My husband actually said after we married that he wanted to be treated like a baby. What these men don’t realize is that women start losing desire for men like this. A woman doesn’t want to have sex with a child and that’s what he’s showing he is.
It's not just during marriage, I see men acting like children in the early dating stages. A lot of these men children don't even know how to lead relationships. It totally kills desire in us women. We desire to be with adult men, not children.
My close male pal once said to me, "We need mothers..." in response to me saying I wasn't interested in marriage or having children. The mom to wife pipeline is drying.
I've read in some anthropology book, that it's actually like that: men never grow up and always need a mother role in heir life.. When they marry, the wife becomes new mother to them. If we actually acknowledge that, and men would openly admit it, there would be no place for a patriarchy anymore. They fear it, but at the same time cannot grow up, so they need to play a role of the stronger ones.
@@niebieskimotyl3308 people not growing up is a natural result of being babied through their life and never having to overcome challenges. It's not because of the genetic nature of what males are. If you grow up in a society where men or anyone is told they are superior, they will treat the others as inferior the more they believe it. Society being a patriarchy or matriarchy has nothing to do with it. It only lets you know who is being favored by that society. If you want to know the truth of life, the real goal is to never look up to anyone and never look down on anyone. Then you will see things as they are. Imo.
@@niebieskimotyl3308 people not growing up is a natural result of being babied through their life and never having to overcome challenges. It's not because of the genetic nature of what males are. If you grow up in a society where men or anyone is told they are superior, they will treat the others as inferior the more they believe it. Israel is a perfect example right now. Because of being babied and told the were special and given everything, they're now on a murderous rampage with all their neighbors and laughing as they do everything the Nazis did. Society being a patriarchy or matriarchy has nothing to do with it. It only lets you know who is being favored by that society. If you want to know the truth of life, the real goal is to never look up to anyone and never look down on anyone. Then you will see things as they are. Men have fallen in this trap pretty badly, but I think it's more a consequence of religion and capitalism imo.
The problem is that many men want a nurturing mother role that is also submissive to them. They are not playing a power role, they want it all. Nurture me, take care of my needs but I’m the boss. Apparently peaceful and flourishing matriarchal societies have existed in the past with maybe a few isolated small communities still left. One African society believed that males were not complete human adults. Their societies focus was on creating a nurturing home and community, not going to war to dominate the world. Sound familiar? Is it nature or culture that makes boys into soldiers? Maybe a mix of both.
That's so true that cats are better at taking care of themselves. When I'm slow at getting to filling up the cat dishes in the morning, my cats make it known by pawing open the cupboard door themselves and tipping over the cat food bag which spills onto the floor in which they then help themselves to the crunchies. I've said it before to my friends. Cats are the best kind of relationship.
My mom basically abandoned to marry a man fifteen years her senior. He had lost his wife six months before he met my mom. While my mom was dating him she oohed and cood over him like he was her favorite child. She thought it was adorable that he couldn't clean his own glasses and cleaned them for him. When he said that my mom reminded him of his late wife she was flattered! This dude basically brought out my mom's worst qualities and because of her and his actions our relationship (me,my older sister, and our mother) hasn't been the same since. My mom married him nine months after meeting him. She acts like he's the best husband on planet earth but he's just a pitiful old man who couldn't go a year without a wife. My mom is his third wife btw. His first marriage ended in divorce. My mom claims she married for love but I think it was so she wouldn't have to work into her 60s. When she was dating him she would excitedly talk about how she'll get to quit her job and that he'll pay for my Granny to go to a nice assisted living place. BTW, my Granny is also nine years older than her new son-in-law. I don't want to go into too much detail about my current situation for time and privacy but what I do want to mention is that even though am technically an adult my mother never truly prepared me to live as an adult on my own. Even though I was taught how to cook,clean,and mow the lawn I was never truly given independence. In fact, I was afraid of independence because I was afraid of messing up. I thought that one day I would waltz into Sunday school one day to meet my future husband. However, unlike my mother I have no such luck. When my mom abandoned me she expected me to apologize to her for not supporting her at her wedding to a man I never liked or saw as a member of our family. She also expected me to find an apartment with the salary of a part-time custodian at our church. Her husband has a very fragile ego that constantly has to be groomed. He couldn't sing happy birthday to my Granny without pulling out his dopey guitar. He got into my face and asked me why I didn't like him. I burst into tears because I was afraid to answer. When I got home I wondered why a seventy something year old man with the majority of my family on his side would get so worked up that two (three if you count my brother-in-law) didn't like him absolutely baffled me. In over the seventy years on planet earth did it ever occur to him that not everyone would like him? The only man there would probably have to be my brother-in-law. My mother's new hubby might be a "godly man" my mother and Granny but I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that he's a coward under all of that charm. A slimy pitiful coward. I shall now step down from my soap box.
My first husband was like that. He never lifted a finger to do anything around the house. I was working a very stressful job, and our lives were a mess. After the divorce, I remained blissfully single for 25 years until I met an amazing guy. I can honestly say that life is great now. We are equal partners in everything, and we help and build each other up. I had become extremely independent while living alone for such a long time and could never imagine I'd be happy in a LTR. How wrong I was. I'm constantly surprised at how we're practically joined at the hip most of the time. I don't think all men are man-baby's, and it may take time and self reflection to find someone who treats you as an equal. Hang in there, and don't give up your independence just to have a man in your life. It's not worth it!
I agree that it seems wrong to say anything good about men on this post. My husband is wonderful to me. I dominate the kitchen but it is because I like to cook and, to be honest, he’s not very good at it. Outside of that we have a fair democracy, he has his tasks, I have mine..it’s a fair division of labor to keep the house going. He is not really my husband, I think, but my partner in life. I have 100% knowledge of our finances and I don’t ask about our money because I can simply log onto the bank or brokerage accounts and look for myself. There are no secrets between us and he never pressures me to do things I don’t want to do. Unfortunately I had to learn that men like this existed the hard way. He is actually my second husband. My first wanted me to cater on him, do the mom thing, and would say things like he forgot where something was when he knew where it was just to make me get it myself…show me who was in charge. He was mentally and physically abusive. I get angry about the years I wasted on him but I just try not to look back but stay in the present.
People have always been lgbt+, it's just that in the past they got forced into marriage anyway if they were female and endure marital rap[e to be dutiful wife. Now they can choose. So can straight women to find a admirable guy who can take care of himself.
This. LGBTQ+ had to stay in the closet because they could lose EVERYTHING (careers, homes, even their lives) if they were out. A lot of these folks got into lavender marriages where there was an “understanding” between the spouses, or the person tried to suppress their feelings and pretend to be straight.
"These women don't know how to look after the household " Bro, do you?!?! And if you know how exhausting and relentless it is, why do you think any woman would sign up to be your bang maid?
He had his wisdom teeth out and did what? My dad would have asked him if he had his legs cut of as well. My dad was a compassionate man who would not have mocked his pain but he would have reminded him that being an adult and a partner means managing their expectations of what will happen in a situation like this: being in pain, communicating with your partner who to manage the situation... while not running your partner in to a breakdown.
When my ex had lasik (eye) surgery, he camped at his parents' house for 3 days because he needed his mommy to take care of him. I was home working and taking care of our 2 kids (4 & 6 years old). Funny thing is, I had the same surgery a couple years later and was fine and going to work the next day. Tell me how my "big strong man" is not a drain on everyone around him!?!?!?
@@sandeerahBee I am so happy he is your Ex now. When I had very serious trouble with my eye and had surgery I stayed with my mum for two nights because it was an emergency surgery and I had not gotten around doing my shopping... I literally could not see well enough to do the basics... yet I was home on my own. You seriously deserved better!
It seems that young men today are emotionally and intellectually immature. They want house slaves. They want domination and think that having a house slave makes them a man. No, they are little boys. I am glad that in my (older) generation there wasn't so much of that. (I have been happily married for more decades than you have been alive.) Women! Don't get married until you are at least 30 (my mother's very excellent advice.) Don't have children unless you are prepared to fund them (it seems the men won't.) Get your education and don't let men shame you for it.
All this mothering of one’s husband sounds extremely weird to me, being raised and living in a Scandinavian country. This might be one of the striking differences comparing Mormon culture and my own, although it feels like every country is being pushed to embrace a global consumeristic uni culture. Even most men from my father’s generation would help their wives with household chores on top of doing the “manly work” such as taking care of cars and the house. Of course controlling people exist here also, but the culture doesn’t push it as hard as the Mormon culture.
@@88QueenOfHeartsAs a single mom with an adult son, with friends with adult sons, this is an offensive, rare stereotype. Yes, there are crazy mothers out there that do that, but none I know. Please be kind to single moms who actually do a better job of raising their sons to be independent and self-sufficient out of necessity.
I have witnessed this dynamic in "traditional" 2 parent households. The more distant or abusive the farher, the more the mother clung to her baby boy for emotional support. And that is how mama's boys are often created.
My girl, men NEVER find things, that's simply an ability they lack, even in their 80s, trust me , you'll always hear that phrase..."where are my socks? Where did YOU put my glasses ? Where is the frying pan ? " ((Guess where ? Check in the bathroom maybe ! 😂)) That's just the way it is
I’m not trying to diminish your drama or dig for justifications, please don’t interpret it as such. The thing is that you were both creations of a system which forces the women to draw the short straw. In your case, it’s not realistic to think that he would ever act differently than he was taught and you knew from the beginning what was expected from your side rearding this dinamic. (Of course, I’m not talking about the abuse that’s a different story). The sad reality is that even in the “modern” world this happens, women find themselves having to take care of the entire house, the children and the husband even though the initial agreement was different… this is a real and critical issue even if you are brought up outside traditional mentalities. It’s mind blowing!
@@MagiqueMe if people knew this was the outcome, then they wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. It's realistic to think they'd be different because the entire time leading up to the legal obligation, . . . the other person was lying. Even if you have evidence to the contrary, if you've already identified yourself with them, then you'll make excuses for their behavior. Example: anyone who believes Trump is honest when he says nothing but lies and was a conman before he ever did politics.
So, you began being his servant the first week of your marriage? Why did you choose to do this type of stuff just because he asked you to? Did your mom teach you how to be a homemaker when you were growing up? I had a non traditional mother who worked and went to college while I was young, and she passed that type of knowledge to me. She showed me the importance of working smart and working hard. I never knew that other mothers were literally doing everything for their husbands. The enablers who allow men to act like children with out any responsibility for taking care of the home and family is wrong.
She was part of the mormon church that teaches that becoming your husband's second mother is morally correct. She didn't get to leave the church until after her divorce.
I actually love being a stay at home wife. I worked for a long time and i LOVE not working, but taking care of my husband & family instead. I have financial security set up for if anything happened to my husband and he treats me like a queen. I love taking care of him, i dont feel like his mom, i feel like his sexy wife. Obviously this only works if the husband isnt a cheating dushebag and I dont recommend it for any woman who loves having a career/job. It only works if both the man and the woman like it this way.
I feel that you are not allowed to say there here, on this post, but I feel the same. I don’t want my husband anywhere near my kitchen because, in the first place, he is awful there and more important, I just love to cook. The rest of the stuff that needs to get done here just falls on strict lines, mostly gender. He has his tasks, I have mine. I am not his mom, but his partner in life. If I was to lose him tomorrow there’s financial securities in place for me, and we have no secrets-particularly financial. He treats me the way I feel a wife (or just anyone) should be treated, with total love and respect. I keep the house and he works and we are both content with the situation. The trouble is I learned it all the hard way. This wonderful husband I have is actually my second husband. My first husband expected me to do everything for him and I think, a lot, knew exactly where the soap was but had me get it anyway just to show me who was boss. Because of how I was raised and my beliefs (which are very different now) I played my part. I wasn’t allowed to know anything about our finances and he gave me an allowance, like I was a child, to use at the market, etc. If I tried to speak out he was abusive and literally tried to kill me 3 times because I was able to escape. I have read all the comments and feel that it’s felt to be wrong to say anything good about men but the truth is it depends on the man.
There’s a study showing that men tend to put in more work on the job and slack at home, whereas women tend to slack on the job and put more work in at home. Even Barack Obama has a quote in his book that he and his wife felt like they weren’t doing both their jobs and domestic duties to the fullest degree. Weren’t things a lot simpler with a household division of labor where men went out and worked and women did domestic duties? And if show up and actually do stuff (unlike the two ladies at the apt complex I live in, who gab and goof off but are woefully slow anytime I need anything fixed) throughout 8+ hours, don’t both men and women who do that understand how nice it is to be able to come home to dinner and not have to always do more chores on top of that? Plenty of evidence suggests that even 8 hrs of work is probably a bit off a high stress load and that people might do better at five hrs.
Simpler for whom is the operative question? There's nothing wrong with such an arrangement if it's truly what both partners want (,though as this channel points out there are major risks in being financially dependent on someone else.) The big issue is that people try to force such arrangements on people who don't want them.
I'm not sure that historic division of duties is a realistic description for a lot of Americans. Women in most of our families, for many many generations, have done far more labor than maintaining their own homes and children.
😂 what a joke! Nowhere I have worked have the women ever been the ones slacking at HOME OR AT WORK. What a F N joke. The men on the other hand will slack wherever whenever and however they can get away with it.
How about accept your own mistakes and try and teach your many babies to be self-reliant before becoming a mom. Don’t have a baby unless you are financially stable. If you have a choice to use birth control right now in 2024, then make sure you are responsible with everything. Don’t date a guy to have babies, that’s just ridiculous. Women must go to school and work before you plan on having a baby. What men want are just a mom/wife. If you are young then stand your ground.
I do want an independent woman, but there is no finding a partner in this broken dating culture. I don't rely on anyone for my responsibilities. I have my own house 3bd/2ba. King size bed to myself, but every girl i talk to is also like these guys. They're looking to be taken care of by a sugar daddy. I'm sure there are good women out there, but i can't find anyone that i vibe with and can just chill and enjoy each other's company. I'm 42, divorced, and mostly lost interest. Nobody is trying to date older guys anyway, (Necessary post edit) This is including older women from what I've met. Unless they just want what you have and don't really care about you. (Edited, since mentioning money is a very sore a subject) I think this is a human problem with our laziness. Guys doing it are really pathetic. Women doing it are more understood to be a norm of how relationships work, with having to pay for dates and drinks and generally "be the provider." Well, outside of religious standards where they've convince women to agree to being indentured servants.
Have you tried joining a hobby group? Maybe you should consider making friends with common interests before you expect a woman agree to a lifetime commitment, mmkay??!
The problem might be you're wanting younger women. An older man can't provide anything to a younger woman apart from money, hence the sugar daddy comment you've made. Date your own age. Jennie is this video is smart and beautiful. Women like her are a catch. Compared to 23 year old women who are oversized children and immature.
My husband actually said after we married that he wanted to be treated like a baby. What these men don’t realize is that women start losing desire for men like this. A woman doesn’t want to have sex with a child and that’s what he’s showing he is.
It's not just during marriage, I see men acting like children in the early dating stages. A lot of these men children don't even know how to lead relationships. It totally kills desire in us women. We desire to be with adult men, not children.
Ewww🤢🤮
That is why a lot of men want to be with children. Sick I know
Eww, that would be such a huge turn off for me and it sounds incredibly exhausting!
@@HaleyMarysame, I've been with many men like this that I wasn't married to
My close male pal once said to me, "We need mothers..." in response to me saying I wasn't interested in marriage or having children.
The mom to wife pipeline is drying.
Yet they’ll take them for granted once they have kids and therefore become completely vulnerable. So happy I’m childfree!
I've read in some anthropology book, that it's actually like that: men never grow up and always need a mother role in heir life.. When they marry, the wife becomes new mother to them.
If we actually acknowledge that, and men would openly admit it, there would be no place for a patriarchy anymore. They fear it, but at the same time cannot grow up, so they need to play a role of the stronger ones.
Oh so fascinating! Yup, time to stop this cycle.
@@niebieskimotyl3308 people not growing up is a natural result of being babied through their life and never having to overcome challenges. It's not because of the genetic nature of what males are. If you grow up in a society where men or anyone is told they are superior, they will treat the others as inferior the more they believe it. Society being a patriarchy or matriarchy has nothing to do with it. It only lets you know who is being favored by that society. If you want to know the truth of life, the real goal is to never look up to anyone and never look down on anyone. Then you will see things as they are. Imo.
@@niebieskimotyl3308 people not growing up is a natural result of being babied through their life and never having to overcome challenges. It's not because of the genetic nature of what males are. If you grow up in a society where men or anyone is told they are superior, they will treat the others as inferior the more they believe it. Israel is a perfect example right now. Because of being babied and told the were special and given everything, they're now on a murderous rampage with all their neighbors and laughing as they do everything the Nazis did. Society being a patriarchy or matriarchy has nothing to do with it. It only lets you know who is being favored by that society. If you want to know the truth of life, the real goal is to never look up to anyone and never look down on anyone. Then you will see things as they are. Men have fallen in this trap pretty badly, but I think it's more a consequence of religion and capitalism imo.
The problem is that many men want a nurturing mother role that is also submissive to them. They are not playing a power role, they want it all. Nurture me, take care of my needs but I’m the boss. Apparently peaceful and flourishing matriarchal societies have existed in the past with maybe a few isolated small communities still left. One African society believed that males were not complete human adults. Their societies focus was on creating a nurturing home and community, not going to war to dominate the world. Sound familiar? Is it nature or culture that makes boys into soldiers? Maybe a mix of both.
Ugh...you hit the nail on the heads. Thanks for the wake-up call!
You are so welcome thx for being here for it ❤
That's so true that cats are better at taking care of themselves. When I'm slow at getting to filling up the cat dishes in the morning, my cats make it known by pawing open the cupboard door themselves and tipping over the cat food bag which spills onto the floor in which they then help themselves to the crunchies. I've said it before to my friends. Cats are the best kind of relationship.
@@HaleyMary I love this comment ♥️♥️♥️
My mom basically abandoned to marry a man fifteen years her senior. He had lost his wife six months before he met my mom. While my mom was dating him she oohed and cood over him like he was her favorite child. She thought it was adorable that he couldn't clean his own glasses and cleaned them for him. When he said that my mom reminded him of his late wife she was flattered!
This dude basically brought out my mom's worst qualities and because of her and his actions our relationship (me,my older sister, and our mother) hasn't been the same since. My mom married him nine months after meeting him. She acts like he's the best husband on planet earth but he's just a pitiful old man who couldn't go a year without a wife. My mom is his third wife btw. His first marriage ended in divorce.
My mom claims she married for love but I think it was so she wouldn't have to work into her 60s. When she was dating him she would excitedly talk about how she'll get to quit her job and that he'll pay for my Granny to go to a nice assisted living place. BTW, my Granny is also nine years older than her new son-in-law.
I don't want to go into too much detail about my current situation for time and privacy but what I do want to mention is that even though am technically an adult my mother never truly prepared me to live as an adult on my own. Even though I was taught how to cook,clean,and mow the lawn I was never truly given independence. In fact, I was afraid of independence because I was afraid of messing up. I thought that one day I would waltz into Sunday school one day to meet my future husband. However, unlike my mother I have no such luck. When my mom abandoned me she expected me to apologize to her for not supporting her at her wedding to a man I never liked or saw as a member of our family. She also expected me to find an apartment with the salary of a part-time custodian at our church. Her husband has a very fragile ego that constantly has to be groomed. He couldn't sing happy birthday to my Granny without pulling out his dopey guitar. He got into my face and asked me why I didn't like him. I burst into tears because I was afraid to answer. When I got home I wondered why a seventy something year old man with the majority of my family on his side would get so worked up that two (three if you count my brother-in-law) didn't like him absolutely baffled me. In over the seventy years on planet earth did it ever occur to him that not everyone would like him? The only man there would probably have to be my brother-in-law. My mother's new hubby might be a "godly man" my mother and Granny but I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that he's a coward under all of that charm. A slimy pitiful coward.
I shall now step down from my soap box.
My first husband was like that. He never lifted a finger to do anything around the house. I was working a very stressful job, and our lives were a mess. After the divorce, I remained blissfully single for 25 years until I met an amazing guy. I can honestly say that life is great now. We are equal partners in everything, and we help and build each other up. I had become extremely independent while living alone for such a long time and could never imagine I'd be happy in a LTR. How wrong I was. I'm constantly surprised at how we're practically joined at the hip most of the time. I don't think all men are man-baby's, and it may take time and self reflection to find someone who treats you as an equal. Hang in there, and don't give up your independence just to have a man in your life. It's not worth it!
I agree that it seems wrong to say anything good about men on this post.
My husband is wonderful to me. I dominate the kitchen but it is because I like to cook and, to be honest, he’s not very good at it. Outside of that we have a fair democracy, he has his tasks, I have mine..it’s a fair division of labor to keep the house going. He is not really my husband, I think, but my partner in life. I have 100% knowledge of our finances and I don’t ask about our money because I can simply log onto the bank or brokerage accounts and look for myself. There are no secrets between us and he never pressures me to do things I don’t want to do.
Unfortunately I had to learn that men like this existed the hard way. He is actually my second husband. My first wanted me to cater on him, do the mom thing, and would say things like he forgot where something was when he knew where it was just to make me get it myself…show me who was in charge. He was mentally and physically abusive. I get angry about the years I wasted on him but I just try not to look back but stay in the present.
People have always been lgbt+, it's just that in the past they got forced into marriage anyway if they were female and endure marital rap[e to be dutiful wife. Now they can choose. So can straight women to find a admirable guy who can take care of himself.
Yes so true
This. LGBTQ+ had to stay in the closet because they could lose EVERYTHING (careers, homes, even their lives) if they were out. A lot of these folks got into lavender marriages where there was an “understanding” between the spouses, or the person tried to suppress their feelings and pretend to be straight.
@@Iflie yup. As long as humans have been human we’ve had lgbtq. It’s part of our nature and it’s beautiful
I wonder if your ex’s 19 year old model plays the mom role now? 🤔 how do these males function without women??
He actually left me for a younger women but then married older. She’s literally like his mom. Funny but true.
@@lifetaketwo7662I totally believe you!!
They don't. That's why married men live longer than single men and single women live longer than married women.
@@lifetaketwo7662 o wow. That's intresting.
"These women don't know how to look after the household "
Bro, do you?!?! And if you know how exhausting and relentless it is, why do you think any woman would sign up to be your bang maid?
Yes, and I hope the boys of the younger generation, your sons, are able to use the household appliances 🏰
He had his wisdom teeth out and did what? My dad would have asked him if he had his legs cut of as well. My dad was a compassionate man who would not have mocked his pain but he would have reminded him that being an adult and a partner means managing their expectations of what will happen in a situation like this: being in pain, communicating with your partner who to manage the situation... while not running your partner in to a breakdown.
When my ex had lasik (eye) surgery, he camped at his parents' house for 3 days because he needed his mommy to take care of him. I was home working and taking care of our 2 kids (4 & 6 years old). Funny thing is, I had the same surgery a couple years later and was fine and going to work the next day. Tell me how my "big strong man" is not a drain on everyone around him!?!?!?
@@sandeerahBee I am so happy he is your Ex now. When I had very serious trouble with my eye and had surgery I stayed with my mum for two nights because it was an emergency surgery and I had not gotten around doing my shopping... I literally could not see well enough to do the basics... yet I was home on my own.
You seriously deserved better!
It seems that young men today are emotionally and intellectually immature. They want house slaves. They want domination and think that having a house slave makes them a man. No, they are little boys. I am glad that in my (older) generation there wasn't so much of that. (I have been happily married for more decades than you have been alive.) Women! Don't get married until you are at least 30 (my mother's very excellent advice.) Don't have children unless you are prepared to fund them (it seems the men won't.) Get your education and don't let men shame you for it.
@@arlenebigelow6676 thank you for this very insightful comment! Yes , young men aren’t as savvy as the older generation was.
I really hope your ex meets up with his karma!
Me too but so far he’s living his best life.
@@lifetaketwo7662well that could be a facade, you never really know, he could be miserable
Well said!!!!
wow, these boys are like stuck at 8 years old, lol
The sound is a whole lot better here. And you're about the same volume as the guy in the clips you're responding to 👍🏻
New software. I just cake form tik tok which has better sound and clarity. It’s a learning curve😂
All this mothering of one’s husband sounds extremely weird to me, being raised and living in a Scandinavian country. This might be one of the striking differences comparing Mormon culture and my own, although it feels like every country is being pushed to embrace a global consumeristic uni culture.
Even most men from my father’s generation would help their wives with household chores on top of doing the “manly work” such as taking care of cars and the house. Of course controlling people exist here also, but the culture doesn’t push it as hard as the Mormon culture.
Youdo not look that old😂😂
I need that shirt
I sell them, need to get the link up here. They’re on my tik tol linktree and shop.
Wow! 😳
most older moms act like they want to date their sons.
It's called son-husbands. It can happen even if the father is in the home. Though most common, with single mothers to only sons.
This is my mother in law. It is truly nauseating.
Growing up my husband had his father in the home.
My husband is an only son.
@@88QueenOfHeartsAs a single mom with an adult son, with friends with adult sons, this is an offensive, rare stereotype. Yes, there are crazy mothers out there that do that, but none I know. Please be kind to single moms who actually do a better job of raising their sons to be independent and self-sufficient out of necessity.
I have witnessed this dynamic in "traditional" 2 parent households. The more distant or abusive the farher, the more the mother clung to her baby boy for emotional support. And that is how mama's boys are often created.
That's gross
My girl, men NEVER find things, that's simply an ability they lack, even in their 80s, trust me , you'll always hear that phrase..."where are my socks? Where did YOU put my glasses ? Where is the frying pan ? " ((Guess where ? Check in the bathroom maybe ! 😂))
That's just the way it is
I’m not trying to diminish your drama or dig for justifications, please don’t interpret it as such. The thing is that you were both creations of a system which forces the women to draw the short straw. In your case, it’s not realistic to think that he would ever act differently than he was taught and you knew from the beginning what was expected from your side rearding this dinamic. (Of course, I’m not talking about the abuse that’s a different story). The sad reality is that even in the “modern” world this happens, women find themselves having to take care of the entire house, the children and the husband even though the initial agreement was different… this is a real and critical issue even if you are brought up outside traditional mentalities. It’s mind blowing!
@@MagiqueMe if people knew this was the outcome, then they wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. It's realistic to think they'd be different because the entire time leading up to the legal obligation, . . . the other person was lying. Even if you have evidence to the contrary, if you've already identified yourself with them, then you'll make excuses for their behavior.
Example: anyone who believes Trump is honest when he says nothing but lies and was a conman before he ever did politics.
So, you began being his servant the first week of your marriage? Why did you choose to do this type of stuff just because he asked you to?
Did your mom teach you how to be a homemaker when you were growing up?
I had a non traditional mother who worked and went to college while I was young, and she passed that type of knowledge to me. She showed me the importance of working smart and working hard.
I never knew that other mothers were literally doing everything for their husbands.
The enablers who allow men to act like children with out any responsibility for taking care of the home and family is wrong.
She was part of the mormon church that teaches that becoming your husband's second mother is morally correct. She didn't get to leave the church until after her divorce.
I actually love being a stay at home wife. I worked for a long time and i LOVE not working, but taking care of my husband & family instead. I have financial security set up for if anything happened to my husband and he treats me like a queen. I love taking care of him, i dont feel like his mom, i feel like his sexy wife. Obviously this only works if the husband isnt a cheating dushebag and I dont recommend it for any woman who loves having a career/job. It only works if both the man and the woman like it this way.
I feel that you are not allowed to say there here, on this post, but I feel the same. I don’t want my husband anywhere near my kitchen because, in the first place, he is awful there and more important, I just love to cook. The rest of the stuff that needs to get done here just falls on strict lines, mostly gender. He has his tasks, I have mine. I am not his mom, but his partner in life. If I was to lose him tomorrow there’s financial securities in place for me, and we have no secrets-particularly financial. He treats me the way I feel a wife (or just anyone) should be treated, with total love and respect. I keep the house and he works and we are both content with the situation.
The trouble is I learned it all the hard way. This wonderful husband I have is actually my second husband. My first husband expected me to do everything for him and I think, a lot, knew exactly where the soap was but had me get it anyway just to show me who was boss. Because of how I was raised and my beliefs (which are very different now) I played my part. I wasn’t allowed to know anything about our finances and he gave me an allowance, like I was a child, to use at the market, etc. If I tried to speak out he was abusive and literally tried to kill me 3 times because I was able to escape.
I have read all the comments and feel that it’s felt to be wrong to say anything good about men but the truth is it depends on the man.
There’s a study showing that men tend to put in more work on the job and slack at home, whereas women tend to slack on the job and put more work in at home. Even Barack Obama has a quote in his book that he and his wife felt like they weren’t doing both their jobs and domestic duties to the fullest degree. Weren’t things a lot simpler with a household division of labor where men went out and worked and women did domestic duties? And if show up and actually do stuff (unlike the two ladies at the apt complex I live in, who gab and goof off but are woefully slow anytime I need anything fixed) throughout 8+ hours, don’t both men and women who do that understand how nice it is to be able to come home to dinner and not have to always do more chores on top of that? Plenty of evidence suggests that even 8 hrs of work is probably a bit off a high stress load and that people might do better at five hrs.
women just like men, don't dream of being stuck at home doing chores everyday all day and have the threat of DV
Simpler for whom is the operative question?
There's nothing wrong with such an arrangement if it's truly what both partners want (,though as this channel points out there are major risks in being financially dependent on someone else.)
The big issue is that people try to force such arrangements on people who don't want them.
I'm not sure that historic division of duties is a realistic description for a lot of Americans. Women in most of our families, for many many generations, have done far more labor than maintaining their own homes and children.
😂 what a joke! Nowhere I have worked have the women ever been the ones slacking at HOME OR AT WORK. What a F N joke. The men on the other hand will slack wherever whenever and however they can get away with it.
@@Thetruthwillsetyoufree90seriously. Men in the workplace are coddled and half ass everything.
What does religion have to do with this ? Just because they are religious doesnt mean they are representing religion.
then who represents religion?
Her church taught her this was right.
Who represents a religion if not the people who believe in and follow that religion?
How about accept your own mistakes and try and teach your many babies to be self-reliant before becoming a mom.
Don’t have a baby unless you are financially stable. If you have a choice to use birth control right now in 2024, then make sure you are responsible with everything.
Don’t date a guy to have babies, that’s just ridiculous.
Women must go to school and work before you plan on having a baby.
What men want are just a mom/wife. If you are young then stand your ground.
Religion in the incentive for Mormon men to control their wives and children. Have you learned anything from watching her videos?
I do want an independent woman, but there is no finding a partner in this broken dating culture. I don't rely on anyone for my responsibilities. I have my own house 3bd/2ba. King size bed to myself, but every girl i talk to is also like these guys. They're looking to be taken care of by a sugar daddy. I'm sure there are good women out there, but i can't find anyone that i vibe with and can just chill and enjoy each other's company. I'm 42, divorced, and mostly lost interest. Nobody is trying to date older guys anyway,
(Necessary post edit) This is including older women from what I've met.
Unless they just want what you have and don't really care about you. (Edited, since mentioning money is a very sore a subject)
I think this is a human problem with our laziness. Guys doing it are really pathetic. Women doing it are more understood to be a norm of how relationships work, with having to pay for dates and drinks and generally "be the provider." Well, outside of religious standards where they've convince women to agree to being indentured servants.
Have you tried joining a hobby group? Maybe you should consider making friends with common interests before you expect a woman agree to a lifetime commitment, mmkay??!
😅 you're 42??! Dude, I'm 58 and think you are not thinking rationally. Look for common ground before you demand a life commitment
Have you tried looking for fellow 42 year old women?
@@jenniferesein4813 he needs to figure himself out before adding another person to blame his inadequacies upon
The problem might be you're wanting younger women. An older man can't provide anything to a younger woman apart from money, hence the sugar daddy comment you've made. Date your own age. Jennie is this video is smart and beautiful. Women like her are a catch. Compared to 23 year old women who are oversized children and immature.