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КОМЕНТАРІ • 273

  • @eleniprovia7667
    @eleniprovia7667 2 роки тому +109

    Fumi, you are the best! Your advice is priceless to us women around the world. Bless you girl ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @doreenonekalit9888
      @doreenonekalit9888 2 роки тому +2

      The BEST

    • @ishemalauryn313
      @ishemalauryn313 Рік тому +1

      @ madam eleni provia , thank you soo much sweetheart God bless you too dear and good luck and blessings my prayers to you,you have un comparable heart according to your comment dear ❤️❤️

    • @user-xg5qm6ue6o
      @user-xg5qm6ue6o 5 місяців тому

      Evening miss Fumi am new here started following you but I love your content ❤️ am even noting it down......I also want to online date but I don't know any good dating sites 😔😔😔 if you know any please help me

  • @barbaraodametey8548
    @barbaraodametey8548 2 роки тому +273

    My dear women! Don't let age make you so desperate to rush and settle for anything! It really is "HARD" but patience has always yielded better fruits! Big hugs to US all!❤❤❤

    • @NazarofGod
      @NazarofGod 2 роки тому +6

      Thanks for this- "patience has always yielded better fruits"❤️❤️

    • @queenie4837
      @queenie4837 2 роки тому +3

      True! Been on my own for nearly ten years so no rush here...

    • @margaretkolbe6353
      @margaretkolbe6353 2 роки тому +3

      Thank you Barbara

    • @DaraKFulton
      @DaraKFulton Рік тому +1

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @culturenarrativeswitholalo7394
    @culturenarrativeswitholalo7394 2 роки тому +85

    Please don't put your real name on a dating site. Always use an alias until you are comfortable to share your name with a potential date. There are dangerous stalkers on there that can google you and if you have a visible online presence such as a page from your work, social media etc.... You can be setting yourself up for stalking... Sorry if this sounds scary but it is the reality.

    • @malibooyaw
      @malibooyaw 2 роки тому +9

      That’s excellent advice

    • @keishaportuondo953
      @keishaportuondo953 2 роки тому +5

      That's so true sis I love that piece of advice and reality check.....so my sister's please take yield ⛔️

    • @mimireal6396
      @mimireal6396 Рік тому +10

      Gf...I was on Bumble and got into a sit so scary I gave up on online dating. I'll try to keep it short, met a man online and we chatted and we eventually moved to actual texting and phone calls. I told him I wanted a friendship. The more I got to talk to him the more things weren't making sense (extravagant stories, things not matching up, etc). The second time I met him in person, I made the mistake of inviting him to my home. I was sick and he said he would come and make me dinner (smh..red flag was he was VERY pushy about it..I kept saying no and he was persistent..I was stupid). Man came over, made me dinner, and we started watching TV, he started drinking (a lot) and was trying to encourage me to drink up as well (I was like nah, im good). He proceeds to start touching my ears (🤮) I told him to stop and he did (for a sec). Then he started touching my legs (told him to stop and he did..for a sec). He started touching me again and tried to kiss me (at this point im over it and bruh gotta GO!) He gets on his phone to take an uber back home (said something wrong with his car so he had to uber to my place). He gets on uber and says "WTF, my bank account is saying I am overdrafted" 🙄 I'm like OH HELL NO!!! I got you bruh, uber is on me ✌🏾. He leaves and I say good riddance I will never talk to this man again. Next morning, im getting ready for work..he's calling me, I say nope (didn't answer). He textes me "hey sweets, someone may come to your door DO NOT ANSWER!!!excise me??? So now im panicked!!! Who the fuck is gonna knock on my door? Im calling him, texting him..WHO TF IS GONNA KNOCK ON MY DAMN DOOR? He says its his probation officer gone unhinged and out to get him and that this officer is dangerous. (Excuse me? Probation officer? Dafuq?). Less than 10 mins later..knock knock knock knoc...im PANICKED!!! I dont answer. Another 30mins...knock knock knock..I dont answer. I remember hey I just found out his last name (google him). Chileeeeee when I tell you REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER!!!! I call me friend that lives down the street (come over NOW!!!) At this point its been maybe an hour since the last knock and I'm scared to go out...again knock knock knock. I call me friend WHERE ARE YOU???? When she gets there the person is gone and there is a card taped to my door (Parole Officer.. I need to talk to you about ...) I called and the sh** that was told me😳 I couldn't even talk to the officer anymore (SOBBING) and passed the phone to my friend. Everything he told me was a lie (no home, no car, no job, not supposed to be talking to women, assaulted over 6 women, etc etc). I messaged Bumble and gave them all the tea. Thankfully they followed through and took my message seriously because I had receipts. It was a very HARD lesson learned and to this day, I refuse to date men online. The sad thing is even if I didn't meet him online, I could have met this man in person and would have been the same result. BE CAREFUL OUT THERE LADIES.

  • @zeynepnursozer
    @zeynepnursozer 2 роки тому +108

    For my girls that are scared of getting into online dating, just take a chance and do it. I was on Bumble for couple weeks before I met my boyfriend and we have been together for 2 years, we are planning to marry and build our future together. Just like Aunt Fumi said, have your boundaries and expectations, be transparent and the rest will come

    • @nancytheresakosia6432
      @nancytheresakosia6432 2 роки тому

      Which online dating can you recommend please

    • @vulpeadejad7523
      @vulpeadejad7523 2 роки тому +3

      @@nancytheresakosia6432 she said Bumble in her comment. Bumble is a dating app.

    • @Fely_ecrit
      @Fely_ecrit 2 роки тому +1

      Still scared, I had a very bad experience and ended up with stalker...

  • @debrarawls6050
    @debrarawls6050 2 роки тому +23

    I love the husband. He just walks through and gives his opinion (when asked) and then he keeps right on going.

  • @deejames1st
    @deejames1st 2 роки тому +26

    “Spread out your opportunities because you are fabulous” I literally laughed out loud. You’re a great motivator.

  • @t.l1357
    @t.l1357 2 роки тому +9

    I just met a Norweigan man online...he's almost 20 yrs older. Seemed like he had his life in order, can have a lovely conversation. Until.......he mentions a situation where one of his golf buddies referred to his baby mama (African lady) as the N word in Norweigan. I asked what he did....he said he was sooo shocked he didn't say anything. I'm black American and like tf u mean????? That dude is racist, sleeping with black people doesn't change things. I tried to see if was gonna do something later. Nope, but he went out with them for golf and drinks. I had to go ahead and block. I can't be with someone that's comfortable in company who say this word. That's exactly what he would say about me behind my back...I'm sure of it. Stay safe out there.......thought I might have an Ola. But NOOOOO!!! This coward of a man wasn't it. Stay safe ladies and VET these men especially going outside your ethnicity.

  • @lovefortopcovers2900
    @lovefortopcovers2900 2 роки тому +16

    Fumi is the 'mother' i cant find in my mom. Thanks Fumi

  • @mercedespayne5916
    @mercedespayne5916 2 роки тому +28

    Thank you for the recommendations. I used a similar strategy to find my husband 12 years ago. We would have never met without the internet.

  • @pepperoni1208
    @pepperoni1208 2 роки тому +29

    Hi, this is a lovely video. Dating apps can be trash or they can be wonderful depending on how you use them. I’m in my early twenties and one has to be very strategic about online dating. It’s so easy to access people online nowadays through these apps so a lot of men might not put in the effort to woo a woman. You have to be ready to apply the filters available on the apps lol because it can be exhausting:
    -If he’s not willing to do a video or at least an audio call after chatting for a while or maybe even when you ask.
    -If he’s texting one word all the time lol..responding in monotones, only responds to your messages with word salad( empty compliments) or texts with a sexual tone. It’s a red flag.
    -If his profile tells you anything about his job, that’s probably a good sign lol.
    -Instead of asking his favorite color, you could try asking what his hobbies are as that gives you an insight as to how he spends his time when he’s not working.
    - if it’s late at night (once it’s 8pm for me) I’m typically offline because that’s when the men that don’t want anything serious want to chat lol. They only want pictures or sex. Just ignore it, go offline and have your beauty sleep or something lol. Text back in the morning and they’ll get the message.
    - Some apps will show you where a person is located currently. If he’s around your area or in your country just passing by or spending a few days on vacation and he doesn’t plan having any serious connections while he’s around aka he’s just trying to have a good time.. just take things slow and don’t invest your time and energy chatting lol until he’s shown you that he’s interested in something serious with you. Protect your time and peace.
    -Lastly even though I’ve met some very responsible and well-to-do men on tinder and bumble, I wouldn’t recommend as these apps are filled with a lot of people who are typically looking for hookups at the very least lol they might even get confused when you mention wanting to settle down etc.
    -Don’t be discouraged. What you’re looking for exists.
    Try The League App.
    -Interracial websites
    -Hinge app
    -Coffee and bagel, Badoo, Facebook dating groups where there’s responsible looking people, Instagram(follow people and pages that post the kind of things you like such as hiking, travelling, polo games, etc)
    Feel free to try all the apps and decide for yourself which ones to keep and which ones to delete.

  • @lizzieovermeyer2986
    @lizzieovermeyer2986 2 роки тому +52

    Hi Fumi, thank you for this episode!. Strange Fumi, my lady friend in London and i discuss online dating. Im a widow for 14yrs. Lost my husband when i was 53yrs old( your age). Im 67 yrs old, and soooo scared to do the online dating. Maybe I'm to old??? But i do feel very lonely at times, and misses adult company. I love you ' blue' look, and live for it. Stay blessed!!

    • @VIsidore
      @VIsidore 2 роки тому +25

      You are never too old to date/remarry. There's single men available at your age. Good men, too.

    • @hollyberrie305
      @hollyberrie305 2 роки тому +12

      You’re not too old. My daddy was about 60 and I saw he need companionship. Online date if it’s what will make you happy. You are never. Too. Old. For love and friendship, my dear friend.

    • @evette7951
      @evette7951 2 роки тому +13

      Hi Lizzie,
      I am happily in a relationship leading into marriage from online dating. We met on Match and we are compatible to a tee.
      He is a widower and he loss his wife 8 years ago when he was age 59. He is now 67 and he has been searching for years.
      I am 60 years old and, I was in an 8 year (on-again /off-again) relationship with a man who would not commitment to marriage.
      It took courage for me to step out there and date online but I am glad I did. 😊

    • @karungarimaina7613
      @karungarimaina7613 2 роки тому +2

      I don’t think there’s such a thing as too old for love 💕. Go for it ☺️. I’m 24 turning 25 this month and I have been single since 2020. I’ve downloaded and uninstalled dating apps so frequently but amount a month or so ago I decided to open one again and stick to it even when things aren’t going my way because I would like to find a mate sometim. ☺️I think everyone needs and at least deserves to experience love and online dating is just one way to put yourself out there :). I hope you open a profile ☺️

    • @Introvertsan
      @Introvertsan 2 роки тому +1

      You aren't too old.

  • @martine2a0
    @martine2a0 2 роки тому +17

    I am living the UK and I have finally found the man of my dream. We have a long distance relationship as he is living in the south France. But I am plaining on leaving the UK to live with him in France next year. I met him online, without internet I would I have never found him. Great advice as usual Aunt Fumi ❤

    • @janemulandi962
      @janemulandi962 2 роки тому

      Which dating site dear because they are so many you don't even know which one to try, kindly reply

    • @iamannabeautiful
      @iamannabeautiful Рік тому

      Where did you meet?

  • @nattygirldred
    @nattygirldred 2 роки тому +17

    Online dating is so tiring. Looking back and forth. I try to meet up with some of those guys and they don’t really want to meet. They just go through liking everyone then never respond, like they realized they made a mistake. I’m 48 and I get interest but honestly it’s the same guys on all the apps. I wait a year and come back. It’s the same dudes. And there are so many frogs that want to say and do inappropriate things. They get upset because I don’t want to give out my number and instead I want to video chat on the app but then they act as if the have no idea how to use the video . Chillle Fumi I’m out. I need to meet folks in person.

    • @smallgalbiggod1409
      @smallgalbiggod1409 2 роки тому +3

      Thank you
      I've been on some of them since Jan I haven't seen anything positive out of it

    • @Sandra.-.
      @Sandra.-. 2 роки тому +4

      It's the worst! So emotionally draining of you're looking for something serious. It works for people who are playing around. So many options for them there

    • @ktp.
      @ktp. Рік тому

      Be careful with online dating. I had the worse experiences of my life as it's a breeding ground for very dysfunctional people who can't even say the word "date" or "relationship" but they know "hookup" well! Guard your mental and physical health ladies. Avoid the MGTOW and Andrew Tate fans.

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому

      Good that you don’t give out your number. Some are just on there to collect numbers. Not to do anything further. They will collect it and then not arrange anything until months down the line when they remember

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому

      @@Sandra.-. Men do not have as much options as women think. Go to men’s spaces or ask any that you date. They don’t have options. It’s very hard for them.

  • @RC-iq2hh
    @RC-iq2hh 2 роки тому +12

    Have your list of non negotiable items. Vet vet vet vet and vet some more. Meet them in public places. Have a phone call and video chat first. If someone cannot respect your boudaries, move on. Most of all, do not have the scarcity mindset that many of us black women have. There are plenty of men in the World, expand your options. Many of our men aren’t ish and that’s a fact.

  • @tezsgino
    @tezsgino 2 роки тому +13

    Cobalt blue is my all time favorite color for anything. It is sooo regal! Love you so much, Fumi💕

  • @dr.kellyraebrown4870
    @dr.kellyraebrown4870 2 роки тому +20

    Exactly!
    I also think it's also very important to know what your values are and how your potential partner's values align with yours. Meaning, does their values around family, friendship, career, money, health & fitness, spirituality, personal growth align with yours or oppose yours.
    Agree with Fumi also on the "you want to 'enhance' your life". If you do, you will enhance theirs as well.

    • @peaceojuekaiye3803
      @peaceojuekaiye3803 2 роки тому

      I love.you fumi regards to ole and Adrian. How do l get Julia's place in Nigeria 🇳🇬 thru online

  • @VIsidore
    @VIsidore 2 роки тому +17

    Good morning, Fumi. Loving the blue. Excellent online dating advice. I've been married for 34 years. I wouldn't know where to start. Good luck to my single sisters. 👍🏾

  • @jameswhitesr4385
    @jameswhitesr4385 2 роки тому +25

    Fumi you are so sweet. You really care about us women in general. I say that because the way you connect with your followers. Offering your help and really helping them .I am so impressed with you. And the information on dating is a life moving. It's going to help my daughter with her on line dating. Such smart advise.💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @nmaozzi4829
    @nmaozzi4829 2 роки тому +11

    I am struggling to focus ma'am Fumsky! You are oozing of fabulousity, gosh!🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

  • @Bubbly-s
    @Bubbly-s 2 роки тому +15

    Omg I needed this. I have been meeting men online who want me to always come to their place on the first and it can be scary. Thank you Fumi

    • @lashellwright6196
      @lashellwright6196 2 роки тому +3

      Yeah because they only looking for one thing on them apps and that's some type of sex what you think there on there for 👀 why can't you get a man and real life in the first place

    • @RC-iq2hh
      @RC-iq2hh 2 роки тому +7

      If they are asking you to come to their home on the first date they have no respect for you and care nothing about your safety. A man worth it, when only want to make you comfortable. I met my partner on bumble and he is amazing. I didn’t go to him until after a few of dating and 6 solid dates.

    • @RC-iq2hh
      @RC-iq2hh 2 роки тому +8

      @@lashellwright6196 not true, i met my guy online. I was very selective. Many woman are going out with every man and don’t know hot to vet, plain and simple. Men that approach you in the streets are usually approaching other woman constantly!

    • @vickyvick8294
      @vickyvick8294 2 роки тому

      @@RC-iq2hh which dating site did you meet your boyfriend?

    • @AM-mw2wu
      @AM-mw2wu 2 роки тому +1

      Never go to a stranger's house. Meet in public first. If there are further dates keep meeting in public for about 6 months (don't have sex until at least 3+months) and tell people where you're meeting for safety. Take your cell/mobile phone and enough money to pay for your date inc money for transport to and from the date. Never accept lifts or taxi share. Stranger danger!

  • @katrinavalente
    @katrinavalente 2 роки тому +7

    Iv never had luck online dating...they are all players...I will wait for divine timing...soulmate love any on tinder!!! Fumi this color is faaaabulous on you💙💙💙

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому

      Yes. It’s very refreshing hearing how positive she is and I was quite confused but then she said she’s been married for a very long time. So then it all made sense 😅

  • @melvaspence17862
    @melvaspence17862 2 роки тому +11

    Oh my gosh, I love this blue liner. 💙 I just ordered from Juvia's Place yesterday and now wish I had seen this beauty before I ordered. Guess I'll be going back 🤪 😌 🤷

  • @aidasark3771
    @aidasark3771 2 роки тому +8

    I tried it for a few years and dated a handful of men but I’m picky and my intuition picks up on red flags so early so it doesn’t work for me and makes me anxious

  • @ruthpartridge6210
    @ruthpartridge6210 2 роки тому +5

    I met my now husband online we met up in a public place talking on the phone gradually 12 years down the line we enjoying a lovely marriage I took a chance had never done it before but do everything safely

  • @tammywelcome2977
    @tammywelcome2977 2 роки тому +3

    I really needed this advice! I’ve been reluctant to go online and date because of all the games. However you can meet jerks in person. I’m going to give it another try 🙏🏽

  • @angelkaye82
    @angelkaye82 2 роки тому +10

    I literally just activated a dating app hours ago. This came at the right time. This is confirmation I am sure. Thank you!

  • @nmaozzi4829
    @nmaozzi4829 2 роки тому +8

    You are so knowledgeable, it's so heart warming

  • @thickbrownlegs1859
    @thickbrownlegs1859 2 роки тому +8

    Ms. Wendy Williams always say cast your rod in many ponds never limit yourself to one pond. My bestie meet her hubby online now they have been married for 5 years and counting. You gotta be honest with yourself in what you want in a relationship, PERIODT!

  • @mimireal6396
    @mimireal6396 Рік тому +3

    I was on Bumble and got into a sit so scary I gave up on online dating. I'll try to keep it short, met a man online and we chatted and we eventually moved to actual texting and phone calls. I told him I wanted a friendship. The more I got to talk to him the more things weren't making sense (extravagant stories, things not matching up, etc). The second time I met him in person, I made the mistake of inviting him to my home. I was sick and he said he would come and make me dinner (smh..red flag was he was VERY pushy about it..I kept saying no and he was persistent..I was stupid). Man came over, made me dinner, and we started watching TV, he started drinking (a lot) and was trying to encourage me to drink up as well (I was like nah, im good). He proceeds to start touching my ears (🤮) I told him to stop and he did (for a sec). Then he started touching my legs (told him to stop and he did..for a sec). He started touching me again and tried to kiss me (at this point im over it and bruh gotta GO!) He gets on his phone to take an uber back home (said something wrong with his car so he had to uber to my place). He gets on uber and says "WTF, my bank account is saying I am overdrafted" 🙄 I'm like OH HELL NO!!! I got you bruh, uber is on me ✌🏾. He leaves and I say good riddance I will never talk to this man again. Next morning, im getting ready for work..he's calling me, I say nope (didn't answer). He textes me "hey sweets, someone may come to your door DO NOT ANSWER!!!excise me??? So now im panicked!!! Who the fuck is gonna knock on my door? Im calling him, texting him..WHO TF IS GONNA KNOCK ON MY DAMN DOOR? He says its his probation officer gone unhinged and out to get him and that this officer is dangerous. (Excuse me? Probation officer? Dafuq?). Less than 10 mins later..knock knock knock knoc...im PANICKED!!! I dont answer. Another 30mins...knock knock knock..I dont answer. I remember hey I just found out his last name (google him). Chileeeeee when I tell you REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER!!!! I call me friend that lives down the street (come over NOW!!!) At this point its been maybe an hour since the last knock and I'm scared to go out...again knock knock knock. I call me friend WHERE ARE YOU???? When she gets there the person is gone and there is a card taped to my door (Parole Officer.. I need to talk to you about ...) I called and the sh** that was told me😳 I couldn't even talk to the officer anymore (SOBBING) and passed the phone to my friend. Everything he told me was a lie (no home, no car, no job, not supposed to be talking to women, assaulted over 6 women, etc etc). I messaged Bumble and gave them all the tea. Thankfully they followed through and took my message seriously because I had receipts. It was a very HARD lesson learned and to this day, I refuse to date men online. The sad thing is even if I didn't meet him online, I could have met this man in person and would have been the same result. BE CAREFUL OUT THERE LADIES.

    • @FumiDesaluVold
      @FumiDesaluVold  Рік тому +4

      Darling I'm soooooooosorry you went through this! You should NEVER, EVER have invited him to your house on the first date! that's a NOOOOOOOOOOOO NO! Please use this episode as a strict guide. Safety first at all times my love! 💕

    • @mimireal6396
      @mimireal6396 Рік тому

      @@FumiDesaluVold absolutely, Auntie. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us ❤

    • @yzma6142
      @yzma6142 Рік тому

      Never ever have these men at your house for AT LEAST 3 months of consistent dating!

  • @kimphillips4489
    @kimphillips4489 2 роки тому +8

    Fumi I got invoved with someone who was asking me for money because he needed bail money. Not for drugs. Because he owed money to a company and then when he went out to another country contraband was added to his equipment he used for his job. Then he connected me with his daughter who was begging me to send money to help. I said no. I feel a little guilty but I think it is a big scam. I have just stopped talking to them. Geese.

    • @omoyemen1652
      @omoyemen1652 2 роки тому +9

      Sis it was a scam, they always have that same old story.

    • @WinteryWillow
      @WinteryWillow 2 роки тому

      The most common scam. You will actually speak to people pretending to be his parents. His pretend mother would call you daily just to say Good Morning... Run... Lazy thieves everywhere

    • @favourokechukwu3080
      @favourokechukwu3080 Рік тому +2

      They are scammers pls block them

    • @ifeomaangel
      @ifeomaangel Рік тому +1

      Scammer run 🏃‍♀️for ur dear life oo

  • @kaysteph02
    @kaysteph02 2 роки тому +6

    First to be here, been watching all your videos and this new one just pop up. I live, I love for you Aunt Fumi ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @superwomanme
    @superwomanme 2 роки тому +10

    From beginning to end this video was filled with excellent advice, knowledge, experience and enlightenment

  • @ibienaime1
    @ibienaime1 2 роки тому +3

    Royal Blue is one of my favorite colors. You are so beautiful, I am definitely going to purchase that blue eyeliner. ❤

  • @chisomnweke2322
    @chisomnweke2322 2 роки тому +1

    All I wish right now is to give you a hug. You are real as reality. God bless you always.

  • @sheilahatamba923
    @sheilahatamba923 2 роки тому +2

    I thank God the day I found your channel when you talk it’s wisdom that comes out of your mouth.I have introduced my friends to your channel I don’t want them to miss out.Never meet a man in his house even if he looks trustworthy DO NO DO IT.Until you meet him in public places for several occasions.

  • @ericawatson3074
    @ericawatson3074 2 роки тому +8

    I really love your channel ❤ very inspirational, keep it up hope you're well, husband and Adrian

  • @ChatsWithChris
    @ChatsWithChris 2 роки тому +7

    I met my husband on instagram. We got married after 9 months and have been together for years.

  • @amireoluwaseyiesther3691
    @amireoluwaseyiesther3691 2 роки тому +10

    You laugh and smile are always fabulous as what what you v been saying but trust me online dating are so scary but couldn't mind to give it a try once again
    Thanks sis funmi for this fabulous teaching
    Much ❤️

  • @jacquelinefransaw6911
    @jacquelinefransaw6911 2 роки тому +5

    Fumi blue is your color and Its looks fabulous on you

  • @lollymagg
    @lollymagg Рік тому +1

    Hi Fumi ,I have been binge watching your channel for the entire weekend. I love it.I meet my husband online. We are married for a year. He proposed to me within a few hours. I was flattered but I asked him to think about his own proposal ,and get to know mw more. He went back to Australia and was back in 2 months. He came back and we had our traditional ceremony. I am going to meet the rest of his family in Australia over December holidays .Dating apps can be good.

  • @Oliana2012
    @Oliana2012 2 роки тому +2

    Agreeble on many things but I’m a bit shocked that Fumi said to not put about religion because then we limit our options. For so many of us same values are of most importance. For example for me to find a Christian man. I know I’m not alone and I think it needs to be said

    • @marylogan6711
      @marylogan6711 Рік тому

      Fumi is a broad international kinda person whose band width could hold many differences because her light is so bright still maintain harmony…for many others sticking with same religion may be non negotiable.. we still have to tailor her advice to our personal ‘Absolutely nots’..😅

  • @eunicelampley1576
    @eunicelampley1576 2 роки тому +3

    Fumi, always on point. You tell it with no sugar coating. I really hope those who are dating or plan to date online had their paper and 🖊. Your husband and you are ready good together. I love ❤️ that. You have great respect ✊ for each other, beautiful! I will try that eye liner you suggested. Continued success.

  • @PopSkinreviews
    @PopSkinreviews 2 роки тому +2

    I remember the social stigma from a few of older gen saying it's dangerous, even though it can be as dangerous as IRL when people met in the bar, just do the same things to stay safe as you said here! It's such luck to encounter someone in real life with the best opportunity and compatibility! Great advice

  • @sarahphillips5546
    @sarahphillips5546 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you for this video! I just love all your fabulousity. I have tried dating apps. And, as you carefully pointed out, use street smarts. Some red flags I have encountered are guys who claim to be doctors or engineers who work overseas. I couldn't believe how many guys are using that ploy. Also, using WhatsApp & Google chat, while convenient, is tricky because it's harder to trace the person who is looking to take advantage of someone. There are good guys out there for sure. But you might have to kiss a lot of frogs before you get your prince.

  • @ariellebakes
    @ariellebakes 2 роки тому +3

    I agree with everything aunt Fumi said but the religion side. It’ll be a shame to go on, get emotionally attached only to realize even your ideologies of marriage and child rearing differ. This can actually work a cause for divorce

  • @iam_trinikimmy
    @iam_trinikimmy Рік тому +1

    All my friends who have had their Baby Daddies marry someone else or moved in with someone else, always ask "who is this woman that MY CHILD is going to be around?" I love the advice. It falls in my garden as we say in Trinidad and Tobago. Love from T&T!

  • @queenie4837
    @queenie4837 2 роки тому +1

    Oh Fumi...such wise words. Thank you, thank you, thank you! However, online dating fills me with utter dread - previously met some frogs. I am too old to be mothering any man, he must be able to hold his own. I have so much to give.

  • @neliswanoah7663
    @neliswanoah7663 2 роки тому +1

    The royal blue looks beautiful on you. Your wisdom ma’am👏🏾❤️

  • @HealthyGMom
    @HealthyGMom 2 роки тому +1

    I Appreciate your Kindness Understanding and Support… Shout-out to you from Los Angeles California… Much Love ❤️ and Respect ✊🏾

  • @MinglingwithSherlin
    @MinglingwithSherlin 2 роки тому +4

    Loving the cobalt blue Fumi

  • @Mmarieglass
    @Mmarieglass 2 роки тому +6

    Auntie Fumi, I am hearing a lot on social media of men not wanting to date aka marry women who are in their 30s+ because having kids with us is risky. Can you address that with the dating scene now? Should I consider giving up on marriage or having more kids now that I'm 39?

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому

      That’s false. The average marrying age for women in the west especially is 28-35+. The guys online are only looking for hook ups and are against marriage so yes, women Under 25 will work perfectly for them. However, they are even having issues with that. They aren’t against women over 30. It’s mostly single mothers of any age and women that they consider unattractive that they have issues with.

  • @maxinesobers2606
    @maxinesobers2606 Рік тому +1

    Fumi, that blue is such an eye-catching colour it really suits you. I'm going to incorporate the shade in my wardrobe. It sets off our skin tone beautifully. I'm watching your videos from England.🌼🕊️💕🇬🇧

  • @ChatsWithChris
    @ChatsWithChris 2 роки тому +3

    Fumi your eyes are your statement jewelry piece for the day.

  • @VonettaB
    @VonettaB 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks for this. I love your voice and laughter. You are so uplifting to us women. I salute you!

  • @kitibwamimi3890
    @kitibwamimi3890 Рік тому

    Ohhh my God am loving the confidence your building in me , God continue blessing you Fumi Desalu-Vold

  • @reinacsamuel1862
    @reinacsamuel1862 9 місяців тому

    I just love the way you say "Fabulous" and then give it a sweet laugh. Your smiles speak a lot and I love your advice. Thanks Aunty Fumi

  • @mazubamwale4628
    @mazubamwale4628 2 роки тому +3

    Fumi. Great advice. Love the blue eyeliner it brings out your warm personality which keeps us attracted to you always. May God continue to shine the light on you🙏🙏love you 🥰❤️

  • @mamatosh05
    @mamatosh05 2 роки тому +1

    Love this video. I'm in a relationship now, but I was scared/skeptical to do online dating. But this message is eye opening.

  • @jbirdcarter3452
    @jbirdcarter3452 2 роки тому +5

    I met my husband on Facebook dating!💕💕💕 It works!

    • @angelkaye82
      @angelkaye82 2 роки тому +1

      I just activated my Facebook dating. I am so nervous ☺️

  • @lilyofthevalley1045
    @lilyofthevalley1045 2 роки тому +3

    Here firrrrrrrst!!!! Love you Miss Fumi. As a young sister, I loooove your advice!!! Really appreciated!! Much love from Kenya!!

  • @mleys3248
    @mleys3248 2 роки тому +12

    aaaaahhhh, at 52 I really don't want to start online dating. But I guess you are right. We don't have that much opportunity to meet someone and I really don't want to date someone at the workplace. Been there done that. LOL

    • @lashellwright6196
      @lashellwright6196 2 роки тому

      52 years old still looking for a man what is this world coming to just throw the whole world away

  • @veldareed2830
    @veldareed2830 Рік тому

    I’m so happy I found you ❤. You are positively changing and enhancing my life ❤️❤️

  • @beverleyreid1162
    @beverleyreid1162 2 роки тому +2

    Honestly Fumi at almost 60 I dont know where to start .Im too scared of what I have seen so far.What do u suggest

  • @brendat4829
    @brendat4829 2 роки тому +3

    Loved it!! Have been so nervous of dating.

  • @tinaerhurhe4490
    @tinaerhurhe4490 2 роки тому

    Have tired so hard to find somebody online but not really coming through,I really need this aunty fummi

  • @tamarachilingaryan6689
    @tamarachilingaryan6689 2 роки тому +1

    You are a fabulous, magnificent and wonderful woman. It is a joy to listen and look at you. Thank you

  • @candcyspencer2250
    @candcyspencer2250 Рік тому

    Thank you for all of your advice .I really look forward to what you have to say.Glad l found you.

  • @gailgroves7878
    @gailgroves7878 2 роки тому +1

    My beautiful Fumi, thank you for all of the great on line dating tips.
    You look fabulous as always. And thank the hubby for his advise too 😊😊❤️

  • @llgrazes
    @llgrazes Рік тому

    I’m soon to be 58, I feel great. I’m in shape after losing 40 pounds( I needed too) I’m now on line dating.. and looking forward to meeting my husband🎉🎉🎉. It’s going to take a while, but I know he out there. And I can’t wait ❤❤❤

  • @bolanleajagunigbala1215
    @bolanleajagunigbala1215 2 роки тому

    Mama fumi , you speak with souch grace, wisdom and kindness..You are much appreciated

  • @liltwiisty8723
    @liltwiisty8723 2 роки тому +2

    Aunty Fumi , i love you so much , you are the best , i wish i could hug you one day and thank you for all your advices. You changed my life, i feel so confident in my own skin since i know you ❤️ you are a blessing

  • @bm11775
    @bm11775 2 роки тому

    Love the blue on you Simply Gorgeous Aunt Fumi , thank you for being that Aunti because all my aunties have passed because of generational sicknesses diabetes cancers, so I just want you to know I appreciate all the advice that you given the videos because it seems like you’re talking to me only even though you’re talking to everybody else love to make up tutorials love the fashion you are awesome may God continue to bless you in every endeavor in the future. And I love the slogan do you like do you love.

  • @bettyausten9533
    @bettyausten9533 Рік тому

    Thank you so much...im 33. And been single for 2years now and now i really want to try online dating, i am lonely and need love in my life....i love the blue

  • @nicolegreen-miller7640
    @nicolegreen-miller7640 2 роки тому +3

    Lovely in blue Fumi

  • @zenathomas1093
    @zenathomas1093 2 роки тому +3

    Hi Fumi. I saw a episode of Girlfriends and in a glance I thought I saw you. Was that you?

    • @FumiDesaluVold
      @FumiDesaluVold  2 роки тому +1

      Yes my love! I was an extra on girlfriends for a whole season! It was a wonderful experience and that’s how I got to know Tracee Elis Ross! 😃💕

  • @ggshandsomeboy5103
    @ggshandsomeboy5103 2 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing dating and online dating truths because it is a wild adventure these days.

  • @jamwithsherene5270
    @jamwithsherene5270 2 роки тому +3

    Auntie Fumi, what a fabulous color on your skin tone. I met my partner through online dating. I made an investment in myself and paid for 1 week to see which guy matched my profile. This was the best investment I’ve made. The return on my investment keeps bringing me joy and happiness.

  • @moniqueknowles1740
    @moniqueknowles1740 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks Fumi! Great advice. You're the best. 💯💫💥💞💐💐💐💐💐💐

  • @laurenceoueddo2491
    @laurenceoueddo2491 Рік тому

    Hi Fumi ! Thank you for the great advice it’s gold ! God Bless you !

  • @jacquemonae
    @jacquemonae 2 роки тому +1

    Love the look and the message Fumi💙

  • @blessingadegoke2602
    @blessingadegoke2602 Рік тому

    Thank u for taking the time to share this great advice..I’m happy ❤

  • @BiancaBellezzzaGuessTV
    @BiancaBellezzzaGuessTV 2 роки тому +4

    so early like never before
    you look gorgeous queen mummy 🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @NOTIME4THIS
    @NOTIME4THIS 2 роки тому +1

    YOU ARE SO AWESOME! Your beauty shines through and when you laugh it is as if you are breathing LIFE into others. THIS IS WHAT BEING LOVED LOOKS LIKE.

  • @nicktahaafe5186
    @nicktahaafe5186 Рік тому

    Hello Fumi, you’re amazing! Excellent advice. I felt that you are the voice for all mothers out there making our children feel safe and loved. May god bless you and you family stay happy and beautiful always 😊❤

  • @FulSerkle
    @FulSerkle 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you Fumi!!!!! So much good information ☺️💖🕊️🕯️

  • @lolafashola4318
    @lolafashola4318 2 роки тому

    I agree 100% I didn't even have to listen to your video to know all these things but I love that you cosigned everything I thought. Love love love you ❤

  • @LO-sp9cx
    @LO-sp9cx 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much. I needed that 💓

  • @deannam7681
    @deannam7681 2 роки тому

    Great advice as always Fumi. Love the blue liner 💙

  • @najatrealty3841
    @najatrealty3841 Рік тому

    Love your top. Where did you purchase it from? Thank you for the advice.

  • @aquillabennett8223
    @aquillabennett8223 Рік тому

    I might try i online dating again you have been alot of help thank you.

  • @wilinnef2726
    @wilinnef2726 Рік тому

    Thanks a lot for your advice! Good bless you!

  • @anirwothscovia3653
    @anirwothscovia3653 2 роки тому

    yes fumi at 1st i use not to like online dating but now i have joined one which is making me experience alot cz i meet different kind of people just as you said,thank for your advise dear

  • @sandrabaptiste3915
    @sandrabaptiste3915 2 роки тому

    Fumi that blue is beautiful 😍 💙..... u just made is sound so simple cos it's the world we now live in technology is the new way. Online dating 💕 I am currently trying and yes there are good ppl on these sites. All advice given I have followed so far and it's gr8t to hear u say it. Love in the house 🇹🇹 🏠 Fumi Nation.

  • @janicesanders9981
    @janicesanders9981 2 роки тому +1

    Great advice. Stay aware and be safe...

  • @wilinnef2726
    @wilinnef2726 Рік тому

    HI Fumi! Absolutly I love this video! I am Haitian!

  • @victoriaafanou4163
    @victoriaafanou4163 Рік тому

    Thank you Aunt Fumi,you look fabulous as always.

  • @rosemundyee6863
    @rosemundyee6863 Рік тому

    You are amazing, Bless You with a good husband. Fumi u can afford all these different eye make up. Lots of us cannot!
    Lot your videos.

  • @ladyarcher172
    @ladyarcher172 2 роки тому

    Thanks Fumi, some really solid advice in there

  • @lizebeth3524
    @lizebeth3524 Рік тому

    May God bless you darling for this wonderful advice 🙏🙏🙏❤️

  • @totamatsipa2511
    @totamatsipa2511 2 роки тому

    Online dating apps require one to come through and USE YOUR SENSES! And TRUST THAT INSTINCT!