What the RUNNER is THINKING in Separation
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Thank your for your insightful reading. You are right about saying that a lot of Tarot readers and twin flame coaches simply keep false hopes alive in runners. I now realize that detaching from him is the only way I can advance this journey. And I must trust God and the Universe. God does not play dice.
This is so funny. I'm considered a "chaser". In 2020, I told my person about TFs the day we came together, after an 8 month "preparation". He tried to listen and follow, but I could tell that everything went over his head. He didn't make me feel bad or anything, in that moment, but the look on his face told it all.
A few months later, I brought up TFs again, and he told me that he wasn't going to block me, but he wasn't going to reach out to me again and that I needed to "seek help". I was devastated, but I said what I needed to say (lonnngggg paragraphs (that he didn't read)) and "left him alone".
Within days, he messaged me asking if he had seen me in a local town. He told me that I must have a TWIN bc he thought she was me. I used to think he might've made that up so that we would start talking again, but after the stories I've heard about how God gets our attention, I think he really thought he saw me. Needless to say, the communication didn't last long. Recently, he told me that he had started receiving TF information via his email. I don't know his email address, but, of course, God does!
We're currently in communication and I'm determined to take my time, this time. I still need to ground and balance myself. No expectations! Just going with the flow, as much as possible! He still gives me butterflies when I think about him, but I'm much more in control of myself now. He told me that he can deal with this side of me (and a little bit of "craziness", if it happens). lol He reaches out quite a bit. I give him his space as much as needed and he's showing more consideration of my feelings.
The one thing I always tell the new comers is, DO NOT TALK ABOUT TFs! That's a disaster waiting to happen! lol
~ Female DF
I definitely did and he called me crazy🤣
@@breakingloveopen I was deeply wounded and traumatized, at the start of our journey so I did EVERYTHING I could think of to "help" him see who I am to him. That was a HUGE mistake. The best thing to do is to let them figure out this journey on their own!
We're not in communication...again. lol Things weren't adding up for me. The cycle had started repeating itself. I got triggered, and I started speaking up and asking questions. He told me, "If we can't be friends, without being intimate, he doesn't want anything". He also said that he isn't going to hurt himself trying to make me feel comfortable. I didn't bother to respond and left things as they were. I still have a bit of the obsessive thinking and a small pull, but I'm much stronger than before so I'm okay with whatever happens! If he does "come back", things will have to change, for sure. We met in 2007, but we've been on this rollercoaster ride since the summer of 2019. I know God is in control, but, at this point, I'm not sure that I want to "try" again.
This has been a long journey, but I've learned A LOT! He definitely played his part! I'm protecting my heart this time around! If I didn't learn anything else, I learned SELF WORTH!
Would you happen to know why the obsessive thinking and the heart chakra pull are present?
I didnt start telling my DM about what our connection was until almost a year and a half after I figured it out but I didnt talk about the spiritual side nor said the term TF and I just explained the quantum physics of it and he already knew that my energy goes to him, that I am the positive polarity and he is the negative and feels my feelings. He easily accepted it. Since then he knows that when I meditate he is also meditating or getting the benefits of it. We talk about spirituality on occasion but I still havent fully explained that we are going through ascension and what that is. I still havent used the term TF with him yet and he has never said the term. I'm not sure if he has researched it at all or not he has never told me if he has
@@mickeyc2137 That was a wise move! lol Just feel your way through it. He may bring it up to you first. I've heard stories of it happening like that.
My DM used to think I was crazy whenever I'd talk about meditating, heart chakras, and other Spiritual things. Several days ago, he told me that he has a lot of work to do on himself. He also told me that he's on a 120 day journey to open his heart chakra, and that he's been meditating! My mind was blown! 🤯 I am extremely happy and excited for him! I don't remember him EVER telling me that he needs to work on himself. He's making progress! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
You are right. We were like magnets. Annnnd yes, he suddenly broke up 4 mos ago. Why? He was overwhelmed. He had a hard time being vulnerable. Thank god we are in our in 50’s and I don’t check his socials and he’s not really active. I would never ever chase.
Well, that makes me not want anything to do with him. Why would you want someone who doesn't want you? Fuck that shit. That's just toxic
I’ve been learning these lessons just by listening to my own intuition and lessons I’ve learned through my own karmic situations as the Divine Feminine, and I’ve come to realize - yes, the phase of Separation is so necessary! As painful and drawn out and unnecessary as it can seem at first, it is exactly what is needed not just for the DM but for us DF’s as well, to learn and expand and mature into our Authentic Highest Selves. Trusting in the process and Divine’s perfect timing and plan is a must! I sense our Outer Union is near soon since I felt her presence soooo strongly like never before a few months ago, despite 5 years of no contact, so I look forward to it. But I also know now not to sweat it, to just keep working on me, bc it isn’t about timing, it’s about Energy, and we both contribute to it.
And it's so lucky to be a runner and curse to be a chaser .. I wish I don't met him at all
@@breakingloveopen both suffer equally at different times of the journey mostly the chaser first then the runner, i mean ultimately they share one soul lol..
This made me cry. I wish I could have found your twin and loved him. He deserved it.
@@breakingloveopen ur extremely appreciated
Clarity at its finest. Thank you. Time to forget and move on.
I needed to hear this...thank you. I have transcended already...but he is still running and dating someone else. It sucks, but there is nothing I can do about it.
Simple and straight insight.
Your insight and guidance is on point! Thank you!
Great content! Thank you for sharing your experience ❤
Thank you for the advice omg ❤❤❤
Beautiful sharing and explanation of this!!
Thank you for this! So invaluable!! Hard to hear but resonates 💯
Wow!! This was an incredible video. All of the stuff you described resonates so much.
Happy to find you and your videos. Congratulations🎉and thank you for dedicating your time to share your knowledge. ❤
Amazing explanation.
Thank you and much love
Easy to digest now. Everything you said resonates, or I actually did it. Very helpful. Thank you.
This is absolutely incredibly accurate!!!! I have been following and listening to many channels but I’m aware that my intuition/higher self knows best!!! Everything you say literally confirms my own conclusions on this journey… keep doing this beautiful work ❤
Yes! Please do a video on how to live your best life! I need great distractions! Thank you
It could have been your experience but not mine. My divine masculine confessed he missed me everyday but due to the karmic he couldn't contact me. He says he wants no one but me and we're now in union. My love story is the best
Wow
Me twin is still with karmic even after there is not left in that relationship
As a runner did you feel regrets because I feel runner gets privilege of enjoying their life unconsciously with their time running while supposed chaser gets more suffering for being more conscious loving forgiving and Awakened.
This 100% I feel that the runners don't take account for their hurtful actions. They run off and pursue others just because they just feel like they can abandon the twin flame chaser.
Thank you so much, finally the raw brutal truth! ❤
I believe it. Thank you.
Thanks!
Thank you. 🛸🏝️✌️🩵
yes! do a video on what to do in separation..❤ for the chaser
Been 4 months since I've listened to this.
Kinda funny i asked about him if he thinks about me and he said he doesn't think of me etc...
Well he came back only to vault. Doesn't even wanna talk to me so i eventually blocked him on social media. I've healed so much and don't want that enrgy anymore. So yeah i blocked my TF runner.
I am glad you agree that twin flames can be trauma bonded. Its so complicated.
In a few of your videos i hear your voice shake a little and every time i get lumps in my throat and feel like im on the verge of tears, but on your video about the unhealed masculine in which you took a long pause and then cut to the next part, i could feel your emotion welling up so much.
Big hugs and much gratitude to you for your strength and persevereness
@@breakingloveopen
Of course.
And sorry about the typos.
I corrected them.
This is good to hear from a female runner i have a female runner but we are talking and we have a baby but zero romance
I clicked, because I thought this video was about jogging and what people think during running marathon 🤣 And this is another twin flame video 😤 your 'running twin flame ' is a person that hurt you and doesn't keep in contact. It's normal to feel terrible in this situation and obsess for awhile, just cry, go through suffering and then you will move on and become happy again. It only feels like dying, because the nervous system doesn't want to detach. But it's neccessary to detach.
I teared up bc this all resonates so profoundly.. Although 2 yrs later, I am still questioning if this journey/connection/whatever it is, is real/true (hard to dismiss all these "supernatural symptoms"), these truths are searing.. a purification if you will, and sometimes it is hard to discern some days who is really the runner bc reflectionally, I see it within myself ie their animation. It hurts bc there is no 3D identifiable confirmation to discern if this is real, yet enduring excruciating ache of this simulation. The idea of "your soul person" with a "3rd party" is unbearable and so.. I shut out thoughts that hurt me and therefor continue apathetic and resistant to anything that feels remotely toxic anymore bc its not in my best interest to feel unloved, taken for granted, ignored and not cared for. It kind of reinforces the idea that G-d gives us what we need, and not what we want (understandably) and as much as I want to believe that G-d doesn't put us here to suffer, as beautiful and wonderous as this journey is, it feels like a punitive emotional hellfire and purgatory.
@@breakingloveopen Yes, I think I've covered "most" of my healing bases these last 2 years -it's a powerful and surreal experience. We have definitely woven in and out amicably, and mindfully like a DNA helix, each time sharing more info and catalyzing more growth but every time I detach after a very casual outdoor "reunion" as friends (strictly platonic with a respectful social distance lol), I want to let go and he comes back weeks or months later like a yoyo/jack in the box (I recognize the need to balance this internally if this is indeed a TF) and I'm like 🫣😶🌫️ ..my greatest work right now is becoming self expressed about this ghostly pattern (which I've addressed gently before) and equally guilty of, which doesn't feel like emotional or relational safety. I get that they need to do their schtik but I feel like I want to honor the separation and simultaneously "close" the chapter since we are both in circumstances beyond our control which I feel may be causing unspoken resentment or discord. Thank you so much for your input and sharing this video.
Funny, I wrote my first comment at 3:33 and my second at 5:55 lol #interesting
In separation now can't lie I'm suffering
That’s not a twin flame relationship if you can stop caring about them. Twin flames always feel connected and have love for each other!
Untrue...TF's go long periods without being or feeling connected. It's called separation. And runners will always act like they no longer care for their counterpart while they are running. It's part of the journey. The only thing that keeps them connected in any form is the universe doesn't let them forget one another.
My kundalini awakening completed and changed everything. He had his already but I had 7 years of awakening beforehand and he didn't. Mine completed this week and I felt him come to be last night and I rejected his energy. Then I felt all this love pour in. It was exhausting lol. I fell asleep after that. Oh then right after I woke up his face popped up on social media. My body had the strangest reaction. That never happens.
Truth bombs 💣
As long he is fine, I'm fine too. I have no problem he is in relationships that are familiar to him and he doesn't need anything else. I am grateful that I learned to love unconditionally and it's good enough for me. I was runner too. From the start it felt to me this intense connection demonic any way. I needed time to figure out, why I have any feelings for the guy I don't even know. But yeah..he can do what ever he likes to do. The only thing is bothering me is that he would not blame on me anything. I am who I am, and not going to bend to his level , his standarts any way. My standards are set before me by God. My TF is secondary. If he wants to raise up, he needs to learn, not run to his comforting BS places..sorry fir my language here. I have got enought for him, he doesn't care..so do I. I go back to my life as it was before him...not disaster at all. I love Christ, he loves me back, that's all it's matter to Mr. My TF loves his old ways...so back off of me..that's all.. sort of king of univerce..so dumb ..I'll mannered and selfish..rude..and I have to beg his attention? Noo. I was showing to God my patience, love unconditional, willingness to compromise, be lenient..in the end God is the one who is matter to me more than any body and anything.. I am willing to go to hell for him, with him, and bring him back to heavens..but I cant make him to understand that..he is too arrogant and ignorant.. that's all.. I will report my case to Father God, and I let Him to decide, . No mirror exercises from me, no meditation..nothing..done..Giving it to God's hands..that's all..
This video made me feel horrible for chasing.... I feel soooo badddd......I wish I can just go hide myself faaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrr where I can never see my twin again..... I feel I do t even wanna see his face or be anywhere where we might bump into each other😮😢😢😢😢
Excellence
Not gonna lie. Never could figure out why I was always the Runner? I feel the Runner aspects in my DF besides DM Energetic shifts.
Exactly what i needed, but didn't want to hear.
We have been calling each other anonymously for years without speaking. Just to hear the other ones voice and to feel if he is well.
💜
7:10 7:30 8:25 8:45 9:30
Yes…, please do so….
That would be very helpful.
Thank you..
So Alyssa, just tell me to the point: Are you in Union with your Twin Flame? If no, then YOU DESERVE THAT.
OK, you’re a Runner & seems you’re proud of it. But doesn’t mean all Twin Flame Runner does like you did. I’m a Chaser & for sure I can say my DM Runner is not cruel like you. I’ve been healing a lot & I turn him into a spiritual person now. We’re connecting in 5D always, that’s why I know him well. After all Twin Flame is myself. I’m not cruel, so he is.
I don’t think 🤔 the person who wrote that comment to you truly understood the video he watched of yours. Your behavior was not cruel if it is taken in context of the whole video and how you explained the whole situation and how you learned everything from being both a runner and a chaser and you were actually never in control of your actions at the time anyway. You do regret hurting anyone just like we all do. I have hurt people in my past because of my childhood trauma and I regret that and I have healed now and no longer hurt people. We just have to be patient with people. I admire you for telling your story and being so honest. Thank You 🙏
My twin and me are in separation,however recently we talk telepathically,but we hardly ever see each other, and when we do we talk very briefly.she usually initiates the talking telepathically,and also sends sexual visions of what she wants to do with me.i am working on myself,doing tai chi I hr 4 to 5 times a week,also meditations for childhood trauma for self love,and one to also dissolve my ego.well what do you think is it seeming like I’m on the right track?
When & how long was it being the runner was it that you found out persay that you where in a TF dynamic?
I am the chaser and a man😊
Not Sure If I am a Runner, or chaser, but Being, acting cold can be a Runner, and If you had ptsd stuff going on, ITS hard to say. Everything mental can Shift. No Matter If ocd, bpd, ptsd, did, hsp whatever. But Most say "you are so cool" so I must BE a Runner, maybe I Dare to Open Up, because Not many do. Enneagram8 challenging
What do you do when in seperation but they want physical union?
I guess this is my cue. Coz I've been listening to tarot readers who sugarcoats. What i wanted to hear.
True runner doesn't care
Iam a chaser and my only word to describe the DM or runners that they are arrogant people....
And then they will learn their lesson either to change for the better or for worst...
Sorry ,but that how i see my DM.
How can a chaser look like a bad guy by being kind.
What is a sure fire sign that you are in a twin flame relationship
What makes you think this guy was your twin?
Im a female runner too (i dont know if am dm/df) can runner be the first one to awake?
@@breakingloveopen thank u🙂
For a month Now I get awakened between 4 or 5 am. I'll be having a pleasant dream but then my DM will come in and interrupt me in the dream. There is 6 hour time difference between us in the 3d. After a bit of the interruption it wakes me up
@@breakingloveopen I'm going to disagree with you. Because since I said I don't want her disrupting my sleep anymore it's stopped. I know what I felt now.
@@breakingloveopen I do believe she's was thinking of me at that time in the 3d which obviously then vibrates to the astral and 5d.
Like I said since I put it out there if she wants contact with me then she must contact me in 3d.and not disrupt my sleep or interrupt my dreams it stopped. I am open to the fact I might be wrong. It's just explaining what I felt
@@breakingloveopen yeah I get the sexual energy a lot with her but as soon as I engaged I didn't feel it after for few days.
It's a pain in the arse. I realise today I'm not ready for her and mother is she. I have to much stuff to deal with like a toxic karmic marriage . Untill I have been fully alone Im not available. It's tough but that's life I guess.
I learnt so much about myself on this journey. I appreciate time alone now unlike in the last I hated it. Now I crave it.
But the hardest thing is the constant reminder every day of her name. I just acknowledge it but it still continues. I feel like I'm some ways I'm running from her. But she's the one running in 3d.
I'm just glad the obsesive thinking I had is gone It's just the heart that craves the energy .
He blocked me 8 weeks ago for no reason whatsoever 3 hours after sending me a really nice voicemail message. I don't get it? Haven't chased him at all.im getting more upset not less.
This is what’s happening to me and I don’t understand it and I don’t understand why she would ignore The signs or ignore what God is telling her. She pushed me away and started claiming she has a boyfriend and posting him and I dont know what to do
@@breakingloveopen What should I do, how long should I wait? Why is she wasting time with a “relationship” and claiming she love him I don’t get it I feel like the only reason is to push me away
He wants to just focus on work and I'm ok with that. He asked me to not contact him again and I haven't. In fact, I've tried running myself but then spirit hits me with signs and it annoys me. I've wamted to give up so many times. I wish I could. I actually don't want to talk to him. I'm fine being silent now. I'm a capricorn and have no issues shutting off my emotions. So as ong as he's running, I'm gonna talk to other men. He can do what he wants I don't care.
@@breakingloveopen that's just it though. He's not physically in my life. He has a gf. That's why I'm trying not to let my emotions get too attached.
@@breakingloveopen he's never available. That's the issue. We've never actually got to date. Just flirted heavily and were always around eachother. I love him from a distance.
Too late for the paragraph lol but I deleted my account anyways
Very good. nutlike most of the bs you see on this topic
No longer have obsessed though about her and no longer care about union with her why do I feel this it happens like over night did what you told me to focus more on me I doing that and no longer care about union why do you think I feel like that?
@@breakingloveopen tank you!!
So how comes dismissive partners are so hated? Cod they sure know how to teach someone exactly that? They're the best human form (well except from Tf I guess) teachers that lead to that.
Omg love your so gorgeous :)