That is so true. As a child of divorce, my parents did it all wrong. And, my father built walls that could never come down. By the time he acted like he cared, my walls were too high and thick.
I would definitely recommend looking into volunteer opportunities around you. I volunteer at a food pantry every Saturday morning and even though I'm helping others- I'm really helping myself too. Along with donating monetarily to causes I support, being hands-on with my giving just makes it so very much more fulfilling. Even just that one day a week makes a huge difference in the community.
Non of my business, obviously, but I saw your tears and wanted to share something. I have a very dear friend who had a bad marriage from the get go and two lovely children. When they devorced ( her family really likes him!), they decided to have Friday evening meals together and the dad would take them. The kids also saw their dad and mom interact with each other’s families. As time went on they managed to take a yearly family vacation together and spend a major holiday or two together too, (even after significant other’s came on the scene.).The kids are all grown up now and they still share Friday evening meals together and they are some of the most well adjusted adults I have known. I guess I am trying to say that I think you are on the right track. Much love and best wishes.🥰
Love this kind of content. Don’t ever stop over sharing because of a handful of trolls who are so unhappy in their lives they have to go around bringing down others. I like you share that life is not always butterflies and rainbows, but lots of ups and downs too.
Jen I was 16 when I first started watching your content, I’m 25 now! You’re getting back to YOU and it’s fantastic, I’m rooting for you with every upload. Keep at it, this content is what I used to love seeing on your channel
There may someday be another life shift that you have to face and my experience may be something to think about that if the time arises. Following a divorce after 35 year marriage, I had to adjust my thinking where it came to my grandchildren who I'm very close to. Their grandfather remarried and they are calling her Grandma ________. The first time I heard it after the kiddos visited them and it was clear they liked her a lot was a little hard. However, I quickly realized that I so appreciate that she loves them, too. The more people who love them, the better!!! What's better than having another grandma. I'm now so happy for all 5 of my grands.
I am on the other end of the single Mom journey - mine are 22 and 25 - I raised them alone when their Dad died suddenly when they were young teens. I had to work hard and felt like those years went so fast. Now as grown adults - one was away at college and the other months away from getting his own apartment - we were thrown into this pandemic. I do feel this time together has been a gift. It’s all in how you look at it - perspective is everything.
It would do you a world of good to volunteer or take a job outside your home. Connecting with others outside your family, in person, regularly would help you balance your focus off of some of the more perseverative tendencies it’s easy to get into when there is lacking life balance. Example: over exercising. While self reflection is wonderful too much is dangerously limiting.
Lots of talk. No action. She has never mentioned using her privilege to spend time actually helping others. And we all know that if she did, she would be talking about it. I work full time outside the home in a job that helps others, and I still find time with my 4 kiddos to volunteer at our local food pantry and at our community center. She really has no excuses. But I’ve seen it recommended to her for a variety of reason MANY times over the past 8 years and she ignores it. It would help her as much as it helps others.
Carys GM She doesn’t owe you anything and most definitely not an explanation of her life choices. You do not have to watch her videos and you do not have to comment on them. So take your negativity elsewhere.
Rebekah Hall stay at home parents volunteer.... why do you think you can’t volunteer if you are a volunteer parent? Why do you think the advice this woman gives, to volunteer, is bad advice? I hear this advice from the government, church, family. If your life lacks something many people who know give this advice.
Pline P anyone who comments in a reasonable, respectful way like offering volunteering is not showing negativity. Where do you get that? People who talk about volunteering most definitely don’t need to offer an explanation on so positive a way to help the world. You don’t have to read their comments or comment. So take your negativity elsewhere.
Love this! My parents divorced when I was 6 and I did one week with one parent and the next week with the other parent. I agree this is an excellent approach. Not only did I get equal time with both parents but I really never had a babysitter or anything because my parents were able to shift any personal time to the week they did not have me and so I had more undivided attention from each parent than most of my peers.
I admire your honesty in sharing your life with us. I love you how you keep you children’s best interest at the forefront in coparenting them. Life is hard. Especially right now. You are doing a great job!
My ex and I do 50/50 with our daughter, Friday to Friday and we all love it! She benefits from seeing us both equally and that’s the main thing. You’ll find your groove, you get used to it, especially when you see your kids adjusting and enjoying. Will you miss them? Absolutely! But look at the end result! I grew up with a single mom, my “dad” wanted nothing to do with me, so I’m so thankful that my daughter’s dad is not only so involved but also an amazing dad! You look AMAZING by the way! ♥️
I totally get being grateful for these last 6 months. My boys are in college, so typically we don’t get to see them that much. I have cherished this time with them home.
Thank you so much for saying that about the teachers. I am a middle school teacher teaching hybrid and it is wearing on all of us, but it is also joyful to have some in person, too. Love how you research what is best for your kids even though it is hard for you. Hugs to you!
Rene Chicks GOOD for you! Life is better right???? . If my mama didn't have dementia I would delete my face book too. That's the easiest way I keep in touch with our family in Puerto Rico regarding her. Social media is just too fake. I've always said face book should have a boring and pathetic emoji lol 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙋🏻🙋🏻🙋🏻
One advice on dating after divorce that i can give is just let it happen. I met my husband in Starbucks 22 years ago, and we have been happily married for 12 years now. He was just sitting at a table next to me and we started chatting. i wasn't even thinking of dates and men at that point in life but i was not closed to meeting someone. I loved the vlog. TFS
These are hard times for every family ..... is so good that you are finding a balance with your family and your kids. You are a great mother and that is why you can see the beauty of sharing your babies with Don. Sending you a huge hug.
Your content is amazing. I love the growth you have shown over this tough year. As a child from a divorced parents I can agree with you sentiment. Take your time with dating and follow your heart. I love both of my step parents and couldn’t imagine life without them. I am sure Charlotte and Donald will both feel this way.
Always enjoy “visiting” with you Jen ☕️💖 Thank you for sharing & so happy to hear about all the great life updates🙌🏻 You are a fortunate lady and a very grateful one too🙏🏻 Happy Fall🍁🍂🎃
I just finished my divorce mediation 9/9/2020. You are not alone girl! We have strength far beyond what we can conceive. Sending a huge hug your way. I understand what you are going through. We got this!!!!!
It’s so important to have friends and activities outside the home to feel part of something bigger than yourself. You tube really shouldn’t be a substitute for real human connection. Eventually your kids will grow up and move on
I'm so glad my children are able to be back in school. I have noticed so much joy and emotional growth in them in just the last 30 days. I share your sentiments.
It IS hard. We have been doing the week on week off for a decade now and I had the longest uninterrupted time with my kids in 10 years during the pandemic. (They were with us for four months due to my ex and his wife’s jobs being high contact and Jess and I both being high risk.) my kids basically demanded we go back to week on week off because that’s what they wanted - I asked if they wanted some uninterrupted time with Dad but they both wanted their sense of “normalcy.” I think hearing from them how important their equal time with parents is kept me from falling back into the same depression I was in when we first started sharing custody. Big hugs!
I’ve followed you for I think 7 years...which is all of my adult life, I’m 25. I don’t comment often, honestly because I’m usually watching UA-cam while I do the many things in my life. I have to tell you, and take the time to comment more, because I’m so glad to be on this journey with you. I feel like I’m the past year, you’ve broken through a lot of things, and are really becoming you. Thank you for sharing life with us. Thank you for all of the “adulting” I’ve learned from you since I was 18!
Sonya Cottle I do yoga most days, but for 20 mins at most. I think you missed my point. I would absolutely love to do yoga 2 hrs a day, hence why I’m envious of Jen.
@@kcjames9908 I get where you're coming from, sometimes real life, lack of sleep, stress, a husband ex or otherwise who doesn't support you, kids who need you all the time because there's no one else to take over, etc,etc,etc get in the way of 'you time'. This isn't a criticism to those who can relax everynow and then, but it's definitely a criticism to those who are quick to attack those less fortunate.
I'm 38, my parents divorced when I was 11, and I've had a lot of time (and therapy!) to look back on the placement arrangement. My mom and I moved out of state which complicated things, but I ended up only spending Christmas and six weeks in the summer with my Dad. It fundamentally changed my relationship with him. We had plenty of other things to work through (thanks again, therapy!) and we're in a great place now but it. was. rough. My stepsisters had one week on, one week off with their parents and I can see how that positively impacted their relationship with their parents. I obviously don't know the details of your divorce and I'm just one person/experience, but suffice to say there is an internet stranger out there who is applauding you making the tough decision to increase your kiddos' time with each of you. I hope your children will one day recognize how important this decision was - although I guess maybe the ultimate goal is they never realize because they end up with wonderful relationships with both of you! (Also, and mostly unrelated, I can completely relate to the weird/guilty?/complicated feeling of "wow, 2020 is a dumpster fire but also what a wonderful gift that I could spend so much time with X.")
Hi Jen, have you looked into Brain Integration Therapy/Crossisnoligy for dealing with whatever it is you’re ignoring? My husband did this a few years ago, and he hasn’t had his back go out since!
My oldest 2 children now 21 and 20. Have had to deal with coparenting since 2 and 1. It was set 50/50 whole time to transferred to 3 days here 4 days there etc. They are ok now. Never had a problem that I know of. But I will tell you having 4 children now; it still hurts my heart they had to go thru it. I have a lot of guilt. Now I'm a separated parent with the younger 2. It still hurts that I wasnt able to save my family. If I had to do it again I would work more on ensuring everyone is heard and praying more for God to help us work the marriage and family together.
Jennifer feels like we have similar foot issues... my podiatrist recommends I start using a good house shoe for support. What shoes do you use at home for arch support/ support in general. My wood floors kill me these days Elizabeth
Vulnerability leads to personal growth. Like Glennon says, ‘you can do the hard stuff’, and you ARE doing it, and you may not be doing it what you think as ‘perfectly’, but you are doing it the way you need to for you and your situation. Just keep going, take care of yourself and you will reach the rainbow 🌈
I definitely am thankful for these last 6 months with my kids. I have enjoyed watching my 5 and 6 year old become increasingly independent and even closer. They are happy to have things slightly more normal... We are an ice family so my son is back in ice hockey and my daughter back in figure skating ♥️
My daughter is almost two and a half. My ex husband and I separated right before her first birthday. The schedule we have kinda settled into is a lot of back and forth but I think she really benefits from it. She spends the day while I'm at work monday-wednesay and Friday when I'm at work at her dad's house with her grandma. And she spends two nights a week at her dad's. It works out that I see her every single day which is nice and she still gets to see her father most days. I feel like a better mom now that I have a little time to myself to take care of me.
Thank you so much for much sharing. I have always loved how you are able to put everything into words so beautifully. It is a new and different world right now and of your world as well. You are so geniune about things many of us are going through on our life path as well. I am so happy for your healing and for your happiness.
Could you share please what ingredients you put in your waffle mix? Do you do a healthier/vegan version or the classic one? Would be interested to know. They look yummy! Xoxo 💋
I feel like having my daugther off for so long was an amazing thing. Its time we would never normally have and we did so much at home that I tend to say ""I don't have time" to. Now she's back at school, it's strange but she's very happy and settled back in like she's never been away.
I'm not sure I've seen another youtuber grow and come into themselves as much as you. You are a very special human being and an incredible mother. Good for you, Mama. You're doing beautifully.
Have you tried a rebounder for workouts? I got into it after seeing Christopher Allen using one after an injury and I love it! It might be better for your feet and back?
I don't know why but I cried when I watched you crying 😭🥺 I hope life has more beautiful moments for you and your family 💖 I hope whatever your journey is, it gets better than you expect.
I have been watching you since almost the beginning, and seeing the personal growth/development/awakening you’ve made is just dang awesome. Life isn’t rainbows and unicorns for ANY person regardless of their financial situation, and having financial “privilege” doesn’t mean you don’t have hard times, too. It’s just different. Money does not equal happiness or “better” - just as being “poor” doesn’t mean you don’t have worth and/or aren’t happy. You can’t take it with you when you die!
I love how there are so many positive comments from people sharing their experience as a child with divorced parents. You go prettyneatliving subscribers! Be kind
In my opinion, humans are not made to shut themselves away and not interact in LIVING LIFE. As far as kids and divorce, both parents should always interact with kids equally and each other to keep a healthy relationship. Obviously, that doesn't always happen.
I taught for 33 years. I think you are absolutely right. Children love routine. If it is at all a comfort to you, I found children were very resilient. While divorce is hard on a family, children really do okay when they feel secure. I think you and Don are doing a great job. Be well.
My parents were divorced when I was 8, and I raised two step-daughters myself. My advice - yes, keep their rooms at both places. Make a schedule and stick to it, to reduce fear of the unknown/chaos. And for holidays - trade off in a logical way. I hated it when someone would ask me "where do YOU want to be for Christmas"? Yikes. One year - Thanksgiving with Mom and Christmas/Hannukkah/Yule/Winter break with Dad. Next year - Thanksgiving with Dad, Christmas with Mom, etc. That way no one feels guilty! :) I have step-siblings myself. And they also have step-siblings. Life can be complicated, but we are all one big happy family. It works!
Exactly same thing with my 4 and 1/2 year old! We r sending him to school, they are wearing masks all day long, it's a small school with strict covid protocols! And he is LOVING IT!!! Absolutely!!
You turned a really bad situation (divorce, pandemic, and political crisis+) into a positive. I also had a lot of ups as well as a lot of lows this year in my own life and the GUILT of celebrating or realizing you had some good stuff when everyone else around you is suffering is immense. And also the fear of holding a good thing close to your heart and labeling it as a win when there is a real fear of losing that thing is also very overwhelming. I have felt numb to the good stuff that has happened to me and everything bad is debilitating but I see it even worse in parents. I hope you continue to carry on Jen and I hope you and your kids and Don find the routine that suits all of you the best. You can do this!
Hey Jen! My sister eats plant based diet and I’m trying to get their but not there yet. She eats quinoa every day for protein and almond milk too. Have you tried ElmHurst brand almond milk? It has only almonds and water in it. I use to love Califia brand but it has added ingredients in it. 💜💜
I have been watching you for a really long time. (Middle School- now, Law School). We both have grown up. I am so happy you have found joy and peace in this time even though it's really hard to not see your kids as much. Never stop uploading! Sending you love
My babies are 17 (her birthday was 9/17 🙂)and 20. I was home with them in the spring. We live in Louisiana and we have been affected by Hurricane Laura. I am back home now but they are with their dad (for the first time ever, for this length of time) and I have been feeling sorry for myself and sad that they are not with me. But after watching you today, I realize how grateful I am for having been able to spend that time with them in the spring and I am glad they able to finally spend time with their dad.
Your videos make me want to be productive even when I feel it’s hardest to do so. This is embarrassing to admit but it’s been 2 months since I cleaned my room and watching the montage in the beginning helped me get out of bed and get started on it. Thank you Jen 😊
Jen, I mean my comments in the nicest way. You are a very intelligent, caring woman who is going through a lot but IMO there are people who get tired of you referring to your "privilege". We know you lived in a very expensive house and moved into a very expensive house and have a lot of things. Your children are adapting because they are young and kids bounce back from a divorce better than the people getting the divorce. They need to spend time with both parents on a more equal basis. Moms and Dads do things differently and the kids benefit from both parenting styles. You are on the same page for the important stuff but the little things are just that--little things. So it's good they are back in school with other kids and adults in a safe environment. You need to get out of fixing up your house to perfection and volunteer or get a part time job somewhere. You will feel better about life outside your bubble. Your kids will benefit from mommy being in the outside world. You are in a very set routine that's evidently very comfortable and you need to push yourself out of that comfort zone. Join a support group, volunteer, get involved with people. It will open up your world. You have lots of living to do and while your kids are number 1, they will do just fine. Please take these comments in the spirit they are given.
Yes! Hair grows more in the summer due to vitamin D’s affect on thyroid hormones😃 easier to loose weight, help steroid/sex hormones, get calcium into bones and grow hair! I love summertime
Oh Jen you are such a beautiful person. It must be so hard being away from your children. My husband only sees my stepdaughter EOW and its hard on him, my 2yr cries every time his sister goes back to her mom and its so heartbreaking. But the most important thing is the quality time spent with them. I'm so excited for the next chapter in your life. It's so good to see how far you've come finding yourself. Ive watched your channel since 2014? And you helped me get through my divorce at the time, your personality and soothing voice. I wish you nothing but the best 💗
It wasn't good for my niece and twin nephews to go 50/50. The boys started school and had a really hard time in school. It's better for them to do 3 weekends a month for them with their dad. They know they're going to their home and sleeping in their own bed. (they sleep on the couch or floor at their dad's) Weekends at their dad's is fun time for them.
My husband has my step daughter 3 weekends a month also. Well, Friday after school until Monday before school every weekend besides the 2nd weekend of the month. It’s always been that way and sometimes 50/50 is tough for kids with school
Oh also . I always hurt my back with floor Pilates , yoga no but I find working with a Pilates reformer works much better with a Pilates trained professional
When I was a couple years out from my divorce, I used to frequently listen to the song "Bruises" by Train--it really fit what you were talking about re: everybody having wounds and we're all struggling in some ways in this life together. 💗
I would be scared in the US, but not here in Norway. But kiddos usually never get Covid, so I think they are safe! The thing I would be afraid of is them taking it home and giving it to people who cant take it, like grand partners.
It’s no different here in the US. She lives in a Democrat state where they are going overboard with restrictions. Kiddos have been back in school full time in my state for over a month and all is well...WITHOUT the kids wearing masks during classes.
@@LMPM0909 this is 1000% true. Being in New York and having a sister live in Florida I'm seeing the difference first hand. Democratic states absolutely refuse to give power to the people back.
Brooke Oh I am so sorry 😫 There are fools demanding our Governor further restrict the population and mandate masks. It’s insane! There is no way someone struggling to make ends meet would want more lockdown. THAT is privilege.
@@LMPM0909 thank you and I completely agree it's absolute privelage to lock down everything . it's very hard to deal with. NYC is dead, I don't think people realize how badly the mayor and governor killed our state. Cuomo has the blood on his hands of thousands of nursing home victims and people still are at his feet begging for more rights to be taken away over and over again. It's completely insane. I hope you and your family stay safe and avoid any democratic run cities like the plague they are!
PS you look really good. :D This truly makes my heart happy to see! It really weighed on me when you were going through everything. I know we don't know each other - but I really felt it.
About dating. Dont feel like you need to get out there if Don is out there and dating. Men often jump out in the fish pond sooner than we women do. Might not mean they are done grieving what's not there anymore, I guess its something that just makes them focus on something else?
I know what you mean, the pandemic is bloody awful but I’ve been incredibly grateful for the time I’ve been able to spend with my family. It’s been quietly wonderful to have my husband home and have focussed time just us. My son is loving being at school and I hope he can continue to go in the coming weeks. There have to be positives found in the worst times and time together as a family has definitely been one of them x
Jen, it is an absolute joy to see how much happier you seem to be. I'm really looking forward to seeing what's next for you - it reminds me of the Organised Like Jen days. I remember, many moons ago, the first video of yours I watched was a handbag collection and organisation video. You've come so far, and it's been a pleasure to come along on the journey with you. Here's to love, patience and resilience.. and amazing future content! 😊❤️🌻
I divorced in 97 or was it 96....well never mind.😅 my point is my kids spent one week with me and then one week with their dad. And in Norway that is kind of normal. It was soooooo HAAAARD in the beginning....but you get used to it. Stay strong Jen 🥰 you ARE strong. Days can be very hard to get true....but as long as you face it and work at it ....it will be ok. It has taken me YEARS to get to the point where I actually understood that it was OK to have bad days. It will be alright!!! 💖💕
It is hard to navigate through divorce even if it is an amicable one. There will be hard times ahead with separate holidays, birthdays etc. Then there's the guilt that will come along with second guessing your decisions. It's all growth, but it's hard, and it hurts sometimes, and it helps to talk about it. When your kids are with their dad, try to get together with people you love and trust.
I know how stressful this time has been for everyone, but to be able to look at it in positive way is so important. Your children won't rememberthe pandemic but you will always be able to remind them that it was a blessing to have them close. They will always have this time in their hearts.
At a later time in My life ,I added iron tablets to my diet and noticed less cramping during that time of the month. You are looking great. Enjoy your time while the kidz are in school...M♡M of 5
I am not going to tell you how to date... After two marriages and two sons who are grownups now, I have no idea how we do that... :-) But you are still young and you still have the time to figure it out. Sharing the kids: such a tough thing, I know. When they definitely leave: even worst. Just if I may, I would recommend that you keep your kids out of the “date mix” unless it is a sure and serious affair... Regarding the whole present situation in USA, unfortunately I see a lot of troubles in other countries as well, things happen for a reason. Probably the best we can do, is to learn a lesson from what is happening and appreciating whatever we have. Do you have to take medicines for the hair problem? I’m interested for myself, I had the same problem a few months ago.
Exercise is also a mood booster. My thing is swinging kettlebells but I've never been injured doing them. I have exercise induced breathing problems so I cannot do them for very long. I also dream, journal, read, play video games. All kids are elearning (structured like school but done at home via live conferences), virtual schooling (done at own pace but with a program I'm not familiar with), or homeschooling (doing everything yourself) in our area. Our internet was out the first week of school but they have the completed live conferences up but since he didn't participate in the initial live conferences so not sure how they can tell they can tell that he did the work. We have an IEP meeting on the 30th of this month so I can ask his teachers about that. His classes are usually small with only four other boys in his class. About a month ago our internet company dug up the buried lines and it's been messing up every since then. You can't fill others if you're running on empty. I have phobias from past experiences. Someone strangled me for joking with them which made keep to myself until I can ascertain the person won't harm me and since I lost Lee's and my younger son Thomas to SIDS nine years ago haven't really been interested in getting close to anyone else. I nearly drowned once so now I don't like my head being submerged underneath water. I've broken three toes in a fall so I'm more cautious with where I'm stepping. I'm not sure. I'm still with Lee and our relationship is my first and only serious romantic relationship. I tend to find mine in everyday life when I'm not looking but not opposed to the idea. I met my first love Justin (I thought he was the One and I still love him today even though he is no longer an option; still thankful to him for changing my daily nightmares into sweet dreams but now that inspiration is slowly dying) in school but we're were both too nervous to confess to each other and for some reason he though I was in a relationship with someone else before I actually was. About 3 months after I found out Justin was marrying someone else I met Lee at work. November 1st will be our 13th anniversary. I'm introvert to but get very little alone time since Daniel is home most of the time. My mother and sister have lines of men that ask them out daily so theirs is also in person. My sister also tends to get 600 new friend requests per day on social media. The friend of a friend or people you may know thing really sucks for her. Most people are rude to her. Ninety-eight percent of men will hit on her and ninety-eight percent of women are jealous of her (they view her as a threat although she isn't one; Sis is extremely picky about what kind of guy she likes and she's not willing to compromise). My sister's husband got a job at a school in a nearby town so she's moving back to this area. I hope she's okay. She didn't want to come back here.
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My attorney told me when I was getting divorced, “ you can build bridges or build walls, it’s up to you on what you do”. I’ve never forgotten that!
I really, really like this analogy!! 😊
I need to put this saying on a post it and read it to myself often. Thank you.
That is so true. As a child of divorce, my parents did it all wrong. And, my father built walls that could never come down. By the time he acted like he cared, my walls were too high and thick.
I would definitely recommend looking into volunteer opportunities around you. I volunteer at a food pantry every Saturday morning and even though I'm helping others- I'm really helping myself too. Along with donating monetarily to causes I support, being hands-on with my giving just makes it so very much more fulfilling. Even just that one day a week makes a huge difference in the community.
Non of my business, obviously, but I saw your tears and wanted to share something. I have a very dear friend who had a bad marriage from the get go and two lovely children. When they devorced ( her family really likes him!), they decided to have Friday evening meals together and the dad would take them. The kids also saw their dad and mom interact with each other’s families. As time went on they managed to take a yearly family vacation together and spend a major holiday or two together too, (even after significant other’s came on the scene.).The kids are all grown up now and they still share Friday evening meals together and they are some of the most well adjusted adults I have known. I guess I am trying to say that I think you are on the right track. Much love and best wishes.🥰
Wow! I love that!!
When you put your children’s needs first you will have happy well adjusted children. 💙💜
Love this kind of content. Don’t ever stop over sharing because of a handful of trolls who are so unhappy in their lives they have to go around bringing down others. I like you share that life is not always butterflies and rainbows, but lots of ups and downs too.
BE HAPPY TODAY I never see the trolls.
I greatly appreciate how your content has evolved, Jen. You should be so proud of yourself and your growth!
Thank you! I am proud. I appreciate your kind words ☺️
Jen I was 16 when I first started watching your content, I’m 25 now! You’re getting back to YOU and it’s fantastic, I’m rooting for you with every upload. Keep at it, this content is what I used to love seeing on your channel
Thank you for sticking by me for so long! ❤️
You are such a wonderful mom. You are so full of grace and understanding in this tough situation. Your kids are so blessed to have you!
There may someday be another life shift that you have to face and my experience may be something to think about that if the time arises. Following a divorce after 35 year marriage, I had to adjust my thinking where it came to my grandchildren who I'm very close to. Their grandfather remarried and they are calling her Grandma ________. The first time I heard it after the kiddos visited them and it was clear they liked her a lot was a little hard. However, I quickly realized that I so appreciate that she loves them, too. The more people who love them, the better!!! What's better than having another grandma. I'm now so happy for all 5 of my grands.
You rock, being selfless is great
I am on the other end of the single Mom journey - mine are 22 and 25 - I raised them alone when their Dad died suddenly when they were young teens. I had to work hard and felt like those years went so fast. Now as grown adults - one was away at college and the other months away from getting his own apartment - we were thrown into this pandemic. I do feel this time together has been a gift. It’s all in how you look at it - perspective is everything.
Sooo true a gift
It would do you a world of good to volunteer or take a job outside your home. Connecting with others outside your family, in person, regularly would help you balance your focus off of some of the more perseverative tendencies it’s easy to get into when there is lacking life balance. Example: over exercising. While self reflection is wonderful too much is dangerously limiting.
Lots of talk. No action. She has never mentioned using her privilege to spend time actually helping others. And we all know that if she did, she would be talking about it. I work full time outside the home in a job that helps others, and I still find time with my 4 kiddos to volunteer at our local food pantry and at our community center. She really has no excuses. But I’ve seen it recommended to her for a variety of reason MANY times over the past 8 years and she ignores it. It would help her as much as it helps others.
Carys GM some people are stay at home parents and enjoy it ... why do you think it’s your place to tell this woman what to do
Carys GM She doesn’t owe you anything and most definitely not an explanation of her life choices. You do not have to watch her videos and you do not have to comment on them. So take your negativity elsewhere.
Rebekah Hall stay at home parents volunteer.... why do you think you can’t volunteer if you are a volunteer parent? Why do you think the advice this woman gives, to volunteer, is bad advice? I hear this advice from the government, church, family. If your life lacks something many people who know give this advice.
Pline P anyone who comments in a reasonable, respectful way like offering volunteering is not showing negativity. Where do you get that? People who talk about volunteering most definitely don’t need to offer an explanation on so positive a way to help the world. You don’t have to read their comments or comment. So take your negativity elsewhere.
I wanted to thank you for being so open about your emotions and experiences, I truly appreciate it 💛
Love this! My parents divorced when I was 6 and I did one week with one parent and the next week with the other parent. I agree this is an excellent approach. Not only did I get equal time with both parents but I really never had a babysitter or anything because my parents were able to shift any personal time to the week they did not have me and so I had more undivided attention from each parent than most of my peers.
Thank you for sharing your experience ❤️
That’s a great benefit!! Not needing babysitters as much!
I love that you buy yourself flowers..I always felt that enjoying flowers is apart of self care as well 💜
I’m sure you know this but sometimes you just need to be reminded. You’re doing a great job 🤗
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I admire your honesty in sharing your life with us. I love you how you keep you children’s best interest at the forefront in coparenting them. Life is hard. Especially right now. You are doing a great job!
My ex and I do 50/50 with our daughter, Friday to Friday and we all love it! She benefits from seeing us both equally and that’s the main thing. You’ll find your groove, you get used to it, especially when you see your kids adjusting and enjoying. Will you miss them? Absolutely! But look at the end result! I grew up with a single mom, my “dad” wanted nothing to do with me, so I’m so thankful that my daughter’s dad is not only so involved but also an amazing dad! You look AMAZING by the way! ♥️
can't tell you how lovely it is to see you being so open and raw with us. appreciate it so much. keep it up. love the new content.
I totally get being grateful for these last 6 months. My boys are in college, so typically we don’t get to see them that much. I have cherished this time with them home.
Thank you so much for saying that about the teachers. I am a middle school teacher teaching hybrid and it is wearing on all of us, but it is also joyful to have some in person, too. Love how you research what is best for your kids even though it is hard for you. Hugs to you!
I no longer do Instagram, life is so much better lol
Same! I quit fb first for a few months. Then I quit Instagram. Life feels so much better!
Rene Chicks GOOD for you! Life is better right???? . If my mama didn't have dementia I would delete my face book too. That's the easiest way I keep in touch with our family in Puerto Rico regarding her. Social media is just too fake. I've always said face book should have a boring and pathetic emoji lol 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙋🏻🙋🏻🙋🏻
Amen! And if in doubt, watch ‘The Social Dilemma’ on Netflix 😊
One advice on dating after divorce that i can give is just let it happen. I met my husband in Starbucks 22 years ago, and we have been happily married for 12 years now. He was just sitting at a table next to me and we started chatting. i wasn't even thinking of dates and men at that point in life but i was not closed to meeting someone. I loved the vlog. TFS
Thank you for sharing your story! ❤️
I hate that everyone has to defend their decision on whether or not they are sending their kids to school. You are strong and an inspiration.
These are hard times for every family ..... is so good that you are finding a balance with your family and your kids. You are a great mother and that is why you can see the beauty of sharing your babies with Don. Sending you a huge hug.
Jen, thank you for always being real. Your beautiful soul helps me stay positive and motivated. Sending a big hug. Stay well. 🙏🏼💛
Love these videos Jen ! ❤️thanks for always sharing your feelings it’s definitely helped me as well in my times of hardship
I loved the opening! I felt like I was snuggled up watching an indie movie ☺️ Love a chatty Jen!
The first 3min wow!! Great editing and filming!!
Thanks! I’m interested in trying new things. I’m not great at it but it is fun 😉
Oh Jen, thank you for being so open with your emotions! You seem like a wonderful person!
Your content is amazing. I love the growth you have shown over this tough year. As a child from a divorced parents I can agree with you sentiment. Take your time with dating and follow your heart. I love both of my step parents and couldn’t imagine life without them. I am sure Charlotte and Donald will both feel this way.
Always enjoy “visiting” with you Jen ☕️💖 Thank you for sharing & so happy to hear about all the great life updates🙌🏻 You are a fortunate lady and a very grateful one too🙏🏻 Happy Fall🍁🍂🎃
I just finished my divorce mediation 9/9/2020. You are not alone girl! We have strength far beyond what we can conceive. Sending a huge hug your way. I understand what you are going through. We got this!!!!!
It’s so important to have friends and activities outside the home to feel part of something bigger than yourself. You tube really shouldn’t be a substitute for real human connection. Eventually your kids will grow up and move on
Totally agree.
I'm so glad my children are able to be back in school. I have noticed so much joy and emotional growth in them in just the last 30 days. I share your sentiments.
Are you a SAHM, too?
@@penelopa96 No, actually I'm not. I work but my company is remote right now.
Same here!
You are such a thoughtful and wonderful person Jen. Any naysayers are likely jealous of your emotional depth.
So happy you addressed this. So many of us divorced moms... feel just like you do. Thank you for sharing 🥰
The “I tried are you proud of me?” 😂 the most relatable thing
It IS hard. We have been doing the week on week off for a decade now and I had the longest uninterrupted time with my kids in 10 years during the pandemic. (They were with us for four months due to my ex and his wife’s jobs being high contact and Jess and I both being high risk.) my kids basically demanded we go back to week on week off because that’s what they wanted - I asked if they wanted some uninterrupted time with Dad but they both wanted their sense of “normalcy.” I think hearing from them how important their equal time with parents is kept me from falling back into the same depression I was in when we first started sharing custody. Big hugs!
I’ve followed you for I think 7 years...which is all of my adult life, I’m 25. I don’t comment often, honestly because I’m usually watching UA-cam while I do the many things in my life. I have to tell you, and take the time to comment more, because I’m so glad to be on this journey with you. I feel like I’m the past year, you’ve broken through a lot of things, and are really becoming you. Thank you for sharing life with us. Thank you for all of the “adulting” I’ve learned from you since I was 18!
2 hrs a day of daily yoga.... lady of leisure!! I’m so jealous. Hope you heal up quickly.
Sonya Cottle I wish that was true. I work 60 hr weeks. Adding in 14 hrs of yoga a week would be impossible.
Sonya Cottle I do yoga most days, but for 20 mins at most. I think you missed my point. I would absolutely love to do yoga 2 hrs a day, hence why I’m envious of Jen.
I like that she acknowledges her privilege. Very refreshing.
@Carol Burns that's a little condescending, you don't know how much time she spends on UA-cam anymore than I do you.
@@kcjames9908 I get where you're coming from, sometimes real life, lack of sleep, stress, a husband ex or otherwise who doesn't support you, kids who need you all the time because there's no one else to take over, etc,etc,etc get in the way of 'you time'. This isn't a criticism to those who can relax everynow and then, but it's definitely a criticism to those who are quick to attack those less fortunate.
I need a planner sticker that says “Look! I tried a little today!” 🤣🤣♥️♥️
Same 😜
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O gosh. That's cute ☺
Is this a new vlogging camera? What kind did you pick out if so?
Thanks for sharing !! You are so real and authentic!!
I'm 38, my parents divorced when I was 11, and I've had a lot of time (and therapy!) to look back on the placement arrangement. My mom and I moved out of state which complicated things, but I ended up only spending Christmas and six weeks in the summer with my Dad. It fundamentally changed my relationship with him. We had plenty of other things to work through (thanks again, therapy!) and we're in a great place now but it. was. rough. My stepsisters had one week on, one week off with their parents and I can see how that positively impacted their relationship with their parents. I obviously don't know the details of your divorce and I'm just one person/experience, but suffice to say there is an internet stranger out there who is applauding you making the tough decision to increase your kiddos' time with each of you. I hope your children will one day recognize how important this decision was - although I guess maybe the ultimate goal is they never realize because they end up with wonderful relationships with both of you! (Also, and mostly unrelated, I can completely relate to the weird/guilty?/complicated feeling of "wow, 2020 is a dumpster fire but also what a wonderful gift that I could spend so much time with X.")
Hi Jen, have you looked into Brain Integration Therapy/Crossisnoligy for dealing with whatever it is you’re ignoring? My husband did this a few years ago, and he hasn’t had his back go out since!
My oldest 2 children now 21 and 20. Have had to deal with coparenting since 2 and 1. It was set 50/50 whole time to transferred to 3 days here 4 days there etc. They are ok now. Never had a problem that I know of. But I will tell you having 4 children now; it still hurts my heart they had to go thru it. I have a lot of guilt. Now I'm a separated parent with the younger 2. It still hurts that I wasnt able to save my family. If I had to do it again I would work more on ensuring everyone is heard and praying more for God to help us work the marriage and family together.
Jennifer feels like we have similar foot issues... my podiatrist recommends I start using a good house shoe for support. What shoes do you use at home for arch support/ support in general. My wood floors kill me these days
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Vulnerability leads to personal growth. Like Glennon says, ‘you can do the hard stuff’, and you ARE doing it, and you may not be doing it what you think as ‘perfectly’, but you are doing it the way you need to for you and your situation. Just keep going, take care of yourself and you will reach the rainbow 🌈
A two year old goes to school?
I definitely am thankful for these last 6 months with my kids. I have enjoyed watching my 5 and 6 year old become increasingly independent and even closer. They are happy to have things slightly more normal... We are an ice family so my son is back in ice hockey and my daughter back in figure skating ♥️
My daughter is almost two and a half. My ex husband and I separated right before her first birthday. The schedule we have kinda settled into is a lot of back and forth but I think she really benefits from it. She spends the day while I'm at work monday-wednesay and Friday when I'm at work at her dad's house with her grandma. And she spends two nights a week at her dad's. It works out that I see her every single day which is nice and she still gets to see her father most days. I feel like a better mom now that I have a little time to myself to take care of me.
Thank you so much for much sharing. I have always loved how you are able to put everything into words so beautifully. It is a new and different world right now and of your world as well. You are so geniune about things many of us are going through on our life path as well. I am so happy for your healing and for your happiness.
My daughter is in High School and I love having her home and spending time with her. But she really misses her friends.
I love how genuine you are. It’s a breath of fresh air. You’re amazing! 🧡 Amber
Could you share please what ingredients you put in your waffle mix? Do you do a healthier/vegan version or the classic one? Would be interested to know. They look yummy! Xoxo 💋
I feel like having my daugther off for so long was an amazing thing. Its time we would never normally have and we did so much at home that I tend to say ""I don't have time" to. Now she's back at school, it's strange but she's very happy and settled back in like she's never been away.
I'm not sure I've seen another youtuber grow and come into themselves as much as you. You are a very special human being and an incredible mother. Good for you, Mama. You're doing beautifully.
Have you tried a rebounder for workouts? I got into it after seeing Christopher Allen using one after an injury and I love it! It might be better for your feet and back?
I don't know why but I cried when I watched you crying 😭🥺 I hope life has more beautiful moments for you and your family 💖 I hope whatever your journey is, it gets better than you expect.
I have been watching you since almost the beginning, and seeing the personal growth/development/awakening you’ve made is just dang awesome.
Life isn’t rainbows and unicorns for ANY person regardless of their financial situation, and having financial “privilege” doesn’t mean you don’t have hard times, too. It’s just different. Money does not equal happiness or “better” - just as being “poor” doesn’t mean you don’t have worth and/or aren’t happy. You can’t take it with you when you die!
I love how there are so many positive comments from people sharing their experience as a child with divorced parents. You go prettyneatliving subscribers! Be kind
Take care of yourself, here's a big HUG.
Watching some older videos and saw you were knitting. Do you still knit?
In my opinion, humans are not made to shut themselves away and not interact in LIVING LIFE. As far as kids and divorce, both parents should always interact with kids equally and each other to keep a healthy relationship. Obviously, that doesn't always happen.
Nope I just dump it out it seems, never thought of it... just have a few things... & no lipstick or face stuff since covid
I taught for 33 years. I think you are absolutely right. Children love routine. If it is at all a comfort to you, I found children were very resilient. While divorce is hard on a family, children really do okay when they feel secure. I think you and Don are doing a great job. Be well.
My parents were divorced when I was 8, and I raised two step-daughters myself. My advice - yes, keep their rooms at both places. Make a schedule and stick to it, to reduce fear of the unknown/chaos. And for holidays - trade off in a logical way. I hated it when someone would ask me "where do YOU want to be for Christmas"? Yikes. One year - Thanksgiving with Mom and Christmas/Hannukkah/Yule/Winter break with Dad. Next year - Thanksgiving with Dad, Christmas with Mom, etc. That way no one feels guilty! :) I have step-siblings myself. And they also have step-siblings. Life can be complicated, but we are all one big happy family. It works!
Also, I need some drawer pull outs too( different size than your pantry) would you share the brand you got please?
Container Store
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Exactly same thing with my 4 and 1/2 year old! We r sending him to school, they are wearing masks all day long, it's a small school with strict covid protocols! And he is LOVING IT!!! Absolutely!!
You turned a really bad situation (divorce, pandemic, and political crisis+) into a positive. I also had a lot of ups as well as a lot of lows this year in my own life and the GUILT of celebrating or realizing you had some good stuff when everyone else around you is suffering is immense. And also the fear of holding a good thing close to your heart and labeling it as a win when there is a real fear of losing that thing is also very overwhelming. I have felt numb to the good stuff that has happened to me and everything bad is debilitating but I see it even worse in parents. I hope you continue to carry on Jen and I hope you and your kids and Don find the routine that suits all of you the best. You can do this!
Hey Jen! My sister eats plant based diet and I’m trying to get their but not there yet. She eats quinoa every day for protein and almond milk too. Have you tried ElmHurst brand almond milk? It has only almonds and water in it. I use to love Califia brand but it has added ingredients in it. 💜💜
I have been watching you for a really long time. (Middle School- now, Law School). We both have grown up. I am so happy you have found joy and peace in this time even though it's really hard to not see your kids as much. Never stop uploading! Sending you love
My babies are 17 (her birthday was 9/17 🙂)and 20. I was home with them in the spring. We live in Louisiana and we have been affected by Hurricane Laura. I am back home now but they are with their dad (for the first time ever, for this length of time) and I have been feeling sorry for myself and sad that they are not with me. But after watching you today, I realize how grateful I am for having been able to spend that time with them in the spring and I am glad they able to finally spend time with their dad.
Your videos make me want to be productive even when I feel it’s hardest to do so. This is embarrassing to admit but it’s been 2 months since I cleaned my room and watching the montage in the beginning helped me get out of bed and get started on it. Thank you Jen 😊
Jen, I mean my comments in the nicest way. You are a very intelligent, caring woman who is going through a lot but IMO there are people who get tired of you referring to your "privilege". We know you lived in a very expensive house and moved into a very expensive house and have a lot of things. Your children are adapting because they are young and kids bounce back from a divorce better than the people getting the divorce. They need to spend time with both parents on a more equal basis. Moms and Dads do things differently and the kids benefit from both parenting styles. You are on the same page for the important stuff but the little things are just that--little things. So it's good they are back in school with other kids and adults in a safe environment. You need to get out of fixing up your house to perfection and volunteer or get a part time job somewhere. You will feel better about life outside your bubble. Your kids will benefit from mommy being in the outside world. You are in a very set routine that's evidently very comfortable and you need to push yourself out of that comfort zone. Join a support group, volunteer, get involved with people. It will open up your world. You have lots of living to do and while your kids are number 1, they will do just fine. Please take these comments in the spirit they are given.
Great video Jen.
It’s all a process. In 6 months, you will be in a new frame of mind. Life is one big tweak.
Yes! Hair grows more in the summer due to vitamin D’s affect on thyroid hormones😃 easier to loose weight, help steroid/sex hormones, get calcium into bones and grow hair! I love summertime
It seems like 50/50 is becoming more popular. It makes sense saying what you did about being settled in.
Oh Jen you are such a beautiful person. It must be so hard being away from your children. My husband only sees my stepdaughter EOW and its hard on him, my 2yr cries every time his sister goes back to her mom and its so heartbreaking. But the most important thing is the quality time spent with them. I'm so excited for the next chapter in your life. It's so good to see how far you've come finding yourself. Ive watched your channel since 2014? And you helped me get through my divorce at the time, your personality and soothing voice. I wish you nothing but the best 💗
It wasn't good for my niece and twin nephews to go 50/50. The boys started school and had a really hard time in school. It's better for them to do 3 weekends a month for them with their dad. They know they're going to their home and sleeping in their own bed. (they sleep on the couch or floor at their dad's) Weekends at their dad's is fun time for them.
My husband has my step daughter 3 weekends a month also. Well, Friday after school until Monday before school every weekend besides the 2nd weekend of the month. It’s always been that way and sometimes 50/50 is tough for kids with school
Oh also . I always hurt my back with floor Pilates , yoga no but I find working with a Pilates reformer works much better with a Pilates trained professional
When I was a couple years out from my divorce, I used to frequently listen to the song "Bruises" by Train--it really fit what you were talking about re: everybody having wounds and we're all struggling in some ways in this life together. 💗
Sounds like you need to grab one or two of your closest girlfriends and take a girls' trip while the kids are with Don sometime soon!
I would be scared in the US, but not here in Norway. But kiddos usually never get Covid, so I think they are safe! The thing I would be afraid of is them taking it home and giving it to people who cant take it, like grand partners.
It’s no different here in the US. She lives in a Democrat state where they are going overboard with restrictions. Kiddos have been back in school full time in my state for over a month and all is well...WITHOUT the kids wearing masks during classes.
@@LMPM0909 this is 1000% true. Being in New York and having a sister live in Florida I'm seeing the difference first hand. Democratic states absolutely refuse to give power to the people back.
Brooke Oh I am so sorry 😫 There are fools demanding our Governor further restrict the population and mandate masks. It’s insane! There is no way someone struggling to make ends meet would want more lockdown. THAT is privilege.
@@LMPM0909 thank you and I completely agree it's absolute privelage to lock down everything . it's very hard to deal with. NYC is dead, I don't think people realize how badly the mayor and governor killed our state. Cuomo has the blood on his hands of thousands of nursing home victims and people still are at his feet begging for more rights to be taken away over and over again. It's completely insane. I hope you and your family stay safe and avoid any democratic run cities like the plague they are!
That was an awesome beginning of the video! :D
PS you look really good. :D This truly makes my heart happy to see! It really weighed on me when you were going through everything. I know we don't know each other - but I really felt it.
Looking back 30 years ago I watched my kids leave Christmas Eve with their dad it was hard to let go. I’ll always remember
What does “throwing your back out” actually mean? I’ve never understood that phrase
Love breakfast mom, you rock!
About dating. Dont feel like you need to get out there if Don is out there and dating. Men often jump out in the fish pond sooner than we women do. Might not mean they are done grieving what's not there anymore, I guess its something that just makes them focus on something else?
I know what you mean, the pandemic is bloody awful but I’ve been incredibly grateful for the time I’ve been able to spend with my family. It’s been quietly wonderful to have my husband home and have focussed time just us. My son is loving being at school and I hope he can continue to go in the coming weeks. There have to be positives found in the worst times and time together as a family has definitely been one of them x
Jen, it is an absolute joy to see how much happier you seem to be. I'm really looking forward to seeing what's next for you - it reminds me of the Organised Like Jen days. I remember, many moons ago, the first video of yours I watched was a handbag collection and organisation video. You've come so far, and it's been a pleasure to come along on the journey with you. Here's to love, patience and resilience.. and amazing future content! 😊❤️🌻
I divorced in 97 or was it 96....well never mind.😅 my point is my kids spent one week with me and then one week with their dad. And in Norway that is kind of normal. It was soooooo HAAAARD in the beginning....but you get used to it.
Stay strong Jen 🥰 you ARE strong. Days can be very hard to get true....but as long as you face it and work at it ....it will be ok. It has taken me YEARS to get to the point where I actually understood that it was OK to have bad days. It will be alright!!! 💖💕
Yes! I have been working from home since March and I'm thankful for it because I don't miss 9 hours of my 2 year olds day
It is hard to navigate through divorce even if it is an amicable one. There will be hard times ahead with separate holidays, birthdays etc. Then there's the guilt that will come along with second guessing your decisions. It's all growth, but it's hard, and it hurts sometimes, and it helps to talk about it. When your kids are with their dad, try to get together with people you love and trust.
I feel exactly the same, these 6 months have been a beautiful present for me as a mom...
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I know how stressful this time has been for everyone, but to be able to look at it in positive way is so important. Your children won't rememberthe pandemic but you will always be able to remind them that it was a blessing to have them close. They will always have this time in their hearts.
At a later time in My life ,I added iron tablets to my diet and noticed less cramping during that time of the month. You are looking great. Enjoy your time while the kidz are in school...M♡M of 5
I am not going to tell you how to date... After two marriages and two sons who are grownups now, I have no idea how we do that... :-) But you are still young and you still have the time to figure it out.
Sharing the kids: such a tough thing, I know. When they definitely leave: even worst. Just if I may, I would recommend that you keep your kids out of the “date mix” unless it is a sure and serious affair...
Regarding the whole present situation in USA, unfortunately I see a lot of troubles in other countries as well, things happen for a reason. Probably the best we can do, is to learn a lesson from what is happening and appreciating whatever we have.
Do you have to take medicines for the hair problem? I’m interested for myself, I had the same problem a few months ago.
Cant wait to see the office done jen I am so excited to see that.
You and me both!
Exercise is also a mood booster. My thing is swinging kettlebells but I've never been injured doing them. I have exercise induced breathing problems so I cannot do them for very long. I also dream, journal, read, play video games. All kids are elearning (structured like school but done at home via live conferences), virtual schooling (done at own pace but with a program I'm not familiar with), or homeschooling (doing everything yourself) in our area. Our internet was out the first week of school but they have the completed live conferences up but since he didn't participate in the initial live conferences so not sure how they can tell they can tell that he did the work. We have an IEP meeting on the 30th of this month so I can ask his teachers about that. His classes are usually small with only four other boys in his class. About a month ago our internet company dug up the buried lines and it's been messing up every since then. You can't fill others if you're running on empty. I have phobias from past experiences. Someone strangled me for joking with them which made keep to myself until I can ascertain the person won't harm me and since I lost Lee's and my younger son Thomas to SIDS nine years ago haven't really been interested in getting close to anyone else. I nearly drowned once so now I don't like my head being submerged underneath water. I've broken three toes in a fall so I'm more cautious with where I'm stepping. I'm not sure. I'm still with Lee and our relationship is my first and only serious romantic relationship. I tend to find mine in everyday life when I'm not looking but not opposed to the idea. I met my first love Justin (I thought he was the One and I still love him today even though he is no longer an option; still thankful to him for changing my daily nightmares into sweet dreams but now that inspiration is slowly dying) in school but we're were both too nervous to confess to each other and for some reason he though I was in a relationship with someone else before I actually was. About 3 months after I found out Justin was marrying someone else I met Lee at work. November 1st will be our 13th anniversary. I'm introvert to but get very little alone time since Daniel is home most of the time. My mother and sister have lines of men that ask them out daily so theirs is also in person. My sister also tends to get 600 new friend requests per day on social media. The friend of a friend or people you may know thing really sucks for her. Most people are rude to her. Ninety-eight percent of men will hit on her and ninety-eight percent of women are jealous of her (they view her as a threat although she isn't one; Sis is extremely picky about what kind of guy she likes and she's not willing to compromise). My sister's husband got a job at a school in a nearby town so she's moving back to this area. I hope she's okay. She didn't want to come back here.