Narcissistic parents won't know how to answer this.
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
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They don’t have the capacity to put themselves in others shoes!
Another aha moment. I notice that when I want to defend helpless animals it’s kind of like I’m defending myself as a child. I just couldn’t articulate or see my own need but could see it in my pets that were neglected and abused. I also notice today that when I actually do share information that’s a bit deeper than usual in a safe way I start to feel critical of those I share with. I think it’s really about self-hate. Like I was punished for my real self so much that internalized the punishments and harsh treatments. So when I see those traits in others it triggers self-hate. Then I project it on the nice person or people. Which paradoxically separates me from connecting with people that are friendly and sensitive like myself. It’s like finding pieces of identity buried in a manure pit of childhood conditioning. It also follows you into adulthood when others find your behaviors childish or fake. They will punish those things or treat you with contempt. That just reinforces the internal sense of self-hate.
Oof, well said. Thank you.
I'm reading Ralph Waldo Emerson essays he says God will not manifest to cowards take care of everyone it's good to have you out there understanding
My family doesn't have any empathy genes. They are all miserable within their little group. 😊
May I suggest it might not be your family then and you have yet to find your tribe (if you haven't already)?
Yep because no matter what happens they will never take accountability for anything they do and it’s always someone else’s fault…that’s why for me, at this point, is just be quiet and stop trying. The quicker u learn to do this, then the quicker u can start to heal ❤️✌️🙏💪
How about the conscious abuse from covert narcissist parents? They know how their behavior affects you, which is why they do it, for the emotional toll it takes on you, this is what regulates their emotions and makes them feel powerful and in control. They sadistically enjoy seeing your pain.
I’m exactly at that point right now… I’m gonna ask
Omg soo relatable to the situation right now ❤
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Wait. Are you saying there are studies showing the lack of empathy comes from genetics and not trauma? If you just meant it in an off hand remark that’s fair.
TY for asking, because I was wondering the same thing. My father’s mother told her children that parenting was beneath her. My husband’s mother was in hospital for weeks when he was born, and his father was a loud bully. Both men ended up damaged and damaging, and I’d always attributed it to circumstances.
I'm so familiar with this.
She didn’t do any behaviour according to to her. She turns it all around on me. She has lights saying I have poor memory or she can’t recall major things that traumatised me so there is no need for her to show any concern for me at all