Nothing happened to Kendrick. That’s the point of the song along with SA being the main theme. It was an issue of the question and not being believed by his family when he would say no, which led to internal trauma he had to deal with. However his mother was violated, and her question was inadvertently creating issues for Kendrick by projecting her pain on to him which would resurface in his relationship with his wife.
Exactly. Not being believed can lead to self-doubt. Later on you don't trust your own feelings and experiences. You start to self gaslight. But also, I feel like he missed the mark on how slavery still impacts black people today.
@@mckenleymason1212 I'm pretty sure Drake just tried to spin it. Like K said himself, Drake is a "master manipulator and habitual liar". He also claimed that K beat Whitney which I'm guessing he is sourcing from Whitney being hurt in the kitchen. He's basically twisting K's words for his own benefit, a very common strategy among manipulative people.
This entire album was created as Kendrick Lamar was undergoing therapy, which resulted in an album that is jam packed with personal insights and amazing art. Cheers
I just booked my first session yesterday as a direct result of this song. It’s needed, and as soon as I got off the phone I felt it was the right decision. We can do it y’all.
The way he called out so casually throughout one of the songs the non chalance we can have about our real pain, our real trauma. "nah, real n**** need no therapy." Like you can tough it out. If you're just a real man, it won't matter- but that's the thing, real men have real feelings. Feelings that spiral and can have devastating consequences. It is our responsibility to check ourselves and care for ourselves so we can care for the ones we love. Heal, everybody 💖
Whitney is proud that Kendrick broke all those curses and patterns that could have affected her children by confessing them publicly. And it hits harder when his daughter speaks and thanks her dad for doing this so that they could live a better life. That he has to suffer so that they don't. Jesus said, "Blessed is the man who gives up his life for the sake of others"
It's so good with the line "I pray our children don't inherit me and feelings I attract" earlier in the song. Like Kendrick questioning whether he's a good influence on his children or even whether they might be better off without him. Yet doing something to rectify it.
@@bawoomagbemi9923 😆 I’m a 16 year old girl, far from man like. Though maybe outa structure or a method through my own selfishness-These emotions demand and have longing to tell them blunt and bravely, but I’m a coward 😅 Foolish impulsive pride won’t allow me to speak freely unfortunately. A great goal I have is to tell them how I truly feel some day, so scary right? Don’t we all wish we can handle everything, heal everybody, might be the most man trait I have. Or womanly through nature, we’re all one if you think about it (Adam & Eve) most of us if striped from these worldly titles, we’re all really just sensitive beings who essentially need God. Though I’m probably ranting to much, it won’t change my fact of similar feelings associated with no hope-False freedoms, loneliness like it’s just me or I can’t breathe, suffocation like I can’t sleep, I feel cold and heartless often. Relief, I somewhat got this off my chests. Still, I have a long way to go before finding peace 😅🙌❤️
I was a drug addict for 10 years until 7 days ago. I heard Father Time by Kendrick, and it snapped me awake. I was numbing the unresolved pain of a fucked upbringing. If anyone's struggling right now, you CAN get sober. It hurts, it's awful, it's necessary, and I hope you make it through.
Mr morale is Kendrick. The kid at the end is Kendrick’s daughter talking. He went away for a while and had two kids and focused on his traumas and life. This album is putting it all out there and how he dealt with it. Father Time is my favorite from the album would love to see you listen to that one. Keep it up Tom thank you for the content ❤️
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial you should listen to the whole album from top to bottom. It's all about mental health. It's a two disc album where he has a breakthrough in therapy session when going from disc one to two.
"i wish i was somebody.. anybody but myself" hits me so hard.. i used to cry my self to bed thinking of that as kid. suddenly it rushed to me back after hearing that.
As a 8 year old kid I used to think that I forgot about it until I saw your comment I blocked a lot of stuff idk if I’m ready to remember and let it resurface on me. We all honestly need therapy and America should recognize mental health more seriously
the last time kendrick dropped an album was in 2017 (that album won a pulitzer prize) and so five years later he drops an album (Mr Morale & The Big Steppers) that is structured into two act (two discs). the first act is labeled The Big Steppers and the second act is labeled Mr Morale. the album is told like a stage play with a tap dancing motif throughout the album and taking inspiration from shakespeare, using Iambic pentameter which is a type of metric line used in traditional english poetry. the album takes us through his inner troubles, conversations with his wife, then a complete therapy session with Eckhart Tolle who is a German-born spiritual teacher and self-help author of The Power of Now and A New Earth. Mr. Morale is Kendrick, and this represents a side of Kendrick that has the responsibility of lifting up people that are down. The Big Steppers are the people that have a life full of sins and trouble, and, because of that, they need Kendrick to help them. if you look at the track-list the first song of act one and the last song of act two relate to each other, the second song of act one and the second to last song of act two relate to each other, and so on. the album has a lot of talk about saviours cause before this album he was considered the saviour of his culture and genre. and in this album he denies it and thats why he is wearing a diamond crown of thorns on stage and in his albums cover. he believes that only Jesus died for our sins and that he is no saviour (their is alot more philosophy in the saviour conversation but i would be here forever). in the album cover he wears the crown of thorns, with a pistol tucked in his pants, holding his baby, and his wife holding their other child in bed. this album was his return after five years
I remember riding with my wife, listening to this album and this song came on. I had to pull over because I was in tears. She and I were going through a rough patch at that time and this is the song that allowed me to be open
You gotta listen to this album front to back. It has a narrative arc about Kendrick's recent mental health journey. Also, I interpret the lyrics as saying that Kendrick actually wasn't abused but the persistent insistence that he was actually disturbed him to the point that he might as well have been. That he maybe even doubted that he wasn't. And the tragedy of that trauma being unintentionally inflicted on him by his mother because of the abuse she had experienced.
This song. It hit me like no other. I unfortunately was around a group of friends when I first listened to this album-this was less than a yr after I was raped. Just typing that without changing, modifying, or censoring the word to anything but what it is-it’s strange. It always feels like it happened to someone else than me. My trauma doesn’t end there though. I have endured a lot. Then that happened when I allowed myself to trust again. There’s so much I could say. But Kendrick encapsulates so much of how I feel, how my dad feels, how my partner feels… When me and that group of friends listened to the album, I felt like no one was really listening. It started making me angry. Then this song came on. It was too much. Suddenly there were too many people. I couldn’t stop the tears. I had to leave the room. It was one of those painful, cathartic cries. Thank you Kendrick. Thank you to the counselors and therapists I have spoke to. And thank you, dad, for finally getting help.
2:15 what’s crazy about that is that if you listen to a full album (like to pimp a butterfly especially for example) the story gets even bigger as it spans the whole album
I think you misread part of the song, "The violated in Chicago" part you missed that he went back to talking about his mom and his cousin not touching him but her not believing him. You accidently attributed those parts of the song to the cheating part because he was going back and forth between situations. He was saying that his mom didn't believe him because she was sexually assaulted in the past and she was scared that it was happening to him and he just wasn't speaking up about it and refused to believe him even though he was telling the truth.
Also so interesting how he lived with the shame of being abused when he never was but because people never believed that he never was. It's a crazy psychological concept that i learnt from this, to be honest.
He’s also talking about the trauma of being asked those questions over and over as if something was wrong with him. As a 5 year old, he was telling the truth, but people didn’t believe him. It made him question his own reality, and he’s reliving that trauma now as an adult. His mother had good intentions, but was looking for trauma that didn’t exist until trauma was created
@@Mahoota11 imagine your whole family throwing away all feelings for your cousin and constantly asking why he touched you (when i first learned about rape when i was little is was scary to even think about) over and over again and not believing you. It becomes a normal thought at that point especially since you told the truth and everyone around you said otherwise. Its the guilt for his cousin that left trauma along with constant pictures and thoughts of what the rest of the family believes at that young of an age
What i’ve always admired most about Kdot is his utter ability to convey these complex album long themes or stories and have every single word mean something, the lyrics are so dense that the albums only get better over time because months later you’re uncovering something new or even a year or two later you’re able to attach or relate to a song more just from life experience. It’s like he truly takes all the emotions in his head and somehow puts it all into song structure, it’s really marvelous work and i’ll never stop giving him his flowers while he’s here
This song, and whole album is honestly too much for me. One of the most powerful revealers of trauma ever imo. It's a powerful tool for shadow work (and then healing). That's why so many people can't listen to it. It's scary to them.
that's probably why i havnt come back to it in a long while since it dropped. It's so powerful and this comment made me remember how. Listening again tonight
100%. I was sad to see so many people hating on the album. But when some people feel forced to look within themselves, within their problems, they can become agitated and run away. I hope more people can listen to this album and begin their healing journeys. Personally, I listened to the album expecting it to be the usual hip hip/rap (drugs, partying, violence, etc., which I still enjoy) but I was so shocked. I listened to the album the whole way through at least 3 times on it's release date, and this song (Mother I Sober) really got to me. It was nice, to hear a mainstream artist talk about healing generational traumas, as I was (and still am) going through my own healing journey.
Another main theme is the historical trauma from slavery and how the damage has been passed down through generations of black families. This lends us not to talk about generational trauma or personalized trauma. There was no therapy for freed enslaved people to overcome being beaten, tortured, r*ped and they had to cope the best way they could, which is what Kendrick is experiencing.
this is probably the best song on the new album, alongside "auntie diaries" Also definitely worth checking out, tho it is less of a mental health thing and more asking important questions about society
I believe how people treat each other's wounds whether physical or emotional is the foundation of society. If we don't break generational curses we are doomed to the violence that festers beneath the things we try to hide. That is just my opinion from observation.
one thing i think always adds to these two is that they are linked. auntie diaries tells you more about this cousin who they thought touched him, all because his cousin was feminine (reflection of venus). So, so many layers to it all.
I’m late, but in case it wasn’t clear, nothing happened to Kendrick, he never lied, but because nobody believed him it made him to begin to doubt himself even and that mixed in with his other trauma (seeing his mom getting beaten by a relative when he was only 5 and not doing anything to stop it) and made him continue to doubt if he’s a good person.
The album itself goes through Kendrick’s struggles he’s been working to address over the past 5 years through therapy. The first half of the album seems to be more addressing that the problems exist and as it goes to the second half, how he deals with them or how his perspective is transforming through that therapy. It’s worth checking out the album as a whole, even if not for a video. A good individual song of of it is “Father Time”
kendrick is such a special soul. the growth and perspective he brings in his music is so empowering and eye opening. one of our most important artists of the modern age i am convinced
I didn’t realize the lyric his mother didn’t believe him because she was violated so now she’s projecting her pain on him, which gives him the trauma he has an adult hood Just wow Kendrick is an amazing artist holding back tears listening to this song
His mother projected her trauma from being touched onto him. That's why she didn't believe him. She feared that it would happen to him so she kept questioning him. Her persistence made him feel some of her trauma just from the idea being planted into him at a young age. It's about generational trauma being passed on in one way or another.
This song brought me to tears . From a women’s point I could relate to every word . From the child hood trauma and even being addicted to lust and having to snap out of it , completely sober . 😢 Kendrick is my spirit animal .
I mean man words can’t display … this is just an example of one of Kendrick’s most authentic most powerful voices and thoughts and lyrics with those kick drums being some of the most subtle but powerful parts of this track , the singing , the lyrics the story telling …. Just couldn’t be more perfect
This whole album is/was therapy for me. It’s such a strong amazing work of art for those who actually listen and understand all the symbolism and metaphors. Crazy stuff
I think Father Time by Kendrick Lamar would also be a great one that’s super geared towards therapy. In the track it even directly brings up the stigmatization of therapy and how Kendrick Lamar was essentially manufactured by his dad to not express his emotions and the trauma he carried inadvertently as a result.
9:25 I think what Kendrick meant by “till this day can’t look her in the eyes, pain is taking over” he meant he can’t look at his wife because he was sleeping with other women, which ties in to the next bar “you ain’t felt guilt until you felt it sober”
It makes more sense if the reference is to his mother because she was beaten and got a black eye (black and blue, the image of my queen) because he failed to defend her when she saw her being abused (I should have grabbed a gun but I was only five) now he feels so guilty that he couldn't look her in the eyes because it reminds him of the black eye.
The song attributes that confuse you may be because the album is all connected, a "concept album". The messages and meanings span over the entire album, not just songs individually. Concept albums are not always easy to follow, especially with Kendrick, but they're definitely worth listening to start to finish
this song always makes me tear up, just too relateable. But everything kendrick says about confronting the issues to fix the past is a poetic and truthful statement.
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial That's the word I would use for Kendrick; "Complex" and incredibly layered. Very representative of the nuances of the collective conscious of the planet. Kanye is also complex, but more like a Picasso painting
Yes, that's Whitney and their daughter, Uzi, speaking at the end. They are featured on the album cover for Mr. Morale & the Big Steppers along with Kendrick and their infant son, Enoch.
Great video. The part at 16:09 is about the legacy of slavery and the intergenerational trauma from it. The abuses he lists are documented forms of abuse perpetrated on slaves. I thought it worth mentioning since you didn’t comment on that aspect. This is a very powerful song. Your analysis was fantastic. I needed this today. Thanks.
You have done a great job explaining the song. It just amazes me soo much how kendrick understands the real causes of different behaviors. The lyrics spoke the language of the Psychotherapist. Shows me how brilliant Kendrick is! Just Wow.
I never heard this one before! What a great pick and great reaction therapy video!Being black out high and living through the trama being hurt doesn't mean you are understanding them to find a clarity to it. When you finally get sober for a good period of time you start remembering pieces of memory that lead to even more missing pieces. I found out that a lifetime of misfortunes can hit you all at once. I find it to be important to try to remind yourself that I felt a true happiness at one time in my life and happiness can still be obtainable. I know when I hit my rock bottom it took some time to realize if I'm at my bottom I can only look up. When I first started recovery I hated it but 4 years in I find myself enjoying it. Much love as always!😁
Jesus I’m crying. Thinking of my mother and all the abuse she’s dealt with since she was a child. Watching her struggle with depression but fighting to feel better and still fighting. Kendrick’s ability to touch souls is unmatched.
This song isn't exclusive to black men. I am Hispanic and this shit hurt. I found myself filled with rage and sorrow. Then when I heard the child's voice it showed that the innocence that wasn't preserved in me and my siblings, can be in my daughters. This song makes me cry every time I listen and at the end it reinvigorates my soul, and it reminds me to fight with my life for my girls. I will be the father who protects, and I will be the man that I needed. I was an angry child, and I lived a broken childhood. I will fight for my kids. To you fathers out there who have any kinds of traumas, lets fight and be the men we needed. Let's break that cycle for our kids.
you ain’t felt grief til you felt it sober is so real, Not even just deaths but grief of trauma and spiritual battles you pushed down and hid with drug use and sin :(
this past weekend has been one of the roughest weekends in a while for me and I have been going through it all sober. I have really been feeling it and just when I thought I was close to being done processing this hell I watched this video and so much that was hidden that I hadn't thought about in years. It really hurts, and I'm feeling absolutely all of it. I only hope it'll be over soon and I can stop suffering so much and move on. I know this video is old, but thank you Kendrick for your words, and thank you Tom for your insight. I really appreciate it
He said he wasn’t touched and that created family problems and his cousin was labeled for something he didn’t do. Then his cousin has trauma from K mother. K felt the blame for his cousin and for not doing anything when he watched his mother get attacked.
I'm seeing a lot of requests for Father Time and understandably so. It's an amazing song and just as good (if not better) than the song above. However, if I may buck the trend a bit, please see "The Book of Soul" by Ab-Soul. It's a heart-breaking song about tragedy, loss, death and love. It details how Ab-Soul overcame a deadly disease in childhood only for the love of his life to die just before his career took off. Cannot recommend it enough, but probably best to have box of Kleenex nearby.
I don't know if you already have by now, but please listen to this entire album. It's one of the best albums for mental health that's come out in recent times and has probably changed hundreds, if not thousands, of lives.
(WEVE GOT TO STOP PARENT/VEIWING THE WORLD THROUGH THE FILTERED LENSES OF OUR OWN UNRESOLVED TRAUMA BECAUSE NO MATTER WHAT'S YOUR INTENTION, YOURE ONLY GONNA GONNA TRICKLE THAT DOWN INADVERTENTLY AND CAUSE PAIN EVEN WITHiIN THE VERY ACT OF TRYING TO IMPART LOVE)
It's his kids, he was already affected by the generational curse. He broke it, so now his kids do not have to repeat it as he did. So his wife said I am proud and told his kids to thank daddy for giving them a chance to have a better life
You said on your video for N95 that you felt out of your depth analysing this music, but I must disagree. Your reading of the meaning behind these tracks are absolutely spot on. This song helped me open up to my mother about some childhood stuff, and your words have no helped me to understand what I need to do to get better. Thank you.
He saying that it all started with and black women being the generational curse started way back when and still real versus ugly head through the pain and over-sexualization of today
I can wholeheartedly recommend Mr Morale and the Big steppers, Its a musical journey of Kendrik realizing that he needs to work on himself before he can be Mr Morale. Id hope you listen to the full album. Some of My favorites are Auntie Diaries, Mother i sober, mirror, Father time, We cry together
Disgusting that Kendrick could share this story , go this deep : just to have some rapper dude try and use it against him in some rapper beef . Drake has never made a song like this that hits your soul. I PROMISE
Mr morale came from the name of the album the name mr morale and the big steppers is about the big steppers, people going through trauma an mr moral kendrick the one all of the big steppers look up to throughout the album kendrick realizes that he is not mr morale. Hence mr morale and the big steppers
Nothing happened to Kendrick. That’s the point of the song along with SA being the main theme. It was an issue of the question and not being believed by his family when he would say no, which led to internal trauma he had to deal with. However his mother was violated, and her question was inadvertently creating issues for Kendrick by projecting her pain on to him which would resurface in his relationship with his wife.
Exactly! Sometimes some can over analyze and miss it. Quite a few get this song wrong. The fact that his mom didn’t believe him was the catalyst…
And the fact tht the slowness are talking smack, he is so deep they can even understand what he is saying
@@MsJrzysome kind of way even Drake heard this song and got it completely wrong.
Exactly. Not being believed can lead to self-doubt. Later on you don't trust your own feelings and experiences. You start to self gaslight. But also, I feel like he missed the mark on how slavery still impacts black people today.
@@mckenleymason1212 I'm pretty sure Drake just tried to spin it. Like K said himself, Drake is a "master manipulator and habitual liar". He also claimed that K beat Whitney which I'm guessing he is sourcing from Whitney being hurt in the kitchen. He's basically twisting K's words for his own benefit, a very common strategy among manipulative people.
This entire album was created as Kendrick Lamar was undergoing therapy, which resulted in an album that is jam packed with personal insights and amazing art. Cheers
Men (especially Black Men) have HUGE reservations for therapy. Kendrick's album forced many to have their 1st session.
That's awesome!
I just booked my first session yesterday as a direct result of this song. It’s needed, and as soon as I got off the phone I felt it was the right decision. We can do it y’all.
@@DurfMcAllister Proud of you man
@@DurfMcAllister im so fucking proud of you bro
The way he called out so casually throughout one of the songs the non chalance we can have about our real pain, our real trauma. "nah, real n**** need no therapy." Like you can tough it out. If you're just a real man, it won't matter- but that's the thing, real men have real feelings. Feelings that spiral and can have devastating consequences. It is our responsibility to check ourselves and care for ourselves so we can care for the ones we love. Heal, everybody 💖
Whitney is proud that Kendrick broke all those curses and patterns that could have affected her children by confessing them publicly. And it hits harder when his daughter speaks and thanks her dad for doing this so that they could live a better life. That he has to suffer so that they don't. Jesus said, "Blessed is the man who gives up his life for the sake of others"
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That hits home for me I wish my father could find peace like this and my mother could be free from her trauma
It's so good with the line "I pray our children don't inherit me and feelings I attract" earlier in the song.
Like Kendrick questioning whether he's a good influence on his children or even whether they might be better off without him. Yet doing something to rectify it.
@@PDriizzytell them no matter how much they think they failed they succeeded cos you're a man today.
@@bawoomagbemi9923
😆 I’m a 16 year old girl, far from man like. Though maybe outa structure or a method through my own selfishness-These emotions demand and have longing to tell them blunt and bravely, but I’m a coward 😅 Foolish impulsive pride won’t allow me to speak freely unfortunately.
A great goal I have is to tell them how I truly feel some day, so scary right? Don’t we all wish we can handle everything, heal everybody, might be the most man trait I have. Or womanly through nature, we’re all one if you think about it (Adam & Eve) most of us if striped from these worldly titles, we’re all really just sensitive beings who essentially need God.
Though I’m probably ranting to much,
it won’t change my fact of similar feelings associated with no hope-False freedoms, loneliness like it’s just me or I can’t breathe, suffocation like I can’t sleep, I feel cold and heartless often. Relief, I somewhat got this off my chests. Still, I have a long way to go before finding peace 😅🙌❤️
I was a drug addict for 10 years until 7 days ago.
I heard Father Time by Kendrick, and it snapped me awake.
I was numbing the unresolved pain of a fucked upbringing.
If anyone's struggling right now, you CAN get sober.
It hurts, it's awful, it's necessary, and I hope you make it through.
praying 4 ur continued sobriety bro 🫂
I believe you will make it through, I believe in you.
Hope you are still doing good brother/sister
How is it now for you mate?
I’m proud of you bro keep going!
Mr morale is Kendrick. The kid at the end is Kendrick’s daughter talking. He went away for a while and had two kids and focused on his traumas and life. This album is putting it all out there and how he dealt with it. Father Time is my favorite from the album would love to see you listen to that one. Keep it up Tom thank you for the content ❤️
Very nice, thanks for these comments 😊👍
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial you should listen to the whole album from top to bottom. It's all about mental health. It's a two disc album where he has a breakthrough in therapy session when going from disc one to two.
It was definitely an album kendrick needed to release for himself not for us to have bangers. He is free now
@@danieldickey9479 at yet :0 at the same time? the ENTIRE THING is Filled with relatable, heartfelt and inspiring bangers. wowza
Real art and real rap period.
"i wish i was somebody.. anybody but myself" hits me so hard.. i used to cry my self to bed thinking of that as kid. suddenly it rushed to me back after hearing that.
As a 8 year old kid I used to think that I forgot about it until I saw your comment I blocked a lot of stuff idk if I’m ready to remember and let it resurface on me. We all honestly need therapy and America should recognize mental health more seriously
the last time kendrick dropped an album was in 2017 (that album won a pulitzer prize) and so five years later he drops an album (Mr Morale & The Big Steppers) that is structured into two act (two discs). the first act is labeled The Big Steppers and the second act is labeled Mr Morale. the album is told like a stage play with a tap dancing motif throughout the album and taking inspiration from shakespeare, using Iambic pentameter which is a type of metric line used in traditional english poetry. the album takes us through his inner troubles, conversations with his wife, then a complete therapy session with Eckhart Tolle who is a German-born spiritual teacher and self-help author of The Power of Now and A New Earth. Mr. Morale is Kendrick, and this represents a side of Kendrick that has the responsibility of lifting up people that are down. The Big Steppers are the people that have a life full of sins and trouble, and, because of that, they need Kendrick to help them. if you look at the track-list the first song of act one and the last song of act two relate to each other, the second song of act one and the second to last song of act two relate to each other, and so on. the album has a lot of talk about saviours cause before this album he was considered the saviour of his culture and genre. and in this album he denies it and thats why he is wearing a diamond crown of thorns on stage and in his albums cover. he believes that only Jesus died for our sins and that he is no saviour (their is alot more philosophy in the saviour conversation but i would be here forever). in the album cover he wears the crown of thorns, with a pistol tucked in his pants, holding his baby, and his wife holding their other child in bed. this album was his return after five years
Amazing interpretation,💯👍🏽👍🏽
And what you said is a big reason why it won a Grammy For best rap album of the year.
The "I'm snatching chains and burning tattoos" line in Like That means so, so, so much more. Wow.
If not for this comment, it would still be over my head.
Yeah, the first thing I thought when I heard that line on Like That.
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How so?
Basically meaning he is gonna strip them down mentally and show the world what’s hiding behind the persona
This is the type of song that gets you to stare into space for 5 minutes straight without moving a muscle.
That's how you know the music spoke to you.
I love your profile pic
Ain’t ashamed to admit I cried like a baby for a solid 10 minutes after hearing it for the first time
I genuinely cannot listen to this song without crying
Or just cry.
Crazy but this song actually mad me cry, never thought that would ever happen. Kendric is much more than a rapper he’s a modern day poet. Masterpiece
I felt the same way. I can't believe a rap song made me cry.
Nothing crazy about that, I cry every time, even over a year later
I bawled my eyes out like I did when I was a kid when I heard this song.
I remember riding with my wife, listening to this album and this song came on. I had to pull over because I was in tears. She and I were going through a rough patch at that time and this is the song that allowed me to be open
Absolutely is!! 💯
This album is a MASTERPIECE
The best I've heard in the last decade.
This is amazing
Literally this and 4:44 crazy!!
You gotta listen to this album front to back. It has a narrative arc about Kendrick's recent mental health journey. Also, I interpret the lyrics as saying that Kendrick actually wasn't abused but the persistent insistence that he was actually disturbed him to the point that he might as well have been. That he maybe even doubted that he wasn't. And the tragedy of that trauma being unintentionally inflicted on him by his mother because of the abuse she had experienced.
That entire album was what we needed. You can hardly listen to it without thinking about your own life.
Facts on top of facts
This song. It hit me like no other. I unfortunately was around a group of friends when I first listened to this album-this was less than a yr after I was raped. Just typing that without changing, modifying, or censoring the word to anything but what it is-it’s strange. It always feels like it happened to someone else than me. My trauma doesn’t end there though. I have endured a lot. Then that happened when I allowed myself to trust again. There’s so much I could say.
But Kendrick encapsulates so much of how I feel, how my dad feels, how my partner feels…
When me and that group of friends listened to the album, I felt like no one was really listening. It started making me angry. Then this song came on. It was too much. Suddenly there were too many people. I couldn’t stop the tears. I had to leave the room. It was one of those painful, cathartic cries.
Thank you Kendrick. Thank you to the counselors and therapists I have spoke to. And thank you, dad, for finally getting help.
I’m so sorry I know this is two months ago but reading this now made me tear up. I hope your in a better head space now 🥹
2:15 what’s crazy about that is that if you listen to a full album (like to pimp a butterfly especially for example) the story gets even bigger as it spans the whole album
I think you misread part of the song, "The violated in Chicago" part you missed that he went back to talking about his mom and his cousin not touching him but her not believing him. You accidently attributed those parts of the song to the cheating part because he was going back and forth between situations. He was saying that his mom didn't believe him because she was sexually assaulted in the past and she was scared that it was happening to him and he just wasn't speaking up about it and refused to believe him even though he was telling the truth.
Also so interesting how he lived with the shame of being abused when he never was but because people never believed that he never was. It's a crazy psychological concept that i learnt from this, to be honest.
He’s also talking about the trauma of being asked those questions over and over as if something was wrong with him. As a 5 year old, he was telling the truth, but people didn’t believe him. It made him question his own reality, and he’s reliving that trauma now as an adult.
His mother had good intentions, but was looking for trauma that didn’t exist until trauma was created
@@PtylerBeats that’s why that part resonates with me holy shit
@@Mahoota11 imagine your whole family throwing away all feelings for your cousin and constantly asking why he touched you (when i first learned about rape when i was little is was scary to even think about) over and over again and not believing you. It becomes a normal thought at that point especially since you told the truth and everyone around you said otherwise. Its the guilt for his cousin that left trauma along with constant pictures and thoughts of what the rest of the family believes at that young of an age
He is deflecting...he most likely did molested
this is the greatest hip-hop work of the 21st century. KL Duckworth will go down as a legend across all genres because of this album.
What i’ve always admired most about Kdot is his utter ability to convey these complex album long themes or stories and have every single word mean something, the lyrics are so dense that the albums only get better over time because months later you’re uncovering something new or even a year or two later you’re able to attach or relate to a song more just from life experience. It’s like he truly takes all the emotions in his head and somehow puts it all into song structure, it’s really marvelous work and i’ll never stop giving him his flowers while he’s here
This song, and whole album is honestly too much for me. One of the most powerful revealers of trauma ever imo. It's a powerful tool for shadow work (and then healing). That's why so many people can't listen to it. It's scary to them.
Oh my god, im so agree with u.
We have to heal
that's probably why i havnt come back to it in a long while since it dropped. It's so powerful and this comment made me remember how. Listening again tonight
I couldn't get through one full listen. Too powerful & many tears. I have to breathe deep and try again.
100%. I was sad to see so many people hating on the album. But when some people feel forced to look within themselves, within their problems, they can become agitated and run away. I hope more people can listen to this album and begin their healing journeys. Personally, I listened to the album expecting it to be the usual hip hip/rap (drugs, partying, violence, etc., which I still enjoy) but I was so shocked. I listened to the album the whole way through at least 3 times on it's release date, and this song (Mother I Sober) really got to me. It was nice, to hear a mainstream artist talk about healing generational traumas, as I was (and still am) going through my own healing journey.
Another main theme is the historical trauma from slavery and how the damage has been passed down through generations of black families. This lends us not to talk about generational trauma or personalized trauma. There was no therapy for freed enslaved people to overcome being beaten, tortured, r*ped and they had to cope the best way they could, which is what Kendrick is experiencing.
Well said, thanks Cedric😊👍
Spot on
Word…..well put
if only everybody understood this concept, we’d be so far ahead as a species
Well said 👍🏾 free us all 🙌🏾🙌🏾
This is why I love Kendrick he come with and speak on facts within our communities
this is probably the best song on the new album, alongside "auntie diaries"
Also definitely worth checking out, tho it is less of a mental health thing and more asking important questions about society
I believe how people treat each other's wounds whether physical or emotional is the foundation of society. If we don't break generational curses we are doomed to the violence that festers beneath the things we try to hide. That is just my opinion from observation.
one thing i think always adds to these two is that they are linked. auntie diaries tells you more about this cousin who they thought touched him, all because his cousin was feminine (reflection of venus). So, so many layers to it all.
I’ve listened to this song over and over again but I feel like Kendrick never actually said that yes that he was actually molested……
@@rickeysantos so you heard him say no multiple times throughout the song? Good listening skills
Such an important song about healing and generational trauma. No one is making music like Kendrick.
This song always hits me in my soul no matter how many times I listen to it
This one brings tears to the eye every time. Beautiful
I’m late, but in case it wasn’t clear, nothing happened to Kendrick, he never lied, but because nobody believed him it made him to begin to doubt himself even and that mixed in with his other trauma (seeing his mom getting beaten by a relative when he was only 5 and not doing anything to stop it) and made him continue to doubt if he’s a good person.
3:10 that pause 😢….I never thought a “Rap” song would make me cry
The album itself goes through Kendrick’s struggles he’s been working to address over the past 5 years through therapy. The first half of the album seems to be more addressing that the problems exist and as it goes to the second half, how he deals with them or how his perspective is transforming through that therapy. It’s worth checking out the album as a whole, even if not for a video. A good individual song of of it is “Father Time”
The fact he did it sober is wild
I indulge in my fair share or tree and drink but I can admit a part of it was my atmosphere
kendrick is such a special soul. the growth and perspective he brings in his music is so empowering and eye opening. one of our most important artists of the modern age i am convinced
I didn’t realize the lyric his mother didn’t believe him because she was violated so now she’s projecting her pain on him, which gives him the trauma he has an adult hood
Just wow Kendrick is an amazing artist holding back tears listening to this song
Drake didnt get it😂
The album Mr Morale is basically one big therapy session where he is dancing around the issues until the end. A very important album.
His mother projected her trauma from being touched onto him. That's why she didn't believe him. She feared that it would happen to him so she kept questioning him. Her persistence made him feel some of her trauma just from the idea being planted into him at a young age. It's about generational trauma being passed on in one way or another.
And that's the part drake took out of context
This song brought me to tears . From a women’s point I could relate to every word . From the child hood trauma and even being addicted to lust and having to snap out of it , completely sober . 😢 Kendrick is my spirit animal .
“Father Time” is a great song by Kendrick Lamar. You should react to that next
I cried really hard after I heard the song. I’m surprised you didn’t bawl into video.
Hard not to shed tears man, painful but beautiful art
"Beautiful art" Yes beautiful that so true 😊.
I mean man words can’t display … this is just an example of one of Kendrick’s most authentic most powerful voices and thoughts and lyrics with those kick drums being some of the most subtle but powerful parts of this track , the singing , the lyrics the story telling …. Just couldn’t be more perfect
This whole album is/was therapy for me. It’s such a strong amazing work of art for those who actually listen and understand all the symbolism and metaphors. Crazy stuff
First time I heard this I straight up cried, been through alot myself, so this hits home for me, great song, one of the best 💯
I think Father Time by Kendrick Lamar would also be a great one that’s super geared towards therapy. In the track it even directly brings up the stigmatization of therapy and how Kendrick Lamar was essentially manufactured by his dad to not express his emotions and the trauma he carried inadvertently as a result.
9:25 I think what Kendrick meant by “till this day can’t look her in the eyes, pain is taking over” he meant he can’t look at his wife because he was sleeping with other women, which ties in to the next bar “you ain’t felt guilt until you felt it sober”
It makes more sense if the reference is to his mother because she was beaten and got a black eye (black and blue, the image of my queen) because he failed to defend her when she saw her being abused (I should have grabbed a gun but I was only five) now he feels so guilty that he couldn't look her in the eyes because it reminds him of the black eye.
@@mukuka2487i think he was hinting that he took those patterns and beat whitney as a result. he can't look her in the eye because of guilt
I have never been this emotional over a rap artist song. This pulled tough at my heartstrings. Good Lord.
The song attributes that confuse you may be because the album is all connected, a "concept album". The messages and meanings span over the entire album, not just songs individually. Concept albums are not always easy to follow, especially with Kendrick, but they're definitely worth listening to start to finish
this song always makes me tear up, just too relateable. But everything kendrick says about confronting the issues to fix the past is a poetic and truthful statement.
Man after the first two lines I'm in tears 😔😢 this song is soooo deep
This whole album is very good. It’s so deep
He’s a tough one for me…very complex😊
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial That's the word I would use for Kendrick; "Complex" and incredibly layered. Very representative of the nuances of the collective conscious of the planet. Kanye is also complex, but more like a Picasso painting
From tupac Shakur dear mama to kendrick lamar mother I sober 🥀
Yes, that's Whitney and their daughter, Uzi, speaking at the end. They are featured on the album cover for Mr. Morale & the Big Steppers along with Kendrick and their infant son, Enoch.
Great video. The part at 16:09 is about the legacy of slavery and the intergenerational trauma from it. The abuses he lists are documented forms of abuse perpetrated on slaves. I thought it worth mentioning since you didn’t comment on that aspect.
This is a very powerful song. Your analysis was fantastic. I needed this today. Thanks.
I think "Mother I Sober" is one of the best Kendrick Lamar songs! It really hits home in so many ways and I love it!!!💯🔥🎵🥰
You have done a great job explaining the song. It just amazes me soo much how kendrick understands the real causes of different behaviors. The lyrics spoke the language of the Psychotherapist. Shows me how brilliant Kendrick is! Just Wow.
I never heard this one before! What a great pick and great reaction therapy video!Being black out high and living through the trama being hurt doesn't mean you are understanding them to find a clarity to it. When you finally get sober for a good period of time you start remembering pieces of memory that lead to even more missing pieces. I found out that a lifetime of misfortunes can hit you all at once. I find it to be important to try to remind yourself that I felt a true happiness at one time in my life and happiness can still be obtainable. I know when I hit my rock bottom it took some time to realize if I'm at my bottom I can only look up. When I first started recovery I hated it but 4 years in I find myself enjoying it. Much love as always!😁
This album is honestly a god sent piece of art for all of us
Man I’m in tears. I can’t listen to this song much. Every time I hear it it’s like the first time. Love kdot. Good work sir
Wish I knew how powerful Kendricks music as been throughout these years ❤️
Jesus I’m crying. Thinking of my mother and all the abuse she’s dealt with since she was a child. Watching her struggle with depression but fighting to feel better and still fighting. Kendrick’s ability to touch souls is unmatched.
This song isn't exclusive to black men. I am Hispanic and this shit hurt. I found myself filled with rage and sorrow. Then when I heard the child's voice it showed that the innocence that wasn't preserved in me and my siblings, can be in my daughters. This song makes me cry every time I listen and at the end it reinvigorates my soul, and it reminds me to fight with my life for my girls. I will be the father who protects, and I will be the man that I needed. I was an angry child, and I lived a broken childhood. I will fight for my kids. To you fathers out there who have any kinds of traumas, lets fight and be the men we needed. Let's break that cycle for our kids.
Enough to make a grown man cry
I loved that amen, because Kendrick be preaching to us all for sure
you ain’t felt grief til you felt it sober is so real, Not even just deaths but grief of trauma and spiritual battles you pushed down and hid with drug use and sin :(
this past weekend has been one of the roughest weekends in a while for me and I have been going through it all sober. I have really been feeling it and just when I thought I was close to being done processing this hell I watched this video and so much that was hidden that I hadn't thought about in years. It really hurts, and I'm feeling absolutely all of it. I only hope it'll be over soon and I can stop suffering so much and move on. I know this video is old, but thank you Kendrick for your words, and thank you Tom for your insight. I really appreciate it
He said he wasn’t touched and that created family problems and his cousin was labeled for something he didn’t do. Then his cousin has trauma from K mother. K felt the blame for his cousin and for not doing anything when he watched his mother get attacked.
I'm seeing a lot of requests for Father Time and understandably so. It's an amazing song and just as good (if not better) than the song above. However, if I may buck the trend a bit, please see "The Book of Soul" by Ab-Soul. It's a heart-breaking song about tragedy, loss, death and love. It details how Ab-Soul overcame a deadly disease in childhood only for the love of his life to die just before his career took off. Cannot recommend it enough, but probably best to have box of Kleenex nearby.
The whole album is a therapy session each song is a session
I see myself being 70 and remembering my 20’s and still listening to this song and still crying to it.
I don't know if you already have by now, but please listen to this entire album. It's one of the best albums for mental health that's come out in recent times and has probably changed hundreds, if not thousands, of lives.
Kendrick really really got in his feelings for this album i love it for that it helps
Man, I was a mess through all of that video 😭 thank you!
FINALLY, ive been waiting for you to react to this ever since Kendrick dropped the new album.
(WEVE GOT TO STOP PARENT/VEIWING THE WORLD THROUGH THE FILTERED LENSES OF OUR OWN UNRESOLVED TRAUMA BECAUSE NO MATTER WHAT'S YOUR INTENTION, YOURE ONLY GONNA GONNA TRICKLE THAT DOWN INADVERTENTLY AND CAUSE PAIN EVEN WITHiIN THE VERY ACT OF TRYING TO IMPART LOVE)
Father Time next! It’s off of the same album and also has a therapy type of message to it! 10/10 reaction 🔥
I feel like you just put me through a therapy session put me to tears after what you said .. I was moved 15:38 … we can relate
Kendricks kinda guy that makes his therapist cry
Dude if you listened to one of his full albums you’d get so many views. His projects are incredible
Yes!!! I absolutely love when you do Kendrick reactions! Thank you!!
The voice in the end is his inner child
Thanking him the older Kendrick for doing the work , thus he is healed and still healing
It’s his daughter.
It's his kids, he was already affected by the generational curse. He broke it, so now his kids do not have to repeat it as he did. So his wife said I am proud and told his kids to thank daddy for giving them a chance to have a better life
You said on your video for N95 that you felt out of your depth analysing this music, but I must disagree. Your reading of the meaning behind these tracks are absolutely spot on. This song helped me open up to my mother about some childhood stuff, and your words have no helped me to understand what I need to do to get better. Thank you.
He saying that it all started with and black women being the generational curse started way back when and still real versus ugly head through the pain and over-sexualization of today
I can wholeheartedly recommend Mr Morale and the Big steppers, Its a musical journey of Kendrik realizing that he needs to work on himself before he can be Mr Morale. Id hope you listen to the full album. Some of My favorites are Auntie Diaries, Mother i sober, mirror, Father time, We cry together
This is why he the goat if he rap it you’re gonna FEEL it
2024 the year Drake got the understanding of this song so wrong that he used it to mock the assault
On a child.
The whole album is a therapy session. You ahould try to go through some of it.
I cry everytime I listen to this song
I am so proud of kendrick to display his raw emotional pain to heal him self in full view for all to see . Wow wow that artist.
everytime I hear this song and the build up hits, I cry. It hits in a place that brings me back to some trauma of my own. Th is a tough one.
happy tears as always "BLESS" Tom and Nick
Thanks Keith, appreciate you😊👍
Your channel is needed, thank you for being here! 💯
I am getting chills all over my body
There is so much here and it impacts all of us and how we understand each other.. thanks for doing this!!
Father time is right up your alley
17:30 "his ANKLE grows..." lmao
I cannot stop laughing 😂
incredible video, amazing story telling, kendrick is a genius and you did a great job with this heartful reaction
Count Me Out is another great one too
Disgusting that Kendrick could share this story , go this deep : just to have some rapper dude try and use it against him in some rapper beef . Drake has never made a song like this that hits your soul. I PROMISE
Mr morale came from the name of the album the name mr morale and the big steppers is about the big steppers, people going through trauma an mr moral kendrick the one all of the big steppers look up to throughout the album kendrick realizes that he is not mr morale. Hence mr morale and the big steppers
Thank you for helping me understand this song even more deeply than I already did.
Thank you!😊
This is a song that shares a powerful message for us to all get therapy. ❤
That’s his wife and daughter speaking at the end. His daughter is 3 years, and his son is just a few months old.
Please react to the whole album