The Scientific Reasons Why People Get Their Ex Back
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- Опубліковано 19 тра 2019
- In this video we share a study that explore the reasons found in a research study from 2 universities why people get back together.
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“If I had a magic wand I would make it (getting back with ex) happen yesterday”
Thank you sweet Margaret 💖💖💖
Stay strong Kings and Queens, we got this! We will step into the dark together and make it out alive and stronger. (This is really hard tho tbh)
Thank you for your nice words... it totally is...
It’s difficult to showcase your self improvement and get back together when you’re in NC and your ex isn’t reaching out.
All but one ex has contacted me again, one was 12 years apart, they all reached out for different reasons, so stay strong people
Can you say the time period? 2 months passed...i will not contact never for sure because it was his fault but as it seems he will not either?!
Sofi Andi one 16 years later one was 12 the others years apart, they gravitate back, I don’t know why but they do, try and stay positive, but even though you are hurt you can’t blame your ex, I know it’s hard but let’s say they contact you today or tomorrow and you say you hurt me they will leave again, hope this helps and I wish you well
@@justamannothingmore1999 so true!!!!!if he writes to me today will say exactly the same,most probably will end it up again, will tell him lots of things which will bring the end...:))) thanks for the reply, take care!
Who wants her Back If she had Sex with other Guys....only man without selflove
Wow 12yrs.
Happy to say that because of your videos I am now in a position where my ex is no longer my ex. We both agreed to start a new relationship. I was able to apply better techniques towards creating a positive environment for her to be in while around me, as well as being able to control the desperate voice in my head that wanted to beg & bargain our relationship back.
It was a 2 month break-up, and I believe that because I spent the time working on myself and applying your teachings, I was able to achieve these results in such a short time (although if I'm being honest it felt like an eternity).
I will continue to watch your videos and work on our relationship.
ahh congratulations!! 💘
How did you two got into contact again?
That's great to hear!
I'm currently over a month into the break up after 1.5 year relationship. Did you just watch the videos or was there any other resources you used to help you? I can't afford the coaching and workbooks right now so do you recommend anything else?
Update?
@@jessepushor9967 things didn't last long at all, and at the time it felt terrible, but I know that I did my best. I was in a place where I felt everything hinged on me, but the reality of it is that my feelings for her made me believe her when she blamed the relationship shortcomings on me, when really she was the one incapable of being in a stable relationship.
She came and left me several times over the course of a few months. Eventually I became so tired of the patterns that I could predict when she wanted to have a "talk" and say we weren't meant to be. By this time I felt absolutely no shock anymore over it.
Point being... as well as you do for yourself to improve yourself, your partner isn't always as perfect as your feelings tell you they are, and you'll never feel good enough for yourself if you let your ex set up what your standards should be.
Funny enough... She has since been in a relationship with a guy she was friends with before me, who was always bitter towards me, always wildly inappropriate when he's drunk. He's overweight, a long-time alcoholic, a chronic weed smoker, and has a reoccurring history of self-harm.
I'm not perfect, but I know my worth, and compared to him I'm a total catch. So again, I can't stress enough that you have to live by your own standards to be happy.
I've since dated good people and have obstained from entering an official relationship (for a time) to have more time for myself. currently taking my time working on a new relationship, but still sometimes I miss being single because of how much I learned to enjoy doing things for and by myself.
If you're going through what I felt ( I'll never forget how it was), I sincerely hope you come out better. I regret giving her the chance to pummel me, but I've learned a lot from it. I hope you can say the same for yourself when it's all said and done.
Cheers.
I literally have no tears left to cry. One week since he left. I found out he's seeing someone else 😢
Tired of crying. I literally feel exhausted from begging and pleading. Drank myself stupid last night on an empty stomach as I haven't been able to eat for days . My system immediately rejected the alcohol and I'm now extremely hung over . I am done chasing. Yes I have my flaws but I did not deserve this. I treated him like a king and his actions has completely shocked me including everyone we know.
I have now decided to keep the little bit of dignity I have left and work towards healing.
Thanks a million coach and I'm wishing you all Broken hearted souls the best ♥️
Don't get drunk it doesn't help. Take care of yourself. Life will go on.
Drinking only made me feel worse because that was the time i wanted to call her the most. I was not treated well by her, she broke every one of my boundaries. When she broke our engagement off, she blamed it on how i treated her when i was angry with her. Sure, fair point: but why was I so angry with her? Because she kept crossing my boundaries over and over. She refused to take any blame, and that one sided shit is not what i need in my life. I want someone to work with me as a team, not me being their puppy dog.
Update?
@@jessepushor9967 , He came back 4 months later but I no longer want him so I asked him to leave me alone
@David clark he came back but I'm no longer interested in him. He didn't deserve me then and certainly does not deserve me now. I'm now focusing on myself and my career.
My ex reached out after, anxiety created desire, like Coach Craig says. I did send him an email explaining the personal growth I have so enjoyed making!!! We are going slow and trying to make it work. Stay motivated like Craig suggest, and WORK ON PERSONAL GROWTH, it is worth it in the long run. It took 11 weeks for us to reconnect. I really would not seen what I need to change had we not broken up!!!!
Kim Smith that’s amazing. How are you now?
Update?
Who did the breaking up??
@@jessepushor9967 she probably dumped the guy as they went to their old ways. 11 weeks is so little time to "personal grow"
Took my ex gf 3 years to reach out again, by then I was not interested anymore.
@@aronchas ehhh its been 2-3 weeks for me since i got dumped and i researched and learned about myself literally everyday, during work hours and at home. and i already improved ALOT in the little time that passed and i know im not done but im not where i was before the breakup either
“If I had my magic wand I wouldn’t of made it happen yesterday” That was sweet it brought a smile to my face
I know 😭
Reconciliation happened on Valentines Day. Thank you so much for your helpful advice and comfort. I still continue to watch your videos as a reminder of how to continue to self improve :)
I needed to hear this because this weekend I was feeling super Downer Debbie, but it's great to hear this. Thanks for the positivity!
You guys ♥️ I've been having doubts and anxiety creeping in today, but this has helped reassure me that I'm doing the right things and given me more optimism. It's a struggle sometimes to ignore that anxiety gremlin telling you to reach out to your ex, but stuff like this reminds us why we're giving them space and working on ourselves 👌
Ian Brown stay strong my friend, it’s hard but we can do this
@@justamannothingmore1999 exactly! It's frustrating to keep having to fight the same battles against the separation anxiety, but everytime you do, everytime you soothe yourself without being selfish and bugging your ex when they don't want that, is another step on the path to being your best self 💪
Ian Brown I hear you, it’s the hardest battle I’ve fought in a long time, but we can do this, keep watching Craig’s videos, keep active in the comments, have hope and never give up
Updates?
Thank you Coaches Craig and Margaret. Your videos are filled with wisdom and optimism and always give me hope. 😍
I really love how humorous y'all are and informative.
This actually made me feel a lot better about my situation. I have improved a lot over multiple months. Even before the breakup I had started looking into my behaviour because I didn't feel like who I was meant to be. I'm currently giving her the space she has asked for and hoping for her to reach out soon ish.
Margaret and Coach Craig...I love you guys! Thank you for this video 💗
Best relationship/breakup channel on UA-cam. Science can be so comforting when you’re relying on just feelings. Love you guys.
So far, so good! Everything you two have said this far in all of your videos has worked!
Updates?
Oh, how I wish I could have another chance. I wouldn't think twice about it. And I would keep doing the work to make her as happy as I should have the first time. I miss you so much, H.
General Waste how long have you two been together and how long since the breakup?
Before even hearing about you craig I’ve worked on my personal growth and I’m now back in contact with my ex and the bond and the connection we have our still there so I’m continuing on myself to keep growing and I feel that your videos now will be very useful for the next stage of keeping him in my life.
Stay motivated everyone! Have u added me on Instagram? CoachCraigKenneth 💪
Your Instagram's memes put a big smile on my face all afternoon. I laughed so hard I grew abs muscles
Coach Craig you are amazing!! ✌😇
This is such valuable information "Gold" thank you Craig and Margaret
Thanks you two, this was needed today more then you know. ❤️
A fantastic video
It’s so Relevant too my situation
Now!
It really hit home when Margaret
Mentioned about only getting back with your Ex, if your lonely ,Anxious and Don’t think you can do better!
My LDR Ex is open to me again
She hasn’t said Directly
But indirectly 😄
Things have really turned around all this yr.
It’s been an Yr and a Half
For my Ex to take another look
And we are in a LDR
Work that out🤪
It’s crazy but she is open for me again 🤷🏼♂️😄
That 1.5 yrs was self Growth and the awakening to This fantastic channel 👍🏻🙏🏻
Excellent video and information. Thank you so much
Great job! Thank you Margaret for sharing that research with us.
I doubt if I will ever hear from my ex again. I am in NC with him for 2 months now. But I get comfort from hearing how you two speak about what the ex is going through. I thought he just walked out of my life with no care and moved on to another. Its good to hear your perspective on people like him. It comforts me knowing maybe he too had doubts and issues with the breakup.
Did you two end up getting back together?
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
Topic tip: What if they left believing that they are not enough for you? Meaning they are the problem that needs to be fixed. Can they get enough confidence to reach out, try to get back, work on themselves? Anyone can relate? I am in a month 4 and still working on myself to be ready for anything that comes my way.
Ty jsi z ceska? :D ja bych s tebou chtel chodit :D
You are enough for me!!
Lol
This is like a paradox to me. I have done the work and have matured over the past 8 months and want to show her but I’m in no contact. I must unlock this riddle lol
Did you get back together with her? ✌
That's the hard part, waiting...
Update?
Social media is the key(?)
update?
Should I talk about attachment styles if I get back together with my ex? Discussing the concept of adult attachment styles, suggesting that she has an avoidant style, I have an anxious style, and talking about the additional difficulties that arise from that?
Some women aren't mature enough to have this kind of conversation, if she can, congrats, if not, idk. Did it work out for you though?
coach Craig Kenneth can you talk about long distance long term relationship break up? feels like the hardest of them all
I was wondering if the community knows if there was videos for the following: What if my ex went back to her previous ex? What if I was the rebound? How do you know if you are the rebound? Long distance is possible? Or what about short term relationships.
Thank you guys as usual
Tbh think there is no chance, my ex ran off by text 18 mths ago + hooked up with a colleague straight away. He isn’t bothered about the loss of the family. I am still very angry with him and can’t imagine ever forgiving him. Zero communication from him and now we are getting divorced.
Hi! How are you? I really enjoy your channel. Were the studies based on university populations which could introduce an age bias to the sample? Also, in a relationship if you are no contact but are improving yourself how does that increase the dumper's likelihood of reaching out to you? Thanks!
I like this question a lot, hopefully they notice it
could you do more videos on being blocked or partially blocked by an ex? There’s not much content on it anywhere.
For some reason, im so okay with what has happened and im truly letting go and letting the universe bring her back. We both agreed that what we had was special and we both know that our bond was amazing, even tho we fought, i can assume alot of that for myself because of my up bringin and how shit was dealt with in my house vs hers. We are almost complete opposites but i know that i am on the right track and that with the work i am doing she will realise and notice it and will be certain that this time around it will work out even better than before
Good luck 😊
That's amazing ! Any updates ? ☺️
We can do our 9 month probation, and we can do our own “work”, but what about the other person... can it really work if only one person is doing this “work”? Or what do you do
Dear Coach Craig,
I think I was unintentionally abusive sometimes in my seven years relationship, she broke up with me last January 26th over a fight and that day also I tried to drag her to my vehicle when she refused to go out with me, I know I messed up big time, ever since the break up I begged and pleaded and even showed up at her work place. Did all the wrong things, but from March 19th on wards I was properly in no contact, I was in no contact before from Feb 19th to March 7th, I lost my control on March 7th since it was my birthday, she didn't wish me so I got so emotional and went needy again and asked for another chance and she ended up blocking my number. But now I'm planning on doing no contact properly this time, do you see any chance for me in the future with her, I love this girl so much.
Thanks for your videos, I enjoy them very much. Someday would like see one with information about NC in separation with kids. Because you have to communicate on some level.
I am confused on my own situation, where my ex is very friendly to me when we meet, but is it just "normal" on is it a sign of something?
I want to book a coaching but I can't afford it . After moving on and I changed myself for better, I see my Ex wherever I go, in church on mutual events, everywhere he looks like he regret and powerless. Not only this, he just want me to look at him. I don't know what is going on? Is he truly regretting dumping me or it's human nature that hate losing things? Can anyone answer me?
How do I go no contact after 15 years together and 3 kids? I don’t necessarily reach out to my ex because she said she wants her space, but she constantly reaches out to me then tells me that we need to only talk when it involved the kids. Then she reaches out again. I’m so drained and broken.
***VIDEO TOPIC SUGGESTION PLEASE*** I would like to start to say that after the breakup, I made multiple mistakes by reaching out to my ex. I am now in no contact after reaching out five times via text over the course of a month. One of them being after two weeks after missing a call from him while I was at work. No response though after I text him after missing the call. My question or video request is why if they don't want anything to do with me at this time is, why am I left on READ? If they don't want anything to do with me right now, why are they opeining my text messages and reading them, but not replying? I would just delete the text or leave it on delivered.
Hi again you to! I just love Margaret!! Just wanted to say thank you and that your videos are very helpful for me. They soothe my mind that races all day long, thinking about my ex. I miss her terribly, I am taking your advice on having patients and working on myself. In the mean time, as it turns out, we will be in quarantine for some time, " Covid 19" I imagine? It makes it that much tougher, when I'm not speaking to her at all during no contact. I wonder if she's OK, healthy and of sound mind? But, I must remain strong if I am to have any chance of rekindling. Thank you so much for your wisdom and your knowledge that you share with all of us. It truly means a lot!
Thanks again!
Is there any long distance relationship recovery....
Three years long distance
3 months no contact
Unbearably painful....
Great video
I wonder if the statistics also apply in LDR, Coach Craig.
I can’t get bck with him after he chose another woman over me. It’s degrading to even consider it. They’ll always take you for granted if you take them bck because they’ll feel they can always get you back
Update
My wife pulls away after a big fight..its been a month. Im in no contact then yesterday she called that i should hand them some stuff of our two kids..what does it mean? I really want her back..
By any chance, do you guys know any book or reference that extensively discusses breakup psychology?? Thanks!
How can I change anything about myself when I dont even know the reason why my ex of 8 years cheated and left me for her in the first place! He gave me no indication that anything was wrong with our relationship, we were walking round hand in hand on holiday days before he took her out on their first date! (I found this out later down the line) He left 2 weeks later with no explanations and has ghosted me ever since that was 15 months ago! Even if I did improve myself in anyway he wouldn't know because all contact with him, his family and friends doesn't exist!
but when they reach out and you meet them to bond with them how do you know they are not using you for 1 last hookup , we cant be that easy to get back but we need to bond anyways ? super confused
Do you believe in a reconciliation for a couple where the female had broken up for a short period of time then 8 months later the male breaks up? After the reconciliation things were different then he decided to break up. This was a 2 year relationship that ended 4 months ago.
so the last part of this video did they mean its okay to tell your ex about the changes you have made? or only when your ex has reached out? I am in no contact now and its been 3 months. I did beg and plead when my ex left so I went into no contact and been making a lot of personal changes and still continuing with this. But I heard from many people do not contact your ex at all until they have reached out to you? so I was a little confused at the end of the video? thanks
Hi Alex! Great vid! 😊
I have a question about the indirect/direct approach.
My ex and I agreed that he could only stop by Tuesday nights (while I'm at work) to drop off mail.
2x now 2 weeks apart (both on Thursday nights) he has stopped by to drop off mail. He leaves it inside the house b/c he still has a key. I was not home either time b/c I had plans.
I have been in NC since the breakup and am honestly killing it at life! He doesn't text or leave a note, just the mail.
Is this an indirect/direct approach?
Mail looks like a direct approach to me. If the topic is random, it is at least indirect approach but your ex clearly reached out
I truly hope your videos help me get back my ex
I feel the same
@@troytroy4191 it never happened
@@fjt4700 I feel you bro.
@@fjt4700 oh man 😞
This is the reason why myself and my ex broke up was family issues on her side that she had to deal with during the coronavirus, we spoke last night and she wants to sort things out when things start to get back to some what normal, we do work at the same place so we won’t be able to avoid each other, we ended it amicably with no fighting, no begging, pleading etc etc, in the mean time I will work on myself
Any updates?
Peachblossom.Phlox :3 ohhhh yesss there are updates our relationship is better than ever and she wants me so much more this time, all I am say is I’m in a loving, passionate, committed relationship but we are keeping it professional at work 😊😊😊
How do you go along with no contact if you have a child with your ex that forces you to communicate
Hey Coach.
Could you possibly do a video about your ex dumping you in the heat of an argument. We were fighting and he went onto social media and broke up with me and I know when people are angry in the moment, they are not really thinking logically.
I've done well with no contact. I deleted social media, because being tempted to stalk him only prolongs the pain. I'm three weeks into no contact. He messaged me one at two weeks and only said 'how come you haven't texted me at all? ' I didn't answer, because he knows the reason. Haven't heard anything since, but we were realy good together and the fight just made him react and dump me. So a video on breaking up while in the middle of a fight would he cool. I know he wasn't planning ahead on breaking up with me. I'm actually over the worst pain, but right now, I'm so angry. I feel it in my bones.
Asteria Moon
Something similar happened between me and my ex. We argued she got out of the car and I left. I was frustrated so I texted her, saying wanted to be single and that she didn’t seem happy in our relationship. She replied with an angry message and blocked me all together. I begged and it didn’t work so 3 weeks ago I went nc. She is a stubborn woman so I don’t think it will make a difference that we where together for a year and a half. We had great chemistry but she is always bringing up my past and thinks I cheat on her or will cheat on her. I have not cheated on her or would cheat on her. In fact it’s been 3 months since the breakup and won’t even consider seeing anyone else because I love her. Two weeks ago she unblocked me from fb. A week ago she sends me a message asking me to delete our pictures together because we are not together. I replied okay and complied with her request. Only God knows what will happen, but work on your self and something good will come out of the breakup...
My girlfriend I together for 6,7 months we was alright first couple months look after each other but ex contact me and said she had my baby while my girlfriend pregnant aswell but I done the dna test with my ex it wasn’t my child and we happy again
But now we argue on every little thing I walk out from her house couple times even one day before when she going to holiday and I spose to lives in her house but I walk out and said I’m done
Now I’m missing her and ask her if we can together ever she said I don’t know what should I do?
He told me he wants to be friends, what I consider complete nonsense. I never spoke with him since. If I forgot a few things of mine at his house. Is it better to let these things go and not interact No Contact or should I tell him that I want to pick them up?
My ex's best friend played a big part in our breakup😒
really wish I could get my Ex back, wish I didn't mess up so hard.. not abusive or anything.. 3 weeks into NC currently. trying my best to work on myself right now, if she reached out I would love to talk and go over everything but we need time apart. 12 year relationship/engaged.. time really kills me slowly.
We broke up 4 months ago and he reached out 3 times, i responded in a good way, but it has been 3 weeks i haven't heard anything from him but he is online i don't know if i should text him or not
VIDEO TOPIC IDEA: My ex broke it off, we have had little bits of contact here and there. The last few calls were good, no fighting, calm discussions, he was even very specific on when he would call me back and poof!! I havent heard from him since! It's been 5 days, I've reached out gently just few times but there has been no response at all. How do you handle your ex ignoring you when you have absolutely no idea what just happened or why the cold shoulder!? Asking for a friend.....ROFL J/K 😁🤪😎
You accept the situation as is. Keep no contact with them.
what is the person who dumped you has a dismissive avoidant attachment style?
Good luck then my friend 😂
Run....
... BUT “stay in or leave a relationship” isn’t the same as reconciling. This is why they never breakup or they do breakup. Nothing about getting back together in what was read verbatim.
After months of NC, my ex randomly showed up at my house twice, but we only talked the second time. I was cool and didn't show emotions, I talked to her a little and laughed she supposedly came to see my flatmate, when she left she looked really sad and disappointed. Now she is starting to randomly liking my Instagram posts, which she has never done since the break up. What the hell? Does she miss me or what?
It’s looking that way play it cool
@@justamannothingmore1999 yeah I will, as they said current events tends to form future trends, I think she is scared of never seeing me again after the end of our contract
find something fun to do that you know is one of her interests and casually say you have a spare ticket/seat etc because someone else cancelled on you, dont let on that you planned for her to come. Give her around 2 weeks notice if its a big event that would need a day or most of a day to do. IF she agrees to go it would be a good chance to hang out casually gauge her interest and be a bit flirty/cheeky and see how she responds. If positive say your going to grab a drink afterwards, imply that shes welcome to join you.
depending on what she does will show how interested she is in getting back together. if she seems unsure or pulls away a bit let her go and give her space to reflect. possibly go no contact again for a few weeks.
If she doesnt agree to go (seems hesitant, says shes busy etc) say you'll ask someone else and let it go.
That was funny what coach Margaret said about the guinea pig. Lol I'll take her advice and if I ever see my ex I'll ask how his cat is.
What would constitute as 50-50?
I just have a quick question. What exactly should be done if their friends are watching you? As in your social media and they’ve made it really obvious they’re keeping tabs on you?
Stay nc. Let them reach out to you. Continue personal growth. If they don't come back, you will be better anyway.
Cynthia Davison he actually showed up at my house and told my family he was jealous that I was hanging out with other guys 😂 I’m still working on myself but I honestly don’t think I want him back anymore 😊😊
I can't shake the feeling that if she does come back. She's just gonna leave again. Rinse repeat. I don't wanna do that again. I don't want to go through that pain again.
Ya. Do the work. I know. But, like how much work do we have to do to be passable? Like you're a good person to date. I feel like I'm at least good enough.
Can anyone give some advice on my situation? I'm in high school and I lost my first love about 4 months ago. I made all the classic mistakes. Clinginess, wada wada wada. I did beg and plead for 2 days after the breakup, but no more after that. The last I talked to her was about 2 months ago. We haven't spoken since. I feel like she's never gonna reach out to me ever again. (The relationship was good. We handled things maturely, her family treated me like their own. It was good. Everything was.) I pushed her away because I wasn't changing and I didn't see the problem. I see her at school, lunch, between classes, etc. She seems fine. Should I use the No Contact rule? Even if I'm in High school? Do I have a chance?
Worry about college.
Craig/Barbara
Do the Elite Workbooks replace the Knowledge workbooks, if not what is a complete set including the Elite Workbooks set please. Do you plan to offer these workbooks at any discount for Black Friday sales blitz? Thanks laid off, Rich.
Who's Barbara? Lol
@@rwentfordable well I forget now it's been 4 yrs since posting. OK, at least I know now it's time to move on LOL!
Ok I was speaking of Margaret, she looked like a Barbara no offense meant in the nicest way. @@rwentfordable
Sometimes you are better off without them.
My ex is rebounding, she said that I was too good for her and she said that I deserved better and she thought that she puts a lot of stress on me and I told her no she is not. And then she said "You deserve better. I'm sorry." The next day she told me that our relationship isn't working out. But just a week later or something, she's talking to this new guy and I made a mistake of contacting her and saying that she doesn't mean what she says. She told me that we wanna be with each other for a long time, and she said if we ever get into an argument, that does not mean we're breaking up, and even if we do she won't allow it. I felt really good after she said that because I wanted to be with her. Also she said if we don't end up in the future together, she will not date and she's gonna adopt kids and buy a dog. But nope, I told her that she doesn't mean what she says and she told me not say that, I didn't discuss that further because I didn't want to get her stressed out even more, but I was pretty angry but I didn't show my "sensitive" feelings towards her, so she likes this new motherf*cking guy and she said she was loyal.... and I don't think loyal people moves on this quickly. Remember that this happened a week after our break up.... I would take her back if she is still interested in me, but as of right now I'm applying the NC rule and I just hope for the best.
You need to stop contacting her. The only way she can realize the mistake she did is if you stop contact. That bull crap of "you deserve better" "you're too good for me" "blah blah blah" if you watch other coaches videos you will notice they say that all women say the same crap after a break up. Women are like Robots. They're already programmed. Hack the program by doing what they don't expect. No contact.
@@carloscabrera5311 yeah ik we haven't talked since August, she texted me by saying happy birthday. Then I just said thanks and went back to no contact, I swear she be out there dating almost any guy since we broke up.
What to when her parents dont like me..now itz about 3 months we both didnt talk each other. She has changed her contact numbers..wht should i do now. Please guide me
U plz be in ur own world
After a fight we went no contact for 2 weeks and after that she said she doesn't feel anything anymore for me, after a 4 years relationship, and so she dumped me. Could I still consider this a no contact or I should totally forget her?
Bestims 4 years can take 1 year to get back so keep doing no contact she will come back trust me
@@broski6050 1 year is really a lot, I already a complete working hard person and the only thing I miss is her love, I don't have anything to work on for a personal grow, except for knowing other peoples, but I'm not interested in other people honestly, more than what we buils together.
@@Killzoatheranimator always work on yourself even if you feel like you've got nothing to work on. Do things you wouldn't normally do put that energy out into the universe
@@Killzoatheranimator Update?
My ex left me for the woman he cheated on me with, we were together for 8-years and 10 months on and off and he was cheating with her for the past 16-months. She knew about me, I just found out about her 2-weeks ago. What are my chances of winning him back.
You really have to start asking yourself that why would you want a cheater back in your life. You can never trust the other person again
My ex keeps texting me. She texted me all day today and she's in another relationship. She even sent me a picture an old picture of me without my shirt on flexing my abs and she said hey look what I found. And she keeps sending me old memories all pictures
Josh Courtois how’s it going?
Mine was abusive we lost respect for each other she was physical and I was verbal I was drinking a lot that’s the reason she left really trying to work on that but I think it’s best if we part ways her past boyfriend broke her arm I think this why she was so hostile and physical with me I still love her but I think it’s to toxic to come to it’s time to walk away
My ex broke up with me 2 months ago....we lasted four years....and I was her first boyfriend. We ended things really well and really loved each other. She didnt want to do it and still wanted to be together even as she was breaking up with me. she has since blocked me on social media and didn’t answer when I tried to reach out. Thoughts?
Hey brother. Do no contact so you will understand the love that you two had. Please work on yourself and wish her all the happiness in the world. If she is happy, and you are happy for her, that is true love. God will take care of you. Do not break no contact and if it's meant to be, she will reach out to you, and you will both be reunited as stronger happier people. Give her some space because she is also hurt and needs some time. Each person has a different way of coping with heartbreak. If she does not reach out, please move on and keep that love deep in your heart because the memories were amazing and meant to be. Be strong brother. God bless you. The Lord is with you.
@@a7dv7en7t Thx man. I since found out she actually also left me for someone else. However it didn’t really change my conclusion. Your words have helped
@@AdrianMartinez-ho6db The fact that you're so stoic about the situation says a lot about the strength of your character. Whoever you will end up with will be lucky!
Hello, what if the person went off and got married and get pregnant. But realized that all that was a big mistake and regrets everything thing she did. Realized that she really deeply in love with you. What do you do? Give her a second chance or move on?
MOVE ON ! dont be a back up
That’s to many things to beard; and definitely not, you need to move on if she was really in love none of that would’ve happened!! As a woman we know!!
I have and almost 4yrs in relationship. My ex gf breakup with me in June 16 2019. Then June 17 she has a new boyfriend. June 30 I'll. Met up. My ex gf house and I saw her with. Her. New boyfriend we 3 talking and comfronting who is win her heart. Now my ex gf. Choose. Me. But in other day she's cold and she says her love was fade away because that new guy is kind and good same as me. Month of. July I was begging and pleasing her to come to my life. But July 20 I came. Back to. Their house I end all. My communication I said I let go her and I going to move on. She cries and kiss me and say thank you. July 30 my ex gf and her new bf was in a relationship in Facebook. August 1 my ex txt me Hi, How are you and where are you. I didn't response she. Call. Me and she didn't talk. Now August 6 my ex flight to other city. What should I do to win her back? It is an rebound to other guy or I'll go no contact. My last contact is since July 20 2019 and till now. MY EX GIRLFRIEND FAMILY BLOCK ME IN FACEBOOK NOW.
Whenevr i started no contact... 3-4 days after she calls me..this time she calls me and asking about books that she wants...can you explain what is going on???
Before started no contact i told her i want to marry you if think yes then call me otherwise don't call me...
@@dailylifeactivities472 indirect direct approach
They get in the best mental and physical shape of their life 😎
My ex is a fearful avoidant. She backs off whenever she feels our relationship getting stronger and intimacy rising. Tell me what work I need to do to make things work if we were to try again?
Work on yourself
@@MinYawnMin Useless answer
Not really. The truth is she is your ex. Why are you giving her your power? Work on yourself and if she will come back when she wants to. Would you want to have a inorganic relationship? Forcing someone to attract to you with mind reading is dumb. If your fixated on certain decisions, don’t ask for answer here. Because nothing will change your mind no matter what others advise you.
@@MinYawnMin It really is a totally useless comment. When I left this comment 9 months ago, our breakup was very recent. My comment was 'what work do I need to do" which obviously means what work can I do on myself. Your useless answer was "work on yourself". Well duh, that was implied in the question.
Nowhere in my question was anything mentioned or implied about forcing someone to do do anything or anything about mind reading, so you are off on a tangent with that.
I love coach Margaret
How could my ex see the progress I make when we are in no contact and don‘t see or hear from each other at all?
John Daily There’s this saying. “Work hard in silence, let your success be the noise.” If you’ve blocked them through social media, then unblock them. If you see that you’re making these changes and progress they would definitely check out on your profile of what’s happening to you. They might reach out to you when they saw you progressing.
My ex has me blocked on everything how is she gonna know i am a better person now ?
Trust me. Once she gets curious she’ll quickly unblock you at a random time (probably late at night) and check up on you every now and then. If she sees you making good improvements in your life she’ll start rethinking and second guessing her decision. Hopefully this helps you man. Go no contact and stay strong ✊🏻
@@Chris-rn9ef Hey Chris, what's your experience with being blocked/blocker, Have you ever gotten curious and done it having being the blocker, also has anyone ever told you that is what they did you, every now and then check in on you? Curious because I was blocked (i over pursued her), is it more than likely they will check in on you rather than not and just keep you there on block. Thank you in advance.
Please give a suggestion..me and my bf had our last talk at 9th may..he didnt ask for breakup..but for his actions we had several breakups before and every time i reached out..he told me at 7th may that he doesnt want any commitment in this relation because he thinks that without commitment our relation will be good..but i dont think so..he was not caring about me..he didnt have any respect towards me..so i decided to no contact..then he called and texted me for times during this no contact..but only short text like how r u? Does he care about me?should i continue this no contact?he acted like everything should be according toh his rules..
When he reaches out with text are you responding?
@@joncannon8973 yes..he is giving short messages like how are you..i know you are doing good....so i replied in short that i am well
@@joncannon8973 should i block him or switched off my phone for 1week..as this no contact of 2weeks havent chnaged anything..he is stubborn like before
He's not stubborn...he's uncertain. Just let him do the reaching out. Don't be too quick to answer though.
They all walked out on me. I don’t want none of them back. I’ll keep praying for a real man.
Have you looked up attachment styles?
@@gwendolynn7314 I will
Name a better duo! I'll wait....
Is it ok if you wish her happy birthday after 4+ months of NC?
Kapios Kapios NO , never contact them unless they contact you, she’s going to know you want to talk to her and get back together which is going to turn her off more. Go watch ams strategies on how to get an ex back. You’ll thank me later
No! Don't do it, I had that experience, and nothing changed
No...absence creates the desire.
No
I enjoy this format for videos but miss the ones where you read an email and figure out what's going on.
My ex turn her friends against me and I get treated like shit and I want to kms
I have a feeling that I have watched this very video before.
wow. the one thing that stuck out here is ... talking about it at the end. thats where im going wrong; i am infatuated with wanting to "talk about it" ... i ahould have done all along what she wanted. NOT to talk about it lolll ... this is a gamechanger thanks guys . duh
hey coach. its been a month since i went abroad and he texts me every week to see how i m doing. yesterday he texted me how i am and because i wasnt responding he said its ok if you dont want to talk to me just tell me. what do you think? btw he s with his colleaugue 5 months now
If it was I and I wanted the relationship back , I would say I'm not intrested in just a friendship only , I have only romantic intrest. Call me if you change your mind and walk and never look back. Make sure you work on yourself to be a better you. Working out , communication skills, loving yourself being happy with who you are.
I was the rebound in a relationship that lasted 9 months, she dumped me for her ex who had cheated her, there is a chance to get her back?
You don’t wanna be with someone that goes back to their cheating ex...
Cheating is a no....don't accept cheaters...they will do it to everyone. You're not special. They have the problem. You cant fix it for them. Believe me., I was involved with one. You deserve better.
I love margaret, i wish she can be my third grandma