I Have Regrets! || Mayim Bialik
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- Опубліковано 29 сер 2024
- Hey, it’s Mayim, and I used to be the kind of person who said I had no regrets. Well, it’s time to admit that I was lying. Oops. This video is all about facing the fact that I’ve done (or not done) things I regret in the past, and how I’m learning to come to terms with a new attitude in order to move forward with...less regrets. Do you have no regrets? Let me know in the comments how you do it!
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About Mayim Bialik:
You might know me as Amy Farrah Fowler from The Big Bang Theory or from Blossom but there are so many other parts of me that you might not be aware of! I’m trained as a neuroscientist, I'm a passionate activist, an observant Jew, a perfectly imperfect mother, and I'm a complicated human being like many of you. This is the place where I wear all of those hats - and none of them have a flower on them! ;)
This is actually the quality content I joined You Tube for!
Honestly, I love every single video you posted!
Sometimes they make me laugh, and sometimes even cry (a bit).
But mainly they make me think about so many important things in life.
So thank you Mayim!👏💕
Gina 123 I agree. Exactly what you said. It makes me think about the important things in life. All the food talk made me remember a saying "eat dessert first in case you choke on dinner".
Gina 123 me too! Truly love her and her brain and her body and her imperfections and compassion.
Very well said...her openness is very refreshing.
I agree, and like that she talks fast enough and gets right to the point.
When my husband was terminally ill, I was his only care giver. I regret that I wasn't as patient and loving as I could have been. I should have talked with him about how HE felt through all this instead of keeping everything orderly and under control on my part. I guess that kept my mind off the pain of it all. He would call me his angel and I never felt worthy of this.
"I wanted to work out yesterday... but I napped instead."
Mayim is all of us 😂
Tbh
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I think Mayim just saved my life. I’m turning 26 in a few days and I needed to see this.
Butterfly Eyes happy belated birthday
Hey, have fun! I am 36 and still learning, love yourself and enjoy the ride 😉
Happy upcoming 27th. 😁
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I'm pushing 70 and the regrets keep piling up - but so do the smiles. Thank u for sharing this video. It is very meaningful
Maya Angelou once said, "When you know better, you do better." That stuck with me and has helped me forgive myself for my mistakes and the things I regret. Thank you for your wonderful videos Mayim.
She did not say it first... but we all steal wisdom. Right?
I regret being so hard on myself that I often forget to enjoy life.
Samee!! ❤
I forget about my regrets then remember them at all at once at 3 am...
Tru dat
Have you tried meditation when you wake up at 3am?
@@Perros333 I think for meditation to work you'd have to try it before 3am so that when you're agitated ur already in the practice of observing your thoughts.
Same! Why does my mind want to play a PowerPoint of my life’s biggest mistakes in the calm of the night?!
Ain’t that the truth!
I remember myself at 42 being a lot like you. Nearly 10 years on, I can say that you just start letting go of stuff. You really do. You don't even have to tell yourself to let things go, after spending all those years wishing you could let them go and trying to figure out a way to let them go. You just find that you haven't thought about whatever it was in ages, and you realise it doesn't bother you anymore. You've moved on. Maybe it comes along with accepting the limitations of one's ageing body, which you seem to be beginning to get to grips with. At least that's been my experience. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, which reflect the thoughts we all have, for being human and real, and for showing us who you are in this moment. Best wishes.
Carla Tate truly lovely what you said 💖
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Carla Tate very true. I am mid 50's, and have come to the same conclusions. I just wish I had learned to let go of things sooner. I have also finally learned it is not about me. For instance, the rude woman who yelled at me in the grocery store, not about me, her issue. My father that never cared about me, not my issue, his. I used to feel that things were about me, and my fault, something wrong/lacking in me. I no longer see it that way, huge relief!
Your comment brought me joy. Thank you.
Yep. You stop worrying about the small stuff when you get older. You realize you only have so much time left, so you live!
Eloquent, vulnerable and beautiful. Thanks for being so engaging and sincere! Your videos make the world a better place!
i stop myself having regrets by reminding myself that i did my best at the time to cope with all the issues that i had. That my parents did not gave my any tools to deal with it and that if my life and mind is healthier and happier today it is because i learned to be. So i can be very proud for evolving that much.
Ok i have to remind myself of all of that pretty regularly but it works. I go to regrets to compassion for myself pretty quickely
Lots of love to you🤗💟💞💖 you have done so well for yourself🌹
You know Mayim, the worst form of regret is when some bad decision on your part causes some
extreme harm to someone you really care for. And it feels worse when you know that you cannot
really do anything to make things better for them. Except, maybe, praying.
Thank you so much for bringing smile to so many people's lives through your works, including me. And I hope you will read this.
You have one of the best personalities and smiles I have ever seen. Thank you.
I appreciate and respect such honest open dialogue. Its so rare that you see a celebrity just be real admit mortality and normalcy.
Anxiety is a thief, it's robbed me of so much over the years. Thanks for sharing
Diana dPuck Same here. I've just been put on new medication for mine.
Definetly.
Diana dPuck same here
Diana dPuck ... You've said so much in just a few well chosen words. Thank you.
I loved how you put it. It’s indeed a thief.
I regret not leaving a toxic relationship years even when everyone in my life told me it was bad.
Me too. I regret giving him a chance in the first place, when I knew he was "gross"...he told me otherwise, and cheated on me for 7 years while I took care of his 4 kids from the ex (who was a whole Other mess). ~~Thank goodness we aren't in that mess now~~ ...is easier to say...but I'm still trying to feel it every day. 🤗
Same here! My regret making excuses for the father of my kids when I continue to keep it toxic. My fault. Who's fault.
@@KellyLaneYoga May God bless you! Please take care ❤️❤️❤️
@@mandarabattalahalli37 ....thank you so very much. 🙏😊 💜 namaste
Thanks for sharing, Mayim. Most people seem to think there's going to be some big payoff somewhere in the journey, so they wait and wait and waste valuable time. And forget that THIS is it. This is the payoff. Every waking moment you have is the gift. Make the most of it. Use those regrets as fuel to learn from your mistakes and become better.
Dave Lanciani you should be an inspirational speaker. That was good! Many people never learn that.
Omg! I think I love this women! Bless you Mayim! So beautiful to see a famous celebrity keep it so real and honest with her fans on such a huge all access platform!
"I may never" is a game that I've been playing a lot since I turned 30
Oof, yes. So tough.
nkole mwaba wait til you're 55 and you know there are age restrictions on things you always thought were a possibility some day. Total freakout.
Donna Mills :( Age restrictions? Like what? The certainty of ageing is something that has always haunted me since I was a child. The older I get, the more I see the rationality of my fear.
Nina Fuckeodogder there are a lot of things in life we feel we can still do or try or use as a backup, should we so need or desire. The most obvious that comes to mind is joining something like the military, border patrol or police force. Those all have age limits on them as to how old you can be to enlist/be hired. While they may have never crossed your mind, consider ageism in the general workforce. If you lose your skilled job at age 50 or 60 you may be discriminated against for hire so they can hire someone a bit greener that they feel hasn't acquired undesirable habits and that they can pay half of what you were making, and need to make to pay for the lifestyle you have amassed.
Beyond 45 (which comes up HELLA fast), you're not likely to successfully BEGIN a new career as a doctor, lawyer, model, actress, singer, flight attendant, etc. and, if you start a brand new career - say as lawyer, you are not likely to break in to your field beyond the age of 55, period. Ageism is a real thing and one that you come to accept as the years tick by.
Donna Mills But isn't there the calmness that also comes with ageing? Ohhh, I yearn for the calmness of old age. When things are there just because, and nothing else. When you look through the mirror and the wrinkly smile bears so much more intrigue than all those years when you tried to hide it. Ohhh, white hair and wrinkles, i can't wait to have em
I regret wasting so many years on being self conscious about the way I look and what people think of the way I look. And I regret how much more time I will continue to do so. Thank you Mayim for sharing so much of yourself with us. Hugs from Canada!
I dont really have any regrets. I am extremely forgetful so, i'll do something, regret it, then forget about it.
Kinda same
Hannah Rose Reviews wow, sure wish I could do that, & forget regret & just be able to learn from them then ..MOVE ON..
Dory's Blessings , lol
That was me in childhood except as soon as I began getting depression I remembered all of them
I turned 45 last month and I have felt like the only 40-something in existence for the last 5 years. These honest videos by a woman I’ve never met and never will meet are like flickering candles in the darkness.
“I regret that I did not put enough effort into learning statistics in graduate school” omygoooosh this is me
shabytin yeah, me too. I miss an A by literally a half a point.
shabytin me too
shabytin I don’t regret that at all.
Can't relate 😂
shabytin I read this literally as she said it😆
As a retired teacher, I used to tell single parents to stop feeling guilty and trying to give their children too much stuff because of that guilt. I said they had to tell their kids, "This is how our life is. We will do the best we can." That is how I try to live my life. God's grace and forgiveness carries me through!
I regret not being kinder to my family, and not living for myself but letting others pick my dreams. Now at 32 I’m working on doing what I love, and being more kind.
Broken. I just said it the other day. I laid in bed for an hour crying and throwing a tantrum at God, at the universe. I am tired of being a broken person, I am tired of being flawed, but I will be this person for the rest of my life, I will always need to be on guard and monitoring my every move to keep my addiction at bay. I envy neurotypicality. However, I got up, took my blanket to the living room, and I stopped isolating. I didn't talk to my family, but I listened. And for me, that is progress. Every. Single. Day. Is so hard. But I see a therapist and a nurse practicioner and attend bi-weekly group therapy with five other beautiful women just like me. I set realistic goals for myself. I tell my therapist if she is pushing too much for my current mental state. I am trying to be more honest with myself, and from that I learned I needed to give myself permission to focus on my life and my needs, which was the best gift I ever gave myself.
Sarah Lewis slow progress is the only real progress! Unfortunately we can’t fix these problems quickly, so keep going and feel proud of your progress!
What if you're not flawed? Sometimes I wonder if we incarnated into this life *specifically* to navigate the world with the challenges that make us feel encumbered, not to escape them. Facing every day not knowing how you're going to feel, especially with an addiction in tow, takes real courage. Struggle isn't a failure, it's strength, even when it feels horrible and defeating.
M S This is beautiful and powerful message. Very wise, thank you!
Sarah Lewis You are so strong, I wish all the best for you!
Sarah Lewis awww hugs. I FEEL you
I suggest you learn to accept all the things you wish to disagree with, true wisdom only comes to those who accept things how they REALLY are regardless of your own apathy. I think we should all learn that at an extremely young age. We still have adults figuring that out, kinda pathetic
Im 29 and deeply regret being a recluse. There are 15 year olds that have experienced the world much more than I have.
Stephanie Sanchez I am 64 and can relate.😍
Stephen,
I regret the “experiences” aka bad choices I made as a 15 year old. I think that you should be grateful that you are at an age to think through the experiences you want in life before you make the choices. Now I am 34, a recluse by nature, and loving it. I have only connections and experiences that are meaningful to me. It’s never to late to create the life you want. ❤️
Dear Mayim, i just want to say how much this video help me and my wife who is struggling with health issues the last 10 years of her life. Most of the time she is very emotional and feeling tired and scared, because she just don't know how to overcome it all. Your video made her think and see things from your point of you, and gave her courage and strength, and for that we both thank you. You are an amazing human being.God bless you.
I feel like having regrets is a sign that you have lived, tried, taken risks, challenged, expressed etc... I feel like the key is to forgive yourself, ask for forgiveness of others and keep living.
I think we all have a lot of the same regrets you've mentioned. Keep in mind, there are many stages of "regret". I used to regret missing somebody's birthday or not doing more for others. I used to focus on my mental health issues, which left me either yelling at people or crying because I yelled at people. I regretted not having enough energy to complete the vicious "to do" list I had made out for myself......
Then, almost 13 years ago, I was in a nasty auto accident that took away my ability to WALK. You can't even imagine how that feels. You hear the news & hear words like amputation & wheelchair availability, etc. You HEAR it, but it only really sinks in the first time you need to go to the bathroom & quickly discover that such a menial chore is not a quick "run" any longer. All your pain can be dampened with medication, but the concept of "this is my new life" takes a while to sink in.
I remember when I was released from my initial 3 month hospital stay - I was waiting in the car while my friend went inside the pharmacy to get my prescriptions filled. As I sat there, a couple in a Jeep pulled into the parking space next to me & they were loudly arguing about why she wore such a hideous color of nail polish......NAIL POLISH! This couple were fighting mad with each other, screaming at each other over this seemingly trivial subject. I wanted to scream at them, "AT LEAST YOU CAN WALK, You idiotic so-and-so's!", but realized my sentiment would likely be lost on them. That has stayed with me for a long time, though. It's so true that people don't miss things until they're gone - like the ability to walk.
So - not to belittle your regrets, but try to put those regrets on the back burner & focus on what you HAVE. You do so much, including these YTube videos (which we all enjoy). It's healthy to learn from your regrets, but don't forget to acknowledge all the positive you have put into the world, as well. I look back NOW & wonder why I used to spend so much time & energy fretting over things I couldn't change - I never EVER even considered that I had it pretty dang good. Just sayin' ~
Not only are you an Amazing actress.. You are also so open and honest.. You also say alot of thigs that i can personally relate to. I can honestly say you are someone to look up to. ❤
I feel like you spoke every thought in my heart tonight. A life full of regrets. Anxiety. Depression. Illness. Waiting to live until a time when...but there never will be a time without problems, without pain. I can't put my life on hold any longer. Thank you.
I appreciate how deeply personal this video was, Mayim. Thanks, as always. I regret that I don’t have a better relationship with my oldest child. It may take a few years before he is mature enough for us to be able to address our issues. But I’m hopeful that we will.
I think learning to live with regrets is a very important life lesson. And unlike school, these lessons take years and years to complete. It feels like accepting yourself and your shortcomings are the key things here, instead of wondering why we are not living in the amazing, glamorous future we imagined. Thank You once again, MAYIM, for sharing your thoughts with us and for showing us it's OKAY to be human and make mistakes! Love xxx
What helps me to move on from my regrets is telling myself, "what's done is done." Because I can't control the past events in my life. But, I can control what choices I make in the future.
I completely love this video because it’s so relevant to my life. For the first two years after highschool i was awfully depressed due to my highschool regrets and envied people who didn't have them. I felt like I was drowning while everyone else was swimming until I found out there was a girl in highschool who I thought had a great experience in highschool until she started talking about her regrets and it made me feel less alone she had the same regrets. It's important to know that everyone , especially people who seem to have it all, have regrets. We need to get rid of the stigma of regrets!
The way I live without regret is to own my actions. If I screw up, I fess up. I take responsibility for my actions. That may be when it happens if I realize I messed up, or it may be years later when it comes to me that what I did wasn't cool. I know that every single thing that I've done or has happened to me has made me who I am now, and I don't want to regret being me. Love you, Mayim!
I regret that I didn't thank my parents enough for all the love and support they have given me my entire life...and I regret being selfish and never trying to stand in other people's shoes to understand the difficulties they were going through in their life...I regret not thanking my friends enough for caring so much about me and being there when I need them...and I regret not reciprocating the love of everyone around me enough :(
There was a time in my life that I felt almost stuck in regret. I couldn't forgive myself for letting opportunities pass, making the wrong decisions, picking the wrong mates. I just felt ill-equipped for life. I worked really hard on forgiving myself and I stopped beating myself up for not living up to some "potential" I and others had placed on me in childhood. Now, I like the idea of just living my life in the small details. I'm trying to move out of my own way so I can be the person I am right now; not who I thought I was going to be, not the person I still ,at times, think I should be but just who I am. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
This made me tear up. It seems like I regret everything in my life and I can’t picture ever feeling joy or even just being ok with who I become. This gave me a little hint of hope.
Life can never be perfect. The secret to living a life without regrets is to stop looking for that elusive perfect life. Be grateful for what you have, do good and share happiness( and sorrow).
In addition, I love your videos. Please keep'em coming :-)
I appreciate how you are a “what you see is what you get” type of person. Thanks. I like you.
Funny, poignant, honest and wise. I love this channel because the videos always give me food for thought. I regret wasting my time wishing something hadn't happened or hoping things won't happen in the future over which I have zero control. Like you, I'm trying to be mindful, accept my faults and virtues and tell myself constantly that life is just stream.
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I understand.. I'm like that also
You’re so real. So many times... you’ve made me cry on account of someone else in the world also understanding. Thanks for sharing Mayim :)). I hope you’re having a really nice day ☺️👍🌟♥️🐾‼️
I have been trying to mitigate my regret by trying to make others happy in seemingly innocuous ways. I greeted the Indian guy at the gas station today by name, and he was so excited he high fives and fist bumped me. I have very had anxiety at the grocery store, but I have been sincerely complimenting or helping others and it brings me not and calm. Finding these coping mechanisms has taken me over 4 decades, but I have found that it's really the little things in life that make a big difference!
I have a question. Although I like what you're saying about making people happy in little ways I'm wondering why you said you're greeted the Indian guy. I'm just asking because I'm 99.9% sure if this man was white you would have just said you greeted the man...etc. What does him being Indian have to do with it? It's a real question
Thanks Mayim, it isn’t so lonely when hearing others struggle the same way I do. I regret not reaching out to my father when his addiction became too much for him to handle causing him to take his life. I simply didn’t want to deal with his drama and now I forever live with regret.
There is no "dress rehearsal " is succinct. At 61 I have less time ahead of me than the life I had looking back. Where did it all go and where am I wasting precious minutes? Today instead of sleeping-in on my day off I got up early, dug up and moved a beautiful rose bush closer to my patio where I can sit all summer long and enjoy its intoxicating fragrance wafting in on the breezes. But more importantly, in it's old spot in my garden I planted a pear tree where it will begin to fruit the first summer I retire. Planting trees all around me I have become aware of the passage of time on a grand scale. The 3ft Dogwood and Magnolias are 40ft tall now. The 20ft fir is a staggering 140ft. It is both awe inspiring and heartbreaking as I am not ready to be old and to die. I have so many things still left to experience.
You are a poet! A gew years back I had a house and wents nuts gardening! I hopr to do it again in a few years. Starting your morning out seeing the brand new flowers your plants put out for you, and reveling in the breezes and scents...love!
God made us all different so we would have different experiences.
Thank you for giving me permission to have regrets. And, I think I need to listen to this over and over again.
I have two major regrets. The first, not going to see my mom February 27, 2013 when she asked me to come over. And second, not riding in the ambulance the day she unexpectedly passed at 47 years old, on February 28, 2013. I still cry over these regrets.
I'm so sorry, now I am crying too...
Oh... so sorry Krystle. We can't come over our parents ask us to each time though... so think about how you could not have possible come over the 127 times she asked you before that and you could not make time,or were too tired, or... the last time hurts in retrospect, of course, but maybe it helps you to put it into this perspective? It surely helped me.
Having a hard time doing all that here too : healing/ acceptance through regrets, healing through illness, fears, brokenness from marriage, kids, work, life, etc...
A lifetime of learning, living, loving, hurting, then forgiving those less than positive things that make us human
"Not comparing myself to the image of who I think I should be"
Woah
As a little girl, I grew up admiring your talents on "Blossom". You were my favorite sitcom " child star". Above all the Tanner girls. What garnered my admiration was your authenticity and true beauty. You inspired me to become the writer I also dreamed to be. So, I wanted to take a moment and say, Thank you. Thank you for believing in yourself and staying true to your own authentic self through the nefarious world of "Hollywood" inspiring me to keep believing in myself, doing me, what I love, with no regrets Whenever I watch you on "Big Bang", an interview on Ellen, these youtube vlogs or Blossom reruns, you still inspire me to live my life with no regrets as much as possible. So, thank you again for still being such a superb role model for myself and so many other women who continue to grow in this valley called life. Choosing to see the lilies and lilacs instead of the thistles and weeds. Though all these years, thank you for being so beautiful in all these same relatable stages of our life's path, 42 years into God's screenplay. God Bless You! Always.
I regret not being who I am for so many years. I stayed depressed and alone bc I was afraid of what people (family) would think of me. My mother had 8 children and raised us alone after my dad passed. We all are so close that I regret not trusting them enough to know that their love for me is and will always be unconditional. I am a gay woman who did not come out until I was 36 years old. Now I am married to an amazing woman (10 yrs together) and happier than I ever have been at age 48 yrs old.
And LOVE YOU SO MUCH ! Every episode of Big Bang and every episode of Blossom (growing up). But I recently watched all episodes of Blossom over again! You are a true inspiration to women everywhere!
Recently turning 43, I can admittedly say I have regrets. Many in fact, however I have learned like you, to live one day at a time. Losing most of my immediate family by my early 30’s, living with a chronic illness and dealing with the everyday woes, I’ve learned to live my life like each day is my last. Life is short and redos are probably not an option.
I loved this video Mayim. I'm only 23 and sometimes feel like I'm never going to end with my struggles ... But as you say, this is ME, I may or may not get the big picture in the end, but this is my life. Thank you xo
I learned many years ago how to deal with my regrets. What works for me is to find some sort of lesson from each and every regret. Some times it is a big learning experience and some times it's a teeny, tiny lesson about my self or character. But no matter what the regret is, there is a lesson to learn.
When you're being emotional thinking of all the regrets that you have but then you heard Mayim's onion rings story and thought about something...i ate 2 slices of pizza early this morning but i actually lied bc i ate 4...and i ran over to the kitchen to get another one which i stole from my brother...yep no regrets right there...
Onion ring story was awesome....but this comment was icing on the cake!
Adrian Villalobos lol it was really a sweet coincidence anyway thanks!
ldlms _ Yesterday i went to the city and was so freaking rushing that i went to eat at McDonald's for breakfast and lunch. I regret that, truly. But i had to run errands and life demands more of me than my health does. Damn. Then this morning i had 2 cream puffs with coffee for breakfast. I bought the cream puffs for my little brother (he ordered it) and said to myself i would not eat them but i was lazy and tired to cook after a whole night's trip so i ate the puffs . I need a wife or a good cook
Whilst watching elementary there was reference to something to the serenity prayer. I’m not overtly religious but it brings me comfort:
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
Courage to change the things I can and
Wisdom to no the difference between the two.
It helps. Not always. But helps
I have regrets that I lost 15 yrs to drug addiction.. I regret that my parents lied to me n my siblings n abandoned us more than once. Mayim at 42 you can do ANYTHING. Move past your regrets. I live with chronic pain n health issues-this wears a person down over time. I am alone at 61 bcz I made the wrong choices. Mayim we look up to you. Make the best of your life. Make new goals?! This gives a feeling of accompishment. Just be you n it's ok
Yesyesyes. I at 34 now have chronic issues that likely will not be going away. But it’s taught me that I want to do what I’m capable of NOW. Because I didn’t necessarily do what I was capable of BEFORE. And I’ll never be perfect at it, but I have to embrace the fact that I’ve learned from my regrets. And will continue to do so. 💕
I'm now 63 yrs. old and retired. I look back and ahead happily because I've lived the best life I could and will continue to do just that. Sure, I made mistakes, I didn't do everything I wanted or planned, I had hardships, but who doesn't? When you dwell on regrets you think about negatives -- the things you didn't do. Why waste energy on what didn't happen? Instead, start at this moment to look ahead and live the best life you can - mistakes and all. That's the way life works.
Thank you Marie!
63 is not old unless you have convinced yourself it's old.
Can you tell me the right formula in living the best life?
Well said!
There is one thing that often prevents my regret. I couldn’t have gotten “here” without having been “there”. So if I am happy now, the unhappy stuff paved the way. It’s not a perfect system but generally keeps me out of regret.
I always said that I didn’t have regrets and that I used everything as an experience to learn from. Ahhh that was twenty-something me. The 40 yr old me has lots of regrets. Some I have let go of, and some have still left me a little broken inside and I’m still tryin to learn to let go. I think it’s natural to have regrets. Great video
Regina Fallangie I think it's possible (and ok) to wish we had made some different choice while at the same time accepting the ones we made and accepting what has followed.
From someone less considered this would be a mid life crisis, the feeling of regrets from the past, unhappiness about the present and fear of the future. Thank you for your candor and humour because it puts our own day to day efforts and struggles into relative focus. I hope your health situation resolves itself as quickly as possible
Don't regret regrets.
I think the ability to have regrets is an important part of learning.
The best method that works for me is to shift my mindset to gratitude when I begin to have negative thoughts. Although I may not be happy all the time, I have things that do make me happy and I do my best to be present for those moments so that if I need to, I can revisit those feelings every time (through gratitude).
Great video!! You tell it like it is! At my ripe old age of 67 (I'm really ripe) I have learned that regrets for me has always been about unreasonable expectations. So, I have been working on making them more reasonable by dropping the expectations or at least dialing them back for myself and those I have for other people. And I have also learned that the I have absolutely no control over other people. But I have control over my choices and I now choose to lighten up on expectations of myself. Will I go to my death with regrets? Probably, after all, it's a human condition and I'm only human.
I recently admitted to myself - or maybe, I finally realised or simply resigned myself to, or just gave in to the fact - that I am not the person I thought I was or was capable of being. I admitted that I am not the person I really wanted to be, the person I truly believed I was somewhere deep down inside. I am not the image I have held in my head all these years.
For so long, I had been telling myself that someday, one day, I will be all these amazing things and I will prove myself to be that someone, to be that something amazing I had always dreamt.
Then the other day, suddenly, I almost broke down when I just could not go on, I could not go on trying so hard anymore.
It was liberating and humbling and disappointing yet a relief all at once. I even feel emotional writing this now.
To see and hear another grown woman, be so human, is so refreshing, warming, relieving, I'm not sure what the right adjective is to use here. To hear it from another person is just so normalising.
Thank you!
I regret that I didn't make more memories with my late mother, who passed on the 29th of March 2019 and leaving me with very little memories. I'll forever grieve her untimely demise because she died around the time and age I needed her the most. I never got to hear my mother's last words. I got the news of her passing whilst I was at work. I regret not loving her more.
I regret that I did not speak to my sister for nearly 2 years, missing 2 years of her not being in my life. I regret that the death of my mother; an unfortunate circumstance brought us back together. R.I.P Mum ❤ and bless you Dr. Mayim.
Extremely well structured content. I was also the one with no regrets till I was around 42. Then life decided to put me on slide and it started down journey very fast. Soon I started having regrets about all misses - big and small. One fine day realized, regret is more about unhappy today rather than bad decisions of past. The game mind plays.... and made peace with life. No regrets again.
My regrets are too long to mention all. Mainly losing my dad at age 5, and blaming myself. My sister's death when she was 30 to cancer and not being able to say what I wanted to say to her while she was dieing. I was in denial and told her everything would be ok instead. Helping to raise her kids in her absence made me feel like their dad which is honestly my greatest achievement. To know that their upbringing was not going to be depressing like mine. I regret I can get rid of this men's room photo to the left no matter how many times I've tried to change it. 😊 Thank you Mayim for continuing to be real and share your life with us all. For someone who is a tad older than you, I can say you have been amazing to those who support you, family and fans. Don't beat yourself up too much. You are a role model to be proud of.😁
I try to learn from regrets. Especially why I did what I now regret. Then teach my children how not to do those things that I know they will have regrets about. Doesn’t always work. But I try my best everyday and have found out, that’s all you can do. Plus often I think that whatever part of me is setting my goals cannot possibly be the tired, depressed, real person with real problems.
My oppinion: If someone dosn't regret something, this person is not honest to herself.
omg I love you. I spend so much time "trying to be better" and it's exhausting! you can literally NEVER eat healthy "enough" or workout "enough", then I spend more time being harder on myself for not doing what I said I would do, and read motivational stuff to help you do the stuff you said you would do, which just perpetuates the cycle!
Mayim, you're such an inspirational and genuine person. I admire what you're doing on UA-cam, thank you a lot for being here: your videos made me feel so much stronger, more encouraged, but still peaceful inside:)
I used to have regrets. Once I realized that the circumstances and experiences I had (good and bad) shaped who I am today, I stopped regretting what I did or didn’t do. I learned from those circumstances and experiences and moved on as best I could. I hope I always continue to learn something from everything I do.
I don’t envy the people with ‘no regrets’
Who would envy denial? 🧐
SLIME what if they truly did everything they wanted to in life and truly don’t have regrets
Thank you for this. For all the days I wake up and can’t get out of bed because of pain, sometimes you just need a reminder that this is life, good and bad. I’m missing it... reminding me to take a second to look back and then continue forward, not hate myself when I can’t but take advantage of the moments I can.
It’s a weird one because whenever I think of something I regret I say: “No but if that didn’t happen I wouldn’t have learned this...”. The regrets mean we grow and change into better versions of ourselves. So we can’t really regret the regrets then can we?? X
What you said, This is my life. So true. I’m 53 and still dealing with health issues.....leftover from chemotherapy. But I still try to live my life without regrets! You are an inspiration!
I knew that you were awesome as an actress but now I see that you are even better as a person!
Thank you for sharing this topic. I also have a lot of regrets but I’ve found out, the way I over come guilt is by forgiving myself and understanding that we’re not perfect that we all make mistakes and that I’m not the same person I was when my biggest mistakes happened, also that we’re in constant growing and those mistakes that we regret are probably making us a better person. 🍃
Regrets are hard to face sometimes... thank you for this video. It is something that we should all talk about more.
I'm in my 20s and used to say "I don't have any regrets". But deep down inside I always know that I have a lot of regrets. Thanks for the video and showing me how gracefully one can confess them. Your "it's how my life is" philosophy is beautiful. I've never thought about my life in that way before. But now when I do, it makes everything quite simple and relieving.
Mayim, good morning - this is so odd I watched you this morning then got in one of my Bible feeds in ... 68 years young here, if I can I'd like to attach what I read this morning just because it fit.. I agree to regret the regrets but realized they are the teacher here. Heashem has set boundaries to keep a margine of safety for us for a reason. I hope the following brings us some truth and light for our lives ... Blessings Ed
Matthew 5:3-11 MSG
"You're blessed when you're at the end of your rope. With less of you there is more of God and his rule. [4] "You're blessed when you feel you've lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you. [5] "You're blessed when you're content with just who you are-no more, no less. That's the moment you find yourselves proud owners of everything that can't be bought. [6] "You're blessed when you've worked up a good appetite for God. He's food and drink in the best meal you'll ever eat. [7] "You're blessed when you care. At the moment of being 'care-full,' you find yourselves cared for. [8] "You're blessed when you get your inside world-your mind and heart-put right. Then you can see God in the outside world. [9] "You're blessed when you can show people how to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That's when you discover who you really are, and your place in God's family. [10] "You're blessed when your commitment to God provokes persecution. The persecution drives you even deeper into God's kingdom. [11] "Not only that-count yourselves blessed every time people put you down or throw you out or speak lies about you to discredit me. What it means is that the truth is too close for comfort and they are uncomfortable. You can be glad when that happens-give a cheer, even!-for though they don't like it, I do! And all heaven applauds. And know that you are in good company. My prophets and witnesses have always gotten into this kind of trouble.
I have experienced regrets over not listening to my gut feeling (intuition), would have saved me alot of unnecessary grief!
Sheila Gibson Me too.😀
I dislike the people who write FIRST on videos! So I’m going to write Third and say that I loved the video!
- Love You Mayim!❤️
oh my goodness!!
ive literally been going through this kind of mental process ... and also realizing that "i have no regrets" is just a big fat lie. and letting go of that pressure is really been beautiful! its really a relief.
and i want you to come to my house right now and just have a girly noshfest and watching some girly flick. seriously you are making it feel like we are all on your couch in our pjs.
i guess im a Christian and i do look forward to heaven where there will be no pain and suffering. but i can see how having that belief can and has led me to feel guilt and shame over the fact that i dont do a perfect job now - how that thought has made me feel as if im not good enough. and i have learned over the passing years (im 35) that its kinda the point - we wont ever be perfect enough on this earth. we can try, but "the things we want to do we do not do and the things we dont want to do we do.... " romans 7:19... but it follows in verse 20 that "if i do what i willl not to do, its not me, but the sin in me..." im learning that i am not sin, i HAVE sin. just because i have something doesnt make me into that. if i have a cold, i just have a cold, i dont BECOME the cold.
i love getting older and learning stuff. :P but its a shame that once we're old enough to know it all, we arent young enough to fully enjoy that knowledge anymore. :P
and - ill just put this out there - my favorite thing right now is to tell as many women as i know (and men too to be honest) to check out the tummy team. :)
love you lady. you are amazing.
Hi Mayim. I'm 60. I've been watching you since Blossom. 8 never thought you would be teaching me. I really enjoy you. Loved your character Amy. You're great. Continue making us think and smile. Love you 💐🌺🌼🏵️🌹🌻🌺💐
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I have chosen to view regrets as learning opportunities. If I don’t like what transpired, I figure out what I can learn from the situation and/or what I can do differently, then I practice forgiving myself for being an imperfect human being.
I have been in treatment for 11 months for an eating disorder I have lived with for 35 years. My eating disorder stems from intense anxiety, perfectionism, depression, and self hatred. Learning to forgive myself has been challenging, but it is key to developing self compassion, which allows the possibility of living ‘without regrets.’
I truly value the content you create, Mayim. Your vulnerability is powerful. Thank you!
I love this video, I do have many regrets, on lots of things and I’m glad to know that I’m not alone, thank you for that
I regret that I never found your videos till the last 6 months and that after listening to you that I have never had an opportunity to know you personally. Your so very open, honest and intelligent and just come across as the kind of someone that everyone should have in there life. Thank you for sharing so that others don't feel so emotionally isolated.
I am 15 years old and I regret for not saying enougths i love you for my dad before já died
Raíssa Jorge I think he always knew you loved him. You can express feelings of love for others through small gestures, not only through words. But I understand why you regret this because I have a similar regret, I never told my grandma face to face that I loved her.
I understand your regrets. If you showed your father that he was loved by your actions, he knew you loved him. Actions speak louder than words.
Raíssa Jorge
I'm sorry for your loss. I regret not telling my brother also before his sudden passing.
Thanks guys 💖
Self awareness, accountability, vulnerability and being real is what's beautiful about people.
God bless 💚🙏
You're so close to 400k ahhhh your channel is growing so fast and i couldn't be any happier right now!! an advance congratulations to you!!
Anit-semite, right here folks.
“At the ripe old age of 42”
Say what now
I thought you where 30
I thought she is in her 30s too.She looks young.
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42 is young
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I learned not to have regrets, because i know that whats done is done and most things cant be changed. Just go through and make your decisions based upon the past you know you did not like
In this video you open saying you're 42. I thought "oh she's about my age" then I looked at the posted date and realize you are the same age as me. Mayim, I hope 2 years later you feel things have gotten whatever you consider better. Honestly the things you say sound human and totally normal. If there may be a great difference between you and others I've met I would say the difference is you care enough to have regrets. I've met people who I truly believe may have no regrets and that seems to come from the fact they do not care about others as much as themselves. Gotta love yourself but also respect others enough to care for them as well.
You are like listening to my self! I have plenty of regrets and I try so hard to live with myself. I struggle every day.I will be glad that one day , if possible , is to be able to live comfortably in my own skin! Love you Mayim!
Mayim,
You are someone to look up to and funny as well.
I think everyone wishes they had a rewind button in life.
Angie
St. Louis, Missouri