Dating and Relationships w/ Michaela Okland -- FULL EPISODE
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- Опубліковано 22 сер 2024
- Sending so much love to Michaela and Mat's Family and Friends during this difficult time. 🤍
TW: suicide
Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by Michaela Okland, the gal behind She Rates Dogs and She Rates Dogs: The Podcast!! This episode dives in to stories relating to relationships and dating.. some more light hearted and buggy than others. Stories include some listener write ins about a woman whose boyfriend is comparing her to his ex and a woman whose boyfriends brother may have a crush on her... On to the Reddit Stories.. which include a woman whose boyfriend showed his mom their sex painting, another woman whose bae is eating ants, a woman whose husband is getting in character by being a beetle and hiding under their couch, a woman whose fiancé got mad she wouldn't share her food, and a guy who threw away his girlfriend’s dead best friends shirt...
Michaela also blesses us with some quality She Rates Dogs material. Be sure to check out her podcast for more!!
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I'm so sorry you lost the footage 😭😭😭 honestly seeing the defeat in your face hurt my heart. We still loved the episode anyways. Thank you for going through with sharing it with us!
It was soooo painful. This was one of my favorites too. Lots of tears were shed. Thank you for the support!!
Funny thing is, in Metamorphosis, one of the big consequences of the bug transformation is that the guy's family gets disgusted and alienates him. He does spend a lot of time under a coach, also.
It’s almost poetic how this dudes method acting led to him literally becoming his character and his consequences 😭😭
For the Taylor story, I’d just start comparing my boyfriend to my ex and call it even. Be petty and have fun, queens.
Same for real like you wanna play games 🎯 let's play
Pettyness ist not a good foundation for a healthy relationship. Sit him down, talk to him about it and if this doesn't get you anywhere, break it off.
Yes maaaam
Game on!!!
I was thinking that, like even better if it's during adult intimacy hahaha! Not that she'd want to do that with him again though...
I'm not gonna lie...Morgan you and your podcast have really helped me recently. My mental health has really taken a turn for the worst this year, and since upon discovering your show it's brought me a lot of comfort and is a good distraction. It genuinely brings me a laugh listening to the insane stories you find. Thank you 💜
I’m so so happy we can bring you some happiness and comfort ❤️ hang in there. It’ll get better and easier. You deserve all the happiness!! 💕💕💕
Totally with you on this one❤️ it’s such a good distraction and lifts my mood so much
Agreed. I went through a bad breakup recently and left my abusive home, the change has been difficult but Morgan’s podcast has helped me so much. Her and her guests are extremely level headed compared to the people i’ve had in my life. This woman is an angel lol🤍
@@TwoHotTakes me too! And has helped me grow as a person.
this is too cute 💕
HE SPIT IN HER FOOD!?????
the rage that went through my body is unreal.
Same
Soooo gross and disrespectful! That would be a deal breaker for me. I'd dump his a$$ because it's not about the ruining of the dinner, it's the fact he double downed on it, and blamed her when she was just trying to have the rest of her dinner! To me the spitting is just as bad as if he were to raise a hand at her! What a spoiled brat manchild!
I’d have just thrown it at his face “open wide hungry lil guy 🤬”
Omfg the whole beetle story I was driving to pick my kids up and started howling in the van and can’t stop laughing! Thinking bout a grown ass man wearing a cardboard thing and doing all that I’m tearing as I wrote this 🪲
Story 1 4:17
Story 2 12:40
Story 3 19:19
Story 4 30:50
Story 5 28:20
Morgan Message! 29:21
Story 6 37:24
Story 7 52:06
Story 8 1:02:34
❤thanksss
I could kiss you
Half the time I’m doing something while playing the YT video so the lost footage is perfectly fine with me, I know I could just listen to podcast but I do like to be able to see the faces when I do have the downtime to watch so I just stick with the YT videos. Love your channel Morgan thank you for all the work you put into this :)
Thank you so much. I was so sad when I realized it stopped ugh
sameeee i don't listen to podcast version bc od unskippable ads lol so no faces was fine with me!
i usually watch the podcast while crocheting or drawing
My ex wouldn’t buy me stuffed animals because he said he’s the only one who should be cuddled at night . Not my dog , not my stuffed animals . He threw away a very old teddy bear my Bestfriend from kindergarten gave me who is now deceased . He wouldn’t let me hang out with my girl Bestfriend without him because he was scared I would leave him for her . Turns out I’m not a lesbian and I dodged a bullet when I left him .
Wtf🙃
I have a stuffed animal from back when I was 4. If someone ever tried to throw it out I don't know how I would have reacted. Some things are invaluable!
“Turns out Im not a lesbian” 😂 good job tho on leaving!!!
wow! So toxic! Glad you dumped that narcissistic man child
I have a pet net full of giraffe stuffies that’s been gifted to me. I had them in college for comfort and only after ghosting my… attacker to put it in nice terms… did he decide to call me a child for having them😭 they’re meaningful- screw him for sure. I hope yours at least showered on the reg🤣
as an art historian, that sex painting is really pretty wow. their colour choice is beautiful and very jackson pollock with the red and white splashes. ngl, i’d love to make one lmaooo
and if you frame it, you can just say it’s an abstract expressionist piece from an unknown artist. like theres so many ways to skirt around saying its a ‘sex painting’ haha
edit: the metamorphosis bug man method actor has me fucking rolling. i was on the treadmill and tripped myself laughing, i was not expecting that omfgfhsjd
the referral to Kafka´s The Metamorphosis as "that horrifying play" and the image of a guy cast as Gregor Samsa hiding under the couch all day with a cardboard box to be the "beetle" and do "beeteling" is honestly the most hilarious thing i CAN´T
Like this is TRIPLE as funny to anyone who knows The Metamorphosis. I´m only referring to Samsa as "Beetle guy" from now on.
I read that short story last year in Swedish.... please help me
please i just read that story in english and now i have to write an essay on it 😭
@@gwenwilliams2098 me in Swedish last year. It's horrible, and something I wish to erase from my brain...
I studied this in a level drama and I agree with ‘that horrifying play’ as a description 😂😭
bettle guy >>> gregor samsa 💀
Me, watching this, stoned
Morgan: oops no more video
Me: makes sense
~10 minutes later~
Me: wait why isn’t the video moving? Also damn this dude is a beetle
This made me laugh way too hard 🤣
literally me currently 😂
😂😂😂
This is legit me rn
❤
Before I listen to this episode I just wanted to say I’m thinking of Michaela and I’m thinking of Mat Georgie and his family as he was unfortunately passed away in a hit in run and I hope those responsible are found or come forward and may he Rest In Peace.
listening to Michaela react to and talk about the deceased best friend story after the fact is so heartbreaking :(
I just got to that question and had to pause for a few minutes before listening. so so so sad
my exact thoughts like…goosebumps my heart hurt for her
First story: It honestly just sounds like him and his ex reconnected and now he’s chasing away and trying to get his current gf (op) to leave him so that he’s not looked at as the bad guy/cheater
I used to never understand why people listen to podcasts until I started listening to yours. I cant even listen to other people’s podcast 😭 I love these videos so much. Please continue
Morgan apologizing for the video getting cut gives me such a great image of how she is.
Morgan you are amazing and we would never get mad at you. We love you ❤️
I’ve been in an abusive relationship and the story about the guy spitting in her food is a red flag. She needs to leave. It will get worse!! Trust me!
These are progressively making me want to be more and more single every time I listen and my bf didn’t even do anything lmao
For real 🤣 "Am I the asshole for leaving my boyfriend after listening to a podcast on UA-cam?...."
@@angelr9096 underrated comment lmaoo
If they have an ant problem in the apartment, no doubt the other tenants do too. So I would think people are putting out ant poisioning. This man is going to get very sick! 😬😬😬
I was in a situation like that, but it was my ex FATHER who would brush up against me, blow kisses to me, want to go do things with just me and him. I instantly told my boyfriend he said he "believed" but when he confronted his dad EVERYTHING got flipped back on me and I ended it. So hopefully he supports her.
The plate spitting one - instant breakup. That’s alarming.
The T-shirt thing - he should have also asked her so he knew which one to always avoid too. Or like tried to find a way to save the shirt in a cute keepsake type of thing to smooth things over
I would have left for both reasons. Low vibration men.
I hate when people minimize others connections to things related to deceased loved one!!💔💔
its okay the footage got lost, this episode as a regular podcast has me rolling. I love it so much!!
Going over to your boyfriends mothers home to help… and they treat you like that. You are not the asshole. They are emotionally abusive.
Podcast came out at a great time, sending love to michaela, and the family of mat george ❤️❤️
Omg, I wonder if you’ll find the beetle guy? I’m so curious about who that could be. That story was hilarious. Lol
This is the best podcast! This year I am really struggling with my mental health and I also developed an eating disorder and listening to this podcast made me feel more confident and comfortable with my problems because I don't feel alone. Thank you so much❤️
So happy you found us and we can help.. just to hear we've made an impact and your life a bit better is so special to us. ❤️
To add to Morgan’s admission, one time my bf and I were absolutely plastered and ended up having sex and I told him “you’re better than my bf” 🥴 I’ve literally never cheated in my life I have no clue where that came from, and he also ignored it until the next day
damn! i can’t decide whether i’d end up taking that as a compliment, and insult or if i’d just be upset. if you don’t mind my asking… was he upset? or???
even just imagining this happening to me has me not being wanting to eat for a week
@@emifukakado-msjoke at first I couldn’t tell he was so casual about it when he brought it up but there’s no way that didn’t hurt. I offered to let him go through my phone but at that point I lived in his grandmas house with him and didn’t have a car, I couldn’t be physically cheating even if I wanted to at that point. I’d like to note that he didn’t even skip a beat when it happened, he just kept thrusting like it was a completely normal thing to say. Also ever since that night I have never been able to drink the same way again so I think my body is physically rejecting the level of embarrassment I reduce myself to when I’m drunk (which is honestly so, so fair)
I “watch” these while grooming dogs anyways, I don’t have any time to actually watch the video anyways. Realistically listening to the podcast would make more sense but I like peeking in on you guys every now and then. So no stress about the video cutting out!! We really just love your takes anyways❤️
When you lose someone you try to hold on to anything you can about them. It doesn't matter if you have one thing or ten. Once that person is gone everything that remains feels like the only thing stopping your loved one from disappearing. So to op it might have been just a shirt compared to everything else but to her it might have been a huge reminder that her friend was there. Shirts also retain smell somewhat and I know lots of people who use old shirts to hug and de-stim.
I haven’t listened to the whole ant story yet I’m at 33 mins in, BUT what if he’s causing/deliberately contributing to the ant problem to maintain the supply.
Pretty sure metamorphosis is set in a bedroom, so there’s no couch in the play and he really did not need to practice in the living room lol
there is a couch. its a big part of the story as its where he hides whenever someone comes into his room.
Michaela saying no thank you to the guy at the bar 🤣🤣🤣 one time at a bar i was getting a drink and a man walked up to me saying “hey shorty whats you’re name?” and i looked him dead and the face and just said no and he just walked away speechless
I reply like this all the time so hearing Morgan say she actually gives them her number like noooo 😭😭
Whenever one of the girls I’m with feels uncomfortable I go up to them, grab my friend and just walk away. Really thought everyone handled situations like this but again I don’t go out much lol
We definitely forgive you for not having video of the episode. We have all been there and we have all had that same meltdown. So thankful for helpful family to get us through :)
The man who spit in his gf food it’s over like the relationship is over ! He was beyond childish.
So excited for another full length episode! Love you!!!
The lemon flavor in the ants is probably the ant killer he's tasting 😂
For the story where the boyfriend threw away the dead best friend’s tshirt-I’m not sure this guy has ever lost someone he cared about. If so, that’s great, I’m happy for him. But it’s a terrible pain that never fully goes away. It’s just something you can eventually ignore. He clearly doesn’t understand that, or otherwise is too self-centered to care. I wonder if he’s actually jealous of the dead best friend in an odd way, feeling like his girlfriend spends more time thinking of her memories than him. I can understand having feelings, but sometimes we need to shake off stuff like that and think of others instead. What he did was very wrong.
The food sharing/leftovers stealing guy was being overly childish, unreasonable and ridiculous!! But spitting in my plate of food would mean the end of the engagement and me moving out. Period!!
And the hosts said the same things I said by the time they gave their reactions. Was giving my reaction after they finished the story. We ladies know what's up. 😩😩
Guys I think boyfriend in the last one read the journals. He really emphasized that part and never brought it back up, probably because he read the journals, accidentally revealed that when he said something to her after the shirt got thrown out.
18:30 whenever I don’t want to actually give my number to a guy, I give them my dad’s number (with his permission) it has resulted in some very interesting texts and calls 😂
This is epic! Tell me he has a thick accent, please. Doesn’t really matter which accent, any strong accent makes the thought so much better haha
@@ShanaLawson He can do a pretty awesome Mexican accent since his first language is Spanish but he doesn’t have a day to day accent lol
This is super nice. But be careful idk if you know but if you look a number up on Google you get their full name and address!!!
OMG re-listening to this episode with my husband. When Michaela called the ant eating guy an apex predator, my husband goes “aaahhh yes, the aardvark” 😂😂
found this podcast this week. i love your neutral views and opinions on things. morgan is such a chill and obviously caring person
I absolutely love this podcast the beetle story had me laughing so much! THANK YOU FOR THE LAUGH LOL
R.I.P video evidence of the podcast, how will I survive without seeing Morgan’s lovely face 😞
I feel like if the beetle husband did his beetle-ing in the park, people would probably be disturbed or frightened, so he could probably get the cops called on him if he did that there. 🤣
I absolutely love you guys !! I love listening to these story's when I'm cooking or driving or anything I'm doing
I ABSOLUTELY love this podcast, you all have helped me through my PPD, dealing with my anxiety and how to handle the toxic people in my life. Thank you so much! You’re the family/friends that I always needed in my life.♥️🙏🏼
The only time I talk about my one ex is when I'm talking about the straight trauma im still getting througheven though I was only with him for 3 months
The Bug Man storry: It‘s a Story from the Book "Frank Kafkas Erzählungen". De German Writer wrote a story about a man that wakes up as a almost 6feet bug. He is afraid to show himself to his family so he won‘t go out of the room. The longer he is a bug, the more he feels like a bug. He hides under his bed, stops eating, looses his job and in the end dies. Very very weird story.
Kafka's Metamorphosis is insane 🤣 I heard a promotional advertisement for it when I was little and it terrified me! I was only able to read it when I got older 😅
I listen to these while I work. I love listening to them! I’m sure my fiancé hates it when we’re making dinner and I’m like “What would you do IF- *inserts scenario from Podcast*”😂
But the “Release your bug husband into the wild SENT me😂😂😂
I have binged every single episode on your channel, i am obsessed!!!
I died at the bug story!! 😂😂😂
Hey girl. All the theatre practice paid off. Oklahoma! and Legally Blonde were iconic.
Omg, the hand on my tights is my worst nightmare everytime I'm talking to a guy. Because of childhood traumas I always freeze when they do that (and no, I never indicate that they are free to do that, they just do) and then I never speak to them again.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your podcast! It's helping me to set so many boundaries with people.
I’d say the girl with the creepy bf sibling needs to aggressively let him now like give him the looks and be very cut and dry about this.
The last one gives me chills and makes me so sad specially after looking at the date. Michaela lost her bff one day before this was posted. Makes you think about how life can be so unexpected.
The beetle guy story cracked me up 😂🤣🤣
The spit in the food one is just clear contempt, one of the Four Horsemen in relationships, the theory from the Gottman Institute. It’s one of the predictors of a relationship not lasting. There is NO respect in that relationship.
second story: time to start being mean to the brother and tell him to STOP
The one who the boyfriend who threw away the dead best friend's shirt, he actually deleted his post. What a drama queen, ugh.
So weird watching just a still picture video but I will take anything I can! Love this channel!
I knowww. Video for this weeks ep is safe I’ve already checked ❤️
People ask me if I have a boyfriend and I laugh as if it's the funniest joke I ever heard, works pretty damn well
So glad the audio was saved
Beetle actor had me cracking up 🤣
Omg yes I'm literally laughing so hard with my toddler asleep on me and trying to contain myself 💀
“Beetles don’t have couches!” 😂
I'm about to be 36 and I've had the same best friend since we were 9. I would be devastated if I lost my best friend so I know how that OPs girlfriend must feel. I broke up with someone a long time ago because he didn't want me to talk to my bestie
Loved loved this episode! once again thank you reddit for making my life feel more normal
Love this podcast I’m in my final year of DPT. This podcast is helping with my mental health, it’s like going to coffee to gossip. I laugh, I cry, I Cuss, and I am so thankful I found y’all!
I know this video is old but I am rewatching some old podcasts and the boyfriend tshirt story has recently became relatable to me. My mom passed away in August and I have a box of her clothes in my closet that I will go to and sniff and hug. Just stuff that remind me of her. If my boyfriend came and threw it out, I would be livid. Grief isn’t something you “get over”. It’s something you learn to live with. The boyfriend must be leaving something out for everyone to hate him this much. But perhaps breaking up is the best route as it seems she won’t be able to get over it and it will just become toxic for the both of them. Maybe after this guy loses someone close to him he can reflect and understand why she reacted the way she did.
"I dont want anyone to come in and talk to me for hours" ... while literally recording hours long podcast! 🤪🙃🤭
Bro as soon as your said beetle I KNEW it was Metamorphosis. That book scarred me for life.
i love the show so much, ive listened to nothing but you on my 6 hour car ride this weekend. thank you for putting out great content
I recently started listening to both of your podcasts and they are so fricking good and entertaining. I love listening to you guysespecially while biking to and from work. So keep up the good work guys 😊
Good episode, I even teared up for the last story of the girl who lost her friend. Heartbreaking.
Going into marriage, you could never think youd have to tell your husband, who is now pretending to be a beetle, to pleasee stop clicking and scurrying around the house. And stop hiding under the couch. Lmao 😂😂
Ants are so tiny that doesn't sound like a great protein source 😂. Crickets and other bigger insects, I get they're popular in some countries. But well as long as he's not getting sick let him enjoy it at home when you're alone 😅
For the girl whose fiancé spit in her food…continue cooking dinners if you like, but only make enough for a single portion for yourself. None for him & no leftovers. That will teach him to start appreciating you because literally you have NO obligation to care for him like he’s your child. He’s an adult & he can take care of himself.
Excuse me? Dump his ass. You can’t get married and share a life w a person like that
Michaela …. girl, are you ok? 😂 you wanna stab everyone. I cannot. 🤣
The girl from the listener write in needs to dump her bf ASAP
i follow michaela on twitter and never would have expected this!! love y’all together lmao
Hi actually the pictures y'all showed were of the Metamorphsis ballet, there's a ballet and then there's the play. But yeah the ballet is very grotesque and weird and all around super uncomfy
This podcast gives me so much life
LMAO I JUST GOT TO THE ANT MAN STORY 🤣
The "Taylor story" reminded me of my first ex:
We were on a call (I was on a vacation with my family he was at home and they were on a trip where I couldn't go cause I had sprained my ankle any my friend couldn't go so she took care of me with her boyfriend and they left to buy food) so then he said: "Hey um someone just came and my mother wants me to go meet them I will be back but I will mute so you don't hear crying or something." (He had a 1 year old sister so he did that always when he was leaving me wait on call. Nothing weird.) so I was just waiting but he forgot to mute after I heard the little one crying. I said what ever I will just tell him he forgot when he comes. But to my surprise I hear my best friend talking and giggling while coming up with him. So I muted my mic and started recording the sound, I did not mute my sound. I just hear them starting to make out. So my heart broke but I didn't cry or anything I just listened more. When they wanted to go to the next stage (also we were all underage for this stuff) so I just unmute and he had me on speaker to hear if I look for him I guess so he won't get caught or something. So I just unmute and say: "Are you having a good time Thomas? I think you should at least check twice if you're muted. Oh and Molly I will see what Jackson thinks about this bye." and hang up. Jackson and I went after on a movie and a coffee place to talk. Now we are still friends he found out he's gay and has an amazing boyfriend Kyle. I went through some relationships but now I am single and happy. We went to a party few week ago and I saw Molly. That's where it gets good. She was pregnant. With twins. So you could imagine how she looked. She was drinking so she could get rid of it cause she was still very young. (Thomas is the baby daddy) So she's drunk, he's hooking up with her sister. I found that out through Kyle after we were leaving. So we just went to McDonald's and were laughing that might have been us if we didn't find out.
I am laughing about this and it's great. Also all names in this comment are fake because I do not want to expose someone if you know a pregnant Molly who's baby daddy is a Thomas. But I hope y'all enjoyed this story.
You dodged a bullet with that guy and your friend. I cannot imagine how hurt you must have been, but good for you if they're out of your life, your deserve better than shitty people !
On the last story-I’m wondering if the motivation for the boyfriend being an ass is because he felt like the friend was a third person in their relationship. He probably thought that he could magically take the girlfriend’s grief away through the power of love and got frustrated when he couldn’t. Grief and trauma do not work that way and no one gets to decide what mementos a grieving person can keep and for how long. If her grief was somehow excessive, trying to erase visual reminders of the friend wasn’t the way to support her through that. I think he knew exactly what he was doing when he tossed the shirt and is using plausible deniability as a cover. She’s well rid of him.
I’m obsessed with how Morgan says mum 😂 idk why but I’m Australian and that’s basically how we say it.
😲😲😲 The Taylor comparison is disturbing. And he's totally the type to claim Taylor wouldn't leave him when he's being an AH.
The ant eater is hilarious!! But I would not. I love ants as creatures. They are among my favorite insects. ❤🐜
This podcast is truly so good
I just want yall to know I don't ever turn on notifications for UA-cam but I drop everything to listen when I see you've posted a new video lmao
Thank you so much for the support!! ❤️ we love having you
you are so kind! honestly i love your videos and i’m sorry the video cut but it was still amazing! Always my go to channel when i want to watch youtube
Awhh thanks for the kind words ❤️
Mu boyfriend called me his exes name by mistake once when I was not there. When he was talking about an event me and him would be going to and his family was like, why should you go to this thing with your ex? He called me up and explained it and that he had no idea why he said that. Bless his heart, it's no problem to mess up names once in a while
The photos of The Metamorphosis is from the ballet when the Royal Ballet performed it. It's fantastic, kind of grotesque, but fantastic. So not the production Mr. beetle man in the story was xD but most likely the same story
We need another episode with michalea again plz !!! Greatest duo especially for this topic 😂😩
On the dinner story, OMGGGGG, I can't believe someone would've done that, I'm very sharing with food with people that are close to me, so I wouldn't have a lot of problems with that, but THE WAY HE REACTED, OMG, my Latina ass would have just told him that from now on he will have to find someone to cook for him because I will watch him faint of hunger before I cook for him again.
As an introverted person i say no thank you and run away lol. Like some guy was trying to get my friend and i's numbers yelling out of his car window qnd i literally said no thank you and ran inside 😂
For the second story -it is super hard to say no to someone close (family, worketc) because you do feel scared and you are worried. I have been in that situation at work few times. But to strangers I also say No thank u😂😂😂