The Art of Flaking
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"Sorry, my mom said no"
"Dude, you're 26"
ill be using that excuse til i die
DUDE DOESNT MATTER MY MOM IS MY MOOOOOOMMMMM
*So?*
@*sarcasm* • 69 years ago Kinky
And ?
"sorry i'm broke"
"you watched infinity war in theaters 6 times!"
"So you see why I'm broke then"
Checkmate.
Exactly what i thought😂
I thought they'd reply that lol
CHECKMATE
And also why you're dumb
if anyone says that to me, i just say, ill pay idc just come. haha
“You’re probably flaking on them right now to watch this video!”
No, they're flaking on me right now and so I'm watching this video while waiting.
Update: they just hate me.
Nice pfp
Get boofed
YUP THIS IS THE ONE
Yeah, yeah.... same...
Nice pfp
I feel like flaking just makes you more isolated. I have a friend whod Id invite to things and ask to hang out and what not, but abt half the time they had some medical excuse along the lines of "oh im just feeling a bit ill today" and like sure, fine, it happens but not 6 times a month, every month, and youre completely okay the next day. Eventually people will just think youre avoiding them and they will stop asking you. Dont do that. Be honest.
They might be suffering from depression, personally I think you should give them a bit of grace
@@sr81 Sure, but Id say that 1) I cant go through a list of every possible mental/physical health issue that they haven told me about every time in my head that someone flakes on me and 2) Just tell me what exactly is wrong. If youre not gonna tell me then im not gonna and cant care.
If youre having a mental health struggle then say that. But imma keep it 100% with you, if you do that 50% of the time i ask to do smth with you, then i will stop. Its not your fault sure, but its not mine either and to have throw away plans all the time and waste days that i wouldve spent with someone then, im sorry, but my time is limited and valuable too. If I have friends that will be more reliable, then I will ask them over you. Understanding for that situation can only go so far if you keep wasting my time agreeing to do things you will likely not do.
@@tophatowl6724 facts
you’re giving a whole paragraph of reasons about why it bothers you, but it’s not about you.
@@nopenopenopenopenope4101 Yes youre right, its all about you. Everyone should keep planning their lives around you and keep making plans that you will inevitably flake on. Everyone should sacrifice their time to accommodate you. Is that seriously what you think?
If I truly am your friend, then you should feel comfortable to tell me about your issues and then I am more than happy to help. And if I am not that close with you, I have no responsibility or obligation to sacrifice my time for you over and over again.
If you agree to something, see that you attend or tell them that you wont in a timely manner, or dont agree in the first place. Its not selfish of me to ask others to respect my time. Its selfish of you to expect from everyone around you to plan their lives around you and be okay with you flaking half the time you make plans.
If something happens every now and again, thats okay. I understand that life happens and plans need to be canceled sometimes. But thats not what I am talking about. I am talking about people who frequently flake. Not just occasionally say "hey look smth happened". THose are very different
You're not a flaker if you say no to plans. Your reasons are yours to be respected. You are a flaker if you say yes and then fail to commit. And those reasons are subject to debate.
How come this has only one like and one comment?
Make that three
Make it four :3
Hey domics one question how long did it take you too become a b boi
По русски Пеши!!!!!!!!
I like corn flakers
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
*REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE*
Oof
Ok
Die urslef
i'm not a flaker myself, but i had two flaker friends and it was f**king awful. i felt like the only one who actually cared about our friendship. if it wasn't for me to remind them about the upcoming event or to call them to ask why they didn't come (and said nothing about it to anyone, of course), it'd be like interacting with a wall. it was really draining. made me feel alone and used, like i'm only needed when they want to get a quick free positive energy, but when it's something that requires just a little commitment or effort, they're off board. and to all the flakers who read this - saying "yes" and changing your mind later is more rude and offensive than saying "no" in the first place. trust me, i know.
Totally get it - I often feel used. People tap me up when they wants quick positive energy session, but then routinely flake on me for arranged meet ups. I often feel superficially liked - because I am happy go lucky and understanding, I get used. I’m starting to become really transactional now - if someone bails on me once, I don’t make another arrangement with them. They have to really work to get back into my space. Im almost 40 and just decided I am too old now for these immature games, I have a busy life and hate having my time wasted.
I’m not gonna lie, this video made me realized how much I was flaking on the friends I was close to. I almost lost two of my close friends because I was flaking over and over and over again saying I had the excuse that I was busy instead of being a good friend. It felt awful to realize but I’m glad I did before I lost them.
Thank you for making this video, and I look to be a better friend for those who care about me in the future.
do you even need friends like that if you need to find excuses not to be with them?
@@deltaxcd Honestly, it was less so excuses about being with them. It’s because I was making promises I couldn’t keep, just cause I got excited to see them, which was killing the connection.
@@vaporeon344 I don't understand what you mean with that, You were truly incapable to follow your promises even if you wanted to do it?
@@deltaxcd Explaining the exact scenario is hard for me cause there was a lot more going on than the surface would show. Mostly it was just me wanting to make plans and do things, but my busy school schedule eating up time. But I didn’t wanna disappoint them so I’d make plans but cut them short or be late to balance my schedule. Frankly, Im not proud of myself for it, but I learned important time management skills from that
@@vaporeon344 Oh ok, so you were genuinely trying to follow your promises but did not make enough effort. I think that's not exactly flaking then but rather prioritizing things in certain way. You were really busy not just making dumb excuses.
But yes it is good that you eventually found out that friends are more important than those other things.
My parents told me my pet gold fish was visiting a friend. He must be a mega flaker because he’s been gone for 6 years.
High Caliber Garbage thats tuff
Dang..
I approve
Hate to break it to you but
Your goldfish is a jerk
My dad buried my goldfish
Dang my dad said he was going to get milk but he’s been gone since I was born
Me: Sorry, I’m broke.
Person: You watched Endgame in theaters 6 times.
Me: Exactly...
But you watched it again for the 7th time sooo...
He got a loan
That’s what I thought and btw I went a seventh time cuz my mom forst me to
THATS Y AM BROKE IDIOT!
Ulysses Paculaba 😂😂😂 that’s what I was thinking
When you flake bc depression /feeling of shame/ feeling ugly and people stop to invite you so you feel even lonelier, misérable, unloved... That hurts so much.
The thing is, you cannot blame your friends for not wanting to be the only one putting effort in a friendship, especially if they don’t know what you’re going through…
They might also feel insecure and believe that you dislike them if you keep flaking on them :/
it’s the hard truth, but you can get through it and always try to reconnect, a true friend will accept it if you had a bad mental health time and want to try again.
Yeah
Yeah
Yeah
No
Just remembered how I purposefully flaked my way out of dating this girl in college because my friend said she was a flake. I didn’t realize it till now, but I was both a flake and a hypocrite. Don’t be a hypoflake boys and girls.
“don’t be a hypoflake boys and girls”
this is perhaps one of the best conclusions i’ve ever read
0:54 "It's me. I'm that friend. I have no friends now."
_Relatability 100_
Same bro same
5:49 lol this one was funny too
Can't argue with that
Reality 100
Evariste Galois why do I see you everywhere wtf..?
oh no I am sorry Domics I will play smash with you at vidcon next time
Casually Explained
I hope you enjoy infinity war for the eighth time 😑
Lol
Casually Explained × Domics?
Casually explained! My boiiii, give him smash
It's my birthday
"You can't post on social media while flaking"
Me who never posts: I am 4 parallel universes ahead of you
We*
Same
I'm sometimes the opposite. Especially when it's exam season. I say no outright when my friends tell me that we're gonna grab some drinks cuz I'm gonna study for the exam. And a few hours later I'll just invite myself again and appear like a jack in a box in the bar 😂
I think they’d rather a little surprise after an honest reason rather than a flake. You can’t flake on something you never agreed to do.
I dont even get included so I cant be a flaker
Me too... Me too...
Rip u
Frosty right
make better friends or better yourself or build a wall
Frosty ur a snowflaker lol
"It's a bunch of bULl SHeEt!" Someone make this a shirt
A load*
I like ur profile pic ;)
Somebody made it an hour long loop. It's everything you've been missing from your life. ua-cam.com/video/VfuBpd4q4_A/v-deo.html
Yasss!!
sandy victorin love your profile pic
What really gets me is the "friends" who leave you on R, and then come back out of the blue and you're just supposed to be there for them.
1:36 Dom: feeling like your wanted is amazing
Me: well not if you're 'wanted dead or alive'
you're*
bold of you to assume i have friends to flake on
I'll be your friend 🙂
Lol im not the first to think of this xD
Same.
_Same_
Same
I don't have any plans to begin with
About that... Sorry it’s a snow day today because there’s 4 feet of snow outside and when the snowplough passed to clean the roads, it created a mountain of snow at the end of my driveway so I’m currently trapped in my house for the next day or two.
Thank you Canada
Oh hi taikamuna mitäs kuuluu
Ay, yoo dat jackfilmz duude
Taikamuna are you the jakefilms dude
you're in every vid. The next Justin Y.
PSA: some situations are more complicated than your friend just not wanting to commit to plans. They might have a plethera of reasons for being "flakey". Examples: social anxiety, depression, chronic illness or other health problems, domestic violence or abuse, having poor communication skills due to trauma.
Be understanding
yeah, i was a huge flaker because of my anxiety and trauma, no one tried to understand or ask if everything is okay soo.. people should really try to be more open minded sometimes and give their friends the benefit of the doubt
That might be true but not if they are the most extraverted friend you have... Talking to you Lukas
Or all or most of those things at the same time.
-a professional flaker
late stage flaker here ; beyond saving
A friendship ending flake moment was when I asked flaker half a year in advance (Already caught onto his bs) if he wanted to attend my collega graduation ceremony, you know the once in a lifetime event.
Of course he agreed. fast forward to a month before the ceremony and I asked again. Of course he agreed. Fast forward to one week before graduation and I asked again. Again, he agreed.
Finally when it was time for my ceremony, he didn't show up because (he confessed) went to Defqon 2016 festival instead.
This was the final straw that broke the camel's back and he was violently expelled from the friend group.
My grandma died...
“T h a t w a s l a s t t i m e s e x c u s e.”
You see. I have two grandma’s
@@grilsonderdebrug2393 I have 5
“All my grandmas are lesbians!”
You see I cloned my grandma a couple idk, octillion times
IM STILL RECOVERING TIM 😂😭
Plot Twist: *He’s flaking on his friends right now by making this video on flakers.*
You a member of the clique I love youuu
Lol yes!
clique
but this is work though...
Twenty Juan Pilots ||-//
2:20 3:49
The *”iTs A LottA BuLLa- SHIIItah!”*
Got me dying 🤣🤣🤣
i have a person in my life who is just like 1:17 lol. super enthusiastic when making plans but also super vague and unclear, and doesn’t seem to be self aware / respectful of my time. has promised plans so many times that she never followed up with, and pretended like she didn’t make them in the first place.
mentally distanced myself and let go energetically. 10/10 would recommend. respect your own time and yourself y’all
Ah yes the combination of being an introvert and being a flaker.
but im introvert and a flaker 🥺
Yes.
@@user-gv9bh7ws9v nobody cares
You can be both.. just don’t lie to people
Plus being a procrastinator... 😣😆
Me: oh new video
*2 seconds later* “Made 8 months ago”
Me: w a i t
Same idk how i havent seen this one
UA-cam being a dipshit
Sub to me
same wtf
@@Brian-tb7is no
I have a flaky friend, but what makes this different is they’re the one asking me to do something. Every time I’ve said yes and we’ve just “forgotten” about it. I even asked to hang out with him and he just switched the convo. It just feels like I’m being on like a fish with a fishing rod, it sucks so pls don’t be flaky.
"Mom said no" is the only reason I'm not looking forward to moving out.
Im not a flaker, im a *frosted flaker*
Oh so you're white
Oh yes that's me
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@@Hola_Justin yup
And I’m a goofy goober ya
I like how Dom goes like "BULL-AH SHIII EHT"
*Indian accent intensifies*
@@satyatejeswar3952 lol loved it
2:19 replay button
@@satyatejeswar3952 LMAO IKR
"But it's a load of *b u l l a h s h h i e e e t !"*
“You’re probably flaking on your friends now”
Everyone who’s in lockdown and isn’t allowed to meet up with their friends: 👁👄👁
Didnt know flaking was an actual thing this was so relatable
Bold of you to think I have friends to flake
Bold of you to think i have existence
I agree with you
Bold of you to think I have friends! ;-;
Gemsiey MOOOOD
Artrans 747 I meant what I said
Domics:*Exists*
NordVPM:Im about to fund this mans whole career
Crunchyroll: *am I a joke to you?*
No joke they sponsored him like 10 times
Audible- Hold my audiobook.
It is VPN not VPM
IF YOU HAVE A NAME THEN WHAT IS IT ??????????
I used to be a borderline Flaker but then quickly realised how me not following through with plans, I kinda didnt agree with, got everyone/people involed upset. SO I slowly learnt the idea of just straight up saying no. And I was baffled how many problems could be solved by being crystal clear about it lol.
I don't consider myself a flaker but here's a thing: if I go out 15 times and just ONCE I decline saying "I'm tired" my friends will think that I don't want to go out ever again. So I resort to rather easily saying yes and figure things out from there
So guys he did it.
He talked about me.
The guy who watched infinity war 7 times.
Oof
Lmao
Only 7?
NANI?!?!
Did you enjoy it
You cant be a flaker to ur friends if u dont have friends
*Leif hax*
You know the secret!
Sick burn!
*modern problems require modern solutions*
I read this then looked at the profile picture
5:10
Adios, amigos
Sometimes you're just an introvert and really want to go and follow up with plans, but just when the moment approaches you stress out and panic. Happened to me a few times. Felt bad about it but couldn't help it in the moment. When it happens all the time it's definitely a different story though.
*_Frosted Flakes have joined the chat_*
_H A V E_
💀
_Bob McCoy don’t u mean left
AYYYYY ITS BOB FROM INSIDE EDITION
_Bob McCoy Good pun😂
You bless the world with another video after only 4 days?
are you going MAD with POWER
Now we wait
Don't tempt him he might just do it again!!!
Yoooo.
When's the next friggin YT in the last hour?
he probably got so pissed with flakers he made an entire video to vent his frustration
Shaggy now has a competition
It happened to me a few times to flake by not knowing how to say no, thinking about it for a minute or two, do something else, and just forgetting to reply to the message. It also happened on something I really wanted to do, forgetting to say yes until it's too late. ADHD thing, I guess?
Not only for flaking, sometimes also with giving bad news or answering to a serious message. Last thing that happened, I forgot to send a happy birthday message, and instead of sending "sorry, I missed the day!", I wrote the message, felt bad, did something else and completely forgot that I didn't send it until a few days later... But then it would be pretty awkward to send, and I still haven't wished a happy birthday to my cousin. Agh
Thank you for making this video. it definitely called me out a little bit, but it can get pretty tough sometimes.
Since a very young age I’ve been almost entirely independent, and because of that I’ve pretty much always been consistently busy. Due to that I also feel like I’ve had to tell people no a lot to hanging out or getting together simply because I can’t afford it, or back before I could drive I wouldn’t have a ride, or simply I am busy with either work or school. I don’t think I used to be a flaker because I was honest and just said “no I can’t make it” but after saying that so much people stopped including me because I was so busy. So that’s when I think I started flaking.
I started saying yes to things, even knowing full well I couldn’t make it, afford it, etc. but out of fear of not being included anymore I started saying yes I’ll be there, and then “not making it.” I want to try and get better with it because I do feel like I’ve been a bad friend in a lot of ways, It’s just tough sometimes because I feel like since the age of 15 I’ve been working my life away so I can at least have food to eat, or working hard in school so I can get a better job to get out of how tough things are now.
I feel like I’ve forgotten to live in the moment, and to be with my friends now while I can. Because time is precious and valuable, and if people are committing time to me, I need to put my all into being there for them. So, thank you for making this video. Yes it called me out, but it was a rude awakening I needed, and I’m going to try my best to improve myself so I’m not wasting peoples time, and can maintain my relationships
Flaker = a classmate in a group project
So true
me- writes a 6 paragrph essay on the tell tale heart
freind- but i wrote the TitTLe
@afootineachworld i wish i had that option. i had to do a group project yesterday and i was not having it.
Kat LOLOLOLOL no ur WHOLE GROUP
My entire f**king group was flakers!! 😤
bold of you to assume that people invite me anywhere
Why would you bacially steal a comment
@@Ryan-br6ic
Why would you basically steal a profile picture?
Lumen shii
Same but when they do I'm not a flaker
Ryan Kim this ‘person didn’t copy your comment, this one is way funnier and yours barely has any related words to this one
I love your videos!! My teen son is on the spectrum and social stuff is hard... these are perfect!!
Honestly I used to flake a lot but now I just tell people straight up “I can probably come but I don’t know if I can commit to coming. So I’ll text you an hour before the plan starts so you know wether to wait for me or not.” And *I do text them* I’m not evil. 😂
Time Dom said bullahsheeet!-
2:20
3:48
thx
haha!
TheBuriedGuy 15 THANKSS
sounds like an indian accent lmfao
This is amazing.
I used to flake on my friends because they always wanted to go out to eat on 'nice places' and I couldn't explain to them that I'm poor and can't always afford to go out with them. Once, I brought it up and it just became really uncomfortable. Then i went to college and my circle of friends was mostly broke anyway so I didn't have to flake anymore lol
Faxx, mine make fun of me actually about being broke so i said foh
You should have explained it to them from the beginning. Every normal person would understand the situation you're in and instead of going to expensive restaurants they would change it to somewhere where you can afford.
@@dora9487 sadly not everyone is like that
HelloImGalaxy technically yes, but also closed mouths don’t get fed lol. If you don’t say anything you’ll never know.
is it really flaking if the excuse is legit?
Thanks for making this videos they help me relax when my anxiety is acting up plus they are entertaining
I love how he explained difference between actually busy people and flakers, that was spot on!
*_Let's hang out!_*
*_(No fomo)_*
Can’t flake since I’m the one that organises everything and never gets invited
@OneHundred Two Hundred Ikr
Can’t spell organize
@@antoniop1507 It is also spelt organise
@@antoniop1507 I bet you think spelling Color as Colour is incorrect as well. It's not there's this thing called The U.K. American English has made it a dam mission to jumble up as much as possible to differentiate.
So you don't invite yourself then?
A person with commitment issues will most likely be a flaker, I know cause I am one
@Morgan Hyde mm
those belts are fine as hell. thank you RBA, RBO, RBC, RBF, and The Ring for making those amazing belts for this fight. it'd be my honor to fight for it
Friend: are *you* in china right now?
Flaker: *takes plane to china* , *opens messaging app* Yes.
I mean, they could have used NordVPN to make it appear like they were in china
LMAO
I_Pancake OMG me
@@1256936 that was masterful
Ri_Ri B. YES
"hey are you there?" "Yeah" "I don't see you" "yeah" "so you're not here" "yeah"
Yeah
@@3xalin yeah
@@aloe7215 yeah
Lemons Yay yeah
@@fragile1723 yeah
I love the periodic 'bullshieet' in the background
I am not a flaker. I commit once I set my mind to doing something.
It's my lover that can make promises and not keep them. Better to not make any at all. Plans is a mindset. Have the can do attitude. Every time I've done this I've never failed. Even saved lives doing it. That was just me getting started.
Still need to get my ass in gear writing a book and being a dungeon master in D&D though. I'll get round to it. Going to enjoy Christmas first. Once I start though, I keep rolling. Got plans already. Just got to put them into action. Being active about 6 hours a day and being creative every day (legit) really helps a lot too.
I'm the same. Except it's my friends who are the flakers. Like bro, I freed my schedule for this shite, the least you could is come, doesn't matter if you don't have money, I'll pay for you.
And I have planned for my beloved's birthday and went to buy some prep today(I'm making his gift).
I died when he said "BUT ITS A LOAD OF BULLASHEAT" 😂🤣🤣🤣
remove ITS and A
Im usually feel too guilty to flake. Even when I have an actual excuse i usually force myself to go anyways
We are the opisite haha😂😂
Haha same
yeah
I'm sure your friends appreciate your sacrifices.
Meeeeeeeeeee!!!!!
the beauty of discord's do not disturb feature: I literally did not know you messaged me, and if I saw the notification on my phone afterwards, I haven't been on my phone all day
There were a couple instances where I was “flaked”, but this situation really stuck with me.
I had baked a batch of Christmas cookies and was really proud of them. I had made more than my family could eat, so I asked my friend if she wanted some, and told her she could come over and grab some. She had agreed and we had a date and a time. I even picked out the best looking cookies just for her.
On the day, I had waited for a while for her to show up, but she never did. I had even cancelled my plans I had wanted to do after, to make sure I could meet with her. I kept those cookies, but ended up tossing them cause they got spoiled.
Just made me kinda sad that she didn’t say anything about not showing up.
Even later when I spoke to her, she acted like nothing happened.
We don’t interact much anymore.
My grades flaked on me. They said they'd be an A
Lol, how is this not in the top 5 comments?????????
Btw, me too. They said they’ll be a F, but they were a A- \:
*hello fam*
Humanities supposed to be A but C
i can relate
“[People can see] your Instagram stories.”
Jokes on them, I don’t have an Insta!
...or a social life, for that matter.
Same
Me neither, boi! I have friends, but absolute no social media! HA!
same, my only social media is facebook and i barely know how to make posts XD
@@KittyCat_Gacha same and its okay 🙂👍
Same I got no friends online or in real life
I flaked out a lot of relationships, i realized even if I rather stay home and play games its still better to hang with friends because that creates stronger memories then
perfectly like my one person in my college's end term project team, he said he has nothing to do and always available at whatever time you wish but alas when there's an assignment coming, he's gone.
My mom flaked on me when I was born. Didn't even show up smh
Oof
Dad must’ve had a bad time
but.. but.. she had to be there to make you exist...
@@Cygerion r/wooosh
Dr Doofenshmirtz in disguise.
That's a whole lot of *BULLESHET*
Born 2 Pizza had me WEAK😂😂
Reminds me of Buk Lau from Ownage Pranks
HORY SHEIT--
Jajaja yo got me weak. 😂😂😂
That sounds awfully Indian.
I used to be a flaker during my teenage years... I had issues, and yup I can confirm that many times I flaked for the exact reasons Domics explained, was I severely depressed and burned out as a product of a then undiagnosed ADHD? Yes, I was, but in hindsight I understand why I ended up losing potential friendships over this behavior of mine.
Nowadays I have a cousin/friend who is a flaker, but a weird variant of flaker in which she flakes on plans made for friend outings... in favor of her partner's plans, literally, we can have plans for the whole week to go to the movies, and maybe at some point in the week her partner came out up with a date idea, and not only she agreed without even telling me, she will continue to act as if our original plans are still in place, right up until the last minute, in which she will go like "sorry, just now [Partner] asked if we could go to X place." and she will mention a place or activity that clearly has to be planned ahead.
One infamous time in which we went to one of those scary circus, she did her whole thing, the only difference was that this time, my sister who is into all that stuff wanted to tag along, I made sure to ask my cousin about it, I made sure to tell her that my sis only wanted to tag for the show, and had no interest in where we were going afterwards (a cafe) and would go back home, she said it was fine. When me and my sister arrived, she said that she would go a head to save us seats, while I waited for my cousin, I waited until the very last minute when they were closing the doors and gave up and went inside with my sister, who luckily had saved front seats so it wasn't difficult to find her, I told her what happened and since she already knew how she is, only rolled her eyes at me, since she think I'm dumb for still putting up with that.
The show had a 15 minute break in the middle and my sister went to the bathroom, and came back stomping and looking mad, and when she sat down she told me this: "Don't you ever make plans with her again, I just saw her in the bathroom with her partner!" and she explained me how she found her waiting outside and how my cousin definitely saw her and had a panicked look, tried to pretend like she was busy with her phone and had not seen her, and when my sister approached her to ask her if she had been late, and then the partner came out from the stall and without even acknowledging her, went to their seats, ironically just a little behind ours.
Yeah, I ghost her for a long time after that, but because she is a cousin, we still run into her at family gatherings, we just don't hang out as friends anymore.
You finally popped up in my recommended list after many years of trying to find you since the first time I've watched you 😃
I misread the title as “The Fart of Laking” and REALLY wondered what was happening here.
I laughed so hard at this I farded and shidded and camed my pant
XD
@@DarkDashara ????
the big dislexia
How dyslexic do you have to be to see that idek man
Wow, this is a surprisingly good breakdown behind the psychology of flakers XD Not what I was expecting but was great!
Yup
PopCross Studios have dharma where
Weird flex but ok
One of the most valued traits in friends is reliability.
If you can't be counted on to keep your word in small things, chances are people will assume you won't keep your word when it really counts.
I don’t think that flaking on people is justified, but sometimes so many things go on in our lives. Especially if you have depression. You don’t feel good enough to hang out but feel so damn lonely. You try to make plans, but then the anxiety hits. It’s a vicious cycle between loneliness and isolation. I’ve lost a lot of friends from doing that, and I’ve been on the other side as well. But I don’t really blame people when they do it.
My relationship with my best friend ended because I told him he needed to be more reliable, and he responded by ignoring me for a month. I've reached a point where I cannot stand flakers
Yup. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t value friendships.
Ugh me too i don't stand them
Anya Delventhal I am in the same situation but I am still friends with him. I need help
Cayuga if you’re in a situation where the other doesn’t value your friendship, they arent worth keeping in my opinion.
PybroPictures okay thanks
Hah, I’m a flaker!
*to my imaginary friends*
**cries**
Heh... 69 likes
Want to hang out? You seem lonely.😉
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Love your video style! Subbed!
Finally I have an explanation for why I suddenly lose motivation to play games and stuff even after planning. I have however noticed that it is mostly because I don't fully know myself what I am interested in.
People who use the “too much snow” excuse are called Frosted Flakes.
...uhh hello? Why is this comment not getting more attention? This actually made me Lol
😂
GOOD ONE XD
This made me laugh so loud I scared my dad 😂😂 then I showed him and he did the same lmfaooo
I totally flaked on Darth Vader in our lightsaber duel.
Wtf
You had the high ground, so...
LMAO
Yess
Hello there
Literally just be honest. If you don't feel like going or don't think you will, then say no. A friend that is willing to risk coming across as rude or not being fun and admit their true feelings, even the negative ones, is far more valuable than a liar pretending to care.
I did this last week, I told my band I was sick and now this week I got sick. Thanks Loke
anyone else notice how smooth domics mouth movements are?
it sounds sexy as hell
He made a whole video on how to animate mouth movements, he takes a lot of time into the mouth flaps. Well, he just puts in a lot of time in general.
its always been pal
2:19 but it's a lode of BullaSheet!!!
Kdabs 12 load*
@@muffintae3449 wooosh facker
I’ve been clicking the blue Thing ten times now. It’s addicting
Was he doing an accent?
LMAO
The "because it's a load of bullsheat"was the funniest shi* I had ever heard,and that is also why I came here after 2 years,again
I used to be like that. I genuinely wanted to go out with my friends, and even was looking forward it, but as the time our gathering was nearing, I just felt unmotivated from tiredness, since I was working all day long, all week.
As my friends showed displease I gradually stopped doing so, therefore basing my intention of unwillingness to go out in advance, or leaving that as an open option if the other part is o.k with that, and doesn't have other business :)
*My Dad is very good at flaking*
*He still isn't back*
*Come back dad..Please*
give up suliry. he moved on. so should you
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My friend is a flaker, but even if he says *he can’t* come. I drive to his house pick him up and then return to my house. then the cycle of life repeats as it should.
Friends who can force to socialize.
Your friend must be a gifted person.
Rishabh Rathi Thanks I guess. 😂😂
Rishabh Rathi Btw I fixed the comment a little bit. I knew there was something wrong with it and I knew I can fix it but I just ignored it. I updated it. Now it is more understandable
Edit: This comment is useless.
I have alot of these friends once they talked to my mom to convince me to come out... im 19
Mojtaba Taher
Haha. Poor dude.
Im very ADHD and time management can be an issue for me. However I learned very quickly the importance of being reliable and trustworthy, and that it is wrong to waste people’s time. I learned to become organised and not commit to things unless I knew I was free and also to keep a diary so I didn’t forget things. Forgetting scheduled meet ups is one of the worst ADHD things it’s an absolute curse. So I have several safety nets of remembrance these days and also am really open with people - I will make efforts not to forget but just in case, please remind me of this the day before etc. it works. 99% of the time I make every commitment and I don’t bail on people. If I say I will be there I will be there. I have a busy life with plenty of stress like everyone else, and am of the ‘I can’t do tomorrow but I can do Friday’ type. Conversely I find others in my life to be massive flakes and have little patience because of the personal work I’ve had to do to sort my own self out and it frustrates me that others don’t necessarily take that responsibility. I just can’t be bothered with them after one or two flake episodes.
I also have zero time for those who hide behind introversion as an excuse - introversion means you need less social interaction to keep yourself emotional well, not that you have a golden ticket to be unreliable, self serving and use others to validate yourself when it suits you only. That’s simple narcissism.
Sometimes people flake because of issues like social anxiety, depression, etc., ... So how about just knowing how to communicate and being comprehensive?
I know how people can relate to both sides, I personally do. Like seriously, just being honest sometimes is the best thing to do!
If you are a flaker, be honest! Take your time to express how you really feel!
Like "Oh I'd be glad to join but I don't know if I'll had any social battery left when the time will come. Don't count me in it, but if I do have some energy I'll be there!"
But always remind yourself, sometimes it's good to come out of your comfort zone. You'll see, the thought of going is tiring, but once you're on the spot, it's always fun to hang out with your friends! Try listening to your needs too, you're not going to be hated if you refuse an invitation (I mean if you are, that means they're not really good friends, aren't they?). But you can let your friends know you are very happy that they thought of you for example!
And if you're on the other side, be patient, comprehensive! Tbh, I could be on both sides but what triggers my flaker mode the most is when people are being too pushy too! Like they expect you soooo much and they put too much pressure on your shoulders. No thanks just let me live!
If someone say that they're not sure to come because their social battery is low, just be comprehensive, don't be pushy! Answers like "Come oooooon you'll seeee it's gonna be fuuuuuuun!! Come oooon you're just being lazyyyyy" BRUH! They made the effort not to made up an excuse and to be honest, don't make them regret, they don't want to deal with convincing you they're socially tired, it's not helping!
If you know your friend is introvert and tend to be a flaker, invite them but don't push them! What I do with those friends usually is that I let them know they can give me a last minute answer that's not a problem and I acknowledge the struggles they could feel inside (Because I know them too well! Wanting to come, happy to be invited... But the energy to go out of your comfort zone, wanting to have alone time too...), I love to say that it is a safe place when I invite people over!
Ofc if you know someone could be a flaker and could stand you up, don't invite them on things that needs like to book something or to buy tickets or what! What I do is inviting them to my place, so anyway I won't be going anywhere.
Two Domics videos in one week?
Man, we have been blessed 👏
Yep
Ikr
True domics in the house !!!
Ikr
Was gonna comment the same, till I saw this. Much agreed💖
“But is a load of BULLESHEET!” 😂
2:19
3:49
BULLASHEET
Bullesheeeeeeeeeet
2:20
BULLESHEET!!!(=^･ｪ･^=)
BULLLASHIIIIIP
This just hits home home
"My mom said no sorry"
*Your 45 and live with your husband and kids.*
"....my husband said no?"