Should I Fight For My Marriage or Let Go? When is it Time to Move On?
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- Опубліковано 11 лют 2025
- This video will help you make peace with making this decision. Stop agonizing. I’ll help you see what is stopping you from deciding and how to move forward, confident in your final choice. Should I fight for my marriage or let go? If that question is tormenting you, I’m here to show you the way through the pain and into the happy, calm, grounded, hopeful future you want.
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I’m Rachael Sloan, Master NLP Practitioner, certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce. I've helped hundreds of men move past the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. I hope to help you do the same.
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Should you fight for your marriage or let it go? If you are separated or going through a divorce, you probably spend a fair amount of time wondering if you can save marriage from divorce. Can you? Should you? When is it time to give up on your relationship with spouse and when is it time to fight for your marriage?
If you fight for marriage during divorce, you might save your marriage. If you do, what happens next? You rebuild your life with your wife, get to know each other again. It will be hard. But maybe it can be better than before.
Or is it time to give up on your marriage? If you decide to let go, you have to move on alone. Meet new people. Build a new life. Maybe it feels freeing, or exciting. But it’s also scary, and you miss your ex, or your kids or the stability of your old life.
So. Should I fight for my marriage or let it go? What’s the right choice? I get asked this question a lot! It all comes down to this: you want to be happy in the future, and you want to avoid suffering or being in pain in the future.
And you’re pretty sure that if you can just do the right thing, you can make that happen. But you don’t know which it is. Should you fight for your marriage or let it go?
The absolute MOMENT she says she doesn’t want to be with you. That’s the right time
Not exactly for me. My wife filed for divorce after 24 years and she refuses to reconsider. Saving my marriage isn't up to me. I'm not running away, I'm being thrown away!
Give her the divorce…let her feel the full weight of her decision…get busy with your own self improvement…
I am in your shoes now. My husband is divorcing from me "stone-cold" after 25 years of marriage. I did not see it coming at all. I hope it will get better with time. At least, I started working on my body and health again. 🙂
Help her pack, start her car, show her the door...and do it with a smile as you tell her you are happy with her decision.
@lloydclement2152 I pretty much did that. I helped her with everything until about a month ago. Now I don't do anything for her. I'm done!
The moment I was served the divorce papers, I let go. From that moment on the only thing on my mind was the details of separation
I love this Rachael. You are amazing at what you do and it shows. I love the way you speak and your videos are so insightful. Thank you 🙏🏼
I think this hits the proper note. However, from a religious context it is drilled into you that divorce is wrong so it's not a valueless decision. Most probably struggle with that and probably the stigma of failure. But from an emotional standpoint the yes/no decision is probably irrelevant.
Finding your channel really helpful, thank you so much for all you have done on here!
You're very welcome! I'm glad to hear it's helping!
The power of doubt is fear of the worst possible outcome. AKA Catastrophizing.
Why are we all so afraid of being alone? Shouldn’t we be looking at that more deeply?
I’ve embraced my “loneliness” post divorce. I don’t want to get back into a relationship for a “warm body” kind of thing. Seems crappy for that person.
It has been terrifying, but I feel like I’ve learned how to be with me. I’m not “alone”. I got me!!❤
Good video Rachel. Thank you.
Thanks so much for watching, I'm glad you enjoyed it!
thank you Rachael for sharing such helpful wisdom.
You're welcome. Thank you for watching. I'm really glad this one was helpful.
Yup wrong choice. Going to die alone. Rather than fight to save the 17 year marriage, I gave up when she shut down and cheated on me, their wasn’t any remorse or guilt or sadness or teers from her, so I just walked away ashamed and hurt beyond belief. I’ve been running toward death keeping so busy for 26 years avoiding thinking about her or any women or any relationship. She won, I lost. I have everything I wanted out of life except the one I loved that betrayed me without shedding a single teer. I tried one brief relationship after the divorce that ended the exact same way. Cheated on me with her childhood friend and married him two weeks after our split. Women are fucked up!!!!
I made the right choice I’m not afraid of being alone I don’t want anyone! I couldn’t love or trust again that was my choice!
It was my choice to love myself and walk away from a bad marriage!
We come alone and die alone, worldly things get left behind even the people we love! Everything is on loan to us in this life! Crazy but it’s true right!!😢
You have all the red flags she talked about.
Ur strength and courage is admirable. Wish I was there
Thats deep
Like I had a choice? Oh. I thought when she said go away, that was the delimiter.
I am dying alone. Because she had some feelings that caused her to destroy our family.
I’m really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It sounds incredibly painful, and I can understand the frustration you're experiencing. Rachael offers a free Masterclass that might help you during this tough time. It walks you through the emotional regulation strategy she uses with her clients and can provide clarity on how to move forward.
You can access the Masterclass here: resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/masterclass-register.
Take care,
Rachael’s BBD Team
"When you find out that God never got married"
#3 IMO being married to someone with NPD doesn’t allow for personal growth. There is only one (correct) answer for some people even if it’s an unpleasant truth.
I agree - there are certain situations where we find ourselves focused on pure survival, and there isn't enough safety or space to grow or heal our wounds. Recognizing that and choosing to leave that situation can be incredibly difficult, especially when you love or deeply care for the other person. I'm really sorry if you find yourself in a situation like that.
Get to understand your attachment style! Do the inner work…there are too many books and work books out here to sit lingering in pain & sorrow…DO THE WORK…it’s the fastest way to healing
Give em 6 months at least! C
That’s definitely a tough decision, and giving it time can be helpful in some situations. If you're struggling with whether to hold on or let go, Rachael’s free Masterclass might give you some clarity. It walks you through a step-by-step strategy to manage the emotions that come with this kind of decision. You can check it out here: resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/masterclass-register
Roman
Rachael’s BBD Team
I just want to be a billionaire is that too much to ask
Don't get married. It's a waste..
Go get healed 😂
She surprised file and has been cheating for a year with a user. I love her I love our family. I own what I did to drive her to that bad choice. I want to save us. She hasn’t shows any remorse for those action. She thinks sign a paper and I walk away with just me. I don’t want to fight the divorce I want to fight for us. She wants it done. Do I accept her decision because she is so cold and keep fixing me or do I fight for us
I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. It sounds like you’re going through a very tough time, and I can imagine it’s difficult to know what steps to take next. If you’re looking for support in navigating these overwhelming emotions and figuring out your next best steps, Rachael’s free Masterclass could be really helpful. It offers a step-by-step strategy for emotional regulation, which may help you manage the difficult feelings you’re facing and gain clarity on how to move forward.
Get the Masterclass here: resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/masterclass-register
Rachael’s BBD Team
The best time to let go is before you get married. Don't do it!
Divorce should be illegal!
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. Divorce is such a tough and emotional topic, and it can bring up a lot of pain. If you’re in a place where you’re struggling with your emotions or decision-making, Rachael’s free Masterclass could offer you some helpful strategies. It teaches how to calm overwhelming emotions and navigate difficult decisions, like whether to fight for your marriage or let go.
You can check out the Masterclass here: resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/masterclass-register
Rachael’s team is here for you, and if you’d like to connect directly with Rachael, you can fill out the contact form on her website: www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/contact-8
Take care,
Roman
Rachael’s BBD Team