There is NOTHING wrong with having a privileged life - call it a blessed life. You are greatly blessed and continue to share with your subscribers because you have good intentions. Your blessings come from God, don't hide, shine, shine, shine!!! You are AWESOME.
I completely agree. I say stand proud in your life no matter how it looks financially. However, I am not a huge fan of the word "blessed". I feel like it demeans others who are just as good of people, but are struggling. Why would someone be blessed, but not another? I love the sentiment, but I feel like our culture needs to look at that word and call it out for what it is really referencing. :)
@@conscioushomestead blessings come in all shapes and forms. The blessings I have may not be ones in your life; but they’re our own blessings as it doesn’t take away from anyone.
@@chaank1069 You're missing the point. Yes, everyone has things that are good about their lives. For anyone to say "blessed" it makes someone else feel less than "blessed". Can't you see that if a woman were to say, "I am so blessed to have 3 healthy children", it would make a woman who can't have children and who is devout to the Lord would feel horrible and out of favor with the Lord? Why say blessed? It's silly and demeaning to others. We need to take a look at this word. It's meant to be good, but deeply, it's not.
If I may offer some completely unsolicited advice: you are clearly a good human being. You're just a good person and it shows. I feel like you are one of the few people who really, truly just shouldn't waste your time, energy or feelings, trying to make sure you say the perfect thing all the time. Just say say what you want to say and I promise the people who matter will always take it the way you meant it - one of my favorite quotes is "those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter."
the vagabond tribune I totally agree. If I knew Glen in person I would tell her to stop feeling the need to explain yourself. You are a good person and no need to ever sensor yourself for the few haters.
It is easier said than done on social media. The cancel culture is real. People take a molehill and make it a mountain just because they can. My sister is a pretty big influencer and she worries about this a lot and she is a phenomenal human being. In real life, it's easier because you can't hate people as easily to their faces and you can talk stuff out right away. Just giving you some perspective.
Jen, this might be my favorite video of yours. Being honest is waaaaaaaay more interesting and relatable then fake stuff. I think we all feel terrible right now! Life is crazy and stressful! It’s refreshing to hear your life isn’t perfect
"Super Privileged Life" basically just means that your bills are paid without having to worry about HOW you're going to pay them, whatever those bills happen to be. Honestly... that's what it boils down to. That does not mean that you are a robot with no emotion or feeling- you've been through a hell of a lot recently. I find that during times of crisis I can usually "plug along" pretty well, but when the crisis is over, that's when I tend to have my "feelings". You haven't really had a lot of time for things to settle in- first the trauma of, "Yes, I guess a divorce is best" doesn't mean it's what you wanted. Then, the big move, and let's face it- even though it's fun to buy a new house and "pick out all the pretties", the reason for the move wasn't fun by any means, and buying a house is always stressful. You did quite a bit of it yourself... you didn't just write a check and go spend a week in a hotel while someone else did all the packing and moving. In the middle of the divorce and the move, you decided to do a purge- and that means going through memories- memories that you may not have been ready to deal with right then. Then you had to get the new house set up, and the kids settled, all in the middle of a pandemic! It's absolutely no surprise that you're "feeling some feelings" right now- now that all of the distractions have settled a little, you finally have a minute to breathe, just in time for the holiday craziness 😉. Be gentle with yourself, do what you need to do, and don't worry about what everyone else thinks. As far as the social media pressure goes, I've always called it "Facebook Fabulous"--- We can't judge our lives against someone else's Facebook posts because most people don't post when the crap hits the proverbial fan, they post when things are going great. Instagram wasn't meant to be a place to be honest, It's a place to load up a dozen or so filters and show everyone how perfect your life is- Even though at least 50% of the time it's a complete crock 😅. I'm 56, and I hate social media. There, I said it... Don't come for me. I like Facebook because I get to keep up with what my kids and grandkids are doing but other than that I think all of it is tearing apart an entire generation. I love UA-cam because there isn't anything I can't teach myself to do now; Need to rebuild the carburetor in your lawn mower? UA-cam! How do I take the front seat out of my car? UA-cam! It's great entertainment, but that's all it should be... Entertainment.
I don’t know you, but I want you as a friend! We are of the same generation and I so needed your kind of logic and understanding all my life! I hope Jennifer reads your comment and really pays attention to why you are telling her. 🥰
Very well said, though I left Facebook years ago for their contribution to the political misinformation. Thank goodness for FaceTime! That’s how we connect with kids and grandkids.
I hate that people’s unkind comments make you feel like you have to apologize or backtrack or explain yourself. Your past life was what it was. Your current life is what it is. If only we could meet people where they are and offer love and support - nothing else. Maybe one day. Sending good thoughts to you.
This video kind of kills me because I feel like Jen has become the most sincere version of herself in the last year and I've been loving the content. I hate the idea that the world is making her feel like she's not welcome to share herself.
Can we just start off by saying 10 years is a long time to have a job on social media. I love your channel and can’t imagine the hours that go into editing and putting up videos so congratulations for doing so well! Thanks for being real. We all need to have grace for ourselves and for one another. Also no way do we know what someone else suffers. What might break someone is not huge to someone else. So we can’t compare. I agree with you. Love you and stay strong!
If this question is not ok, please ignore it. I’ve wondered if your situation with Don surfaced before or after you read Untamed. After reading it, I can see how it would influence those kinds of changes in a couples relationship.
I would love to see a video on your disordered eating at some point in life whenever your comfortable. It is something I struggle with a lot and have since I was a teenager. I feel like it’s not talked about a ton as an adult anymore and mainly just talked about as a teenager or younger years. With that being said I hope you can find some peace and balance soon.
I hope you feel better💜 breaks my heart to see you having a hard time. I don’t normally comment but felt compelled today. I’ve been following you for years and years and have always enjoyed your videos. Just know you are a beautiful person with a beautiful soul💜
You are grieving not only the loss of a very long relationship and marriage but also the loss of who you were as part of that dynamic. As we grow in life, it is not a straight line but rather a jagged zig-zaw of constantly taking a few steps back and several steps forward. Sometimes we shoot off in somewhat a straight line of pure progress, but these times are rare, and usually follow a much longer period of struggle. You are doing so well for yourself and for your family. I am so happy for you and can't wait to see you continue to grow!
I understand. Take whatever time you need. My husband passed away suddenly in March. For the most part I am ok. However it the shift in my life that I am having the hardest time processing. Knowing that the holidays are approach ing makes it even harder. I had 39 years with a wonderful man and I will always be thankful for that. Hang in there.
My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of your husband. October 28 marks the 10 year anniversary of my husband’s very sudden death, he died at age 51 and left me to care for two teenagers. Was the most difficult thing I have ever faced. I still miss him so much but time has allowed me some relief. I know you have probably heard it a zillion times since March, but time will help you heal. If I can make a suggestion - consider doing something different over the holidays - the “firsts” are so difficult without our loved ones. We used those “firsts” as a way to start new traditions until we were able to revisit the old ones less painfully. Even though we don’t know one another, I have found Jen’s subscribers tend to be caring, wonderful people. I will keep you in my thoughts .
Both of your thoughtful, caring comments give me hope for the way people can interact positively with each other via social media! Thank you for sharing and for supporting others. My thoughts are with you both in the upcoming holidays! 💕🤗
Sending you a big virtual hug! I lost my husband 6 years ago and I still miss him terribly. We were together for 35 years. Doing this pandemic alone has been very sobering
I’ve looked up to you for years, Jen. Probably close to 10 years. You are truly a special person and I will only ever support and wish the best for you and your family. I don’t think there is a single wrong thing with taking time apart and just grieving. Loving. Thinking deeply. Self reflection and all those good words that help us out on our life journey. Not many get married thinking that divorce will be in their future. And let’s be real, that is SUCH a powerful grief process to go through. There is no magic potion or no set time in which we move on and find peace. I’ve learned that every few months, I find myself breaking down and needed a good week to reflect and be a better person. Life is hard stuff! Hugs from Michigan.
Hi Jen!😃 I once heard someone say, “If you live for the applause of people, you will die to their silence.” You have been my “friend” since I subscribed to your channel (OLJ) back in 2012. You are a blessing and I appreciate your TRUTH. You have helped me more than you’ll ever know. Thank you for being you. Take care ❤️
I can tell you’re a kind, caring, and intelligent person, and I feel like that’s becoming more rare these days. It’s nice to watch content from folks like you ❤️
I believe you are in the process of grieving, as much as you have, there has been a lot of loss. And I am sure it cuts deep. Part of what you where talking about was talking to other people going thru similar experience is important. Surround yourself with support and remember when you get right down to it I’m just a stranger at a computer
I don't mean this to be critical at all, but your large gaps of empty time/alone time are hurting you more than helping you most likely. It's a lot of time to hash and re-hash and self analyze.
Bravo Jen! I applaud your openness, honesty and vulnerability. We have enough people already on social media who present "perfect lives." Maybe some like that; I like people who are REAL. Thank you for sharing both the ups and the downs.
I honestly believe that for many people, part of the appeal of your videos (in the beginning) was the fact that you had a "privileged" lifestyle. You were able to do all of the things that ladies like me dream of. Having a beautiful home that you could decorate and organize, throwing wonderful parties, buying premium skincare and beauty products...and the traveling!! So much fun! I am so happy you shared your life with us, and so sorry for what you are going through. It makes me so sad that you feel the need to apologize, qualify, or explain anything about the life you are blessed with. I cannot help but feel that the comments that have driven you to do that are from envious, petty people who simply can't let others enjoy what they have been given. You seem to be a genuinely good person who has been, and continues to be, real about your circumstances. I appreciate that.
I wish I could give you 10,000 likes! I’m loving the content and I hope you do continue to show and share your home and part of your life. Virtual hugs ❤️
I often find myself apologizing for complaining about my problems that are perceived as petty by others, but it doesn’t change the fact that they are mine and I am allowed to feel upset or stressed about them. It’s okay to feel blessed and down at the same time. Take care.
Take a break from social media as long as you need to. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your children. They need the best mom you can be. You're healing and that takes time. Blessings. 🙏
I adore you, I have been watching your videos for years. I wish you nothing but the best of health and happiness. I hope you get the time and healing you need.
Jen you say that social media is “what you do for a living” but when things get tough you always “take a step back.” Have you ever thought maybe instead of always being gentle on yourself you need to be tough on yourself. Maybe you need to push yourself so you can recognize how strong you really are. I’m sure I’m going to get attacked for this comment but I genuinely mean no malice.
In reality we can not “step back” / “take time out” when things get overwhelming at our jobs.😩 Are we stronger for it? I do not know... I do hope so though...as we have no choice
@@cecectconnecticut344 but does she have to? If you cannot enjoy the videos, don't watch. But don't expect her to be the person you, for some reason, expect her to be. That is just unrealistic and selfish.
I never comment here, but I believe you may need some nice words right now. I'm brazillian and I looooved the videos with the house decoration and all (I looove Christmas and Halloween, but we don't get the same decorations as in US. Too expensive when we do too). I started watching because of them, the huge house, the "american dream" feeling lol. I kind of lived vicariously through them because it's sooo far from the normal houses we have here in Brazil. Being completely honest, I stopped watching a couple years ago because I felt sooo jealous of you, your "perfect" marriage, perfect kids, etc, as this is my biggest dream and I can't seem to make it happen at the age of 36 (still hoping!). I know we're supposed to be happy with other people's happiness and I am, but the videos also made me feel bad about my own life, as I am far from getting those things myself. I started watching again this year, when you got divorced and I realized everyone has problems in their lives, media influencers or 36 single women from Brazil, lol. I'm not saying I'm happy with how things went for you, I'm just saying that I felt more connected after seeing how honest you were. I guess what is happening right now is that people are really miserable all around the world and are lashing out on the internet, where they feel invincible. The anonymity allows people to be really mean and cruel and I can see it in Brazil, US, Europe, etc. There's a word in german (schadenfreude) that means exactly that, the happiness you feel with other people's downfalls. People are becoming more insensitive, more rigid, more unforgiving of other people's mistakes. We are losing the notion that everyone is just trying to be happy here. In summary, I believe there's nothing wrong with you or your videos, people just really wanna hate right now and you are vulnerable. When so many people are losing jobs, relationships are being ruined, people are getting sick, your life looks like all they wish they had, but can't. So now that they are seeing your weak spots, they're "going for the throat" to make them feel better about their own problems. Also there's not need to apologize because you have problems. Yes, you are privileged, but we all are in some way. It's not fair that you would have to pretend to be happy when you're not. Life can suck even for billionaires, there's nothing wrong with it, that's what makes us human! I don't know if you will read this as it's so long, but I just wanted to let you know that there's someone here in Brazil wishing you good things. Whatever it is that is making you feel so bad now, it will pass. Haters gonna hate, just let them hate. Be happy and remember that all the hate is not about you, it's just a mirror to their own problems. Sorry again for the lenght and some errors, English is my second language. Wishing us all a better 2021!
You're a lovely person and your feelings are valid regardless of how privileged or otherwise your life may be. Take time for self care, be gentle with yourself and reach out for support when you feel you need it. I love your real talk just as much as your organisation or lifestyle videos because it's all just you being you 🙂 Hugs Mrs, you're an absolute gem x
Jen, Your honest content is more important now than ever. Our homes give us comfort and stuff needs to be organized and we need your inspiration and support to do that.
When I went through my divorce, what hit me the hardest was the loss of my 10 brothers and sisters..my in-laws. My ex came from a large family. I was closer to them than my own family, I fit in with them more than my own family. We were together every weekend celebrating something. Walking away from a mentally abusive husband was the easy part, loosing the rest of the family was difficult.
Please continue to do any and all organizing videos that bring you joy. My favorite videos are the ones where you are really excited about the project you’re working on. I like to see you accomplish your goals!
You are definitely still grieving the big changes you have been through, so be gentle on yourself. It's not an easy time for anyone, and to add a divorce and a move into the mix (plus, I'm sure, other things your viewers don't know about) is significant. Take care and big hugs to you!
I’ve been having such a difficult year and this video makes me feel a little less like the only one suffering. Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable! You are the best
I'm sending you love, light and hugs. You're my absolute favorite person/youtuber. I hate the way the world is right now. I avoid a ton of negativity as much as possible and some say that's childish but my spirit can't handle it. I try to make people smile and I try to build everyone up because we have enough resentment nowadays.
I always love your videos. It is rare that you find such genuine honesty. 2020 has been a struggle for me as well. I also do not take care of myself. Your lack of cardio really resonated with me. Today was my first day of 20 mins of walking. We can do this.
I have been watching your videos from day one and I feel so protective over you. I think sometimes you are misunderstood by people who negatively interpret you and your content. From the parts of your life you share you seem to be an extremely caring, generous, self aware and gracious person. It makes me sad to see you constantly apologizing! You are doing amazing and I think everyone who truly supports you is very proud of how you have handled everything you've been navigating. Wishing you all the best and take all the time you need!
Please ignore the thumbs down and negative comments. You are a very special lady full of love. I too suffer from anxiety and depression and I understand where you are at right now. Pamper yourself during your week off, you deserve it. Much love and prayers to you.
Jen, I am so sorry people have led you to feel like you have to justify your feelings. Thank you for sharing so openly. Honestly, anytime I see your videos pop up in my subscription box, I get excited and watch all of them, regardless of topic/video structure. Thank you for sharing your life! It is greatly appreciated.
Jen, you are humble and your heart is full of love for people and animals. People wishing you financial struggles to relate are nuts. I wish every woman and single mom out there a priviledged life.
When I watch your older videos, I miss that life...which looked like a “super in love” husband...family parties...a big house with lots of help...decorations for holidays....no corporate job/manager to stress about....”me time” (I didn’t even know such a concept) ....vacations...first class flights to Europe with your husband... NOW Imagine this “missing feeling” is coming from a loyal viewer. So I cannot even imagine “the grieving” you go through. Money brings freedom; not automatically happiness. You are allowed to feel down...This looks very normal. Keep your chin up. Maybe you can get help from a professional.
As someone who has been through the grief of divorce, the best thing I can say is take steps towards doing things for the joy of doing them. You are a creative person, perhaps going outside of your comfort zone, and discovering something new will help rebuild your confidence. I think you should consider the fun and creative joy of writing a children's book. The worlds problems are not for you to shoulder alone. We will get through this together. The best thing you can do is focus on creating fun and true joy in your life. It will help you heal and help you show up authentically. You don't have to try so hard. Take time to get out of your head and try something new. This advice is not meant as a judgment, we are all doing our best.
Thank you for sharing! I started watching your channel at least 8 years ago (where does the time go?!), and I don't think that I've missed a single one since then! I love that you share the real stuff, so keep it up! Best wishes! 🤗
I know you have a lot more subscribers on your channel than me, but it helped me so much to hide the thumbs up and downs. I can see them, but everyone else can't. Because let's be honest, people can be cruel. They are going to hit that thumbs down button just because they can. It may have zero to do with the video content at all. I also have to approve every comment that comes across. Yes, it takes a lot of time, but it is worth it to me to keep my community positive. And, you know what, it's my space. If I don't like what you posted, I don't have to share it. People can go somewhere else to spread their hate. Big hugs, friend. You are going through a rough patch, but you will make it. This video was honest and raw, and I think that is what your audience has been waiting to see. ;)
I’ve watched your videos off and on for years -and so obviously always appreciated things about you and your content. But I’ve really enjoyed following your motherhood content, and even more so the last year...because I feel like I can relate more. I have been touched -and awe-struck even- by your personal awareness, and how openly you share your vulnerabilities in order to make a connection to others. It has made a difference to me: in feeling like I’m not alone in a feeling, in inspiring me to do something, in making me self-reflect. I never comment on video but I wanted to here because you said you keep getting negative comments. So thank you!! And big virtual hug!
I've been watching you since the beginning (I was 17 then, I'm 25 now!) and this is one of my favorite videos you posted. I am not doing well mentally at all, and I look around at people who seem to be carrying on as if nothing is wrong in the world. It felt good to see someone being open and honest. thank you
It was always a joy for me to see you living your life as a well off woman taking care of her home. It would give me ideas and information about how the other half lived. I would learn about stores and brands that I was not aware of. Concepts and a point of view different from my own experience drew me in. I don’t think you need to apologize for your status. Just keep putting out content you enjoy and all will be fine. Feel better soon.
Thank you for sharing so honestly Jen! It's part of the reason why I follow you and admire you. Sometimes I am told I share too much, or I "feel" too much but for me, it's how I can connect with other people. Everyone is human and we all have things going on in our lives. I wish more people would share more openly because it we would help us realize how similar we all are more than we are different. I agree about the social media break. I have been off FB and Instagram now for several months and it has been fantastic. It has helped my anxiety a ton. I wish you the best! Hugs!
Yes, economic privilege is just one type. While it can certainly help, having that privelege doesn't make you immune to all of life's problems. I wish people had more empathy.
Thank you for always being you! I love your channel and how human you are :) people are just humans with human problems and its nice to have a community to help each other in every emotion!
It’s hard. I got sole custody of my daughter when she was a baby and I took her and we moved in with my parents. I couldn’t do it on my own with a full time corporate job. I had to do what worked. My baby is now 14!
I always love how raw and honest you are. Your presence online always makes me very happy, but I also understand the need to take some time off and recharge. Side note, I’m still on the organizing train so I would happily watch anything in that field
One of the many reasons I so admire and love your watching your channel is how genuine, open and balanced about reality your content is. Thank you so much for putting yourself out there for all of us and I’m sending so much love your way. I really appreciate your candour, kindness and warm honesty and really hope some of the pressure this career brings to you eases soon ♥️
We are- here, we are happy to be here, and we want to be here, to support you! So while I don’t normally, and will be better at it, I’m gladly hitting that thumbs up button! ❤️
Jen, I have loved you and your videos for the past 9 years. every stage you have gone through, I have been here given you and your family virtual prayers and support. I will continue to do that. who cares what anyone else thinks or says. YOU ARE A STRONG, INDEPENDENT WONDERFUL MOM AND WOMAN. Love coming to you from Texas!
My selfish me, I don’t want you to take a break, but my compassionate self understands and wants you to take care of your mental health. We are all having a hard time and you have the extra stress with your life change. So do what you need to do. BTW, I loved your video and adding the pull out drawers for your pantry. I have them on order for my cabinets! Thanks for that! Love you Jen and wish you well. Jackie from Indiana
That was fantastic. Please don't let the thumbs down stop you from sharing. I so look forward to your videos. I get tired of putting on a happy face. You are a person I feel like I could be real with. You rock Jennifer!
I wish you nothing but the best, Jen. You are a sweetheart! ❤️ I’ve recommended volunteering at an animal shelter to you many times. I know you love animals! I volunteer once a week with the cats, and it keeps me centered. Love you
LOVE IT! You had me at “a haul of completely unnecessary items”!!! I think we all can relate to the trap of picking up all the fun seasonal items at one time or another 🖐🏻 I love your raw honesty Jen. And whilst on the topic of raw, let me say this, I see you. I hear you. I relate to you in many ways and on many levels. I’m not sure if I saw this quote in your IG feed or somewhere else, but it bears repeating over and over. “I am accountable for what I say. You are accountable for how you receive it”. You are a beautiful soul Jen, who exudes grace and compassion. As for the negativity coming at you, a break may be just what would serve YOU. Take that time for you! You do you, and we will be here when you return. As always, love from 🇨🇦 🍁
Ty for your honesty and for being so relatable. There seems to be a lot of negative comments on other channels as well and I just don’t get why people can’t just be kind xx
Jen, even though I am old enough to be your mom, I commend you from my heart. I went through a divorce over 40 years ago. It was a devastating time. It took me over 10 years to fully talk about it to others. Please know that you speaking out about your true emotions helps those that cannot find the words or emotions. After GROW-ING through my experience, many told me I could have helped others who also went through the same difficulties, if I would have shared my journey. Social media is both a blessing and a curse for many reasons. Even though my broken heart was so long ago, it has been a long healing journey, and one that I wouldn’t trade. Listen to yourself and be well. Know that through your wisdom, pain, and your outlook on life as a person, mother, friend, is extremely invaluable to so so many . . . Young and Old.
I love sassy jen. I think we can all relate to emotional food purchases we may or may not eat! I personally love the organisation stuff but understand how the feedback must be difficult. Do what is right for you and your family and know we will be waiting when you are ready to come back xxx
Hello Jennifer, you are truly an inspiration to me. All I know about organizing has been from watching videos on your channel for past 10 yrs. Thank you for creating such amazing content. I wish you all the success, happiness and Joy in Life :)
I always found my job as a teacher to be a real solace to me in tough times. I am a super introvert, yet those kids gave me life. I say this to you because perhaps working as a substitute, or any service work, would help you as well as the kids. Just a thought from a fellow anxious introvert! Introverts get in their heads a lot, and that can be hard. I feel you!
Please listen to me Jen and everyone else that understands what this video is fully about. We are all in hard times and getting off of all social medias minus the occasional motivational UA-cam video has been the best thing I could’ve ever personally done for myself. It’s been a year of me cutting all socials and it’s been wonderful. It was a challenge the first few months but stayed strong and it feels like my life is way more balanced. I have time for my family and for myself much more than I did. When normal obstacles come my way, there’s no distractions from socials and I can fully take care and process the situation. I know that UA-cam is your job and I never ever want you to leave us but maybe considering creating boundaries on other socials or leaving them completely would take out some unneeded noise away. It has for me❤️ Thanks for sharing, Jen. We’re all tackling something at the moment and your transparency reminds us we’re all in this together.
Sending love from another mother in Sweden ❤️ I have been a subscriber since 2012 and I feel like I just wanna give you a hug. You are like a friend to me, how stupid as that sounds, and I really care for you. I’ve heard a lot of my fav content creator having a tough time with trolls and mean comments on their channels. I think it just represents the state of the world, not you personally ❤️
Jen, thank you very much for sharing your vulnerable side! Unfortunately in life there will be those who choose to reflect their unhappiness onto others for no good reason. Personally, it will never make sense to me! You are so kind and brave in sharing your life with all of us, the good parts and not so good parts, and that takes a lot of trust. Trust that for all of the thumbs down, there are many more thumbs up that are supporting you and cheering you on!!! Also, love the baking supply organization!!! ♥️
I honestly think people ask the personal question like if you’re getting back together for several reasons. They might want elaboration on the why . I have a friend who’s confused about her feelings and started thinking about divorce this year after hearing that her cousin was seeking one. Validation I guess. Some people may genuinely be scared that it could happen to them and wonder if there is a way to avoid divorcing. Other people like myself still watch the old videos of love, and family holidays and feel pain, I know it’s weird because it’s not our life. In my case I am definitely a romantic and I lost my husband to illness when he was only 46. Anyway I love all your videos and all your sharing. Thank you.
My kids are old now but when they were little every now and then I would have a "me" day, self care wasn't a "thing" but I knew that I needed it and in the end I was happier. Take care of you so you can take care of your little ones. Don't beat yourself up. Take care!!!
Divorce is a death. A death of what you felt was supposed to be your life. And you go thru the grieving process the same way. There are five processes which escape my mind at the moment. Don’t skip them and as hard as it is, embrace it so you can heal properly. That’s my two cents from having gone through a divorce.
I am skin picker, so I understand what stress leads to picking. Physical scars will heal, emotionally it takes time. Give yourself room to breath. I am an introvert, so I cherish my family and friends. Enjoy your blessed life, raise those sweet babies! God Bless You.
Since having my two children (about a year older than yours), I have been saying that the introverted mother is not talked about enough. It’s hard. It’s a lot. We’re with you (alone, from a distance 😉).
I’ve been watching your channel for some years now and I feel like you’ve come more into who you are and are every time more genuine. I feel like we get to watch your emotional growth almost and I appreciate your vulnerability to give us that. I’m so happy you are part of this platform and honestly I love your videos so thank you for them. Thank you for your content, creativity and honesty in every thing you do. That’s why I keep coming back. I don’t know what a UA-cam life is but I’ve heard it’s not easy so bless you for 10 years! Big milestone! Take the time for yourself. We all need more than ever. At this time I actually feel very similar to some things you said so this came on time for me what you shared and reminded me to keep listening to my inner self and do what’s best for me as well. Love and good vibes your way
Just donate the junk food you bought. Lots of families are in need these days and are on a tight food budget. It's a real luxury to buy junk food, and if you don't want it, give it away. Doing something for others also really helps keep your spirits up rather than focusing your energy inward all the time.
Jen you are one more time amazing. To be able and willing to open up and share your true self for the benefit of possibly helping someone else. As you so well put it and to just reiterate that status, privilege or money does not affect your lack of having “feelings” or emotional ups and downs. You are so kind and caring toward others. Please give yourself some of that. You are as deserving of that as others also are. As you said if we don’t take care of ourselves we are not able to care for others. May you have many blessings on you and your family.
If you consider this your job and how you make a living, then you need to treat it like a real job, and listen to feedback from your “customers.” Actually plan out your content, have a purpose to your content instead of just using your platform to vent your personal issues. You can still live your life and have all the feelings but it doesn’t need to dominate your content. If your viewers aren’t enjoying your content, and this is how you make your living, you need to adjust your content to improve your ratings and viewing 🤷♀️.
Lexie Fletcher of course she can share whatever she wants. But if her viewers aren’t enjoying her content she needs to either adjust it or be ok with the negative feedback and lower ratings, and take it in stride. She can’t have it both ways.
Jen, I have been a subscriber for 9 years and when I found you, you were in a happy marriage and a huge, beautiful house. As a (then) newly divorced mother of two very young children, living in a tiny flat and working full-time, my situation was so different to yours but I watched you because I love your personality and your organisation ideas. And now here you are in your new stage of life. All I can say is that everything will sort itself out given time. You will get to know yourself and by exploring and processing dark and sad feelings, grief and so on, you will become a stronger and more resilient person. My stress, fatigue and physical exertion resulted in health issues including Fibromyalgia and surgical menopause brought on by my recent hysterectomy. I can’t exercise the way I used to, which is difficult it because that’s how I used to manage stress. On the upside, my Faith is stronger and I appreciate the little things more than ever. My ex-husband is in a new relationship and we co-parent to the best of our ability. I have really good and bad days. Today is a bad day because I have a kidney infection but on the positive side I get to watch a few videos and lie down with my sweet chihuahua puppy. Sending you love and prayers 💙🇦🇺 from Australia. And please do budgeting videos! That would be awesome.
Great video. I love your honesty and vulnerability. You are so right. Being human is wonderful but also hard no matter who we are. I loved the baking cupboard video too!
Take time out to re balance. If you had a 9-5 job you would take a holiday so do it guilt free and don’t restrict yourself to one week if you need more. Virtual hugs 🤗 x x
I think everything has caught up with you, sometimes we just push it aside. You’ve been though a lot, sometimes you don’t feel it straight away. I could see in your videos that you weren’t yourself. I can only imagine what it’s like to have an online presence and to be criticised. You opening up helps us open up in our lives. Please take time for yourself. Lots of love xx
Girl. I wish I could go through the screen and give you a big hug. Everything you take is absolutely normal. As for the thumbs down stuff, those people are totally ridiculous. You are amazing. I've followed you for the better part of a decade now and I think you are an amazing woman who I wish I could be friends with in person. Keep your head up and keep chugging along!!!
Thank you for being real. Seriously, it's so refreshing. Also, I am also feeling really overwhelmed by everything at the moment. I'm always the one who holds it all together but right now I'm feeling like I'm starting to crack under the pressure and just ... The weight of it all. Also, I'm sorry that you always have to add so many disclaimers and justify yourself. The internet is a beautiful but cruel place. Socioeconomic status shouldn't be a qualifying factor in how you feel. To me, that just means that you don't have as much financial stress as I currently do but that DOES NOT invalidate your feelings (or make mine worse than yours, or whatever.) Hang in there ❤️
You are SO hard on yourself. Offer yourself the same love, grace, and empathy you wouldn’t think twice about extending to your best friends (or a stranger on the street, for that matter).
I could relate to this 110%. I’m doing the single mom thing while my husband works somewhere else. I love my kids, but when I’m alone with them I have to be “on” non-stop. It doesn’t mean that I don’t love my children. It means that I’m burnt out because trying to give them the attention I feel they deserve is exhausting and then I feel guilty when I take a step back. Sometimes it feels like I can’t win no matter what 😂 Also, I live a privileged life and it doesn’t make it any less exhausting trying to be all things to all people.
Jenn, I've been watching your content for at least 7 or 8 years, from the huge closet organization videos to everything else. Your videos have changed over time, but that always made sense to me since you're in a different place now as a mom and a person working through grief. Hang in there. Being human sucks, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing what you're feeling. If you need time, take time- you've earned it!
I have a feeling the thumbs down might be coming from the people that looked at your world as an escape from theirs. Your channel was on your beautiful home, travelling with your husband who was so loving and a great provider, decorating for all the holidays, organizing, family get togethers and of course your shopping. I don't think it has any reflection on you but maybe it is just the channel being so different! The only opinions that matter are your own and of course that of your kids so just do you but I do agree with people that encourage you to get out more, maybe volunteer but why not put your degree to use, since you have Charlotte in school 7 hours a day and Donny being gone for half of that? Right now the public schools are in real need of substitute teachers and with your bachelors you could do that when you feel like it. Not only is it extra money but it will give you a place to clear your thoughts as you focus on helping kids. It's a great job for a stay at home moms!
I am sending you so much love, Jen. I have lots of thoughts and feelings on this but I don’t think you need “advice” or anything, really. I think you’re navigating this all beautifully and I really appreciate your openness. Take care of yourself and be gentle with yourself. 💜
There is NOTHING wrong with having a privileged life - call it a blessed life. You are greatly blessed and continue to share with your subscribers because you have good intentions. Your blessings come from God, don't hide, shine, shine, shine!!! You are AWESOME.
I completely agree. I say stand proud in your life no matter how it looks financially. However, I am not a huge fan of the word "blessed". I feel like it demeans others who are just as good of people, but are struggling. Why would someone be blessed, but not another? I love the sentiment, but I feel like our culture needs to look at that word and call it out for what it is really referencing. :)
@@conscioushomestead blessings come in all shapes and forms. The blessings I have may not be ones in your life; but they’re our own blessings as it doesn’t take away from anyone.
@@chaank1069 You're missing the point. Yes, everyone has things that are good about their lives. For anyone to say "blessed" it makes someone else feel less than "blessed". Can't you see that if a woman were to say, "I am so blessed to have 3 healthy children", it would make a woman who can't have children and who is devout to the Lord would feel horrible and out of favor with the Lord? Why say blessed? It's silly and demeaning to others. We need to take a look at this word. It's meant to be good, but deeply, it's not.
@Deborah Christiansen - I agree. Lovely comment.
If I may offer some completely unsolicited advice: you are clearly a good human being. You're just a good person and it shows. I feel like you are one of the few people who really, truly just shouldn't waste your time, energy or feelings, trying to make sure you say the perfect thing all the time. Just say say what you want to say and I promise the people who matter will always take it the way you meant it - one of my favorite quotes is "those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter."
the vagabond tribune I totally agree. If I knew Glen in person I would tell her to stop feeling the need to explain yourself. You are a good person and no need to ever sensor yourself for the few haters.
Jen not Glen...
It is easier said than done on social media. The cancel culture is real. People take a molehill and make it a mountain just because they can. My sister is a pretty big influencer and she worries about this a lot and she is a phenomenal human being. In real life, it's easier because you can't hate people as easily to their faces and you can talk stuff out right away. Just giving you some perspective.
Jen, this might be my favorite video of yours. Being honest is waaaaaaaay more interesting and relatable then fake stuff. I think we all feel terrible right now! Life is crazy and stressful! It’s refreshing to hear your life isn’t perfect
"Super Privileged Life" basically just means that your bills are paid without having to worry about HOW you're going to pay them, whatever those bills happen to be. Honestly... that's what it boils down to.
That does not mean that you are a robot with no emotion or feeling- you've been through a hell of a lot recently. I find that during times of crisis I can usually "plug along" pretty well, but when the crisis is over, that's when I tend to have my "feelings".
You haven't really had a lot of time for things to settle in- first the trauma of, "Yes, I guess a divorce is best" doesn't mean it's what you wanted. Then, the big move, and let's face it- even though it's fun to buy a new house and "pick out all the pretties", the reason for the move wasn't fun by any means, and buying a house is always stressful. You did quite a bit of it yourself... you didn't just write a check and go spend a week in a hotel while someone else did all the packing and moving.
In the middle of the divorce and the move, you decided to do a purge- and that means going through memories- memories that you may not have been ready to deal with right then. Then you had to get the new house set up, and the kids settled, all in the middle of a pandemic!
It's absolutely no surprise that you're "feeling some feelings" right now- now that all of the distractions have settled a little, you finally have a minute to breathe, just in time for the holiday craziness 😉. Be gentle with yourself, do what you need to do, and don't worry about what everyone else thinks.
As far as the social media pressure goes, I've always called it "Facebook Fabulous"--- We can't judge our lives against someone else's Facebook posts because most people don't post when the crap hits the proverbial fan, they post when things are going great. Instagram wasn't meant to be a place to be honest, It's a place to load up a dozen or so filters and show everyone how perfect your life is- Even though at least 50% of the time it's a complete crock 😅.
I'm 56, and I hate social media. There, I said it... Don't come for me.
I like Facebook because I get to keep up with what my kids and grandkids are doing but other than that I think all of it is tearing apart an entire generation. I love UA-cam because there isn't anything I can't teach myself to do now; Need to rebuild the carburetor in your lawn mower? UA-cam! How do I take the front seat out of my car? UA-cam! It's great entertainment, but that's all it should be... Entertainment.
I don’t know you, but I want you as a friend! We are of the same generation and I so needed your kind of logic and understanding all my life! I hope Jennifer reads your comment and really pays attention to why you are telling her. 🥰
I love and agree with everything you said. Have a great weekend.
Very well said, though I left Facebook years ago for their contribution to the political misinformation. Thank goodness for FaceTime! That’s how we connect with kids and grandkids.
This was nice - and true. I actually read the whole thing .... Always lovely to find "normal people" online.
Missychan63, this may be the best YT comment I’ve ever read.
I hate that people’s unkind comments make you feel like you have to apologize or backtrack or explain yourself. Your past life was what it was. Your current life is what it is. If only we could meet people where they are and offer love and support - nothing else. Maybe one day. Sending good thoughts to you.
This video kind of kills me because I feel like Jen has become the most sincere version of herself in the last year and I've been loving the content. I hate the idea that the world is making her feel like she's not welcome to share herself.
Can we just start off by saying 10 years is a long time to have a job on social media. I love your channel and can’t imagine the hours that go into editing and putting up videos so congratulations for doing so well! Thanks for being real. We all need to have grace for ourselves and for one another. Also no way do we know what someone else suffers. What might break someone is not huge to someone else. So we can’t compare. I agree with you. Love you and stay strong!
If this question is not ok, please ignore it. I’ve wondered if your situation with Don surfaced before or after you read Untamed. After reading it, I can see how it would influence those kinds of changes in a couples relationship.
This book is in my to read list, but I keep putting it off. Maybe my hesitation is similar this thought...
I would love to see a video on your disordered eating at some point in life whenever your comfortable. It is something I struggle with a lot and have since I was a teenager. I feel like it’s not talked about a ton as an adult anymore and mainly just talked about as a teenager or younger years. With that being said I hope you can find some peace and balance soon.
I hope you feel better💜 breaks my heart to see you having a hard time. I don’t normally comment but felt compelled today. I’ve been following you for years and years and have always enjoyed your videos. Just know you are a beautiful person with a beautiful soul💜
You are grieving not only the loss of a very long relationship and marriage but also the loss of who you were as part of that dynamic. As we grow in life, it is not a straight line but rather a jagged zig-zaw of constantly taking a few steps back and several steps forward. Sometimes we shoot off in somewhat a straight line of pure progress, but these times are rare, and usually follow a much longer period of struggle. You are doing so well for yourself and for your family. I am so happy for you and can't wait to see you continue to grow!
I understand. Take whatever time you need. My husband passed away suddenly in March. For the most part I am ok. However it the shift in my life that I am having the hardest time processing. Knowing that the holidays are approach ing makes it even harder. I had 39 years with a wonderful man and I will always be thankful for that. Hang in there.
My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of your husband. October 28 marks the 10 year anniversary of my husband’s very sudden death, he died at age 51 and left me to care for two teenagers. Was the most difficult thing I have ever faced. I still miss him so much but time has allowed me some relief. I know you have probably heard it a zillion times since March, but time will help you heal. If I can make a suggestion - consider doing something different over the holidays - the “firsts” are so difficult without our loved ones. We used those “firsts” as a way to start new traditions until we were able to revisit the old ones less painfully. Even though we don’t know one another, I have found Jen’s subscribers tend to be caring, wonderful people. I will keep you in my thoughts .
Both of your thoughtful, caring comments give me hope for the way people can interact positively with each other via social media! Thank you for sharing and for supporting others. My thoughts are with you both in the upcoming holidays! 💕🤗
Sending you a big virtual hug! I lost my husband 6 years ago and I still miss him terribly. We were together for 35 years. Doing this pandemic alone has been very sobering
Praying for you ❤️❤️❤️
I’ve looked up to you for years, Jen. Probably close to 10 years. You are truly a special person and I will only ever support and wish the best for you and your family.
I don’t think there is a single wrong thing with taking time apart and just grieving. Loving. Thinking deeply. Self reflection and all those good words that help us out on our life journey. Not many get married thinking that divorce will be in their future. And let’s be real, that is SUCH a powerful grief process to go through. There is no magic potion or no set time in which we move on and find peace. I’ve learned that every few months, I find myself breaking down and needed a good week to reflect and be a better person. Life is hard stuff!
Hugs from Michigan.
Hi Jen!😃 I once heard someone say, “If you live for the applause of people, you will die to their silence.” You have been my “friend” since I subscribed to your channel (OLJ) back in 2012. You are a blessing and I appreciate your TRUTH. You have helped me more than you’ll ever know. Thank you for being you. Take care ❤️
I can tell you’re a kind, caring, and intelligent person, and I feel like that’s becoming more rare these days. It’s nice to watch content from folks like you ❤️
I believe you are in the process of grieving, as much as you have, there has been a lot of loss. And I am sure it cuts deep. Part of what you where talking about was talking to other people going thru similar experience is important. Surround yourself with support and remember when you get right down to it I’m just a stranger at a computer
I don't mean this to be critical at all, but your large gaps of empty time/alone time are hurting you more than helping you most likely. It's a lot of time to hash and re-hash and self analyze.
Bravo Jen! I applaud your openness, honesty and vulnerability. We have enough people already on social media who present "perfect lives." Maybe some like that; I like people who are REAL. Thank you for sharing both the ups and the downs.
I honestly believe that for many people, part of the appeal of your videos (in the beginning) was the fact that you had a "privileged" lifestyle. You were able to do all of the things that ladies like me dream of. Having a beautiful home that you could decorate and organize, throwing wonderful parties, buying premium skincare and beauty products...and the traveling!! So much fun! I am so happy you shared your life with us, and so sorry for what you are going through. It makes me so sad that you feel the need to apologize, qualify, or explain anything about the life you are blessed with. I cannot help but feel that the comments that have driven you to do that are from envious, petty people who simply can't let others enjoy what they have been given. You seem to be a genuinely good person who has been, and continues to be, real about your circumstances. I appreciate that.
I wish I could give you 10,000 likes! I’m loving the content and I hope you do continue to show and share your home and part of your life. Virtual hugs ❤️
God bless you and the kids. Storms are temporary.
I often find myself apologizing for complaining about my problems that are perceived as petty by others, but it doesn’t change the fact that they are mine and I am allowed to feel upset or stressed about them. It’s okay to feel blessed and down at the same time. Take care.
Take a break from social media as long as you need to. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your children. They need the best mom you can be. You're healing and that takes time. Blessings. 🙏
I adore you, I have been watching your videos for years. I wish you nothing but the best of health and happiness. I hope you get the time and healing you need.
Jen you say that social media is “what you do for a living” but when things get tough you always “take a step back.” Have you ever thought maybe instead of always being gentle on yourself you need to be tough on yourself. Maybe you need to push yourself so you can recognize how strong you really are. I’m sure I’m going to get attacked for this comment but I genuinely mean no malice.
In reality we can not “step back” / “take time out” when things get overwhelming at our jobs.😩 Are we stronger for it? I do not know... I do hope so though...as we have no choice
If this was what she REALLY did for a living there would be no stepping back! This is the privileged part that I don’t think Jen truly gets.
@@cecectconnecticut344 but does she have to? If you cannot enjoy the videos, don't watch. But don't expect her to be the person you, for some reason, expect her to be. That is just unrealistic and selfish.
@@cecectconnecticut344 I think she does and she is using it, that's what priviliges are for, simple as that ❤️
Jo-Anne Botha I can’t thumbs up this comment enough!!👍👍👍
Thanks for being so vulnerable. I have been following you for a good 6 years and love every video you put out. Don't change.
I never comment here, but I believe you may need some nice words right now. I'm brazillian and I looooved the videos with the house decoration and all (I looove Christmas and Halloween, but we don't get the same decorations as in US. Too expensive when we do too). I started watching because of them, the huge house, the "american dream" feeling lol. I kind of lived vicariously through them because it's sooo far from the normal houses we have here in Brazil.
Being completely honest, I stopped watching a couple years ago because I felt sooo jealous of you, your "perfect" marriage, perfect kids, etc, as this is my biggest dream and I can't seem to make it happen at the age of 36 (still hoping!). I know we're supposed to be happy with other people's happiness and I am, but the videos also made me feel bad about my own life, as I am far from getting those things myself.
I started watching again this year, when you got divorced and I realized everyone has problems in their lives, media influencers or 36 single women from Brazil, lol.
I'm not saying I'm happy with how things went for you, I'm just saying that I felt more connected after seeing how honest you were. I guess what is happening right now is that people are really miserable all around the world and are lashing out on the internet, where they feel invincible. The anonymity allows people to be really mean and cruel and I can see it in Brazil, US, Europe, etc. There's a word in german (schadenfreude) that means exactly that, the happiness you feel with other people's downfalls. People are becoming more insensitive, more rigid, more unforgiving of other people's mistakes. We are losing the notion that everyone is just trying to be happy here.
In summary, I believe there's nothing wrong with you or your videos, people just really wanna hate right now and you are vulnerable. When so many people are losing jobs, relationships are being ruined, people are getting sick, your life looks like all they wish they had, but can't. So now that they are seeing your weak spots, they're "going for the throat" to make them feel better about their own problems. Also there's not need to apologize because you have problems. Yes, you are privileged, but we all are in some way. It's not fair that you would have to pretend to be happy when you're not. Life can suck even for billionaires, there's nothing wrong with it, that's what makes us human!
I don't know if you will read this as it's so long, but I just wanted to let you know that there's someone here in Brazil wishing you good things. Whatever it is that is making you feel so bad now, it will pass. Haters gonna hate, just let them hate. Be happy and remember that all the hate is not about you, it's just a mirror to their own problems. Sorry again for the lenght and some errors, English is my second language. Wishing us all a better 2021!
The unplanned, honest, real person vlogs are my favorite. I enjoy your videos so much, especially these days. Thank you.
You're a lovely person and your feelings are valid regardless of how privileged or otherwise your life may be. Take time for self care, be gentle with yourself and reach out for support when you feel you need it.
I love your real talk just as much as your organisation or lifestyle videos because it's all just you being you 🙂
Hugs Mrs, you're an absolute gem x
Jen, Your honest content is more important now than ever. Our homes give us comfort and stuff needs to be organized and we need your inspiration and support to do that.
When I went through my divorce, what hit me the hardest was the loss of my 10 brothers and sisters..my in-laws. My ex came from a large family. I was closer to them than my own family, I fit in with them more than my own family. We were together every weekend celebrating something. Walking away from a mentally abusive husband was the easy part, loosing the rest of the family was difficult.
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Please continue to do any and all organizing videos that bring you joy. My favorite videos are the ones where you are really excited about the project you’re working on. I like to see you accomplish your goals!
You are definitely still grieving the big changes you have been through, so be gentle on yourself. It's not an easy time for anyone, and to add a divorce and a move into the mix (plus, I'm sure, other things your viewers don't know about) is significant. Take care and big hugs to you!
I’ve been having such a difficult year and this video makes me feel a little less like the only one suffering. Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable! You are the best
I'm sending you love, light and hugs. You're my absolute favorite person/youtuber. I hate the way the world is right now. I avoid a ton of negativity as much as possible and some say that's childish but my spirit can't handle it. I try to make people smile and I try to build everyone up because we have enough resentment nowadays.
I always love your videos. It is rare that you find such genuine honesty. 2020 has been a struggle for me as well. I also do not take care of myself. Your lack of cardio really resonated with me. Today was my first day of 20 mins of walking. We can do this.
I have been watching your videos from day one and I feel so protective over you. I think sometimes you are misunderstood by people who negatively interpret you and your content. From the parts of your life you share you seem to be an extremely caring, generous, self aware and gracious person. It makes me sad to see you constantly apologizing! You are doing amazing and I think everyone who truly supports you is very proud of how you have handled everything you've been navigating. Wishing you all the best and take all the time you need!
Please ignore the thumbs down and negative comments. You are a very special lady full of love. I too suffer from anxiety and depression and I understand where you are at right now. Pamper yourself during your week off, you deserve it. Much love and prayers to you.
Jen, I am so sorry people have led you to feel like you have to justify your feelings. Thank you for sharing so openly. Honestly, anytime I see your videos pop up in my subscription box, I get excited and watch all of them, regardless of topic/video structure. Thank you for sharing your life! It is greatly appreciated.
Jen, you are humble and your heart is full of love for people and animals.
People wishing you financial struggles to relate are nuts. I wish every woman and single mom out there a priviledged life.
When I watch your older videos, I miss that life...which looked like a “super in love” husband...family parties...a big house with lots of help...decorations for holidays....no corporate job/manager to stress about....”me time” (I didn’t even know such a concept) ....vacations...first class flights to Europe with your husband... NOW Imagine this “missing feeling” is coming from a loyal viewer. So I cannot even imagine “the grieving” you go through. Money brings freedom; not automatically happiness. You are allowed to feel down...This looks very normal. Keep your chin up. Maybe you can get help from a professional.
Love how candid you are here! I appreciate it so much and totally am applying it to my situation - newly divorced, co-parenting, etc.
As someone who has been through the grief of divorce, the best thing I can say is take steps towards doing things for the joy of doing them. You are a creative person, perhaps going outside of your comfort zone, and discovering something new will help rebuild your confidence. I think you should consider the fun and creative joy of writing a children's book. The worlds problems are not for you to shoulder alone. We will get through this together. The best thing you can do is focus on creating fun and true joy in your life. It will help you heal and help you show up authentically. You don't have to try so hard. Take time to get out of your head and try something new. This advice is not meant as a judgment, we are all doing our best.
Thank you for sharing! I started watching your channel at least 8 years ago (where does the time go?!), and I don't think that I've missed a single one since then! I love that you share the real stuff, so keep it up! Best wishes! 🤗
I know you have a lot more subscribers on your channel than me, but it helped me so much to hide the thumbs up and downs. I can see them, but everyone else can't. Because let's be honest, people can be cruel. They are going to hit that thumbs down button just because they can. It may have zero to do with the video content at all. I also have to approve every comment that comes across. Yes, it takes a lot of time, but it is worth it to me to keep my community positive. And, you know what, it's my space. If I don't like what you posted, I don't have to share it. People can go somewhere else to spread their hate. Big hugs, friend. You are going through a rough patch, but you will make it. This video was honest and raw, and I think that is what your audience has been waiting to see. ;)
I’ve watched your videos off and on for years -and so obviously always appreciated things about you and your content. But I’ve really enjoyed
following your motherhood content, and even more so the last year...because I feel like I can relate more. I have been touched -and awe-struck even- by your personal awareness, and how openly you share your vulnerabilities in order to make a connection to others. It has made a difference to me: in feeling like I’m not alone in a feeling, in inspiring me to do something, in making me self-reflect.
I never comment on video but I wanted to here because you said you keep getting negative comments.
So thank you!! And big virtual hug!
I appreciate this so much. Thank you for sharing 💕
I am 61and I still have bad time that I go through, and I will say a prayer for you. You been through a lot.
Thank you for this. I’m struggling too, but am also privileged. Sending warmth and comfort your way. 💚
I've been watching you since the beginning (I was 17 then, I'm 25 now!) and this is one of my favorite videos you posted. I am not doing well mentally at all, and I look around at people who seem to be carrying on as if nothing is wrong in the world. It felt good to see someone being open and honest. thank you
It was always a joy for me to see you living your life as a well off woman taking care of her home. It would give me ideas and information about how the other half lived. I would learn about stores and brands that I was not aware of. Concepts and a point of view different from my own experience drew me in. I don’t think you need to apologize for your status. Just keep putting out content you enjoy and all will be fine. Feel better soon.
In love with your energy here Jen!! Please, more hauls like this and I would definitely be interested in budgeting videos.
Thank you for sharing so honestly Jen! It's part of the reason why I follow you and admire you. Sometimes I am told I share too much, or I "feel" too much but for me, it's how I can connect with other people. Everyone is human and we all have things going on in our lives. I wish more people would share more openly because it we would help us realize how similar we all are more than we are different. I agree about the social media break. I have been off FB and Instagram now for several months and it has been fantastic. It has helped my anxiety a ton. I wish you the best! Hugs!
Hugs ☺️
I too have a super privileged life and I stopped apologizing for it ten years ago. I have problems like others and some think I don't.
Yes, economic privilege is just one type. While it can certainly help, having that privelege doesn't make you immune to all of life's problems. I wish people had more empathy.
Thank you for always being you! I love your channel and how human you are :) people are just humans with human problems and its nice to have a community to help each other in every emotion!
It’s hard. I got sole custody of my daughter when she was a baby and I took her and we moved in with my parents. I couldn’t do it on my own with a full time corporate job. I had to do what worked. My baby is now 14!
I always love how raw and honest you are. Your presence online always makes me very happy, but I also understand the need to take some time off and recharge.
Side note, I’m still on the organizing train so I would happily watch anything in that field
Having a friend to share and talk helps a world.
One of the many reasons I so admire and love your watching your channel is how genuine, open and balanced about reality your content is. Thank you so much for putting yourself out there for all of us and I’m sending so much love your way. I really appreciate your candour, kindness and warm honesty and really hope some of the pressure this career brings to you eases soon ♥️
We are- here, we are happy to be here, and we want to be here, to support you! So while I don’t normally, and will be better at it, I’m gladly hitting that thumbs up button! ❤️
Jen, I have loved you and your videos for the past 9 years. every stage you have gone through, I have been here given you and your family virtual prayers and support. I will continue to do that. who cares what anyone else thinks or says. YOU ARE A STRONG, INDEPENDENT WONDERFUL MOM AND WOMAN. Love coming to you from Texas!
My selfish me, I don’t want you to take a break, but my compassionate self understands and wants you to take care of your mental health. We are all having a hard time and you have the extra stress with your life change. So do what you need to do. BTW, I loved your video and adding the pull out drawers for your pantry. I have them on order for my cabinets! Thanks for that! Love you Jen and wish you well. Jackie from Indiana
That was fantastic. Please don't let the thumbs down stop you from sharing. I so look forward to your videos. I get tired of putting on a happy face. You are a person I feel like I could be real with. You rock Jennifer!
I wish you nothing but the best, Jen. You are a sweetheart! ❤️ I’ve recommended volunteering at an animal shelter to you many times. I know you love animals! I volunteer once a week with the cats, and it keeps me centered. Love you
I have been enjoying your recent content. I would love the baking organization video
LOVE IT! You had me at “a haul of completely unnecessary items”!!! I think we all can relate to the trap of picking up all the fun seasonal items at one time or another 🖐🏻 I love your raw honesty Jen. And whilst on the topic of raw, let me say this, I see you. I hear you. I relate to you in many ways and on many levels. I’m not sure if I saw this quote in your IG feed or somewhere else, but it bears repeating over and over. “I am accountable for what I say. You are accountable for how you receive it”. You are a beautiful soul Jen, who exudes grace and compassion. As for the negativity coming at you, a break may be just what would serve YOU. Take that time for you! You do you, and we will be here when you return. As always, love from 🇨🇦 🍁
Love your chats, vlogs, hauls, and favorites videos! Those are my favorites! Hope you feel better, Jen!
HUGS It's NOT unnecessary if it HELPS YOU, physically or mentally.
Following for about 9 years already and I just wanted to let you know I admire you so much. You are a beautiful, loving, caring human being.
Ty for your honesty and for being so relatable. There seems to be a lot of negative comments on other channels as well and I just don’t get why people can’t just be kind xx
Jen, even though I am old enough to be your mom, I commend you from my heart. I went through a divorce over 40 years ago. It was a devastating time. It took me over 10 years to fully talk about it to others. Please know that you speaking out about your true emotions helps those that cannot find the words or emotions. After GROW-ING through my experience, many told me I could have helped others who also went through the same difficulties, if I would have shared my journey. Social media is both a blessing and a curse for many reasons. Even though my broken heart was so long ago, it has been a long healing journey, and one that I wouldn’t trade. Listen to yourself and be well. Know that through your wisdom, pain, and your outlook on life as a person, mother, friend, is extremely invaluable to so so many . . . Young and Old.
I love sassy jen. I think we can all relate to emotional food purchases we may or may not eat! I personally love the organisation stuff but understand how the feedback must be difficult. Do what is right for you and your family and know we will be waiting when you are ready to come back xxx
Hello Jennifer, you are truly an inspiration to me. All I know about organizing has been from watching videos on your channel for past 10 yrs. Thank you for creating such amazing content. I wish you all the success, happiness and Joy in Life :)
I always found my job as a teacher to be a real solace to me in tough times. I am a super introvert, yet those kids gave me life. I say this to you because perhaps working as a substitute, or any service work, would help you as well as the kids. Just a thought from a fellow anxious introvert! Introverts get in their heads a lot, and that can be hard. I feel you!
Please listen to me Jen and everyone else that understands what this video is fully about. We are all in hard times and getting off of all social medias minus the occasional motivational UA-cam video has been the best thing I could’ve ever personally done for myself. It’s been a year of me cutting all socials and it’s been wonderful. It was a challenge the first few months but stayed strong and it feels like my life is way more balanced. I have time for my family and for myself much more than I did. When normal obstacles come my way, there’s no distractions from socials and I can fully take care and process the situation.
I know that UA-cam is your job and I never ever want you to leave us but maybe considering creating boundaries on other socials or leaving them completely would take out some unneeded noise away. It has for me❤️ Thanks for sharing, Jen. We’re all tackling something at the moment and your transparency reminds us we’re all in this together.
Sending love from another mother in Sweden ❤️ I have been a subscriber since 2012 and I feel like I just wanna give you a hug. You are like a friend to me, how stupid as that sounds, and I really care for you. I’ve heard a lot of my fav content creator having a tough time with trolls and mean comments on their channels. I think it just represents the state of the world, not you personally ❤️
Jen, thank you very much for sharing your vulnerable side! Unfortunately in life there will be those who choose to reflect their unhappiness onto others for no good reason. Personally, it will never make sense to me! You are so kind and brave in sharing your life with all of us, the good parts and not so good parts, and that takes a lot of trust. Trust that for all of the thumbs down, there are many more thumbs up that are supporting you and cheering you on!!!
Also, love the baking supply organization!!! ♥️
I honestly think people ask the personal question like if you’re getting back together for several reasons. They might want elaboration on the why . I have a friend who’s confused about her feelings and started thinking about divorce this year after hearing that her cousin was seeking one. Validation I guess. Some people may genuinely be scared that it could happen to them and wonder if there is a way to avoid divorcing. Other people like myself still watch the old videos of love, and family holidays and feel pain, I know it’s weird because it’s not our life. In my case I am definitely a romantic and I lost my husband to illness when he was only 46. Anyway I love all your videos and all your sharing. Thank you.
My kids are old now but when they were little every now and then I would have a "me" day, self care wasn't a "thing" but I knew that I needed it and in the end I was happier. Take care of you so you can take care of your little ones. Don't beat yourself up. Take care!!!
Divorce is a death. A death of what you felt was supposed to be your life. And you go thru the grieving process the same way. There are five processes which escape my mind at the moment. Don’t skip them and as hard as it is, embrace it so you can heal properly. That’s my two cents from having gone through a divorce.
I am skin picker, so I understand what stress leads to picking. Physical scars will heal, emotionally it takes time. Give yourself room to breath. I am an introvert, so I cherish my family and friends. Enjoy your blessed life, raise those sweet babies! God Bless You.
Since having my two children (about a year older than yours), I have been saying that the introverted mother is not talked about enough. It’s hard. It’s a lot. We’re with you (alone, from a distance 😉).
I’ve been watching your channel for some years now and I feel like you’ve come more into who you are and are every time more genuine. I feel like we get to watch your emotional growth almost and I appreciate your vulnerability to give us that. I’m so happy you are part of this platform and honestly I love your videos so thank you for them. Thank you for your content, creativity and honesty in every thing you do. That’s why I keep coming back. I don’t know what a UA-cam life is but I’ve heard it’s not easy so bless you for 10 years! Big milestone! Take the time for yourself. We all need more than ever. At this time I actually feel very similar to some things you said so this came on time for me what you shared and reminded me to keep listening to my inner self and do what’s best for me as well. Love and good vibes your way
Just donate the junk food you bought. Lots of families are in need these days and are on a tight food budget. It's a real luxury to buy junk food, and if you don't want it, give it away. Doing something for others also really helps keep your spirits up rather than focusing your energy inward all the time.
Jen you are one more time amazing. To be able and willing to open up and share your true self for the benefit of possibly helping someone else. As you so well put it and to just reiterate that status, privilege or money does not affect your lack of having “feelings” or emotional ups and downs. You are so kind and caring toward others. Please give yourself some of that. You are as deserving of that as others also are. As you said if we don’t take care of ourselves we are not able to care for others. May you have many blessings on you and your family.
If you consider this your job and how you make a living, then you need to treat it like a real job, and listen to feedback from your “customers.” Actually plan out your content, have a purpose to your content instead of just using your platform to vent your personal issues. You can still live your life and have all the feelings but it doesn’t need to dominate your content. If your viewers aren’t enjoying your content, and this is how you make your living, you need to adjust your content to improve your ratings and viewing 🤷♀️.
Rachel no this is her channel, she started it to share her life. She can share whatever she wants, that is what is nice about having a UA-cam channel.
That was great advice, Rachel. The channel is the product Jen is selling. If her customers are losing interest, she needs to re-evaluate her product.
Lexie Fletcher of course she can share whatever she wants. But if her viewers aren’t enjoying her content she needs to either adjust it or be ok with the negative feedback and lower ratings, and take it in stride. She can’t have it both ways.
Jen, I have been a subscriber for 9 years and when I found you, you were in a happy marriage and a huge, beautiful house. As a (then) newly divorced mother of two very young children, living in a tiny flat and working full-time, my situation was so different to yours but I watched you because I love your personality and your organisation ideas. And now here you are in your new stage of life. All I can say is that everything will sort itself out given time. You will get to know yourself and by exploring and processing dark and sad feelings, grief and so on, you will become a stronger and more resilient person. My stress, fatigue and physical exertion resulted in health issues including Fibromyalgia and surgical menopause brought on by my recent hysterectomy. I can’t exercise the way I used to, which is difficult it because that’s how I used to manage stress. On the upside, my Faith is stronger and I appreciate the little things more than ever. My ex-husband is in a new relationship and we co-parent to the best of our ability. I have really good and bad days. Today is a bad day because I have a kidney infection but on the positive side I get to watch a few videos and lie down with my sweet chihuahua puppy. Sending you love and prayers 💙🇦🇺 from Australia. And please do budgeting videos! That would be awesome.
I usually don’t comment or like videos or anything. But I felt compelled to like this one, just because. 😘
Great video. I love your honesty and vulnerability. You are so right. Being human is wonderful but also hard no matter who we are. I loved the baking cupboard video too!
Take time out to re balance. If you had a 9-5 job you would take a holiday so do it guilt free and don’t restrict yourself to one week if you need more. Virtual hugs 🤗 x x
I think everything has caught up with you, sometimes we just push it aside. You’ve been though a lot, sometimes you don’t feel it straight away. I could see in your videos that you weren’t yourself. I can only imagine what it’s like to have an online presence and to be criticised. You opening up helps us open up in our lives. Please take time for yourself. Lots of love xx
I really LIKE those LONG videos... please do more often
Girl. I wish I could go through the screen and give you a big hug. Everything you take is absolutely normal. As for the thumbs down stuff, those people are totally ridiculous. You are amazing. I've followed you for the better part of a decade now and I think you are an amazing woman who I wish I could be friends with in person. Keep your head up and keep chugging along!!!
Thank you for being real. Seriously, it's so refreshing. Also, I am also feeling really overwhelmed by everything at the moment. I'm always the one who holds it all together but right now I'm feeling like I'm starting to crack under the pressure and just ... The weight of it all. Also, I'm sorry that you always have to add so many disclaimers and justify yourself. The internet is a beautiful but cruel place. Socioeconomic status shouldn't be a qualifying factor in how you feel. To me, that just means that you don't have as much financial stress as I currently do but that DOES NOT invalidate your feelings (or make mine worse than yours, or whatever.) Hang in there ❤️
I love your authentic and vulnerable content.
Thank you so much for sharing
You are SO hard on yourself. Offer yourself the same love, grace, and empathy you wouldn’t think twice about extending to your best friends (or a stranger on the street, for that matter).
I could relate to this 110%. I’m doing the single mom thing while my husband works somewhere else. I love my kids, but when I’m alone with them I have to be “on” non-stop. It doesn’t mean that I don’t love my children. It means that I’m burnt out because trying to give them the attention I feel they deserve is exhausting and then I feel guilty when I take a step back. Sometimes it feels like I can’t win no matter what 😂 Also, I live a privileged life and it doesn’t make it any less exhausting trying to be all things to all people.
Liberty Lobdell felt this too! What a rollercoaster emotion just that feeling of reality is.
Jenn, I've been watching your content for at least 7 or 8 years, from the huge closet organization videos to everything else. Your videos have changed over time, but that always made sense to me since you're in a different place now as a mom and a person working through grief. Hang in there. Being human sucks, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing what you're feeling. If you need time, take time- you've earned it!
I have a feeling the thumbs down might be coming from the people that looked at your world as an escape from theirs. Your channel was on your beautiful home, travelling with your husband who was so loving and a great provider, decorating for all the holidays, organizing, family get togethers and of course your shopping. I don't think it has any reflection on you but maybe it is just the channel being so different! The only opinions that matter are your own and of course that of your kids so just do you but I do agree with people that encourage you to get out more, maybe volunteer but why not put your degree to use, since you have Charlotte in school 7 hours a day and Donny being gone for half of that? Right now the public schools are in real need of substitute teachers and with your bachelors you could do that when you feel like it. Not only is it extra money but it will give you a place to clear your thoughts as you focus on helping kids. It's a great job for a stay at home moms!
I am sending you so much love, Jen. I have lots of thoughts and feelings on this but I don’t think you need “advice” or anything, really. I think you’re navigating this all beautifully and I really appreciate your openness. Take care of yourself and be gentle with yourself. 💜