@@aybak03 I wouldn't say wrong necessarily, ENTJs are not robots and we all have different backgrounds, cultures and experiences, so we are different but for the most part this was accurate.
Having some sort of knowledge on several subjects means you're ready for any situation. The deeper the vein of knowledge, the more you can be prepared.
I relate to you on that one. I like learning "for the sake of learning" partially to satisfy my own ego when given the chance to display said knowledge, and partially as a useful resource with which I can help myself and others in the future, if needed.
Thank you! Even when writing the worst villains, I figure the best way to approach it is to figure out how the villain, even if only in their own twisted minds, are the hero of their own story. No one ever sees themselves as the bad guy and that's how I've approached these videos. There is always a rationalized logic for the good and the bad. While I'll claim full credit for the presentation, all the raw information presented here (99+%) comes from C.S. Joseph's channel. So, if you like how the info all fits together and want to see more of that, his link is the description. Thanks for watching!
Thanks. I think the altruism aspect of what entjs try to achieve is often not undescored enough. Whereas Tywin may seem ruthless to his opponents, if you are of his organization/inner circle, he has worked tireless on your behalf, and generally improved your circumstances. Rising tide and all that, as you said. Yes, I almost always root for the underdog. -entjguy
It is a big part of the ENTJs that tends to be overlooked, but is such a driving force for a healthy ENTJ. My neighbor is currently expanding her business and is going out of her way to make sure that expansion will allow her to fill a need in the community for special-needs kids and PTSD veterans. Even though she is under no obligation and it's costing her a great deal of money on top of an already large expansion, she recognizes that with it she will be uniquely positioned to fill that need and she wants to fill it so badly. She is truly someone to look up to and I hope to be half as awesome as she is one day :)
That's awesome and thank you :) The psychology in this series is actually based on the 4-sides dynamic headed by CS Joseph (link in description). He's got a huge library of ENTJ videos, if you're looking for more of this system to sink your teeth into :)
Thank you! I'm glad you found it useful :) If you'd like more of the same, the I suggest checking out CS. Joseph's channel (link in description). This series is based on the psychology of his 4-sides system, and he's got a huge library of ENTJ videos.
As an entj most of this is true One thing is very wrong in this video which is we brag about our accomplishments to prove our worth. Lions don't care about the opinions of sheep We operate differntly...
Lions do not care about the opinions of sheep. But they care a shit-ton about the opinions of other lions. ENTJs go out of their way to impress people they respect and admire. Like, REALLY out of their way. It's very cute :)
@@cynthiapayne9906 it's all cute untill you realize we see you as a chess piece it's a strategic move to gain influence on your actions which will increase the odds of us reaching our goals. If we don't see any gain in impressing you we won't even think about it... Logic>Emotions for us. Lastly it's cute and innocent that you see us doing something that will fulfill an emotional need we don't have :)
@@aybak03 I do love how hard you are trying to convince me that you are above your own emotions. I do consider it a compliment that you want to influence and impress me :) And you're proving my point so much better than my video ever could
@@cynthiapayne9906 it's because you're impressed you thought that I'm trying to impress you , I love your spirit and I like to debate an intellectual person like you but honestly I'm not trying to impress you I'm just enjoying myself in a debate
@@cynthiapayne9906 I agree, while we might not always brag, we definitely crave the approval of our inner circle that usually consists of people we respect and care about. I try to reduce my bragging now, because I noticed it and don’t like that aspect about myself. In our inner circle- we crave admiration and the assurance that we are good enough (yes, we are self-confident, but there is also a confidence only other’s can give you). Greatly analysed, thank you for the video.
I love this! 💕 Im also writing ENTJs in my story and I needed this 😭 Also, had no idea that Pam from True Blood was an ENTJ. Makes sense why i liked her so much lol
IT is so cool that other writers are finding this helpful. You have no idea how happy that makes me :) And yes--Pam is da bomb. Although I admit I'm looking forward to typing Eric so I have an excuse to look at him for a few hours while I edit his video, lol!
Beautifully done. I often see myself and other entj's as people that had expectations from life and when they didnt recieve them, they wanted to create these things. I would say we are more visionaries rather than ultra realistic people when you look deep down. We are bounded by realism however we look towards the future. What good an organizer is if there is no goal to speak of? Also i really could relate to my weaknesses, thank you for showing us. Really focuses on the parts i should build.
I'm so glad you enjoyed it :) If you're looking for more material to help with self-growth, please check out CS. Joseph's channel (link in description). These videos are based on his MBTI system and he has a huge library of specifically ENTJ-related videos. Thanks for watching
Thank you! If you are interested in exploring more about how to become a better ENTJ, please do check out CS Joseph's ENTJ library (link in description). My videos are based on his 4-sides system and he has some videos which focus on cognitive development and maturing into the best version of what each type can become. Thanks for watching and best of luck to you!
As an INTP, the best advice I can give to xNTJs is to learn to use vulnerability as a weapon. Vulnerability is not weakness, but takes strength. Best used sparingly, but it can be very effective, especially with Fe users. It can be one of the most difficult skills for an xNTJ to learn, but worth it, I would think.
@@amided3816 For defense, mainly, I suppose :D xNTJs can, uh, rub other people the wrong way, as you may or may have not noticed. With Fe users, lowering your shields and being vulnerable for a moment can be an effective way of cooling tensions. It won't necessarily get the Fe user to like you, but it might at least get them to upgrade you from "amoral sociopathic scum who must be cleansed from this Earth for the sake of humanity as a whole" to "okay, fine, a stakeholder whose interests and ideas should be taken into account. I guess." I say "weapon" because a flash of vulnerability will stab an Fe user like a rapier to the heart. In the video above, you do see examples of xNTJ characters being vulnerable involuntarily and despite themselves. If you learn how to do it voluntarily, then that's going to be a cheat code that will make *everybody's* life a little easier
@@crazyeddie740 great point! You are wise. I will definitely consider that. This can help me eliminate the idea of my vulnerability as a weakness or at least lessen the damage in case it gets exploited. Thank you INTP friend. Wish you the best of fortune.
I have a friend with these functions and I’m an ENTP and I love it. I don’t take it personal, I love the quick wit, the direct commands, I love how they cut to the chase and tell me what they think I need to do. I might not listen but I see it as love. I don’t need a lot of emotions to feel loved, just a lot of attention. And someone thinking about what would improve my life is a hell of a lot of attention. Plus they’re used to taking up space and getting into trouble so they do not find me intimidating. I like pointing things out, I can be crude and funny and mocking or satirical as a form of affectionate banter so we usually have a lot of laughs.
In every day practical terms... Efficiency is only important in that it reduces time spent on menial processes and tasks. Why drive when you can make a car that can drive itself?
@@thoarnejones6805 tell that to every ai that's ever beaten every human master chess/ video game player. It's just a matter of time. The human minds capacity is finite. A computer's processing capacity is only limited by current technology. Tesla auto pilot is already safer than a human drive by a factor of 6.
Lol, it's going pretty well and I changed the INFP to ENFP since I wanted to add some more chaos into my work kkkk I'm planning to publish it soon. To be honest, I'm quite worried about the storyline cuz it's quite complicated, when I typed "complicated" I meant Inception level. Hope it works out though.
Great work. I do my character development using psychology. Please do a ENFP personality next. I am an aspiring writer, my main characters in my story is ENFP, ESTJ , ENTJ, INFP, INTJ , INFP.
So cool to see another writer on the same problem-solving track as me :) You are on the list! I'm working on the ISTJ video now and will then tally up the votes to see who the next extrovert is. Thanks again and best of luck with your writing!
Thank you, I've added your vote to the list! The pandemic has me sewing masks all the day long, but I am super eager to get back to this series just as soon as the super cooties stop being such a pain, lol!
Thank you, and I've added your vote to the tally :) I use CS. Joseph's 4-sides dynamic theorem (link in description). None of the psychology in these videos is my own work, I just took it and made it pretty and applicable to one of my favorite hobbies (writing fiction). He's got a ton of videos on INTJs if you want to check him out. Then I go through the laborious process of typing the characters myself. I will scroll through other's fictional typing blogs to get ideas, but most of the time I don't agree with them, lol! And that's part of the process--how good is my one-sided argument? Thanks again!
This is me... tho i do know of my weaknesses... im still thinking on how to improve... i think when its outside of business matters and inside of family and friendship matters, i will try my best to be more warm and nice
Probably the best advice I can give to an ENTJ trying to 'do people,' particularly with family that you really can't dismiss and ignore too easily, is to just err on the side of keeping your mouth shut more often. Smile, nod, and look cute when they say stupid shit. The goal of family functions is to maintain lifelong connections that will benefit you and your children years down the line, not to achieve any immediate goal or resolve any immediate problem. Your family's connections can be your connections and your children's connections and can benefit you and those you care for in ways impossible to predict, but these relationships must be maintained and that requires time and attention. Now, if they directly ask, then by all means be totally honest, but try to practice not just jumping in and solving the problem with bluntness automatically. It takes practice... but an ENTJ trying to force themselves to be warm and nice rarely ends well, so I'd suggest baby steps in diplomacy until that warmth feels more willing.
This is textbook me. Through live I changed from estj to a entj. I talk I make desisions in this way I have got into trouble in school and work for being to abrupt in how I speak and how I want things done
@@cynthiapayne9906 yea I like how you do your videos as well I can tell that it you put great effort into them so I subscribe. You be a great narrator as well
@@cynthiapayne9906 the part where you say entj see the potency in others I always do. See what others people will be good at. But what you find out in the real world not many people would like to pursue something that they believe they couldnt do it.
I think it's so true that ENTJs at their core feel rotten. I overwork so that no one can tell how insecure I am. I am harsh with my communication to push people away. The issue with that is I never get to connect with others on an emotional level bc when I finally let myself feel, it is like a flood of emotions, and I have to push it down. Lately I've been forced to deal with it, and honestly, seeing a therapist and having supportive friends have really helped. I've learned the following so far: -not all logic is helpful and good -It's ok to admit that we aren't perfect -emotion + kindness when appropriate builds trust - and you need trust to optimize efficiency -communicate with people in a way that resonates with them - either emotionally, logically, or both -soften speech so others don't get hurt or feel judged (no one will even listen if they feel hurt or judged - you won't get a shot at efficiency) -is it worth it being right if you're going to be an asshole and burn bridges? Stop saying you don't need those kinds of people in your life - they're trying to teach you something. Perhaps they are awakening things in you that are your weakness and you don't want to admit it. Perhaps you're afraid it will paralyze you with fear and you can't get anything done. So be it. Let it all fall apart for a bit. You have always had the strength to pick up the pieces -since ENTJs like challenges, I challenge y'all to try some of the above. Good luck. You don't need me to say this, but you got this. -a work in progress ENFJ
I am so sorry you are struggling with this and I really love how you've framed communication and vulnerability within the pragmatisms of efficiency. Very ENTJ friendly :) One thing that writing fiction has taught me is that people cannot love perfection. NJs spend so much time trying to project a more perfect version of themselves to others because we believe that our flaws make us unworthy. We must perform to earn the loyalty and affection of those around us, and that performance must be exceptional. But by denying our flaws we deny our humanity. As a writer, I know everything about my characters. I know how they think, I know their story, I know their flaws, and I know their very soul. You cannot write a character without loving a character, and because I love them, my first instinct is to portray them in the best possible light. I want others to love them. The problem is-no one can love a Mary Sue. It’s not possible. For my characters to have a chance to be loved, I have to drag them through the dirt. I have to show my readers the worst of them. I have to make them try, and fail, and learn from it, and then make them try, and fail, and learn from it again. They must struggle, and they must struggle in the most public way possible. Only then will others have the chance to love them, and only then will my characters have the opportunity to fulfill their potential. We love others because of their flaws, not in spite of them. Writing fiction has given me a very different perspective on how to connect with people, and a very different perspective on how to be a parent. It’s also given me a very different perspective on what kind of being God must be, assuming He exists. Best of wishes on your journey.
@@cynthiapayne9906 Cynthia - thanks so much for your insight. It's wonderful that being a writer has given you so much perspective. Youre right in that we fall in love with characters bc of their flaws. The things that make them human, as you've mentioned. We love these characters bc their struggles are the reason they are who they are. We fall in love with them perhaps bc we see a bit of ourselves - our own strengths and weaknesses in them. They say true courage is not acting in the absence of fear, but acting despite it. I cannot fathom the amount of courage and humility it takes to crawl out of the darkest pits of hell. As an ENTJ it's taken me years to even have these thoughts and honestly it's only happened bc my feelings have forced themselves upon me. I have no choice but to deal with them lol so focus on my Fi and Ti have been my latest projects. One cannot logic and reason their way out of their own feelings. We must simply feel it, sit through it, and understand why they are triggered. I think it's one of the hardest things ENTJs deal with. Working hard, looking good, being successful, speaking well come easy. Humility and showing our ugly side is by far the most difficult thing i've had to encounter. Thank you for creating stories that embrace those flaws and love those flaws. We must learn to love a person in their entirety - not just the fun things about them - to truly live a fulfilling life full of connection and happiness. I think thats what success means to me. And i do wish you the best of luck with writing fanfiction, and wonderful job on your accomplishments in finding something that makes you happy. And great job as well on your multiperspective view on life - it sounds like it's made you become a better person and parent for it.
@@cynthiapayne9906 Poor Darth, he's a victim, really, and just misunderstood. He's just trying to get the universe in order and help that Rebel scum improve themselves. To change subjects, I did make a mistake recently. I took a sandwich to a knife fight and got cut four ways; long, wide, deep, and repeatedly. On the up side, the tomatoes were perfectly sliced.
@@keithgraham9547 I actually want to do a character deep dive with Darth Vader to see if this 4-sides MBTI system can account for how much the character changes over the course of his lifetime. That would be so. freaking. cool!
@@cynthiapayne9906 What is the most wimpy, nerve grating, irritating type of MB? That's the young Annakin. Getting scalded and having to learn it's a big, tough universe was good for him...
Lol! People comment on that all the time. It's a southern dialect thing. It's like an emphatic version of 'regardless,' but it's a real word here. Thanks for watching!
Thank you :) I cherry picked from him and C.S. Joseph. Not hiding that. None of the psychology here is my own work--I'm just making it applicable to a favorite hobby of mine (writing fiction) in a format that I think people who aren't necessarily familiar with the individual functions can more easily digest. Both are credited and tagged in the description. You have good ears :) Thanks for watching!
@@cynthiapayne9906 Yeah I didn’t mean that to be hostile so I don’t want you to think that. I just love Michael Pierce’s videos and your videos are easier to digest for people that are new to MBTI.
I've added your vote to the list! The pandemic has me sewing masks all the day long, but I am super eager to get back to this series just as soon as the super cooties stop being such a pain, lol!
@@TOXICTRIFORCE That's weird. I just checked all my settings and it shouldn't be doing that. Sigh. With the corona virus, UA-cam is on a skeleton crew so I probably won't be able to do anything about that for a few months, sorry. I do upload every Tuesday at 9am EST with some bookish or writerly content, and this series as I'm able to complete the videos. If you follow me on Instagram or Twitter I'm usually pretty good about posting there when a video goes up. Thanks again :)
As an ENTJ female. This information rubbed me the wrong way .. and I also, think the video clips were unnecessary and poor examples or portrayals of ENTJS. Actually, I have deep thoughts about a lot of things. And I'm far from an asshole. I just think this is contradicting information. Were just way more calculated than this. This just seems like narcissistic behavior portrayed in this video.
Interesting. I'd be very interested in hearing your thoughts after you'd looked into ENFJs. That type might seen more familiar to you. Thanks for watching!
ENTJ worried about their specific core could be rotten and somehow lacking the specific element about what make good people good. Wow. so ENTJ are the bad guys?
That is not what is said, please watch again 12:00 "They measure their own sense of self-worth by the opinions that those around them have for the ENTJ. ENTJs are constantly worried that they are, at their core, rotten and are somehow lacking the basic element that makes good people good and specifically that makes good people valuable. ENTJ’s instinctively believe that everything is capable of being organized and quantified, therefor there must be some tangible, measurable standard that makes good people good and that measurable standard must be the value, and thus productivity, that good people bring to the table. So, they are always trying to make the feeling that they are bad go away by working very hard and showing those around them their accomplishments in the hopes that others will then have a positive opinion about the ENTJ, and thus quiet their insecurities."
Thank you! 'Irregardless' is a proper word in the region I live in (the deep south). it's etymology is a combination of "irrespective" and "regardless." It has a specific use that doesn't translate well if you're not familiar with it. It's basically an emphatic use of "regardless." So if you’re a native speaker of certain dialects that use "irregardless" you use "irregardless" to shut down further conversation on a topic. I might say, “Dad, let me borrow the car. I'm a really good driver.” And he'll say, “Regardless, I'm not comfortable.” I'll say, “Oh but come on. I'll get it detailed, and I'll put gas in it.” He’ll say, “Irregardless, no.” It's a way to end the conversation politely. To put it another way... Ya'll yanks simply canno' appreciate the nuances and intricacies of the dialects fromst yonder ya'lls backyards. Bless your heart ;) Thanks for watching!
Every ENTJ I’ve know has always had the same reaction to someone crying.
“Why are you crying?” *with genuine confusion*
eu sou assim , tenho até nojo de quem chora perto de mim , não sei expressar quando isso acontece
Me in work :
"Do it my way. Try. Don't negotiate."
"I can do everything my own, but I make you do it. Because, I don't want to see you jobless."
Yup :)
Indeed. That’s how kind and thoughtful 🤔 we are.
As an ENTJ, I have to say, this is a brilliant piece of work.
Thank you! Coming from an ENTJ, that is high praise indeed, lol! :D
Didn't you see anything wrong?
And accurate as hell. Although i am learning to be more caring and better with my feelings
I tend to see feelings as something to be resolved.
@@aybak03 I wouldn't say wrong necessarily, ENTJs are not robots and we all have different backgrounds, cultures and experiences, so we are different but for the most part this was accurate.
Incredibly thorough, you definitely made this for an ENTJ who wants efficient organized information 😂
Lol! I'm an NJ myself, so it comes naturally :) So glad you enjoyed it--thanks for watching!
Efficient with 25 minutes? I’m an ENTP and even I find this too long. Give me a five minute bullet point video.
Having some sort of knowledge on several subjects means you're ready for any situation. The deeper the vein of knowledge, the more you can be prepared.
I relate to you on that one. I like learning "for the sake of learning" partially to satisfy my own ego when given the chance to display said knowledge, and partially as a useful resource with which I can help myself and others in the future, if needed.
Incredibly well said, knowledge is key and smartness is key! It is a survival skill, a tool you use in adventures and helps you to help others!
Actually my favorite setence is: Don't waste my time.
LMAO sameeee
lol! Very true.
"And get the fuck outta my way, you have no use to me anymore."
These videos are much more accurate, deep, and sympathetic than anything else I've encountered related to these topics.
Thank you! Even when writing the worst villains, I figure the best way to approach it is to figure out how the villain, even if only in their own twisted minds, are the hero of their own story. No one ever sees themselves as the bad guy and that's how I've approached these videos. There is always a rationalized logic for the good and the bad. While I'll claim full credit for the presentation, all the raw information presented here (99+%) comes from C.S. Joseph's channel. So, if you like how the info all fits together and want to see more of that, his link is the description. Thanks for watching!
Thanks. I think the altruism aspect of what entjs try to achieve is often not undescored enough. Whereas Tywin may seem ruthless to his opponents, if you are of his organization/inner circle, he has worked tireless on your behalf, and generally improved your circumstances. Rising tide and all that, as you said. Yes, I almost always root for the underdog.
-entjguy
It is a big part of the ENTJs that tends to be overlooked, but is such a driving force for a healthy ENTJ. My neighbor is currently expanding her business and is going out of her way to make sure that expansion will allow her to fill a need in the community for special-needs kids and PTSD veterans. Even though she is under no obligation and it's costing her a great deal of money on top of an already large expansion, she recognizes that with it she will be uniquely positioned to fill that need and she wants to fill it so badly. She is truly someone to look up to and I hope to be half as awesome as she is one day :)
I have never watched a video that truly spoke to me and who I am like this
I am so glad it resonated
i’m an ENTJ and you tied so many loose ends for me about the way i operate. great video! i’m subscribing!!
That's awesome and thank you :) The psychology in this series is actually based on the 4-sides dynamic headed by CS Joseph (link in description). He's got a huge library of ENTJ videos, if you're looking for more of this system to sink your teeth into :)
ENTJ here
Wow excellent information! Thank you for a great lesson! Keep up the hard work !
Thank you! I'm glad you found it useful :) If you'd like more of the same, the I suggest checking out CS. Joseph's channel (link in description). This series is based on the psychology of his 4-sides system, and he's got a huge library of ENTJ videos.
I feel like I’ve been understood about my personality for once in my life 😂💯
OMG! That parts about social status, information and intelligence are so true!
:)
Is it weiRd that I actually want to achieve a lot while also being invisible
@@everestsocial9450 absolutely not. Me too😊
As an entj most of this is true
One thing is very wrong in this video which is we brag about our accomplishments to prove our worth.
Lions don't care about the opinions of sheep
We operate differntly...
Lions do not care about the opinions of sheep. But they care a shit-ton about the opinions of other lions. ENTJs go out of their way to impress people they respect and admire. Like, REALLY out of their way. It's very cute :)
@@cynthiapayne9906 it's all cute untill you realize we see you as a chess piece it's a strategic move to gain influence on your actions which will increase the odds of us reaching our goals.
If we don't see any gain in impressing you we won't even think about it...
Logic>Emotions for us.
Lastly it's cute and innocent that you see us doing something that will fulfill an emotional need we don't have :)
@@aybak03 I do love how hard you are trying to convince me that you are above your own emotions. I do consider it a compliment that you want to influence and impress me :) And you're proving my point so much better than my video ever could
@@cynthiapayne9906 it's because you're impressed you thought that I'm trying to impress you , I love your spirit and I like to debate an intellectual person like you but honestly I'm not trying to impress you I'm just enjoying myself in a debate
@@cynthiapayne9906 I agree, while we might not always brag, we definitely crave the approval of our inner circle that usually consists of people we respect and care about. I try to reduce my bragging now, because I noticed it and don’t like that aspect about myself.
In our inner circle- we crave admiration and the assurance that we are good enough (yes, we are self-confident, but there is also a confidence only other’s can give you).
Greatly analysed, thank you for the video.
I love this! 💕 Im also writing ENTJs in my story and I needed this 😭
Also, had no idea that Pam from True Blood was an ENTJ. Makes sense why i liked her so much lol
IT is so cool that other writers are finding this helpful. You have no idea how happy that makes me :) And yes--Pam is da bomb. Although I admit I'm looking forward to typing Eric so I have an excuse to look at him for a few hours while I edit his video, lol!
@@cynthiapayne9906 It would be great to have an INTJ versioN! :)
Beautifully done.
I often see myself and other entj's as people that had expectations from life and when they didnt recieve them, they wanted to create these things. I would say we are more visionaries rather than ultra realistic people when you look deep down. We are bounded by realism however we look towards the future. What good an organizer is if there is no goal to speak of?
Also i really could relate to my weaknesses, thank you for showing us. Really focuses on the parts i should build.
I'm so glad you enjoyed it :) If you're looking for more material to help with self-growth, please check out CS. Joseph's channel (link in description). These videos are based on his MBTI system and he has a huge library of specifically ENTJ-related videos. Thanks for watching
Well said. On point.
We hope for the best but expect the worst.
Perfect portrayal of the ENTJ and perfectly structured for an ENTJ to listen to all of it🙏🏻
Thank you for this. I wanted to be a better version of myself, this video set up the stepping stones for me to do so. Have a great day from an ENTJ
Thank you! If you are interested in exploring more about how to become a better ENTJ, please do check out CS Joseph's ENTJ library (link in description). My videos are based on his 4-sides system and he has some videos which focus on cognitive development and maturing into the best version of what each type can become. Thanks for watching and best of luck to you!
As an INTP, the best advice I can give to xNTJs is to learn to use vulnerability as a weapon. Vulnerability is not weakness, but takes strength. Best used sparingly, but it can be very effective, especially with Fe users. It can be one of the most difficult skills for an xNTJ to learn, but worth it, I would think.
@@crazyeddie740 Vulnerability for intimidation or for other uses. May you tell me?
@@amided3816 For defense, mainly, I suppose :D xNTJs can, uh, rub other people the wrong way, as you may or may have not noticed. With Fe users, lowering your shields and being vulnerable for a moment can be an effective way of cooling tensions. It won't necessarily get the Fe user to like you, but it might at least get them to upgrade you from "amoral sociopathic scum who must be cleansed from this Earth for the sake of humanity as a whole" to "okay, fine, a stakeholder whose interests and ideas should be taken into account. I guess." I say "weapon" because a flash of vulnerability will stab an Fe user like a rapier to the heart. In the video above, you do see examples of xNTJ characters being vulnerable involuntarily and despite themselves. If you learn how to do it voluntarily, then that's going to be a cheat code that will make *everybody's* life a little easier
@@crazyeddie740 great point! You are wise. I will definitely consider that. This can help me eliminate the idea of my vulnerability as a weakness or at least lessen the damage in case it gets exploited. Thank you INTP friend. Wish you the best of fortune.
I have a friend with these functions and I’m an ENTP and I love it. I don’t take it personal, I love the quick wit, the direct commands, I love how they cut to the chase and tell me what they think I need to do. I might not listen but I see it as love. I don’t need a lot of emotions to feel loved, just a lot of attention. And someone thinking about what would improve my life is a hell of a lot of attention. Plus they’re used to taking up space and getting into trouble so they do not find me intimidating. I like pointing things out, I can be crude and funny and mocking or satirical as a form of affectionate banter so we usually have a lot of laughs.
Bravo 👏 Spot on - You could not have described me better. Clear. Concise. To the point.
Well thank you
In every day practical terms... Efficiency is only important in that it reduces time spent on menial processes and tasks. Why drive when you can make a car that can drive itself?
I couldn't agree more :)
A car that can drive itself will never have the nuance of the human mind, and can never replicate a driver's judgement in difficult situations.
That said excellent point.
@@thoarnejones6805 tell that to every ai that's ever beaten every human master chess/ video game player. It's just a matter of time. The human minds capacity is finite. A computer's processing capacity is only limited by current technology. Tesla auto pilot is already safer than a human drive by a factor of 6.
Because I can drive the car better than it can drive itself.
Thank you so much! This is so comprehensive and points to the consistent patterns. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
That was the goal! I'm so glad you liked it :)
Hello, again, Cynthia! I saw you again on my recommended feed.
Trying to make a novel with the main characters being INTP ENTJ and INFP so I'm currently binge watching this.
Awesome! It's so cool when I hear from other writers using my stuff. Thank you :)
Hows that going I've been planning the same myself.
Lol, it's going pretty well and I changed the INFP to ENFP since I wanted to add some more chaos into my work kkkk
I'm planning to publish it soon. To be honest, I'm quite worried about the storyline cuz it's quite complicated, when I typed "complicated" I meant Inception level. Hope it works out though.
There needs to be an INFP Character Development video
I agree, lol! I will add your vote to the tally. Thanks for watching!
@@cynthiapayne9906 I'd also like to add my vote to this tally!
@@SourBitters Done! :)
Thanks for the vid. Very vivid, Could you list the movies you have used to portray the ENTJ? Thank you!
Thank you for watching :) A full movie and TV show credit list is at the end of each video ( 25:20 )
Awesome, as an ENTJ, you really got me
Suc good work!! Would love to see all other types as well :)
“Ruthlessly Pragmatic”🎖
Hell yeah. ;)
Great work. I do my character development using psychology. Please do a ENFP personality next.
I am an aspiring writer, my main characters in my story is ENFP, ESTJ , ENTJ, INFP, INTJ , INFP.
So cool to see another writer on the same problem-solving track as me :) You are on the list! I'm working on the ISTJ video now and will then tally up the votes to see who the next extrovert is. Thanks again and best of luck with your writing!
Cynthia Payne please focus on ENFP self depriving tendencies, narcissism, quick judgement, lack of empathy
@@arunamalla1705 isnt lack of empathy a uncommon trait for the enfp?
Loved the video, sounds exactly like a friend of mine! Could you do INFP ?
Thanks for watching! No one has requested that one yet, so I will move it up in the schedule :)
As ENTJ woman I love this video
My favorite saying that I made up is there's three things you don't mess with: a person's time, money, or their family.
Great video ! Deserves a million views!
Aww, thank you! You're so sweet :)
Can you please do this series for ENFJ? I find these very interesting!!
Thank you, I've added your vote to the list! The pandemic has me sewing masks all the day long, but I am super eager to get back to this series just as soon as the super cooties stop being such a pain, lol!
The accuracy 💯💯
This explains why Hans Gruber and Miranda Priestly are my two most favourite movie characters of all time. Sarcasm and efficiency.
There is nothing better than competency and sarcasm all wrapped up into one :D
@@cynthiapayne9906 Exactly!
Are you using a personality database or other sides for reference?
I'll wait for INTJs, you did a great job.
Thank you, and I've added your vote to the tally :)
I use CS. Joseph's 4-sides dynamic theorem (link in description). None of the psychology in these videos is my own work, I just took it and made it pretty and applicable to one of my favorite hobbies (writing fiction). He's got a ton of videos on INTJs if you want to check him out. Then I go through the laborious process of typing the characters myself. I will scroll through other's fictional typing blogs to get ideas, but most of the time I don't agree with them, lol! And that's part of the process--how good is my one-sided argument? Thanks again!
lol that is exactly what an INTJ would ask
I thought the two sum-up words were going to be, "pragmatically ruthless" -.-
This is me... tho i do know of my weaknesses... im still thinking on how to improve... i think when its outside of business matters and inside of family and friendship matters, i will try my best to be more warm and nice
Probably the best advice I can give to an ENTJ trying to 'do people,' particularly with family that you really can't dismiss and ignore too easily, is to just err on the side of keeping your mouth shut more often. Smile, nod, and look cute when they say stupid shit. The goal of family functions is to maintain lifelong connections that will benefit you and your children years down the line, not to achieve any immediate goal or resolve any immediate problem. Your family's connections can be your connections and your children's connections and can benefit you and those you care for in ways impossible to predict, but these relationships must be maintained and that requires time and attention. Now, if they directly ask, then by all means be totally honest, but try to practice not just jumping in and solving the problem with bluntness automatically. It takes practice... but an ENTJ trying to force themselves to be warm and nice rarely ends well, so I'd suggest baby steps in diplomacy until that warmth feels more willing.
You don't have to be nice, just be rational and sympathetic when needed.
@@cynthiapayne9906 true
This is textbook me. Through live I changed from estj to a entj. I talk I make desisions in this way
I have got into trouble in school and work for being to abrupt in how I speak and how I want things done
I always love hearing comments from the types that say they see themselves in the videos. Thank you so much for commenting, it makes me feel good :)
@@cynthiapayne9906 yea I like how you do your videos as well I can tell that it you put great effort into them so I subscribe.
You be a great narrator as well
@@england6317 Aww! Thank you so much! Particularly coming from an ENTJ, that's high praise, lol! I appreciate it, thank you
@@cynthiapayne9906 lol no problem
@@cynthiapayne9906 the part where you say entj see the potency in others I always do. See what others people will be good at.
But what you find out in the real world not many people would like to pursue something that they believe they couldnt do it.
Azula is a perfect example of an ENTJ
The mantras for an ENTJ: Don't waste my time and I don't care.
That about sums it up ;)
I am simultaneously a ENTJ and ENTP.
Got threatened with a slap to the face when i said a dark joke that was mistaken as rude by my istj mother XD but my intj freind likes it
Will you ever make a part 2?
AMAZING VIDEO!!!!
Thank you!
wow awesome job
Thank you :)
Yk this vid is nice? What's even nicer is if you put it on 1.5x speed
Thank you :)
Hi Cynthia, can you Tell us the movies you show as examples in this video? :-)
Happily :) All that info can be found at the end of the video-- 25:20
Please do one with enfp im curious to what you’ll come up with!
I think it's so true that ENTJs at their core feel rotten. I overwork so that no one can tell how insecure I am. I am harsh with my communication to push people away. The issue with that is I never get to connect with others on an emotional level bc when I finally let myself feel, it is like a flood of emotions, and I have to push it down. Lately I've been forced to deal with it, and honestly, seeing a therapist and having supportive friends have really helped. I've learned the following so far:
-not all logic is helpful and good
-It's ok to admit that we aren't perfect
-emotion + kindness when appropriate builds trust - and you need trust to optimize efficiency
-communicate with people in a way that resonates with them - either emotionally, logically, or both
-soften speech so others don't get hurt or feel judged (no one will even listen if they feel hurt or judged - you won't get a shot at efficiency)
-is it worth it being right if you're going to be an asshole and burn bridges? Stop saying you don't need those kinds of people in your life - they're trying to teach you something. Perhaps they are awakening things in you that are your weakness and you don't want to admit it. Perhaps you're afraid it will paralyze you with fear and you can't get anything done. So be it. Let it all fall apart for a bit. You have always had the strength to pick up the pieces
-since ENTJs like challenges, I challenge y'all to try some of the above. Good luck. You don't need me to say this, but you got this.
-a work in progress ENFJ
I am so sorry you are struggling with this and I really love how you've framed communication and vulnerability within the pragmatisms of efficiency. Very ENTJ friendly :)
One thing that writing fiction has taught me is that people cannot love perfection. NJs spend so much time trying to project a more perfect version of themselves to others because we believe that our flaws make us unworthy. We must perform to earn the loyalty and affection of those around us, and that performance must be exceptional. But by denying our flaws we deny our humanity. As a writer, I know everything about my characters. I know how they think, I know their story, I know their flaws, and I know their very soul. You cannot write a character without loving a character, and because I love them, my first instinct is to portray them in the best possible light. I want others to love them. The problem is-no one can love a Mary Sue. It’s not possible. For my characters to have a chance to be loved, I have to drag them through the dirt. I have to show my readers the worst of them. I have to make them try, and fail, and learn from it, and then make them try, and fail, and learn from it again. They must struggle, and they must struggle in the most public way possible. Only then will others have the chance to love them, and only then will my characters have the opportunity to fulfill their potential. We love others because of their flaws, not in spite of them.
Writing fiction has given me a very different perspective on how to connect with people, and a very different perspective on how to be a parent. It’s also given me a very different perspective on what kind of being God must be, assuming He exists. Best of wishes on your journey.
@@cynthiapayne9906 Cynthia - thanks so much for your insight. It's wonderful that being a writer has given you so much perspective. Youre right in that we fall in love with characters bc of their flaws. The things that make them human, as you've mentioned. We love these characters bc their struggles are the reason they are who they are. We fall in love with them perhaps bc we see a bit of ourselves - our own strengths and weaknesses in them. They say true courage is not acting in the absence of fear, but acting despite it. I cannot fathom the amount of courage and humility it takes to crawl out of the darkest pits of hell.
As an ENTJ it's taken me years to even have these thoughts and honestly it's only happened bc my feelings have forced themselves upon me. I have no choice but to deal with them lol so focus on my Fi and Ti have been my latest projects. One cannot logic and reason their way out of their own feelings. We must simply feel it, sit through it, and understand why they are triggered. I think it's one of the hardest things ENTJs deal with. Working hard, looking good, being successful, speaking well come easy. Humility and showing our ugly side is by far the most difficult thing i've had to encounter. Thank you for creating stories that embrace those flaws and love those flaws. We must learn to love a person in their entirety - not just the fun things about them - to truly live a fulfilling life full of connection and happiness. I think thats what success means to me.
And i do wish you the best of luck with writing fanfiction, and wonderful job on your accomplishments in finding something that makes you happy. And great job as well on your multiperspective view on life - it sounds like it's made you become a better person and parent for it.
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goddamn... the description of helping people pragmatically only to be left with abandonment issues is a thousand times me. :/
This was great.
Thank you!
Yup. Pretty much me.
17:14 Funny considering that Han Solo actor, Harrison Ford IS an ENTJ, thus a natural born leader.
No wonder he and Leia butted heads so much, lol! Thanks for watching!
"I ain't got time to bleed"
Actually, more like, "You have failed me for the last time." Then I choke them.
I use that clip! But not in the ENTJ video ;)
@@cynthiapayne9906 Poor Darth, he's a victim, really, and just misunderstood. He's just trying to get the universe in order and help that Rebel scum improve themselves.
To change subjects, I did make a mistake recently. I took a sandwich to a knife fight and got cut four ways; long, wide, deep, and repeatedly.
On the up side, the tomatoes were perfectly sliced.
@@keithgraham9547 I actually want to do a character deep dive with Darth Vader to see if this 4-sides MBTI system can account for how much the character changes over the course of his lifetime. That would be so. freaking. cool!
@@cynthiapayne9906 What is the most wimpy, nerve grating, irritating type of MB? That's the young Annakin.
Getting scalded and having to learn it's a big, tough universe was good for him...
😆 the best type of A 🕳 🤙😂
:)
The best type of asshole? As an ENTJ, thanks!
REGARDLESS... not "irregardless".
Lol! People comment on that all the time. It's a southern dialect thing. It's like an emphatic version of 'regardless,' but it's a real word here. Thanks for watching!
My way or highway
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Can you do Intjs?
Can you do a video about INTJ next ?
I've added your vote to the tally! INFP is next. We're getting there at a snail's pace but we will get there. Thanks for watching!
I do like your video but you have cherry picked certain direct quotes from Michael Pierce or he has cherry picked from you.
Thank you :) I cherry picked from him and C.S. Joseph. Not hiding that. None of the psychology here is my own work--I'm just making it applicable to a favorite hobby of mine (writing fiction) in a format that I think people who aren't necessarily familiar with the individual functions can more easily digest. Both are credited and tagged in the description. You have good ears :) Thanks for watching!
@@cynthiapayne9906 Yeah I didn’t mean that to be hostile so I don’t want you to think that. I just love Michael Pierce’s videos and your videos are easier to digest for people that are new to MBTI.
@@julianlawrence9116 Aww, thank you! That's so nice to hear
Do an ENTP please.
I've added your vote to the list! The pandemic has me sewing masks all the day long, but I am super eager to get back to this series just as soon as the super cooties stop being such a pain, lol!
Can you do enfp? Please?!
You're on the list! I'm working on ISTJ now and then I'll be tallying up the votes to see what extrovert will be next. Thanks for watching! :)
@@cynthiapayne9906 thank you so much!!! 😁
Oh! Um one more thing! I cant turn the notification bell on ..apparently it says its content made for kids
So I cant till when the next time you upload.
@@TOXICTRIFORCE That's weird. I just checked all my settings and it shouldn't be doing that. Sigh. With the corona virus, UA-cam is on a skeleton crew so I probably won't be able to do anything about that for a few months, sorry. I do upload every Tuesday at 9am EST with some bookish or writerly content, and this series as I'm able to complete the videos. If you follow me on Instagram or Twitter I'm usually pretty good about posting there when a video goes up. Thanks again :)
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As an ENTJ female. This information rubbed me the wrong way .. and I also, think the video clips were unnecessary and poor examples or portrayals of ENTJS. Actually, I have deep thoughts about a lot of things. And I'm far from an asshole. I just think this is contradicting information. Were just way more calculated than this. This just seems like narcissistic behavior portrayed in this video.
Interesting. I'd be very interested in hearing your thoughts after you'd looked into ENFJs. That type might seen more familiar to you. Thanks for watching!
ENTJ worried about their specific core could be rotten and somehow lacking the specific element about what make good people good. Wow. so ENTJ are the bad guys?
That is not what is said, please watch again 12:00 "They measure their own sense of self-worth by the opinions that those around them have for the ENTJ. ENTJs are constantly worried that they are, at their core, rotten and are somehow lacking the basic element that makes good people good and specifically that makes good people valuable. ENTJ’s instinctively believe that everything is capable of being organized and quantified, therefor there must be some tangible, measurable standard that makes good people good and that measurable standard must be the value, and thus productivity, that good people bring to the table. So, they are always trying to make the feeling that they are bad go away by working very hard and showing those around them their accomplishments in the hopes that others will then have a positive opinion about the ENTJ, and thus quiet their insecurities."
@@cynthiapayne9906 thanks. Now i get it.
Please do ENTP.
You're not the first to request that one! You're on the list :) Thank you.
Is this still happening?
Great video, but please stop saying “irregardless.”
Thank you!
'Irregardless' is a proper word in the region I live in (the deep south). it's etymology is a combination of "irrespective" and "regardless." It has a specific use that doesn't translate well if you're not familiar with it. It's basically an emphatic use of "regardless." So if you’re a native speaker of certain dialects that use "irregardless" you use "irregardless" to shut down further conversation on a topic. I might say, “Dad, let me borrow the car. I'm a really good driver.” And he'll say, “Regardless, I'm not comfortable.” I'll say, “Oh but come on. I'll get it detailed, and I'll put gas in it.” He’ll say, “Irregardless, no.” It's a way to end the conversation politely.
To put it another way... Ya'll yanks simply canno' appreciate the nuances and intricacies of the dialects fromst yonder ya'lls backyards. Bless your heart ;)
Thanks for watching!
No such word as irregardless, regardless is irregardless.. Just sayn. From this ENTJ. Eh.
Ya'll Yanks simply canno' appreciate the intricacies and nuances of the dialects fromst yonder ya'lls backyards. Bless your heart... ;)
Yaaaaaaaaa... Lol... From this CDN
ENTJ... YMCA... lol
sorry but i hate when videos are long .....I want things snap snap......
Change the playback speed to 1.25x, its much easier to watch.
u INTP??
@@WoodWax entj or intj.......
@@Man0fSteell im intp i phased out a couple of times while watching XD