What You Need To Know About Narcissistic Mothers
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- Growing up with a narcissistic parent can instill negative messages in a person from a young age. A narcissistic parent can make you feel confused, guilty, or inadequate. In this video, we discuss narcissism in mothers and how to prevent them from running your life.
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My boyfriend's mother is a vulnerable narcissist. She often uses me to contact or try and manipulate my boyfriend when he doesn't respond to her. She has said incredibly hurtful things to him and also to me. I've told my boyfriend that I think he needs therapy because this woman has ruined his childhood. He refuses because he is scared. She always threatens to "put the cat to rest because the cat is sick" as soon as my bf doesn't want to help her or do what she asks him to do. Sometimes I'm scared of what this woman is capable of, she has reported ALL of her exes to the police for different reasons during each of her breakups, and all have been very harsh accusations towards the men. It's insane how some people have no understanding of their own actions, it's so sad that they ruin people's lives around them because of their illness.
You have just described my childhood and adolescence as an only child. My father couldn't take it anymore but would still visit me everyday and bring me home from school etc. She tried to alienate me from him, but I knew from age 4 there was something very wrong with her and that I couldn't rely on her, ever. It was a lonely and miserable experience and I had no one to talk to about this, because "how dare you speak of your mother like that". I survived by being a straight A type student and a good obedient girl, up until I was about 15, and that's where all hell broke loose.
She sabotaged my relationships, crossed every boundary and broke up with my first boyfriend against my will (yeah), lied to her family about me and made me the alienated black sheep (I've had relatives blame me for being born), and ultimately kicked me out of her house when I was 18. That's when my zero contact with her began. I think my very survival is an act of defiance in her eyes at this point.
I am now 41, have no family and never had children, this generational curse stops here. I do have few good friends, and I enjoy my own company.
Surprisingly, I'm not DA, but secure leaning anxious. Maybe my father's love and reassurance a couple times a day when I was a child changed things for me. I've been in therapy for the past 7 years and actively work on myself every day.
No wonder I'm so messed up!!! 🙃 my mom is a narc plus she has OCD and anxiety and depression..and she is the most negative person I know.. among other flaws. 🤣 I still love her because at the end of the day... we are all flawed and I have learned to love others despite their mental health problems. I have become strong enough to do this.
Ya know what's sad is that I watch everyone of your videos no matter the title bc I want to learn... but people only watch what they think they need to watch..based on the title...there is so much knowledge in everyone of your videos...thank you
Another sign of a narcissistic parent is that they don’t love you unconditionally. They’ll have a hard time accepting you as just you and they’ll only love and support you if it benefits them or if you please them and live up to their expectations. And when that’s the case then they are only making it out to be about them and not their child
I saw this title and thought "OH SH*T". My ex's mother was a narcissist, hated me, and wanted me gone. Clearly she got what she wanted and my ex probably wont be in a place where she can confidently reach out to me until she moves out. My ex also seemed to have quit before being fired, even though it was all in her head. Thanks so much for this one, god bless you guys.
The exact same thing happened to me. We’re both going to university in the fall so I hope so form of reconciliation could happen.
I really enjoy these videos about personality disorders, attachment styles, and mental illnesses such narcissism, borderline, bi-polar, and so on. It really helps me to identify people who have these traits and how to better deal with them if I run across them in life. Especially when it comes to relationships, I would hate to not know how to handle people like this. This is so helpful. Thank you. I miss you Margaret! But I still enjoy listening to your calming voice on these videos. Rest in peace.
This video explains MY FATHERS behavior. I love my grandma, but she is 100% undiagnosed NPD. He is the way he is because of her (severe avoidant, possibly NPD). Thank goodness my mother is extremely empathetic, or I may have followed in my father's footsteps.
My siblings were treated differently by my mother for sure!! Which my children have a narcissist father and are treated differently by him (That is probably why I find it so important to treat them the same!!)
Thank you so much Coach Margaret!! You brought this up to me before and this video has explained it in such a simple fashion!! And yes.. shop around for a good therapist!! If they don't understand narcissism they will struggle helping you
This is absolutely the way to be disattached to your mother and your family generally. Be responsible for your own life. Mother gave you this life and did what SHE WAS ABLE TO DO. Accept it and go with your life and be grateful. And try to be better mother to your own children if you can…)
And btw just to read this from the written paper by someone who is for some reason interested to ruin the family - can not you find better charismatic person without at least speech problem))))
This is absolutely way to be disattached to your mother and your family generally. Be responsible for your own life. Mother gave you this life and did what SHE WAS ABLE TO DO. Accept it and go with your life and be grateful. And try to be better mother to your own children if you can…)
And btw just to read this from the written paper by someone who is for some reason interested to ruin the family - can not you find better charismatic person without at least speech problem))))
my dead boyfriend's mom is a narcissist and she would say awful things about me behind my back, i caught her on our outdoor camera one day trying to convince my boyfriend that I'm lazy and using him for money, my boyfriend stood up for me said i work more jobs than he's ever had (true) then she said i was probably cheating on him, when I apporached her about what she said she said i was being too sensitive and that she doesn't understand my mood swings. Another time i was having a hard day amd she flipped it around that i ruined her day and tried to get everyone's attention to make them feel bad for her that my bad day ruined her day. After my boyfriend died in a car accident she had blamed the entire thing on me, though she was the one feeding him her xanax pills to gain control of him again because I was stealing him away from her. Stay strong and alert everyone. She will never meet her grandson.♥️
Wow, its crazy the behavior overlap.....my ex girlfriends mom is a narcissist and she also tried convincing her i was cheating and no good.
@@BananaPhone502 I pray she doesn't take her down the way mine went. Absolute disgust. Not only that but she would beat him for popping pills that She gave him. Imagine making someone take something you know they won't say no to so that you can punish and control them. I knew the guy for 15 years and only finally said yes to being with him because he moved out of her house, she obviously didn't like losing control of him so she tried to make him fall to get him back and then he passed out behind the wheel one day and died. Didnt even get to meet his kid. Horrible woman.
My grandmother was a narcissist to my mom and aunts but not her grandchildren. My mother resembles most of these but has never called me stupid. She has pushed every man away because they are not good enough for me! We get along better now but only living in different states temporarily! I love my mother deeply I just hope she trust my choices someday. Thank you for this looking wonderful guys🤗
Great topic. My mom is very difficult. Movie titles come to mind such as throw mama from the train, stop or my mom will shoot and the movie misery.
Please more on that topic and enmeshment with the adult son. I think it is what caused my ex to be avoidant and fear intimacy and because he confides in her, to break up with me. She was charming at first, but also controlling, immature, no boundaries and intrusive. My ex has been contacting me again. He doesn't seem aware, he just acknowledged his mom was controlling. And he has low self esteem and anxiety... If we reconnect I don't know how to bring up the fact he is too dependent on his family and it looks like a narc family system?
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Great topic, although I at first read the title as monsters not mothers 😂 great job as always team 🥰
I’d love to see a video on narcissistic fathers too.
I would imagine that their isn’t really a significant difference
Great topic. Us regular followers of the channel can see this video was shot before coach Victoria was available for coaching. Both of my cars are Crown Victoria's, her favorite car 😁