“A moment of reflection can stop a bad situation from spiraling” this is sooo true. Just wait for the storm to pass and you will see everything more clearly
Every relationship I have, I was mostly the one who provided. And when the other person did provide, it’s not in a way I wanted or smth I want, even though they genuinely thought they’re helping me. You telling me that i don’t always have to accept everything other people give, just for the sake of receiving, opens a new perspective.
I’ve been thinking of starting a new UA-cam channel for the past year and one idea I had was what you’re doing right now - to provide captions in both English and Chinese, as I’m bilingual in those languages too. I’ve been travelling around the world for the past 1.5 years and realized how many in the world are wanting to learn these languages and how helpful it would be to have captions for such learners. Keep it up! 👍 Also, you strike me as such an INFJ, are you?
About the second or third comment on boundaries, when stepping back from an emotional situation, I recommend using the BLUE thought skill, seeing that your emotion is high, there is something also called opposite action, but blue though helps identify one if its a B. laming ourselves or others, L.ooking for the negative (seeing the glass as half empty), U nhappy guessing (fortun telling/mindreading), E. xaggerating. "sometimes we then operate as if these thoughts are definitely true, but it's important to look to see if they are TRUE or BLUE... How do we do that?" ya da ya dayada so like yea also this is more so helkpful if emotion regulation is really hard and like if u arent "neurotypical" and lash out easily, it could obviously when blue thought occurs to destres in any myraid of ways. like u said breathe is always there, try to honeslty breathe in with heartbeats, hold for a few, then breathe out for four, then hold, repeat for a few minutes or atleast a few cycles, then the three c's to catch the thought that came before the emotion. Dont be afraid to feel out and receive the thought, it comes from somewhere! but still its like reflectin on whatever previous situation may have cropped up the thought, that made u feel upset or anxious in the moment. "the goal is to start to identify what are some of the negative thoughts that our brain goes to automatically. check: reflect on how accurate and useful the thought is. with a blue thought we want to do something, as yk behaviours thoughts and emotion all connect in a fun "triangle" a triangle squished through our bending of spacetime our brain's solarsystem may represent. so they say ask two questions "Is my thought absolutely 1000% true? is My thought helpful?. if no to these two questions we move onto the next step... Change change the thought for a more accurate and helpful one. we can still have the distressing thought, in my eyes, correct me if i am wrong, i sometimes think my energy better spent on like more productive thoughts. so like mody th thought and it could?? lead to a better behaviour. or atleast in the moment give yourself a stress break, whatever it is. like cold water on face. massaging shoulders, stretching, yoga, breathing, positive thoughts, journaling, squishy self-soothe, wtvr wtvr. yea and if you cope ahead, meditatie etc. these stressful experiencess become more of the opportunity for growth that they are already
and through goign through these things you i guess can journal and reflect, see what went wwrong and see areas for growth and self-improvement, so we can set SMART goals (specific measurable actionable relevant timebound) and take breaks!! and talk with friends like with a therapist (with rizz i mean boundaries)
I needed this. I fell for a girl. We talk, she replies without a question, she knows that I love her, as I wrote few poems for her, but many times I was scared to express myself thinking I might be annoying, yet I did without a hesitation. I hope for nothing from her in return, but her smile is what I would love to say, but how could I not expect her to love me back "Someday"?
Hi kristine!! How are you today?? Thank you for another video, it is always a moment of peace watching your videos. Have you seen the news on South Korea?😢
@@yourstrulyprachee i'm not south korean but the news just shocked me and everybody. It seems now that the parliament voted to lift the declaration Everyone is just confused as us 😥
@@Axiiiii-666 It enacts temporary rule by the military. When martial law is in effect, the military commander has unlimited authority to make and enforce laws. It suspends all existing laws - meaning there can be a suspension of normal civil rights and the use of military law on the civilian population. The step is taken when the civilian authorities are deemed unable to function. It was a huge movement and will surely impact the political game..
I’m sorry, this video just popped up on me and tbh I haven’t still watched it but I just need to get this off my chest and need someone to give me an advice on the affair that I have with this girl. I am currently dating this girl I am super in love with for about half a year after being betrayed by my 2 exs. I literally thought I would never be able to love anyone for a while until she showed up in my life. She gave me a hope to believe in love again. Her presence and being able to be with her brought me out of a dark place I was in. So the current situation is that We have a long distance relationship. I live in Illinois and she lives in Cali. She is 19 and goes to college while me being 22 and have a full time job. So the communication is very important to me. I also fly to Cali every month to see her and it’s one of my favorite moments. I just celebrated her birthday last month at the hotel room I was staying in. I also am actually in Cali at the moment to see her tomorrow. The problem I find in this relationship lately though is that she also sometimes makes small lies like being a virgin (which I don’t give a damn haha), who she is hanging out with (she lied apparently because she did not want me to see her “cute friends”. She told me she is a jealous person), and etc. So I want you guys to help me out with this Since I can’t even open up about this to my friends just yet. She is a rich girl still living with her parents and her parents are super strict because they are Asians haha they literally monitor who she talks to. So she still can’t tell them we are dating just yet. So our relationship started when I met her for the first time in the gym and gave each other Snapchat. And we started talking on there. After three month of talking, we met again and talked in my car for an hour. There I quickly fell in love. She was very sweet and could tell she cared about me *I was going through some hardships at that time. We had our second meeting in my car and told each other we like each other and kissed. Since her parents do not allow her to date, that’s the only way we could meet when she goes to the gym. But eventually on our third meeting, she came over to the hotel room I was staying at close by because I had business meetings around her area. There we got intimate and shortly after she told me on snap that she loves me. But somehow I found out that she was talking to guys on snap she met online and was sending some pics to them *it was before we started casually dating though. So I told her to delete them all off if she is committed to this relationship. She did that and screenshotted me that she actually did it. So how we started our relationship wasn’t so perfect haha We also had been calling every nights until three weeks ago where she told me that she does not want to fall asleep on call anymore because she feels like she does not want to. I respected her needs and decided to call every couple days for 15-30 min. I then started to feel lonely because 1. We have a LDR, 2. Her not wanting to call everyday came out of nowhere, 3. She barely texts me now during the day - sometimes literally one or two texts and she is gone. All these factors above makes me overthink so one day I expressed my feelings of wanting to stay in touch at least little more. She says she will work on it. It gets better for a few days or a week at the longest and gets back to how it was. This becomes a cycle for us now. I’m actually super frustrated because I sometimes see her being online on games and see her playing with other guy who I don’t even know where she met after her not replying to me in text at night. I still try to find reasons to stay because I truly love the girl. And I’m probably little attached since my past relationships broke me emotionally which I opened up to her about and she appreciated me for that which was two weeks ago. I recently told her not to contact through Snapchat because she can’t have it during the day - or at least that’s what she told me. So we contact through whatsapp now. Nothing has changed though, still the same - she mainly texts me during the night. Tomorrow though, I am going to meet her at her college. I have the bracelet I bought for her which I could not give for her birthday. I’m thinking of asking her who she talks on whatsapp before giving the bracelet to her and have her show it to me on the spot so she will have no time to delete. But I am super freaking scared, guys. Should I do it? If I find something suspicious, I’m determined to walk away from this but I know it will break my heart again. What do y’all think? Is this worth it?
@@Horizon0505iije i think it is worth it not just for her but for you too. Do it and see how it goes. Time will reveal things that you might not see now but honestly, having a secret relationship is just so tiring. Physically and mentally tiring. You both must be tired of this too. Try to be open because comunication is one of the best things you can do when everything is a fog. Talk about how are you feeling and see how she responds to it. She needs to be more compromised in my opinion (as a girl speaking, If I enter a relationship that i'm not so sure about I would be just sooo anxious). But at the same time, uni must be really stressful for her too.) So speak with her when she is with a clear mind and open to hear. It will help both of you.
I have a question. I was taught to create goals and work toward it to achieve it but you implied "focus on the present and not to see far ahead in the future" which doesn't align with goal setting.
$ mintes @! seconds huh? lmao, predict the ever changing status of the galactic systems, rotated around the ever changing space time, that can be folded in infinite ways, yet further more time becomes a sort of like guide of many infinite guides, and to go off we see and go forward would be the best way to do, i think.
“A moment of reflection can stop a bad situation from spiraling” this is sooo true. Just wait for the storm to pass and you will see everything more clearly
Every relationship I have, I was mostly the one who provided. And when the other person did provide, it’s not in a way I wanted or smth I want, even though they genuinely thought they’re helping me. You telling me that i don’t always have to accept everything other people give, just for the sake of receiving, opens a new perspective.
Every time you post I believe hope again
Never stop uploading
yo, what you have said is beautiful, i love you, spread love, love as much as you can, love
Love the Chinese subtitles (and this video)! Please keep it up :)
very clear and concise! great video as always :)
this was so meaningful and pretty. loved it
She won’t ever read this, but wow, she is beautiful both inside and outside, very calming before sleep
Your videos are so calming idk why. Thanks for uploading
This is exactly what I need to hear I'm so glad I found this video at this moment I am so blessed
I’ve been thinking of starting a new UA-cam channel for the past year and one idea I had was what you’re doing right now - to provide captions in both English and Chinese, as I’m bilingual in those languages too. I’ve been travelling around the world for the past 1.5 years and realized how many in the world are wanting to learn these languages and how helpful it would be to have captions for such learners. Keep it up! 👍
Also, you strike me as such an INFJ, are you?
Just found your chennel yesterday, really nice and helpful channeĺ👍👍
About the second or third comment on boundaries, when stepping back from an emotional situation, I recommend using the BLUE thought skill, seeing that your emotion is high, there is something also called opposite action, but blue though helps identify one if its a B. laming ourselves or others, L.ooking for the negative (seeing the glass as half empty), U nhappy guessing (fortun telling/mindreading), E. xaggerating. "sometimes we then operate as if these thoughts are definitely true, but it's important to look to see if they are TRUE or BLUE... How do we do that?" ya da ya dayada so like yea also this is more so helkpful if emotion regulation is really hard and like if u arent "neurotypical" and lash out easily, it could obviously when blue thought occurs to destres in any myraid of ways. like u said breathe is always there, try to honeslty breathe in with heartbeats, hold for a few, then breathe out for four, then hold, repeat for a few minutes or atleast a few cycles, then the three c's to catch the thought that came before the emotion. Dont be afraid to feel out and receive the thought, it comes from somewhere! but still its like reflectin on whatever previous situation may have cropped up the thought, that made u feel upset or anxious in the moment. "the goal is to start to identify what are some of the negative thoughts that our brain goes to automatically. check: reflect on how accurate and useful the thought is. with a blue thought we want to do something, as yk behaviours thoughts and emotion all connect in a fun "triangle" a triangle squished through our bending of spacetime our brain's solarsystem may represent. so they say ask two questions "Is my thought absolutely 1000% true? is My thought helpful?. if no to these two questions we move onto the next step... Change change the thought for a more accurate and helpful one. we can still have the distressing thought, in my eyes, correct me if i am wrong, i sometimes think my energy better spent on like more productive thoughts. so like mody th thought and it could?? lead to a better behaviour. or atleast in the moment give yourself a stress break, whatever it is. like cold water on face. massaging shoulders, stretching, yoga, breathing, positive thoughts, journaling, squishy self-soothe, wtvr wtvr. yea and if you cope ahead, meditatie etc. these stressful experiencess become more of the opportunity for growth that they are already
and through goign through these things you i guess can journal and reflect, see what went wwrong and see areas for growth and self-improvement, so we can set SMART goals (specific measurable actionable relevant timebound) and take breaks!! and talk with friends like with a therapist (with rizz i mean boundaries)
Your videos help me healing
thanks, for reminder us..
I like how u hold for 3s to say "process" in part of "emotional"
another graceful video, thanks krist, sending love always ❤
Healing is not the end goal, It's the journey.
I needed this. I fell for a girl. We talk, she replies without a question, she knows that I love her, as I wrote few poems for her, but many times I was scared to express myself thinking I might be annoying, yet I did without a hesitation. I hope for nothing from her in return, but her smile is what I would love to say, but how could I not expect her to love me back "Someday"?
I really enjoy these videos and help us go through difficult times. Thank for for radiating good vibes! Keep it up!
You would get along with my freind group. 🎉Great and much love 💖
You always bright up day gurl..keep posting ❤
you and your videos are the best
such a helpful channel!
Every video you make is amazing and they are always so nice to watch :]
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thank you christine
I hope that your smile always stays with you and hope that we all have a similar one
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Hi kristine!! How are you today?? Thank you for another video, it is always a moment of peace watching your videos. Have you seen the news on South Korea?😢
Can you tell me what happened? Why did the president declare martial law so suddenly?
@@yourstrulyprachee i'm not south korean but the news just shocked me and everybody. It seems now that the parliament voted to lift the declaration
Everyone is just confused as us
😥
@@littlequeen8369 Wait what? what happened? What's a martial law?
@@Axiiiii-666 It enacts temporary rule by the military.
When martial law is in effect, the military commander has unlimited authority to make and enforce laws.
It suspends all existing laws - meaning there can be a suspension of normal civil rights and the use of military law on the civilian population. The step is taken when the civilian authorities are deemed unable to function.
It was a huge movement and will surely impact the political game..
I love the analogy to the solar system
Like your video!!
I’m sorry, this video just popped up on me and tbh I haven’t still watched it but I just need to get this off my chest and need someone to give me an advice on the affair that I have with this girl.
I am currently dating this girl I am super in love with for about half a year after being betrayed by my 2 exs. I literally thought I would never be able to love anyone for a while until she showed up in my life. She gave me a hope to believe in love again. Her presence and being able to be with her brought me out of a dark place I was in.
So the current situation is that We have a long distance relationship. I live in Illinois and she lives in Cali. She is 19 and goes to college while me being 22 and have a full time job. So the communication is very important to me.
I also fly to Cali every month to see her and it’s one of my favorite moments. I just celebrated her birthday last month at the hotel room I was staying in.
I also am actually in Cali at the moment to see her tomorrow.
The problem I find in this relationship lately though is that she also sometimes makes small lies like being a virgin (which I don’t give a damn haha), who she is hanging out with (she lied apparently because she did not want me to see her “cute friends”. She told me she is a jealous person), and etc.
So I want you guys to help me out with this Since I can’t even open up about this to my friends just yet.
She is a rich girl still living with her parents and her parents are super strict because they are Asians haha they literally monitor who she talks to. So she still can’t tell them we are dating just yet.
So our relationship started when I met her for the first time in the gym and gave each other Snapchat. And we started talking on there. After three month of talking, we met again and talked in my car for an hour. There I quickly fell in love. She was very sweet and could tell she cared about me *I was going through some hardships at that time. We had our second meeting in my car and told each other we like each other and kissed.
Since her parents do not allow her to date, that’s the only way we could meet when she goes to the gym. But eventually on our third meeting, she came over to the hotel room I was staying at close by because I had business meetings around her area. There we got intimate and shortly after she told me on snap that she loves me.
But somehow I found out that she was talking to guys on snap she met online and was sending some pics to them *it was before we started casually dating though. So I told her to delete them all off if she is committed to this relationship. She did that and screenshotted me that she actually did it. So how we started our relationship wasn’t so perfect haha
We also had been calling every nights until three weeks ago where she told me that she does not want to fall asleep on call anymore because she feels like she does not want to. I respected her needs and decided to call every couple days for 15-30 min.
I then started to feel lonely because 1. We have a LDR, 2. Her not wanting to call everyday came out of nowhere, 3. She barely texts me now during the day - sometimes literally one or two texts and she is gone.
All these factors above makes me overthink so one day I expressed my feelings of wanting to stay in touch at least little more. She says she will work on it. It gets better for a few days or a week at the longest and gets back to how it was. This becomes a cycle for us now. I’m actually super frustrated because I sometimes see her being online on games and see her playing with other guy who I don’t even know where she met after her not replying to me in text at night.
I still try to find reasons to stay because I truly love the girl. And I’m probably little attached since my past relationships broke me emotionally which I opened up to her about and she appreciated me for that which was two weeks ago.
I recently told her not to contact through Snapchat because she can’t have it during the day - or at least that’s what she told me. So we contact through whatsapp now. Nothing has changed though, still the same - she mainly texts me during the night.
Tomorrow though, I am going to meet her at her college. I have the bracelet I bought for her which I could not give for her birthday. I’m thinking of asking her who she talks on whatsapp before giving the bracelet to her and have her show it to me on the spot so she will have no time to delete.
But I am super freaking scared, guys.
Should I do it? If I find something suspicious, I’m determined to walk away from this but I know it will break my heart again.
What do y’all think? Is this worth it?
@@Horizon0505iije i think it is worth it not just for her but for you too. Do it and see how it goes. Time will reveal things that you might not see now but honestly, having a secret relationship is just so tiring. Physically and mentally tiring. You both must be tired of this too. Try to be open because comunication is one of the best things you can do when everything is a fog.
Talk about how are you feeling and see how she responds to it. She needs to be more compromised in my opinion (as a girl speaking, If I enter a relationship that i'm not so sure about I would be just sooo anxious). But at the same time, uni must be really stressful for her too.) So speak with her when she is with a clear mind and open to hear. It will help both of you.
Thanks Kristhine
thank u
I have a question. I was taught to create goals and work toward it to achieve it but you implied "focus on the present and not to see far ahead in the future" which doesn't align with goal setting.
Set robust goals ahead of time so that you can enjoy the present! It's like planning ahead well :D
@@Kjckjckjc now i got it it's not about living in the present rather not dwell in the imagination of future
yoo
this is so skibidi
$ mintes @! seconds huh? lmao, predict the ever changing status of the galactic systems, rotated around the ever changing space time, that can be folded in infinite ways, yet further more time becomes a sort of like guide of many infinite guides, and to go off we see and go forward would be the best way to do, i think.