As a therapist--I hate to say this--but most of my fellow therapist, especially the younger ones, aren't astute, they're just rolling with any red-herring that's thrown out there--that can frankly eat up a client's time, effectively spinning the tires. Of course on the other end, there's the client who is in denial and resistant to honestly examine their defensive mechanisms when presented with the problematic topic or individual. Those folks oftentimes will not return to therapy (firstly) because the topic is too painful (secondly) will expose more of themselves than they are prepared to explore or divulge. It is a unique situation when a client is willing to turn on the lights and delve into resolving the battles in their mind.
This is so useful! I had a thought... Mindfulness techniques are not a band-aid, but a tool for strengthening the ability for equanimity and clear seeing. I can see what you probably meant, though... that mindfulness to manage only the symptoms where there is no deeper insight work could be then used as band-aid.
While this is helpful and I agree, eith the premise, sometimes these defense mechanisms keep the client from feeling too overwhelmed by emotion...This is wonderful info. but I do believe with some clients timing is key....Resistence then is protective up to a point.
In my experience one of the fundamental fallacies of therapy is that people suffer due to lack of awareness and insight. And that suffering will cease once the therapist furnishes the necessary insights. Not the case for me. I suffer because of life experiences and life situation. I think it;s rather dangerous to subject yourself to this sort of psychic surgery with the assumption that the therapist knows your own inner world better than you, and can safely navigate it and root out the suffering.
+baconlatte I agree that cognitive insight and awareness alone does not make for good therapy ... I've had plenty of clients come into a first appointment with tons of insight ... they've psychoanalyzed themselves inside out and have most of their 'stuff' figured out. So yes, therapy has to be more than that. I also agree that life experience often causes a kind of suffering that will not go away with insight, but I do think that even in these situations it can be helpful to talk to someone for emotional support or assistance. For example, we often help clients feel the full range of their experience to prevent getting emotionally 'stuck' in one place and we may challenge rigid thinking to open a client up to new ways of facing even the most intractable situations. I think a good therapist is not claiming to 'know' your inner world, so much as they want to understand it (as best they can) in the way that you do, so that they can work with you collaboratively to find fruitful paths to experiential change. Good therapists won't assume to know what that will look like because it will vary with each person and the unique situations they face in daily living.
I just discovered your videos and they are blowing my mind. I'm so excited to watch them all. Thank you!
Would love to see your take on how this fits into personality disorders.
I am really learning a lot from your videos. Plz continue on. Thank you.
As a therapist--I hate to say this--but most of my fellow therapist, especially the younger ones, aren't astute, they're just rolling with any red-herring that's thrown out there--that can frankly eat up a client's time, effectively spinning the tires. Of course on the other end, there's the client who is in denial and resistant to honestly examine their defensive mechanisms when presented with the problematic topic or individual. Those folks oftentimes will not return to therapy (firstly) because the topic is too painful (secondly) will expose more of themselves than they are prepared to explore or divulge. It is a unique situation when a client is willing to turn on the lights and delve into resolving the battles in their mind.
This is so useful!
I had a thought... Mindfulness techniques are not a band-aid, but a tool for strengthening the ability for equanimity and clear seeing. I can see what you probably meant, though... that mindfulness to manage only the symptoms where there is no deeper insight work could be then used as band-aid.
Would love some role plays
I absolutely agree. If I can find someone else to go on camera with me, that will be the first thing I'd try to do.
I love these videos. Please make more.
This is Rogers’ understanding of defence mechanisms.
While this is helpful and I agree, eith the premise, sometimes these defense mechanisms keep the client from feeling too overwhelmed by emotion...This is wonderful info. but I do believe with some clients timing is key....Resistence then is protective up to a point.
Actually some defense mechanisms like Suppression can be a conscious avoidance of some thoughts and feelings.
that was really helpful thank you
Awesome video! Very knowledgeable and helpful! :)
This is helping alot keep it up
In my experience one of the fundamental fallacies of therapy is that people suffer due to lack of awareness and insight. And that suffering will cease once the therapist furnishes the necessary insights. Not the case for me. I suffer because of life experiences and life situation. I think it;s rather dangerous to subject yourself to this sort of psychic surgery with the assumption that the therapist knows your own inner world better than you, and can safely navigate it and root out the suffering.
+baconlatte I agree that cognitive insight and awareness alone does not make for good therapy ... I've had plenty of clients come into a first appointment with tons of insight ... they've psychoanalyzed themselves inside out and have most of their 'stuff' figured out. So yes, therapy has to be more than that.
I also agree that life experience often causes a kind of suffering that will not go away with insight, but I do think that even in these situations it can be helpful to talk to someone for emotional support or assistance. For example, we often help clients feel the full range of their experience to prevent getting emotionally 'stuck' in one place and we may challenge rigid thinking to open a client up to new ways of facing even the most intractable situations.
I think a good therapist is not claiming to 'know' your inner world, so much as they want to understand it (as best they can) in the way that you do, so that they can work with you collaboratively to find fruitful paths to experiential change. Good therapists won't assume to know what that will look like because it will vary with each person and the unique situations they face in daily living.
Excellent!
I find it useful
Wow. very insightful.
Honei B Thanks for your comment. Glad you enjoyed the video.