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As someone who struggles with chronic pain from autoimmune issues, my heart ached when you explained all the pain you endured. I never wish others to feel that level of despair and depression that comes along with never-ending pain despite trying all the available treatments. I cannot remember a day without horrible pain, and that's why your story made me cry. I hope you continue to heal and get to enjoy your health again while cuddling your sweet baby boy. Thank you for sharing your story.
Me too. Also a severe chronic pain sufferer AND had spinal leak from a spinal tap from meningitis testing. It was horrid. I was severely ill already too, while Becky was post partum going through it. We are all 3 warriors. We must pray for the good days when pain is more bearable, cherish them. While the days pain wins the battle, we just keep fighting the good fight and try keep a handle on what we can control which is our mental and emotional state. Trying to not sink into despair from severe pain. Instead focus on every good thing or memory in life, focusing on those we love, and focusing on our dreams to keep hope alive as long as we are still alive enduring. So glad Becky is doing better and recovering more and more every day. I'm glad she's slowed down and just focused on healing. We all feel that guilt while in severe pain of what we could or should be doing but absolutely cannot. But knowing we are doing the best we possibly can and that's all we can do- it's enough. God knows and knows our strength through our bodies pain and suffering. 🙏
Thinking of you all, you chronic pain warriors. You are seen ❤ Thanks for sharing your perspective
Becky, how traumatic for you😢
Please know that there are resources out there to support you.
You have made all the right decisions, unfortunately something's get in the way that are out of your control, this is not uncommon but it doesn't make it any less traumatic.
You have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about, however I completely acknowledge and validate your disappointment.
You will recover from this..but allow yourself time...give yourself time dear Becky 🙏🤗
Yes! My sister has a terrible chronic illness that leaves her in extreme pain. The despair from being in constant severe pain is scary to maneuver through.
My heart goes out to you.
You are a very strong and courageous little Mama! As a Registered Nurse, I have to say this is an amazing testimony to how capable we women truly area! You and Josh are both wonderful parents!
Having a partner you can trust with the baby you birthed right after birth is a HUGE accomplishment. A lot of people can’t say the same, and I am so very happy that you have that partner to help you when times are rough. Sending much love ❤
If that is in question I'd be looking for another partner... every woman who gives birth deserves a partner who is just as hands on with taking care of baby. And mom's need to trust their partners even if it's not done to mom's standards dads (partners) are more capable than we give them credit for.
@@albanymountainhomestead Some are, but so so many aren't!
@@Meadowchar so if mom were to die at childbirth that child should be given up for adoption since the partner this woman choose is incapable of caring for their child... this is why women need to choose better partners then!
I wasn’t in any way saying that she’s lucky, or should be grateful for her partner. Unfortunately in a lot of circumstances you don’t know how a dad is going to be until they are one. I wasn’t making this statement for a debate, just simply expressing the genuine happiness for her, that she has a good partner to rely on and is not burdened while also being ill away from baby. It’s not easy to just throw your partner away because they aren’t “partnering” how you’d like. It’s a learning experience, and hopefully most would have the heart to gently guide and allow room for growth. Love to you as well.
Wow. I am a labor and delivery nurse. Listening to your labor and post partum journey, I am amazed by your strength and my heart hurts for you. Sharing your story should help a lot of women. The story was real, and honest, and incredibly researched and accurate as far as your understanding of it all. Please, never feel the need to apologize, think it's depressing, or put a mask over your trauma. You really really had an extremely difficult experience that many women could never handle and stay sane. I am so glad you had your family with you. To think about being your nurse at that time, I would have done absolutely anything to make you feel better.
Take care of yourself.
I had three natural births, none are easy. I don’t think they are meant to be but well worth the outcome. Just love your child more and be forever grateful to our wonderful God.
You are not only so brave and strong, but SO lucky to have Josh! He did such a good job, brand new daddy taking a newborn home by himself so they could take good care of mommy.. such incredible and competent new parents!!
Your feelings are valid. I found that ignoring my feelings of guilt after two traumatic birth experiences because I didn’t want to burden others only made them worse. So glad that you are sharing your experience, not only for others to learn from, but also for your own healing.
So true. You are on a good path because you ARE being open and honest about your experience. TALK!!!! It’s going to speed up your healing in a way that you cannot even imagine. If you were telling this story without the emotion and just “telling a story” it wouldn’t come off as real, or truthful. It is emotional but absolutely not depressing. Your story is one of hope and victory. So many have expressed their glad and grateful thoughts for the opportunity that Josh had to show his love for you and his son in such a real and meaningful way. God knew what all three of you were going to need…. I’m so happy that you are ok and that in His Goodness, he has provided for you all!!! Also, as a Mom of three adult children and their spouses, and as a grandmother of five, your Mom was waiting for your call to come running to you!!! Love your work and blessed by your story. Thank you so much!!! 0:45
I was crying with you Becky. 4 months postpartum myself, I cannot even imagine handling all of that pain and stress and the guilt of wanting to be by your baby. You are amazing. Don't forget to take it easy for several months to recover from birth and all the trauma afterwards, and to enjoy your baby fully 💕
I’ve been lurking your channel for a few days and have watched multiple, multiple hours of content so far of the freezer meal prep, but these videos really showed me a different side of you. This is such a vulnerable thing to talk about and everything you’ve said is exactly what I’ve been scared about giving birth. Hearing stories like yours and seeing how you came out of it so strong is so inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing this experience from your life with us and being so vulnerable because it does help people like me that are scared to get pregnant and give birth. Showing that no matter what, we can make it through it. It also gives women who also had traumatic births feel so validated. Thank you so much Becky, I’m so happy you’re doing well a year later❤
Thank you for being so vulnerable with us in your journey to motherhood, Becky. I know it wasn’t the start that you wanted but we all want to wrap you up in a huge hug of love.
Yes, we sure do! I had a spinal headache too, but it wasn’t after an epidural. It was after a spinal tap that couldn’t be completed until I had been poked more than a dozen times. They finally did my spinal tap under an x-ray machine but because of all the holes they poked I ended up with a spinal headache. So I definitely understand, you being a little more complicated than average I was one of the first women to receive a blood patch. Thankfully it worked for me but I did not know that I was having a spinal headache so it took me 10 days to reach out. At the time I had four kids, including a not quite two year old toddler , you are not kidding when you talk about excruciating pain I’m so glad you’re on the other side of it and now it’s time for you to sit back and get to know your son. Congratulations and virtual hugs from all of your many supporters here. We love you guys!
This is the nature of life, death and motherhood. We plan and God laughs.😂🤗
This!!! ❤️
@@RunninUpThatHillh amen!! There is no way to prepare for this time in life. Just go with the flow and pray! We have 2 grandbabies on the way. Both are first time Moms. They're like..yeah I don't need help. 🤷
Oh Becky I cried in part 1 because I had a similar birth story with my first daughter and ended up with a C-section after 36 hours of labor. I’m so thankful you and baby A are well and healthy after this whole ordeal. Yes, I’ve had 2 spinal headaches, so I can certainly empathize with your pain. Continuing to pray for your postpartum healing and hormone adjustments. We seasoned mommas are here for you sweet friend! We love you, Josh, and baby A!! 😊🙏❤️🐓
My first baby also ended in a C-section after 72hrs in induced labor!
Induced twice, 2 emergency c-sections after 40 and 24 hours of labor. Thankfully my 3rd baby was a scheduled c-section. I’ve had post-spinal headaches and they’re the worst.
You’re not alone. I know it’s scary as hell, but we understand. I’m sorry your birth story wasn’t the planned one.…. It never is. The important thing is your baby is healthy and you’re on the mend.
Becky I look really forward to your posts and videos. My daughter is now 44 years old but I went through 21 hours of labor that turned into a C-section and there’s a whole big long story in there but I was OK with that and I don’t know if you have had this happen but I really wanted to nurse the baby and I was unable to breast-feed him Because of my anatomy and and you know now they might have ways that they can fix what was going on but at that time they did not and we lived in a smaller town and didn’t have any support so I just wanted to encourage you that whether you breast-feed or bottlefeed it is just OK you have to do what happens to have a healthy baby. I was very disappointed but seeing those little smiles and holding that little bundle close while you bottlefeed is wonderful. I just want to encourage you that you are not a failure you’re at all if you can’t breast-feed you are doing what’s needed for your baby. Thank you for being so open we really appreciate you.
@@welcometotheweavers 72 hours?!? They don't usually let you stay in labor more than 24 hours anymore, unless I'm thinking of something else but wow that's crazy. Oh wait, that's after the water breaks lol, nevermind. But wow!!! I'd be begging for a c-section long before 72 hours lol.
@@RedRoseSeptember22 yes. It was an induction that my body did not take well. They did do a C-section after they broke my water but that was 48hrs into the labor process. This was also 8 years ago.
When healing from my birth of my baby boy I said you never hear about these things it’s not glamorous it’s hard no matter what. No one talks about this. You are amazing for putting up your story. I had my baby the beginning of December I was induced, 36 hour labor, pretty sure the epidural stopped working at the end, pushed for over 4 hours, vacuum birth, 4th degree tearing, and baby in the NICU for 5 days. I also feel you so much when you feel the guilt and the mourning of missing time with your baby, breastfeeding was hard (still really is for me) I’m so glad your feeling better and I am wishing you and your family the best! Enjoy your son I know I am! He is the sweetest boy and I am so happy to be his mommy and would also do it all over again. ❤
Crying along with you during this video. Becky you are a rockstar ❤🎉. You came through this with a smile and much grace. Josh your amazing 🤩. I’m single and I want to say watching you and your husband over the last year has really helped me. In more ways than you’ll ever know. You’ve shown me a partner in life needs to be respected and also supported. I’ve never had that in a relationship 😢. So while you call this your birth video just know it’s sooooooo much more ❤. Thank you for showing us a small piece of what true love is really about. I’m so happy you are healing ❤
❤️ never settle for anything less sister ❤️
As someone who suffers from migraines regularly I can attest it’s the worst pain I’ve ever been in. When I had appendicitis I thought it was just mild cramping bc it was so much less pain than migraines. I’m so sorry you had go through all this freshly postpartum. Sending you lots of love and prayer and for a smoother journey here on out xx
I can’t imagine having them on going. I’ve only had a few since I experienced the same type of issue from an epidural with one of my children. Basically never had any until a bad epidural an then ironically my son had it also years later when he had a spinal tap that unfortunately incited a puncture and weeks in the children’s hospital. I’m terrified of the epidural now for my 4th that is due in April, because of the horrific migraines. Sending you my prayers for enduring these regularly my heart goes out to you. I hope they can find a cure for them, oh an have a happy new year 💕
😊So the neonatal team was called. It was heart breaking but we made it! She is my only daughter and my jewel. Becky, you are a true trooper as is Josh! Baby A definitely hit the lotto with such great parents and core family. I just love the fact that you are so transparent. This will certainly help the next new mommy! 💜
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Becky. I’ve watched it over the past several days and just finished it today. I’m so glad you’re back home with Josh, your sweetie baby, and most importantly that the pain is gone! ❤❤❤
That was such a honest, raw description, please know that when you started crying - I cried with you. Many years ago my first pregnancy was twins and due to pre-eclampsia had a general anaesthetic and c-section, I also had a huge hemorrhage on the operating table. So telling your story was a huge brave thing to do. I hope you're feeling nearly back to 'normal' and you and Josh can start to enjoy your beautiful baby boy. sending much love to you all. xxx
Girl....I was crying when you said you were in the shower with ice packs on your head. I have had an epidural head ache and the idea of being upright, much less standing in the shower brings back that pain. SOOOOOO glad you are home and in better shape now. Prayers for continued healing and praising the Lord for your supportive family and your sweet blessing of your healthy baby boy.
Pam here again…… you are so blessed, your baby was so blessed to have a Daddy that was there for him, and I’m sure Josh’s connection to this baby is immense…most dads feel left out and useless…and Josh was needed, he met the challenge….and you are so blessed with such a wonderful man….this experience will forge your little family with such strong bond of love!! So proud of Josh. And so grateful you are recovering!!
Oh mama! I wish so badly I could give you a giant hug! I teared up every time you did. I can’t imagine going through so many days of excruciating pain. And to also be recovering from birth at the same time. That baby is so blessed to have you as a mama. It’s obvious how much you love him and care for him. And kudos to Josh for taking such good care of him while you recovered! You guys make a great team. Enjoy that sweet tiny baby now that you are back home and feeling human 😊
You earned your lioness badge in motherhood very early on!! I wanted so badly to give you a hug, hearing you tell your story! Not to mention Josh! He’s a hero in this story too!! Much love to you both, and congratulations!!! ❤
Beautifully said!!!!
Both times with my deliveries I got those headaches, not fun. The second time with twins the head of anesthesiologist assured me not to worry,,,,well again it happened. When they told me I could leave the next morning Sunday had them on Friday afternoon I was freaking out! How can I do anything with this headaches? A 4 yr old and newborn twins! Well I prayed so hard that a peace came over me and stayed with me for so long. The next morning one of the babies had some jaundice and so we had an extra day to stay but then, this Becky you might try, the nurse took a wide elastic belt and from what she said if you can trap that air bubble down under the tight belt it won’t float up to the top of your head causing the headaches. It worked like a charm!! I was so ready to get home and loved my time with those babies so much. Wish I had known that with my first born.
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Glad you’re finally recovering! Seventeen years ago, I had viral meningitis, so I can somewhat relate to the extreme head pain. The doctor put me on Vicodin and sent me home, but the pain was still excruciating. Like you, I had to crawl to the bathroom. Unlike you, I had very little help. I can’t imagine having pain like that while caring for a newborn baby. Josh is such a blessing to you! He sounds like a great husband and father!
Becky, you are such an a amazing & strong woman and mother. I can’t even imagine a fraction of what you went through - I’ve never had children. Thank you for sharing your story. It wasn’t easy and yes, I was crying along side you talking. Also, Josh is a super hero too!! I can’t imagine being responsible for a new born all on my own while worrying about my spouse. Team Acre Homestead going strong!! Sending all my love, light and strength your way. ❤ and BIG HUGS.
I’ve dealt with chronic migraines most of my adult life and I agree head pain can make you desperate. I am so glad you are feeling better and can be present for baby and Josh now. Praise the Lord for supportive, understanding, patient family members. When Josh said complications he wasn’t kidding - take it easy!
Becky, you are amazing! The first few months after delivery are a whirlwind with emotions, new routines, and learning to care for a baby. I cannot imagine going through what you did. Do not feel guilty! I know it might be hard not to feel guilty, but it's not your fault. I know you might be playing the "what if.. " scenarios in your head, but let me just say, "Stop!" The past is the past, and you can't change it. Enjoy your son, and continue healing and caring for your new baby. I'm so sorry you were in so much pain for so long!
I had spinal leaks with all 3 of my C-sections! That is completely the worst pain I’ve ever had! Thank you for being open and raw about all of this. You are amazing!
Bless your heart sweet girl. I know this was a tough journey. Your husband did an awesome job. The positive side of this is that he was able to experience his own bonding time. You guys will be a great team as you parent together. Now enjoy your son and all the cuddles you can.
Oh Becky! I am so sorry for all you endured, and so amazed at what a positive attitude you have about it. I had a kind of not-so-fun story for my first baby, and I can tell you having the support of Josh and your folks is HUGE, and a blessing. I also think, having these open and honest chats with us, your friends, is huge too! and a burden too many moms have to carry, without being even able to fully hash through their birth stories. My mom was completely unavailable, both because of distance, but more because she was totally in denial about even being a Grandmother. (And for the record I was 30 and had been married for 7 years before my first was born) Anyway, I have watched part 1 and 2 twice, just because I am actually feeling relief in just hearing you be so honest about your story. Baby A is in good hands with YOU and Josh, and you will find your way together as a family with what works and what doesn't. I am just happy to hear that Mama and Baby are finally pain-free and functioning. Additionally, I have a new-found, or re-invigorated goal of productive gardening and canning this year. I brought all of my canning supplies and jars up out of the basement to our pantry... ready and waiting for a new crop to come. Cheers to a wonderful 2023 to you and your family.
From someone who had an extremely difficult delivery and complications afterward (and did it again), you did your best! Baby A is here and healthy. Every day I look at both of my little ones and say, "it was worth it!"
Never forget it's important to practice self care. Never feel bad for needing a break, help, or anything else like that. I needed to hear that as a new mom. Mothers have a big job and in order to serve our families we really need to put ourselves first sometimes, weird as it sounds. Thanks for sharing your incredible story.❤
Becky, I am so sorry you went through all of the complications after such a positive delivery.
My heart was so touched when you called your Dad to pray for you and when you wanted your Mom to be with you at the hospital. You have such a special closeness with your parents, and it is beautiful. You and Josh are going to be Rock Star 🌟 parents!
Bless you Josh for taking your son home so Mom could rest and heal. I pray God will continue to strengthen your body each day.
Soon this will be a memory and you will be able to focus on all the joy your son has brought into yours and Josh’s life. Your tears will truly be tears of joy.
Happy New Year Family of Three! ♥️♥️♥️
My Mother had what happened to you with the epidural with my older brother born in 1953. She always told the story about the headaches and how she could not breastfeed my brother. I had the sense that same as you it was a guilt ridden time for her as well. I would say to you what I can not say to her(being a child when you hear these stories, there is no wisdom coming from a child). I would encourage you, that all was out of your control. Your getting back to normal was exactly what you had to do for you and your baby. Encouraging yourself with the reinforcement that you did for yourself, prayers(so important). Everything got you to this place in time now to be able to share with us. Bless your heart! Please as you go forward give yourself grace. You do not have to decide today, tomorrow or in the near future about a future birth plan. With time comes healing of body, mind, spirit. Be good to yourself and take time to continue to give yourself positive reinforcement. Bless you! ❤
Oh Becky…I feel your emotions so much here and I just want you to know that we all get it and you’re not alone! I had a very complicated delivery and horrid recovery and almost 8 years later, I still get annoyed about it. It was all worth it in the end but just remember that it’s okay to feel whatever it is that you feel about it all! You can be mad or second guess decisions, you can be grateful, you can feel guilty…you literally created human life so you get an unlimited pass to the emotional roller coaster that is motherhood lol.
You are amazing Becky! Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve had four natural, unmedicated childbirths. The first one was by far the hardest.
I want to encourage you that the second childbirth can be a million times easier, and it might all happen so fast that you don’t have time for the epidural anyways. My second baby’s labor and delivery story was a total of 4 hours and I wasn’t even able to get an IV.
I’m so happy that you are well and that baby is doing well.
You poor little Mama, what an ordeal! Thank Goodness you Dad the Dentist, alerted to you to the bleed. God Bless!
Thank you for sharing this private information, it is so helpful that other New Mama's are alerted to what can happen in childbirth.
I had severe preeclampsia with my first baby and had to be on magnesium as well. I can attest it is just awful! You are so strong and brave to get through everything. We really do put our bodies through the wringer to bring these sweet babies into the world!
Magnesium felt like fire through my entire body and I was so hot, sick, and felt so weird and out of body almost the whole time on it. I had to have it with both births of my kids. I feel for all that have had to deal with it. Becky I’m so sorry you had to go through this, but praise God you and baby are healthy now and can move forward!
@@kimkelch3137 yep, that is how I describe the magnesium to people, it felt like I was on fire!
Just wondering, how much magnesium were yall taking?
@@aprilpineda4860 it’s given via iv. I don’t remember the exact dose, but you are given it before birth and then for 24 hours after. It’s not fun. My hospital didn’t allow you to have catheter removed or to get out of bed until the 24 hours was up. It’s the longest 24 hours of your life!
@Kim Welch that's crazy. I was asking because I take 350 mg of magnesium daily and I didn't know it could cause problems.
I’m sitting here almost crying with you while listening to your experience and I am so glad you are feeling much better now. I know it’s so easy for us to say not to feel guilty about the time you were apart from your baby but of course any parent would feel the guilt but you had to do it to get to where you are now so that you can be fully there for your baby.
Becky, we are grateful for you and YOU ARE A TRUE WARRIOR! I’ve been through 19.5 hours of back labor and can not relate to your experience. I’m thankful you are good now. I just watched your trellis video how beautiful it’s going to look when it’s all filled in with growth.
As someone with decades of pastoral ministry including as a hospital chaplain, listening to your lived experience is a true sharing of being fully human. Blessings as you, Josh and your family continue to process what this will bring into your future. Peace and all good to each of you.
“Being fully human” is the most eloquent way to describe Becky in sharing this moment and also of everything wrapped up in childbirth. Thank you Becky for sharing your story, it surfaced some of my own difficult but also precious memories of childbirth that I am happy to think about again. Every moment is precious as we raise these little ones.
“It is no small thing that they, who are so fresh from god, love us” ~Charles Dickens
@@emilyschmidt4481 Yes!!! Brought tears to my own eyes, just thinking back, so long ago... Like it was yesterday... She is full of such grace and humanity!!
Your story is one of resilience, incredible strength & courage! You are a warrior and I’m in awe of you. Becoming a mom, especially a new mom is a lot. There is so much to learn, so much to absorb and having ALL the emotions doesn’t help 🤣
But to go through what you did is so much! Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for being vulnerable!
Please remember though that you are allowed to have any feeling/feelings you want about all this. What you went through was so so much so give yourself grace and feel what you need to feel! It’s ok!
Thank you for letting us into your world ❤️
I had the SAME thing happen with my (failed) epidural when I had my 3rd baby! I know EXACTLY what that headache is like! I'm thankful that the doctor warned me that "the worst headache of your life" might happen. My headache started just as we were leaving the hospital. They were able to patch it a couple days later...instant headache relief at that point, thank God!!
As someone who is beginning to consider starting a family your realness truly helps. I know it's probably not easy sharing so much but it's so helpful and appreciated
Becky, this will definitely help others recognise spinal leak headaches quicker and therefore get help sooner. I hope the first Anesthesiologist will be talked to so that they can be able to avoid mistakes in the future. You are amazing and your vulnerability is palpable and raw and so strong at the same time. The hours you missed with baby will be mere blinks of the eye 👁️ n a very short space of time xx ❤ love to you all ❤️
There is no indication that the anesthesiologist made a 'mistake'. This happens in one out of 100 patients but in no way implicates malpractice. Women's bodies are different and sometimes outcomes are not as intended. That's why patients are informed of possible side effects and a woman has to weigh the risks. I know people nowadays want to play the 'blame game' when something does not go as planned, but that is not fair.
@@shelleylee8774 yes, no malpractice implied, by mistake, I meant that the anaesthesiologist had to do two punctures
Spinal headaches happen often after epidurals. I guessed this was the case as soon as she mentioned a headache.
@@lynniedicker4869 Again, that is not a mistake and happens often. The anesthesiologist is blind to the internal anatomy of the patient, trying to get that 'just right' spot is not always possible on the first try. I know it is an awful experience for the patient but is also not anyone's fault.
Oh Becky, thank you for sharing. You actually helped me process that this happened to me. My 3rd baby and I had a 1 and 2 year old, no family around to help. I didn’t have the pre-eclampsia complication, but I ended up with an emergency c section (my first 2 were not c sections so was not expecting this at all) and kept being told to lie flat on my back to develop a blood patch (which after a c section is horrible) and still breast feed every 2 hours with pain meds that made you so that you couldn’t keep your eyes open. It was like new mother torture. The doctors knew right away when they did my epidural that they had punctured my dural membrane because I had instant pain relief. They told me but at the time I didn’t care as I felt like I really needed the pain relief. I also was released home and then readmitted due to the intensity of head pain. Long story short, I have 3 beautiful and healthy children, a supportive husband, and a solid family unit. Sending you lots of love, you are amazing ❤️
Becky you are so brave and I commend you for sharing your entire story from beginning to end with us. I am so sorry you had to go through all that, but you are strong and persevered through it. This will definitely help someone who may not know what some of things of post partum could cause. Like myself who is 43 and looking forward to have a child/children. Women go through so much with their bodies to bring life into the world. Don’t feel guilty for you having to heal and get well enough to take care of Baby A. You and Josh are wonderful parents and all of you will be just fine. 🙏🏾🫶🏾
Oh wow Becky all I can say is I am glad baby and yourself are finally home and both are now healthy 🙏🏼. I want to give you a big hug. 🥰 Josh is an amazing father and I am so glad you have him by your side. Hoping for a “what I used from my bag/container” video 🤞🏼.
You did great and so glad you shared this story!! It shows how thankful we should be for those hospital trained people.
H Becky, thank you for sharing such personal experience. I will be praying for you, I loved that you called your Dad for prayer. The fact that you went through an extra portion of Labor and delivery and have such a wonderful outlook is amazing. You and Josh are wonderful parents already. I cried during your Part 2 video, my heart goes out to you for your frustration, anger and acceptance. I am 70 years old and never had a baby so hearing you share your experience so touching, thank you. You will be a Blessing to so many women going thru childbirth. I have been richly blessed to have a fabulous step-daughter, my daughter in love.
I was in Nursing school just before having my first baby, so I asked a ton of questions of my instructor. She was awesome and listed out all the pros and cons of an epidural. I chose not to have one, and I have never regretted that choice. Yeah the labor was painful but the minute I held each of my babies all the pain was gone. I did end up getting one a couple of years ago when I had hip replacement surgery. I will never do it again, not being able to stand up to use the restroom or take a walk was the worst thing I have ever experienced. I almost fell twice because my doctor wanted me up and moving around within an hour of surgery. I can't fathom how you felt, but I know how I felt and it was not worth it. I had 13 surgeries on that 1 hip and I have decided that should there come a time that the other hip needs to be replaced, a wheelchair is a better option.
I am so happy that you and baby A are doing well now, and I pray that, should you and Josh decide to have another Baby A things go better for you.
Thank you Becky for sharing your testimony. We are so blessed to hear it and so grateful that you had the courage to share it. My mother and I watched this video touched by your words. You are helping many other first time mothers by being transparent and real with your experience. We love you, Becky! Much love to your beautiful family!
I am usually a silent viewer, but I want to share that I also had a spinal headache after my last son's birth. I can honestly say that I know that pain all too well. I was discharged but ended up going back to the ER. We knew the issue before I was discharged, and my OB told me to drink as much caffeine as I could and that it would help quicken the healing process. I just couldn't eat or drink anything because I did not think about laying on my stomach to keep my head flat to keep the headache at bay. Bravo to you for your ingenuity!! I just couldn't think of anything other than that pain! So, I ended up going to the ER, and they just placed an IV and gave me a saline bag with high caffeine. This did the trick! After a few hours, I was able to go home, and it was completely gone. I am so sorry you had to endure that pain for so many days! I am happy to see and hear that you are doing much better. Congratulations to you and Josh!
Hi Becky, I lived this exact same scenario when I delivered my first son. That headache pain I remember to this day, 36 years later. It’s no joke! So glad all is well now! ❤. EDIT: I do remember being told that after epidural you should lay flat for 24 hours to avoid the possibility of the headache; however, I ended up having a cesarean, so they got me up to walk, which is what triggered the headache. I do feel your pain about feeling guilty. After I had the first blood patch, I felt a little better, so they allowed me to go home. HUGE mistake! I spent a week at home, in my bedroom, door, curtains closed, no lights, no sound. Hearing my baby cry in the next room caused excruciating pain. Thankfully after that week the pain started to diminish and eventually went away. I was blessed they gave me Percocet for my c-section pain, which barely took the edge off the headache pain, but did help. After that experience, I said, no more children! But ended up with two more lol. We women are so much stronger than we ever know! ❤
Such a powerful story Becky. I have a fear of giving birth due to all complications even though some should basically never occur. So glad you share it with us, I feel so privileged to hear this and also to know you had a wonderful and strong support system with Josh, your family, Josh's family.. Just wow. Happy new year to the bigger Acre family and here's to a year filled with baby joy and happiness for the homestead.
You're already an amazing mother! - I had the spinal headaches as well with my second baby. Not with my first or third! Don't be discouraged, you're more knowledgeable now. By the look in your eyes, I can tell baby A is one lucky little boy to have a momma that loves him that much. Also- WAY TO GO JOSH. Thanks for sharing your journey!!! Praying for you guys!!!
Oh Becky, I am so sorry it was so difficult . I couldn’t help but cry with you when you were describing your post partum troubles. Just know you have so many friends that are sending love and good wishes for you, Josh and baby Acre. We love you! ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing Becky ❤ I had a traumatic delivery and recovery for my first baby last February and I wish I would have heard your experience back then - I relate now to so many of your emotions. Your story will help many women in the future who have difficult deliveries and recoveries 😘😘
Becky your story is nothing short of INSPIRING!!!...Give yourself GRACE it's okay to be angry for missing time and having all these issues! And definitely give yourself CREDIT for the amazing way you and JOSH made it through this for Baby A together!
You are one strong momma Becky! Sending lots of love! And Josh is awesome, you have a keeper there 😍.
wow! I was getting dizzy just listening to your story. you’re a champ. you went through so much. I’ve never even heard of this… thank God it’s over. thank God you’re ok-and your baby!!! thank God baby a is ok. 🙏
Life is a learning experience. I am glad you are feeling better at last. As the mom of 11 babies, 7 of which were born at home I'd like to say, Welcome to mom guilt! :-) It never ends. We feel guilty about everything concerning out kids and most often it's undeserved but as moms we are prone to feeling guilty. If I were in your shoes I'd seek out someone or maybe several someones, who had alternative births and could share those stories with you. You may chose a different path as a result and one that is more satisfying. Birth is a great experience - trust me. I wouldn't have had 11 children if it were less than that. I think sharing your story will be helpful in allowing you to move forward and hope that happens sooner rather than later. Good luck and God bless you.
Birth is not great lol
But I had 5 anyway!
Traditional birth is def what she needs to look into
I was so sorrowful her whole story. It could have been soooo different at home with a skilled midwife and loved ones.
But irrational fear is even more prevalent now so traditional anything is shrinking into very small pockets 🥺
Becky you and Josh are wonderful examples to anyone who sees these two videos, and your obvious love for each other. So glad that you and Baby Acre are healthy and strong! Because I had migraines, I definitely chose not to have an epidural. I had 5 babies natural, no pain help. Was it easy? No! But I did it 5 times and survived and so did my babies. May God bless your sweet Family!!!
I had a similar situation with my second pregnancy. Though I had all three kids via C-section. They sent me home we were home one hour and my leg had swollen. Ended back in with post partum preeclampsia. Had to be re admitted. Went home a couple days later was dealing with the spinal headache. The e.r. wouldn't listen to me even though I only hurt when sitting up. My doctor then did the blood patch and the head aches went away. My kids are now 10,9,and 7 . The reason I had the spinal headache my labor pains were so bad with him in my lower back that they struggled to get the epidural in.
Each pregnancy was a different set of crazy. But I wouldn't change what I've walked through to bring them through. Will be praying for continued healing for you.
Becky, you are so strong and brave to share all this. Bless your heart! Literally!
It's really sad that your dad had to research this before anyone brought it up. Thank God he did! My son was injured by an anesthesiologist. Thank you for sharing real stuff! That's why I love this channel!
Please Becky, can I ask you to do something. I am a mom of 3 kids. Research ingredients in vaccines. Most platforms now are really sensored but I know you have done so much research on everything else. Please this comes from the bottom of my heart. So happy you are better and baby and Josh are ok.
Please do not feel any quilt about missing a few days with baby. I had pre eclampsia and delivered 2.5 weeks early. Afterwards, I was without the baby for over 5 days having seen her the last time at delivery during the emergency C-section. And since I was on continued magnesium I could not go to the NICU to see her. But Once all was better we were reunited and Dad did a fabulous job taking care of her in the interum. Super bonding happens at that time. You are doing perfect momma. Just remember to take care of momma so you can take care of baby. Rest and be well. Congratulations.
I am a hospital birth doula/birth educator/ homebirth midwife for 38 years and a mom of 4 adult children. 5 thoughts:
1. You have a lifetime with Baby A! The first few hours/days do NOT define your relationship with him.
2. I’m so sorry about having to get the epidural. You CANNOT do things twice! You made the best decision you could at the time you made it.
3. I would suggest doing some doula shopping for a more assertive doula with better help in pain relief measures (assuming you we’re communicating with her in early labor).
4. Congratulations on your baby! He is healthy, you are healthy.
5. It’s ok to grieve the loss of your dream and expectations.
Bless you! You are so strong!
Oh you poor thing :( I am SO sorry you had to go through all that. I had an epidural with my first and third child. First one was fine. I had my third child at 36 years, and the whole experience was like a 3 ring circus. My OB immediately scheduled me for an amniocenteses (Due to my age) That was a very scary experience for me. When I went to the hospital to deliver the nurse kept repositioning me so much that the epidural catheter came out, so in the middle of transition they had me sit up on the edge of the bed and bend over as much as possible and it felt like they main lined something in me, I don't know maybe they re-inserted the catheter, but it was awful! Now at 64 I feel a weird lump in the spot where I got the epidural. My fourth and last delivery was at 38 and I asked my Lady OB when I would be scheduled for an amnio and she said do you have any birth defects in your family and I said no. She said that I didn't need one then. I loved my lady OB! Oh and with my 3rd one, the other thing that happened (part of the 3 ring circus), This lady took an ultra sound and she said that she saw a cyst on the baby's brain, and then started talking about options to abort! The tech at the amnio said those things are common. So sorry to be long winded, but I just wanted to reassure you that not all births are complicated. I love your videos btw and learning a lot of great things about gardening and cooking from you :)
Bless you Sweetheart ❤️ First time was A Doozy! I had a Major surgery a few yrs ago .. my spinal fluid was leaking so bad my entire sheet from Iv site on my back all the way down Tony knees was wet., the Headache was so bad I was ready to stroke! I had laid flat crying , throwing up, all the things.. Finally the Anesthesiologist came.. did the patch .. it was instant relief!!!! I’m so sorry yours didn’t because I Know how BAD that hurts.. you look Marvelous!! I can see All is Good. Congratulations Darling❤️🙏🏻❤️
Amazing story. Praying for your new family. I promise that the “rawness” fades. I remember thinking I could never have a second child, but we did and it wasn’t overwhelming. We changed something’s and kept somethings the same.
My husband had a spinal leak and had to have it "repaired." He was so very sick with it, they did the blood patch and he had to lie prone and still for 4 hours. That was my first thought when you said your head was hurting so badly.
I’ve been watching both videos all the while on my tv your drying apples …..I’m so happy your back to being and doing what you love .your so inspiring….. I never knew about this and I’m so sorry for all you went through but the lord is good and he never leaves us even tho we think he’s forsaken us ..……you shouldn’t feel guilty about anytg bc you was very sick and needed to get well …….Congratulations ❤
I'm in tears watching you speak about the spinal headache. I had the same thing 15 years ago. Horrible memory 😢. Bless your heart.
One thing that is great with our minds is we forget the pain and suffering and so worth holding that little bundle. I had a bad first post delivery. I had pre eclampsia also. I tore and then tore my stitches after a fall. My husband and baby girl were home while I was back in the hospital. But my next four pregnancies and deliveries were normal. So there is hope momma.
Oh Becky I’m so sorry you experienced all this with your first birth, you really are a superwoman… Thankyou for sharing this as difficult as it is because women don’t realise the complications which can arise from epidurals…. I also suffered with the headaches which were excruciating, I literally could not move my head, to make matters worse it also gave me back pain & sciatica & was put on pethedine which you can’t get anymore as I’m going back 46yrs, it was as strong if not stronger than morphine, so for the next month I was in & out of hospital & so out of it from the meds, thank God I had an amazing husband & so much support from both our families… I still suffer with back pain to this day, High blood pressure doesn’t make you feel great either & you need to keep an eye on it Becky…
this is a side effect from my stage 5 renal failure, I always worry about strokes when it’s so high… you made me cry when you asked your dad to pray so you could feed your baby, you & Josh will be wonderful parents, I can tell just by the way you protect your little one, unlike many that use their children to monetise!
I hope you are feeling better now…. Enjoy every moment with your beautiful boy as they grow up so fast… sending love & strength your way
👏👏👏💜💜💜
Sweet sweet lady. What a story! I’ve had three babies. (They aren’t babies any more though lol!) all very different stories. I’ve also done some doula work. It’s amazing to me how each baby born into the world has a different story. I absolutely love that you are sharing this - so many mamas need to hear. ❤ enjoy that sweet baby. So glad you are feeling better
Omg I had an epidural headache and had to go back and get the blood patch... Nightmare. You poor thing. It's been 25 years and this brought me right back!
Oh my Becky you have endured and overcome so much. You are a strong woman. It’s wonderful you could share your story with all of your supporters. Praying that you recover completely
My twins were 4 and 5 pounds each and today they are 10 years old, perfectly healthy perfectly on par with weight and height. Bless you! ❤
Aww Becky don’t feel guilty. A lot of moms go through things after delivery. You are a great person and God puts us through things only we could handle. Nothing more or less. May the Lord continue to bless you, Josh, & baby A❤️ thank you for sharing your story.
I got so involved with your story I didn’t realize how long I’d been delaying dinner. Late dinner tonight. Great video! ❤
Oh Becky! I'm so sorry you had the spinal headache. I totally understand what you went through. With my first baby I had preeclampsia too. They had trouble with my epidural due to the swelling I had. I ended up with a spinal headache. Felt like an elephant was sitting on my brain!
Two blood patches later and I could finally function.
With baby #2 I was afraid of the epidural too. Not having preeclampsia made all the difference. No headache, totally different experience.
You are so brave with all you went through. Thank you for sharing.
Happy New Year. Enjoy your new baby!
Oh girl, I am so sorry that you went through all of that after giving birth. I can’t even imagine how hard that was. I am grateful that you are ok and healing. I pray that God continues to heal you and that He blesses you and your sweet family
Thank you Becky for sharing and your vulnerability. So thankful you are on the other side of the pain portion! We mothers tend to guilt ourselves over so many things and it's far too easy to drown in it, without doing any good for anyone in the process. . I thought you really handled the challenges in a balanced way. It is an important thing to be able to do in your life now as a parent. So thankful you are okay. Praise God!
I had that headache.. not from birth but a pain injection.. my Dr blew me off.. I'm glad yours listened
I went thru something similar when I had a series of shots in my spine for severe back pain and mine ended up being meningitis but that pain in your head I understand it's unreal..so glad it all worked out. God was with you. Great story thanks for sharing
Good lord! I was about in tears listening to you. I'm so glad you're still with us. And you have an amazing husband. God bless you!
I am so sorry you had to go through all of that. You are such a sweet, good, lovely young woman. May God continue to bless you.
Becky I'm so glad you are better and I no how how you felt I had that headache after my baby I still remember it and that. Was 51 years ago and congratulations on your new baby boy
I had a spinal headache after my first child’s birth as well. When you say you could not sit up to feed your child, I completely understand and can sympathize. It was the worst headache I could ever imagine and if I sat up, I would vomit as well. But I didn’t struggle with high blood pressure on top of that. I couldn’t imagine. I will say that I had 3 more births after that and never did have another spinal headache
Bless you, I am so sorry that he went through so much during the delivery of your little Angel. I'm truly glad that you feel better. Don't beat yourself up things happen sometimes beyond our control and you did exactly what you should have done you took care of baby "A" Mommy! Josh took care of your precious baby and he let the doctors help Mommy, what a great Daddy you chose and what a good husband you chose for you. You should already consider yourself a wise woman.
That is undoubtedly the worst of delivery situations that I have heard and I am so truly so sorry you experienced such a traumatizing situation.
What you will remember is that you have an amazing little boy and believe me those things that you experience you will forget most of them I have a son he is 30 I had an epidural and experienced a few negative things but I have forgotten most of them. As the years pass and you make memories with your child beautiful memories at that you will tend to forget the negative memories because your life will be full of Joyful memories with your precious child. I think it is so special that you shared all of this information part 1 and part 2 viewers it makes people feel part of your life and that is extremely special. You are truly a unique person you come from a family full of love and you are all there for one another and that is so rare in today's world and Society. God bless you and your family and your precious little baby "A"🫶
I was 18 when I gave birth. Didn't know what to expect. This was 1991 felt like I didn't have any control.Wasn't told anything. I was cut,I was a teaching tool for a group of students. Had no say or felt I didn't. Was in the hospital for a week.Then you stayed for a week.My husband and mom were fighting over who was going in with me.An older nurse smacked my husband across the face and told him he was going in.He did he was 17 we were both young.But we had 3 kids second was born with his stomach open his insides were our side,My 3 baby I almost lost him to a tear in the placenta.They are 32,29,27 all happy and healthy. Was a long road but I feel so lucky I can have kids.My baby sister had 3 misscarages all she ever wanted was kids.Because of this she does not speak to me.I love her and wish her the best.Life definitely is a journey.
I had all of mine natural but, I did not have pain like my daughter did. Longest labor was two hours. My sister had pre eclampsia and her daughter was a premie. You have to do you. Don't feel bad. I cannot imagine what you went through. So glad you and babies A are okay. That is all that matters. God Bless u and yours always.
I’ve been lurking your channel for a few days and have watched multiple, multiple hours of content so far of the freezer meal prep, but these videos really showed me a different side of you. This is such a vulnerable thing to talk about and everything you’ve said is exactly what I’ve been scared about giving birth. Hearing stories like yours and seeing how you came out of it so strong is so inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing this experience from your life with us and being so vulnerable because it does help people like me that are scared to get pregnant and give birth. Showing that no matter what, we can make it through it. It also gives women who also had traumatic births feel so validated. Thank you so much Becky, I’m so happy you’re doing well a year later❤
This was not depressing , this was a testimony that women are strong and moms are warriors ! Thank you for sharing this ❤
AMEN!!!
Amen
Preach it , All Moms are warriors💖 n some are jus Survivor warriors too, that live to testify to our Story ✔💯❗...
So thankful for you, Josh and baby. Keep taking care of you. Praying for your precious family. Hugs and love to you.Jil from South Carolina.
HA! And shows how we are not in control, but God sure is! ☺️👍
We can plan on being in a "safe space", but as the saying goes... pride comes before destruction! This was very humbling; indeed.
As a hospital nurse of 40 years and hearing your postpartum story I can tell you that you are a Superwoman! Don't doubt your initial choices, as complications can come with even a completely natural childbirth, it's how you handle these difficulties that matter. How you and Josh handled these problems show that you are going to be the best loving parents to Baby Acre.❤
Yes I agree they will make amazing parents.
I agree baby acre has the best parents! They are going to do amazing he is one blessed little guy
Kimberly this is not nice to new parents…. You could keep your opinion for yourself. I hope you have rest and you enjoy your baby to the max it is a wonderful experience to become a mother
@@PrincessAndMonkey Unhelpful, Un positive and untrue.
@Kimberly Clark and Family ANY WOMAN who gives life to another human being IS a superwoman! It's not easy, especially being a first time mom.
Speaking for the over 50,000 people who have watched this video in the first 5 hours since you posted it, please know that we want nothing more then to give you a hug and tell you it's going to be O.K. I'm so sorry you had such a rough time, but all you need is to look at your sweet baby to know God has a plan. Prayers and Congratulations!
Amen ❤
Amen 🙏🏻
SuperWoman!!! I delivered 5 sons, 3 with no meds. Was always afraid of epidurals for just that reason so I never had one. You are awesome in your strength, so you can do this without one too. This video was not depressing for a minute. Your presentation was spot on. I am 77 years old now and I think you are SuperWoman!!! I rejoice in your courage.
Love and prayers, the memories of pain will fade and you have such a precious treasure from God.
& another AMEN!
Becky, this is your story so you can help other women who are going through this. You have explained things so well, anyone can understand it. Much better than some doctors would explain it. Now women who have an excruciating headache after an epidural can seek appropriate treatment because of you. We are all grateful for your teaching. Keep your positive, grateful attitude! It’s so refreshing! Congratulations to you and Josh!
Amen
It's one of the best videos I've ever seen! It breaks down a lot of barriers! Invaluable for new mothers.
That after you have an epidural catheter in, maybe dont move around so much ( just take a look at any iv catheter when its in a spot where you are moving it a lot .. so much bruising and soreness . What do you think it was doing in her spine while trying to labor and get baby in the " right " position.
@@asacor9435 Tbh I've heard horror stories about epidurals. They are not what they are cracked up to be!
And quite clearly this story is a case in point!
Well said. Not everyone has complications due to epidurals and I can’t imagine how scary that was for Becky and the entire family. 😊
Becky, thank you for blessing us with this deeply personal, emotional story. I hope that sharing it was cathartic for you. This really touched my heart. I'm so grateful that you are on the other side of it. You always shine so brightly - there's joy and excitement in everything you do. And now you can pour all of that into your precious son. He hit the parent jackpot with you and Josh. God bless you all! PS: Josh definitely wins father and husband of the year!
Goodness gracious this is literally the most honest depiction ever on UA-cam of becoming a new mother. It’s incredibly hard even under the most ideal circumstances let alone with complications. Bringing a life into this world isn’t easy but it’s oh so worth it ❤️
I watch a UA-cam blog called leave everything and wander and the man in the blog just had a spinal leak! He almost died. You are so lucky!! You are a warrior!! Your story is NOT depressing, it's honest. There is a risk anytime you puncture the spine. You have plenty of time to decide about next time. It's great that Josh was so supportive.
Bless your heart!!!!! You are a trooper!!!! Every birth story is different and after time goes by the postpartum issues will fade and the joy of that sweet little bundle will outshine the rough stuff. No guilt or condemnation. God Bless you both. We were praying for your family. Rest, heal, and enjoy the end result......baby Acre!!!!!!
I can't believe that you went through this and that you had to do it with your husband right next to you...I remember the time you Announce you were going to have a baby...I was so happy for you both i feel like I almost lost my best friend without knowing it ...I'm praying 🙏 for your little family. Your friend from the Tohono O'odham nation ..
When they take out the urinary catheter your uretha opening swell temporarily so bladder elimination can be temporarily difficult
I’m so sorry that you were in such pain! Thank God you have such a sweet capable husband to care for your little love while you healed. Thankful you are feeling better and now you can enjoy being a new mom, which I’m sure you’ll be a great one! Congratulations to all three of you!!
Awe Becky... I'm only 18 minutes into the video but I had to stop and comment. There's been a couple times that you've gotten emotional already and i'm sitting here wishing I could give you a hug. You have such courage to sit there and share with us such vulnerable time and information. I can see that its hard to share this with us and you are reliving those moments. You dont even have to but you do. Thank you for sharing your story........ Big hugs, big big hugs...
I'm literally sitting here sobbing with you when you were describing calling your dad to pray for you. It's beautiful that you can do that, but also heartbreaking to here the pain you were in.❤️
Yes, so precious! She is blessed to have a father like that ❤
me too