Managing ADHD Symptoms
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This is exactly why my ADHD symptoms were unnoticed for so long, because they were manageable. I spent many years at university studying were I was fully autonomous. As soon as I left and started a 9-5 with all the meetings, open plan office and constantly changing projects, I completely unraveled.
I am so pleased your symptoms were manageable. Mine were very bad from the around the age of 10 years old and because of that I was never able to go to university. I really needed medication back then, if I had them perhaps I could have studied Art!
I'm sorry you weren't able to study art. It's never too late, so maybe you will be able to pursue that in the future. I have inattentive type, so I was able to coast through most of school.@@CozySophie
Plus you're a woman.
It's probably 10 times harder for you guys to take notice by virtue of just nature.
I for sure know my wife has it, I have it, but I'm TOTALLY aware of it. I can point it in a good direction that works.
My Wife is totally unaware and would take offense to me even signaling she may have it.
She's not the type to seek help, nor is she paying enough attention to notice that she's having a problem.
I feel like, for the ladies, when it hits you guys no one but you is gonna convince you there's something remotely "wrong".
I'm glad you figured it out, don't stop working on it. It doesn't just go away.
I truly thought I was alone dealing with this growing up.
Same!
This is exactly it. I could cope with school because the environment was structured, with clear goals, and I could get away with doing things at the last minute or staying up late to catch up on work. I struggled hard at every transition point, especially with college and law school, but I’d eventually adjust and make up for the initial bad grades by the time I graduated. It wasn’t until I actually became an attorney that I got diagnosed. It is, quite literally, the worst job I could have chosen for myself. The primary skills I need day to day are all things I struggle with-organization, time management, ability to prioritize, ability to transition quickly between dozens of tasks. It doesn’t matter that I’m a great legal writer, good at oral argument, or actually really detail-oriented (in fact, that last one can be a detriment, because I hyperfocus on the details); I don’t need those skills as often.
Anyway, that’s how I ended up diagnosed with ADHD at 28 years old. Becoming a lawyer was me crossing my threshold. I could no longer cope with my weaknesses.
@flawlix Wow! Would you consider submitting a personal testimony to the Law Association you belong to? Or perhaps they have a Career Guidance Service you could meet with. To provide your professional feedback on how a person may qualify as an attorney, yet be overwhelmed by the day-to-day job requirements. There must be many, many lawyers who reach their own threshold. You could list fifty individual scenarios, but here's a couple. 1) severe and ongoing medical treatment eg cancer, dialysis for failing kidney function 2) severe bereavement or trauma 3) child, partner or family member with high needs 4) addiction of any kind 5) us!😊 Neuro Divergence
WOW, She just describe my Life. As a graphic designer for many years, I am being moved to be Manager position and I can't keep up with delegating work to others.
Thanks DR. Tracey...
Hey! Graphic designer here too. I haven't been diagnosed but I highly suspect I have ADHD too. It's weird cuz I'm such a high achiever and I do good work, but I'm so freaking disorganized and my energy bursts are unpredictable and unreliable. I never know if I will actually meet my deadlines or just succumb to a weird numbness that stops me from working or even maintaining personal needs like food, hygiene, sleep. I'm thinking I should get a diagnosis just to be sure. I never wanna take meds but maybe if I got a diagnosis I'll take this more seriously and get some behavioral treatment.
I would love if you made a video just on Inattentive type ADHD.
YES!
Frustrating thing for me I’ve always had is that even when I by DO pay attention to things people do and say , I STILL forget. Not all the time but sometimes. Usually important stuff too. 😒
I was a teacher before I had kids. Once they came along, I just could not handle it. Teaching consumed my life for the solid 9 months of the school year, and there was no way a baby fit into that. So miraculously, I was able to be a stay at home parent and I managed that fine. Now, going back to work, I have a very low paying job with little responsibility and no take home work…and I am just barely under my threshold. It works and I actually love my current job, but I often feel like I’m not living up to my potential because I’m not using my college/master’s degrees.
I’m not actually diagnosed, but my son is and that’s how it dawned on me that I probably have adhd too!
Yes, that’s how I found out because my son was diagnosed. You can still use your degrees and do what you are passionate. Learn coping skills possibly meditation management and set healthy boundaries at work.
Simple example that just happened. 10 folk over for tea and coffee. I wrote a list of each name and each preference including milk and sugar. One by one I got each person their choice. Until I got to the 10th. His coffee got made and just sat on the coffee maker. I completely forgot to give it to him. Too busy chatting! So cross with myself! Instead of being happy 9 folk got their drinks! (I am 66 years old). I know this is hardly the same as choosing a career choice! Though I was wise enough to never try waiting at tables!
Thankyou. Please make more videos on managing ADHD.
I feel seen and understand myself. Now. I didn’t realize I had it until I had two kids. My capacity to handle was stretched beyond my ADHD bounds. Learning no to scale back and simplify.
I'm having the same issue! Before I had kids I had things that were working for me but I can't do those same things at all or as often because our lives are so busy. Our house is such a mess and is in desperate need of a deep clean and I can barely get dishes and laundry done some days. It's so hard to set up a routine or a schedule when you have little ones so it makes it hard when you have ADHD. I'm really happy to be a mom but Holy cow it's overwhelming at times. Just gotta figure out what's going to work!
This is why I flopped so hard right out of high school. I was a straight A student with so many people in my life expecting greatness. Then I tried college, freaked out, went into depression, and avoided it for a long time. I knew I had ADHD since I was in 6th grade but I knew it was manageable and didn’t ask for help. I got diagnosed officially at 23 when I decided to try college again. The official diagnosis made things better, mainly because others now knew what was going on and could help me, the meds completely failed me though.
I have been trying to focus on my strengths, but every job seems to want to pivot me into some sort of people or project management role.
If you give me some specs, I can hack code until the sun comes up. If you have some gadget I've never seen before and want me to figure out why it keeps catching fire, I can have a report on your desk by the end of the day. If you want me to attend meetings all day or call someone every day for status reports, you are going to be disappointed.
Yeah, I was pretty frustrated that this 'advice' assumes you have the power at your job to say no to things they wanna add to your responsibilities.
@@tonichan89 I think it's mainly useful for job searching, but you're not wrong. My last position was a lab tech (which I am overqualified for on paper, but better fits my interests), but within a month transitioned to mostly project management.
Between that and various questionable corporate directions, I was starting to plan an exit strategy when I got hit in the third round of layoffs. Between a generous severance and unemployment, I've spent the past year doing absolutely nothing. I'm not medicated due to lack of insurance, and I've discovered the one thing I hate more than a job that doesn't suit me is looking for a job 🤷
@@FriendofWigner You sound like a great candidate for someone else to find you a job! Remembering that they get paid for a successful placement. 😉 If they have an intelligent, clear understanding of how you can serve and benefit an organisation, and how you probably won't, then they can market you accordingly.
We gotta self advocate for what utilizes our strengths. Sometimes a “promotion” is actually a leap off a cliff into misery.
Yea I feel you. I'm the same. People like us are seen as high achievers and employers always want to utilize us for management roles, which actually makes sense and is great for our career progression, but it can be terrifying and overwhelming. I never ever like to manage people because I get anxious about doing it wrong and making their life harder unintentionally, like many bosses did to me before. But one day I'd like to think I'll be happy to manage a team.
untreated adhd up until my 40's has totally wrecked my life and changed my brain. Now that im finally medicated, i have no idea what to even do with myself because i'm all atrophied from the lack of life experiences.
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You start fresh. Blank slate. Screw the past. (I boldly say to both of us.) ❤️ huggggg
Thanks I needed this so I can show it to people who don’t understand me enough 😊
Thank you so much for considering your audience by making short form ADHD content - I really appreciate it
If only I had known this fifty years ago.
Same. I’m 54, diagnosed in my late 40’s. Schools - at least now when the knowledge is there - should be helping students all over the mental health spectrum figure themselves and their strengths and abilities out. Our parents are not psychologists and we need help sorting it all out. We stumble along and feel like failures often and it’s not true. We have strengths “normal” people do not… IF we can channel them in ways that actually work for us.
Dr.Tracy.. please talk about preventing PTSD from happening if the trigger is already extremely traumatic… I have friends who have family in Gaza where children are going through traumatic times and I trust you can help with advice.. thanks a lot
Much love, From Gaza on behalf of my friends
Yeaaaah I had this moment when I had my first kid. Before I had him I was pretty much average to everything I did (work, school, organization, etc.) But Holy cow when I had a kid, all of the routines, systems, etc. that were semi-working for me got thrown out the window because I no longer could take care of my new baby AND keep everything the way it was. My kiddo is now 3 and I'm STILL struggling to figure out how to manage my symptoms. Lately, because we're moving and my husband is going to be attending college, I keep having these "overwhelm" episodes where I basically break down crying for like 30 mins because I've been trying to keep on top of everything but I'm barely managing to get dishes and laundry done and literally nothing else (except, of course, taking care of my son). I feel like I'm unraveling and I'm really worried about what's going to happen once we move away from family and I won't have as much help anymore.....I feel like a ticking-time-bomb of overwhelm just waiting to explode.
If only the world celebrated our unique differences and didn't honor the insane concept of sameness over everything.😢
I'm an engineer with 9 years of work experience and recently got a job as a team leader. Long story short it lasted 5 months and it was exactly like in the video, although I had been working on my ADHD for about a year. Which is not all that much, as I now realize...
I don't know how this worked for me, I'm a very practical person yet somehow I tried Yoga Mudras just out boredom where I was shoked it took away my writers block out of nowhere. How it works is you do different hand/finger positions. For my Adhd I do certain mudras such Ghyan Mudra, Dhyan mudra, Hakini mudra, venus lock mudra and Vayu mudra. Like I said I don't know if it will work for you but I've been on concerta and it makes me feel terrible after the crash, so instead I focused on alternatives which seem to help me ✌
I kept a job for many years because it suited my limitations. Years later l realize my father (RIP) had done the same thing. I now get the sense we were both ADHD.
Thanks Dr. Marks
This is such an important message to have out there in the work environment but I also hope that we will talk more of the psychological comorbidities that can be incredibly severe especially in late diagnosed adults so maybe society will come to realise that ADHD is not all about Attention and Hyperactivity but there's a lot more to the disorder especially compared to the silly stereotypes and simplifications that are getting trendy in the general public and even in the language itself which is kinda sad
ditto. As someone with quite severe ADHD symptoms, this sort of entirely fails to mention the other kinds of issues. I know it's a YT short, but the feeling i got from watching this is that it's kind of minimizing and reinforces the public's already massively incomplete and harmful beliefs about ADHD.
Love your channel and content!
Yeah.... now the ~only~ tas is to convince my workplace that putting a lot of admin work (tots not necessary) and several half-an-hour meetings is not going to lead anywhere productive.
I'm back on the horrible medication that causes me insomnia
It doesn’t cause me insomnia, but it causes me to crash when it wears off which I hate, but the medication really does help. All the best to you. Weve got this :)
Thank you so much. I tried to tell my parents I want to find out about my disorder so I can work around it to perform more effectively, but they keep saying I'm just not trying hard enough and I should just brute force it if I'm motivated to make them proud.
Show them this video, maybe? Teach them about your condition. You *do* want to make them proud, and your need their full understanding and support to help you do so.
Thankyou very much doctor 💚
I finally landed a good, sustainable job at age 31. Been waiting and praying for this but it triggered a whole year of emotional meltdowns and a relapse of depression even though I was on medication.
18 months later I am finding my feet, and realizing that I absolutely despise meetings that revolve around implementation of new projects, especially if nothing is final and nobody has a grasp on exact answers. That made me hate my life at the close of 2023. Now I just don’t hyper focus on every word cause I know it’ll piss me off when everything gets reshuffled. I just don’t know how I’m gonna give feedback if/when it’s required cause I can’t give my attention to that particular project.
I am thriving in my day to day duties and tend to come up with ways to optimise the processes.
Most of my jobs after graduation were zone out and nose to the grindstone sort of work that I excelled at but every once in awhile I'm thrown into a long meeting and I realize I'm going back into a panicked stress state that I was constantly in in all throughout my younger years of schooling. People don't realize how upsetting it is for us once we realize we've zoned out though something important and you having to resort back to biting your tongue in an attempt to pay attention. It's crazy how things will set you off in that state. Like as an adult you kinda forget how bad it was until something gets put in your face unexpectedly and you think "Oh yeah, no wonder I was always miserable. I used to deal with that daily." I'm dreading a manager position but at the same time, I could really use that pay raise...
No money is worth that misery. Maybe a lateral move, or some training that allows you to skip a level or something. Get creative. Don’t set yourself up for misery. Just a fellow ADHD stranger’s 2 cents worth.
Uhm... I mean-- yeah, duh? 😅I still wouldn't know what to do if, as is often the case, people have no option to pick and choose which parts of their job they participate in.
Resonates..
sort of true ‘bout everything… focus on your strengths!
Literally cried when she graphic designer 😂 cuz that's my job and it felt like she's directly talking to me. Oh lawd I need therapy.
Dr Tracy please do a video for parent carers of a adult child with ADHD psychosis with cptsd .
I feel burned out ,I try to be kind and not argue or not believe her fantasy . But she's becoming too overpowering and manipulative and even blackmailing me. She believes I'm the bad parent (I wasn't) after reconnecting with her father who abandoned her when she was ten. Now she's trying to kick me out of my home .
This only works if you have a positive work environment with a team who communicate well and are willing to make allowances.
Hello Dr. Tracey Marks. Please can you talk about EMDR as i am starting yhis trauma therapy soon and I'm a little scared
It would be better if there were no music in the background.
And if the text didn't keep switching sides of the screen, and if she would slow down some, and if it wasn't constantly cutting to something else to break my focus over and over-
How are people praising this video for being ADHD-friendly? Because I've got some real bad combined-type ADHD, and I'm struggling way worse with this one than her other videos...
But in most well paid jobs, there will be meetings, or juggling through multiple activities etc, which frankly does push the threshold. But how can the solution be to avoid it. I would much rather spend all my time building mud houses perhaps but that don't pay the bills and maintain the desired standard of life sadly 😔
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I get so easily annoyed with a certain person for more than 2 hours I just want to be alone
I’m going to right after Christmas the 26th
I’m going to unalive myself
After 1 Minute in to the video, I had to skip back a few seconds 😂
Pot helps calm ADHD. Works. IT WORKKS! Even young children benefit.
Can you explain more please
Careful with that.