiv ib los ua ib qhov mov muab nyiaj rau nws thov xwb ces tau lawm os...
Sis, your dad has already forgiven you. But you just need to forgive yourself. The guilt you’re living with is because our culture our parents never practice apologizing to us. You just need time let go of that thorn in your heart. 😊
Koj twb paub ntawv paub lus ne Mus doctor es kom lawv kuaj seb neb 2 leeg puas ok. Yog neb 2 leeg ok ces kom doctored IVF los sis muab tshuaj rau neb noj xwb yeej muaj lawm os. Mus doctor es yog everything ntawm neb tus kheej tsis muaj teeb meem ces yog neb tsis tau ua kom kawg xwb. Yog neb ua kawg kawg ces yeej tau xwb os. Mus ntsib cov doctor specialist . Cov infertility doctors na. Kim tsawv ov tab sis yog neb ua hauj lwm ces insurance yeej cover thiab nyob ntawm neb qhov plans neb yuav. Yog koj twb paub tias koj yuav mus infertility doctors lawm ces neb yuav qhov uas yog PPO es lawv thiaj cover ntau zog . Try li ntawm seb puas tau tsis tau no ces. Kom doctor kuaj zoo zoo yog koj tus txiv ok hos yog tim koj no ces thov koj cov Viv ncaus cov nyab seb puas muaj leej twg pab hai koj tus me nyuam rau neb xwb tsis li ntawm ces mus ntiav lawm haiv neeg los pab qiv nws lub plab . Cov no zoo li lawv kuj yuav kim kawg li thiab os. Yuav tsum yog yus muaj nyiaj.
Me ntxhais ua tsaug r koj zaj neej neeg, peb yog ib leej niam leej txiv tsim nyog peb yuav tau ua ib tug qauv zoo r tej me nyuam, xeeb leej xeeb ntxwv kawm, thiab xyaum thiaj yog. Koj tsis tau ua txhaum mog txhob r txim r koj. Koj txiv los kuav muag yog koj txiv los thov txim r koj xwb mog, thaum ua neej nyob koj txiv twb tsis muaj ntsej muag los FIM koj lawm. Thaum koj txiv yuav mus nrog vaj tswv nyob , vaj tswv kom koj txiv los thov txim r koj tsov. koj ua siab loj 2 mog. Hais txog ntawm koj qhov tsis muaj me nyuam, nej twg txawj ntawv, kuaj seb yog tim koj los yog koj tus txim, txawm yog tim leej twg los ua zoo sib tham, mam nriav tub kiv xwb mog ntxij nkawm txoj kev hlub zoo tsaj txhua yam nyob hauv ntiaj teb no mog. ❤❤
Koj yeej tsis txhaum os li me ntxhais aw, koj mus muab hmoob tus paj ib qaib los tsaws qaib rau koj noj saib puas work rau koj os nawb, kuv twb muab rau kuv tus muaj me nyuam lawm thiab os mog.
Me ntxhais koj tsi txhob tu tu siab heev yuav ua rau koj puas siab puas ntsws mog tej zaj zoo lis koj txiv tau ua kos ce yeej yog txhaum kevcai tsi yog txhaum tibneeg xwb yeej Txhaum VAJTSWV kevcai loj heev thiab tiamsis yog nws twb leeg txim lawm ce yuav tau zamtxim mog vim VAJTSWV twb zamtxim rau peb tibneeg lawm ne qhov koj zamtxim ntawm yog zamtxim rau koj lub neej ntawm FUTURE kom koj lub neej zoo rau koj zoo rau koj tej me nyuam xeebleej xeebntxwv xwb tiag me ntxhais es koj twb thov txim ua ntej koj txiv ncaim koj mus lawm tejzaum koj tsi tau muaj menyuam xwb os yog txog kawg tsi muaj los kavtsij mus kom DR tso me nyuam rau neb xwb maj kuv twb muaj ib ts tub ib ntxhai tsi muaj menyuam nkawm twb mus tso tau lawm thiab os me ntxhai es kuv tau ib cov xeebntxwv txim ntxim hlub kawg lis lawm mentxhai es tsi muaj ce tsi txhob tos ntev tsam yus laus lawm nawb.
You are wrong for never talking things out with your dad. You chose to resent him instead of forgiving him and your ego/pride stopped you from doing so to the point you didn’t go see him on his death bed! Children are a blessing from God, not your dad or other man made gods🤦♂️ being luke warm going from religion to religion asking for blessings for a child is useless.
What your dad did was evil however forgive and you will be forgiven. Christ is the end of the law. Head up people don't you know that in heaven there's no husband or wife.
How can you be so cruel towards ur dad! I know that what he did was just so wrong. But you need to understand a parents feelings too. Should just forgive him and move on while he still alive. It's a bit to late to feel sorry now. I used to have a very similar personality like you, but when I give birth to my first child. I totally understand a parents feeling and loves. I forgive my parents how they treated me when I was young. Now my parents shows more love towards me and we get along very well. I love my parents and will always love them. I changed for them and they changed for me! That's how family should be. But good luck for you, may God bless you and your husband to have a baby! Amen!
Koj mas yog ib tug ntxhais siab phem tshaj. Kuv paub koj txiv liam es nws ua phem rau koj tus phooj ywg, and u have every right to be mad n say to him but u can’t hate on your dad like. You’re evil! No matter what he’s your dad!!!! Koj yuav regret forever. Sorry
Wow, i can't believe u said that. U must support pedophiles. If that's your dad and your friend, r u gonna be ok knowing that u have a father like him?
Kj yeej muaj txaug rau kj txiv kj caim kj txiv tim kj saib kj tu phooj ywg loj txhaj kj txiv g muaj kj txiv lawm kj mam xav txog lig kj saib kj ki txhaj kj tu phooj ywg npam lj thiaj g muaj me nyuam yog muaj yuav cem kj ib yam li kj cem kj txiv
Oh goodness, such a good story to learn from, and such good comments, Bravo! Most good have been said already -- Forgiveness is the key, :) Let's look at Cultural Turbulence. One culture is hard enough, then add two or three or more as we have here in the US. And of course, multiplication gets really extreme and complex really fast. Take complexity and intermix with a lack of education and growth in humanity, and we have extrema all over the place. Things that are at extreme limits, hard to define, and hard to get out of. Better to do is to be modest, understand that more is at hand, and give time for reasoning. A good path can be found even amidst a dangerous storm, there are places and ideas that can help guide to safety and out of harm. Time is really the only combatant to complexity until intelligence find the better route.
No one is obligated to forgive anyone, who is guilt. Everyone needs their own time to heal. Forgive what you can but that will look different for everyone. Just dont do anything you will regret. Honestly If dad would own up to some of his consequences and wrong doing with out retaliation she wouldn’t be as upset for so long.
Don’t worry my daughter-in and my son they married 14 year don’t have baby we pray and pray unite god answer so this year god anwer they have baby so the baby is boy October baby born if u have faith them u got
I don’t blame you. I would be so mad and embarrassed if my dad is acting like a Txiv dev.
Sis you are not wrong for feeling the way that you do. You’ve dwelled in the guilt for too long…forgive your dad and yourself and let go. Look towards the future and focus towards building your little family. You’ll be okay. Thank you for sharing your story and good luck to you and your hubby.
A lot of bs people here telling her to forgive her father when the people here are not in her shoes....her father was a perv....i bet they would not forgive their father too...stop the bs by telling her to forgive....
You wrong
Forgiveness is really about making peace and moving on. It doesn't mean that you forget about the facts. It just means you have come to an understanding, and it doesn't haunt your mind & soul. It takes practice. I hope you find peace in all of this, and good luck to you!❤🙏
That was beautifully said about forgiveness!
What most people don't understand is that forgiveness has NOTHING to do with letting the perp off the hook (that's between them and their Maker) but EVERYTHING to do with the victim (or others affected by the incident) letting the burden of hate go in order to move on with life without anger and hate poisoning their spirit. You held onto that hate and disgust for your father for so long that it took your father literally being on death's doorstep for you to say anything kind to your father, hence, your deep sense of guilt and sorrow for not forgiving him sooner. You NEED to now forgive yourself----first you hated your father, now you hate yourself; you need to let go of this burden and just live your life knowing that you did make up with your father, even if it was only for a very brief moment. If there is truly nothing wrong, physically, with you and your husband's ability to procreate, then this is the thing preventing you from getting pregnant----your own body is doing this to you because your mind is so full of guilt and anger still. Let it go...your friend (actual victim) was able to let it go in order to unburden her soul so now it's time you let it go too!
Do not feel guilty for yourself that was your dad faults, you do the right things. If your dad did that stupid thing for somebody it wasn’t your friend your dad had been in jail more 20 yrs for sure
You’ve said it yourself that you grew up in a Christian family church. Your best bet to make peace with yourself. You need to forgive your father. I understand what he did was wrong but you need to forgive him just like Christ has forgiven you. We all are born to sinners. And now you need to forgive yourself or you will never have peace in your life.
You need to stick with one religion only, you can’t be lube warm. If you grew up as a Christian you should know all that already. Just remember the song I have decided to follow Jesus, no turning back.
You asked for advice so, this is my advice to you.
Good luck on your journey, we all have our own giant to defeat.
God is forgiving, even to the worse sinners. Performing shaman rituals to help the spirits for a good cause is forgivable.
We will pray for you to have children. Good story, thank you for sharing. Hais tau zoo kawg.
Is not too late for you you do the right thing don’t feel guilty. and sorry for yourself
Mentxhais muaj menyuam thiab tsis muaj los txhob ntshaw2 thiab os mog .kuv thaum ub kuv tsis muaj nim nrhiav2 tshuaj muaj tej niag pab Tam sim no es tsis muaj leej twg xa yuav yus mas Haj yam tu siab os mog
Txiv dev ces txawm yuav mus txog twg los tus cwj pwm ces yeej tsis hloov. Tib lub siab tib tus neeg ces yeej ua tib yam
Koj txiv txoj kev ua tug niag khib xuaj ntsuav rau koj tus phooj twg yeej yog 1 qho tsis tsim nyog thiab muaj ib co txiv neej ces nws pheej xav2 hluas thiab Xav tej yam zoo li rau lwm tus yam tsis Xav txog tia sad nws yog koj tus phooj twg ces tam li koj txiv tus ntxhais tiag tabsis li cas los nws yog koj txiv muab roj muab ntshav rau koj , nws yeej hlub koj tam nws tus minyuam tabsis txoj kev koj yuav muab nws txiav tsis ua koj txiv , koj yuav tau zam txim thiab txhob txiav nws. Koj yog minyuam lawm koj yuav tau zam txim vim nws yeej yog koj txiv os.
Thank you for sharing your story. What your father did was wrong. You had the right to be mad at him. I would be too. Your father loved you regardless of what he did. Forgive yourself, heal, and move on. I know it’s easier said than done. Good luck to you and your husband on the baby.
If your dad has that kind of evil heart, he could do it to you, your siblings, your neices, your own kids. If i were u, i would stay away from him and keep my kids away from him too.
She should definitely warn her females siblings/nieces to watch for her father too! I would not trust him with anyone unattended.
You did the right thing and should not feel guilty. Every father should know better not to have feelings like that towards their daughters and her friends. Just be thankful for that your friend didn't put him in jail and someone else did that for him to learn his lesson. Praying for you and your husband to have kids and live happiness with any guilty.
Zaj neej neeg no yog tim koj . Vim yus niam yus txiv thiab peb hmoob , peb muaj kev sib zam txim thiab niam thiab txiv yog tus muab txoj sia rau yus, luag yog lub ntuj daim av, luag cem2 yus, hais2 yus los luag Xav kom yus zoo xwb yus yuav tau zam txim . Yog yus cia li ntxub luag tsis zam txim rau luag ces yus yeej ua tsis yog lawm.
Tus mentxhais qhov koj tu siab rau koj txiv yeej yog, yeej tsim nyog tus siab, vim koj txiv tsi coj zoo li ib leej txiv tsim txhiaj! Tab sis yog hais txog qhov kev zam txim ces yog yeej zam txim tau rau koj txiv, thiab koj yuav tau zam txim rau koj txiv, qhov neb tsi muaj menyuam nws yuav yog tim tej no me me thiab tab sis qhov loj yog tim lwm yam lawm, yog neb tseem hluas ces thov ntuj pab thiab mus ntsib Dr thib mog, neb yeej yuav muaj menyuam xwb.
Cov niag txiv laus khaus mas ntxim ntxub kawg nkaus li hmoob aw!!! YOG KOJ YUAV THOV VAJTSWV NO CES LEES KOJ TEJ KEV TXHAUM TAG MAM ROV LOS THOV PEB LEEJ TXIV TUS KWS MUAJ KOOB HMOOV THIAJ LI YUAV MUAJ LOS RAU KOJ MOG!❤
You are not wrong to be angry at your dad. He did something unimaginable and broke your heart. It is good that you forgave him before he passed. So move on and live your best life. Infertility is so common, so don't blame yourself. It may have nothing to do with your dad.
Neb puas tau mus kuaj doctor seb tim leej twg mas los
Koj txiv twb tsis tau xuas koj tsim tsis nyog koj yuav txiav koj txiv , zoo phem los yus yog yus txiv teev ntshav
That's a stopid comment. Just because her dad didn't touch her, she shouldn't cut her dad off? So she should only be mad at him and cut him off if he did it to her? What kind of messed up mentality is this? Wrong is wrong, no matter who it is. That's the typical hmong mentality where families will still support their pedophile/rapist sons/husbands/brothers bc he didn't do it to them or their kids. I'm glad the girl in the story has brain, knows what's right and wrong, and is upset and against her dad.
Tsis Yog Tim koj os, Yog vim koj Txiv Yog Tus tsis paub xav thiaj Li ua yuam Kev tas los tseem UA dua.
To the daughter of this story, don't feel guilty for not forgiving your dad. Your dad just don't want to admit that you were right. Your dad is lucky your best friend didn't put him in jail. People like your dad can either be very protective of their own or opposite, but i'm sure deep down, he does love you. You not conceiving may not have anything to do with what happened between you and your dad. You may asked for children from your dad up above, but if you ever visit his grave, ask him there. May have to take birth control to have regular period and or ask for herbal meds. Good luck to you and your husband.
Sister I don’t blame you for not talked with your dad anymore because his actions towards your friend.
Sometimes, our biggest mistake is letting a few negative things in our lives erase all the many wonderful, loving memories that we've created togerher. Your father, while saying his last good bye, probably triggered all those great memories, and in the mist of these many memory drops, realizes that you played an integral part in all these great memories. But know that your father was never mad at you. He didn't know how to apologize to you in a way that you can accept and forgive him. He even tried to give his most prize asset to you, his hunting land, as a token of his appreciation for being such a wonderful daughter. I believe that your father loved and appreciated everything that you stand for. Given that, I hope you find peace in your life sister. And I pray that God, or whoever it is up there, bless you and your husband with a beautiful child or 10. Lol
Txawj yog kj txiv neb muaj teeb meem lo zam txim rau kj txiv yog g muaj kj txiv g muaj kj kj tu phooj ywg g muaj qi npaum kj txiv kj txiv yog tu txaug tab si kj g ua zoo hai kj saib kj tu phooj ywg Kim txhaj kj txiv muaj kj txiv kj tiaj loj lhob
Tim kj txiv lub siab g ncaj
Thank you for sharing your story. Your father is wrong to molested your friend then disowned you because of his actions. Your father’s actions hurts you in more ways than 1. He embarrassed and hurt both you and your best friend. Your father’s indecent actions caused your friendship with your best friend. Although, you’re your father’s daughter, you do have the right to your own feelings and view of his betrayal. No one can ever understand the pain until they walk in your shoes. You need to forgive him for yourself so you can heal.
Don't feel guilty. Your dad was wrong. He was waiting for you to forgive him, and you did.
I do believed that your dad's action was intentional. Once, yeah, maybe mistaken, but twice, is pure evil heart was meant to grabbed, to eat, to hurt, but you guys were there to saved. I do believed that your dad does fear foe life especially after the 2nd attempt. But nothing strongly happened, so that's why he did the 3rd time with your Nyab !!! Super red flag right there !!!! But still nothing strong enough to put him away for good. Now that he's living with guilt and shamed, but his time has come and you're the only person that knows the truth about him, so he just wanna be clean before he face God. If punishment from people on Earth is not severe enough than in heaven he might have a chance to reduce his sentence and be borned clean again...
Supposed his crimes on Earth is hatred , hatnouse and heavy, he will not have a chance in heaven, especially when he himself is a Christian man.
‼️ NPAM ‼️ That’s why you kidless.
The dad is a coward!! You don’t do stuff like that your daughter best friend. He lucky he not in jail.
Kuv zaj tam sim no tu siab tshaj zaj no os nyab Aw g paub yuav hais li cas rau koj yog kuv peb tug ntxai ua rau kuv
Let's hear ur story
Twb Tsis yog ua rau koj ne es cas koj hos Tsis zam txim mas mas
I thought you got married already? Why is that it was your boyfriend who answered the phone? A little confused.
It was probably an error by the storyteller.
I was going to say the same thing..confusing
Koj lub siab yog muab pob zeb puab. Koj txiv yeej liam ua tsis yog lawm tiam sis kom koj nco ntsoov tias tsis leej twg yuav hlub koj tshaj koj txiv lawm. Tab sis nyob li ntawm koj koj hlub koj tus phooj ywg tshaj koj txiv lawm. Koj thiaj tsis zam txim rau koj txog hnub koj txiv txoj sia yuav tu.
your father is disgusted himself. he intentionally tried to molest your friend. he ruined her and the family entire trip.you did the right thing to disregard your father because what he did was unacceptable to your friend and you. he has a sick mind about women. i wouldn’t forgive him in this life, especially what he intended to do for your best friend.
U should forgive your dad.. since he knows what he done wrong… he like sky nd earth to u
Don't be so hard on urself, ur dad didn't admit his wrong and didn't ask forgiveness from u as well when he was alive. He did wrong to u, ur friend, ur mom n ur family. U having no children yet has nothing to do with him.
Twb kawm ntawv siab siab es ua cas ho tsis mus kom DR. Ua neeb kho na
Koj hais txaus luag as 😂😂😂😂
What your dad did to your friend was wrong but we’re all humans and make mistakes and have flaws. You just need to think of all the good and wonderful things he’s done for you and put the negative aside… you hated him for tooo long… at the end of the day, he was always supportive and loving when you were younger….
Yes it’s too late for you… you should feel guilty for hating your dad for this long…
The sad part is that in life the apple don’t fall far from the tree.
Kuv paub qhov teeb meem ko lawm , saib koj puas xav paub ? no hu rau kuv , niam tais Jenny paub kuv xov tooj nawb .
Niag txiv dev zoo li koj txiv ces kawg tau hlob kav hlau xwb2 vim nws coj tsis zoo, nws siab phem.
Me ntxhais koj txiv yeej ua txaum lawm tab sis koj txiv thiaj yog tus yug koj hos koj tus phooj ywg tsis yog tus yug koj es cia nws mam mus ris nws lub txim thaum nws mus txog Vaj tswv. Koj ua tsis yog lawm mog. Tus yuav chim mas yuav tsum yog koj niam tus yuav ua teeb meem rau koj txiv yuav tsum cia rau koj niam mog.
Pem2 zoo2 los yog yis txiv lamw yeej chim tsi taus rau, kuv txiv tau tso peb tseg thaum kuv muaj ib xyoo xwb, niaj hnub no kuv tseem xav tia lam yog kuv txiv mu raug thuv raug txim xwb ntshe kuv yuav ntaus ntab ntaus tsev mus tso los, ca nim yog av luaj quas 😭😭😭😭
every action, there's a consequence. we live and learn and live with the consequence. to forgive, one has to admitted their wrong doing and beg for forgiveness. if you cave in, he's going to repeat it and doing to others. So sometime to save or to stop the abuser, this is what has to be done to show your father that that's not ok. He could end up and die in jail. you save him from child molester rapist so don't feel bad. we always feel pity for our love one but sometime do the right thing is not always easy. good luck have a happy life and don't feel bad. you already forgive your father in your heart so that's what it count.
Lub title no mas tsis yog lawm…. Yuav tsum muab tus npe tias::: XAV TXOG CES LIG LAWM…
Forgiveness comes from the heart. You didn’t do anything wrong. Your dad was in the wrong && he didn’t even see it. Still step out on your mother too. He was going to die & just needed your forgiveness so he can die peacefully. Everything already happen so don’t punish yourself. && you having kids is up to your fate. Give it some time. When your time comes you’ll know it. Kids don’t come when you’re ready, they come when you least expect it.
Mi ntxhais maiv dawb aws tej zaum yuav tsis tim yog koj ab tsi os mog tej mi nyuam ko muaj tsis muaj los kav liam mog muaj tsuas yog lam ntshaw xwb muaj mi nyuam los yog kev nyuaj siab tu siab xwb tsis muaj los ua vaj tswv tsaug xwb os mog vim kuv muaj mi nyuam coob kuv paub tias muaj tsis muaj los tsis ntxiv ab tsi os mog
Doing the right thing is not wrong. However, you dont have to forget what your dad did, but you can forgive him. I'm sure he feels bad enough to willing to share his fortune to you. Let God deal with him.
Tus me nyuam niam thiab txiv hlub tshaj yeej yog tus me nyuam hlob thiab tus last kiag kid kiag xwb
Ok. Why are you forcing Jennifer to keep being your best friend , she's uncomfortable around y'all, I think keep in touch here and there but still being in her life is too much, nws tu siab txaus lawm
You are not wrong! I'd feel sad too if my dad was a pervert!!! However, you should forgive your Father as we are humans & make mistakes!!! Babies are a blessing from the Lord...I Wouldn't betray my Faith! You need to repent of your sins too & ask God to forgive you...if you are still a Christ believer.
Koj yeej tsis muaj kev txhaum li os me ntxhais aw, cov niag txiv neej qias neeg li no ces yeej qia neeg os nawb tab sis kev zam txim yog ib qho zoo vim lawv twbua txhaum lawm lawv twb guilty rau lawv tus kheej kawg kawm
Nothing wrong for begging a child from your dad. You may find the truth.
When the time is right for you to bear children, it will come. You’re a righteous person, God will grant you children, sister.
If I were you, I would do the same if he was still alive. Since he has died, forgive him and let him go because God will punish him.
Koj thiaj yog 1 tug ntxhais ntshe heev g yog li ces nws tseem mus thab dua lwm tus deferent dua Jennifer ces nws mag nkuaj .txhob muab lub txim 6 koj ev hnyav os you protect your own rights xwb g yog tim koj cursed es thiaj g muaj baby os
You can forgive him because he is your father, but you cannot deny the fact that your dad is those type of men. I do not believe it that's why you have no kids. I believe its because you are too stressed out. Your mom forgave him because she is his wife. She didn't want to lose everything she had built with him. That doesn't excuse him for being a nasty old man. Do not feel bad. You felt disgusted by your dad which you should.
Tus sister aws li cas los yog yus txiv os mog ....es kuv paub ua neeb thiab kuv txoj kev xa ces koj mus thov koj txiv ib los ua ib qhov mov muab nyiaj rau nws thov xwb ces tau lawm os...
Both you and your dad are hard headed.
Arrested ur dad based on what grounds!? Texting? 😅😅😅😅
Sis, your dad has already forgiven you. But you just need to forgive yourself. The guilt you’re living with is because our culture our parents never practice apologizing to us. You just need time let go of that thorn in your heart. 😊
Koj tawm tsamkoj txiv ce koj yog tus phemkoj yuav tsum paub tias koj tawm qhov twg lo
Koj yeej ua yog lawm os me ntxhais vim koj txiv siab phem heev
Koj twb paub ntawv paub lus ne
Mus doctor es kom lawv kuaj seb neb 2 leeg puas ok. Yog neb 2 leeg ok ces kom doctored IVF los sis muab tshuaj rau neb noj xwb yeej muaj lawm os.
Mus doctor es yog everything ntawm neb tus kheej tsis muaj teeb meem ces yog neb tsis tau ua kom kawg xwb. Yog neb ua kawg kawg ces yeej tau xwb os.
Mus ntsib cov doctor specialist .
Cov infertility doctors na.
Kim tsawv ov tab sis yog neb ua hauj lwm ces insurance yeej cover thiab nyob ntawm neb qhov plans neb yuav.
Yog koj twb paub tias koj yuav mus infertility doctors lawm ces neb yuav qhov uas yog PPO es lawv thiaj cover ntau zog .
Try li ntawm seb puas tau tsis tau no ces.
Kom doctor kuaj zoo zoo yog koj tus txiv ok hos yog tim koj no ces thov koj cov Viv ncaus cov nyab seb puas muaj leej twg pab hai koj tus me nyuam rau neb xwb tsis li ntawm ces mus ntiav lawm haiv neeg los pab qiv nws lub plab .
Cov no zoo li lawv kuj yuav kim kawg li thiab os. Yuav tsum yog yus muaj nyiaj.
Me ntxhais ua tsaug r koj zaj neej neeg, peb yog ib leej niam leej txiv tsim nyog peb yuav tau ua ib tug qauv zoo r tej me nyuam, xeeb leej xeeb ntxwv kawm, thiab xyaum thiaj yog. Koj tsis tau ua txhaum mog txhob r txim r koj. Koj txiv los kuav muag yog koj txiv los thov txim r koj xwb mog, thaum ua neej nyob koj txiv twb tsis muaj ntsej muag los FIM koj lawm. Thaum koj txiv yuav mus nrog vaj tswv nyob , vaj tswv kom koj txiv los thov txim r koj tsov. koj ua siab loj 2 mog.
Hais txog ntawm koj qhov tsis muaj me nyuam, nej twg txawj ntawv, kuaj seb yog tim koj los yog koj tus txim, txawm yog tim leej twg los ua zoo sib tham, mam nriav tub kiv xwb mog ntxij nkawm txoj kev hlub zoo tsaj txhua yam nyob hauv ntiaj teb no mog. ❤❤
Koj yeej tsis txhaum thiab .
Your dad has nothing wrong to do with you why you have so much hatred toward your dad like that.
Koj yeej tsis txhaum os li me ntxhais aw, koj mus muab hmoob tus paj ib qaib los tsaws qaib rau koj noj saib puas work rau koj os nawb, kuv twb muab rau kuv tus muaj me nyuam lawm thiab os mog.
Me ntxhais koj tsi txhob tu tu siab heev yuav ua rau koj puas siab puas ntsws mog tej zaj zoo lis koj txiv tau ua kos ce yeej yog txhaum kevcai tsi yog txhaum tibneeg xwb yeej Txhaum VAJTSWV kevcai loj heev thiab tiamsis yog nws twb leeg txim lawm ce yuav tau zamtxim mog vim VAJTSWV twb zamtxim rau peb tibneeg lawm ne qhov koj zamtxim ntawm yog zamtxim rau koj lub neej ntawm FUTURE kom koj lub neej zoo rau koj zoo rau koj tej me nyuam xeebleej xeebntxwv xwb tiag me ntxhais es koj twb thov txim ua ntej koj txiv ncaim koj mus lawm tejzaum koj tsi tau muaj menyuam xwb os yog txog kawg tsi muaj los kavtsij mus kom DR tso me nyuam rau neb xwb maj kuv twb muaj ib ts tub ib ntxhai tsi muaj menyuam nkawm twb mus tso tau lawm thiab os me ntxhai es kuv tau ib cov xeebntxwv txim ntxim hlub kawg lis lawm mentxhai es tsi muaj ce tsi txhob tos ntev tsam yus laus lawm nawb.
You are wrong for never talking things out with your dad. You chose to resent him instead of forgiving him and your ego/pride stopped you from doing so to the point you didn’t go see him on his death bed!
Children are a blessing from God, not your dad or other man made gods🤦♂️ being luke warm going from religion to religion asking for blessings for a child is useless.
What your dad did was evil however forgive and you will be forgiven. Christ is the end of the law. Head up people don't you know that in heaven there's no husband or wife.
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Kj txiv coj g ncaj
You did the right thing !
kj yog ib tug me nyuam siab phem heev rau kj txiv kj tu phooj ywg twb yog tu raug nw twb zam txim rau kj lawm kj yog neeg siab phem rau tej lau
How can you be so cruel towards ur dad! I know that what he did was just so wrong. But you need to understand a parents feelings too. Should just forgive him and move on while he still alive.
It's a bit to late to feel sorry now.
I used to have a very similar personality like you, but when I give birth to my first child. I totally understand a parents feeling and loves. I forgive my parents how they treated me when I was young. Now my parents shows more love towards me and we get along very well.
I love my parents and will always love them.
I changed for them and they changed for me! That's how family should be. But good luck for you, may God bless you and your husband to have a baby! Amen!
First of all…. The popo not gonna arrest you for flirting with another person. 😂
Koj mas yog ib tug ntxhais siab phem tshaj. Kuv paub koj txiv liam es nws ua phem rau koj tus phooj ywg, and u have every right to be mad n say to him but u can’t hate on your dad like. You’re evil! No matter what he’s your dad!!!! Koj yuav regret forever. Sorry
Wow, i can't believe u said that. U must support pedophiles. If that's your dad and your friend, r u gonna be ok knowing that u have a father like him?
Kj yeej muaj txaug rau kj txiv kj caim kj txiv tim kj saib kj tu phooj ywg loj txhaj kj txiv g muaj kj txiv lawm kj mam xav txog lig kj saib kj ki txhaj kj tu phooj ywg npam lj thiaj g muaj me nyuam yog muaj yuav cem kj ib yam li kj cem kj txiv
Oh goodness, such a good story to learn from, and such good comments, Bravo! Most good have been said already -- Forgiveness is the key, :)
Let's look at Cultural Turbulence. One culture is hard enough, then add two or three or more as we have here in the US. And of course, multiplication gets really extreme and complex really fast. Take complexity and intermix with a lack of education and growth in humanity, and we have extrema all over the place. Things that are at extreme limits, hard to define, and hard to get out of. Better to do is to be modest, understand that more is at hand, and give time for reasoning. A good path can be found even amidst a dangerous storm, there are places and ideas that can help guide to safety and out of harm. Time is really the only combatant to complexity until intelligence find the better route.
No one is obligated to forgive anyone, who is guilt. Everyone needs their own time to heal. Forgive what you can but that will look different for everyone. Just dont do anything you will regret. Honestly If dad would own up to some of his consequences and wrong doing with out retaliation she wouldn’t be as upset for so long.
Don’t worry my daughter-in and my son they married 14 year don’t have baby we pray and pray unite god answer so this year god anwer they have baby so the baby is boy October baby born if u have faith them u got
Why didn’t u report ur dad to the police??? U are not a good friend!!! It’s not bc of ur dad that u can’t have babies. It’s just u.
Listening to the story I think your dad is not a bad dad. He's just and old fashioned guy, believed deeply in Hmong taboo...
Wow... Really? A child molester is never a good person. Traditional Hmong men, fathers, do not do what this father does.