New subscriber here, love the video. I just have one question that goes for both martial arts and the other aspects of life. How do you usually distinguish ideas that are grounded and real, and ideas that are false not grounded in your day to day life when the ideas you’re trying to judge are foreign to you or something you can’t affirm through experience maybe due to time constraints. In a martial arts settings you could think of it this way: There are many forms that are thought of as exercise that could be for striking, for training footwork, for grappling, or just for show and is something that anybody who knows what doesn’t do on a regular basis. We can’t really ask the people who made it what they meant by it and the best thing we can do is guess and try to make it work. But with that comes the possibility of guessing wrong, which is natural. But since you’re a pro at this I thought you’d have a tip for putting aside the nonsense bad ideas you have from the good ones that are probably right when trying to take a technique and make it your own. If you can, may you please also answer how one can do distinguish the nonsense from the good stuff outside of martial arts settings too.
When I walked into your class for the first time 2.5 years ago, I was a skinny wimp, mediocre in fighting and losing in life. You helped me become much better at fighting and life. Nowadays I still struggle, but found the courage to do a little better everyday. Thanks for helping me get here coach!
Basically the triforce from zelda. ◇ Courage when on top of your game with no injuries. ◇ Wisdom to make less mistakes. ◇ force, be it in muscle or technique. Godspeed.
I am not a fighter. But I competed in some other sports. Individual sports and Team sports. Maybe it is just me. But I was never frustrated after a loss, as long as I felt I did my best. On the other hand I could not celebrate if I felt my opponent was unlucky or did not perform at his usual level. It was always "easier" for me to celebrate a win with a team. So maybe fighting is a special thing in this regard.
Way different. In fighting, if you dont care enough about winning you get hurt more. In other situations in life, detachment from outcome is emotionally healthy, in a simulated life or death struggle with a person attempting to do real damage to you, being too detached from the outcome is actually wreckless. Its sort of ironic
Depends on how it's approached. Lawrence Kenshin has a great video about Lerdsilla and his mentality of outcome independence. Eye opening yet sensible thought process especially for life in general.
I can relate. I always had the hunger to win. When i was a kid, I also was rarely picked during events. Though when I was, oh boy, was I competitive. For me, challenges were always an uphill battle due to my sight. So a win to me, even if it was a little thing, was a huge deal to me. it's because people would just count me out a lot. So I would strive to win, working 10 times as hard, to show them that I am worthy of winning. I've been like that ever since then.
This resonated with me very much. I've never had a fear of failure, but I definitely have a fear of success. "Men find solutions, boys find excuses" is very profound. It's a great litmus test to keep yourself honest. If you're making excuses, you don't want to win. Success it seems is mostly a choice
9:20 Three categories of people you will beat in a fight: 1. Someone who made more mistakes then you. 2. Someone who is weaker or less skilled or athletic then you. 3. Someone who is handicapped or sick or just out of their game. Thank you for putting it in a perspective coach!
I had a friend who called everyone he met 'Dave'. It saved him having to remember names and only caused confusion when meeting someone for the first time that actually was named Dave.
It's always nice to have encouragement like this as a friendly reminder to keep ones self on track. No matter what life throws at them! Thanks coach! 👍
Teacher, it is amazing how much our stories have mirrored each other! Although, after a few times training in karate and wrestling, the world and I decided that I would be better off as a commentator. As in a couch, commentator! I have found great success. Thank you.
Your golden heart is what allowed you to take those losses. You are too nice of a guy. Being a gentleman in fighting will get you losses. If you don't have that anger in you. If you had anger you would be more of a fighter and less of a coach. But I think that if you were a more successful fighter, you wouldn't be as important to the sport as you are.
I appreciate the sentiment, but I lost my first two pro kickboxing matches because I wasn’t very good at kickboxing at the time- inexperience and poor preparation is what did it. I got better. Out of the 19 professional kickboxing matches I did, I won just over half. The losses came from fighting against significantly more experienced athletes, including 2 Chinese national sanda champions, a WKA world champion, a Chinese army national sanda champion, and my first Muay Thai fight against a fighter 3 weight classes above me with 20 first round KO’s under his belt, among others. There was nothing “nice” happening in those fights. They were gross mismatches where the promoter used me as a stepping stone for the other guy. That being said, if I did win that WKA world title, I would probably have become an insufferable, and much less talented, jerk because of it
@@RamseyDewey 100% mismatch fights. Sounds unfair. I'd understand if you are like some cocky idiot or some kind of bully. Then I could understand them setting you up with fighters like that. What they did is kind of messed up. Instead of allowing you to fight someone of equal abilities, They threw you to the Lions. I'm very surprised how you don't have animosity towards them for this and how they treated you. Very unfair. 😠
Well, most of those fight promotions are defunct now. One of those fight promoters died of a heart attack a few years after screwing me over. The only promoter that screwed me over like that that’s still going is OneFC- but since they rebranded, it mostly a different crew of people involved. So who would I even resent in this situation?
@@RamseyDewey You have a great Attitude . The injuries you sustained are because of these mismatch fights. Not easy to forgive such acts . Hopefully he died a slow and super painful death . Now for the one still alive I'm sure karma will take care of him . I have seen many Asian organizations throwing fighters to their lions. They'd love to show Asians beating up on foreigners. And most of those fights are set up that way to please their crowds making them believe that Asians are powerful and strong and great fighters. Ha ha ha 🤣 100% of Muay Thai organizations do this. I don't think Sanchai has had a real fight in the last 10 years. Then they come to America The American organizations treat him way better setting them up with less talented fighters to give them a few wins. After they get a few wins They set them up with evenly skilled fighters giving them fair chances to win fights .
Thank you for this video coach Ramsey. It was very well timed with circumstances in my life. This video will and I hope does help others who watch it as well.
When I was growing up my family was in bad enough shape that everyone was already at their limits before I was even born... At the age of 2 my mom decided she wanted to go back to college to finish her degree, this put extra stress on the family that was in no shape to bear it at a time I really needed the attention. Everyone retreated and when my mom decided she couldn't be a mom and a student so she sent me back to rest of the family when I was 3. I spent the next year almost completely alone. My mom came back and everyone tried to act like things were just going to go back to normal, but too much pain had been dealt to all of us during that time for that to happen... but we still weren't going to acknowledge it. I was still alone, and now I was a problem and an outcast because the whole thing had caused a huge psychological break (CPTSD, BPD, PTSD, DID, and BP2). By the time I was 5 I was already trying to kill myself because I couldn't deal with it all alone, but nobody was willing to acknowledge the bad enough to be willing to help me with it. My mother made me pay the price for her win by sacrificing my well-being and by extension my future (by trying to make the problems go away without acknowledging them I was put on a medication that cut my life expectancy in half). I would spend the next 30 years trying to cope with those disorders before finally making the breakthroughs that I needed in order to start living my life outside my disorders (some of which still linger and will never allow me to have the kind of life I wanted for myself). I learned from that I wasn't content to "win" at the expense of hurting other people. I realize people will get hurt, and sometimes it can't be avoided... but that doesn't mean I should cause more harm than necessary just so I can get a little further ahead. My mom and dad got divorced, we all ended up wanting nothing to do with her, and her credentials that she got so she could make more money and enjoy her work more didn't make her happier either, and she still doesn't feel like she knows who she is but she's always the victim whenever she tries to get to know you and you tell her there isn't enough there to get to know because the trauma took everything you had your whole life. All that sacrifice and did she really win?... doesn't seem like it. In my mind winning is overrated, I'd rather just be as nice a person as I can be and see others do the same.
@@RamseyDewey I think we are and we aren't. I was only commenting on how some people won't see winning the same, and your video on how you learned to want to win got me thinking about how I learned not to want to win. I don't see this as a bad thing, and I wanted to share that story because I think we can get so caught up in trying to win sometimes that we end up losing instead or end up dismissing worth in those that decide not to compete. I still respect anyone who works hard at something regardless of what it is, and I'm not saying that I think everyone should be like myself (far from it)... but there are other ways and considerations to be made (that if we don't can hinder our having positive impacts upon the world around us and by extension a positive impact on our lives).
Always informative and informational. Causes me to recall my journey. Wish I could have heard your advice when I was young. Yours is a very interesting journey. Even after a lifetime of martial arts, I still continue to discover new details I may have missed previously. Thank you.
Thanks for sharing your experiences Ramsey, they speak to me on a personal level. (Thought about calling you Dave like that other guy for shits and giggles but that would undermine my genuine message)
coach! while the idea that we only beat others who are weaker, or who made more mistakes or who couldn't be in their element is kind of depressing, I think it's really motivating to know that the moment we become the better man is not in the fight but in the training. Maybe I didn't find my fair rival today, because I already did the hard work necessary to be better than him... to me that sounds like a good reason to get out there and train.
Love the content coach, straight to the point and no holds barred, keep it up Ramsey 🤙🏽 ya need to do some more of those dale brown de bunk vids, they need a fist to hand emoji, instead I’ll just do the(respectful bow) 🫡
Yeah that was a really interesting take Ramsey I enjoyed hearing it. I’m reminded of a story Bear Grylls told about when he was going through SAS (British special air services) selection training. Like what you were saying about the three ways you would beat someone in a fight as an athlete, someone who made more mistakes than you, someone who is less skilled/weaker than you or just someone who’s not in the right frame of mind. Bear Grylls mentioned that one of the guys he was competing with for a slot in the Special forces/SAS The guy was much better, much stronger/ fitter than himself, a real super athlete Bear even mentions in his book that he was sure the guy would’ve taken his slot but A big point that Bear emphasizes about in that story is that the guy he was competing with, the super athlete broke down/quit first and threw in the towel. So Bear may not have been the best but he was able to outlast him in training so he got the slot.
This hit hard on my heart. Cause my mind wasn't on point lately. And was very hard to find solutions for what I was dealing. But I want to be a man, I will find any solution I need.
Hey Ramsey, been doing TKD for 13yrs (both types) when not injured (ruptured ACL now). WTF school I go to is pretty modernised, we seem to spend 20% and more boxing - presumably Kickboxing style. I need more sparring which I push (but never really happens) and presumably need better hands whereas I have more or less mastered (TKD) kicking. 35 and want to compete in Kickboxing/MT and or MMA to some level. Forgetting need for more grappling exp needed for MMA (only few years grappling)…Should I join the Kickboxing classes at at my school for more sparring and better hands (which seems the emphasis) or another school's boxing gym and focus on hands? Thanks and thanks for your videos.
Try them both and see which one works better for you. I know that sounds like an oversimplification, but that’s something you will have to do if you want to know.
YESSSSS! NO EXCUSES! DROP AND GIVE THE COACH 50!!!! Hoooorah!! I have added doing Mike Tyson pushups to my workouts, weeks ago. They are INSANE! look it up! Bless ya'll!!
In my ten years of full contact fighting, I never once had the urge to win, I did it for the experience and training to make myself more self confident. This is the thing though, I never ONCE had a fighter think I was weird for having that sort of motivation, the only folks who never respected my motives are the UA-cam comments in this channel. But in real life when talking to other fighters? 100% of them got it and understood.
I took that picture during my first year in China. I worked at a university and they gave me a cash advance before my first paycheck. It was the first time in my life I had held that much cash in my hands, since in the US, it was always numbers on a screen in the bank. So I did this as a parody of pictures I’d seen of American gangsters posing in front of their gun collections holding handfuls of cash. I thought it was hilarious at the time. Nobody else seemed to get it.
Ramsey, I am one of those older fighters who started late. I started serious mma training at 30, i am 36. I want to win. In fact, i left the mma gym i had my first fight under (loss) because my coach doesnt want to win, no joke ive been there for 10 fights he cornered, 10 losses, hes chagned nothing and taken no responsibility. How do i balance wanting to win with being realistic and not expecting too much? I saw a video of Paddy Pimblet saying you shouldnt do MMA at all if you dont want to go to the absolute top because you will fight someone who does and i must say that sounds like a very valid opinion in the least. I wasnt discouraged by my own loss, but my friend who is an independent professional and much better than me got knocked out by a clearly heavily roided guy 10 years younger. On my birthday, i watched it having bday drinks lol. I want to win and im not scared to get hurt, but i am a little scared that as my time and energy becomes more precious i might just be sacrificing it on brutal fight camps for a high likelyhood of complete disappointment. I want 4 more fights at the most. I want 4 wins. What are your thoughts on balancing being realistic with having the appropriate amount of desire to win?
@@RamseyDewey It's like you're reminding us and yourself why you do what you do and what it means to do it. The daily bread statement is just like you said... today I win, tomorrow I may not, but I don't give up. this walk is a day by day thing to win at the end.
Ramsey, If you feel like listening to some guy on the internet, I think what people are hearing when you speak is essentially a standard midwest USA accent with the exception that the rhythm of your speech is rather Asian. It's really a very unique sound.
Midwest? I have never once been that Far East in the USA. I’m a British national who grew up in the far west, the Wild West of the Great American High Desert 1300 miles away from the Midwest. You should listen to American from the Midwest, they have very distinctive accents in Minnesota, Wisconsin, and Michigan. I don’t know why it’s called the mid west, since the “midwestern” states are on the eastern half of the continental USA. It makes no sense and it confuses people.
The US Army taught me how to win. How to not give up. How to break tasks down into pieces before trying to solve the whole thing. They give you an avenue to achieve a little, then a little more and really you can take that a very long way. All the way to being Green Beret or Delta force.
10:23 So many people just don't get this. Sometimes it's just not that athlete's/competitor's day, and there is very little for them to learn or do better next time as the loss wasn't based on factors like that. There was some wrestling win or something talked about on Reddit and someone mentioned how the guy who lost was an overall better fighter and everyone downvoted and just went "Duh udder guy one11!! ofc he bedder cause he one!"
You say that to win, you need to be "the better, the superior technician and the more aggressive competitor" followed by "it is simple, it is work". How do you work on/train for being more aggressive? Thanks!
I didn’t have the opportunity to play very many team sports as a kid. One summer, I played on a little league baseball team. And once in a while, there were pick up games of baseball on playground at recess. That’s about it.
Hey Mr. Why you no have channel memberships and would you do them in the future? Even a low cost priced tier or 2 would be worth while it's money just sat on the table. Edit: I ask jokingly but it's a serious question, I don't see why not.
personally, i have experienced cooperative learning (rarely practiced) and competitive/hostile learning environments and i prefer the cooperative learning/experience over the individualist one. In the first school i was ever in (6 years old) students who advanced faster in a subject matter would be seated to the weaker students at the end of class to help them go through the lessons material again. this did not only deepend the understanding and pride in understanding for the more talented pupils, it opened a second avenue of receiving the information to the weaker students and created student relationships based on trust, empathy and love for learning together. I can't remember an incident of bullying in this school, can't remember kids with learning disabilities. But when i switched into a different school which was not using such methods, i saw the kids with learning disabilities, i experienced bullying as the smart kid, the standard was bogged down immensely and neither were the talented students challenged nor the weak students helped. the children formed hostile small cliques and I was glad to switch from playing soccer with them to learning judo in order to solve my new issues.... policy discussions always claimed that "sociaist education" would drag everyone down to the lowest average, but the fact is that it created a way higher standard of education overall and way higher degrees of interoperability and cooperativity in this country. The extremist polarity of capitalist education just burns through the majority of kids (and kids are not born stupid, they are neglected into it) in order to nurture just a tiny fraction of them. all of which just creates antisocial elites (being bullied for being gifted or given the opportunities, f.e. a good economic background and family nurtureing education) just reduces the empathy of the talented and successful towards those who were left behind and acted out against them for it -and angry crowds who resent education.
"Who's the better man" is usually decided more so outside the ring rather than inside imo. The ring can show us a lot about someone but it isnt always the measure of a man. If it had anything to do w/ being a better man then people like C. McGregor wouldnt have made it so far. Terrible person but he's a good fighter.
I say you won your first fight. Can a NASA engineer win? Yes by gaining from the work Beating someone else is a "win" but not a win. If that is a true win. Who cares?
I'd suggest uaing covid as a power up. Put some masks on the punching bags or certain WHO faces. You may need sedatives when foam corrodes the ground tho.
First! I’m writing this so those guys who write “first” will be forced to write a more constructive comment. Mwahahahahahahahahaha!
We have been bested🤣
Love your content!
"a more constructive comment"
There, i wrote it! Is that good?
Just joking! Nicely done, boss! 👌
Finally your competitive nature won out 😉
New subscriber here, love the video. I just have one question that goes for both martial arts and the other aspects of life. How do you usually distinguish ideas that are grounded and real, and ideas that are false not grounded in your day to day life when the ideas you’re trying to judge are foreign to you or something you can’t affirm through experience maybe due to time constraints.
In a martial arts settings you could think of it this way: There are many forms that are thought of as exercise that could be for striking, for training footwork, for grappling, or just for show and is something that anybody who knows what doesn’t do on a regular basis.
We can’t really ask the people who made it what they meant by it and the best thing we can do is guess and try to make it work. But with that comes the possibility of guessing wrong, which is natural. But since you’re a pro at this I thought you’d have a tip for putting aside the nonsense bad ideas you have from the good ones that are probably right when trying to take a technique and make it your own.
If you can, may you please also answer how one can do distinguish the nonsense from the good stuff outside of martial arts settings too.
Sorry if this is a stupid question.
Thank you Ramsey. I needed that reminder. "Men find solutions, boys find excuses" that is applicable for life.
When I walked into your class for the first time 2.5 years ago, I was a skinny wimp, mediocre in fighting and losing in life. You helped me become much better at fighting and life. Nowadays I still struggle, but found the courage to do a little better everyday. Thanks for helping me get here coach!
Basically the triforce from zelda.
◇ Courage when on top of your game with no injuries.
◇ Wisdom to make less mistakes.
◇ force, be it in muscle or technique.
Godspeed.
The only thing I ever 'won' was a Game Boy with a winning ticket in a packet of crisps back in 1989.
Only one win, but what a win.
Dude, a Game Boy in 1989 was a big deal!
I am not a fighter. But I competed in some other sports. Individual sports and Team sports. Maybe it is just me. But I was never frustrated after a loss, as long as I felt I did my best. On the other hand I could not celebrate if I felt my opponent was unlucky or did not perform at his usual level. It was always "easier" for me to celebrate a win with a team. So maybe fighting is a special thing in this regard.
Way different. In fighting, if you dont care enough about winning you get hurt more. In other situations in life, detachment from outcome is emotionally healthy, in a simulated life or death struggle with a person attempting to do real damage to you, being too detached from the outcome is actually wreckless. Its sort of ironic
Depends on how it's approached. Lawrence Kenshin has a great video about Lerdsilla and his mentality of outcome independence. Eye opening yet sensible thought process especially for life in general.
ramsey have a poetic and narrative style of talking and it’s really interesting to listen to him
Well thanks!
It's like listening to an old fantasy tale
This is such I high quality video I hope it blows up more people need to see your content man specially the younger generation!
What's up Atem?
I can relate. I always had the hunger to win. When i was a kid, I also was rarely picked during events. Though when I was, oh boy, was I competitive. For me, challenges were always an uphill battle due to my sight. So a win to me, even if it was a little thing, was a huge deal to me. it's because people would just count me out a lot. So I would strive to win, working 10 times as hard, to show them that I am worthy of winning. I've been like that ever since then.
This resonated with me very much. I've never had a fear of failure, but I definitely have a fear of success. "Men find solutions, boys find excuses" is very profound. It's a great litmus test to keep yourself honest. If you're making excuses, you don't want to win. Success it seems is mostly a choice
9:20 Three categories of people you will beat in a fight:
1. Someone who made more mistakes then you.
2. Someone who is weaker or less skilled or athletic then you.
3. Someone who is handicapped or sick or just out of their game.
Thank you for putting it in a perspective coach!
I appreciate you, Coach! watched you for years now. I take so much of your advice to heart on my journey.
Man you’re F awesome brother!! I don’t get the whole where you live thing but you’re AMAZING. What you got is 100% yours.
We have similar stories Ramsey, can’t imagine it being easy to open up. I’ll keep returning to this.
Who is Dave?
I had a friend who called everyone he met 'Dave'. It saved him having to remember names and only caused confusion when meeting someone for the first time that actually was named Dave.
@@Wolf-Wolfman Heh, I actually think he's confusing him with Dave Ramsey, the financial advice dude.
Shame this video hasn’t gotten more views. It’s one of my favorites I’ve listened to.
It's always nice to have encouragement like this as a friendly reminder to keep ones self on track. No matter what life throws at them! Thanks coach! 👍
Teacher, it is amazing how much our stories have mirrored each other! Although, after a few times training in karate and wrestling, the world and I decided that I would be better off as a commentator. As in a couch, commentator! I have found great success. Thank you.
Your golden heart is what allowed you to take those losses. You are too nice of a guy. Being a gentleman in fighting will get you losses.
If you don't have that anger in you. If you had anger you would be more of a fighter and less of a coach.
But I think that if you were a more successful fighter, you wouldn't be as important to the sport as you are.
I appreciate the sentiment, but I lost my first two pro kickboxing matches because I wasn’t very good at kickboxing at the time- inexperience and poor preparation is what did it. I got better. Out of the 19 professional kickboxing matches I did, I won just over half. The losses came from fighting against significantly more experienced athletes, including 2 Chinese national sanda champions, a WKA world champion, a Chinese army national sanda champion, and my first Muay Thai fight against a fighter 3 weight classes above me with 20 first round KO’s under his belt, among others. There was nothing “nice” happening in those fights. They were gross mismatches where the promoter used me as a stepping stone for the other guy. That being said, if I did win that WKA world title, I would probably have become an insufferable, and much less talented, jerk because of it
@@RamseyDewey 100% mismatch fights.
Sounds unfair.
I'd understand if you are like some cocky idiot or some kind of bully. Then I could understand them setting you up with fighters like that.
What they did is kind of messed up.
Instead of allowing you to fight someone of equal abilities, They threw you to the Lions.
I'm very surprised how you don't have animosity towards them for this and how they treated you.
Very unfair. 😠
Well, most of those fight promotions are defunct now. One of those fight promoters died of a heart attack a few years after screwing me over. The only promoter that screwed me over like that that’s still going is OneFC- but since they rebranded, it mostly a different crew of people involved. So who would I even resent in this situation?
@@RamseyDewey You have a great Attitude . The injuries you sustained are because of these mismatch fights.
Not easy to forgive such acts .
Hopefully he died a slow and super painful death . Now for the one still alive I'm sure karma will take care of him .
I have seen many Asian organizations throwing fighters to their lions.
They'd love to show Asians beating up on foreigners. And most of those fights are set up that way to please their crowds making them believe that Asians are powerful and strong and great fighters.
Ha ha ha 🤣
100% of Muay Thai organizations do this.
I don't think Sanchai has had a real fight in the last 10 years.
Then they come to America
The American organizations treat him way better setting them up with less talented fighters to give them a few wins.
After they get a few wins They set them up with evenly skilled fighters giving them fair chances to win fights .
@@RamseyDewey what was the biggest mismatch u had to face ? In matches ?
We love your voice Ramsey!!
Thank you for this video coach Ramsey. It was very well timed with circumstances in my life. This video will and I hope does help others who watch it as well.
Audio is great and is only overshadowed by the message!
Your videos help me feel motivated to do hard things and to do productive things when I'm not in the mood. Thanks, Coach.
When I was growing up my family was in bad enough shape that everyone was already at their limits before I was even born... At the age of 2 my mom decided she wanted to go back to college to finish her degree, this put extra stress on the family that was in no shape to bear it at a time I really needed the attention. Everyone retreated and when my mom decided she couldn't be a mom and a student so she sent me back to rest of the family when I was 3. I spent the next year almost completely alone. My mom came back and everyone tried to act like things were just going to go back to normal, but too much pain had been dealt to all of us during that time for that to happen... but we still weren't going to acknowledge it. I was still alone, and now I was a problem and an outcast because the whole thing had caused a huge psychological break (CPTSD, BPD, PTSD, DID, and BP2). By the time I was 5 I was already trying to kill myself because I couldn't deal with it all alone, but nobody was willing to acknowledge the bad enough to be willing to help me with it.
My mother made me pay the price for her win by sacrificing my well-being and by extension my future (by trying to make the problems go away without acknowledging them I was put on a medication that cut my life expectancy in half). I would spend the next 30 years trying to cope with those disorders before finally making the breakthroughs that I needed in order to start living my life outside my disorders (some of which still linger and will never allow me to have the kind of life I wanted for myself). I learned from that I wasn't content to "win" at the expense of hurting other people. I realize people will get hurt, and sometimes it can't be avoided... but that doesn't mean I should cause more harm than necessary just so I can get a little further ahead. My mom and dad got divorced, we all ended up wanting nothing to do with her, and her credentials that she got so she could make more money and enjoy her work more didn't make her happier either, and she still doesn't feel like she knows who she is but she's always the victim whenever she tries to get to know you and you tell her there isn't enough there to get to know because the trauma took everything you had your whole life. All that sacrifice and did she really win?... doesn't seem like it. In my mind winning is overrated, I'd rather just be as nice a person as I can be and see others do the same.
We’re not talking about the same thing, are we.
@@RamseyDewey I think we are and we aren't. I was only commenting on how some people won't see winning the same, and your video on how you learned to want to win got me thinking about how I learned not to want to win. I don't see this as a bad thing, and I wanted to share that story because I think we can get so caught up in trying to win sometimes that we end up losing instead or end up dismissing worth in those that decide not to compete. I still respect anyone who works hard at something regardless of what it is, and I'm not saying that I think everyone should be like myself (far from it)... but there are other ways and considerations to be made (that if we don't can hinder our having positive impacts upon the world around us and by extension a positive impact on our lives).
Always informative and informational. Causes me to recall my journey. Wish I could have heard your advice when I was young. Yours is a very interesting journey.
Even after a lifetime of martial arts, I still continue to discover new details I may have missed previously. Thank you.
Great message, sir! 🙏🏻
Thanks
@PaMuShinThank you for the kind words, my friend! 🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing your experiences Ramsey, they speak to me on a personal level. (Thought about calling you Dave like that other guy for shits and giggles but that would undermine my genuine message)
Awesome!!!!
You have a great point 👏👏👏👏
coach! while the idea that we only beat others who are weaker, or who made more mistakes or who couldn't be in their element is kind of depressing, I think it's really motivating to know that the moment we become the better man is not in the fight but in the training. Maybe I didn't find my fair rival today, because I already did the hard work necessary to be better than him... to me that sounds like a good reason to get out there and train.
Yep, it’s a complete paradigm shift.
Fantastic video and great advice. I totally agree, champions find solutions and losers find excuses
Losers whine about their best. Winners go home and f*** the prom queen!
really needed this one
Love the content coach, straight to the point and no holds barred, keep it up Ramsey 🤙🏽 ya need to do some more of those dale brown de bunk vids, they need a fist to hand emoji, instead I’ll just do the(respectful bow) 🫡
Yeah that was a really interesting take Ramsey I enjoyed hearing it. I’m reminded of a story Bear Grylls told about when he was going through SAS (British special air services) selection training. Like what you were saying about the three ways you would beat someone in a fight as an athlete, someone who made more mistakes than you, someone who is less skilled/weaker than you or just someone who’s not in the right frame of mind.
Bear Grylls mentioned that one of the guys he was competing with for a slot in the Special forces/SAS The guy was much better, much stronger/ fitter than himself, a real super athlete Bear even mentions in his book that he was sure the guy would’ve taken his slot but A big point that Bear emphasizes about in that story is that the guy he was competing with, the super athlete broke down/quit first and threw in the towel. So Bear may not have been the best but he was able to outlast him in training so he got the slot.
This was a great upload. Thanks
This hit hard on my heart.
Cause my mind wasn't on point lately. And was very hard to find solutions for what I was dealing.
But I want to be a man, I will find any solution I need.
Hey Ramsey, been doing TKD for 13yrs (both types) when not injured (ruptured ACL now). WTF school I go to is pretty modernised, we seem to spend 20% and more boxing - presumably Kickboxing style. I need more sparring which I push (but never really happens) and presumably need better hands whereas I have more or less mastered (TKD) kicking.
35 and want to compete in Kickboxing/MT and or MMA to some level. Forgetting need for more grappling exp needed for MMA (only few years grappling)…Should I join the Kickboxing classes at at my school for more sparring and better hands (which seems the emphasis) or another school's boxing gym and focus on hands? Thanks and thanks for your videos.
Try them both and see which one works better for you. I know that sounds like an oversimplification, but that’s something you will have to do if you want to know.
@@RamseyDewey Thanks.
Great video!
This is actually great philosophy.
YESSSSS! NO EXCUSES! DROP AND GIVE THE COACH 50!!!! Hoooorah!! I have added doing Mike Tyson pushups to my workouts, weeks ago. They are INSANE! look it up! Bless ya'll!!
In my ten years of full contact fighting, I never once had the urge to win, I did it for the experience and training to make myself more self confident.
This is the thing though, I never ONCE had a fighter think I was weird for having that sort of motivation, the only folks who never respected my motives are the UA-cam comments in this channel. But in real life when talking to other fighters? 100% of them got it and understood.
My Daily boost, so enjoyable love from a French Muslim
I really like looking at your face when listening to you. No body language in a voice ;-)
Look at you now Ramsey, You're Winning
I like the thumbnail it’s good to know no one is immune to posting cringe photos online.
I took that picture during my first year in China. I worked at a university and they gave me a cash advance before my first paycheck. It was the first time in my life I had held that much cash in my hands, since in the US, it was always numbers on a screen in the bank. So I did this as a parody of pictures I’d seen of American gangsters posing in front of their gun collections holding handfuls of cash. I thought it was hilarious at the time. Nobody else seemed to get it.
Is that jawline in the thumbnail edited or is that real? Cause that looks insane
Is this a serious question?
@@RamseyDewey well I guess it’s rhetorical then. You have one hell of a jaw, I was really impressed.
@@jahrn692 Sorry to doubt you my friend! It’s just a picture of me making a silly face about 15 years ago. No editing.
Ramsey,
I am one of those older fighters who started late. I started serious mma training at 30, i am 36. I want to win. In fact, i left the mma gym i had my first fight under (loss) because my coach doesnt want to win, no joke ive been there for 10 fights he cornered, 10 losses, hes chagned nothing and taken no responsibility.
How do i balance wanting to win with being realistic and not expecting too much? I saw a video of Paddy Pimblet saying you shouldnt do MMA at all if you dont want to go to the absolute top because you will fight someone who does and i must say that sounds like a very valid opinion in the least. I wasnt discouraged by my own loss, but my friend who is an independent professional and much better than me got knocked out by a clearly heavily roided guy 10 years younger. On my birthday, i watched it having bday drinks lol. I want to win and im not scared to get hurt, but i am a little scared that as my time and energy becomes more precious i might just be sacrificing it on brutal fight camps for a high likelyhood of complete disappointment.
I want 4 more fights at the most. I want 4 wins. What are your thoughts on balancing being realistic with having the appropriate amount of desire to win?
Better athlete, superior technician, more aggressive competitor - got it 👍
Give us this day our daily bread. Sounds like you were reconfirming some things in your life here.
What do you mean?
@@RamseyDewey It's like you're reminding us and yourself why you do what you do and what it means to do it. The daily bread statement is just like you said... today I win, tomorrow I may not, but I don't give up. this walk is a day by day thing to win at the end.
Huh? Audio was fine but wtf app are you on about?? Great video though, very well put as always
Good audio
6:45 Hey, I remember that. Ironic you talked about having PTSD over a memory over this other traumatic memory
I need to do more pushups
I didn't even know you had a Twitter!
I barely ever use it! And I still don’t know how to write a tweet!
Ramsey, If you feel like listening to some guy on the internet, I think what people are hearing when you speak is essentially a standard midwest USA accent with the exception that the rhythm of your speech is rather Asian. It's really a very unique sound.
Midwest? I have never once been that Far East in the USA. I’m a British national who grew up in the far west, the Wild West of the Great American High Desert 1300 miles away from the Midwest. You should listen to American from the Midwest, they have very distinctive accents in Minnesota, Wisconsin, and Michigan. I don’t know why it’s called the mid west, since the “midwestern” states are on the eastern half of the continental USA. It makes no sense and it confuses people.
As for “the rhythm of my speech being rather Asian” Mwahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!
Wow.
The US Army taught me how to win. How to not give up. How to break tasks down into pieces before trying to solve the whole thing. They give you an avenue to achieve a little, then a little more and really you can take that a very long way. All the way to being Green Beret or Delta force.
10:23 So many people just don't get this. Sometimes it's just not that athlete's/competitor's day, and there is very little for them to learn or do better next time as the loss wasn't based on factors like that.
There was some wrestling win or something talked about on Reddit and someone mentioned how the guy who lost was an overall better fighter and everyone downvoted and just went "Duh udder guy one11!! ofc he bedder cause he one!"
I'm 18 years old almost 19 and I've yet to ever win something if my memory proves correct. This will change.
14:14 : This is just a friendly timeframe link just to come back to find motivation.
You say that to win, you need to be "the better, the superior technician and the more aggressive competitor" followed by "it is simple, it is work". How do you work on/train for being more aggressive?
Thanks!
You attack more than your opponent does. Practice that every time.
Ramsey, did you hate team sports like I did in my youth? But martial arts seems to offer so much, even if you're not competing.
I didn’t have the opportunity to play very many team sports as a kid. One summer, I played on a little league baseball team. And once in a while, there were pick up games of baseball on playground at recess. That’s about it.
People asking why Ramsey speaks that way are being rude. If you must know, it's because he was once electrocuted while watching "The Matrix" trilogy.
that thumbnail is epic 😂
Coach how do you survive a suplex
Tuck your chin, round your back, land on your shoulders and start a granby roll on the way down.
@@RamseyDewey thanks didnt find any video on this
Why do you say get out there and train when most of us train indoors ?
🥊
Does anyone trains MMA these days in Idaho?
I don’t know. Last time I lived in Idaho, the UFC wasn’t even a thing.
What's your opinion on combat sports as hobby ?
Combat sports are a great hobby. Go for it.
There's an alternate world where Ramsey gets a shirt with an alligator doing karate and he becomes a professional surfer
Hahahahaha!
Constructive comments
Hi Ramsey, what do you sugest for a boy that cant do contact sports , cause he has enlarged retina’s but does it anyway with his sisters and pappa..;)
If roughhousing with his dad isn’t causing problems, then go try jiu-jitsu. No striking, all grappling.
Hey Mr. Why you no have channel memberships and would you do them in the future? Even a low cost priced tier or 2 would be worth while it's money just sat on the table.
Edit: I ask jokingly but it's a serious question, I don't see why not.
Nobody on twitter has the attention span for a 15 minute chat
personally, i have experienced cooperative learning (rarely practiced) and competitive/hostile learning environments and i prefer the cooperative learning/experience over the individualist one. In the first school i was ever in (6 years old) students who advanced faster in a subject matter would be seated to the weaker students at the end of class to help them go through the lessons material again. this did not only deepend the understanding and pride in understanding for the more talented pupils, it opened a second avenue of receiving the information to the weaker students and created student relationships based on trust, empathy and love for learning together. I can't remember an incident of bullying in this school, can't remember kids with learning disabilities. But when i switched into a different school which was not using such methods, i saw the kids with learning disabilities, i experienced bullying as the smart kid, the standard was bogged down immensely and neither were the talented students challenged nor the weak students helped. the children formed hostile small cliques and I was glad to switch from playing soccer with them to learning judo in order to solve my new issues....
policy discussions always claimed that "sociaist education" would drag everyone down to the lowest average, but the fact is that it created a way higher standard of education overall and way higher degrees of interoperability and cooperativity in this country. The extremist polarity of capitalist education just burns through the majority of kids (and kids are not born stupid, they are neglected into it) in order to nurture just a tiny fraction of them. all of which just creates antisocial elites (being bullied for being gifted or given the opportunities, f.e. a good economic background and family nurtureing education) just reduces the empathy of the talented and successful towards those who were left behind and acted out against them for it -and angry crowds who resent education.
"Who's the better man" is usually decided more so outside the ring rather than inside imo. The ring can show us a lot about someone but it isnt always the measure of a man. If it had anything to do w/ being a better man then people like C. McGregor wouldnt have made it so far. Terrible person but he's a good fighter.
Dude, was it Jabber Jaw?
The shark on the T-shirt? No.
American born British nation living /working in China , that’s an interesting tax setup?
As this video came out 21 hours ago, I can assume they haven't sent you to isolation camps for the covid situation? Hope all is well man
Not yet.
Mr Dewey can you use all the weapons in your clickbait pic?
I specialize in the wooden prop knife on the left.
No First, huh?
Well. . . 100th! Or something. . .
Cornball
Also I managed to Win a 40 inch tv screen, I was estatic :p ahah , All because I roared Like godzilla ahah
Hahaha! Awesome.
@@RamseyDewey ahah they didn't stop hearing about it for 2 months ahah
second
Lmao
I see you have thwarted my plan!
108th!
I say you won your first fight. Can a NASA engineer win? Yes by gaining from the work
Beating someone else is a "win" but not a win. If that is a true win. Who cares?
A woman with a stick is a dangerous woman,😭.
THIRST !
I was that guy too but shunned out of group
I'd suggest uaing covid as a power up. Put some masks on the punching bags or certain WHO faces.
You may need sedatives when foam corrodes the ground tho.