2nd story: why the heck are people defending these teens who broke the law?? They trespassed AND destroyed property to an extent (with trashing the place). Not only were the teens disrespectful, but then they have the whole town defending them. Was the town in on it too?? Where's the justice? If the police and neighbors are worried about the kids' future, then the kids need to learn that there are consequences for their actions. Sure, no one was hurt and no real harm done, but crimes tend to escalate. This could have disastrous effects for them in the future. I hope at the very least their parents punished them. Sorry guys, unpunished crimes just really tick me off. I hope y'all are having a nice day and no teens trespass onto your property to throw a pool party
Absolutely! Like okay, teens do stupid things sometimes, but you get the consequences for your actions. Also it's not like they just sneakily managed to get onto the property - which isn't that bad, and you could let those teenage shenanigans slide. But no! They broke in and trashed the place. That's absolutely nothing small and they need to pay for it.
About the story of the teens breaking a lock to have a pool party when the owner was out of town…it would have been a totally different story if one of those drunken teens had drowned in the pool. Then everybody would have been looking for a way to blame, and charge, the pool owner. Nobody would have been saying to just drop it. That’s why you have higher fences and locks on the gates. It’s not only about protecting kids from drowning, but also protecting pool owners from getting sued. Those cops are totally negligent if they didn’t understand that.
Breaking a lock is break and enter; vandalism leaving everything a mess. Pics/vids of everything, including their faces as proof; if OP didn't fear for his life, he'd probably take it up the chain of command. But we all know how little closed towns work. He'd get booked for traffic infringements before leaving his driveway...20 x a day...
First story: normally I would NEVER condone saying smth like that but in this situation I think it was quite understandable and justified because the guy was treating her horribly even in front of their friend group (which she def needs another friend group if not one of them told the guy off or at least tried to deescalate especially when she told them straight up she didn’t like the way he treated her), he wasn’t trying to hide it. That mistreatment of her kept building up slowly until of course she’s gonna go “from 0-100 real quick”, she’s gonna be in constant defensive mode around the guy if she’s treated like that all the time. People really love to look in the opposite direction when bullying happens, but the SECOND that the bullied!victim fights back THEY’RE the ones that are villainized and the bullies are victimized. Why is it everything the bully puts their victim through is just forgotten the moment they get hurt. It doesn’t matter if the victim fights back that one time, that doesn’t compare to the possible weeks, months, prolly years of mistreatment bullies have out their victims through. Can we please normalize Bullies getting consequences and telling them “you deserved that” when their victim fights back? Please? 2nd story the Teens are destroying their own future by their own choices, they trespassed and trashed his property-I would’ve pressed charges too! The fact that they did this and didn’t even care to clean up shoes they’ve prolly done this before and the person let it go Idc 🤷🏾♀️ how close of friends we are, I’m not sharing shit with you when I win the lottery, the husband’s dumb-the more you split the money up the less it’ll be for you, but of course the husband wants to act like “he’s my best friend so I should split it up with him! 😭 “ get on somewhere! You can share *YOUR HALF* of the money *WITH* Tim, but you *WILL NOT* give 1/3 of this money *TO TIM!* Technically it’s OP’s ticket so it’s OP’s money, not hers & the husbands. I think Op should hold onto the money and then later give the husband his half after he understands why they cannot give 1/3 to his *“bf”* (cause that is kinda sus tho, like why is your first thought process to split your money with your bff who had/was no contribution or help whatsoever to your wife winning it????) then the husband can gladly spend his money on his bff if he wants but he ain’t finna fuck with my half of the share
Fr she fought back with words which is better than actions (i think) Fr kids get away with stuff just because they're kids man make their actions have consequences as well I'd probably give his bf like 20 dollars or something (idk how much money the lottery gives) cuz it my money man but im generous so but oh I'll spend a LOT on my pet cats they deserve everything 😁
All NTA. 1. The first girl's comment is justified. The guy is rude and always makes fun of her. Some people who defended him are just stupid. 2. That is OP's property and some teens think it's okay to break in someone's property to party, so OP has the right to press charges. Who in the minds of people think talking OP out of pressing charges and defending the teen over a party? 3. It's not selfish of OP for keeping the money. Tim is her husband's friend, not OP's, so why should she give him a lottery ticket?
Pretty sure over half of the teens were kids belonging to members of the police force; given their reluctance to do anything whatsoever, let alone let OP file a report. We'd see which parents came out of the woodwork, if OP printed off flyers with as many of the teens' faces as he could get, and stuck them all over town lol. Bet there'd be some "charges filed" then....
@@Kayenne54Or even upload their faces on social media for the whole world to see, along with the caption "teens break into my house, set up a pool party and trash my property while I'm away for 2 weeks"
For the lottery wife, maybe you should first ask Adam what Tim has been doing for HIM? Are they friends with benefits? Did they KILL a man together? Is Tim secretly the father of your children? Why is your husband so insistent that Tim gets 'his fair share'? What do you--or your husband--OWE him for? Think about that; you MIGHT need a lawyer after all.
I think the husband has a fancy woman on the side that he wants to give money to and thinks that if he uses Tim as a cover story the wife won’t suspect
Story 2: there's an update, people in the comments kept saying that some of those kids could've been related to the cops and that's why they weren't doing anything, so he talked to a friend that grow up there and showed him the tape, his friend reconize one of the kids as the son/daughter of the mayor, and other 2 as cop's kids. He decide to let it go because he heard stories about people that press charges against some cop's kid and he was tormented by them, with fines, harassment and such, so he got scared and drop the charges.
So the guy decided to drop the charges because of what happens if a cop's kid is sued? That's fucked up like, I feel so bad for OP. First something wrong happens to him, then he's forced to drop the punishment to avoid humiliation.
@@saimawasti9598 I feel bad for him too, there was a lot of comments telling him to be careful, they told him a lot of things that happened to that guy, cops pulling him over for ridiculous reasons and giving him tickets, harassed him at his home, his family, Op was really afraid something similar happen to him because he lives in a small town.
@@adawongkennedy6570 Yeah. It must've been a hard decision for him. But it was better then the total humiliation he would've faced in the future. I hope those teenagers at least learn their lesson and not trespass and vandalise other people's properties anymore. :(
@@adawongkennedy6570 Also, It's pretty strange that the guy you mentioned, presses charges and gets tormented, when he could've pressed charges for a reason. It's like high school bullies getting victimized and the true victims being punished for fighting back.
I was sued by my bully and they won so I can definitely relate to the OP wanting it to be over. When you’re going through it all it’s soul destroying, especially if they are connected. I had nails hammered into all four of my tyres on my car, I had notes attached to the windscreen of my car and letters throughout my neighbourhood letterboxes with my full name, address and a coloured photo of me - it was awful and soul destroying. I hope and pray every single day that that pos 💩 gets their karma but so far it hasn’t happened unfortunately 😞 they just got to enjoy yet another platform where they could bully me, since it wasn’t enough that they made my life a living hell in school and then as adults they posted defamation but then played the victim and won when I defended myself 🙄 I gave up on the world after that
i've gone through a situation similar to the first story. the only difference is that i didn't have any close friends in that circle and i was basically on my own. this guy kept joking, making fun of me and no one batted an eye and when i brought it to their attention, said guy was silent, not a peep while the others defended him saying he's such a nice person and i just take things way out of proportion. i never got my justice, instead i was labeled as crazy and one of them even tried being my therapist while another played nice trying to find out why i had an outburst about one innocent man (imo a 30 something year old child) and when i TRIED telling my side and how i felt with his words, they accused me for being dramatic. so much for trying to defend myself
Lotto winners. Start by hiring two lawyers from two different towns. The second lawyer is to audit the first lawyer and form some revocable trusts to provide for your relatives as you see fit. If you're young it's probably wiser to take the winnings over a period of years so you can learn from your earlier money management mistakes. If you're as old as I am set up your trusts so that your kids and/or relatives don't get the money all at once but over a period of years. They will need to learn from their money management mistakes too.
The pool party one: OP did the right thing pressing this issue. One: the teens broke into their property. It doesn't matter if they never went inside, the outside is still their property. Two: If something had happened to one of the teens, I'm sure the families would be jumping at the chance to sue OP. I'm not a lawyer, so I don't know if they would even win a case if that did happen but I imagine it would be chaos for OP regardless. OP followed the rules by getting a new fence and locks on the gates and now it's time for these teens to learn the rules that breaking and entering is never okay. It's sad that OP had to push the cops to do their job. Even if the teens don't get arrested or have this on their records, they need to be told that what they did was breaking the law and next time things may not work out so well for them. To just let this issue slide is doing no one any good
0:38 *PLEASE STOP SAYING THAT SOMEONE TREATING YOU BADLY IS A SIGN OF ATTRACTION!!!* That shit is one of the most prevalent and horrible things to teach a person. It essentially means that abuse = love. 4:50 yes, please, let your kids act like horse’s asses until one of them gets hurt, then blame whoever the property owner was who’s property was being used without permission. 8:39 Adam needs to listen to his wife. There are few things that bring out the ugly side of people like money will. Heck, maybe OP should have Adam watch a few documentaries regarding what happened to lotto winners. It’s not pretty.
In the very first story, what is up with her friends because they should've immediately stood up for her when he started making jokes about her. He didn't know her and she dang well didn't know him at all so that's automatically a form of bullying and disrespect. She just had enough and told him off, and in my honest opinion she has nothing to feel sorry about at all because he started all of that. In the second story, why exactly did the cops try to talk him out of it? All of those bad teens trespassed onto his property, and they swam in his pool too and all of this was without his permission. I would press charges to the fullest because how dare they violate my property like that, and what pisses me off the most is not a single one of those teens came forward and actually confessed to him about what they did. In the third story, congratulations to her for hitting it big and winning the lottery. First of all, don't tell anybody about your exciting news because if you do then they will for sure start begging for money, and secondly don't make any expensive purchases just yet. Much love my dear sweet friend!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!
Story 2, the problems are the parents of the teens. The mayors daughter, childs from shopowners and so on. A comment statet that a friend had the same problem and pressed charges against the teens, since then the police would make that persons life hell with lots of phanton crimes. Another comment said that another spoiled brat k*lled his ex and the parents paid the police to lose the evidence or a cop where it finally got to light that he r*ped young woman and what did the police do? They lost and destroyed evidence. Small towns in the USA are even more wolrds of there own
Not saying that I approve of trespassing, but what happened to leaving no evidence? It was bad enough to break the locks (those aren't free!!) but on top of that they left the backyard trashed! The response makes me wonder if this pool party was suggested by an adult. There are a few stories out there of parents that tell their kids that it's OK to use the neighbours pool, and then nobody bothers to ask first.
0:05: She was right with her response to this jerk. Hope he changes his ways before he gets his ass kicked for mouthing off to the wrong person. 2:47: He's justified for wanting to press charges to those teens for breaking in and trespassing on his property. And shame on the cops and residents for brushing this off. This seems to be acceptable behavior these days. I mean, what if something drastic happened. He's the one who's going to get sued, and he's the one who'd ultimately pay the price. 5:22: I think it's suspicious to give such a large share to Tim. It's their money; they should split 50/50, and if Adam wants to give part of his share to Tim, that's fine, but not split it in thirds with him. They probably should hire a trusted lawyer or financial advisor to claim the money if they want to remain anonymous about it.
Right like how r u gonna shame someone for rightfully pressing charges against people for breaking in and trespassing on his property. That’s like shaming someone for pressing charges against someone that robbed them cause “it wasn’t that valuable, let it go”
Those guy friends in the first story are wrong. OP didn't go 0-100 at the drop of a hat. Her fuse has been slowly burning away for a while and when he showed up at the door she finally blew up.
Story 1: she was justified to say that to him. Sure it was a terrible thing to say but he definitely needed a wake up call. I don't think she was being immature at all Story 2: Why is everyone against OP here? His girlfriend, his mom and pretty much the entire town seems to be on the teens' side. I have a feeling the town was in on it in some way. Okay nvm I found out there was an update to the post. I don't agree with dropping the charges but tbh it was better that he did that for his own safety. And after the mini update I think OP should talk to his GF about the issue and why it's wrong to defend a crime. If she still doesn't agree he should seriously re-evaluate his relationship. He should cut ties with his mom and anyone else that didn't back him up and eventually move out of that town since the people there don't seem to be pleasant in any way. At least he got the parents to pay for the damages.
First story, the girl went scorched earth. The last story, the wife needs to consult with a lawyer. The husband may be entitled to half, but he needs to split his half with his best friend.
...I think I understad what the husband is trying to do by adding the friend and pretend they got that money from a business ((wouldn't this be a form of money laundering?)) But of course he could propose a new business to his friend instead of just giving the money away. You really don't want to brag about suddenly having F. U. money. Many lotto winners have ended up in a worse financial situation, some have been robbed and killed.
"Just tell me I'm beautiful and I will fall for you" ...divorced for 15 years and by my choice, had no contact. Met him a week before he passed with our adult children and first thing he said "I knew you would still be beautiful" MEN listen, women like to be told YOU think they are beautiful.
I clicked on the video as soon as I saw the notification, I litterally haven’t watched u in so long but as soon as I do I feel like I’m never bored iykwim
Never reveal any wealth you win or inherit, there are vultures always waiting to strike. This isn't even a joke, people have been killed over this sadly. I would go as far as to say, pretend to be very modest or "low" on money so that you don't become a target. The world is not a safe enough place to be a show off
The lottery story…go to the lawyer. Get a trust to claim the lottery. Then split the trust, 1/3 for the wife, 1/3 for the kids & 1/3 for the husband. The husband can split his 1/3 with his friend. Have the trust documents say which part of the trust pays for what…meaning if the husband decides to give all of his money to his friend & live off the wife’s part of the trust…no. 1/2 of the family’s living expenses will come out of each of the spouse’s trusts or a set amount each month from each one of the spouse’s trust comes out for living expenses.
The lotto story: The husband probably has a fancy woman on the side and wants to siphon money to her so he wants to use the friend as a front for the money dwindling down rapidly. I bet that was the reason. Sorry I always comment negatively but I don’t trust easily 😂
The first story, I personally don't agree with. It felt pretty uncalled for because he didn't say anything rude at that time, he had just asked to speak privately. For all we know he could've wanted to apologize or something. I'm not saying he's right though, it was pretty bad of him to insult her like that. I just think it was pretty uncalled for in that situation. I also personally just don't really agree with fighting fire with fire, ya know? I don't wanna lower myself down to rude people's level. Second story, those cops aren't really doing a good job.. I don't get why they're so adamant and refusing to reprimand those teens. There is the saying "teens will be teens", and that's true in a way but also they need to learn so they can be better, instead of being excused because they're teens. Third story, they're not wrong for not wanting to share the money nor are they selfish. Winning the lottery is a big deal, and it can be quite... touchy in a way as well? with how people can be. I can understand the want to share things with your best friend, but I agree, they dont have to share 1/3rd. They can just give some to them later on.
Yeah that makes sense but the OP did say it happened multiple times, in front of their friend group despite her telling them she didn’t like being treated that way. I think it’s because she’s been mistreated like that multiple times prolly for a while to the point where she become instantly defensive, taking even things that aren’t rude to heart to protect herself since no one around her (her own friend group who just watched and never intervened) was going to do it
Yeah I agree on the first one. I think it was childish to take it that far and make an insult so personal. And I also felt like he might try to apologize in a 1v1 conversation. She could’ve just roasted his appearance back or some other trivial insult.
@@adr3annaLook. I respectfully disagree with you on this one. That douchebag insulted the girl for absolutely no reason at all. And her friends never had her back, but asked her to just drop it. She didn't even do anything to him. So I think it's not childish of her. But fair and justifiable that she finally defends herself by insulting him hard. At least he'll never mistreat her again. Weather that insult was too personal or not, it still serves him right though.
as someone who was in the same position as op in the first story (the guy did worse to me) i would’ve said the exact same shit to him. i couldn’t give less of a damn if he tried apologizing to me (which he didn’t).
That's only true if all finances that are personal/not needed for shared property, but even then the husband in a divorce could gain half that money, just like if the roles were reversed, if OP can get evidence for anything like cheating or if they have a prenup then there's the chance she won't have to pay him but that depends on if where she lives is an "at fault" country/state.
If the wife doesn't feel like sharing her won lottery amount with her husband's friend's, its totally fine... she won it, it should be her decision with whom she wants to share... or not share at all....
Personally, with the first story I would never stoop down to the same level as that guy. I understand why she did it, but this all comes down to the question of, "Who do you want to be in this story?" I feel there are better ways to deal with this problem. With the second story, yeah, he should definitely press charges. It's funny how everyone else is fine with teenagers breaking and entering and vandalizing this man's property, but it makes me wonder how they'd react if this happened to them. I'm also thinking some of the teenagers might be some of the cops' children. It seems strange they're highly against pressing charges. With the third story, never tell anyone you've won the lottery. Greed had a tendency to bring people together, and not in a good way.
Idk if they live in the apartment together i forgot but if so i would audibly cry in my locked room and avoid them, show i don't like him and im afraid of him, if they ask "why are you avoiding us?" Cuz i dont wanna be around that guy "why are you crying?" It's because of that guy. Decline every invitation of which he appears in. Make a sad face everytime. "Come on he can't be that bad!" Yeah that's what you think, and you're not me. "He was joking around!" Jokes are when every party involved laughs about it not cry about it. Fr start drawing sad stuff in my book and leave it open "what is this in your book why are you sad?" Oh it's nothing don't worry about it I'm fine you don't have to worry about me now come on let's go have some cake! 😁 Start writing diary entries about me being sad because of him act sad but then a few days act cheerful oh wait no no no that's bad i might get canceled uhm back up back up "we think you're just manipulating us to feel bad for you!" Yeah? Well that's what you think. Really mess with them gaslight gatekeep girlboss 😁
Well, it was necessary of her to do that and I think it's well-deserved and justifiable. For all we know, if she reported her problems, she'll most probably labelled as a childish snitch for "telling on him". She told her friends, but they all said to just ignore him. After everything, she was eventually gonna fight back and give him a taste of his own medicine. Personal or not, that insult will definitely make him think twice or 3 times before he opens his mouth and insults her or anyone else again.
First story: OP is completely justified in standing up for herself. However, blaming that guy for his mother's character shortcomings isn't. Or for being adopted. Stick to the actual issue when defending oneself. Don't get personal. It's not relevant what he called OP, what is relevant is that he felt okay treating her like dirt in her friend group. Of course she can stand up for herself and defend herself, but sinking to school yard level isn't. Put his own behaviour back onto him. Stick to the real issue. If someone is born with one ear larger than the other, you don't bring that up; it's beyond their control. What is IN THEIR CONTROL is what is relevant. And I can totally understand her reluctance to have any more dealings with him, but she missed a great opportunity to sort this out privately, and he may have been about to apologise...
I don't think he was gonna apologise as narcissists and bullies have no remorse for their actions. He could've even bullied her even more, to the point where she'll break down and feel depressed. So I think she did an amazing job telling that AH off. He'll most likely never mess with her again after that.
I disagree. When you win the lottery you don't always win millions. People have their own debts to pay, their own bills to pay, and their own family to take care of. If you're struggling, worry about yourself before you worry about anyone else. Because the same people you help probably wouldn't bat an eye if you or your family ended up homeless.
Honestly, I don't think what the girl in the first story said was justified. I feel like it's an unwritten rule to never insult a person's family/parents. If someone insults your looks, insult their looks back; there was no reason for her to go as far as to bring up his parents. It's less like punching a bully because they punched you and more like stabbing a bully because they punched you.
Same. What she did just felt childish and she made it too personal. Learn how to roast someone back when they make fun of you. And it seemed like he might’ve been trying to apologize with a 1v1 conversation, but who knows.
@@kawaiiamarii2240But that douchebag insulted the girl for absolutely no reason at all. And her friends never defended her at all. So she had to fight back eventually. OP's response was well-deserved and justifiable. She finally defends herself by insulting him with something so personal. It'll make him think twice before bullying an innocent woman again. You reap what you sow.
@@saimawasti9598 when someone insults you, insult them back; don't ever bring their family into it. Like I said, it's an unwritten rule. She went way too far "defending" herself, especially considering that he didn't even insult her at that time, so it's not a heat-of-the-moment thing either.
1st story: I was with her until she revealed what she said to him. I get that he was being horrendous to you but him asking to speak with you privately seemed like he wanted to potentially apologize to you. And you choose to insult him for something he couldn't control. You don't ever make fun of or insult a child because they are adopted, that is absolutely not their fault!! And he never used it as an excuse for his behavior. 2nd story: I hope he continues pressing charges against those involved, they literally stalked their neighbor to find out that he was gone and planned an entire party in his backyard. They had to of literally been studying him to realize they could break into his house at that specific time. They damaged and vandalized his property as well. I hope he not only continues to press charges but that he goes over the officers' heads and gets an investigation launched on them for how they conduct themselves since they are bullies. Trying to bully him into remaining silent when he literally had property damage is ridiculous. 3rd story: That's pretty stupid to split it 3 ways because "you can explain it easily..." They don't disclose who won the lottery unless you give them permission to do so. No one will know you made the money unless he plans to throw it in people's faces that he won. Technically the wife won it so she has the biggest say in what happens with the money completely. Instead of giving him a third of the entire thing you can literally just ask him if he could have a gift or a vacation without any financial restrictions what would he get or where would he go. Then gift him a vacation with his wife or something. All you say is that you've been saving up to get him a really nice gift someday because he's your best friend and that is that.
Look. That douchebag insulted the girl for absolutely no reason at all. And her friends never had her back at all. So she had to stand up for herself eventually. I don't think that OP has anything to feel sorry for and it's justifiable that she finally defends herself by insulting him hard. He should learn how to have respect for people, instead of picking on others. And a child? Really? He's in COLLEGE. It says so that most people are in there early to mid 20s. I think it's ridiculous that he's in college and he's bullying her like he's still in high school or something.
Man I hate how vitriolic our society is. There are very few situations where what the girl in the first story said is alright. If someone is making petty insults towards your physical appearance and you think the correct response is to ghost them and then attack their tumultuous family life, then you're just completely immature. Talk to them like an adult, it's not hard.
The girl in the first story was childish and made the insult too personal. All she got were trivial insults about her appearance so she could have roasted his appearance back. But she found out very personal information about him/ his family and used that. And it seemed like he might have been trying to apologize with a 1v1 conversation, but idk. It doesn’t help that no one spoke up when the guy insulted her either so I understand how she overreacted, but she still took it too far.
@@rachelmartin5187 But that douchebag insulted the girl for absolutely no reason at all. And her friends never had her back at all. So she had to defend herself eventually. I don't think that OP has anything to feel sorry for and it's justifiable that she finally defends herself by insulting him hard and being personal about it. It'll make him think twice before being an AH towards an innocent woman again. He should learn how to have respect for people, instead of picking on others. You reap what you sow.
2nd story: why the heck are people defending these teens who broke the law?? They trespassed AND destroyed property to an extent (with trashing the place). Not only were the teens disrespectful, but then they have the whole town defending them. Was the town in on it too?? Where's the justice? If the police and neighbors are worried about the kids' future, then the kids need to learn that there are consequences for their actions. Sure, no one was hurt and no real harm done, but crimes tend to escalate. This could have disastrous effects for them in the future. I hope at the very least their parents punished them.
Sorry guys, unpunished crimes just really tick me off. I hope y'all are having a nice day and no teens trespass onto your property to throw a pool party
I was thinking the same thing. If one of those teens would have been seriously hurt or worse, the pool owner would have been responsible for it.
Absolutely! Like okay, teens do stupid things sometimes, but you get the consequences for your actions.
Also it's not like they just sneakily managed to get onto the property - which isn't that bad, and you could let those teenage shenanigans slide.
But no! They broke in and trashed the place. That's absolutely nothing small and they need to pay for it.
@@katinacarson-hunwi7297no, thats why he has a fence .
You can't be held responsible for people who are trespassing.
About the story of the teens breaking a lock to have a pool party when the owner was out of town…it would have been a totally different story if one of those drunken teens had drowned in the pool. Then everybody would have been looking for a way to blame, and charge, the pool owner. Nobody would have been saying to just drop it. That’s why you have higher fences and locks on the gates. It’s not only about protecting kids from drowning, but also protecting pool owners from getting sued. Those cops are totally negligent if they didn’t understand that.
Breaking a lock is break and enter; vandalism leaving everything a mess. Pics/vids of everything, including their faces as proof; if OP didn't fear for his life, he'd probably take it up the chain of command. But we all know how little closed towns work. He'd get booked for traffic infringements before leaving his driveway...20 x a day...
First story: normally I would NEVER condone saying smth like that but in this situation I think it was quite understandable and justified because the guy was treating her horribly even in front of their friend group (which she def needs another friend group if not one of them told the guy off or at least tried to deescalate especially when she told them straight up she didn’t like the way he treated her), he wasn’t trying to hide it. That mistreatment of her kept building up slowly until of course she’s gonna go “from 0-100 real quick”, she’s gonna be in constant defensive mode around the guy if she’s treated like that all the time. People really love to look in the opposite direction when bullying happens, but the SECOND that the bullied!victim fights back THEY’RE the ones that are villainized and the bullies are victimized. Why is it everything the bully puts their victim through is just forgotten the moment they get hurt. It doesn’t matter if the victim fights back that one time, that doesn’t compare to the possible weeks, months, prolly years of mistreatment bullies have out their victims through. Can we please normalize Bullies getting consequences and telling them “you deserved that” when their victim fights back? Please?
2nd story the Teens are destroying their own future by their own choices, they trespassed and trashed his property-I would’ve pressed charges too! The fact that they did this and didn’t even care to clean up shoes they’ve prolly done this before and the person let it go
Idc 🤷🏾♀️ how close of friends we are, I’m not sharing shit with you when I win the lottery, the husband’s dumb-the more you split the money up the less it’ll be for you, but of course the husband wants to act like “he’s my best friend so I should split it up with him! 😭 “ get on somewhere! You can share *YOUR HALF* of the money *WITH* Tim, but you *WILL NOT* give 1/3 of this money *TO TIM!*
Technically it’s OP’s ticket so it’s OP’s money, not hers & the husbands. I think Op should hold onto the money and then later give the husband his half after he understands why they cannot give 1/3 to his *“bf”* (cause that is kinda sus tho, like why is your first thought process to split your money with your bff who had/was no contribution or help whatsoever to your wife winning it????) then the husband can gladly spend his money on his bff if he wants but he ain’t finna fuck with my half of the share
Fr she fought back with words which is better than actions (i think)
Fr kids get away with stuff just because they're kids man make their actions have consequences as well
I'd probably give his bf like 20 dollars or something (idk how much money the lottery gives) cuz it my money man but im generous so but oh I'll spend a LOT on my pet cats they deserve everything 😁
All NTA.
1. The first girl's comment is justified. The guy is rude and always makes fun of her. Some people who defended him are just stupid.
2. That is OP's property and some teens think it's okay to break in someone's property to party, so OP has the right to press charges. Who in the minds of people think talking OP out of pressing charges and defending the teen over a party?
3. It's not selfish of OP for keeping the money. Tim is her husband's friend, not OP's, so why should she give him a lottery ticket?
Pretty sure over half of the teens were kids belonging to members of the police force; given their reluctance to do anything whatsoever, let alone let OP file a report. We'd see which parents came out of the woodwork, if OP printed off flyers with as many of the teens' faces as he could get, and stuck them all over town lol. Bet there'd be some "charges filed" then....
@@Kayenne54Or even upload their faces on social media for the whole world to see, along with the caption "teens break into my house, set up a pool party and trash my property while I'm away for 2 weeks"
For the lottery wife, maybe you should first ask Adam what Tim has been doing for HIM? Are they friends with benefits? Did they KILL a man together? Is Tim secretly the father of your children? Why is your husband so insistent that Tim gets 'his fair share'? What do you--or your husband--OWE him for? Think about that; you MIGHT need a lawyer after all.
I think the husband has a fancy woman on the side that he wants to give money to and thinks that if he uses Tim as a cover story the wife won’t suspect
Story 2: there's an update, people in the comments kept saying that some of those kids could've been related to the cops and that's why they weren't doing anything, so he talked to a friend that grow up there and showed him the tape, his friend reconize one of the kids as the son/daughter of the mayor, and other 2 as cop's kids. He decide to let it go because he heard stories about people that press charges against some cop's kid and he was tormented by them, with fines, harassment and such, so he got scared and drop the charges.
So the guy decided to drop the charges because of what happens if a cop's kid is sued? That's fucked up like, I feel so bad for OP. First something wrong happens to him, then he's forced to drop the punishment to avoid humiliation.
@@saimawasti9598 I feel bad for him too, there was a lot of comments telling him to be careful, they told him a lot of things that happened to that guy, cops pulling him over for ridiculous reasons and giving him tickets, harassed him at his home, his family, Op was really afraid something similar happen to him because he lives in a small town.
@@adawongkennedy6570 Yeah. It must've been a hard decision for him. But it was better then the total humiliation he would've faced in the future. I hope those teenagers at least learn their lesson and not trespass and vandalise other people's properties anymore. :(
@@adawongkennedy6570 Also, It's pretty strange that the guy you mentioned, presses charges and gets tormented, when he could've pressed charges for a reason. It's like high school bullies getting victimized and the true victims being punished for fighting back.
I was sued by my bully and they won so I can definitely relate to the OP wanting it to be over. When you’re going through it all it’s soul destroying, especially if they are connected. I had nails hammered into all four of my tyres on my car, I had notes attached to the windscreen of my car and letters throughout my neighbourhood letterboxes with my full name, address and a coloured photo of me - it was awful and soul destroying. I hope and pray every single day that that pos 💩 gets their karma but so far it hasn’t happened unfortunately 😞 they just got to enjoy yet another platform where they could bully me, since it wasn’t enough that they made my life a living hell in school and then as adults they posted defamation but then played the victim and won when I defended myself 🙄 I gave up on the world after that
i've gone through a situation similar to the first story. the only difference is that i didn't have any close friends in that circle and i was basically on my own. this guy kept joking, making fun of me and no one batted an eye and when i brought it to their attention, said guy was silent, not a peep while the others defended him saying he's such a nice person and i just take things way out of proportion. i never got my justice, instead i was labeled as crazy and one of them even tried being my therapist while another played nice trying to find out why i had an outburst about one innocent man (imo a 30 something year old child) and when i TRIED telling my side and how i felt with his words, they accused me for being dramatic. so much for trying to defend myself
Lotto winners. Start by hiring two lawyers from two different towns. The second lawyer is to audit the first lawyer and form some revocable trusts to provide for your relatives as you see fit. If you're young it's probably wiser to take the winnings over a period of years so you can learn from your earlier money management mistakes. If you're as old as I am set up your trusts so that your kids and/or relatives don't get the money all at once but over a period of years. They will need to learn from their money management mistakes too.
The girl in the first story was definitely justified
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The pool party one: OP did the right thing pressing this issue. One: the teens broke into their property. It doesn't matter if they never went inside, the outside is still their property. Two: If something had happened to one of the teens, I'm sure the families would be jumping at the chance to sue OP. I'm not a lawyer, so I don't know if they would even win a case if that did happen but I imagine it would be chaos for OP regardless. OP followed the rules by getting a new fence and locks on the gates and now it's time for these teens to learn the rules that breaking and entering is never okay. It's sad that OP had to push the cops to do their job. Even if the teens don't get arrested or have this on their records, they need to be told that what they did was breaking the law and next time things may not work out so well for them. To just let this issue slide is doing no one any good
0:38 *PLEASE STOP SAYING THAT SOMEONE TREATING YOU BADLY IS A SIGN OF ATTRACTION!!!*
That shit is one of the most prevalent and horrible things to teach a person. It essentially means that abuse = love.
4:50 yes, please, let your kids act like horse’s asses until one of them gets hurt, then blame whoever the property owner was who’s property was being used without permission.
8:39 Adam needs to listen to his wife. There are few things that bring out the ugly side of people like money will. Heck, maybe OP should have Adam watch a few documentaries regarding what happened to lotto winners. It’s not pretty.
In the very first story, what is up with her friends because they should've immediately stood up for her when he started making jokes about her. He didn't know her and she dang well didn't know him at all so that's automatically a form of bullying and disrespect. She just had enough and told him off, and in my honest opinion she has nothing to feel sorry about at all because he started all of that. In the second story, why exactly did the cops try to talk him out of it? All of those bad teens trespassed onto his property, and they swam in his pool too and all of this was without his permission. I would press charges to the fullest because how dare they violate my property like that, and what pisses me off the most is not a single one of those teens came forward and actually confessed to him about what they did. In the third story, congratulations to her for hitting it big and winning the lottery. First of all, don't tell anybody about your exciting news because if you do then they will for sure start begging for money, and secondly don't make any expensive purchases just yet. Much love my dear sweet friend!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!
With the pool party one, I’m with the dude on that, what if someone got hurt? He would’ve been liable.
Pool party, givesme the feeling that the gf and mum were in in this
Story 2, the problems are the parents of the teens. The mayors daughter, childs from shopowners and so on. A comment statet that a friend had the same problem and pressed charges against the teens, since then the police would make that persons life hell with lots of phanton crimes. Another comment said that another spoiled brat k*lled his ex and the parents paid the police to lose the evidence or a cop where it finally got to light that he r*ped young woman and what did the police do? They lost and destroyed evidence. Small towns in the USA are even more wolrds of there own
Not saying that I approve of trespassing, but what happened to leaving no evidence? It was bad enough to break the locks (those aren't free!!) but on top of that they left the backyard trashed!
The response makes me wonder if this pool party was suggested by an adult. There are a few stories out there of parents that tell their kids that it's OK to use the neighbours pool, and then nobody bothers to ask first.
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0:05: She was right with her response to this jerk. Hope he changes his ways before he gets his ass kicked for mouthing off to the wrong person.
2:47: He's justified for wanting to press charges to those teens for breaking in and trespassing on his property. And shame on the cops and residents for brushing this off. This seems to be acceptable behavior these days. I mean, what if something drastic happened. He's the one who's going to get sued, and he's the one who'd ultimately pay the price.
5:22: I think it's suspicious to give such a large share to Tim. It's their money; they should split 50/50, and if Adam wants to give part of his share to Tim, that's fine, but not split it in thirds with him. They probably should hire a trusted lawyer or financial advisor to claim the money if they want to remain anonymous about it.
I agree with you
Right like how r u gonna shame someone for rightfully pressing charges against people for breaking in and trespassing on his property. That’s like shaming someone for pressing charges against someone that robbed them cause “it wasn’t that valuable, let it go”
Those guy friends in the first story are wrong. OP didn't go 0-100 at the drop of a hat. Her fuse has been slowly burning away for a while and when he showed up at the door she finally blew up.
First story: Thats rude. Do it again
The husband wants his friend to have some money so badly, let him give the friend some of his. You need to hire a lawyer and financial advisor.
Story 1: she was justified to say that to him. Sure it was a terrible thing to say but he definitely needed a wake up call. I don't think she was being immature at all
Story 2: Why is everyone against OP here? His girlfriend, his mom and pretty much the entire town seems to be on the teens' side. I have a feeling the town was in on it in some way.
Okay nvm I found out there was an update to the post. I don't agree with dropping the charges but tbh it was better that he did that for his own safety. And after the mini update I think OP should talk to his GF about the issue and why it's wrong to defend a crime. If she still doesn't agree he should seriously re-evaluate his relationship. He should cut ties with his mom and anyone else that didn't back him up and eventually move out of that town since the people there don't seem to be pleasant in any way. At least he got the parents to pay for the damages.
First story, the girl went scorched earth. The last story, the wife needs to consult with a lawyer. The husband may be entitled to half, but he needs to split his half with his best friend.
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...I think I understad what the husband is trying to do by adding the friend and pretend they got that money from a business ((wouldn't this be a form of money laundering?)) But of course he could propose a new business to his friend instead of just giving the money away.
You really don't want to brag about suddenly having F. U. money. Many lotto winners have ended up in a worse financial situation, some have been robbed and killed.
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Tim can get 1/4, ie half of the husbands money.
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Never reveal any wealth you win or inherit, there are vultures always waiting to strike. This isn't even a joke, people have been killed over this sadly. I would go as far as to say, pretend to be very modest or "low" on money so that you don't become a target. The world is not a safe enough place to be a show off
These stories piss me off because idk if the assholes get what they deserve. The story with the pool party especially.
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Something is ODD about the lottery husbands need to include his friend as an 'equal' member of the winnings.
1/3 is not fair imo it's too much. the husband should get half and the wife half and tim should get money out of the husband's half.
The lottery story…go to the lawyer. Get a trust to claim the lottery. Then split the trust, 1/3 for the wife, 1/3 for the kids & 1/3 for the husband. The husband can split his 1/3 with his friend. Have the trust documents say which part of the trust pays for what…meaning if the husband decides to give all of his money to his friend & live off the wife’s part of the trust…no. 1/2 of the family’s living expenses will come out of each of the spouse’s trusts or a set amount each month from each one of the spouse’s trust comes out for living expenses.
The lotto story: The husband probably has a fancy woman on the side and wants to siphon money to her so he wants to use the friend as a front for the money dwindling down rapidly. I bet that was the reason. Sorry I always comment negatively but I don’t trust easily 😂
The first story, I personally don't agree with. It felt pretty uncalled for because he didn't say anything rude at that time, he had just asked to speak privately. For all we know he could've wanted to apologize or something. I'm not saying he's right though, it was pretty bad of him to insult her like that. I just think it was pretty uncalled for in that situation. I also personally just don't really agree with fighting fire with fire, ya know? I don't wanna lower myself down to rude people's level.
Second story, those cops aren't really doing a good job.. I don't get why they're so adamant and refusing to reprimand those teens. There is the saying "teens will be teens", and that's true in a way but also they need to learn so they can be better, instead of being excused because they're teens.
Third story, they're not wrong for not wanting to share the money nor are they selfish. Winning the lottery is a big deal, and it can be quite... touchy in a way as well? with how people can be. I can understand the want to share things with your best friend, but I agree, they dont have to share 1/3rd. They can just give some to them later on.
Yeah that makes sense but the OP did say it happened multiple times, in front of their friend group despite her telling them she didn’t like being treated that way. I think it’s because she’s been mistreated like that multiple times prolly for a while to the point where she become instantly defensive, taking even things that aren’t rude to heart to protect herself since no one around her (her own friend group who just watched and never intervened) was going to do it
@@nataliawashington872 Oh yeah, that's understandable. The whole situation just wasn't really pleasant.
Yeah I agree on the first one. I think it was childish to take it that far and make an insult so personal. And I also felt like he might try to apologize in a 1v1 conversation. She could’ve just roasted his appearance back or some other trivial insult.
@@adr3annaLook. I respectfully disagree with you on this one. That douchebag insulted the girl for absolutely no reason at all. And her friends never had her back, but asked her to just drop it. She didn't even do anything to him. So I think it's not childish of her. But fair and justifiable that she finally defends herself by insulting him hard. At least he'll never mistreat her again. Weather that insult was too personal or not, it still serves him right though.
as someone who was in the same position as op in the first story (the guy did worse to me) i would’ve said the exact same shit to him. i couldn’t give less of a damn if he tried apologizing to me (which he didn’t).
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Technically it's the wife's money not the husband so he can't negotiating anything
That's only true if all finances that are personal/not needed for shared property, but even then the husband in a divorce could gain half that money, just like if the roles were reversed, if OP can get evidence for anything like cheating or if they have a prenup then there's the chance she won't have to pay him but that depends on if where she lives is an "at fault" country/state.
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If the wife doesn't feel like sharing her won lottery amount with her husband's friend's, its totally fine... she won it, it should be her decision with whom she wants to share... or not share at all....
Personally, with the first story I would never stoop down to the same level as that guy. I understand why she did it, but this all comes down to the question of, "Who do you want to be in this story?" I feel there are better ways to deal with this problem. With the second story, yeah, he should definitely press charges. It's funny how everyone else is fine with teenagers breaking and entering and vandalizing this man's property, but it makes me wonder how they'd react if this happened to them. I'm also thinking some of the teenagers might be some of the cops' children. It seems strange they're highly against pressing charges. With the third story, never tell anyone you've won the lottery. Greed had a tendency to bring people together, and not in a good way.
Idk if they live in the apartment together i forgot but if so i would audibly cry in my locked room and avoid them, show i don't like him and im afraid of him, if they ask "why are you avoiding us?" Cuz i dont wanna be around that guy "why are you crying?" It's because of that guy. Decline every invitation of which he appears in. Make a sad face everytime. "Come on he can't be that bad!" Yeah that's what you think, and you're not me. "He was joking around!" Jokes are when every party involved laughs about it not cry about it. Fr start drawing sad stuff in my book and leave it open "what is this in your book why are you sad?" Oh it's nothing don't worry about it I'm fine you don't have to worry about me now come on let's go have some cake! 😁 Start writing diary entries about me being sad because of him act sad but then a few days act cheerful oh wait no no no that's bad i might get canceled uhm back up back up "we think you're just manipulating us to feel bad for you!" Yeah? Well that's what you think. Really mess with them gaslight gatekeep girlboss 😁
Well, it was necessary of her to do that and I think it's well-deserved and justifiable. For all we know, if she reported her problems, she'll most probably labelled as a childish snitch for "telling on him". She told her friends, but they all said to just ignore him. After everything, she was eventually gonna fight back and give him a taste of his own medicine. Personal or not, that insult will definitely make him think twice or 3 times before he opens his mouth and insults her or anyone else again.
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First story: OP is completely justified in standing up for herself. However, blaming that guy for his mother's character shortcomings isn't. Or for being adopted. Stick to the actual issue when defending oneself. Don't get personal. It's not relevant what he called OP, what is relevant is that he felt okay treating her like dirt in her friend group. Of course she can stand up for herself and defend herself, but sinking to school yard level isn't. Put his own behaviour back onto him. Stick to the real issue. If someone is born with one ear larger than the other, you don't bring that up; it's beyond their control. What is IN THEIR CONTROL is what is relevant. And I can totally understand her reluctance to have any more dealings with him, but she missed a great opportunity to sort this out privately, and he may have been about to apologise...
I don't think he was gonna apologise as narcissists and bullies have no remorse for their actions. He could've even bullied her even more, to the point where she'll break down and feel depressed. So I think she did an amazing job telling that AH off. He'll most likely never mess with her again after that.
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It's not Adam's money in my opinion, you got the tickets not him, save it for yourself
i'm so curious ab what he was going to say to op tho
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I disagree. When you win the lottery you don't always win millions. People have their own debts to pay, their own bills to pay, and their own family to take care of. If you're struggling, worry about yourself before you worry about anyone else. Because the same people you help probably wouldn't bat an eye if you or your family ended up homeless.
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Honestly, I don't think what the girl in the first story said was justified. I feel like it's an unwritten rule to never insult a person's family/parents. If someone insults your looks, insult their looks back; there was no reason for her to go as far as to bring up his parents. It's less like punching a bully because they punched you and more like stabbing a bully because they punched you.
Same. What she did just felt childish and she made it too personal. Learn how to roast someone back when they make fun of you. And it seemed like he might’ve been trying to apologize with a 1v1 conversation, but who knows.
@@adr3anna right? I thought so too
@@kawaiiamarii2240But that douchebag insulted the girl for absolutely no reason at all. And her friends never defended her at all. So she had to fight back eventually. OP's response was well-deserved and justifiable. She finally defends herself by insulting him with something so personal. It'll make him think twice before bullying an innocent woman again. You reap what you sow.
@@saimawasti9598 when someone insults you, insult them back; don't ever bring their family into it. Like I said, it's an unwritten rule. She went way too far "defending" herself, especially considering that he didn't even insult her at that time, so it's not a heat-of-the-moment thing either.
1st story: I was with her until she revealed what she said to him. I get that he was being horrendous to you but him asking to speak with you privately seemed like he wanted to potentially apologize to you. And you choose to insult him for something he couldn't control. You don't ever make fun of or insult a child because they are adopted, that is absolutely not their fault!! And he never used it as an excuse for his behavior.
2nd story: I hope he continues pressing charges against those involved, they literally stalked their neighbor to find out that he was gone and planned an entire party in his backyard. They had to of literally been studying him to realize they could break into his house at that specific time. They damaged and vandalized his property as well. I hope he not only continues to press charges but that he goes over the officers' heads and gets an investigation launched on them for how they conduct themselves since they are bullies. Trying to bully him into remaining silent when he literally had property damage is ridiculous.
3rd story: That's pretty stupid to split it 3 ways because "you can explain it easily..." They don't disclose who won the lottery unless you give them permission to do so. No one will know you made the money unless he plans to throw it in people's faces that he won. Technically the wife won it so she has the biggest say in what happens with the money completely. Instead of giving him a third of the entire thing you can literally just ask him if he could have a gift or a vacation without any financial restrictions what would he get or where would he go. Then gift him a vacation with his wife or something. All you say is that you've been saving up to get him a really nice gift someday because he's your best friend and that is that.
Look. That douchebag insulted the girl for absolutely no reason at all. And her friends never had her back at all. So she had to stand up for herself eventually. I don't think that OP has anything to feel sorry for and it's justifiable that she finally defends herself by insulting him hard. He should learn how to have respect for people, instead of picking on others. And a child? Really? He's in COLLEGE. It says so that most people are in there early to mid 20s. I think it's ridiculous that he's in college and he's bullying her like he's still in high school or something.
Man I hate how vitriolic our society is. There are very few situations where what the girl in the first story said is alright. If someone is making petty insults towards your physical appearance and you think the correct response is to ghost them and then attack their tumultuous family life, then you're just completely immature. Talk to them like an adult, it's not hard.
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The girl in the first story was childish and made the insult too personal. All she got were trivial insults about her appearance so she could have roasted his appearance back. But she found out very personal information about him/ his family and used that. And it seemed like he might have been trying to apologize with a 1v1 conversation, but idk. It doesn’t help that no one spoke up when the guy insulted her either so I understand how she overreacted, but she still took it too far.
Agreed. I'm not saying she needed to be the "bigger person" but she could've used something that wasn't so deep.
@@rachelmartin5187 But that douchebag insulted the girl for absolutely no reason at all. And her friends never had her back at all. So she had to defend herself eventually. I don't think that OP has anything to feel sorry for and it's justifiable that she finally defends herself by insulting him hard and being personal about it. It'll make him think twice before being an AH towards an innocent woman again. He should learn how to have respect for people, instead of picking on others. You reap what you sow.