A funeral director caring for her own family when they die

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  • Опубліковано 22 сер 2024
  • What it is like caring for my own family when they have died. A funeral director/embalmers perspective of being the one to embalm our own loved ones.
    ‪@KaritheMortician‬
    kari@Karithemortician.com
    ‪@theickfactor3894‬

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  • @farranholland5751
    @farranholland5751 6 років тому +49

    When my maternal grandmother died the funeral director was amazing. He allowed me to be there while her hair & makeup was done. She was a well known cosmetologist in our town, so I wanted to make sure she looked her best. While they did her hair & makeup, I was able to paint her nails. They already had her dressed, but she was still laying on the prep table. I was so blessed to be able to do her nails one last time. It was my way of saying goodbye, because I had done her nails many times in the final years of her life when she couldn't do it herself. It was an emotional, but beautiful experience.

    • @karinwold4679
      @karinwold4679 4 роки тому +1

      I think its really good for the family to be involved as much as possible. I bet your grandmother would love what you did for her. I did the same for my grandma when she passed two months ago. I did both her makeup and nails, like I had done so many times when she was old and sick. Swedish funeral homes are not as good at cosmetics as the americans are. Some of them don't do it at all. They normally don't embalm either, so I had to care for her soon after she died, so she could go into the cooler as quickly as possible. The memorialservice was four weeks later and then I took her to the crematory. A couple weeks later we buried the urn. I've learned that Sweden is a bit different from the USA when it comes to death.

  • @jess4metoo
    @jess4metoo 6 років тому +65

    Aw....you bought your grandpa beer in the nursing home. You’re a wonderful person Kari, providing your grandpa with one of life’s simple pleasures. Bless your heart.

    • @jess4metoo
      @jess4metoo 5 років тому +3

      SarahsCooterSmiles I just read your post, you’re a wonderful daughter, sharing a beer with Dad. Wish I had had that last one with my Dad,

  • @valgrant3303
    @valgrant3303 3 роки тому +5

    I gave my grandmother, mother and aunt the last offices when they passed. I could not stop the dying/death and felt useless (as a nurse), but I was able to give them their last wash and spend the quality time to care for their shell of the person they were. It was my last gift to them on the mortal earth. Saying a true goodbye to my darling people in my life and the gift they gave back to me to be able to do that for them. Moments that can never be taken from me and knowing they were at peace. I honour your position for caring for our loved ones post death and thank you for your wonderful service.

  • @cindyharris5442
    @cindyharris5442 6 років тому +28

    I’m a nurse(former hospice nurse) and I really find what you do to be fascinating. I guess it helps me get a handle on how my patients are cared for when my job is done. Thank you. Your compassion and professionalism shines through your videos.

    • @JulieR73
      @JulieR73 6 років тому +6

      Cindy Harris God bless hospice nurses!

    • @MarylSmith-by7cp
      @MarylSmith-by7cp 2 роки тому

      I have an uncle that is 80 they put him on hospice he has a feeding tube my question is can I let him suck on a sucker or will that disturb his taste buds?

  • @curtistinemiller4646
    @curtistinemiller4646 2 роки тому +2

    I was able to do my daughter's hair, because she looked like a little girl it helped me transition my grief to this is my baby and she is gone...It helped me too touch her and to know she has moved on.Love you forever Baby girl.
    .Rest in Heaven;;🎀🦋🕊🎀🦋🕊

  • @G.F.B.T.M
    @G.F.B.T.M 5 років тому +4

    I love that you speak of God. You are so nice !
    What a loving service you provide. You always call it
    "caring for them" God Bless you.

  • @firemedic5100
    @firemedic5100 3 роки тому +3

    Excellent video. Being able to take care of of a loved one was something I never thought I could do. But after having done it, I wouldn't have had it any other way. The attention to detail and making sure nothing is overlooked was worth it. I know my grandfather wasn't there to know what I had done. Maybe he saw, maybe he didn't. Maybe I'll find out some day. But it was an honor, I'll never forget.

  • @stevendegliangeli7640
    @stevendegliangeli7640 5 років тому +9

    You have given me a different perspective on how you take care of your loved ones. Thanks for sharing. You are a remarkable woman. thanks again

  • @MK-hz2bn
    @MK-hz2bn 3 роки тому +4

    When my Mimi passed away I kept her in my home for about 6 hours after while family came to see her. She had to be driven to Louisiana from my home in another state. I hated letting the funeral home take her. My daughter and I were able to be with her and do her makeup and nails and help dress her. She was 95 years Old and one of the most important person to me. It was awful having to say goodbye and leave her at the graveyard. I left last and came back as soon as they got her in the ground and stayed a long time. I also took pics of her and my daughter taking care of her at the funeral home. It was very special to me and I was so grateful for the funeral home allowing me to be there as much as I wanted. My other family members thought I was weird.

  • @stevendegliangeli7640
    @stevendegliangeli7640 5 років тому +13

    You really chosen the right profession

  • @shellirk2819
    @shellirk2819 6 років тому +14

    My sis and I did in home hospice care for my mother. It was an honor to care for her every need until she passed in her sleep. My sister did so much more than I, though we are next door neighbors. It really was a blessing to be so close to mom and she knew her children had her in her most vulnerable time of life. 💓💓💓💓

    • @theresahowell9044
      @theresahowell9044 4 роки тому +1

      Same here...was an honor to help my mom through her final days..💕💓💕💔💔💔

  • @debtansey89
    @debtansey89 6 років тому +5

    I am not a funeral director, I am a critical care RN. When my grandmother passed away at the age of 98 1/2 years old, I was able to do her makeup at the funeral home. They were kind enough to allow me to do this for her and for myself. It was my way of saying goodbye to her. I was with her when she died, as well.

  • @richardjones4080
    @richardjones4080 5 років тому +7

    I still remember you told us about your niece and what happened etc you truly are an amazing young lady

  • @barbatloosenutproductions2027
    @barbatloosenutproductions2027 6 років тому +17

    Thank you Kari for sharing that information with us. You & Caitlin know how to take the dark mystery & (unfortunately) the myths & sad stereotypes away. STAY blessed!

  • @SuperMaybellene
    @SuperMaybellene 6 років тому +9

    Thank you so much, for your always honest vlogs. I have watched many of Them since yesterday, where I first came across your Channel. I have made a Big decision, to become a funeral director, or here in Denmark it would be a funeral directors assistant to begin with. I have thought about it for many years, but what made it clear to me, was loosing my father last year to cancer. He died at home, after his wife had cared for him. I was there the last 3 weeks to help her Care for him, and we were all there when he died. I helped wash and dress him. And in the morning I Got some tulips- his favourite flower, to put in his hands. I asked his wife, if it was ok for her, if I sat Down alone with him for a bit, and cleaned his face and teeth (he had all his teeth done a few years prior, and his teeth was very important to him, and his dental hygiene was immaculent) 😀 so I did, and nothing in this World felt more natural to me. My sister and I, also put him in his casket, when the funeral director came to pick him up. My brother didnt feel like it, but for my sister and I, it was very important to make sure, that he was tugged in nicely, with his quilt and pillow. Its one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, but also one of the most important. Again, thank you for all of your vlogs. Xxx

  • @marrun7708
    @marrun7708 6 років тому +5

    Glad to hear that you took care of your Grand Parents- Their spirits were not in their body. The human body they used deserves the loving-care & respect. Feel fortunate that is was you who did it. I am sure you were loving & gentle. I had a very close friend that died of cancer. When They came to pick up the body - They were pulling/pushing it being so rough & disrespectful. I knew she was gone -did not feel anything. Did say. "Please treat the body gently this is the body that my friend used(was in)" They immediately- stopped- said sorry. They looked surprised...( wondering about me...I guess) Thank you, Kari, for sharing your knowledge & experiences.

  • @dandylion187
    @dandylion187 3 роки тому +3

    I've lost both my mom and dad in the last 9 months. I feel like an orphan even tho I'll be 60 in a few days. I'm at the bottom of a barrel right now. My mom was my backbone and dearest friend.

  • @larryulery3729
    @larryulery3729 6 років тому +27

    Nice I remember saying goodbye to a very close friend I know that he was not family but was the closest to a father figure I had. I went to his room at the hospital. We was heavily medicated and tubes and monitors. I sat quietly by his side. I talked to him,then sat quietly. I left the hospital that day knowing it would be THE last time I would see him alive. He died that night. It was one of those times I am glad I went. I think the spirit of the deceased is there a at the viewing.

    • @holiday-td6hx
      @holiday-td6hx 6 років тому +8

      Ms Northey....you sound like such a loving and caring person. I don't know HOW I found your channel, but I have learned a lot from you.
      I remember when my paternal grandma died. My oldest sister was 16 at the time, and she was very talented teen as far as hair styling. When the time came to do grandma's hair, my sister honestly tried, but she just couldn't do Grandma's hair. The idea that she failed to do that, bothered her for a long time...she really wanted to do grandma's hair so,so much.
      Again, I don't know how I found your channel...but I have learned a great deal...thank you!

    • @davidvogel6359
      @davidvogel6359 4 роки тому

      @@holiday-td6hx Your sister should not feel bad for trying. Grandma would have been proud to know that her granddaughter loved her enough to have wanted to do that for her.

  • @princeharming8963
    @princeharming8963 6 років тому +5

    An amazing experience and healthy closure. A blessing to be able to take care of your own grandparents, especially knowing how important appearance was to them.
    Very tastefully done.

  • @40ounce58
    @40ounce58 6 років тому +13

    The last moments with a loved one will last a life time. I never got the chance to spend the last moments of my mother’s life because I was 13 at the time, but did get a chance with my favorite uncle. He could only whisper when he would talk. He wanted me to watch the Military channel with him. He was a veteran of the Korean War and the Vietnam war. I spent the whole day and evening with him until he fell asleep. He passed the very next morning and I was glad I got to spend his last day with him.
    Great video Kari! It reminded me of that day with my uncle.
    I hope to see more of your videos.

  • @ais.cirque
    @ais.cirque 5 років тому +5

    Thanks for sharing your experience from the perspective of a funeral professional.
    Taking care of loved ones has until recent history been the tradition, and often this duty has fallen to women to undertake. It is a shame that we are now so disconnected from our nearest upon their passing when in reality it is legal and acceptable to keep them for awhile after they pass, wash and dress them, and be as involved in their after-life care as you want to be (and this would determine which funeral style you may go for and how involved a funeral home may be). Bodies don't suddenly become a hazard the moment a person stops breathing - some cultures keep their passed-on relatives in the home and care for them for years!
    I don't know how I would respond to a close loved one passing or what level of involvement I would choose, but I am grateful to be in the knowledge that I have a choice in it.

  • @poltergeistsouth
    @poltergeistsouth Рік тому +1

    @Kari The Mortician I love all the videos in fact I'm thankful that you are doing this showing people the ins and outs of what you all do.

  • @hayleydover7025
    @hayleydover7025 6 років тому +29

    What a special moment I'm sure that was caring for your grandparents. When my grandmother was in Hospice care one of the last conversations we had was what she was going to wear "She looked up at me and said with just this nonchalant tone "What should I wear?" To some that sounds crazy but to me it's one of the most precious memories. She in her final days was just thinking about the end and wanted to know what I thought. Her 29 year old granddaughter who she knew was going to be devastated when she left this world. Take care of those that you love is so therapeutic.

  • @MissterX
    @MissterX 2 роки тому +2

    I worked in the industry for seven years, when my Dad died I was out of the business but I dressed him for his service. If I would have known they were going to do such a crappy job on his cosmetics, I would have done that too! I was the only one at his bedside at home when he took his last breath. I could have called the rest of the family over (they were just in the next room) but I took that moment for him and I. I was rubbing my hand over his heart as he went and I don't regret taking that last moment.

    • @KaritheMortician
      @KaritheMortician  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you for sharing!

    • @MissterX
      @MissterX 2 роки тому

      @@KaritheMortician I haven't worked in the business since 2012 and have been doing the stay at home dad thing. Kids are 10,12 & 13 now and it's time now at 44 that I get back to work. I had a zoom call interview with one person, and an in person interview with a different person for a Funeral Arranger position with Neptune Society. I have a THIRD interview next week with both of them at the same time (when I am praying at the end they offer me the spot) and getting the spot would be a literal dream come true. Any advice you might be able to give me for interview #3 so I can try and cement this thing? Any input you have would be greatly appreciated, thank you!

  • @OneWayDesigns
    @OneWayDesigns 6 років тому +8

    That's how it was with my granny. I did her hair and that moment was just precious for me. I needed that closer. I talked to her like she was still there. My granny didn't wear jewelry or make up so when we did the viewing for approval yep, she had on earrings and make up. Of course we made the correction. I'm just grateful that I had the opportunity!!!

  • @normasaldivar1882
    @normasaldivar1882 5 років тому +2

    Funeral director let me do my mother and sisters makeup. That was so nice of him. They both wanted me to do so. I prayed so hard for God to give me strength. And He did. I was so at ease and comfortable. I got so many thank yous. Love love your videos! Thank you! ❤

    • @normasaldivar1882
      @normasaldivar1882 5 років тому +1

      @@KaritheMortician Oh thank you for responding! You have so many replies! I didn't think you had the time to even come close to mine! I'm so happy you did because I watch all your vidoes...faihfully! 😊

    • @normasaldivar1882
      @normasaldivar1882 5 років тому

      @@KaritheMortician I know you have hundreds of followers. So much appreciate your response.Thanks again Kari! ❤

  • @lexiealexander9133
    @lexiealexander9133 5 років тому +5

    my mom passed away 5 months ago and my dad and I had her cremated. I'm wanting to be a funeral director to help people who are going through what I went through

  • @mickdracul5823
    @mickdracul5823 3 роки тому +2

    Thank You for sharing this beautiful experience with Your Grandfather!

  • @misslisa6698
    @misslisa6698 3 роки тому +1

    Kari, you are simply amazing. Thanks for all you do... 🙏🏾❤😘

  • @sandyvanperson3401
    @sandyvanperson3401 5 років тому +1

    You need to say " most people haven't gone a day without" instead of " you HAVEN'T gone a day without" !! Because I HAVE GONE A DAY! My mother died when she was 49 years old. I was only 2 ?( I remember how old I was) for the record. That being said, you exude a great deal of compassion. It's evident in your( almost ) loss for words explanations. I just discovered your post and think your a wonderful person thank you for the great care you take in your post they have helped me thoroughly understand even more so what mom went though!!!!! God be with you and bless you even more.bye SLW-V

  • @williamriedthaler7216
    @williamriedthaler7216 3 роки тому +1

    I am so sorry for your loss may God bless you and your family

  • @johnlarue2248
    @johnlarue2248 4 роки тому +1

    You did a very good job describing this Kari. You presented it very well and the emotional recognition that goes along with it. Well done.

  • @annjutz7416
    @annjutz7416 6 років тому +4

    How special and wonderful that you were able to do that for your family. I'm sure it made their last days more at ease knowing who was going to be taking care of them and knowing the respect you would show as you do with all of your clients. On a side note I think you should come to MN and take up practice here. Would live to meet you in person.

    • @annjutz7416
      @annjutz7416 6 років тому

      Kari Northey
      I live by Gibbon Minnesota. The best way to describe it is kinda between Hutchinson and New Ulm.

  • @robertganley313
    @robertganley313 3 роки тому +2

    Kari, you are so blessed to have had the experiences taking care of your family members. Having those experiences, I am surprised you do not necessarily want the same services and disposition. I say that from my own thinking. Again you are wiser than your years! Robert

  • @aa64912
    @aa64912 6 років тому +11

    I knew a lady embalmer years ago who took care of her husband and two children who were killed in an accident. Not sure I could have done that

    • @aa64912
      @aa64912 6 років тому +6

      I was not being critical of her. I can understand all the reason for her doing it. I admire her. Just could not do it myself.

    • @vickyvkusnyatina6126
      @vickyvkusnyatina6126 6 років тому +3

      Kari Northey See, and if I was that woman, I would absolutely refuse anyone touching my children or my husband because they were my children that came out of me, and I was the only woman that had touched my husband, so to me personally, it would help me with the grieving process. Just like natural home funerals how the family does it, and to me, that has definitely helped me grieve.

  • @Decgyrrl
    @Decgyrrl Рік тому

    I'm glad u had that special moment, with ur grandfather b4 his passing. It's important.
    My mother and I, spent our last moments with my father, after his surgery. He died later that day. After all these yrs., I still can't talk abt it. It's too painful. I told my therapist. She told me, that I was suffering from "complicated bereavement." I never heard of it, b4 she mentioned it to me in one of our sessions.
    On the 19th of this month, I will be 63. My dad was 66 when he died in 1982. I was 22. He was 44, when I was born. He's been gone a long time. Both of them.

  • @loricrockett-owens5117
    @loricrockett-owens5117 2 роки тому +2

    I'm so sorry for your loss Kari, love ya girl ❤️

  • @pantherexpress1965
    @pantherexpress1965 6 років тому +3

    i love all your video's i understand what you do i also work at a funeral home and do various functions there and cared for my loved ones.

  • @rhondaeaton8830
    @rhondaeaton8830 6 років тому +10

    Hi Mrs. Kari. I’m use to watching your Vlogs weekly but ever since I landed a full time job as a Medical Assistant, I’ve been working many hours at the doctor’s office and urgent care. So, I give your Vlogs my undivided attention on the weekends! As always, thanks for sharing. From Roselle NJ....love ya!!!! P.S. the nail color is perfect 👌🏽🤗

  • @FoundElement
    @FoundElement 2 роки тому +1

    Thx Kari . I love to hear your stories.

  • @judystovall1325
    @judystovall1325 6 років тому +2

    I find your videos very comforting. You are a good person,

  • @tonywilliams8426
    @tonywilliams8426 2 роки тому +1

    Beautiful! - you cannot ever know what you will feel. I think you need to exercise what I would call compassionate dissociation. Thst is you have to suspend your feelings of grief to "get through it" so to speak.....I never knew you had to care for a seven year old. That must've filled you up! God bless you lovely Lady Of Michigan...TJ the DJ 😑😑😑😑😑😑

  • @shellcshells2902
    @shellcshells2902 6 років тому +9

    God has really used you in your family. What a blessing♡

  • @kennmills4382
    @kennmills4382 2 роки тому

    Kari, you gave your relatives the ultimate gift . You are such an amazing woman whom I have developed the greatest respect for. What peace of mind for your family knowing someone they love and trust provided the ultimate eternal care. You are such a gift.🙏

  • @rubymounds2564
    @rubymounds2564 2 роки тому +1

    God bless you! You are so special 💗

  • @deskennett4808
    @deskennett4808 6 років тому +6

    So glad you could care for your grandparents in such a loving personal way

  • @piinkglitterx8026
    @piinkglitterx8026 6 років тому +28

    When my grandpa passed away, I put a pack of cigarettes in his pocket . I’m not in the death business I’m just a normal person . When 1 year of his passing comes in August ima go to his grave and drink a bud light and pour some out on his grave for him in his memory 💗

    • @piinkglitterx8026
      @piinkglitterx8026 6 років тому +1

      Kari Northey thank you so much 💗 I love your videos . You seem like such a kind person :)

    • @jeanknuth3225
      @jeanknuth3225 6 років тому +1

      Piinkglitterx ,l

    • @jeanknuth3225
      @jeanknuth3225 6 років тому

      Piinkglitterx hgl

    • @cynthiawhiteeagle8546
      @cynthiawhiteeagle8546 5 років тому +2

      I'm Native American and some of us put things on our families graves also. My son liked dipping snuff when he was alive, so we leave Copenhagen, his favorite, on his grave. Memorial Day is a special day to put down flowers, American flags on Veterans graves, or any kind of decoration.

    • @stevejarrettnc
      @stevejarrettnc 5 років тому +3

      I put a pipe and a bag of tobacco in with my dad.... At the cemetery I panicked and had them open the casket back up.....
      I forgot matches.
      My aunt Wilma's grave is the next row up from my mom - they had a running joke that when Wilma died - I was supposed to put Odor Eaters in with Wilma.... I did. Wilma had a hunched back and at the church for her visitation, I had a little meltdown.... Her back was so hunched over she couldn't lay flat on her back and her head was a good six inches above the pillow - like she was trying to sit up. Glad I got there early, because the funeral home folks got yelled at, "Would that acceptable for YOUR family?" Problem was solved with an empty tissue box taken from the trash can placed under the pillow...... but still..... it's all in the little details, folks.....
      The funeral stories I could tell.... The seepage from my aunt Gerry's incision, the bottle of whisky for my uncle, my uncles artificial leg & tie......

  • @jeanbillington4856
    @jeanbillington4856 7 місяців тому

    I took care of a lady the last 5 years of her life.
    I am not a beautician, but she wanted me to do her hair for her funeral.
    So I had a male friend that was a beautician and he went with me in case I
    just couldn't do her hair in the end.
    But I did do her hair and she looked really nice.
    I hope she was pleased!
    It took a lot of telling myself I could do it! And I did.

  • @aimeetahon6744
    @aimeetahon6744 4 роки тому +1

    What a great granddaughter.

  • @organrick
    @organrick 6 років тому +5

    I think that that is a tough thing to deal with. I’m a church organist, but I’ve played for the funerals of two grandparents and an uncle. I think with the one grandparent and the uncle, it was probably a little easier, since I didn’t know them as well, since they lived in Pennsylvania, and I live in Massachusetts. The funeral for my grandmother was pretty tough, as she lived a lot closer, and saw her a lot more often, but I was able to keep my composure until I got to the car, and then lost it again at the cemetery. I was asked about playing for the other grandfather’s funeral, but didn’t think that I would be able to handle it, and due to the fact that I didn’t drive at the time, I was put in one of the limousines. As luck would have it, I wouldn’t have made it in time, as one of the limousines ended up having a tire leak, and then it was literally a crazy trip going up to the church (the person that drove the one I was in was driving unsafely, and even during the procession, almost hit the hearse several times.)

  • @doylejodi7502
    @doylejodi7502 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing that very deep and very personal experience❤️

  • @BeeApple-sr3db
    @BeeApple-sr3db 11 місяців тому +1

    I had to caring for my grandparents,parents,my daughter,and my 2nd husband. I know how you feel.❤❤❤❤

  • @goosubux
    @goosubux 6 років тому +1

    I like this video. People probably do not think about how it feels to mourn a loss while directing and carrying out the funeral. Especially for someone who you are really close to. Too often people who perform certain services seem to be taken for granted and I believe that it is no different for funeral directors. God bless you guys for being there and for supporting families, even your own during times of need.

  • @courtneysilbs4446
    @courtneysilbs4446 6 років тому +5

    I'm looking forward to the next video 💖

  • @keyonasmith7795
    @keyonasmith7795 5 років тому +2

    I had the honor of doing my great grandmothers hair who pass at 100 years old and help with make up i am a stylist but i had peace and closure with the time i had with her

  • @johnholliday5874
    @johnholliday5874 3 роки тому +1

    That has got to take a degree of compartmentalization that I can't begin to wrap my head around.

  • @cookingprof
    @cookingprof 5 років тому

    My most sincere condolences on the loss of your niece. That little angel is in my prayers.

  • @bruceliggett8036
    @bruceliggett8036 3 роки тому +1

    God bless you Kari, you have a very kind heart.

  • @briankennedy6427
    @briankennedy6427 4 роки тому +2

    I've had many days without my mama and I miss her everyday she passed March 2017

  • @coatofmanycolors8397
    @coatofmanycolors8397 3 роки тому +1

    So sorry to hear about your niece. We are blessed to have the funeral director we have. If we wanted to go through the ENTIRE process of watching, helping or whatever, he would allow us to do so. As I said b4, it's a calling.

  • @ilanamillion8942
    @ilanamillion8942 3 роки тому

    My cousin is a small town funeral director who has cared for family members and neighbours throughout his career. He does absolutely wonderful work in every way.

  • @cookingprof
    @cookingprof 5 років тому +1

    I give you a score of 10/10 to prepare the remains of your grandparents. No disrespect intended to the professionals in ANY funeral home; but, your's was a labor of love that showed that you wanted to give them the last gift that you could give them. You would know know exactly how to bring that person to be the same that your family would remember them. More people should be intimately involved in the final preparations IMHO.

  • @evelynfoster2706
    @evelynfoster2706 4 роки тому

    Kari I am a nurse and I have always wished I had changed careers . I want to be a Funeral Director / Embalmer. I am too crippled up with Osteoarthritis and Rheumatoid Arthritis . Thank you for sharing your career with us 🦋🦋🦋

  • @legendbodywork1313
    @legendbodywork1313 Рік тому

    My mom died. At 63. And watching this. Just makes. Me cry. I can’t stop frying. Since. A month 🥲

  • @glenm5034
    @glenm5034 6 років тому +1

    Hi Mrs Kari , we , me and my siblings shed no tears at my beloved Mom's passing. She was a saint. Still miss mom and dad.

    • @glenm5034
      @glenm5034 6 років тому +1

      no ,but she was a character, widowed at age 35,never complained and had to wear two hats. Never heard" I'm a single mom"

  • @justintahair9119
    @justintahair9119 4 роки тому +1

    i am sorry for your loss keri they lived long lives you are akind caring person

  • @calebmaddox479
    @calebmaddox479 2 роки тому +1

    You have my respect

  • @midnightrunner684
    @midnightrunner684 3 роки тому +1

    My Sisters Husband works for a Funeral home in Brooksville Fl. When My Stepfather died In 2014 ..Dave and My sister Marie and I put him in the body bag in the hospital. Then we took him down to the van to be taken to the funeral home ..The Owner of the funeral home cremated Him for free .they took care of everything..My Mother Just passed Feb 28th of this year 2021 .And the Owner of the funeral home cremated my Mother for free ..They took care of everything

  • @haroldsmith8698
    @haroldsmith8698 6 років тому +3

    THE THING IS:: IT IS A FACT THAT DOING A PART OF THE LAST RIITES FOR YOUR LOVED ONES IS A FORM OF SAYING GOOD FAIRWELL JOURNEY AND I KNOW YOU WILL REST IN PEACE.

  • @MikeMercury
    @MikeMercury 3 роки тому

    lovely as usual
    take care

  • @tyronmegawatts6580
    @tyronmegawatts6580 4 роки тому +1

    You sometimes make me well up. Not crying, but welled up.

  • @leonardsolt6543
    @leonardsolt6543 4 роки тому +1

    Awesome video

  • @lindaremillard2604
    @lindaremillard2604 4 роки тому

    You are an awesome person. I really enjoy your channel. Great job.

  • @davidmiller6981
    @davidmiller6981 2 роки тому +1

    How nice to be able to take care of your granny get her just right for her send off drinking with grandpa the best hope i can do that with my friends who are dying from agent orange three this year just sat held there hands should have had a cooler in room next time

  • @squalli1297
    @squalli1297 4 роки тому

    My wife and I are retired embalmers. We both could not embalm close family members. We both agreed upon cremation. She died last year after a 3 year debilitating illness. I was her primary caregiver while she was in-home hospice until her death. When the time was near, I allowed all family members to come to our home ante-mortem to say their goodbye's and have a gathering or service. She had another gathering and post-mortem service before the FH was phoned to make the removal. She wanted me to ensure she was dead by touching the sclera of her eye and sticking a needle in her finger. She wanted to be embalmed and cremated with no public viewing. I have honored her requests. We knew what our wishes were years before and were both comfortable with carrying them out. I have completed an advance directive for our son to carry out for me. He thought it was morbid talking about this 30 years ago. He's more accepting of it now that he's aware of his own mortality.

  • @heavensgate4852
    @heavensgate4852 5 років тому +3

    When a loved one passes, what papers are necessary to have ready from you and what do people generally ask for in paper work from you?

  • @steve998
    @steve998 5 років тому +2

    Enjoying your videos very much Kari...but I don’t think our bodies ‘fail’ us. Mine has been a trooper, considering the punishment I’ve given it. It will never fail me, it just needs to retire one day like we all do 🙃

  • @nicolerodanhisler3899
    @nicolerodanhisler3899 2 роки тому

    When my grandma passed away I got to help closed her casket I really missed my grandma and my aunt and grandpa and other family members

  • @lindathorpe3299
    @lindathorpe3299 2 роки тому

    U a wonderful Lady I tooks care of my Husband till he’s tooks his last Breath

  • @forestmcneir3325
    @forestmcneir3325 4 роки тому +1

    Very interesting, especially the beer bottle at the foot of your grsndfather's casket. I buried my dad with his putter and a 3-pack of golf balls.

  • @gailsmith4803
    @gailsmith4803 3 роки тому

    Kari I love your program. Very interesting. I’ve always wanted to be a Mortician . My Uncle was a MORTICIAN. We’re going to be cremated.

  • @jacquelineentwistle5091
    @jacquelineentwistle5091 3 роки тому

    Go all green echo friendly natural burials put in ground with shroud no embalming chemicals go out to the environment remember Loved ones as they were once alive not to be viewed dead like a show on TV

  • @ItsStillShel
    @ItsStillShel 6 років тому +8

    I had to. I wasn’t asked or even given a heads up. I was working when they brought my great grandmother. It was one of the most painful ways to find out that my grandma had passed. It stuck with me forever.

    • @ItsStillShel
      @ItsStillShel 6 років тому +1

      A heads up would have at least been nice. I was just with her two days earlier. I didn’t even know she chose the funeral home I worked at. It was horrible.

    • @ItsStillShel
      @ItsStillShel 6 років тому +1

      Kari Northey it was horrible! I don’t think they even put two and two together. The last name wasn’t the same or anything.

    • @ms.goodenergy
      @ms.goodenergy 6 років тому +1

      Wow. I am sorry for your loss and for thr manner in which you found out. You are a strong person, though. May you be blessed and find peace amid that situation. I can't even imagine. Very sorry.

  • @captainkeyboard1007
    @captainkeyboard1007 3 роки тому

    It is sad when funeral directors die. When loved ones of funeral directors die, it is so grievous to the funeral directors knowing that they may have to embalm, prepare their dead for viewing, even plan funerals for them, thus leaving them void by absence of their loved ones. To the funeral director, it hurts very much.

  • @williamriedthaler7216
    @williamriedthaler7216 3 роки тому +2

    I lost my family back in the eighty's and ninety's

  • @robertlabodabirdman7433
    @robertlabodabirdman7433 Рік тому +1

    My parents died my dad was 32 years ago I was 20 years old my mother passed away I was 2027 years old and she was 54 and I had an older sister that passed away 11 years ago she was 46 and how I was on 41

  • @jowillard2373
    @jowillard2373 6 років тому +2

    Enjoyed hearing about your experience with family. Do you have a funeral plan for yourself? Curious on what you want?

    • @alltrouble2
      @alltrouble2 6 років тому +3

      Haha! You'll never know if you're dead who is embalming you. Please think about living right now & stop being so morbid.

  • @juliagraham-lemon775
    @juliagraham-lemon775 4 роки тому

    I love this woman. I’d love to be her friend.

  • @lauragadille3384
    @lauragadille3384 5 років тому +1

    My condolences

  • @wandalester7253
    @wandalester7253 3 роки тому

    I brought my Aunt Joann her favorite Cola two hours before she passed away. She grabbed it out of my hands and opened it herself, Laugh out loud!

  • @jt3512
    @jt3512 6 років тому +2

    Kai how do you deal with the odors? I did see the mask to breathe in clean air, do you use that all the time? Also how do handle the situation where a person wasn't found for a while and it's infested with insects?

    • @jt3512
      @jt3512 6 років тому

      Kari Northey oh OK ty so much hon

  • @dezlopez6336
    @dezlopez6336 5 років тому +1

    My grandma died 2 years on xmas eve my friend is the owner of a funeral home n he let me dress her do her hair put her n her casket i picked for her. Id say the HARDEST part was to put her inside the coffin for me but it was Also nice that nobody but me could spend those 4 hours alone with her. Also u r a very strong woman to do this every day. I been thinking of doing this type of work but not sure if i should do it

    • @dezlopez6336
      @dezlopez6336 5 років тому

      Thank u kari it was her wish that i do that it was hard but nice that i got to spend more time n c her b4 anyone else but then hard to c her that way

  • @Truthteller000
    @Truthteller000 4 роки тому +1

    I am sad for your loss and happy for the opportunity that you had. We love you girlie.

  • @dianerankin1708
    @dianerankin1708 2 роки тому

    My aunt died in 2008 I dressed her she looked fine to me I let my daughter and husband view her .They told me that her hair was not fix.I just let them dress and do her hair. I was treating my aunt as a client not as family

  • @lynnewolfenbarger9645
    @lynnewolfenbarger9645 3 роки тому

    I am fearful of bones fragments of my daughter, mother & husband so I haven't spread them.

  • @sweatywiener
    @sweatywiener 6 років тому +1

    Where is the video about her niece I haven't found it

  • @sbolden123
    @sbolden123 4 роки тому +2

    Does that bother you? Did it give you some anxiety or depression? How were you able to separate your professionalism vs personal?

    • @KaritheMortician
      @KaritheMortician  4 роки тому +1

      I found it comforting that I could care for my loved one.

  • @margaretlaycock42
    @margaretlaycock42 Рік тому

    How come I came across this? wasn't looking down the death road,anyway watched it took on board small acts mean a huge lot I think to the deceased even though they have 'gone' and the relative or person who puts whatever in the casket for them. X

  • @taralathinghouse3031
    @taralathinghouse3031 6 років тому +1

    Off topic question..how do your nails stay so nice between gloves and washing your hands so much ?!?! They look great.

    • @lizcav265
      @lizcav265 6 років тому

      +Kari Northey do you let family members assist with any of the prep or be there for the embalming?

  • @Wagonracer8
    @Wagonracer8 2 роки тому +1

    Have you ever buried a pet and an owner that died together in a casket

    • @KaritheMortician
      @KaritheMortician  2 роки тому +1

      Yes I have

    • @Wagonracer8
      @Wagonracer8 2 роки тому

      @@KaritheMortician my 10-1/2 year old boxer is sick now and I can’t stop thinking about living without her I wish we both went together