Hey everyone! I see a lot of comments about the flower story and I just have to say: I didn’t think about all the elements that you guys are bringing up! I’m sorry I hadn’t grown very many plants at the time and didn’t understand that it takes a long time to grow and nurture them! I understand why it rubbed a lot of people the wrong way ❤️ thanks for pointing that out, I didn’t mean to offend anyone, I retract my opinion on that, I just saw it as an older lady having fun at the time but the owner of the flower had the right to be mad
Im glad you realized. However, I do agree that that man seems too by the book if you will, and needs to loosen up a bit. I don’t know there’s something weird about how he called himself a rule abiding citizen
Nahhhh I’m a literal botanist and I agree w your original take. If a plant matters to you THAT MUCH, you keep it inside! Or behind a fence! If it’s outside it’s available to all.
For the first one I think he's NTA because as someone who's grown flowers it's really hard to grow nice ones and for some plants you only get a handful of flowers every year. It means a lot to the person growing them and the mother is just taking the bounty without the work and care that goes into gardening. I don't think it's comparable to the dish from a restaurant that has a vendor that they get their dishes from. It's more like stealing from a small business that makes every item by hand
I totally didn’t realize how different they are! I saw it as an old lady kinda just having some harmless fun, I can totally understand why someone would get mad if it was a rare type of flower or something (we don’t know what kind of plant it was) but I can totally understand especially if it is a hard one to grow
She's not stealing flowers she's stealing cuttings. cuttings are branches, stems and leaf's cuttings if done wrong can kill the plant also what if the plant owner wanted to sell cuttings had the plant trimmed/had cuttings then the branch/stem will have to regrow and will regrow weird if the plant is hard to find them it must take a long time to grow.
@@petthequeenofmaddness8592 I have some olive trees that are absolutely covered in small branches that I'm planning on turning into smaller trees instead of simply dumping them in the compost. If someone walked into my yard and started lopping bits off, even if those bits would normally be pruned off anyways, I would be FURIOUS.
Yeah I can see that, esp if it's rare, like a variegated monstera delicious (unrooted cuttings can sell for hundreds of dollars and it's slow growing) plus a plant in flower is a bad time to take a cutting! That being said all my plants I wouldn't give free cuttings of live inside with me so I can admire them :^)
the deceased dog trip story - lost my cat almost three months ago, im still not over it, i don’t think i ever will be, but that doesn’t mean im cancelling a TWENTY THOUSAND DOLLAR TRIP ? i’d rather go tbh if im that upset
It makes sense to try and get out of ur house after grieving for a while, and it seems like her and her boyfriend have planned this for a long time, I completely understand still being sad but it’s like: y’all were planning this FOR YEARS
@@nikkicarreon not to mention her calling his friends over him not cancelling the trip! By the way he worded it it sounds like she cut context of what could be reimbursed. It seriously pisses me of, i understand wanting to wait for the trip. Ive experienced intense grief myself and enviorement can play a big factor but still, 20k is a shitton
Pets ARE a real member of your family. However, I would totally go. She should respect his decision to go alone if she can’t. They don’t seem wealthy so $20,000 is a huge deal! Also, he’s right, traveling will get her out of her hole.
If I just lost a member of my family after saving up with my partner for a trip and they were upset that I didn't get over it immediately and then suggested ditching and going without me because I'm not in the right headspace I would be pretty upset and going on a vacation after someone just died doesn't make you feel better it makes you wonder how much better it would have been with them
@@christinewarden3450sorry but i disagree. if this happened to me, i would rather either stay home and let my partner go or just go with them. 20k is not something to just toss out. that is a LOT of money. not allowing them to go is just more selfish and honestly wanting them to be just as miserable as i am. also very inconsiderate. not everyone processes grief in the same way and if i'm extremely upset about something i shouldn't hold back everyone else just because i'm not done processing. i personally wouldn't want all that money to go to waste. glad that you can, but not everyone has that luxury.
@@pinguufuuuuI mean yeah but leaving your partner because you will waste some money is just stupid. They probably need you there and yes it’s a lot of money but they both saved to go together, going without them well then they get do decide what happens to the money they saved.
as someone who gardens id be kinda pissed if someone just cut my flowers without asking, doing so with permission is totally cool if shes picking them out in the wild or on public property i dont think theres any harm but private property is eh, also theres no absolute guarantee that one will grow back depending on the flower
I completely agree, people have no idea how much care, time, hard work & patience it takes to grow things lol I think if it's not your property, you have no right to take it. For all you know, they planted that flower bush in memory of their son who died, you know? It's just inconsiderate and selfish
So I was thinking of like: an older lady finds excitement in harmless thievery, but I totally understand that some plants take so much care and work to tend to and who knows, maybe that’s why that person was so upset! I was probably wrong about my comparisons to my thievery at fast food chains, like the two things are very different types of thievery
@@nikkicarreonthe other thing is that if you don’t do cuttings just right, it can kill the whole plant. That, and some people who home-garden rare plants do it because they need to sell the cuttings. Or she could have introduced disease to it by touching it and cutting it open. Plants can be so finicky 😢
flower one NTA, you don't know how much work someone put into growing their flowers and getting them to look nice. it grows back but that's still somebody else's property and something they clearly care about. maybe it's because we have a garden but I'd be mad if someone decided to cut at our flowers for their own benefit.
I was so shocked hearing their opinion on the first story because thar guy is completely not the a-hole at all If the person who has paid for and cultivated the plant has a problem with you taking it without asking, then you’re doing something wrong by taking it without asking! Whether flowers grow back or not, I would be PISSSSSED if someone just came onto my property and stole part of my plant Most flowers only grow for one season out of the year! So for the rest of the season, that person who owns them has to get the constant reminder that someone stole their stuff every time they look at the bushel of flowers they were so proud of 😤
Also that MIL thinking she's untouchable, doing it to be conniving and gloating really grinds my gears. I don't know if I would have left because I think my fear response would be to freeze, so while I would have been present I wouldn't have been any kind of moral support. Let's hope she stops doing that shit because she was wrong for that.
Yeah and not only that he shouldn't have to be apart of her bs and he didn't even abandon her he just walked away to so she could deal wither own issue
@ChessieChess At least the image of a little squirrel eating a flower is adorable and feel nice that it wasn’t wasted. But some person just grabbing your flower, not cute just annoying. 🌸🐿️
The rat story reminds me of me and my high school friend group. We had a plastic Twilight Taylor Lautner doll that we would gift to each other for birthdays and Christmas. At the end of high school, we ritually threw him into the fire. Good memories lmao.
There's also the fact that it's not her property. Doesn't matter if they grow back or not, you don't take from other ppls property without their permission
@sewer~rat exactly! I 100% agree. Its not hard to not be a dick or steal/vandalise someone's property. Even if it can grow back, its the principle of it
I just can never agree that a plant, especially a little part of one, growing out of the ground from this earth no matter where it is, is anyone's property. I agree that there are gonna be consequences because people consider their plants their property but to agree with ABANDONING her... like dude just sit in the car and wait on your phone!! Pull the seat back. It's like you're doing the most by driving off, and making her down the street. Like u tryna make a statement. Who cares about something so silly 😔
Fr, I don't get if she was expecting the guy to try and defend her, or just awkwardly stand there while she was getting yelled at. I think after a certain amount of time, starting to back off and waiting for them to be done would be pretty normal. But IDK if he waited a little bit, or just immediately walked away.
for the rat one lol, i really understand bc they were gifted it from a teacher which i assume that they were close with in order for said teacher to gift it. and i’m sure that rat had a lot of memories attached to it and when they wanted to possibly make more memories by passing it around they ultimately lost it. like i think i understand bc i love my stuffed animals, (and if someone took one i would also call the police /j)
ALSO you can damage plants by taking too many cuttings or cutting it wrong. Lilacs for example need to be off at a slant, or else the stem is ruined. The MIL sounds like she’s just cutting Willynilly.
im autistic and that story resonated with me sooooooo much. im often called childish and petty for not letting people borrow my things or something “small” like that (for me its a freaking huuuuuge deal when i say i dont want someone to do this or that and they go against my feelings because they think theyre dumb). ive always been taught no is no growing up and people breaking that rule because they dont agree with me and my reasonings truly upsets me a looooooot. yes, if i have markers that i care for and dont want them to be ruined i will not let you borrow them. i wont. not even if youre my cousin or sibling, not even if you promise you will be careful. no is no, right? growing up everyone around me would get mad at me for being upset by stuff like this. so for someone to belittle someone elses feelings like this im like really hurt because that person is explaining feelings that are so similar to my own. my therapist would be livid at me for watching and interacting with stuff like this lol
With the stuffed rat one I completely understand why they would get upset as someone who gets very emotionally attached to things (I'm also very emotionally unstable) and will start crying if I can't find it I would have a episode if I didn't get that damn stuffed rat back
no same. like that reddit post was extremely short. we dont know how they are or if they struggle with attachments. i also would be very upset if something like a plush (especially since op mentioned they had it for some time and it was having memories placed upon it) was taken from me. but i do think filing a report was a bit excessive
For the first one, have you ever grown any before? When you grow something yourself it feels different. I also live in Louisiana and in summer it is so hard to keep flowers from wilting so saying "it'll grow back" doesn't bode for me because no it won't, not without consistent care :( while I wouldn't have left, if you take something you, yourself should face the consequences and not have someone else face them for you
I agree with this take, MIL was wrong to take other people's work, but I don't think I would personally have left my family to fend for herself. Like Elijah said, you can disagree with someone in your family but still have their back when things go south, but if it happened a second time she'd be on her own lol. I find it so weird that she'd steal other people's cuttings, when you can presumably purchase whatever plant you're looking for and go from there.
The MIL should be asking. Lots of gardeners are happy to share cuttings, but it’s disrespectful to just take. He shouldn’t have to take the heat for her disrespecting other people. It’s her choice and she should deal with the consequences of it, not him.
okay for the rat story-- op is NOT an asshole. i had a similar situation with my old high school best friend (we had a stuffed bunny we would share). i'm glad you two have never experienced being split on by people lmao because i've had relationships fall apart like that. just grown ass adults blocking me instead of talking shit out. it happens.
I know people have already said stuff about this and the video is from awhile ago, but I wanted to share my opinion of the first story. My mom is a hard core gardener and some plants are extremely hard to grow. And even when a bush has a ton of flowers, it could be the best one and the one that the gardener is most proud of. My mom worked her ass off for this one type of flower bush and when it finally bloomed she was so excited, then a deer ate her favorite flower off of it. After it was gone she was absolutely devastated. So from someone who has seen the reaction that some people can have from a flower from their garden being gone, the mother in law was kinda a jerk for cutting from other people's gardens.
First guy def NTA, flowers are soooo hard to grow, and if someone was to come up to my flowers and cut them off where I can no longer see the sprouts of my work, I’d be upset. :/
honestly w/ the rat one, i understand that it sounds super silly but i've had shared stuffed animals in relationships before and they can be something with a huge amount of sentimental value. i actually had a similar thing happen where my ex and i had a stuffed clownfish named peter and when we had a falling out i still returned it even though the falling out was 100% his fault and i was still upset. again like, i understand that it's kinda silly, but i would be very upset if i was in that situation and i was the original owner of the rat. the situation is definitely petty but i don't think they're an asshole.
First guy is not the asshole. Her actions make him uncomfortable. I'd be uncomfortable too. Why am I going to get yelled at for her being inconsiderate to others
Stealing other people's stuff is super not okay. Idc if that makes me ''boring'' or whatever, it's basic human decency. Ofc it's different when you're stealing from big corporations but when you steal from regular unsuspecting people you're just kind of an ass...
@@socksbenjelloun5196 You're missing the point, as someone who has a lot of flowers, I'd be pissed if someone just randomly cut a part of it because 1. It takes a very long while for a flower to actually bloom and they usually only do it during one season, so it's pretty short. 2. Randomly cutting a part of a flower outside can actually hurt and even kill a flower as they have an open wound exposed to tons of bacteria. 3. Rarer flowers are mostly rare because either they don't fit in most environments or they're really sensitive. 4. You can use cut parts to grow in your own garden, rarer flowers are harder to grow and more expensive to even buy, so it would feel like a slap in the face. 5. It's your property, you choose what happens to it and when someone disrespects it, it's totally okay to get pissed off.
@@Weeping_WillowNWI semi agree but I had a raised garden, growing food ut legit took dam near the whole summer plus another month to fully develop and I can't lie I genuinely wouldn't give a f if someonecame in a took some of it , ofc I woukd much more appreciate them knocking but I'm also a socially anxious night owl so yeah ... to a degree I understand the passion of growing and can resonate 100 percent with it , but at the same time if ut was a very small portion and they didn't disrespect my whole garden I coukd care less. Necessary info I'm a commie in a low income area and have been wanting to do community garden for years, and ik growing food isn't the same as growing flowers but it's similar and a good analogy .
Something everyone seemed to miss is he lady cutting the flower said it was a rare one she’d been looking for!!! So to take a rare flower from someone is even worse! I’m glad you guys were open enough to retract the opinion!
3:52 Only problem is that if it's a flower, and she's taking it for propagation purposes, it's pointless. You can't propagate a cutting from a flower, the flower will just push all of the energy into trying to produce seeds, and then die. Flowers aren't parts that the plant can grow out from, either, they're basically a dead-end piece of a plant. Also, as someone who loves my plant babies very deeply, I would have no problem with someone taking cuttings from my garden, but they'd have to ask. Just helping their self is grounds for a problem. I dunno if they're using a clean blade to take the cuttings, I don't know if they're going to cut it in the right place, people don't often care as deeply about plant pathogens as I would prefer.
For the Hispanic one, I am also someone who is of Hispanic descent but looks American. My sister looks as American as an American can be, super pale and blonde. However, we both fluently speak Spanish and feel really strongly connected to our Hispanic backgrounds. People like Sarah just make me laugh, because it is such an American thing to demonize speaking another language. In most countries, people speak AT MINIMUM two languages, and I have never understood how Americans treat being multilingual like a personal offense; if anything it's a sign of great intelligence to communicate easily between two very different languages and it is a great advantage to be able to reach a greater audience of people. It's so telling too because oftentimes, European languages like French or Italian are seen as fancy and cool if you speak them, but speak a Spanish, Middle Eastern, or Asian language and see how many people say you should just "go back to your country." There's definitely racism interlaced through all of Sarah's comments. Because even if OP HADN'T been Hispanic, you don't have to be from a certain country to learn the language; like that's the point of learning new languages, is so you can communicate with people from other parts of the world lol. Sarah's just racist, plain and simple, she embarrassed HERSELF by making assumptions and OP has no obligation to discuss her race or ethnicity with anyone.
Mmm, I see it as stepping into someone's personal space and taking something that's not yours (Not the same as taking from a business) , all you gotta do is ask first, I would find it rude if someone did that to my plants without asking , like the act of doing that without asking is more disrespectful then the actual lose of a few flowers on a bush to me (also with some plants you may have to take whole stems) my best friend and their family have lots of rose bushes which take up a lot of time and effort to maintain, they also grow them for their local yearly rose show (juried, as in there are awards n stuff) so if someone just walked up and took some of their rose that could mess up rose show plans they had. But I know that if you asked they would most likely share a stem to propagate. Some people take it very seriously tho and have their own unique versions of roses that they've bred and only share them with a few people so there is that too , but that's roses anyway (in other words, the type of plant probably matters when thinking about if you should take one or not xD if it looks like a serious rose garden, probably don't ! Lol)
Their response to the second one just feels so off to me. I relate to the girlfriends feelings and the way they talked about it felt really odd and cold. In the end though I think it’s just a tricky unfortunate situation involving things out of their control. It felt like op and nikki and elijah were acting like “it’s been a month, how are you not over it?” Which just feels so wild to me. I can’t imagine saying that about a human or an animal. It doesn’t feel unusual at all to me to still be struggling with the grief after a month. And the comments about “why don’t you just go on the trip it’ll make you feel better/I rather be grieving on vacation than grieving at home” just confuse me. I can see that for some people that is an easy and helpful choice for them, but it’s not for everyone. It seems like people only think of the OP looking forward to and planning this trip, but I’m sure the girlfriend was also excited for it. It seems like she was scared to tell him sooner because she knew how much he worked for this and didn’t want to upset him, just wanted to wait and hope it passed. When it wasn’t getting better though, she felt she had to tell him. It seems like she really wanted to go, but knew she probably would just be in a bad emotional state for that time, and wanted to go when she felt better and she could appreciate the trip better. When you’re not feeling well on a trip it just feels like you’re holding everyone back. The way I would best explain it is being sick. Yes, for some people they’d rather just be sick and on vacation but the worry that you’ve waited all these years for a vacation and now that you’re going you’ll be sick and unable to fully appreciate it and enjoy yourself is so much pressure that the guilt would make you miserable. It’s not her fault for still grieving, and I honestly don’t think it’s her fault for being sad he wanted to go with someone else, because at that point it seems like he cares more about the vacation than her. I know he wanted to go because he’s been anticipating this for forever and didn’t want to waste the time and money, but I think he could’ve handled it more empathetically The best think in that situation I think would’ve just been for him to go/go with a friend honestly so the money was at least being put to use, but I think he could’ve been a lot more kind and understanding about how she felt. Also the reaction to the rat story was weird? It’s really not that strange to grow attached to an object, especially one you associate with your friend group Imagine if you and your friends always sat under the same tree for lunch and then one day the tree had to be cut down, I would have some sentimental feelings towards that. And also when Nikki was like “don’t you guys have significant others?” They were in high school/are newly graduated at the time of the story, it’s not like they’re 40 year olds with spouses and careers, just a really strange thing to say to high schoolers imo And also just because you have a significant other doesn’t mean you can’t care about other people or things? I wouldn’t be like “sorry I can’t like my favorite shirt anymore I have a significant other” shxbjxnsjzk just very odd video, kinda made nikki feel weirdly unsympathetic in regards to some of the stories
Thank you, you're like the only person who truly understands/has the same opinions about the dog one. I appreciate you sharing what you thought, as I just lost my soul dog one month ago..
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fully understand the rat one. one of my most valuable possessions is a little manta ray plush, named flat carly. he was gifted to me by a close friend at the time, now my partner, during the worst week of my entire life. i had found out my terminally ill mom had very little time left, and this little mantra rat plush straight up saved me that weekend. i carry him with me everywhere i go, every time i leave the house i set him on my car dash to watch over me! he’s been there with me though many things, has been on road trips with me and has been there with me for everything since then. i think my heart would straight up break if i ever lost flat carly
as a recovering theater kid, the entire rat story makes so much sense considering it was a gift from a high school theater director. every detail of that story is just normal theater kid behavior.
Jeez I almost had to skip the first story cause almost everything Nikki and Elijah were saying bothered me. You don’t really get to decide what is and isn’t important to people, and if the flowers on a yard someone owns is important to them, that’s valid. By all means, plant your own flowers in your own yard/garden and let the entire neighborhood have free access to cutting them if you don’t care. Just don’t try to use your experience as a reason why other people shouldn’t care about the things they do. “It will grow back.”, I mean so would your hair, but I don’t think you’d want someone sneaking up and cutting some off your head.
@@nikkicarreon Everyone’s prone to having a bad take on something every now and then, glad to see you were open to a different perspective. But yea, maybe a pinned comment will prevent future people like me stumbling on this old video and thinking the same thing. 😂
With the flower one, I think its fine to pick flowers, like wild flowers or something, but you shouldn't cut flowers that people are growing in their yard. Ask them what seeds they buried, and plant your own if you like it so much. But son-in-law should have stayed for emotional support at least. I'm probably seeming a bit of a stick in the mud, but that's just what I think.
for the one at 17:06 i can kind of understand it -- they had stated that they grew pretty attached to the rat, and the rat was given to them, and it may have helped them ease into college since it was a gift from high school, so it may have reminded OP of home, or friends, and they simply wanted it back (to either keep, or to give it to someone they know so the rat could maybe help them the way it helped OP) but was probably getting frustrated due to their ex-friends not giving it back, even after saying they would, so id have to say NTA BUT thats only if what i said was correct, if its just they want it back just because their old friends have it, then id say they are overreacting
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As a restaurant worker I really don’t appreciate folks stealing silverware/plating etc but it is harmless mostly. It just can distress those you take from and asking is always preferred of course!
For the first one, don’t touch someone else’s property. I don’t care if it grows back or not, it’s not yours. I totally would walk away and let them look stupid bc I’m not involved.
Where do you all live that people don't work hard on their flower beds? Also, if someone has landscaped their yard do you know how much that can cost? I don't landscape my yard because it's a bunch of work. But apparently you're comparing it to cutting people's hair? Did I hear that right? If you were to cut my hair I'd punch you in the face.
first one, nta. It's not that the flower can grow back, it's just extremely rude to just take stuff of off someone's property. I'd walk away too because she did have it coming
Mom in the first story is maybe not an a-hole but it is werido behavior to encroach onto someone's garden and pick off flowers or what have you, especially that of a person you don't know. It feels invasive somehow. OP is NTA. She needed to be humbled so that she can reflect.
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With the flower story, they’re not the a-hole. If the mother in law didn’t want to be yelled at maybe she shouldn’t be going onto other peoples property to steal some cuttings of flowers. If she wants the flowers so bad maybe buy them herself with her own money instead of taking from someone else?! Like I’m sorry how entitled are you to think you can just do that and not get yelled at. Like what? But that’s also just my opinion so. I personally would have been yelling at her with the person. Edit: my grandma is a Gardner and I’ve watched her for years be bent over that Garden just trying to get them to grow properly, it’s a lot of work it’s not as easy as everyone thinks to grow flowers. So for someone to come and just take a cutting from your hard work. That just shows how entitled they think they are.
With the SIL situation, I also feel like if she was allowed to see the baby she would likely try and act like its mother. Because of the way she almost seems like she wants to marry him. And once the baby gets older start to put ideas into their head about how their mother is a gold digger and a horrible person who baby trapped their father.
Coming around a year late. I need to say that I understand why the girl didnt want to go on the trip after their dog died. HOWEVER, when I was 12, I had a prepaid student excursion for 3 weeks to Europe, 2 weeks before, my dad lost his battle to cancer unexpectedly. I didn’t want to go and BEGGED my mom to not make me. The cost of the trip was way less than this, probably about 5k, so still, not going was not an option and besides, my mom knew this trip would be good for me. I struggled a bit but inevitably I was struggling more at home and having those experiences was very pivotal in my grieving process in the long run.
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Stealing is still stealing no matter how small of an item it may be. I dunno. I think he shouldn’t have abandoned his MIL but she could have at least ask for the cuttings. Most people won’t mind and actually offer you…It’s just really rude behaviour taking it without asking. Kinda like if a random person walked by you at a diner and swiped a couple fries off your plate. It’s not such a big deal on the grand scheme of things but I think that’s highly inappropriate.
for the first one, I feel like it wasn't the flower itself that was the problem, it was the fact that she thought that she was special and entitled enough to just... take something off of private property in broad daylight without a care and just brushed it off as just being "silly" or whatever. And then gets mad at him when the son-in-law doesn't want to deal with the consequences of HER lowkey disrespectful actions. like you can't just steal shi whenever you wanna have it
If you go to your mom or friend the second your boyfriend upsets you a little when he was being reasonable, you’re a jerk. He saved for this trip for THEM and instead of her getting over not going if she didn’t want to. He was very polite and reasonable and she instantly turned her back on him, betrayed him, and made him out to be the bad guy?? That would be an instant red flag?
15:49 I'm not sure if you understand how highschool theater kids work, but this is the most normal theater kid behavior ever. My highschool theater had the exact same thing, just with a beanie baby ant eater named Peener Weener and a stuffed frog I made named Lester instead
my opinion on the “Cancelling the Trip” one :)) i understand the grieving of a pet, especially one you’ve had for a long time or that you havre a strong bond with. near the beginning of february, i had to euthanize my dog of 11 years because of cancer. of course i an still grieving, but just recently (earlier this month) i had a family dinner with my step-family. That side of my family lives a few hours away and has to drive for quite a bit (most of them are elderly) to visit us. Even though I am still grieving over my dog, I had no intention of cancelling the gathering and making them waste the time and money they put into making food to bring to the gathering. I appreciate their time and I would never make them waste their money. If anythinf came up suddenly I would simple not attend the dinner, they would understand. however, cancelling the event (especially without paying them their money back) altogether would be irrational and selfish.
The first story would be considered theft in my country. You can't just remove something from someone's land, that isn't yours, even if it's just a little flower.
for the first one i think he’s NTA because why is the MIL going into peoples yards and taking their flowers? especially because she said it’s a rare flower, that means it’s probably expensive. I’d be upset too is someone came into my yard and cut up my expensive flower that i cultivated. my mom grows the most beautiful roses and puts lots of time and money into them. just cus someone steals a cutting doesn’t mean they’ll get the same result, so u messed up the bush for nothing. also if u cut it the wrong way it won’t grow back actually
First one is NTA. Dont take shit from peoples lawns or homes, even if you think its something trivial. Flower befs can be sentimental, utility, all kinds of things. Id be PISSED if someone took cuttings of my moms rosebushes. Plus if one person is doing it, whats stopping others from doing it? Now i have a ruined plant because people decided to take without asking. Like if you ASK first, most people would probably be more than willing to share. And she KNEW she was doing something wrong, or she wouldmt be giggling about it or trying to justify it. Yes indeed she had that coming. She got busted, she needed to deal with the consequences. Period.
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People spend a lot of time and money to grow plants…it’s not in anyway the same as stealing from a corporation. I’m terms of the “growing back” comment it doesn’t always work that way. My grandfather grew roses and after he died they didn’t grow back for three years. If anyone had stolen from those bushes ( we only had one at first) i would’ve been devastated.
16:12 sisterhood of the traveling stuffed rat, a spin off to the traveling pants if anyone remembers those movies edit: seconds later she said the same thing-
For the flower one, I would just explain why what she's doing is bad. He's the asshole for leaving her though. I wouldn't even abandon an acquaintance like that, much less a family member.
Lmao yes I agree if she wants it back why not just give it to her but at this point I feel like she needs to let it go because it was given to all of them in unison (it seems) and it seems like she was going to trade it with multiple people anyways?
The first story confuses me because my mother raised me to never go into others yards and especially don't mess with their plants, so I think hes totally NTA
For the first one i think theyre both TA, flower cuttings yes wont kill the plant but id feel rlly weird if someone took a flower from my garden without asking, he just seems annoying which is why hes ta as well
Hey everyone! I see a lot of comments about the flower story and I just have to say: I didn’t think about all the elements that you guys are bringing up! I’m sorry I hadn’t grown very many plants at the time and didn’t understand that it takes a long time to grow and nurture them! I understand why it rubbed a lot of people the wrong way ❤️ thanks for pointing that out, I didn’t mean to offend anyone, I retract my opinion on that, I just saw it as an older lady having fun at the time but the owner of the flower had the right to be mad
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Im glad you realized. However, I do agree that that man seems too by the book if you will, and needs to loosen up a bit. I don’t know there’s something weird about how he called himself a rule abiding citizen
i think you are allowed to have your own opinion honestly, that guy sounded so annoying
Nahhhh I’m a literal botanist and I agree w your original take. If a plant matters to you THAT MUCH, you keep it inside! Or behind a fence! If it’s outside it’s available to all.
girl don't apologize for this lmao
For the first one I think he's NTA because as someone who's grown flowers it's really hard to grow nice ones and for some plants you only get a handful of flowers every year. It means a lot to the person growing them and the mother is just taking the bounty without the work and care that goes into gardening. I don't think it's comparable to the dish from a restaurant that has a vendor that they get their dishes from. It's more like stealing from a small business that makes every item by hand
I totally didn’t realize how different they are! I saw it as an old lady kinda just having some harmless fun, I can totally understand why someone would get mad if it was a rare type of flower or something (we don’t know what kind of plant it was) but I can totally understand especially if it is a hard one to grow
She's not stealing flowers she's stealing cuttings. cuttings are branches, stems and leaf's cuttings if done wrong can kill the plant also what if the plant owner wanted to sell cuttings had the plant trimmed/had cuttings then the branch/stem will have to regrow and will regrow weird if the plant is hard to find them it must take a long time to grow.
@@petthequeenofmaddness8592 I have some olive trees that are absolutely covered in small branches that I'm planning on turning into smaller trees instead of simply dumping them in the compost. If someone walked into my yard and started lopping bits off, even if those bits would normally be pruned off anyways, I would be FURIOUS.
Yeah I can see that, esp if it's rare, like a variegated monstera delicious (unrooted cuttings can sell for hundreds of dollars and it's slow growing) plus a plant in flower is a bad time to take a cutting! That being said all my plants I wouldn't give free cuttings of live inside with me so I can admire them :^)
She also herself said it’s a RARE flower
the deceased dog trip story - lost my cat almost three months ago, im still not over it, i don’t think i ever will be, but that doesn’t mean im cancelling a TWENTY THOUSAND DOLLAR TRIP ? i’d rather go tbh if im that upset
It makes sense to try and get out of ur house after grieving for a while, and it seems like her and her boyfriend have planned this for a long time, I completely understand still being sad but it’s like: y’all were planning this FOR YEARS
@@nikkicarreon not to mention her calling his friends over him not cancelling the trip! By the way he worded it it sounds like she cut context of what could be reimbursed. It seriously pisses me of, i understand wanting to wait for the trip. Ive experienced intense grief myself and enviorement can play a big factor but still, 20k is a shitton
Rather be depressed and on vacation rather than be depressed at home
Pets ARE a real member of your family. However, I would totally go. She should respect his decision to go alone if she can’t. They don’t seem wealthy so $20,000 is a huge deal! Also, he’s right, traveling will get her out of her hole.
If I just lost a member of my family after saving up with my partner for a trip and they were upset that I didn't get over it immediately and then suggested ditching and going without me because I'm not in the right headspace I would be pretty upset and going on a vacation after someone just died doesn't make you feel better it makes you wonder how much better it would have been with them
@@christinewarden3450 so in response u wld have everyone u know berate ur partner for not wanting to have wasted $20-30k?
@@soupeater when did anyone berate anyone, and if they value money over their partner grieving healthily, I'd almost say that they deserve it
@@christinewarden3450sorry but i disagree. if this happened to me, i would rather either stay home and let my partner go or just go with them. 20k is not something to just toss out. that is a LOT of money. not allowing them to go is just more selfish and honestly wanting them to be just as miserable as i am. also very inconsiderate. not everyone processes grief in the same way and if i'm extremely upset about something i shouldn't hold back everyone else just because i'm not done processing. i personally wouldn't want all that money to go to waste. glad that you can, but not everyone has that luxury.
@@pinguufuuuuI mean yeah but leaving your partner because you will waste some money is just stupid. They probably need you there and yes it’s a lot of money but they both saved to go together, going without them well then they get do decide what happens to the money they saved.
I would abandon the flower cutting old lady so quick 👀
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as someone who gardens id be kinda pissed if someone just cut my flowers without asking, doing so with permission is totally cool
if shes picking them out in the wild or on public property i dont think theres any harm but private property is eh, also theres no absolute guarantee that one will grow back depending on the flower
I completely agree, people have no idea how much care, time, hard work & patience it takes to grow things lol I think if it's not your property, you have no right to take it. For all you know, they planted that flower bush in memory of their son who died, you know? It's just inconsiderate and selfish
So I was thinking of like: an older lady finds excitement in harmless thievery, but I totally understand that some plants take so much care and work to tend to and who knows, maybe that’s why that person was so upset! I was probably wrong about my comparisons to my thievery at fast food chains, like the two things are very different types of thievery
@@nikkicarreonthe other thing is that if you don’t do cuttings just right, it can kill the whole plant. That, and some people who home-garden rare plants do it because they need to sell the cuttings. Or she could have introduced disease to it by touching it and cutting it open. Plants can be so finicky 😢
flower one NTA, you don't know how much work someone put into growing their flowers and getting them to look nice. it grows back but that's still somebody else's property and something they clearly care about. maybe it's because we have a garden but I'd be mad if someone decided to cut at our flowers for their own benefit.
I was so shocked hearing their opinion on the first story because thar guy is completely not the a-hole at all
If the person who has paid for and cultivated the plant has a problem with you taking it without asking, then you’re doing something wrong by taking it without asking!
Whether flowers grow back or not, I would be PISSSSSED if someone just came onto my property and stole part of my plant
Most flowers only grow for one season out of the year! So for the rest of the season, that person who owns them has to get the constant reminder that someone stole their stuff every time they look at the bushel of flowers they were so proud of 😤
Also that MIL thinking she's untouchable, doing it to be conniving and gloating really grinds my gears. I don't know if I would have left because I think my fear response would be to freeze, so while I would have been present I wouldn't have been any kind of moral support. Let's hope she stops doing that shit because she was wrong for that.
And imagine if everyone did that, nobody could have flowers growing in their yard. There is a reason it's frowned upon
Yeah and not only that he shouldn't have to be apart of her bs and he didn't even abandon her he just walked away to so she could deal wither own issue
It’s bad enough that a squirrel sometimes eats my gerbera daisy, I would be fit to be tied if someone cut my precious flowers that I wait for all year
@ChessieChess At least the image of a little squirrel eating a flower is adorable and feel nice that it wasn’t wasted. But some person just grabbing your flower, not cute just annoying. 🌸🐿️
The rat story reminds me of me and my high school friend group. We had a plastic Twilight Taylor Lautner doll that we would gift to each other for birthdays and Christmas. At the end of high school, we ritually threw him into the fire. Good memories lmao.
if I had a stuffed rat for moral support going into college I think I wouldn't have dropped out
That’s true, I only lasted a week in community college, maybe they’re onto something with that rat
i'm watching this in community college and i own a stuffed rat so maybe that's whats keeping me here
For the flower one, I think he's nta because she did something and got a consequence for it. If it were me I'd also leave do to anxiety and RSD lol.
You totally have a point haha
There's also the fact that it's not her property. Doesn't matter if they grow back or not, you don't take from other ppls property without their permission
@sewer~rat exactly! I 100% agree. Its not hard to not be a dick or steal/vandalise someone's property. Even if it can grow back, its the principle of it
I just can never agree that a plant, especially a little part of one, growing out of the ground from this earth no matter where it is, is anyone's property. I agree that there are gonna be consequences because people consider their plants their property but to agree with ABANDONING her... like dude just sit in the car and wait on your phone!! Pull the seat back. It's like you're doing the most by driving off, and making her down the street. Like u tryna make a statement. Who cares about something so silly 😔
Fr, I don't get if she was expecting the guy to try and defend her, or just awkwardly stand there while she was getting yelled at. I think after a certain amount of time, starting to back off and waiting for them to be done would be pretty normal. But IDK if he waited a little bit, or just immediately walked away.
for the rat one lol, i really understand bc they were gifted it from a teacher which i assume that they were close with in order for said teacher to gift it. and i’m sure that rat had a lot of memories attached to it and when they wanted to possibly make more memories by passing it around they ultimately lost it. like i think i understand bc i love my stuffed animals, (and if someone took one i would also call the police /j)
ALSO you can damage plants by taking too many cuttings or cutting it wrong. Lilacs for example need to be off at a slant, or else the stem is ruined.
The MIL sounds like she’s just cutting Willynilly.
The sacred rat story is making me lose my mind omg I'm also super attached to my plushies so honestly I get op lol
yeah someone stole my plushie and i still haven’t forgotten about it. i got it replaced and i’m still pissed
I dont think it’s even about the rat. If it’s hers, whatever it is, she should get it back
Yea once my siblings took this plushie I had gotten the day I was born and they almost broke it I still have it to this day tho lol
im autistic and that story resonated with me sooooooo much. im often called childish and petty for not letting people borrow my things or something “small” like that (for me its a freaking huuuuuge deal when i say i dont want someone to do this or that and they go against my feelings because they think theyre dumb). ive always been taught no is no growing up and people breaking that rule because they dont agree with me and my reasonings truly upsets me a looooooot. yes, if i have markers that i care for and dont want them to be ruined i will not let you borrow them. i wont. not even if youre my cousin or sibling, not even if you promise you will be careful. no is no, right? growing up everyone around me would get mad at me for being upset by stuff like this. so for someone to belittle someone elses feelings like this im like really hurt because that person is explaining feelings that are so similar to my own. my therapist would be livid at me for watching and interacting with stuff like this lol
@ravenclawtism I relate lol I also have autism 🩷
Buying flowers, landscaping, all of that shit takes work and is money. The MIL was quite literally vandalizing. He was nta me thinks.
Exactly.
With the stuffed rat one I completely understand why they would get upset as someone who gets very emotionally attached to things (I'm also very emotionally unstable) and will start crying if I can't find it I would have a episode if I didn't get that damn stuffed rat back
no same. like that reddit post was extremely short. we dont know how they are or if they struggle with attachments. i also would be very upset if something like a plush (especially since op mentioned they had it for some time and it was having memories placed upon it) was taken from me. but i do think filing a report was a bit excessive
For the first one, have you ever grown any before? When you grow something yourself it feels different. I also
live in Louisiana and in summer it is so hard to keep flowers from wilting so saying "it'll grow back" doesn't bode for me because no it won't, not without consistent care :( while I wouldn't have left, if you take something you, yourself should face the consequences and not have someone else face them for you
I agree with this take, MIL was wrong to take other people's work, but I don't think I would personally have left my family to fend for herself. Like Elijah said, you can disagree with someone in your family but still have their back when things go south, but if it happened a second time she'd be on her own lol. I find it so weird that she'd steal other people's cuttings, when you can presumably purchase whatever plant you're looking for and go from there.
The MIL should be asking. Lots of gardeners are happy to share cuttings, but it’s disrespectful to just take. He shouldn’t have to take the heat for her disrespecting other people. It’s her choice and she should deal with the consequences of it, not him.
okay for the rat story-- op is NOT an asshole. i had a similar situation with my old high school best friend (we had a stuffed bunny we would share). i'm glad you two have never experienced being split on by people lmao because i've had relationships fall apart like that. just grown ass adults blocking me instead of talking shit out. it happens.
I know people have already said stuff about this and the video is from awhile ago, but I wanted to share my opinion of the first story. My mom is a hard core gardener and some plants are extremely hard to grow. And even when a bush has a ton of flowers, it could be the best one and the one that the gardener is most proud of. My mom worked her ass off for this one type of flower bush and when it finally bloomed she was so excited, then a deer ate her favorite flower off of it. After it was gone she was absolutely devastated. So from someone who has seen the reaction that some people can have from a flower from their garden being gone, the mother in law was kinda a jerk for cutting from other people's gardens.
First guy def NTA, flowers are soooo hard to grow, and if someone was to come up to my flowers and cut them off where I can no longer see the sprouts of my work, I’d be upset. :/
honestly w/ the rat one, i understand that it sounds super silly but i've had shared stuffed animals in relationships before and they can be something with a huge amount of sentimental value. i actually had a similar thing happen where my ex and i had a stuffed clownfish named peter and when we had a falling out i still returned it even though the falling out was 100% his fault and i was still upset. again like, i understand that it's kinda silly, but i would be very upset if i was in that situation and i was the original owner of the rat. the situation is definitely petty but i don't think they're an asshole.
I’m opening my eyes to this world of relationship plushes tbh y’all are onto something, maybe I need a friendship little guy to pass around haha
yeah its never actually about the stuffed animal or whatever, its about the associations with it
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First guy is not the asshole. Her actions make him uncomfortable. I'd be uncomfortable too. Why am I going to get yelled at for her being inconsiderate to others
Stealing other people's stuff is super not okay. Idc if that makes me ''boring'' or whatever, it's basic human decency. Ofc it's different when you're stealing from big corporations but when you steal from regular unsuspecting people you're just kind of an ass...
bro it’s a flower cutting
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You're missing the point, as someone who has a lot of flowers, I'd be pissed if someone just randomly cut a part of it because
1. It takes a very long while for a flower to actually bloom and they usually only do it during one season, so it's pretty short.
2. Randomly cutting a part of a flower outside can actually hurt and even kill a flower as they have an open wound exposed to tons of bacteria.
3. Rarer flowers are mostly rare because either they don't fit in most environments or they're really sensitive.
4. You can use cut parts to grow in your own garden, rarer flowers are harder to grow and more expensive to even buy, so it would feel like a slap in the face.
5. It's your property, you choose what happens to it and when someone disrespects it, it's totally okay to get pissed off.
@@Weeping_WillowNWI semi agree but I had a raised garden, growing food ut legit took dam near the whole summer plus another month to fully develop and I can't lie I genuinely wouldn't give a f if someonecame in a took some of it , ofc I woukd much more appreciate them knocking but I'm also a socially anxious night owl so yeah ... to a degree I understand the passion of growing and can resonate 100 percent with it , but at the same time if ut was a very small portion and they didn't disrespect my whole garden I coukd care less. Necessary info I'm a commie in a low income area and have been wanting to do community garden for years, and ik growing food isn't the same as growing flowers but it's similar and a good analogy .
Something everyone seemed to miss is he lady cutting the flower said it was a rare one she’d been looking for!!! So to take a rare flower from someone is even worse!
I’m glad you guys were open enough to retract the opinion!
3:52 Only problem is that if it's a flower, and she's taking it for propagation purposes, it's pointless. You can't propagate a cutting from a flower, the flower will just push all of the energy into trying to produce seeds, and then die. Flowers aren't parts that the plant can grow out from, either, they're basically a dead-end piece of a plant.
Also, as someone who loves my plant babies very deeply, I would have no problem with someone taking cuttings from my garden, but they'd have to ask. Just helping their self is grounds for a problem. I dunno if they're using a clean blade to take the cuttings, I don't know if they're going to cut it in the right place, people don't often care as deeply about plant pathogens as I would prefer.
For the Hispanic one, I am also someone who is of Hispanic descent but looks American. My sister looks as American as an American can be, super pale and blonde. However, we both fluently speak Spanish and feel really strongly connected to our Hispanic backgrounds. People like Sarah just make me laugh, because it is such an American thing to demonize speaking another language. In most countries, people speak AT MINIMUM two languages, and I have never understood how Americans treat being multilingual like a personal offense; if anything it's a sign of great intelligence to communicate easily between two very different languages and it is a great advantage to be able to reach a greater audience of people. It's so telling too because oftentimes, European languages like French or Italian are seen as fancy and cool if you speak them, but speak a Spanish, Middle Eastern, or Asian language and see how many people say you should just "go back to your country." There's definitely racism interlaced through all of Sarah's comments. Because even if OP HADN'T been Hispanic, you don't have to be from a certain country to learn the language; like that's the point of learning new languages, is so you can communicate with people from other parts of the world lol. Sarah's just racist, plain and simple, she embarrassed HERSELF by making assumptions and OP has no obligation to discuss her race or ethnicity with anyone.
Mmm, I see it as stepping into someone's personal space and taking something that's not yours (Not the same as taking from a business) , all you gotta do is ask first, I would find it rude if someone did that to my plants without asking , like the act of doing that without asking is more disrespectful then the actual lose of a few flowers on a bush to me (also with some plants you may have to take whole stems)
my best friend and their family have lots of rose bushes which take up a lot of time and effort to maintain, they also grow them for their local yearly rose show (juried, as in there are awards n stuff) so if someone just walked up and took some of their rose that could mess up rose show plans they had. But I know that if you asked they would most likely share a stem to propagate. Some people take it very seriously tho and have their own unique versions of roses that they've bred and only share them with a few people so there is that too , but that's roses anyway (in other words, the type of plant probably matters when thinking about if you should take one or not xD if it looks like a serious rose garden, probably don't ! Lol)
Their response to the second one just feels so off to me. I relate to the girlfriends feelings and the way they talked about it felt really odd and cold. In the end though I think it’s just a tricky unfortunate situation involving things out of their control. It felt like op and nikki and elijah were acting like “it’s been a month, how are you not over it?” Which just feels so wild to me. I can’t imagine saying that about a human or an animal. It doesn’t feel unusual at all to me to still be struggling with the grief after a month. And the comments about “why don’t you just go on the trip it’ll make you feel better/I rather be grieving on vacation than grieving at home” just confuse me. I can see that for some people that is an easy and helpful choice for them, but it’s not for everyone. It seems like people only think of the OP looking forward to and planning this trip, but I’m sure the girlfriend was also excited for it. It seems like she was scared to tell him sooner because she knew how much he worked for this and didn’t want to upset him, just wanted to wait and hope it passed. When it wasn’t getting better though, she felt she had to tell him. It seems like she really wanted to go, but knew she probably would just be in a bad emotional state for that time, and wanted to go when she felt better and she could appreciate the trip better. When you’re not feeling well on a trip it just feels like you’re holding everyone back. The way I would best explain it is being sick. Yes, for some people they’d rather just be sick and on vacation but the worry that you’ve waited all these years for a vacation and now that you’re going you’ll be sick and unable to fully appreciate it and enjoy yourself is so much pressure that the guilt would make you miserable. It’s not her fault for still grieving, and I honestly don’t think it’s her fault for being sad he wanted to go with someone else, because at that point it seems like he cares more about the vacation than her. I know he wanted to go because he’s been anticipating this for forever and didn’t want to waste the time and money, but I think he could’ve handled it more empathetically
The best think in that situation I think would’ve just been for him to go/go with a friend honestly so the money was at least being put to use, but I think he could’ve been a lot more kind and understanding about how she felt.
Also the reaction to the rat story was weird? It’s really not that strange to grow attached to an object, especially one you associate with your friend group
Imagine if you and your friends always sat under the same tree for lunch and then one day the tree had to be cut down, I would have some sentimental feelings towards that. And also when Nikki was like “don’t you guys have significant others?” They were in high school/are newly graduated at the time of the story, it’s not like they’re 40 year olds with spouses and careers, just a really strange thing to say to high schoolers imo
And also just because you have a significant other doesn’t mean you can’t care about other people or things? I wouldn’t be like “sorry I can’t like my favorite shirt anymore I have a significant other” shxbjxnsjzk just very odd video, kinda made nikki feel weirdly unsympathetic in regards to some of the stories
one year later but i had the same feelings when watching this video
Thank you, you're like the only person who truly understands/has the same opinions about the dog one. I appreciate you sharing what you thought, as I just lost my soul dog one month ago..
@@ilovemydog615I'm so sorry for your loss :( RIP to your soul dog!!
Yeah, I get what you mean and I totally agree with you. I actually kinda ended up disagreeing with a few of their opinions this time.
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@@averykachirisky6308 IK THE WAY I MANIFESTED IT
for the rat honesty nta bc im autistic and have attachments to inanimate objects. OP could just have a strong attachment
For the first one, hes NTA! I wouldnt like someone idk touching my garden and cutting a flower i've grown?? If she asked i would be ok w it though.
fully understand the rat one. one of my most valuable possessions is a little manta ray plush, named flat carly. he was gifted to me by a close friend at the time, now my partner, during the worst week of my entire life. i had found out my terminally ill mom had very little time left, and this little mantra rat plush straight up saved me that weekend. i carry him with me everywhere i go, every time i leave the house i set him on my car dash to watch over me! he’s been there with me though many things, has been on road trips with me and has been there with me for everything since then. i think my heart would straight up break if i ever lost flat carly
like, i would go to war for this fucker. he is my son!!
I’m just here to watch the goat (Elijah), spread his wisdom through the power of the World Wide Web (information highway)
He’s a droid, he only exists in the information highway
as a recovering theater kid, the entire rat story makes so much sense considering it was a gift from a high school theater director. every detail of that story is just normal theater kid behavior.
Jeez I almost had to skip the first story cause almost everything Nikki and Elijah were saying bothered me. You don’t really get to decide what is and isn’t important to people, and if the flowers on a yard someone owns is important to them, that’s valid. By all means, plant your own flowers in your own yard/garden and let the entire neighborhood have free access to cutting them if you don’t care. Just don’t try to use your experience as a reason why other people shouldn’t care about the things they do. “It will grow back.”, I mean so would your hair, but I don’t think you’d want someone sneaking up and cutting some off your head.
I retract my opinion on that! I’m sorry, I see people’s points, this is kinda an old video at this point but maybe I should pin a comment about this
@@nikkicarreon Everyone’s prone to having a bad take on something every now and then, glad to see you were open to a different perspective. But yea, maybe a pinned comment will prevent future people like me stumbling on this old video and thinking the same thing. 😂
With the flower one, I think its fine to pick flowers, like wild flowers or something, but you shouldn't cut flowers that people are growing in their yard. Ask them what seeds they buried, and plant your own if you like it so much. But son-in-law should have stayed for emotional support at least. I'm probably seeming a bit of a stick in the mud, but that's just what I think.
for the one at 17:06 i can kind of understand it -- they had stated that they grew pretty attached to the rat, and the rat was given to them, and it may have helped them ease into college since it was a gift from high school, so it may have reminded OP of home, or friends, and they simply wanted it back (to either keep, or to give it to someone they know so the rat could maybe help them the way it helped OP) but was probably getting frustrated due to their ex-friends not giving it back, even after saying they would, so id have to say NTA BUT thats only if what i said was correct, if its just they want it back just because their old friends have it, then id say they are overreacting
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As a restaurant worker I really don’t appreciate folks stealing silverware/plating etc but it is harmless mostly. It just can distress those you take from and asking is always preferred of course!
That last story gives a whole new meaning to If You Seek Amy by Birttney Spears
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For the first one, don’t touch someone else’s property. I don’t care if it grows back or not, it’s not yours. I totally would walk away and let them look stupid bc I’m not involved.
I love your guys’ chemistry sm. Infectious energy
Where do you all live that people don't work hard on their flower beds? Also, if someone has landscaped their yard do you know how much that can cost?
I don't landscape my yard because it's a bunch of work.
But apparently you're comparing it to cutting people's hair? Did I hear that right? If you were to cut my hair I'd punch you in the face.
if the giggles, zoom-in, & sparkly music riiiight after she said that wasn’t enough for you to be able to tell she was joking, then i’m a bit worried.
@@channy4694 honestly I wasn't watching, only listening because I was driving. But I'll watch to see. Thank you
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Nah MIL in the first one is the AH. If everyone came and snipped off flowers they wanted, the garden owner would be left with no flowers.
When you propagate, you don’t want any flowers at all as it takes energy from new growth, and in a lot of plants those stems will not produce growth
first one, nta. It's not that the flower can grow back, it's just extremely rude to just take stuff of off someone's property. I'd walk away too because she did have it coming
Nicki this content is chefs kiss i love what you're doing so much
Thank you!! And omg YES that picture is so sick, I got it on red bubble I think haha
Mom in the first story is maybe not an a-hole but it is werido behavior to encroach onto someone's garden and pick off flowers or what have you, especially that of a person you don't know. It feels invasive somehow. OP is NTA. She needed to be humbled so that she can reflect.
You guys are great, really fun to watch, and I love your dynamic. You seem to genuinely enjoy each other's company and make each other laugh, and for me that is like one of the most important things in a relationship. Keep up with the great content (:
I love you guys, but that first story's commentary was so hard to listen to 😭😭
Im glad you read the comments talking about it tho lol
With the flower story, they’re not the a-hole. If the mother in law didn’t want to be yelled at maybe she shouldn’t be going onto other peoples property to steal some cuttings of flowers. If she wants the flowers so bad maybe buy them herself with her own money instead of taking from someone else?! Like I’m sorry how entitled are you to think you can just do that and not get yelled at. Like what? But that’s also just my opinion so. I personally would have been yelling at her with the person.
Edit: my grandma is a Gardner and I’ve watched her for years be bent over that Garden just trying to get them to grow properly, it’s a lot of work it’s not as easy as everyone thinks to grow flowers. So for someone to come and just take a cutting from your hard work. That just shows how entitled they think they are.
With the SIL situation, I also feel like if she was allowed to see the baby she would likely try and act like its mother. Because of the way she almost seems like she wants to marry him. And once the baby gets older start to put ideas into their head about how their mother is a gold digger and a horrible person who baby trapped their father.
Coming around a year late. I need to say that I understand why the girl didnt want to go on the trip after their dog died. HOWEVER, when I was 12, I had a prepaid student excursion for 3 weeks to Europe, 2 weeks before, my dad lost his battle to cancer unexpectedly. I didn’t want to go and BEGGED my mom to not make me. The cost of the trip was way less than this, probably about 5k, so still, not going was not an option and besides, my mom knew this trip would be good for me. I struggled a bit but inevitably I was struggling more at home and having those experiences was very pivotal in my grieving process in the long run.
Okay in the best way possible Elijah gives Kurtis Conner vibes and I stan you both cause all the vibes are good 😊
As someone who sucks with flowers and a Floridian, I'm fist fighting if someone snips off a plant if I finally get the fucker to bloom lmfao
I saw you on Nick's channel! You're absolutely lovely & I can't wait to binge all of your videos!!
Aww thank you so much!! I’m working on a new video for this week that I’m really excited about btw so I can’t wait for you to see it :)
@@nikkicarreon AW! Yay!!!! Looking forward to it!! 🥹❤️
my bf & I have a theory; there's a spirit inside of the stuffed rat!!
just realized he said that lol
Yea for future Reddit vids if you haven't already clued on: NC = No Contact and LC = Low Contact and is usually in reference to toxic family dynamics 😊
I thought that guy was Kurtis Conner 😂 I even had to go back to look at the thumbnail to double check
Stealing is still stealing no matter how small of an item it may be. I dunno. I think he shouldn’t have abandoned his MIL but she could have at least ask for the cuttings. Most people won’t mind and actually offer you…It’s just really rude behaviour taking it without asking. Kinda like if a random person walked by you at a diner and swiped a couple fries off your plate. It’s not such a big deal on the grand scheme of things but I think that’s highly inappropriate.
Petty theft runs in my blood too. My brother & I used to have little contests to see who could steal more from Walmart 🥴
I wonder how you guys could get away from it so easily .... I mean, there could have been security cameras in Walmart ...
18:30 Does the rat talk them through the highschool-college transition?😭
For the first one I think they aren’t THE a-hole but I think they are AN a-hole for being super judgemental about it
for the first one, I feel like it wasn't the flower itself that was the problem, it was the fact that she thought that she was special and entitled enough to just... take something off of private property in broad daylight without a care and just brushed it off as just being "silly" or whatever. And then gets mad at him when the son-in-law doesn't want to deal with the consequences of HER lowkey disrespectful actions. like you can't just steal shi whenever you wanna have it
If you go to your mom or friend the second your boyfriend upsets you a little when he was being reasonable, you’re a jerk. He saved for this trip for THEM and instead of her getting over not going if she didn’t want to. He was very polite and reasonable and she instantly turned her back on him, betrayed him, and made him out to be the bad guy?? That would be an instant red flag?
15:49 I'm not sure if you understand how highschool theater kids work, but this is the most normal theater kid behavior ever. My highschool theater had the exact same thing, just with a beanie baby ant eater named Peener Weener and a stuffed frog I made named Lester instead
my opinion on the “Cancelling the Trip” one :))
i understand the grieving of a pet, especially one you’ve had for a long time or that you havre a strong bond with. near the beginning of february, i had to euthanize my dog of 11 years because of cancer. of course i an still grieving, but just recently (earlier this month) i had a family dinner with my step-family. That side of my family lives a few hours away and has to drive for quite a bit (most of them are elderly) to visit us. Even though I am still grieving over my dog, I had no intention of cancelling the gathering and making them waste the time and money they put into making food to bring to the gathering. I appreciate their time and I would never make them waste their money. If anythinf came up suddenly I would simple not attend the dinner, they would understand. however, cancelling the event (especially without paying them their money back) altogether would be irrational and selfish.
if they were cutting the flowers off my weed plant i would get pissed
The first story would be considered theft in my country.
You can't just remove something from someone's land, that isn't yours, even if it's just a little flower.
Nikki makes me feel so much better about myself cause i also can’t drive and love to steal
for the first one i think he’s NTA because why is the MIL going into peoples yards and taking their flowers? especially because she said it’s a rare flower, that means it’s probably expensive. I’d be upset too is someone came into my yard and cut up my expensive flower that i cultivated. my mom grows the most beautiful roses and puts lots of time and money into them. just cus someone steals a cutting doesn’t mean they’ll get the same result, so u messed up the bush for nothing. also if u cut it the wrong way it won’t grow back actually
31:12 as someone who has been abused by someone named Amy, I agree.
This channel is such a safe space for me
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Ahhh thank you!! Seriously with the amount of duos there are, that’s awesome to hear :)
my day is automatically better now
First one is NTA. Dont take shit from peoples lawns or homes, even if you think its something trivial. Flower befs can be sentimental, utility, all kinds of things. Id be PISSED if someone took cuttings of my moms rosebushes. Plus if one person is doing it, whats stopping others from doing it? Now i have a ruined plant because people decided to take without asking.
Like if you ASK first, most people would probably be more than willing to share. And she KNEW she was doing something wrong, or she wouldmt be giggling about it or trying to justify it.
Yes indeed she had that coming. She got busted, she needed to deal with the consequences. Period.
I love your energy and input. I am obsessed with AITA vids, please continue making these. I just subbed t ok your channel. Hope you consider making more of these. Sending you good vibes 🤟
People spend a lot of time and money to grow plants…it’s not in anyway the same as stealing from a corporation. I’m terms of the “growing back” comment it doesn’t always work that way. My grandfather grew roses and after he died they didn’t grow back for three years. If anyone had stolen from those bushes ( we only had one at first) i would’ve been devastated.
16:12 sisterhood of the traveling stuffed rat, a spin off to the traveling pants if anyone remembers those movies
edit: seconds later she said the same thing-
PLSSS WE NEED MORE OF THESE VIDEOS
For the flower one, I would just explain why what she's doing is bad. He's the asshole for leaving her though. I wouldn't even abandon an acquaintance like that, much less a family member.
idk unless they did smth terrible she didnt say why dont they just give the rat back😭
Lmao yes I agree if she wants it back why not just give it to her but at this point I feel like she needs to let it go because it was given to all of them in unison (it seems) and it seems like she was going to trade it with multiple people anyways?
Yo your hair always looks so good
We need more of this series please
WOAH ITS THAT ONE GIRL HOLY MOLEY
Yesss new upload I’ve been loving your commentary!!! 💚💚💚
15:28 the sisterhood of the traveling rat puppet
your boyfriend kinda looks like if kurtis conner and the garden had a baby
The first story confuses me because my mother raised me to never go into others yards and especially don't mess with their plants, so I think hes totally NTA
also i love your videos they honestly give me a boost of serotonin and it feels like i’m just on a ft with you two
If I had a precious, sacred stuffed rat, I'd want that shit back, too
For the first one i think theyre both TA, flower cuttings yes wont kill the plant but id feel rlly weird if someone took a flower from my garden without asking, he just seems annoying which is why hes ta as well
I 1000% agree with you on that first story. I abide no nerds like those in the Reddit comments.
HAHA YAS
Vergens
yall are super fun to watchh🙏🙏
I thought that was my boy Kurtis in the Tumbnail.