Gosh, like every line you said hit me. Even the parts when you said, "maybe you already do that" hahaha. Seriously, thank you. I can see myself rushing to do more things because I see lack of progress but what happens is I stumble more and get more frustrated due to the situation not changing. I'll take your advice on doubling down on meditation, journaling and making some art to get in touch with that whatever I need to get in touch with. Very impressive. New subscriber here.
I tried journaling like you suggested in a previous video and it helped a lot more than I'd expected. I actually feel "trapped" these days but didn't mind it much and things are starting to make sense now. So, thank you. I needed this.
You're welcome. Journaling is sooo beneficial... and yet... we don't always do what we know is good for us :P ... just like me and cleaning my workspace or making plans.
I clicked, I thought: He is very attractive. He is telling some really interesting stuff. Later in the video: I am an INFP. Me thinking: It makes all sense now. ENTJ Woman here. Always looking for ways to get even better. Nice video. Greeting from Greece. Keep going 💪
For ENTJ’s like myself, find someone; friend, therapist, coach,etc that you can be emotionally vulnerable with. If you neglect this, it will destroy you.
Agree.. if someone is going to say something, just say it.. It is like the arguments with my father.. he had to tell a story to say anything.. and my sister is like him! 😂😂
1.75. I got impatient. I think he was trying hard to find an ENTJ weakness. I can't spend time overthinking emotions. I just move on to the next thing, trying to get ahead. I'm not stressed, so I think I'm fine. Reading others' comments. I think he could have said everything in 2 sentences. 1X was agony.
This video is very helpful but very painful for me as an ENTJ. Mom and dad made always made it impossible to use my Te trying to control me and take away my freedom. Horrible):
This video really helped me understand myself better. I feel like sometimes, I don't know why I do the things I do or what I truly value. Planning is just as much about personal reflection as it is strategizing the next move.
I'm an ENTJ and it's so hard for me to be in a relationship. I always point out flaws in my loved one but it's so they can improve themselves. Sadly they take it offensive though that's not my intention. It's also very difficult for me to answer when they talk about their mental health. I barely look at mine and I grew up in a family where it's not talked about. I can't show compassion easily, I often say "Don't look to the past but to the future. Life goes on". But my gf (infp) takes it very offensive while I'm just trying to help. She also has a lot of moodswings and as an entj, i can't really deal with that. I always think positively and look ahead while she is always preoccupied with the past, after a while that really starts to annoy me. She is also very stubborn, i give her advice but she doesn't listen and that is pretty disrespectful to me bcz again I'm an ENTJ. I truly love her and don't want to hurt her. My last relationships all went bad bcz of me. They began to push me away bcz i was always trying to improve them. Sometimes i love to be an ENTJ but now i really hate being one.
From one ENTJ to another, my brother is an INFP, I also shared a flat with an INFP for several years and I've had friendships with quite a few other INFPs for years. I dont think the dynamics would ever work in a romantic relationship with a woman. Maybe you should just face facts and move on.
From your story, I think she is unhealty or unmature INFP. What you did was right, so don't blame yourself because everyone have different way of showing their love. Just be you and love yourself. You're a great person 👍 (INFP)
@@lililaaaaa Now she says that I'm too commanding when i give advice. She also said that I'm controlling her life which is not true, i give her all the freedom and own decisions. Now she said that she didn't mean like controlling but just commanding but ofcourse I'm an ENTJ, the commander (but not in that way) again, when she asks for help for something, i truly want to help her but sometimes she doesn't listen so that's why i can be a bit commanding i think, but she asked for my help so then she needs to listen too. I always tell her when i give her advice for something that it's her choice if she wants to follow it or not. I always tell her that i support every single decision she makes. She said that it's mostly via text that i seem commanding but via text you can interput things in a whole different way then i mean to say it (if you know what i try to explain, like irl i'd say it calm and with a relaxed posture but ofcourse in text it's just words and not non-verbal communication)
@@fv7430I have INFP friend and she is in FI-SI loop. She always tell me all her problems and I always try to not giving advice or solution, just hear her story and then give support (from my experience, some feeler tell their problem to looking for empathy and support, including me 😅 but when they had been calm, they will need and accept advice, solution) but one day ... I couldn't take it anymore because she wasn't trying to solve the problem. I was saying to her that her mindset was the problem. And yap, she didn't talk to me 2 year 🥲 I've apologized so many times and she said "yes, it's ok" but she was still cold to me. I know it's hard dealing with unhealthy INFP (although I'm INFP too) be patient with her. If she tell you her problem, just hear it and give her your support. Learn about mental health, especially her mental illness (if she has). If you want to chat via massage, you can use emoticon, it's really helpful. My friends told me that I was so scary if I didn't use emoticon in my chat 🤣 The relationship between ENTJ and INFP is really difficult if they don't healthy and mature. But if you two can get through this, your self-improvement will be on the next level and you can find your missing piece. You help her to improve her TE and she help you to improve your FI. I wish you two all the best ✊
@@fv7430 I understand why you want to help her problems, because you want them to be happy and doesn't sad again because of it. You can say about it to her ^^ You can googling or watch youtube about how to break FI-SI loop in INFP and how to make INFP healthy. Hope it help you. Fighting! 🔥
Thank you so much. This video finally explained to me why I have such a strong substance abuse & smoking addiction. Three years ago, someone close to me thwarted one of my most essential goals, because she, as a family member, vetoed over the procurement of my most basic need at the time because my actions did not fit her cultural brainwashing (The conflict started in the first place after she breached my privacy). I still have limited control because they are dependent on me, and dealing with the situation by acting immediately, for me, means to 420blazeit 360Noscope every day. No amount of meditation, breathwork, or drawing helps calm the ticking rage, and the only way out of the situation is to get rich. To get rich, I need to slow down, and shift my priorities to actions that can get me rich as opposed to actions that get me sedative pleasure and kill my pain in the short term.
If you think about it most people are in pain because of something or another. All you can do is the best you can in that situation so don't lose hope. Hardship teaches valuable lessons and ease isn't far off.
Become the best version of yourself and then get into a relationship with someone who did the same (I guess your are attracted to her very feminine soft loving and caring slightly shy and grounded side). I’ve been working myself for last 6 years, and doubled down on it as we entjs do it. I developed everything in myself which I wanted from others - and more. 2 months ago, i entered into a relationship with a well-developed male entp which. U met in a spiritual retreat. It’s perfect, almost magical. and we develop and heal together further and build a fun and successful life.
it's painful for being ENTJ, both for my own self and people. i'm on the phase of "slowing down" and start to realize how sucks am i.. yeah, no wonder how suck it is... like, ok now i know why people go, why she's cheating, why everything that i hop in always get ruined by me...why i start to call it a curse.. just gonna say, everything's nvr be alright on ENTJ, till this day idk what.. everything? why people so easily do this and that, why i'm so hard-going... but something i know is everything should be fine, if i was not in
As an entj I totally agree. I often feel frustrated and trapped in the here and now war. Usually it works fine to have an evening for my self and journaling in my bed. I point out my overall goals in life and reevaluate my path to achieve it. Feeling like self care.
That’s awesome that you do that. I think it’s really important for everyone, but especially for your personality type. It can create a lot long-term benefits.
Te and Se: How dare you say you're "going" through a hard time you're not even trying enough. You're not even moving. Delete youtube, throw your phone away! Ni and Fi: *that's my emotional support Geek Psychology*
@@Solarqueenthesoverign I think I didn't explain myself well. I'm not talking about getting a healthy break and discontinuing what wastes time and energy. I'm talking about the excessive response to (mostly emotional) problems that can make one not allow themself to "chill" and enjoy things. That's exactly because of the drive you spoke about. An underdeveloped ENTJ might make an obsession out of it and overwork themself. I don't care that much for MBTI in general. But it helped me understand the Fi in me and how I actually neglect it sometimes. I am seventeen, after all. Also thank you for explaining the delta.
Thanks for the input! My ENTJ friend/boss works his butt off. As does my ESTJ friend. As for Fi being not as significant... I feel the same about Te until I get into the situations in life where I know what I want but have no structure or system built to achieve it or measure progress. Quite the pickle.
@@thesharinganknight Good for you. Thinking that you don't have a weakness is a weakness in itself. That thing represents - Closed Mindset. You will learn this thing overtime. Good Luck.
1.75. I got impatient. I think he was trying hard to find an ENTJ weakness. I can't spend time overthinking emotions. I just move on to the next thing, trying to get ahead. I'm not stressed, so I think I'm fine. Reading others' comments. I think he could have said everything in 2 sentences. 1X was agony
Yes it’s very hard finding ENTJs online I need more data I keep reading the same articles and comments over again online and watching the same videos. I would like to see them on a live video answering questions seeing how they interact with people
@@Goldforever-vp8zq do you mean everyday 'normal' people that are ENTJs ? Because there definitely are celebrity 'Commander' types in interviews on YT. Gordon Ramsay is a great example.
I am an ENTJ and growing up with narcissistic parents was hell on earth.
I am glad I took my power back.
omg “took my power back” resonates with me 10/10
-fellow ENTJ
Gosh, like every line you said hit me. Even the parts when you said, "maybe you already do that" hahaha. Seriously, thank you. I can see myself rushing to do more things because I see lack of progress but what happens is I stumble more and get more frustrated due to the situation not changing. I'll take your advice on doubling down on meditation, journaling and making some art to get in touch with that whatever I need to get in touch with. Very impressive. New subscriber here.
I tried journaling like you suggested in a previous video and it helped a lot more than I'd expected. I actually feel "trapped" these days but didn't mind it much and things are starting to make sense now.
So, thank you. I needed this.
You're welcome.
Journaling is sooo beneficial... and yet... we don't always do what we know is good for us :P
... just like me and cleaning my workspace or making plans.
I clicked, I thought: He is very attractive. He is telling some really interesting stuff.
Later in the video: I am an INFP.
Me thinking: It makes all sense now.
ENTJ Woman here. Always looking for ways to get even better. Nice video. Greeting from Greece. Keep going 💪
ENTJ male here, INFPs just complete us. All my gfs have been NFPs mostly INFPs
Absoliutely brilliant and thought provoking too.
For ENTJ’s like myself, find someone; friend, therapist, coach,etc that you can be emotionally vulnerable with. If you neglect this, it will destroy you.
This entj cranked the vid speed up to 1.5x and it plays perfectly. Anyone else?
I recommend 2x
Agree.. if someone is going to say something, just say it..
It is like the arguments with my father.. he had to tell a story to say anything.. and my sister is like him!
😂😂
@@GeekPsychologyor even faster, but it’s rather the lack of top down structure which makes me reading comments instead
1.75. I got impatient. I think he was trying hard to find an ENTJ weakness. I can't spend time overthinking emotions. I just move on to the next thing, trying to get ahead. I'm not stressed, so I think I'm fine. Reading others' comments. I think he could have said everything in 2 sentences. 1X was agony.
@runforrestrun6103 put everything on 2x except for music or tv shows imo
I'm in the unknown territory right now called inferior Fi... thank you for all this insights which I can't understand on my own...
Run!
JK. Walk fast.
Small steps to acknowledging your emotions and softer side will help many things down the road.
This video is very helpful but very painful for me as an ENTJ. Mom and dad made always made it impossible to use my Te trying to control me and take away my freedom. Horrible):
started hating them couse of that too
This makes sense and is helpful;. Thanks for the video. I have subscribed and would appreciate to see more content in relation to ENTJ.
This video really helped me understand myself better. I feel like sometimes, I don't know why I do the things I do or what I truly value. Planning is just as much about personal reflection as it is strategizing the next move.
I'm an ENTJ and it's so hard for me to be in a relationship. I always point out flaws in my loved one but it's so they can improve themselves. Sadly they take it offensive though that's not my intention. It's also very difficult for me to answer when they talk about their mental health. I barely look at mine and I grew up in a family where it's not talked about. I can't show compassion easily, I often say "Don't look to the past but to the future. Life goes on". But my gf (infp) takes it very offensive while I'm just trying to help. She also has a lot of moodswings and as an entj, i can't really deal with that. I always think positively and look ahead while she is always preoccupied with the past, after a while that really starts to annoy me. She is also very stubborn, i give her advice but she doesn't listen and that is pretty disrespectful to me bcz again I'm an ENTJ. I truly love her and don't want to hurt her. My last relationships all went bad bcz of me. They began to push me away bcz i was always trying to improve them. Sometimes i love to be an ENTJ but now i really hate being one.
From one ENTJ to another, my brother is an INFP, I also shared a flat with an INFP for several years and I've had friendships with quite a few other INFPs for years. I dont think the dynamics would ever work in a romantic relationship with a woman. Maybe you should just face facts and move on.
From your story, I think she is unhealty or unmature INFP. What you did was right, so don't blame yourself because everyone have different way of showing their love. Just be you and love yourself. You're a great person 👍
(INFP)
@@lililaaaaa Now she says that I'm too commanding when i give advice. She also said that I'm controlling her life which is not true, i give her all the freedom and own decisions. Now she said that she didn't mean like controlling but just commanding but ofcourse I'm an ENTJ, the commander (but not in that way) again, when she asks for help for something, i truly want to help her but sometimes she doesn't listen so that's why i can be a bit commanding i think, but she asked for my help so then she needs to listen too. I always tell her when i give her advice for something that it's her choice if she wants to follow it or not. I always tell her that i support every single decision she makes. She said that it's mostly via text that i seem commanding but via text you can interput things in a whole different way then i mean to say it (if you know what i try to explain, like irl i'd say it calm and with a relaxed posture but ofcourse in text it's just words and not non-verbal communication)
@@fv7430I have INFP friend and she is in FI-SI loop. She always tell me all her problems and I always try to not giving advice or solution, just hear her story and then give support (from my experience, some feeler tell their problem to looking for empathy and support, including me 😅 but when they had been calm, they will need and accept advice, solution) but one day ... I couldn't take it anymore because she wasn't trying to solve the problem. I was saying to her that her mindset was the problem. And yap, she didn't talk to me 2 year 🥲 I've apologized so many times and she said "yes, it's ok" but she was still cold to me.
I know it's hard dealing with unhealthy INFP (although I'm INFP too) be patient with her. If she tell you her problem, just hear it and give her your support. Learn about mental health, especially her mental illness (if she has). If you want to chat via massage, you can use emoticon, it's really helpful. My friends told me that I was so scary if I didn't use emoticon in my chat 🤣
The relationship between ENTJ and INFP is really difficult if they don't healthy and mature. But if you two can get through this, your self-improvement will be on the next level and you can find your missing piece. You help her to improve her TE and she help you to improve your FI. I wish you two all the best ✊
@@fv7430 I understand why you want to help her problems, because you want them to be happy and doesn't sad again because of it. You can say about it to her ^^
You can googling or watch youtube about how to break FI-SI loop in INFP and how to make INFP healthy. Hope it help you. Fighting! 🔥
Thank you so much. This video finally explained to me why I have such a strong substance abuse & smoking addiction. Three years ago, someone close to me thwarted one of my most essential goals, because she, as a family member, vetoed over the procurement of my most basic need at the time because my actions did not fit her cultural brainwashing (The conflict started in the first place after she breached my privacy).
I still have limited control because they are dependent on me, and dealing with the situation by acting immediately, for me, means to 420blazeit 360Noscope every day.
No amount of meditation, breathwork, or drawing helps calm the ticking rage, and the only way out of the situation is to get rich. To get rich, I need to slow down, and shift my priorities to actions that can get me rich as opposed to actions that get me sedative pleasure and kill my pain in the short term.
If you think about it most people are in pain because of something or another. All you can do is the best you can in that situation so don't lose hope. Hardship teaches valuable lessons and ease isn't far off.
Become the best version of yourself and then get into a relationship with someone who did the same (I guess your are attracted to her very feminine soft loving and caring slightly shy and grounded side). I’ve been working myself for last 6 years, and doubled down on it as we entjs do it. I developed everything in myself which I wanted from others - and more.
2 months ago, i entered into a relationship with a well-developed male entp which. U met in a spiritual retreat. It’s perfect, almost magical. and we develop and heal together further and build a fun and successful life.
That was a very effective analogy. Thank you for that.
Instructions unclear, emotions caught in ceiling fan
Oof
Good advice ... I’m always on the go go go and I’m like I have no time we just have to go ....
Thank you, I needed this articulated clarity.
Thank you so much, learning a lot from you today & it make me feeling so calm watching you explaining ( I'm ENTJ)
it's painful for being ENTJ, both for my own self and people.
i'm on the phase of "slowing down" and start to realize how sucks am i.. yeah, no wonder how suck it is... like, ok now i know why people go, why she's cheating, why everything that i hop in always get ruined by me...why i start to call it a curse..
just gonna say, everything's nvr be alright on ENTJ, till this day idk what.. everything? why people so easily do this and that, why i'm so hard-going... but something i know is everything should be fine, if i was not in
As an entj I totally agree. I often feel frustrated and trapped in the here and now war. Usually it works fine to have an evening for my self and journaling in my bed. I point out my overall goals in life and reevaluate my path to achieve it. Feeling like self care.
That’s awesome that you do that. I think it’s really important for everyone, but especially for your personality type. It can create a lot long-term benefits.
Te and Se: How dare you say you're "going" through a hard time you're not even trying enough. You're not even moving. Delete youtube, throw your phone away!
Ni and Fi: *that's my emotional support Geek Psychology*
@@Solarqueenthesoverign
I think I didn't explain myself well. I'm not talking about getting a healthy break and discontinuing what wastes time and energy. I'm talking about the excessive response to (mostly emotional) problems that can make one not allow themself to "chill" and enjoy things. That's exactly because of the drive you spoke about. An underdeveloped ENTJ might make an obsession out of it and overwork themself.
I don't care that much for MBTI in general. But it helped me understand the Fi in me and how I actually neglect it sometimes. I am seventeen, after all.
Also thank you for explaining the delta.
Thanks for the input! My ENTJ friend/boss works his butt off. As does my ESTJ friend.
As for Fi being not as significant... I feel the same about Te until I get into the situations in life where I know what I want but have no structure or system built to achieve it or measure progress.
Quite the pickle.
@@GeekPsychology We need each other to success base on we can use the strength of each other & respect the different
Well explained!
Thank you dude.
Thanks for watching and commenting ^^
I don’t have weaknesses
And that's the weakness! You have to keep yourself open for new Ideas.
@@intj1782 but I don't have a weakness
@@thesharinganknight Good for you. Thinking that you don't have a weakness is a weakness in itself. That thing represents - Closed Mindset. You will learn this thing overtime. Good Luck.
😂. Love it. Entj discussion with basically anyone, who is trying to convince us from the opposite what we (firmly) believe. 😁
@@sabrinas.8034 narcissism works in the same way...
1.75. I got impatient. I think he was trying hard to find an ENTJ weakness. I can't spend time overthinking emotions. I just move on to the next thing, trying to get ahead. I'm not stressed, so I think I'm fine. Reading others' comments. I think he could have said everything in 2 sentences. 1X was agony
2x everything but music and movies ^^
Looks like ENTJs don't have time to leave comments 🤔.
lol.
ENTJ here. I watched this at 2x speed while I took notes👍
@@getledinyourhead Hey! Thanks for leaving a comment. X2 🤔 you didn't disappoint!, 👍
lol
Before I got my very first boyfriend, I used to think I was perfect. He pointed out to me that this wasn't true. 😮. Where are the timestamps?
I didn’t put them in :/
Yeah, and they just ignore this video too...
Lol. True that!
Then I didn’t make it well enough. Not their fault for my poor marketing. :)
@@GeekPsychology To be fair, they may not be on UA-cam if the Te is strong with them.
Yes it’s very hard finding ENTJs online I need more data I keep reading the same articles and comments over again online and watching the same videos. I would like to see them on a live video answering questions seeing how they interact with people
@@Goldforever-vp8zq do you mean everyday 'normal' people that are ENTJs ? Because there definitely are celebrity 'Commander' types in interviews on YT. Gordon Ramsay is a great example.
Dawg with the butter
Ok watched the superhero movie but I sympathize with Thanos. What do I do now?
He was designed that way ^^ and also he’s an xNTJ... so... I’d imagine you’d relate in some way.
Any ENTJ will play this at 1.25x
You are a much more balanced INF, seems like a Libra,isn't it? Iam curious.
I’m a Leo (July 31st)
@@GeekPsychology It does really makes sense when I came to see your other videos.😅
@@GeekPsychology Leo fucking gang ( July 26th, and happy early bday ( to myself and you))🤘🏾
Lol get out of my brain lol jk
Speak more quickly
Slow down ;P I also recommend at least 2x for all learning content.