Hi Frank - this vid (the topic, not the food lol though it looked really good) got me thinking, Which personalities would tend to share the same values? Not sure it can be distilled into a video but would appreciate your insights, if ever. TC always.
Hi frank. Love your videos. I got to say this is by far the most on point and honest description/ praise i received. I got a question though..... why are you so hard on INFP's like they are the self observed cry babies of the 16 ps or something? Also infj.... which is your personality
As an INFP I'm actually killing myself laughing at the accuracy. I do explode from time to time. Like maybe once a year or something. But yeah for the most part I just live my truth and when the vibe feels wrong I just slip away 🤷♀️🤣
Yeah I do expect people to not try to make me move and if they do I will just say "ok" and then they leave and I go back to where I was and ignore them from then on.
I'm infamous in my family for having suuuuuuper long text messages over something that just put the nail in the coffin of my patience; something I care about, but would normally not confront anyone over in my wildest dreams is suddenly centre of an immense written outburst. It mostly hits the people that filled up my annoyance level up the brim before, but can sometimes hit undeserving people.
As an INFP, I avoid confrontation as much as I possibly can. I’d rather stick out a long, uncomfortable convo or situation than directly confront someone if I don’t think it’s 100% necessary. However, if something is negatively affecting me and impacting my ability to function, OR if it gets in the way of my morals, I’ll definitely confront someone and be unafraid to do so. I just weigh the consequences and the necessity of it first.
Yes exactly, weighing the consequences and necessity. I'm extremely nonconfrontational because I just don't see the point, if neither of us are going to change our minds why are we wasting time arguing? My go to move is to poke at them from different angles until I say something that makes their resolve flicker and I'll use that as leverage to change their mind but if it's not getting anywhere I just change the subject. But yeah I have so many things I could say to people, like I blow up at them in my mind, but since I only see them once in a while and there are significant possible consequences of doing so irl I just stay quiet.
Ohh boy brings me back to years ago with some friends being toxic with me for a while even though I hinted at it. Got like 1k word texts completely analyzing the situation and they toned it down and understood my pov. Nowadays I think I was being very petty but maybe I was being rational? I dont even know any more.
My son is an INFP (I am ENFP) and he really does avoid confrontation, but sometimes if I know it needs to happen for both of us to figure out something, I will push us into that confrontation. We'll have it out, both express our problems and negative feelings, and maybe yell a little. Then I will wait a few minutes. He usually comes to me to apologize or I'll apologize and we'll love each other again, but with a new understanding of what the other is thinking and feeling and going through. It happens quickly, but I know he needs that or things will just fester. Consider that with people that are close to you if they can get over fights. I think it makes him healthier because he might otherwise suffer in silence. He has no idea I do this for catharsis and understanding on purpose.
1:19 ENTJ/ESTJ 2:27 INTP/ISTP 5:12 ESTP/ESFP 6:03 ENFP/ENTP 8:36 ISTJ/ISFJ 9:49 INTJ/INFJ 11:39 ESFJ/ENFJ 12:18 ISFP/INFP . . I've always hoped someone does this before me. Let me know if there's a mistake.
Yep. Infp here, and the “holding it in for as long as possible then being upset” thing is definitely me. Who else here feels understood by mbti way more than they do with real people?
Yeah I'm an INFP but being the oldest kid in my family has made me a lot more confrontational then most lol. My sister, on the other hand, is also an INFP and she generally holds in her frustration as long as possible lol
100% but none of the people around me is actually interested in Mbti.... I also hold things in for as long as possible. Sometimes I explode, sometimes I just start distancing myself without explaining why. Probably a shitty thing to do but anyways
@@monito3575 Right? I do every step to make sure I avoid confrontation even if that includes avoiding people. If I can't do that anymore than I really might just explode
INFP here, I’m screaming at how accurately you described us. I literally just mind my own business, don’t go looking for conflicts, but somehow, it’s always me against EVERYONE ELSE. No one seems to agree with me on something that I feel very strongly about, so when I politely refuse to fit in and go along with what’s happening, the conflict arises 😒
Same! I literally try my best to mind my own business but some how people always manage to cause conflicts and it’s just like “please forget I exist” 🤦🏼♀️ 😂
You have this every time people are becoming bumptious and believe that they have to tell you that they know better and how you should handle things instead (very frequently observed in xSxJ, however, exceptions - hopefully! - exist). Surefire way to rile the heck out of me, and then they are surprised why I'm blowing in their faces. This lets me wonder why they just cannot let people mind their own business.
I think the INFP will do all they can to accommodate and create peace, until some moral line has been crossed and then everyone thinks, "what happened?" after the explosion. Then the INFP looks like they are the bad one and everyone thinks the INFP over-reacted. There's a different standard for the INFP.
Although this is 100% accurate..I feel what Frank was talking about here wasn't that the INFP are the howler letters...that confrontations find them like a howler letter...by the time confrontation finds us..they are firing on all cylinders, lol...due to how incredibly hard it is to manipulate us...due to strong internal convictions. That immovable standard you were talking about...causes those who subscribe to the moving standard of the crowd...see you as an inconsistency who's very existence causes them to question themselves and the way they have been navigating the way and reasons they treat others and make decisions...we make them doubt their reality by living our own. That's what I think he meant..though, again, your point is 100% correct:)
For real, and it doesn't help that there's a delayed reaction, I mean it takes TIME to process what the problem is, so to everyone else it's like "where is this coming from?" like it came out of nowhere & without context even though they were there through the whole thing
Yep!! I swear every time I'm trying to confront something for a good cause, the entire world turns against me. This has made me numb and not wanting to confront anymore, because no matter what I do the blame goes right back to me.
Yeah honestly! Every time I get angry, which is very seldom and unusual, the people around me will be like “oh calm down now!” And I hate it. I get angry so so little compared to the rest of my family and am generally a really calm person and it feels like I have no right to be angry and anything at all. The only good thing is that when I’m angry it’s often actually effective. Whilst my mom will have a tantrum at the smallest of things and nobody takes it seriously anymore, when I say the word the confrontation is usually over or is talked about differently. Just wanted to throw that in there because that can be one of the advantages (not always of course, but often). But you’re right otherwise honestly. And what also happens is that, since I get angry so little and have so little confrontations, there is no in-between. Either I’m not angry, or I’m *really* angry. In the heat of the moment I will also sometimes say things that sound really violent or is insulting and I can’t hold it back. It can be a bit of a problem, like the time I made two of my friends cry (one who turned out to be toxic, which is why I blew up at some point but yeah-)
Exactly! And this applies to most non-confrontational "doormat" people. It really sucks and I really wish my communications skills were better because I feel like that will make a big impact on how I control my emotions and will help me feel more confidence and self-respect, and create healthier dynamics with people instead of just letting them guess what I'm feeling and creating a big problem for no reason.
The INFP one was sooo accurate, it’s even scary how accurate it is. When you said that INFPs would never force their opinion on others, but they would want people to not force theirs to us either is what’s the most accurate, I audibly gasped. But then when you said: that’s not how the world works, I was so disappointed haha. Anyways thank you for your videos! I keep discovering so many new things about myself and my beloved ones
As an INFP married to an ENTJ, we've had to learn how to navigate conflict together haha. My spouse thinks confrontation is good and would prefer to confront me on everything (to get it out of the way) and I want to avoid confrontation (to keep from ever confronting about something if I can avoid it). My spouse has become gentler with their confrontations, and I'm still learning to become more willing to engage in the confrontation. Find you a spouse who's willing to work with you, regardless of your differences ❤
Lol. I'm an INFP and one of the most easy going and simultaneously most stubborn people I know. I used to explode more, but not it's more stubbornness. You nailed it though.
Once I became comfortable knowing my own truth...and I stopped caring if others agreed...my inner rage went away:) you're on the right track...understanding comes from k owing many perspectives...knowledge comes from experience....everything else is hearsay..to this INFP:)
@@SarahJacksonLV , right. because we are so adept at taking consideration of all sides, & are more open to understanding all, we tend to form more well rounded perspectives than what is typical. since we have a much deeper all encompassing “knowing” than most seem to even have the capacity to reach, it is futile to become angry every time we encounter this. step away if needed, take a moment with yourself, close your eyes, breathe deep, clear the negative energy, and remind yourself that you can/will walk alone if necessary to stay true to your ethics/anything else that is truly important to You. this is not a bad trait to have. allow others to walk away from you if their values lead them down a different path. birds of a feather will flock together, and we’re a rare bird. because we are few & far between, our flock will only consist of very few. that’s okay too.
I have to admit, I'm a highly confrontational INFJ. If I see an issue, especially one involving another person, I have to try and fix it. It's like "I understand where they're coming from, but their mentality is fundamentally wrong, so if I say nothing then they'll never be better as a person and it'll be **my** fault."
I have a definite problem with feeling the need to do that, as well. But as I get older, I've realized that people have the right, if they have the inclination, to never become a better person.
@@lisarodriguez6966 that is true... it's a rather sad thing to think but it is the truth. some people prefer buying a book for the cover rather than being forced to read another book (with an ugly cover) by someone because they think the person would like the book
Being an INTJ, I get upset with people who refuse to care about things, but mainly because by not caring about those things, the system that makes up the fabric of society (or the fabric of the debate team I'm trying to make at school) will collapse and/or fail to function properly.
It’s true. It’s not me versus you that makes me want the other person to see what I see, it’s the mess not seeing it right makes of the community. I don’t even mind so much if they mess themselves up but few of us are really the islands we want to pretend we are.
I’m an INTJ too! I often say I don’t care about [insert activity] when I’m working on it on my own, but when I’m working in a group I feel so responsible for the outcome of the project, I push aside everything else - especially, my own personal feelings. So imagine how cold and intransigent I become when someone in the group doesn’t do their part and comes up with an excuse for it (typically, their OWN personal issues). It may sound harsh (if we’re all INTJs it probably doesn’t), but I really don’t give a shit about everyone’s personal issues in work situations. We can talk about the issue outside of work
As an INTP I can confirm this is accurate, I am a defensive confrontational When people are talking to each other and I'm there listening (not intentional of course) as soon as I hear something that is illogical or something that I find wrong, my immediate response is "HUH?! WHAT DID THEY SAY?!"
I often say that people want to argue with me. People actually like to argue with me I've been told that. But I don't like to explain why am I right and someone is wrong. I'm too lazy for it.
I like being in between Infp and intp so I can comment and relate to both mbti types. I’m Infp but 5 percent off of intp. I switch between depending on my mood.
This is so accurate that it's almost scary! I am such a pure INFJ and I am trying to enlarge my vision as I understand that sometimes i am narrow-minded. Great videos Frank, i am learning a lot from you!
INFP is so accurate it hurts from laughing. I’m an ENFJ but I’m sending to my INFP folks because I’ve been trying to find a way to articulate this to them for a while. INFPs are my besties but it’s their weird way of confrontation that’s been the one thing I don’t know how to handle 😅
The problem with being an INFJ and having our "visions" is that we are seeing too far into the future where things have not happened yet and other types especially sensory types can only take in whats in front of them. Also, because of our generally weird behaviors, other types seem to undermine us and try to push the vision in a way that they can see results more readily losing the long term vision I am trying so hard to birth to reality regardless of the time frame it will take which then causes me to kick said defector off the train which will leave with or without you! INFJ's are better suited to working alone to achieve most of their dreams anyway, we find a way to make a big impact(most times unintentional) without gathering the masses but we'll work specific key points in our field in order to yield the maximum result but always keeping a focus on the big picture. Other types who were unable to see these angles get totally blindsided by this and start rallying to stop this "x" factor which causes the conflict for me in most cases. INFJ's in a conflict do not kick ass and take names, I prefer to bring the cliff to you and then watch you jump off in disbelief. It's a lot of work though lol.
Yeah, it's easier and more efficient to just not say what you're realizing, thinking or planning as an INFJ and just let everyone else catch up when it all becomes real. I've mostly made peace with it. Let them jump off the cliff you tried to tell them was there - it's is just simpler.
As an INFP I myself have anger issues to an invariable extreme probably passed down from my dad but in any case I typically don’t have the energy for getting into the arguments. I am easily drained by social interaction so it’s pretty obvious why arguments would be draining for me. But in doing so trying to avoid arguments I build up that anger within me. And at some point like Frank said something I won’t agree with because I’m just special and feel the need to be different to everyone else’s opinions being an INFP lol so when I am REALLY opinionated over something I will explode. And that’s what’s caused several blackouts yay. Moral of the story go to therapy if you’re like this lol. If you don’t work through your anger and you’re an INFP you’re gonna get into a heated debate and lose your shit.
My mom was exactly like this but was scared to get a diagnosis for some sort of personality disorder, so never got help. Her issues were so deep that, even though I'm the only person who knew her so well, I'm not even sure if she was an INFP because that kind of thing can distort personality... but she certainly was reclusive, sensitive, & bitter for most of her life. She had to have been Fi dominant, because she had high values, hated other people in her business, she didn't want help from no one, and there was nothing anyone could do to urge her to help herself. I'm also an INFP, and I don't think I'm there yet, but I recently realized I have a lot of unresolved anger too. Please get help if you're anywhere near this path, it's not pretty! Everyone she knew pegged her as crazy, and she died young & bitter & demoralized. I regret everyday that I didn't know how to help her more, to make her life more beautiful or joyful... The effect this can have on your loved ones runs deep & far, even if you think you're only hurting yourself, you're not
As an ENFP I’m so caught up in analyzing my values that confrontation for me is not rare, but very organized. Most confrontation is me saying what needs to be said because it is genuinely important that I do.
Oh yes! As an INFJ I tend to be very against conflict and will avoid it as much as possible so I don’t upset anyone. But the times that I tend to confrontational is when I have something I hold very dear to me and have a strong opinion on only for everyone to seem like they are trying to challenge it.
Similar for me (ENFJ), but with an important difference. It's not the defense of what I value that will get me confrontational, it's the defense of what other people value. Example: A party, everyone is really into the music that's playing, and someone decides they're going to put on something different that no one else likes. Even if I agree with this interloper about the music, and would much rather listen to what they were going to put on, they have disrupted the group and ruined the mojo. So I will confront that person. The music-at-a-party example is pretty trivial, but it's the same dynamic for much more serious issues. Communities of people, large or small, need and/or want certain things. The person who steps on that for their own personal reasons is my nemesis.
As an ENTP, depends by what you mean with confront. Of course, I will mention when something doesn't make sense, or when I think something is inaccurate. But I would be chill and I wouldn't see it as being confrontational. I would indeed be like "What about this" or "Have you thought of this possibility?" but the moment the person takes it the wrong way or gets emotional, I will back off. So it isn't about being confrontational, just how my brain works. I want to explore ideas, discover the truth and mention when something doesn't make sense to me. But never to confront, I am just externalizing what my brain does all the time. That is also why I take issue with the description of ENTPs loving debate, I love exploration of ideas, learning and challenging my mind. But the moment it becomes a competition, I am like "Why?" this is about learning the truth, picking a side of the argument limits the possibilities. I also love when people prove me wrong, because in the end I do not want to be right, but find what is right. But in debates, people choose a side, and are unable to see the other side, because they want to win, which is why I hate debate. They are an extremely limited way of finding the truth. Where I might be confrontational, is when there is a person that has a very black and white way of seeing things, and they are extremely confident on their views but it is clear they have not think about things thoroughly. I rather talk with someone with disagrees about everything I believe in, but is open to discussing things calmly, than someone who agrees on everything with me, but is very imposing in his views and very narrow minded. But at the end I do not really like confrontation, Fe doesn't like it, and my Ne Ti doesn't want to deal with narrow minded people. Because at the end of the day, I want to explore ideas and learn new things, not change people's minds. Debating someone that is like that, is way too much effort for something that might not bear any fruits. And even if it does, I do not care that much about what people think, so it isn't much of a win. I rather be shown wrong and learn something, than win an argument and learn nothing. In the end my Ti is extremely egotistical, I only care about what I think and learn. Even me writing this, is hoping for other people to share their insight to me, only for me to learn something new. But bottom line, I do not see disagreement as confrontational. In fact i see disagreement as something good. It is the way we can learn new things and explore ideas, and see if they hold any merit. Every idea should be put to scrutiny. I see confrontation as confrontation. If the person gets mad, if the person becomes aggressive, if they raise their voice, if they throw insults, if they impose their views, etc. That is confrontational, not disagreeing. If you feel attacked for a disagreement, specially one done respectfully, then it is more of a you problem. Maybe you feel attacked, because you have not think things through properly, and if you haven't really think about what you believe, then why do you believe it?
a little random but keep in mind some people have trauma. i used to LOVE debating people as an enfp, but now, even disagreements send me into a panic attack with anger at its core due to how cruel people online were to me for having the ""wrong"" opinions growing up. if someone feels attacked, you should consider why and that maybe you weren't as respectful about it as you thought. sometimes we assert our opinions when they aren't needed and it can rightfully piss people off, or we can be too blunt or direct and come across as rude. i've learned, at least from my perspective (since i can't read people's minds), when and when it isn't appropriate to share my opinion. also, people can have strong beliefs but be insecure about those beliefs due to being the outlier, so it is important to consider that, as well. debating is great but it isn't for everyone. remember anger is a response to feeling threatened. it activates survival mode. someone being angry on its own isn't bad and i don't think it should be treated as such. it's a normal response to feeling threatened or like your morals are being violated. the problem arises when people start being cruel and disrespectful.
INFP - sooo accurate! I somehow very often find myself as the only person in the room feeling the way I feel, living life the way I do and having my specific set of values. For some reasons, people frequently decide it's a good idea to come to me and try to persuade me to change and become like everybody else. That's when I suddenly become the most fearless confrontation-ist of all times.
As an INTP, I find the description spot on accurate. I am often shaking my head in disbelief at the logical inconsistencies that I have to deal with at times and will find myself setting people straight in short order.
Honestly at this point I just expect people to be illogical. I do sometimes still have to pause to process something pretty unexpected but otherwise it helps to already factor it into my mental calculations
So true about the INFP, my family keeps trying to give me their opinions about things that have nothing to do with them and how I should leave the house more - I’ve just started giving them the death stare at this point
INFP here, I don't know if not listening to others is true for me, I do accept others opinions cause I'm always questioning my choices.. and I judge myself more than anything and so I try to see things from different perspectives. BUT. There are some things that I don't let others to choose, for example my feelings, my musical taste or my hobbies. And yes, I don't weigh my opinions on anyone. In an argue, I respect what the other person is trying to imply, even if I don't agree. And I expect the same in return. When they don't, that's when it pisses me off. I'd rather just end the convo there and walk away or spit all the negative traits they have and wrongs they've done that I've been observing silently for years. And then later feel disgusted by the whole argument. whoa big comment
I can relate to always questioning my choises and seeing things from (sometimes way too many) different prospectives, but for me it still feels like, I will listen to others, explore it as one of possible points of view, but won't agree(at least in my head) till I come to this conclusion myself.
Damn this happened to me too. Lost two friendships because of that. One of my friends started judging me for a band I liked which had helped me a lot in my rough patches and that pissed me off so much that I actually told her everything I'd been holding in for years: how she always seemed to be judging me, mocking me, underestimating me, and I'd kept quiet about it. To be honest, I'd really exaggerated it all, but I was glad I didn't have to feel those remotely similar feelings anymore. Another confrontation happened because some supportive friends helped me confront another one who was arguing with me a lot and pinning high expectations on me which messed me up, we fell out and broke friendships, unfortunately- it got heated pretty fast. But just like an INFP, I was able to get over it because I didn't have to put up with that again
That ISTJ thing is so true. My dad is VERY particular about his bedtime and gets very annoyed if he doesn't get to bed when he wants or people are at all too loud.
I'm INFP & value sleep exactly the same. I've learned something important about sleep: when you don't get enough you're not only mentally unwell, you are clinically physically unwell, and it can kill you. Imagine your brain not ever being able to poop, only the brain is far more critical to your immediate survival than your butthole. You wouldn't want your heart to gunk up like that, but we have no problem preventing our brains from cleaning itself out & repairing itself in the name of a paycheck, video games, anime or Netflix It's very important, I think your dad's crabbiness is appropriate
So true Just don't challenge the things we truly value, our ideals, and you can be in the safe side Otherwise, we got both logic and morals in our inventory to demolish your foundation of believes --infp who is used to arguing
I'm also INFP, and I think that the reaction of INFP'S is pretty accurate , especially in our younger years. But I think that this can also be an unhealthy way to express our feelings and opinions to the world, especially if we blow up. Generally speaking, we strive for harmony, so saying something (i.e. confrontation) when it isn't 100% necessary isn't something that we'll go out of our way to do. We can also be afraid of rejection by expressing our thoughts or confronting someone, and are very sensitive of how others will feel towards us or perceive us because we "rocked the boat", so to speak. However, as I've gotten older I've come to realize the importance of addressing things I perceive as wrong or harmful - by me confronting others or having others confront me about my own actions. For INFP's it all depends on how you do it. If you explain to me tactfully why what I'm doing is hurting you, other people, or even myself and offer alternatives to my way of doing things, I'm much more open to changing my mind ( INFP's have shadow Fe, so we don't always see how our actions impact others). I'll even thank you for your honesty and input and take it into consideration. But if you're too forceful or direct, I'll just shut down and go off doing my own thing. Sometimes after a period of processing, I may even confront YOU about how you confronted me lol, but dont be surprised if I dont talk to you or seem to avoid you for a while afterwards...I just need time to process everything and think about what I want to say.
Yep, sounds like my son correcting his teachers at school. Sometimes they get upset and say you shouldn't correct me cause I'm the teacher, and he says if you weren't the teacher I wouldn't care that you were wrong. Lol. As an INTJ, I love it. ISTP's everywhere are welcome to correct me anytime.
INTJ here. Yep. We have a well designed plan for how to do something in the most efficient way for maximized results. It's like a fine tuned, incredibly complex German time piece. We're either silently designing and redesigning it in our heads or making it actually happen. We think about it from all different angles and understand all the implications of each choice and how one aspect affects the others directly and indirectly, so when someone comes stomping in brain storming on the fly or "helping" without asking if we want that particular type of help in that particular way, they're throwing a wrench in the works. Then the worst part is them asking, "Why?" Without fail, they're annoyed when we answer and it's far more complex than they ever imagined. We're angry that they asked why without actually wanting to know why and they're mad that we didn't give them a dumbed down explanation. So mostly, leave the INTJs alone to do their thing, folks.
I’m an ENFP and my INTJ mom and I always watch these videos together and we got to the sponsor part and she said “Jank Frames sounds like a brand of cheap sunglasses you got off Wish” and we laughed about it for an embarrassing amount of time
Isfp here. Us Fi doms are usually pretty agreeable until you directly challenge one of our deep, personal values. If you are gutsy enough to challenge one of our personal values, then yes you might see one of the explosions. If we don't understand or agree with something, but its not necessarily a direct challenge to our values... Then youll typically see us just... Smile and nod while quietly disengaging and looking for an escape opportunity (thinking of my interactions with intp sister who's going to school for anthropology...
Honestly, I'm an INTJ and I avoid confrontation cause most people always have the same takes on everything and I don't care if ''maybe you should listen and you will hear something new'' because it's never new and I stoped caring. Labor force can have their own opnions and as long as they don't affect me they can keep on living or die and I wouldn't care less
@@LatIenws Thank you infj :).think about it: our way of contributing to society is to dismantle incompetence and put the right people in positions. Entj is full of courage cause it's really hard for us to be scared. We are fearless to our bones. Maybe that's why people say we are intimidating 🤔🤔🤔
INFP takes me time to process confrontation or issues directly in the moment. I feel out on the spot and if it’s like in public or the person expects a specific response I get anxiety and need to have time to process. Sometimes the response in the moment is reactive to agree or be peaceable but once I’m alone and can process I realize what a dumpster fire the conversation was and then have to find a way to not look like an idiot by disagreeing…and if I’m still figuring it out I can’t hide my awkwardness….so I’d rather avoid lol BUT luckily this doesn’t happen much. I’ve learned to own my response if I’ve thought about it and just say “you know…I needed some time to process and my answer has different perspective.” Or just straight up own it and be like….I was wrong and put pressure on myself to answer in the moment, (truly depends on the person and how I think they’ll receive my response)
People can get confrontational about second-function stuff too, in some cases even more so. For example, many ENFPs will fight fiercely for their Fi values, while I as an INFP have often challenged people for being closed-minded, quick to judge, or too set in certain beliefs/ideas/worldviews. Late addition: Another form of confrontation I engage in fairly regularly is confronting other people who confront other people unfairly or overly aggressively! The whole mediator thing...
Interesting comment 🤔 I am an INFP too and when I stand up for my own values it is not about confronting someone, rather I just do what I do, if you can't accept it it's not my problem and even feel uncomfortable trying to convince someone of my values at times. But I will get really annoyed too when people are close minded to the point where I am getting angry (on the inside not the outside). For example when people make dumb excuses all the time for their misbehaviour, rather than just taking responsability for it. SUPER ANNOYING
Lol when you got to the infp/isfp I laughed so hard😂 as an example when my isfj mom gives me advice alot of the time I’ll act like oh yeah that makes sense and then go and try to bend it to be whatever I feel is the right way. Because gosh darn it I’m my own person and nobody gonna tell me what to do 🤦🏻♀️ sometimes it even ends up that I’ll be given advice and then I end up doing what ppl suggested anyways but not before I take a very round about way getting there lol!
Whoa! You got it down about Infp's. When you said we pretend to listen, then go off and do what we want, and never text the person again. It's like you were reading my soul!
INTP over here. I actually love playing minesweeper, so it was fun seeing that visual pop up. And yeah, while I wouldn't really say that I'm confrontational in general, I do not hesitate to tell people when they are wrong.
INFP: 100% correct! I don't force my feelings and beliefs down your throat so don't do it to me. It never goes that way and I can't understand it for the life of me. I feel like I am saying go live your life do you and then they come for me for some reason. Hit home Frank
Thanks soooo much!!! You explained my experiences as INFP exactly how they really are! I regularry question myself: why!??? people constantly want to agrue with me!? I just hate conflicts, but: I equally hate that others wants to deside about MY matters or wants me to I change my firm opinions...Hmmm...what to do now!???
Yeah. INFP is spot on. I’m very stubborn. I pick my battles. I agree though that when I notice a problem I tend to not speak up because everytime I do I feel like I’m the bad guy.
It would be cool if Frank James did a video on why some introvert are mistyped as extroverts. I’m an introvert, but I was surprised how many people that didn’t know me well thought I was an extrovert. And I’ve met several people who seemed like they were extroverts, but they were just verbal processors or really liked meeting new people.
INTJ, and I had former coworkers argue that I am not an introvert. I gave them the death stare while informing them that I had to literally veg for an hour when I got home from the office to even start to function around the house. I now WFH and can't fathom being around humanoid creatures.
You should make a video of different personality types getting their haircut, it would be funny to watch different types manage small talk and thoughts going through their head.
As an INTP, I just sit and think (I can't even see without my glasses) and hope they don't small talk (they usually don't once they figure out you don't like it).
Lots of great EXAMPLÉS. You said infj’s want other people to get on board the love train 🎶 Earlier todaÿ, I concluded that the common problem behind shootings, drug trade, child trafficking, abuse etc, is a lack of empathy. We need more empathy! Get on the empathy train!
I’m an ENTJ and I’m actually one of the least confrontational people I know. As a kid I’d get into arguments all the time, but I eventually realized I didn’t like trying to argue with someone who is set in their own opinion. I feel like I can never win in a argumentative situation because most of the time people are gonna believe what they want to regardless of the new opinion you give to them. Now I only attempt to argue with someone who I know will not only have good points on their side, but also take the time to consider my side. Otherwise it just wastes both of our time and at the end we feel more frustrated than when we came into the conversation.
Sounds like me, an ENFJ, surrounded by P types mostly IXXPs. It has taught me to respect personal space like nothing else could have, that's for sure! I was very confrontational as a kid too, but unfortunately I took way too long a time to realize that it gets you nowhere when people are set in their ways.
Another ENTJ here and I'm the same way! If its gonna waste my time and energy, I don't bother with unnecessary conflict. That, and I like confronting someone who's both educated and fair rather than someone who spits out nonsense. An open mind is key!
Frank, I have a question to confront you with: The Godfather of MBTI skits Bogdan Yakubets just did the first interview since your great podcast over at the INTJ Doctor's for Christ MBTI channel and revealed he was an INFJ? You knew didn't you? Takes a legend to know a legend. Gotta go be back! That's not the question I wanted to ask hang on be back! haha
@@meowhahaha Bogdan could be, but he thinks he's an INFJ. It's difficult to type based on a couple of interviews. One of my favorite youtubers I typed ENTJ but I've heard over 100 streams with him and he's had on average 3 to 4 hour streams and even did a 24 hour stream so I could see past a persona. Recently he's been doing almost daily 9 hour morning streams covering court cases and then 5 hour nightly streams. Although, I don't listen to them all and when I do, I skip around listening to at 2x speed. Previously, I think Bogdan said he tested for INFJ, INFP, and INTP and people were thinking he was an INTP which was a similar situation with another, in my opinion, INFJ skit youtuber It's Just Kevin who was going between INFJ, INFP, and INTP, and people were thinking he was an INTP, and he could be any type since we're seeing edited personas but the INTJ Doctor's for Christ is fantastic at type so if she thinks Bogdan is an INFJ, I trust her. In my opinion, Doctors for Christ and It's Just Kevin are the best MBTI skit youtubers besides Frank James because they illustrate the functions in alignment with Meyers and Briggs as opposed to using the Meyers and Briggs nomenclature and adding a bunch of stuff including nuances/idiosyncracies that give the characters too much personality, which could make for more entertaining realized three-dimensional psyche characterizations,...but that's not Meyers and Briggs personality type. Although, I think Bogdan's skits are great and align with Meyers and Briggs, but I think Frank James characters being more cartoony help them to be more distinguished to help illustrate the functions. Meyers and Briggs is the basic Ni essence personality type as opposed to personality which includes a person's upbringing, experiences, faith, beliefs, tastes, interests, health, job, how hard they worked for self-improvement, and culture and being that I think Bogdan Yakubets is great at using Ni, but was more nuanced thank Frank James, I was thinking INTP was reasonable with the whole Ne exploratory aspects getting deeper with the details of personality but that's not good reasoning at all since anyone of any type could be great at type as long as he or she worked hard for pattern recognition in a way that aligns with reality because if the patterns aren't aligned with reality then I think it can kinda get into territory that certain people on the news were getting into such as with Dungeons and Dragons and World of Warcraft where they got too invested in the intuitive fiction, and I think there's something similar going on with people getting too invested in type wanting some rigid fatalistic system to ground their identity in or to puff their chests with such as what might being on with that recent Alpha, Bravo, Gamma, Sigma, Delta, Omega Heathers Mean Girls club going on. I haven't seen/heard enough of Bogdan Yakubets to determine that he is an INFJ but I'd highly recommend that interview because he even goes into using the other functions Ne and Te. Briefly though. And being that people think Frank is an INFP, I thought it might be helpful. Bogdan is reminiscent of Frank James' older videos. Plus maybe get people to check out Frank's excellent podcast (there's one episode Spiritual No Man's Land where people can hear Frank using Ne ordered toward Ni, which an INFP could do as well as any type if they worked hard but that podcast episode along with Frank in interviews as well as Frank's second channel Creator Accelerators and other stuff convinces me he's an INFJ. I gotta go. So I'm really rushing this but I think types are most like their inverse and then one letter off so INFJs are most like ENFPs, INTJs, INFPs, ENFJs, and ISFJs. Based on circumstances anyone could come across as any type since there's a will and an intellect behind each type and how we use the functions so if we have the grace to do so, we can choose to develop whatever functions, and I think Bogdan mentioned people think he was an SP type but he worked on developing his Se thanks to his dad's influence. I actually wrote something over on It's Just Kevin's channel where he took various tests and got INFJ, and I rushed something out where I also brought up how earlier Eminem albums incorporated what could be a lot of Ne but he's thought of as an ISTP and compared it to the INFP Jonathan Davis' use of Ne in the early KoRn albums where he's use stories that represented his life events in an Ne way where no one could know what he's talking about unless they researched which I did as a kid. Eminem's stuff if I remember correctly was out there but it was more grounded and I think most people would figure that it's a heavily edited narrative to make the best entertainment to make money but with early KoRn, and I'm not recommending any Eminem or KoRn because I think it's mostly junky, but early KoRn Jonathan made a song about being abused by his female neighbor where it comes across like he's singing about his dad abusing him which kinda reminds me of Frank James' video about INFP being the second most understood type. I tried wording that in a certain way because it's not pleasant subject manner. I gotta go! This was all over the place! I'm wearing red today, Meow Hahaha! Taking out multiple birds with one stone. And by taking out, I mean to lunch! Birds do so much to brighten this world with their singing, it's the least I can do...before I make them my lunch. Hope you're having a great weekend!
I’m the softest weakling INFP you will ever meet in your life, but still when I get critiques on something, i hold grudges for life and NEVER forget the hardship that person brought upon me, I damn near go into serial killer mode
As an INFJ who be trying to disciple an INFP, this is so accurate haha. Also when I was having conflict with an ESFJ friend she was really trying to rope people into her side, including our ENFP friend but I had already spoken to the ENFP to explain what was going on and ENFP was so non confrontational about it because they understood my perspective and wanted ESFJ to sort it out with me directly haha. It was like ENFP said “this is a feelings problem and you guys do it yourselves” 😂
2:25 Estoy de acuerdo. Soy INTP, y no suelo ser confrontacional, ni cuando escucho algo estúpido, o incluso si me insultan, pero solo basta oír el: "tienes que hacerlo porque si" y me desconozco. Mi padre es ESFJ y todas nuestras discusiones son por eso. El cree que yo debo pensar o actuar de cierta forma porque es lo "correcto" lo "socialmente aceptable" no importa si va en contra de mi propia lógica
Soy INFJ, y lo mismo con mi madre. Ayer le dije que me gustaba este zapato (lo decía por el diseño, no por la altura que tenía) y empezó a crear un drama con que solo las personas altas deberían ponerse zapatos planos y las personas bajas los zapatos que les den altura 🤡 Mi madre trata de imponerme cosas absurdas y piensa que es lo correcto, como decir que el color negro es malo, que no lo he de poner ya que es satánico, representa el amor, etc, lel.
@@ppaulapp Te entiendo. Mi padre siempre va pensando que es dueño de la verdad. Le escandaliza sobre todo las ideas que tengo sobre temas religiosos, políticos, e incluso morales. A veces me mira y estoy segura que piensa: "en que me equivoque contigo para que salieras asi?" 🤣
Te entiendo completamente. Mi madre es ISFJ y yo soy ENTP. Las frases que más he oído salir de su boca son: "no digas esto", "no hagas esto", "tiene que importarte lo que los demás piensen sobre vos", "escucha las opiniones ajenas pero no expreses las tuyas". No hace falta decir que jamás le hice caso.
@@jesicab922 También crecí con un manual de cosas que "no debía hacer" Pero yo si les hice caso casi la mitad de mi vida porque tenia miedo de enfrentarlos. Hasta que un día me harté de que me obligaran a hacer lo que no quería, y a fingir que me importaban las mismas cosas que a ellos.
@@ellabane3104 cuando uno es pequeño no quiere enfrentarse a los padres ni decepcionarlos. El problema viene cuando ya has crecido, te sentís sofocado y te das cuenta que estás dejando de ser vos mismo por ideales ajenos. Y esos ideales no significa que sean los "correctos". Simplemente son maneras diferentes de ver el mundo y reaccionar a él. Y no podemos cumplir ese ideal porque no creemos en él y no es lo lógico ni lo que nos hace ser nosotros mismos. Decir la verdad sin adornarla es una virtud subestimada. No hay que perder eso por mandatos sociales.
Your ENTJ description was spot on! I told my ENTJ husband (as he was walking out the door to go to work) that I was going to make him watch this when he comes home, lol. I'm an INFJ and also totally related to my section as well.
@@meowhahaha, if you throw tofu in the freezer, it crystallizes. then when it thaws, the texture becomes “meatier”. (i’m a pescatarian INFP.) but it would be wild if that’s actually the reason they chose that name.
As an INFP I am confrontational in the way where I share my opinions and point out some other ideas but I typically don't push my opinions on others. Once in a while I will get very bothered by something and blow up about it and become very confrontational though
Frank is accurate about infp. Me with my whole family, is basically everyone just yelling and telling me I'm wrong. And I hold things as much as I can because I've learned that things gets more complicated when I talk and explode. So basically I'm holding a ton of hatred here in my heart. I know for myself that it is wrong, but how am I supposedly gonna tell them or even express them. I can't even express them how I love them, what else to express the reasons why I am like this, as if they're gonna understand me. 😒 And as much as I want to avoid conflicts they'd just barrage me with non ending problems and confrontation and there I am holding all the things I want to say. 😭 I just want a peaceful life.
I’m an intj who shared emotions with an infp- and she disappeared. I did exactly that ‘why r u being avoidant, it would be easier if you just said yes or no’ and she said ‘idk i need space’ Lol
As an enfp, that's true lmao. But I've learned to just not get so worked up by it. Let's just let those abstract things stay abstract. Don't make em physical
As an ISFJ, I'm actually surprisingly confrontational...but just not immediately lmao. I have to gather information to back me up before I do so. If I know you're messing with someone I care about, you will see a side of me you do not want to see (I have been told it's actually pretty frightening) otherwise if you mess with me personally it won't really matter much.
ENTP here and can I just say that literally in all of academia a quarter of the paper is just defining terms… if you make it up and then define it, it’s real and you are free to use it in a thesis
ENFJ here. Confrontation about my own needs (e.g., not feeling heard, appreciated, included by another person or within a group) I'm already at a point of tears and exhaustion then my Te demon comes out with cruelty... I've been working on proactive confrontation i.e., recognizing my own needs, advocating for myself, and defending my opinions. Confrontation regarding group needs, I'm very proactive to facilitating open and solution oriented conversations.
When Frank said INFP’s are the least confrontational, I was surprised. As an INFP i feel like I can actually be very confrontational. But it really depends on the situation. I just remember I had a friendship with someone that was very deep and whenever there was a unresolved problem and tension or if I had a concern & felt like that friend didn’t notice or care, I’d get straight to the point and tell them how I felt & tried to explain why I felt the way I did. She was actually the one who seemed to always avoid confronting me when there was tension and that use to bother me.
Probably an Infp-a. Infp-a people are more confrontational and strong in vocalizing their opinions. I’m an Infp-t so I don’t vocalize much opinion much. I did once this year against a girl in my English class who said that animals were as important as people, and there was no difference between killing a dog, and a human. I responded with, “have you ever killed a fly”. And she responded with no weight. She still thinks she won the argument.
@@isnc24bmusic25 I’m actually an INFP-t lol. I actually like vocalizing my opinions but at the same time it depends. That friendship I had with the person was almost like a relationship in a way and I’d always tell her how I felt if I thought something was off. I hated how she would avoid confrontation and couldn’t even talk on the phone (since we couldn’t do it in person for other non related reasons) to solve our issues, all she wanted to do was text. Lol that girl shouldn’t make you feel a need to keep things to yourself. Do you just avoid vocalizing your opinion because you don’t see a point in starting something with someone and just getting annoyed or?
Thanks for the ISFP explanation. My husband thinks I’m the confrontational one because he does exactly that. I just wish he let me know at the time that he wanted to take a different path, but I don’t find out he had other ideas until I’m invested in my own suggestion he seemed to have accepted.
ENFP here and I agree and will fight you on those things! Also if anyone steps on my values they can say hello to my friend Te! (The Te Bitchslap is a definite thing)
INTJ here, I would also say that in the immediate working area if I'm lasered in on something then interruptions with inane small talk (especially if they're adding to my workload or time I need to be working) will certainly get something said to them. Losing track of mind when you're on a roll can be one of the most infuriating things in existence.
INFP~i have a lack of ability because i have a lack of desire for most people in general. the only people i truly want to fit in with are the people who truly fit in with me naturally. which is very rare to find. i do wish there were more NF’s so they would be easier to find.
I'm an intp. Personally, I don't consider myself to be unaware of social norms or values, it's just a lot of them are illogical, so I don't pay much attention to them or flat out just don't care about breaking them. But it's also highly dependent of the situation and who I'm around, of course. Like, I have to consider the cost-benefit analysis of breaking a social norm knowingly each time I do it. xD
Love FJ's vids AND his commercials. The commercials he makes for his sponsors are so worth multiple watches! So talented and hilarious. Jenk Frames?! 😂 And also, what dish was that that FJ gobbled up and so obviously enjoyed? Guess we'll have to go to Factor and find out!
Before we knew our personality types, my husband and I described ourselves as the unstoppable force (me) and the immovable object (him). This video is hysterically accurate. I am ENTJ and he is INFP. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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How could you eat that yummy food without meee?? 😩🤤
I´m from Spain, and with the "comfontetiaone?" in "Spanish" I feel with the need of saying WTF but even so its ok
Hi Frank - this vid (the topic, not the food lol though it looked really good) got me thinking, Which personalities would tend to share the same values? Not sure it can be distilled into a video but would appreciate your insights, if ever. TC always.
Hi frank. Love your videos. I got to say this is by far the most on point and honest description/ praise i received. I got a question though..... why are you so hard on INFP's like they are the self observed cry babies of the 16 ps or something? Also infj.... which is your personality
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INFP: "They will act like they agree with you but then go off and do the opposite thing"
Yep. I am definetely guilty of that 😂
💯 real!!
Same lol. No wonder everyone gets frustrated with me.
Yes, all of the time
All the time when people try and give advice lol
It’s because they won’t take no for an answer and I’m not about to have an hour long argument about it 🤷♀️🙄
As an INFP I'm actually killing myself laughing at the accuracy. I do explode from time to time. Like maybe once a year or something. But yeah for the most part I just live my truth and when the vibe feels wrong I just slip away 🤷♀️🤣
That really do be our motto. "If I'm not feeling it, I'm out." Lol
As an INFP myself, i completely agree with your point 😄
I relate to all these. I’m glad I found a fraction of my INFP community lol
Yeah I do expect people to not try to make me move and if they do I will just say "ok" and then they leave and I go back to where I was and ignore them from then on.
I'm infamous in my family for having suuuuuuper long text messages over something that just put the nail in the coffin of my patience; something I care about, but would normally not confront anyone over in my wildest dreams is suddenly centre of an immense written outburst. It mostly hits the people that filled up my annoyance level up the brim before, but can sometimes hit undeserving people.
As an INFP, I avoid confrontation as much as I possibly can. I’d rather stick out a long, uncomfortable convo or situation than directly confront someone if I don’t think it’s 100% necessary. However, if something is negatively affecting me and impacting my ability to function, OR if it gets in the way of my morals, I’ll definitely confront someone and be unafraid to do so. I just weigh the consequences and the necessity of it first.
Yes exactly, weighing the consequences and necessity. I'm extremely nonconfrontational because I just don't see the point, if neither of us are going to change our minds why are we wasting time arguing? My go to move is to poke at them from different angles until I say something that makes their resolve flicker and I'll use that as leverage to change their mind but if it's not getting anywhere I just change the subject. But yeah I have so many things I could say to people, like I blow up at them in my mind, but since I only see them once in a while and there are significant possible consequences of doing so irl I just stay quiet.
Same 😊
Yep, we have to choose our battles carefully.
Ohh boy brings me back to years ago with some friends being toxic with me for a while even though I hinted at it. Got like 1k word texts completely analyzing the situation and they toned it down and understood my pov. Nowadays I think I was being very petty but maybe I was being rational? I dont even know any more.
My son is an INFP (I am ENFP) and he really does avoid confrontation, but sometimes if I know it needs to happen for both of us to figure out something, I will push us into that confrontation. We'll have it out, both express our problems and negative feelings, and maybe yell a little. Then I will wait a few minutes. He usually comes to me to apologize or I'll apologize and we'll love each other again, but with a new understanding of what the other is thinking and feeling and going through. It happens quickly, but I know he needs that or things will just fester. Consider that with people that are close to you if they can get over fights. I think it makes him healthier because he might otherwise suffer in silence. He has no idea I do this for catharsis and understanding on purpose.
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I've always hoped someone does this before me. Let me know if there's a mistake.
thank you! I had to scroll so far to find timestamps!
@@LittleBlueClown you're welcome! hope it receives more likes so everyone can find it faster.
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Yep. Infp here, and the “holding it in for as long as possible then being upset” thing is definitely me. Who else here feels understood by mbti way more than they do with real people?
Yeah I'm an INFP but being the oldest kid in my family has made me a lot more confrontational then most lol. My sister, on the other hand, is also an INFP and she generally holds in her frustration as long as possible lol
@@oarfish1481 haha I feel you! I’m also an oldest child and my sis is an enfj- I think- she’s very explosive heh... 😂
100% but none of the people around me is actually interested in Mbti....
I also hold things in for as long as possible. Sometimes I explode, sometimes I just start distancing myself without explaining why. Probably a shitty thing to do but anyways
@@monito3575 Right? I do every step to make sure I avoid confrontation even if that includes avoiding people. If I can't do that anymore than I really might just explode
@@monito3575 your comment sums up life haha. At least my life- anyways, you are not alone 😂
INFP here, I’m screaming at how accurately you described us. I literally just mind my own business, don’t go looking for conflicts, but somehow, it’s always me against EVERYONE ELSE. No one seems to agree with me on something that I feel very strongly about, so when I politely refuse to fit in and go along with what’s happening, the conflict arises 😒
Same! I literally try my best to mind my own business but some how people always manage to cause conflicts and it’s just like “please forget I exist” 🤦🏼♀️ 😂
You have this every time people are becoming bumptious and believe that they have to tell you that they know better and how you should handle things instead (very frequently observed in xSxJ, however, exceptions - hopefully! - exist).
Surefire way to rile the heck out of me, and then they are surprised why I'm blowing in their faces.
This lets me wonder why they just cannot let people mind their own business.
Same. I don’t do well with confrontation. If it personally attacks me or if I’m just fed up I will speak up.
@@no_name2136 so accurate xD
@Moondust yeah no wonder, we’re literal opposites 😂😂😂
I think the INFP will do all they can to accommodate and create peace, until some moral line has been crossed and then everyone thinks, "what happened?" after the explosion. Then the INFP looks like they are the bad one and everyone thinks the INFP over-reacted. There's a different standard for the INFP.
Although this is 100% accurate..I feel what Frank was talking about here wasn't that the INFP are the howler letters...that confrontations find them like a howler letter...by the time confrontation finds us..they are firing on all cylinders, lol...due to how incredibly hard it is to manipulate us...due to strong internal convictions. That immovable standard you were talking about...causes those who subscribe to the moving standard of the crowd...see you as an inconsistency who's very existence causes them to question themselves and the way they have been navigating the way and reasons they treat others and make decisions...we make them doubt their reality by living our own. That's what I think he meant..though, again, your point is 100% correct:)
For real, and it doesn't help that there's a delayed reaction, I mean it takes TIME to process what the problem is, so to everyone else it's like "where is this coming from?" like it came out of nowhere & without context even though they were there through the whole thing
Yep!! I swear every time I'm trying to confront something for a good cause, the entire world turns against me. This has made me numb and not wanting to confront anymore, because no matter what I do the blame goes right back to me.
Yeah honestly!
Every time I get angry, which is very seldom and unusual, the people around me will be like “oh calm down now!” And I hate it.
I get angry so so little compared to the rest of my family and am generally a really calm person and it feels like I have no right to be angry and anything at all.
The only good thing is that when I’m angry it’s often actually effective.
Whilst my mom will have a tantrum at the smallest of things and nobody takes it seriously anymore, when I say the word the confrontation is usually over or is talked about differently.
Just wanted to throw that in there because that can be one of the advantages (not always of course, but often).
But you’re right otherwise honestly.
And what also happens is that, since I get angry so little and have so little confrontations, there is no in-between. Either I’m not angry, or I’m *really* angry. In the heat of the moment I will also sometimes say things that sound really violent or is insulting and I can’t hold it back.
It can be a bit of a problem, like the time I made two of my friends cry (one who turned out to be toxic, which is why I blew up at some point but yeah-)
Exactly! And this applies to most non-confrontational "doormat" people. It really sucks and I really wish my communications skills were better because I feel like that will make a big impact on how I control my emotions and will help me feel more confidence and self-respect, and create healthier dynamics with people instead of just letting them guess what I'm feeling and creating a big problem for no reason.
The INFP one was sooo accurate, it’s even scary how accurate it is. When you said that INFPs would never force their opinion on others, but they would want people to not force theirs to us either is what’s the most accurate, I audibly gasped. But then when you said: that’s not how the world works, I was so disappointed haha. Anyways thank you for your videos! I keep discovering so many new things about myself and my beloved ones
As an INFP married to an ENTJ, we've had to learn how to navigate conflict together haha. My spouse thinks confrontation is good and would prefer to confront me on everything (to get it out of the way) and I want to avoid confrontation (to keep from ever confronting about something if I can avoid it). My spouse has become gentler with their confrontations, and I'm still learning to become more willing to engage in the confrontation.
Find you a spouse who's willing to work with you, regardless of your differences ❤
You both have a nice way of learning and handling things, ehh... That's a good thing, hope you both a happiness together...🤗
Exactly! We can all work together if we are just willing to try it. - INTJ
Lol. I'm an INFP and one of the most easy going and simultaneously most stubborn people I know. I used to explode more, but not it's more stubbornness. You nailed it though.
INFP~i’m only stubborn when i’m passionate about something & it’s extremely important to me. i’m very easy going the majority of the time tho.
@@LaciRae yeah, that’s a better way of saying it.
Once I became comfortable knowing my own truth...and I stopped caring if others agreed...my inner rage went away:) you're on the right track...understanding comes from k owing many perspectives...knowledge comes from experience....everything else is hearsay..to this INFP:)
@@SarahJacksonLV , right. because we are so adept at taking consideration of all sides, & are more open to understanding all, we tend to form more well rounded perspectives than what is typical. since we have a much deeper all encompassing “knowing” than most seem to even have the capacity to reach, it is futile to become angry every time we encounter this. step away if needed, take a moment with yourself, close your eyes, breathe deep, clear the negative energy, and remind yourself that you can/will walk alone if necessary to stay true to your ethics/anything else that is truly important to You. this is not a bad trait to have. allow others to walk away from you if their values lead them down a different path. birds of a feather will flock together, and we’re a rare bird. because we are few & far between, our flock will only consist of very few. that’s okay too.
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I have to admit, I'm a highly confrontational INFJ. If I see an issue, especially one involving another person, I have to try and fix it. It's like "I understand where they're coming from, but their mentality is fundamentally wrong, so if I say nothing then they'll never be better as a person and it'll be **my** fault."
I have a definite problem with feeling the need to do that, as well. But as I get older, I've realized that people have the right, if they have the inclination, to never become a better person.
OOF yes
Good job trying though.
@@lisarodriguez6966 that is true... it's a rather sad thing to think but it is the truth.
some people prefer buying a book for the cover rather than being forced to read another book (with an ugly cover) by someone because they think the person would like the book
I am the same! 😱
Literally everyone in the world: "You gotta do things THIS way!"
INFP: "No. I don't think I will."
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Preach!
Story of my life
Literally.
Being an INTJ, I get upset with people who refuse to care about things, but mainly because by not caring about those things, the system that makes up the fabric of society (or the fabric of the debate team I'm trying to make at school) will collapse and/or fail to function properly.
Oh, tell me about it..
Yes!! This is so true of me, as well!
That's a quote I'm gonna live by now.
- an INFP
It’s true. It’s not me versus you that makes me want the other person to see what I see, it’s the mess not seeing it right makes of the community. I don’t even mind so much if they mess themselves up but few of us are really the islands we want to pretend we are.
I’m an INTJ too! I often say I don’t care about [insert activity] when I’m working on it on my own, but when I’m working in a group I feel so responsible for the outcome of the project, I push aside everything else - especially, my own personal feelings. So imagine how cold and intransigent I become when someone in the group doesn’t do their part and comes up with an excuse for it (typically, their OWN personal issues).
It may sound harsh (if we’re all INTJs it probably doesn’t), but I really don’t give a shit about everyone’s personal issues in work situations. We can talk about the issue outside of work
As an INTP I can confirm this is accurate, I am a defensive confrontational
When people are talking to each other and I'm there listening (not intentional of course) as soon as I hear something that is illogical or something that I find wrong, my immediate response is
"HUH?! WHAT DID THEY SAY?!"
I can’t believe how accurate this is. 😂
I'm an INFP but I can also be like this at times haha. I think it's just because I value logic a lot.
Every time someone says the word "dinosaur". Jurassic Park has greatly hindered our paleontology understanding 😔
I often say that people want to argue with me. People actually like to argue with me I've been told that. But I don't like to explain why am I right and someone is wrong. I'm too lazy for it.
I like being in between Infp and intp so I can comment and relate to both mbti types. I’m Infp but 5 percent off of intp. I switch between depending on my mood.
This is so accurate that it's almost scary! I am such a pure INFJ and I am trying to enlarge my vision as I understand that sometimes i am narrow-minded. Great videos Frank, i am learning a lot from you!
INFP is so accurate it hurts from laughing. I’m an ENFJ but I’m sending to my INFP folks because I’ve been trying to find a way to articulate this to them for a while. INFPs are my besties but it’s their weird way of confrontation that’s been the one thing I don’t know how to handle 😅
Haha I can imagine it. Just try to understand their point of view and respect it, even if you don't agree with it. That's all we want :P
It’s cool, we don’t know how to handle it either!
@@e-mail6130 ok as long as y’all do the same. Infps seem to be more unwilling to compromise compared to other types.
The problem with being an INFJ and having our "visions" is that we are seeing too far into the future where things have not happened yet and other types especially sensory types can only take in whats in front of them.
Also, because of our generally weird behaviors, other types seem to undermine us and try to push the vision in a way that they can see results more readily losing the long term vision I am trying so hard to birth to reality regardless of the time frame it will take which then causes me to kick said defector off the train which will leave with or without you!
INFJ's are better suited to working alone to achieve most of their dreams anyway, we find a way to make a big impact(most times unintentional) without gathering the masses but we'll work specific key points in our field in order to yield the maximum result but always keeping a focus on the big picture. Other types who were unable to see these angles get totally blindsided by this and start rallying to stop this "x" factor which causes the conflict for me in most cases.
INFJ's in a conflict do not kick ass and take names, I prefer to bring the cliff to you and then watch you jump off in disbelief. It's a lot of work though lol.
Great observations!
@@timefortee Thanks, it's actually a combination of life experiences, mistakes, observations and lots of re-observations 😅
@@KibatheMalinois that's what makes them valuable.
Yeah, it's easier and more efficient to just not say what you're realizing, thinking or planning as an INFJ and just let everyone else catch up when it all becomes real. I've mostly made peace with it. Let them jump off the cliff you tried to tell them was there - it's is just simpler.
So many times I explain something won't work to be told it will just give it time. Guess what, it didn't work. 😒 they don't see the steps like I do.
As an ISTP, the second you said "defensively confrontational" my brain knew exactly what you were going for without you even having to describe it.
As an INFP I myself have anger issues to an invariable extreme probably passed down from my dad but in any case I typically don’t have the energy for getting into the arguments. I am easily drained by social interaction so it’s pretty obvious why arguments would be draining for me. But in doing so trying to avoid arguments I build up that anger within me. And at some point like Frank said something I won’t agree with because I’m just special and feel the need to be different to everyone else’s opinions being an INFP lol so when I am REALLY opinionated over something I will explode. And that’s what’s caused several blackouts yay. Moral of the story go to therapy if you’re like this lol. If you don’t work through your anger and you’re an INFP you’re gonna get into a heated debate and lose your shit.
I can relate so well to this comment. INFP with anger issues 🤝 therapy
My mom was exactly like this but was scared to get a diagnosis for some sort of personality disorder, so never got help. Her issues were so deep that, even though I'm the only person who knew her so well, I'm not even sure if she was an INFP because that kind of thing can distort personality... but she certainly was reclusive, sensitive, & bitter for most of her life. She had to have been Fi dominant, because she had high values, hated other people in her business, she didn't want help from no one, and there was nothing anyone could do to urge her to help herself.
I'm also an INFP, and I don't think I'm there yet, but I recently realized I have a lot of unresolved anger too. Please get help if you're anywhere near this path, it's not pretty! Everyone she knew pegged her as crazy, and she died young & bitter & demoralized. I regret everyday that I didn't know how to help her more, to make her life more beautiful or joyful... The effect this can have on your loved ones runs deep & far, even if you think you're only hurting yourself, you're not
Your comment is brave and helpful! I am an ENFP and relate a lot to this, and I’m working through my own anger issues.
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As an ENFP I’m so caught up in analyzing my values that confrontation for me is not rare, but very organized.
Most confrontation is me saying what needs to be said because it is genuinely important that I do.
Oh yes! As an INFJ I tend to be very against conflict and will avoid it as much as possible so I don’t upset anyone. But the times that I tend to confrontational is when I have something I hold very dear to me and have a strong opinion on only for everyone to seem like they are trying to challenge it.
That's just it. We are very good at choosing our hill(s) to die on.
So true!!! Today i politely argued with my friend about whether if it was already summer or not, she was talking about some kind of religion.
Similar for me (ENFJ), but with an important difference. It's not the defense of what I value that will get me confrontational, it's the defense of what other people value. Example: A party, everyone is really into the music that's playing, and someone decides they're going to put on something different that no one else likes. Even if I agree with this interloper about the music, and would much rather listen to what they were going to put on, they have disrupted the group and ruined the mojo. So I will confront that person.
The music-at-a-party example is pretty trivial, but it's the same dynamic for much more serious issues. Communities of people, large or small, need and/or want certain things. The person who steps on that for their own personal reasons is my nemesis.
As an ENTP, depends by what you mean with confront. Of course, I will mention when something doesn't make sense, or when I think something is inaccurate. But I would be chill and I wouldn't see it as being confrontational. I would indeed be like "What about this" or "Have you thought of this possibility?" but the moment the person takes it the wrong way or gets emotional, I will back off. So it isn't about being confrontational, just how my brain works. I want to explore ideas, discover the truth and mention when something doesn't make sense to me. But never to confront, I am just externalizing what my brain does all the time.
That is also why I take issue with the description of ENTPs loving debate, I love exploration of ideas, learning and challenging my mind. But the moment it becomes a competition, I am like "Why?" this is about learning the truth, picking a side of the argument limits the possibilities. I also love when people prove me wrong, because in the end I do not want to be right, but find what is right. But in debates, people choose a side, and are unable to see the other side, because they want to win, which is why I hate debate. They are an extremely limited way of finding the truth.
Where I might be confrontational, is when there is a person that has a very black and white way of seeing things, and they are extremely confident on their views but it is clear they have not think about things thoroughly. I rather talk with someone with disagrees about everything I believe in, but is open to discussing things calmly, than someone who agrees on everything with me, but is very imposing in his views and very narrow minded.
But at the end I do not really like confrontation, Fe doesn't like it, and my Ne Ti doesn't want to deal with narrow minded people. Because at the end of the day, I want to explore ideas and learn new things, not change people's minds. Debating someone that is like that, is way too much effort for something that might not bear any fruits. And even if it does, I do not care that much about what people think, so it isn't much of a win. I rather be shown wrong and learn something, than win an argument and learn nothing. In the end my Ti is extremely egotistical, I only care about what I think and learn. Even me writing this, is hoping for other people to share their insight to me, only for me to learn something new.
But bottom line, I do not see disagreement as confrontational. In fact i see disagreement as something good. It is the way we can learn new things and explore ideas, and see if they hold any merit. Every idea should be put to scrutiny.
I see confrontation as confrontation. If the person gets mad, if the person becomes aggressive, if they raise their voice, if they throw insults, if they impose their views, etc. That is confrontational, not disagreeing. If you feel attacked for a disagreement, specially one done respectfully, then it is more of a you problem. Maybe you feel attacked, because you have not think things through properly, and if you haven't really think about what you believe, then why do you believe it?
a little random but keep in mind some people have trauma. i used to LOVE debating people as an enfp, but now, even disagreements send me into a panic attack with anger at its core due to how cruel people online were to me for having the ""wrong"" opinions growing up. if someone feels attacked, you should consider why and that maybe you weren't as respectful about it as you thought. sometimes we assert our opinions when they aren't needed and it can rightfully piss people off, or we can be too blunt or direct and come across as rude. i've learned, at least from my perspective (since i can't read people's minds), when and when it isn't appropriate to share my opinion. also, people can have strong beliefs but be insecure about those beliefs due to being the outlier, so it is important to consider that, as well.
debating is great but it isn't for everyone. remember anger is a response to feeling threatened. it activates survival mode. someone being angry on its own isn't bad and i don't think it should be treated as such. it's a normal response to feeling threatened or like your morals are being violated. the problem arises when people start being cruel and disrespectful.
I always questioned the debating stereotype and because it’s a stereotype that’s all people ever see. Same with istps and fixing things.
This wall text is an ENTP thing? Because I can relate.
WOW thank you for your thoughts and descriptions, super clear and I agree
ENTP here
Yes!
INFP - sooo accurate! I somehow very often find myself as the only person in the room feeling the way I feel, living life the way I do and having my specific set of values. For some reasons, people frequently decide it's a good idea to come to me and try to persuade me to change and become like everybody else. That's when I suddenly become the most fearless confrontation-ist of all times.
As an INTP, I find the description spot on accurate. I am often shaking my head in disbelief at the logical inconsistencies that I have to deal with at times and will find myself setting people straight in short order.
True
Honestly at this point I just expect people to be illogical. I do sometimes still have to pause to process something pretty unexpected but otherwise it helps to already factor it into my mental calculations
So true about the INFP, my family keeps trying to give me their opinions about things that have nothing to do with them and how I should leave the house more - I’ve just started giving them the death stare at this point
Lol as a kid, I used to get told , put that book down and go out and play. 😀
INFP here, I don't know if not listening to others is true for me, I do accept others opinions cause I'm always questioning my choices.. and I judge myself more than anything and so I try to see things from different perspectives. BUT. There are some things that I don't let others to choose, for example my feelings, my musical taste or my hobbies. And yes, I don't weigh my opinions on anyone. In an argue, I respect what the other person is trying to imply, even if I don't agree. And I expect the same in return. When they don't, that's when it pisses me off. I'd rather just end the convo there and walk away or spit all the negative traits they have and wrongs they've done that I've been observing silently for years. And then later feel disgusted by the whole argument. whoa big comment
I can relate to always questioning my choises and seeing things from (sometimes way too many) different prospectives, but for me it still feels like, I will listen to others, explore it as one of possible points of view, but won't agree(at least in my head) till I come to this conclusion myself.
So loved this, mostly because it is true for me too.
As an Infp I like making a paragraph long comment that nobody reads. I do the same thing.
Damn this happened to me too. Lost two friendships because of that. One of my friends started judging me for a band I liked which had helped me a lot in my rough patches and that pissed me off so much that I actually told her everything I'd been holding in for years: how she always seemed to be judging me, mocking me, underestimating me, and I'd kept quiet about it. To be honest, I'd really exaggerated it all, but I was glad I didn't have to feel those remotely similar feelings anymore. Another confrontation happened because some supportive friends helped me confront another one who was arguing with me a lot and pinning high expectations on me which messed me up, we fell out and broke friendships, unfortunately- it got heated pretty fast. But just like an INFP, I was able to get over it because I didn't have to put up with that again
That ISTJ thing is so true. My dad is VERY particular about his bedtime and gets very annoyed if he doesn't get to bed when he wants or people are at all too loud.
I’m an ENFP and this bothers me too! I need my sleep!!
My Dad is the same
I'm INFP & value sleep exactly the same. I've learned something important about sleep: when you don't get enough you're not only mentally unwell, you are clinically physically unwell, and it can kill you.
Imagine your brain not ever being able to poop, only the brain is far more critical to your immediate survival than your butthole. You wouldn't want your heart to gunk up like that, but we have no problem preventing our brains from cleaning itself out & repairing itself in the name of a paycheck, video games, anime or Netflix
It's very important, I think your dad's crabbiness is appropriate
So true
Just don't challenge the things we truly value, our ideals, and you can be in the safe side
Otherwise, we got both logic and morals in our inventory to demolish your foundation of believes
--infp who is used to arguing
ENFP - I have literally gotten into fights with people over movie endings, lol. You really know your stuff Frank!
I'm also INFP, and I think that the reaction of INFP'S is pretty accurate , especially in our younger years. But I think that this can also be an unhealthy way to express our feelings and opinions to the world, especially if we blow up.
Generally speaking, we strive for harmony, so saying something (i.e. confrontation) when it isn't 100% necessary isn't something that we'll go out of our way to do. We can also be afraid of rejection by expressing our thoughts or confronting someone, and are very sensitive of how others will feel towards us or perceive us because we "rocked the boat", so to speak.
However, as I've gotten older I've come to realize the importance of addressing things I perceive as wrong or harmful - by me confronting others or having others confront me about my own actions.
For INFP's it all depends on how you do it.
If you explain to me tactfully why what I'm doing is hurting you, other people, or even myself and offer alternatives to my way of doing things, I'm much more open to changing my mind ( INFP's have shadow Fe, so we don't always see how our actions impact others). I'll even thank you for your honesty and input and take it into consideration.
But if you're too forceful or direct, I'll just shut down and go off doing my own thing.
Sometimes after a period of processing, I may even confront YOU about how you confronted me lol, but dont be surprised if I dont talk to you or seem to avoid you for a while afterwards...I just need time to process everything and think about what I want to say.
Yup. This definitely speaks about me as an INFP too...
Jeez, this is so true..🤧🤧
the istp one is so accurate. i don't really bother to confront anyone but if what they said is complete bs i'll have to.
Same
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Yup, I feel like I have to speak up and correct them lol
2 + 2 = 4 except when you don't feel like it.
Yep, sounds like my son correcting his teachers at school. Sometimes they get upset and say you shouldn't correct me cause I'm the teacher, and he says if you weren't the teacher I wouldn't care that you were wrong. Lol. As an INTJ, I love it. ISTP's everywhere are welcome to correct me anytime.
INTJ here. Yep. We have a well designed plan for how to do something in the most efficient way for maximized results. It's like a fine tuned, incredibly complex German time piece. We're either silently designing and redesigning it in our heads or making it actually happen. We think about it from all different angles and understand all the implications of each choice and how one aspect affects the others directly and indirectly, so when someone comes stomping in brain storming on the fly or "helping" without asking if we want that particular type of help in that particular way, they're throwing a wrench in the works.
Then the worst part is them asking, "Why?" Without fail, they're annoyed when we answer and it's far more complex than they ever imagined. We're angry that they asked why without actually wanting to know why and they're mad that we didn't give them a dumbed down explanation. So mostly, leave the INTJs alone to do their thing, folks.
OMG do you live in my brain? :D I couldn´t have said it better!
Wow this is me planning my group project given to me by my fellow members 😂
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I’m an ENFP and my INTJ mom and I always watch these videos together and we got to the sponsor part and she said “Jank Frames sounds like a brand of cheap sunglasses you got off Wish” and we laughed about it for an embarrassing amount of time
i laughed for so long at the beginning when he said CONFRONTATIONNNN at the 10 second mark and i replayed it over and over lol (i not enfp tho)
Isfp here. Us Fi doms are usually pretty agreeable until you directly challenge one of our deep, personal values. If you are gutsy enough to challenge one of our personal values, then yes you might see one of the explosions. If we don't understand or agree with something, but its not necessarily a direct challenge to our values... Then youll typically see us just... Smile and nod while quietly disengaging and looking for an escape opportunity (thinking of my interactions with intp sister who's going to school for anthropology...
Honestly, I'm an INTJ and I avoid confrontation cause most people always have the same takes on everything and I don't care if ''maybe you should listen and you will hear something new'' because it's never new and I stoped caring. Labor force can have their own opnions and as long as they don't affect me they can keep on living or die and I wouldn't care less
As an ENTJ I can confirm. I love confronting people, especially with their incompetence and mismatch for the job 😀
We love it but sometimes it's like they force us argue with them by doing or saying stupid things 🙂
😂how is this possible 🤯 and you even seem happy about it 😂
I could not relate to it but I admire your courage for it - infj
@@justliyouh2051 to argue with entj or with other people?
@@LatIenws Thank you infj :).think about it: our way of contributing to society is to dismantle incompetence and put the right people in positions. Entj is full of courage cause it's really hard for us to be scared. We are fearless to our bones. Maybe that's why people say we are intimidating 🤔🤔🤔
@@Jayjaydzidzi I'm talking about other people but confronting ENTJ like me it's sometimes fun.💀
YES another musical promotion haha those are great. Literally the only in-video promotions I enjoy lol
It was clever. I don’t mind any promo the host uses, but a musical skit makes it fun.
INFP takes me time to process confrontation or issues directly in the moment. I feel out on the spot and if it’s like in public or the person expects a specific response I get anxiety and need to have time to process. Sometimes the response in the moment is reactive to agree or be peaceable but once I’m alone and can process I realize what a dumpster fire the conversation was and then have to find a way to not look like an idiot by disagreeing…and if I’m still figuring it out I can’t hide my awkwardness….so I’d rather avoid lol BUT luckily this doesn’t happen much. I’ve learned to own my response if I’ve thought about it and just say “you know…I needed some time to process and my answer has different perspective.” Or just straight up own it and be like….I was wrong and put pressure on myself to answer in the moment, (truly depends on the person and how I think they’ll receive my response)
I relate to every word! Thank you for your comment!!
People can get confrontational about second-function stuff too, in some cases even more so. For example, many ENFPs will fight fiercely for their Fi values, while I as an INFP have often challenged people for being closed-minded, quick to judge, or too set in certain beliefs/ideas/worldviews.
Late addition: Another form of confrontation I engage in fairly regularly is confronting other people who confront other people unfairly or overly aggressively! The whole mediator thing...
Interesting comment 🤔 I am an INFP too and when I stand up for my own values it is not about confronting someone, rather I just do what I do, if you can't accept it it's not my problem and even feel uncomfortable trying to convince someone of my values at times. But I will get really annoyed too when people are close minded to the point where I am getting angry (on the inside not the outside). For example when people make dumb excuses all the time for their misbehaviour, rather than just taking responsability for it. SUPER ANNOYING
Lol when you got to the infp/isfp I laughed so hard😂 as an example when my isfj mom gives me advice alot of the time I’ll act like oh yeah that makes sense and then go and try to bend it to be whatever I feel is the right way. Because gosh darn it I’m my own person and nobody gonna tell me what to do 🤦🏻♀️ sometimes it even ends up that I’ll be given advice and then I end up doing what ppl suggested anyways but not before I take a very round about way getting there lol!
Whoa! You got it down about Infp's. When you said we pretend to listen, then go off and do what we want, and never text the person again. It's like you were reading my soul!
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More to come!
INTP over here.
I actually love playing minesweeper, so it was fun seeing that visual pop up.
And yeah, while I wouldn't really say that I'm confrontational in general, I do not hesitate to tell people when they are wrong.
My alltime favourite game, that good old version of minesweeper, that is. 😍 I could play that for hours on end.
-- another INTP
Minesweeper is a great logic puzzle - another INTP
Minesweeper on windows xp, One of the best games of all time.
As a ENTJ this is so right, i will give someone a lecture or speak my mind
INFP: 100% correct! I don't force my feelings and beliefs down your throat so don't do it to me. It never goes that way and I can't understand it for the life of me. I feel like I am saying go live your life do you and then they come for me for some reason. Hit home Frank
Thanks soooo much!!! You explained my experiences as INFP exactly how they really are! I regularry question myself: why!??? people constantly want to agrue with me!? I just hate conflicts, but: I equally hate that others wants to deside about MY matters or wants me to I change my firm opinions...Hmmm...what to do now!???
Yeah. INFP is spot on. I’m very stubborn. I pick my battles. I agree though that when I notice a problem I tend to not speak up because everytime I do I feel like I’m the bad guy.
It would be cool if Frank James did a video on why some introvert are mistyped as extroverts.
I’m an introvert, but I was surprised how many people that didn’t know me well thought I was an extrovert. And I’ve met several people who seemed like they were extroverts, but they were just verbal processors or really liked meeting new people.
INTJ, and I had former coworkers argue that I am not an introvert. I gave them the death stare while informing them that I had to literally veg for an hour when I got home from the office to even start to function around the house. I now WFH and can't fathom being around humanoid creatures.
INFJ: Get on the train, or get run ovah!!😹 No, we don't hurt people... intentionally. Haha. That ad was hilarious! 🤣🙌💜
Wilson Fisk and Ra's Al Ghuls are INFJs. INFJs can hurt people intentionally, like a lot.
@@ehadams3827 I know. Just jokin'.🙂
You should make a video of different personality types getting their haircut, it would be funny to watch different types manage small talk and thoughts going through their head.
Oh God, maybe I truly am an INTJ, I just stare at the mirror the entire time.
As an INTP, I just sit and think (I can't even see without my glasses) and hope they don't small talk (they usually don't once they figure out you don't like it).
Me INFP: "Cringe" small talk no thanks
@@nunyabiznes33 same, I just want it to end as soon as possible 😂
INFP is soo accurate
Lots of great EXAMPLÉS. You said infj’s want other people to get on board the love train 🎶 Earlier todaÿ, I concluded that the common problem behind shootings, drug trade, child trafficking, abuse etc, is a lack of empathy. We need more empathy! Get on the empathy train!
I’m an ENTJ and I’m actually one of the least confrontational people I know. As a kid I’d get into arguments all the time, but I eventually realized I didn’t like trying to argue with someone who is set in their own opinion. I feel like I can never win in a argumentative situation because most of the time people are gonna believe what they want to regardless of the new opinion you give to them. Now I only attempt to argue with someone who I know will not only have good points on their side, but also take the time to consider my side. Otherwise it just wastes both of our time and at the end we feel more frustrated than when we came into the conversation.
Sounds like me, an ENFJ, surrounded by P types mostly IXXPs. It has taught me to respect personal space like nothing else could have, that's for sure! I was very confrontational as a kid too, but unfortunately I took way too long a time to realize that it gets you nowhere when people are set in their ways.
Yes, this is why my ESFJ big brother tells me I'm more mellow now....haha!
Another ENTJ here and I'm the same way! If its gonna waste my time and energy, I don't bother with unnecessary conflict. That, and I like confronting someone who's both educated and fair rather than someone who spits out nonsense. An open mind is key!
Frank, I have a question to confront you with: The Godfather of MBTI skits Bogdan Yakubets just did the first interview since your great podcast over at the INTJ Doctor's for Christ MBTI channel and revealed he was an INFJ? You knew didn't you? Takes a legend to know a legend. Gotta go be back! That's not the question I wanted to ask hang on be back! haha
Isn’t Bogdan an INTP?? 🤔
@@meowhahaha Bogdan could be, but he thinks he's an INFJ. It's difficult to type based on a couple of interviews. One of my favorite youtubers I typed ENTJ but I've heard over 100 streams with him and he's had on average 3 to 4 hour streams and even did a 24 hour stream so I could see past a persona. Recently he's been doing almost daily 9 hour morning streams covering court cases and then 5 hour nightly streams. Although, I don't listen to them all and when I do, I skip around listening to at 2x speed.
Previously, I think Bogdan said he tested for INFJ, INFP, and INTP and people were thinking he was an INTP which was a similar situation with another, in my opinion, INFJ skit youtuber It's Just Kevin who was going between INFJ, INFP, and INTP, and people were thinking he was an INTP, and he could be any type since we're seeing edited personas but the INTJ Doctor's for Christ is fantastic at type so if she thinks Bogdan is an INFJ, I trust her. In my opinion, Doctors for Christ and It's Just Kevin are the best MBTI skit youtubers besides Frank James because they illustrate the functions in alignment with Meyers and Briggs as opposed to using the Meyers and Briggs nomenclature and adding a bunch of stuff including nuances/idiosyncracies that give the characters too much personality, which could make for more entertaining realized three-dimensional psyche characterizations,...but that's not Meyers and Briggs personality type. Although, I think Bogdan's skits are great and align with Meyers and Briggs, but I think Frank James characters being more cartoony help them to be more distinguished to help illustrate the functions.
Meyers and Briggs is the basic Ni essence personality type as opposed to personality which includes a person's upbringing, experiences, faith, beliefs, tastes, interests, health, job, how hard they worked for self-improvement, and culture and being that I think Bogdan Yakubets is great at using Ni, but was more nuanced thank Frank James, I was thinking INTP was reasonable with the whole Ne exploratory aspects getting deeper with the details of personality but that's not good reasoning at all since anyone of any type could be great at type as long as he or she worked hard for pattern recognition in a way that aligns with reality because if the patterns aren't aligned with reality then I think it can kinda get into territory that certain people on the news were getting into such as with Dungeons and Dragons and World of Warcraft where they got too invested in the intuitive fiction, and I think there's something similar going on with people getting too invested in type wanting some rigid fatalistic system to ground their identity in or to puff their chests with such as what might being on with that recent Alpha, Bravo, Gamma, Sigma, Delta, Omega Heathers Mean Girls club going on.
I haven't seen/heard enough of Bogdan Yakubets to determine that he is an INFJ but I'd highly recommend that interview because he even goes into using the other functions Ne and Te. Briefly though.
And being that people think Frank is an INFP, I thought it might be helpful. Bogdan is reminiscent of Frank James' older videos.
Plus maybe get people to check out Frank's excellent podcast (there's one episode Spiritual No Man's Land where people can hear Frank using Ne ordered toward Ni, which an INFP could do as well as any type if they worked hard but that podcast episode along with Frank in interviews as well as Frank's second channel Creator Accelerators and other stuff convinces me he's an INFJ.
I gotta go. So I'm really rushing this but I think types are most like their inverse and then one letter off so INFJs are most like ENFPs, INTJs, INFPs, ENFJs, and ISFJs. Based on circumstances anyone could come across as any type since there's a will and an intellect behind each type and how we use the functions so if we have the grace to do so, we can choose to develop whatever functions, and I think Bogdan mentioned people think he was an SP type but he worked on developing his Se thanks to his dad's influence.
I actually wrote something over on It's Just Kevin's channel where he took various tests and got INFJ, and I rushed something out where I also brought up how earlier Eminem albums incorporated what could be a lot of Ne but he's thought of as an ISTP and compared it to the INFP Jonathan Davis' use of Ne in the early KoRn albums where he's use stories that represented his life events in an Ne way where no one could know what he's talking about unless they researched which I did as a kid. Eminem's stuff if I remember correctly was out there but it was more grounded and I think most people would figure that it's a heavily edited narrative to make the best entertainment to make money but with early KoRn, and I'm not recommending any Eminem or KoRn because I think it's mostly junky, but early KoRn Jonathan made a song about being abused by his female neighbor where it comes across like he's singing about his dad abusing him which kinda reminds me of Frank James' video about INFP being the second most understood type. I tried wording that in a certain way because it's not pleasant subject manner.
I gotta go! This was all over the place!
I'm wearing red today, Meow Hahaha! Taking out multiple birds with one stone. And by taking out, I mean to lunch! Birds do so much to brighten this world with their singing, it's the least I can do...before I make them my lunch.
Hope you're having a great weekend!
@@JohnHenrysaysHi hold on John don’t delete this. I want to write many things but I’m cooking my dinner now, wait okay? 😉
btw I GOT a favorite character! Jank Frames!
@Detective biscuits Haha The Pied Piper! Loved him!
Right as I was listening to the ISFJ part, my ISFJ little sister was getting after my little brother for not playing Restaurant the way she'd planned
Me, an only 25 yo ISFJ, having a huge bookshelf of fantasy books, listening to FJ today: 🙉🙉🙉
@@mvlivv oh fantasy books are awesome. I'm an INFP so yeah I totally get that lolol
I’m the softest weakling INFP you will ever meet in your life, but still when I get critiques on something, i hold grudges for life and NEVER forget the hardship that person brought upon me, I damn near go into serial killer mode
That "They will fight you" at the ENFP section is so true. I litrally had says fights over stories lmao.
As an ISTP, I do have a mental minefield in my mind and mentally explode at others when people say dumb stuff that don’t go with my opinions
OMG!! I am INTJ and this is exactly what happened to me today! 😂😂😂
As an INFJ who be trying to disciple an INFP, this is so accurate haha.
Also when I was having conflict with an ESFJ friend she was really trying to rope people into her side, including our ENFP friend but I had already spoken to the ENFP to explain what was going on and ENFP was so non confrontational about it because they understood my perspective and wanted ESFJ to sort it out with me directly haha. It was like ENFP said “this is a feelings problem and you guys do it yourselves” 😂
As an INTJ I’d say your very presence makes me confrontational.
INFP and fully relate to that
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2:25 Estoy de acuerdo. Soy INTP, y no suelo ser confrontacional, ni cuando escucho algo estúpido, o incluso si me insultan, pero solo basta oír el: "tienes que hacerlo porque si" y me desconozco. Mi padre es ESFJ y todas nuestras discusiones son por eso. El cree que yo debo pensar o actuar de cierta forma porque es lo "correcto" lo "socialmente aceptable" no importa si va en contra de mi propia lógica
Soy INFJ, y lo mismo con mi madre. Ayer le dije que me gustaba este zapato (lo decía por el diseño, no por la altura que tenía) y empezó a crear un drama con que solo las personas altas deberían ponerse zapatos planos y las personas bajas los zapatos que les den altura 🤡
Mi madre trata de imponerme cosas absurdas y piensa que es lo correcto, como decir que el color negro es malo, que no lo he de poner ya que es satánico, representa el amor, etc, lel.
@@ppaulapp Te entiendo. Mi padre siempre va pensando que es dueño de la verdad. Le escandaliza sobre todo las ideas que tengo sobre temas religiosos, políticos, e incluso morales. A veces me mira y estoy segura que piensa: "en que me equivoque contigo para que salieras asi?" 🤣
Te entiendo completamente. Mi madre es ISFJ y yo soy ENTP. Las frases que más he oído salir de su boca son: "no digas esto", "no hagas esto", "tiene que importarte lo que los demás piensen sobre vos", "escucha las opiniones ajenas pero no expreses las tuyas". No hace falta decir que jamás le hice caso.
@@jesicab922 También crecí con un manual de cosas que "no debía hacer" Pero yo si les hice caso casi la mitad de mi vida porque tenia miedo de enfrentarlos. Hasta que un día me harté de que me obligaran a hacer lo que no quería, y a fingir que me importaban las mismas cosas que a ellos.
@@ellabane3104 cuando uno es pequeño no quiere enfrentarse a los padres ni decepcionarlos. El problema viene cuando ya has crecido, te sentís sofocado y te das cuenta que estás dejando de ser vos mismo por ideales ajenos. Y esos ideales no significa que sean los "correctos". Simplemente son maneras diferentes de ver el mundo y reaccionar a él. Y no podemos cumplir ese ideal porque no creemos en él y no es lo lógico ni lo que nos hace ser nosotros mismos. Decir la verdad sin adornarla es una virtud subestimada. No hay que perder eso por mandatos sociales.
ISTP here and I can confirm that if someone is clearly in the wrong, idc about their feelings and won't hesitate to burst their bubble.
Your ENTJ description was spot on! I told my ENTJ husband (as he was walking out the door to go to work) that I was going to make him watch this when he comes home, lol. I'm an INFJ and also totally related to my section as well.
As an INFP I can agree with that lol
Wow, I never had a Crystalized Tofu in my life. I wonder how it tastes like 🤔 😂
@@meowhahaha, if you throw tofu in the freezer, it crystallizes. then when it thaws, the texture becomes “meatier”. (i’m a pescatarian INFP.) but it would be wild if that’s actually the reason they chose that name.
@@LaciRae Oh wow- That's actually partially why I chose that name since I like those kinds of tofus :0
Im INFP too
As an INFP I am confrontational in the way where I share my opinions and point out some other ideas but I typically don't push my opinions on others. Once in a while I will get very bothered by something and blow up about it and become very confrontational though
Frank is accurate about infp. Me with my whole family, is basically everyone just yelling and telling me I'm wrong. And I hold things as much as I can because I've learned that things gets more complicated when I talk and explode. So basically I'm holding a ton of hatred here in my heart. I know for myself that it is wrong, but how am I supposedly gonna tell them or even express them. I can't even express them how I love them, what else to express the reasons why I am like this, as if they're gonna understand me. 😒 And as much as I want to avoid conflicts they'd just barrage me with non ending problems and confrontation and there I am holding all the things I want to say. 😭 I just want a peaceful life.
exactly this.
Please make this video (16 personalties describing infp)
I’m an intj who shared emotions with an infp- and she disappeared. I did exactly that ‘why r u being avoidant, it would be easier if you just said yes or no’ and she said ‘idk i need space’
Lol
I'm an intj and an infp sister and I relate to this hahah
omg so spot on for the infj!
As an enfp, that's true lmao. But I've learned to just not get so worked up by it. Let's just let those abstract things stay abstract. Don't make em physical
As an ISFJ, I'm actually surprisingly confrontational...but just not immediately lmao. I have to gather information to back me up before I do so. If I know you're messing with someone I care about, you will see a side of me you do not want to see (I have been told it's actually pretty frightening) otherwise if you mess with me personally it won't really matter much.
LOL, we love you, Frank. You own your own mistakes in a cool and attractive way.
ENTP here and can I just say that literally in all of academia a quarter of the paper is just defining terms… if you make it up and then define it, it’s real and you are free to use it in a thesis
YOU'RE VIDEOS NEVER DISSAPOINTS ME
ENFJ here. Confrontation about my own needs (e.g., not feeling heard, appreciated, included by another person or within a group) I'm already at a point of tears and exhaustion then my Te demon comes out with cruelty... I've been working on proactive confrontation i.e., recognizing my own needs, advocating for myself, and defending my opinions. Confrontation regarding group needs, I'm very proactive to facilitating open and solution oriented conversations.
When Frank said INFP’s are the least confrontational, I was surprised. As an INFP i feel like I can actually be very confrontational. But it really depends on the situation. I just remember I had a friendship with someone that was very deep and whenever there was a unresolved problem and tension or if I had a concern & felt like that friend didn’t notice or care, I’d get straight to the point and tell them how I felt & tried to explain why I felt the way I did. She was actually the one who seemed to always avoid confronting me when there was tension and that use to bother me.
Probably an Infp-a. Infp-a people are more confrontational and strong in vocalizing their opinions. I’m an Infp-t so I don’t vocalize much opinion much. I did once this year against a girl in my English class who said that animals were as important as people, and there was no difference between killing a dog, and a human. I responded with, “have you ever killed a fly”. And she responded with no weight. She still thinks she won the argument.
@@isnc24bmusic25 I’m actually an INFP-t lol. I actually like vocalizing my opinions but at the same time it depends. That friendship I had with the person was almost like a relationship in a way and I’d always tell her how I felt if I thought something was off. I hated how she would avoid confrontation and couldn’t even talk on the phone (since we couldn’t do it in person for other non related reasons) to solve our issues, all she wanted to do was text.
Lol that girl shouldn’t make you feel a need to keep things to yourself. Do you just avoid vocalizing your opinion because you don’t see a point in starting something with someone and just getting annoyed or?
@@e.producer1082 it takes a deep friendships for me to vocalize my opinions. And I mean deep. So I get what you mean fully.
Thanks for the ISFP explanation. My husband thinks I’m the confrontational one because he does exactly that. I just wish he let me know at the time that he wanted to take a different path, but I don’t find out he had other ideas until I’m invested in my own suggestion he seemed to have accepted.
everytime i watch one of these videos i’m reminded to text people
-an INFP
same. but i still don't 😅
ENFP here and I agree and will fight you on those things! Also if anyone steps on my values they can say hello to my friend Te! (The Te Bitchslap is a definite thing)
Confrontación in Spanish man hahaha, have a great day. Stay cool and attractive Frank 😎
Jank Frames is my new favorite character
This ISFP just felt like Frank brought her to the principal’s office. I’m in trouble.
INTJ here, I would also say that in the immediate working area if I'm lasered in on something then interruptions with inane small talk (especially if they're adding to my workload or time I need to be working) will certainly get something said to them. Losing track of mind when you're on a roll can be one of the most infuriating things in existence.
The INTP couldn’t have been more on point. I’ve literally proven everything he said TODAY. 😂
Same I was proving it while watching the video 🤣
Your hair looks great, Frank. Even hobo Jack's hair.
I'm sure it'll be a good video
I want a lot more Jank Frames now. He was a hoot!
I don't really agree with the INFP info. I have no lack of desire to fit in. I have a lack of ability to fit in.
INFP~i have a lack of ability because i have a lack of desire for most people in general. the only people i truly want to fit in with are the people who truly fit in with me naturally. which is very rare to find. i do wish there were more NF’s so they would be easier to find.
I'm an intp. Personally, I don't consider myself to be unaware of social norms or values, it's just a lot of them are illogical, so I don't pay much attention to them or flat out just don't care about breaking them. But it's also highly dependent of the situation and who I'm around, of course. Like, I have to consider the cost-benefit analysis of breaking a social norm knowingly each time I do it. xD
You know those shivers you feel when things get too relatable?
I'm getting those now
Infp. So true. Sooooo true
Love FJ's vids AND his commercials. The commercials he makes for his sponsors are so worth multiple watches! So talented and hilarious. Jenk Frames?! 😂 And also, what dish was that that FJ gobbled up and so obviously enjoyed? Guess we'll have to go to Factor and find out!
Wow you actually held me through your whole sponsor ad and I always skip them, seriously well done 🤣
Before we knew our personality types, my husband and I described ourselves as the unstoppable force (me) and the immovable object (him). This video is hysterically accurate. I am ENTJ and he is INFP. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Loved the commercial in between this one!! Laughed my head off
ENFP is soooooooooo accurate for me. Lol
For example that's exactly what I did with the ending of Hope: The Other Side of Adventure.
You made understanding others so much easier to consume and find. Thank you so much!
Looks like some color psychology going on there with the red shirt lol. Red always feels like a confrontational color to me