So...my hair isn't growing?? | 4C Hair Growth Journey
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- You guys know I've been on that 4c natural hair growth journey for YEARS. But lately, I've been feeling frustrated about my 4c hair length and high shrinkage. How are you feeling about you natural hair right now?
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Danielle, just keep in mind, that hair length isn’t a competition. You’ve had to overcome hair loss, and that’s no easy feat. I feel like the natural community can be toxic because texture and length consumes us.
That part!
I agree with that also …. Honestly I feel like if she keeps stressing over the length/shrinkage it could possibly cause some type of hair loss 😶 … it doesn’t matter as long as you are able to embrace your natural hair to me
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Facts!
Amen!
Girl….. atp your hair is growing. Prolly not the way you want it to, but over the years as I’ve watched your vids it has been growing. ✋
I'm obsessed with length, as well. On myself. I can careless about anyone else's length, unless I'm trying to get help. I want my afro blocking everything. 😆😆
It sounds like there is still some acceptance needed because it’s just what our hair does.
Shrinkage is not exclusive to the flawed and limited numbers/letters system and ALL people with curly-kinky healthy hair can have significant shrinkage depending on how you do it.
You have options of seeing the length, heat stretching(RevAir), regular blowouts or becoming a straight natural, people do it all the time but as long as you wear fluff nugget in her natural state there will always be shrinkage.
I hope you get to a better less frustrating place with your hair.
P.S.Sam is THE CUTEST! Cocker Spaniels are my favorite and future dog.
I just want to say that I really appreciate your authenticity, your black girl nerd magic and how you've been embracing your natural hair with the ups and downs. It inspires me and my own journey and I hope that you keep thriving. I always come back to your videos. I feel like if I met you back in school we would have been the best of friends.
About hair length, I always feel like I set myself back with my hair because I either over manipulated or I neglected to the point where all of the groups I had needs to be cut off. I had about four or six inches taken off after quarantine because I literally never trimmed my hair and was not moisturizing at all. A year before covid I ended up cutting off four inches of my already short hair because I had so much breakage from not putting on a bonnet and sleeping on one side and letting it mat every night. I saw that I made some progress after my last haircut but that was over a year ago and I'm still where I was back then. Now I'm experimenting with protective styles now but I really just want my hair to be big. I love to see taking out a protective style and my hair is massive. If I could put it in a protective style and it still looks wide as all get out that would make me so happy.
Loose twists?
She inspired me also . The only difference is I don’t care about my hair shrinkage up at all 🤣🤧 literally no matter what I do or put on it my hair will shrink to my ears … 3 days when it’s finally 100% dry it’s in the middle of my back 🥲🙄😂
@@thetruthhurts3318 I'm glad to hear that you embraced it! I tried to for a while but I ended up getting a bunch of knots in my hair and unevenness. It always got super dry too after a few days haha
@@onjanaedavison1551 yes indeed ✨🤎 I noticed when I mist my hair with water every other day really helped me with the knots a lot …. How idk 😂🤔 I see a lot of naturals say they can’t use straight water on their hair…. I honestly feel like water is really what makes me get more length
@@onjanaedavison1551 I got a very simple routine now tho …. Im not a product junky anymore at all 😂 just water and leave in conditioner for me … I put on a lot to laser for the whole week or longer … I randomly oil my scalp also
I have decided to embrace my shrinkage. My hair is bra strap length but currently it is sitting on my shoulders. That's where it wants to be so meh :)
For me, I’m not to worry about length but more density. I have naturally low density hair and I HATE how you can see my scalp but I have to accept my bald headedness at this point 😭
I absolutely adore you and your channel. I appreciate you sharing your and Fluff Nugget’s hair journey. I think something a lot of “4a-c” type naturals don’t realize is that our hair is sooooo fragile. It took me having locs for 4 year that wouldn’t budge past my shoulders after getting it there after two. I couldn’t help but notice how rough you were being with your already stressed hair. I can understand your frustration I did the same to my hair for years and it only translates to instant breakage. I had to start treating my hair as gently as I would want someone I’m paying to, even more so. That along with becoming aware of nutritional deficiencies in my diet. If we’re not getting enough nutrients for our body’s daily process, it won’t have enough energy to grow something extraneous like hair or nails properly. Finding what works for your hair is definitely a big part of it. Could you cover making your own Ethiopian hair butter? I started using it and after shampooing it out, my 4b/c loc curls are defined without need for extra product and my hair is soft and moisturized. I just shampooed it out and honestly didn’t need conditioner. I saw your Chebe video and think if you mixed the Chebe powder and a little bit your favorite oils into the butter you might have a good starting point for short term protective styles. Thank you again for sharing your process with us Danielle! You’re a talented, witty, and gorgeous person regardless, but I’m excited for this to be a “remember when” for you 💕!
Honestly same i just really want long natural hair and I want other people to see I have long natural hair. I think all lengths look pretty but for me I want LENGTTHHH!! I just trimmed my ends an inch yesterday but it makes a visual difference and now I want that inch back
I can understand the wish to visually *see* the progress you've made without having to stretch (etc.), but ultimately, that not how hair like ours works. What we *can* see, is the sheen, the volume, how hearty our hair has grown, things like that. I've learned to be okay with accepting what my hair wants to show me off the bat, and I've been more content on my journey for that. Best wishes on yours, too.
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I was feeling down lately cause my hair has been hating all my hair products and it started falling out and thinning. I had to trim a bit of my length and people kept pointing it out. Thank you for cheering me up 🥺🥺🥺🥺
Awww, people can be so mean! I hope that you will continue to feel better and better every day 🙏🏾
I always find that with my hair that when it hits a length stall I need to change tactics. I haven’t found that protective styles do as much as getting regular trims. Long term protective styles I find doesn’t do as much for me. Plus the healthiness of my hair when it’s trimmed improves from root to end 🙌🏾
I honestly think it looks longer, healthier and thicker than it did 3yrs ago! Keep going, fluff nugget is gorgeous 😍
Such a conundrum to be in when you want to do styles that express the true length of our hair,
But also wanna be a "lazy natural" 😅
Unfortunately, being a lazy natural requires full on acceptance of shrinkage,
But being a natural that puts effort in making sure you can length thru blowouts, twists braids etc. Is work 😩
I'm in a weird place right now with my hair, so the transparency in your latest videos have been so comforting 💖
And I commend you because other natural hair girlies can be really harsh and lack compassion: "ACCEPT YOUR HAIR!!! 4C IS BEAUTIFUL!!!"
it's like... No shit 😅😅 that doesn't happen overnight tho for everyone, especially when you consider external factors that pile on the difficulty level
Anyways, idk what the point in my comment is other than to share my lil 4c thoughts and say thank you
-signed, a fellow "EIGHTYYYYYY.... PERCENTTTTTT!!!!" 😩😂😂😂😭😅💖
Fluff Nugget is truly beautiful today I’m not looking back and we don’t know the future. So lets just bask in her glory right now. Don’t compare her. Appreciate her. I had mid back length stretch hair before I started losing mine to a mystery illness that is now uncovered. I am now completely bald since 2016 and wear beautiful wigs. What I learned? Though I absolutely miss my hair. I’m no less loved without it. ( my husband kisses my bald head in passing and some days I got to protect my behind from random grabs especially in a sun dress, lol!) And afro kinky wigs are fun and my current favorites. Though I have adjusted well and embraced my reality I don’t wish it on anybody else. So CHERISH fluff nugget. You are genuinely blessed.
‼️ it's incredibly frustrating but incredibly normal for personal insecurities or struggles you thought you'd gotten over months or even years ago to suddenly come back stronger than ever out of nowhere and smack you in the face. Don't be too hard on yourself it's just part of being human! Sometimes there doesn't even seem to be a trigger or a reason for these insecurities to come back. They just seem to come crawling out from under your mental bed like smeagol but instead of being obsessed with the ring it's obsessed with your hair or your weight or your nose or any number of things. I think it's just part of being human and I think as long as we're alive we will have insecurities that nip at our heels like hungry wolves. I really think it has a lot to do with the subconscious and all of us growing up in the age of technology where these insecurities are planted deep since we were kids or teens. I've been in weekly therapy for three years and some days I get so discouraged because I feel like I haven't made any progress and that I'm not any stronger or better than I was 3 years ago. And some days I feel like I've come a long way and I've accomplished a lot. Unfortunately I think we all have insecurities or other personal struggles that will haunt us to the grave. It's not just you! ❤️
Honestly I’d be happy to just have the length you had 2 years ago. because since I can remember my hair has NEVER EVER BEVER touched my shoulders ever. So I’m current thanks to you putting my transitioning to natural hair away so that I can actually begin to heal my hair and then take steps to ALLOW it to grow.
I have mad, crazy shrinkage. My tight afro turns into mid back length when straightened. It's very magical to witness. Lol! But I like the versatility of my hair. But I totally feel what you're saying tho..
For me and my 4c hair, I stay keeping my hair in twists and bantu knotting the ends to keep them from snagging. No weaves or sewins. Just my regular degular hair in twists. This style works for me and I've had twists or plaits in my hair since I was a girl. Every two weeks I take my twists out to wash my hair and retwist as normal. My hair is now past my bra strap but it shrinks back up to the nape of my neck almost immediately. For me, retaining length is nice, but it's not my goal. My goal is to make taking care of my hair and my wash days take as less time and little effort as possible lol
I hate those videos of length. Now I try to work with my current length and just enjoy it ❤ You can try kinky wigs, it does take your mind off the length thing🤷♀️
I've wearing normal twists for 2 months now, in the first month my hair grew a noticeable amount, now, at the end of the second, it's slowing down, I'm gonna take them off and wear it out again.
I agree... I've seen a change in my hair in the last few years and not for the good. Ah I miss the days when my hair looked amazing in twist outs. Trying to find my way back there too! We got this !😁
Honestly I am now on a proper self care journey. I’ve noticed my hair deffo grows but it’s like it almost shrinks more even though its growing , it’s crazy. I’m learning to just embrace it and love it. I’m also really trying not to neglect my hair even if I get busy. Shrinkage is apparently a sign of health so I’m really trying to let my hair be my hair. Waist length doesn’t show on everybody apparently
I desperately want “classic” length hair. Right now, when it’s completely straight it’s close to butt crack length but alas when it’s dry and curly it’s somewhere just past bra strap. 😭😭
I had a mishap with a hairdresser about 7 years ago, I was younggg and told her to cut my knots and split ends (because I thought that was a trim, and this was the first time going without my mom), and she just chopped it all (rude but, ok), into a non-style, short thing. After that I had a huge insecurity with getting my length back, which was suffering since my mom stopped doing my hair in high school. I think I've finally come to a point in the past 2/3 years where there's a length that I like, and I will chop it to keep it here and I'm so proud to be here. This aside, I have 4b hair, and also about 70/80% shrinkage so I do sometimes find myself fighting with the perception of my un-stretched hair, especially since I get serious stress dandruff and this thing needs to be washed when I'm in these modes (so I can't control the stretching or even drying of the hair as easily), but I live in an almost 100% white area (American in Europe), and without the aunties around I find that I get nothing but compliments, hair undone, halfway done, or perfected. So this has given me a lot of space to kind of be mindful that at least in the area where I operate, I need to prioritize the health of my scalp/stress levels first and there's no one (here at least) judging me abt what's on my head. I walk out with a scarf because my hair is drying and as long as I'm not going to the airport I've had people be like oooo nice. Huge braids as well (which are too short on too kinky of hair to hang in any way). So you're not alone! I think the natural hair community isn't dead, but just re-morphing again into the self acceptance as it was aimed to be in the beginning!
Its Genetics, your hair is beautiful. You want length, blow it out, straighten it. Until then, brush and apply blue magic hair grease sparingly ,
Conditioner, and water. Plat or tuck it every night.
I noticed my hair does grow and pretty fast actually. It’s just, when it hits a certain length it just pauses and it just means I need to change my tactics. I’m a super lazy natural though. I am actually planning on cutting my hair AGAIN Friday into a bob but that’s also because my ends are trash but I’m always bored of my hair. Just switch it up every so often. I do stress a lot and I’ve been working on that and trimming my ends consistently. We’ll see what happens. I’ll join this journey with you. I did notice that keeping my hair in braids or twist in the recommended timeframe actually grows my hair rather than keeping them in for like 2+ months.
Girl I felt this.. I've realized to get my 4c, fine hair to go past mid back takes A WHOLE OTHER LEVEL OF CARE I DONT THINK I HAVE, it took me over 10yrs to even get HERE.. sooooooo it's trial and error patience wich I don't have anymore..
When I got sick with the Rona I felt so out of control that I chopped my hair off. It was bra strap length and I was like “it’s not growing , it’s super short anyway might as well” I can not believe I convinced myself that my hair was short because it looked short, mind you I cut my hair while it was wet so shrinkage was not helping 😅. So I feel you I’m so happy for you and your fluff nugget . I’m going to be asking my Mona to forgive me and grow back lmbo.
I absolutely love your channel! I’ve been obsessed with length and used to compare my growth with everyone who experienced tailbone 4c hair seemingly overnight. After years of ups and downs I am so much more comfortable with my hair. It’s now health first, growth in time.
OMG!! Danielle I love you, girl!!! I have been watching you since 2019 and I love your personality, honesty about real life struggle! I feel like we could be friend in real life!!! I have 2C/3A hair but I watch you for the entertainment and personality 🥰🥰🥰
I wish you the best and success babe
Thank you for being yourself 😍
For some reason I act as if my hair doesn’t grow. Then when I notice length I’ll sabotage myself by using products that create breakage. When I was younger I use to have an obsession with long hair. I wanted my hair to be straight and long. When I got a relaxer I was so happy but my hair was always breaking, and when I went natural I started taking care of my own hair my hair flourished until I dyed it and then eventually it got hydral fatigue. Now, I’m at this point of experimenting I’m not giving my hair all of my attention anymore. For me my biggest insecurity is admitting that I don’t like using black products anymore because they create more breakage. Now I use non black hair products like OGX hair creams and garnier because my breakage is minimum. And I’m not bald. 🤷🏾♀️ like im tired of fighting with my hair. I want length but I have to know what to give up without judgement of myself.
Natural hair extensions. It’s my go to when I want my hair to look more stretched. I don’t want to straighten my hair just to see the length.
Hiiiiii, what natural hair extensions would you recommend? I’ve got type 4 hair, and I’m ✨struggling✨ with shrinkage 🥲
COMMENTING because I wanna know what u recommend too 🥰
I miss the closing..."say it with me...STARPUPPY AWAY!!!" 🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️
I’ve been watching your channel for years. I’ve big chopped 2/3 times since. I’ve been so upset since November 2021 I got a press to get a trim after my most recent chop (bald shave) I haven’t cut the heat damage the girl gave me still. I start to miss my length constantly until I look back at progress pictures and I’m like oh wait my hair is actually getting back long. I told myself I wasn’t going to big chop again unless it was absolutely necessary. I’m thinking about quitting weave for good. I’ve been wearing weave since middle school and I’ve graduated college already, so for the past 12 ish years maybe. I know I can’t let anyone else do my hair they’re so rough with it.
As my pooftah gets longer in length, it actually just looks thicker/denser when it's in a afro. I don't mind it because it looks soooo healthy, and it actually moves now when I wiggle my hair, and the shrinkage for the night isn't very noticeable 😆😆😆😆 it makes me so excited, my hair has never been this long. But my goal is for my afro to sit comfortably on my shoulders... however, for that to happen, my hair probably has to be close to waist length 😭 I've got a fair bit to go, since it only just passes my color bone. Saying that, I find it really weird that the longer my hair gets the easier it is to wash/style etc. I spend less time messing with it. Who woulda thought 😂😂
Who else loves the dramatics everytime she says 80%?😅
Oh yeah i stopped caring about length and focus on health and density, funny enough that is when i noticed more length retention 🤷🏽♀️ i just let my hair do what it likes to do which is to coil and shrink and i wear it like its a short haircut even though its past my shoulders 😅 dunno why it just looks sexier this way. I get a lot of compliments too 🤜🏾🤛🏾
I've basically just starting my journey back to natural hair. If you've made the journey and is not happy there you don't have to stay you can return to what make you happy. Mental Health is the only health that can not be seen make sure you continue to nuture it and the rest will flourish.. There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing what make you happy. Focus on what makes Danielle happy!!!
Your hair has grown and is the thickest I've seen in all your videos.
I'm a part of the 80% shrinkage crew. It can be frustrating at times.
For me it’s been the lack of protien and strength (henna) treatments holding back. When i get sick you get lazy. Moisture is good but I have high porosity- hair that gets brittle and tangled if I don’t use protein. Now my hair is finally taking to the products better, and casting a gel cast stronger in this humid weather. Thank you so much for your videos - hair length will come - look at how far you came -
Your 80% now is more thank 100% 3 years ago lol
How do you take care of your hair while in twists for that long to keep it moisturised?
Honestly i think most people are being too hard on themselves about length. If you are past shoulder length, congratulations, your hair is long. And i don't think most people actually want the long hair they say they want. Longer hair than that means more detangling, more product (more money), less versatility with styling depending on what you want, and it's just overall a bigger commitment (hence why a lot of people don't get there, and that's okay). Plus the things you might wanna do with your hair once you get to that length at that point may seem so foreign that you might not want to do it anymore (straightening is so damaging, let's just not).
i am extremely satisfied with my length. nipple length with 3 years of growth, 2 of those natural. i am on a good track to reach tailbone length in a few years, not because my hair grows fast, but because i have the willpower (some may call it laziness) to not do too much to my hair, but also take care of it when it needs love. i'm taking a break from protective styles for the rest of the year because my edges are thinning, but other than that we are thriving!
Little bit off topic but my brain went left when you said " what am I fighting floor!?" Immediately went certain revenge from video game franchise 😆
I just cut off all my hair, bra strap for reference, & dyed it platinum blonde. I felt no ways about it & I’m not sure if I’ll ever have hair again. I loved my hair & the best decision I ever made was returning natural. For years I was focused on growing long hair, I watched all videos, tried the things…and at peak of my growth I burned out & re-evaluated y. Straight or natural I was tired of doing hair & now I got a fly cut, low maintenance & I think it’s the best I’ve ever looked. Not knocking anyones choice just wanted to share. Sometimes we hold on to the wrong things.
My opinion is to appreciate the growth , appreciate the thickness, appreciate the texture. I may sound crazy but your hair is listening 😅. Speak nothing but positivity amongst your tresses . Negative thought process, equals negative results . I noticed my favorite gurus to watch appreciated and loved their hair at all lengths , now their hair is flourishing.
I personally focus on healthy hair. The length will come with a healthy scalp and a regular routine to maintains length retention and prevention of breakage. I’d love to see you do videos addressing this!
Happy Tuesday 🙂
Miss you! And yes girl, I want it to look as long as it is but I'm over it now. Lol got locs and calling it a day. Well a lifetime. So yea. Can't wait to see what you do next.
It took long. But I'm using staying my own hair to do it...protective styles. It keeps my mind of length
Yeah! Let’s get that tailbone length!
I think that length looks great but curlies need to remember that shrinkage is part of our hair length. Straight haired people get to measure their hair from roots to tips, we don’t.
We have to measure our length in how long it appears when it is in a wash and go. It means that our hair needs to grow twice as much (or more) before we start to get what we want for length.
My hair when it is soaking wet and brushed out goes nearly to my waist. When it is dry it is only just past my shoulders. And my hair is super damaged so my shrinkage is no where near as intense as yours. But still I only get to count my hair as waist length when I am judging how much product to put in my hair. Because at all other times, my hair is shoulder length.
DANIELLE HAVE YOU TRIED “MINI BRAIDS” JUST WITH YOUR NATURAL HAIR? IT’S ON MY “HAIR LOVE JOURNEY VLOG SERIES” . BECAUSE I LEAVE IT IN FOR 2-3 MONTHS & MY HAIR GROWS. I WILL BE DOING THIS FOR ANOTHER YEAR & MY HAIR IS ACTUALLY GROWING. MY WASH ROUTINES ARE 10 MINS. IT’S AMAZING FOR MY MENTAL HEALTH. WE HAVE THE SAME HAIR & I RECOMMEND TRYING IT OUT INSTEAD OF TWIST.
I have severe shrinkage and I am okay with it. Natural for 15 yrs.
sometimes I get disappointed that my recent hair growth isn't more noticeable but that's shrinkage for you. my stylist gives me helpful tips so i know i'm on the right track. the breakage is minimal as well.
My goal is to have long enough hair that I can put it into a couple of style. But I also loovvvve shrinkage. It looks looks so thick and natural and unique 🥺so I don't mind when my hair is short ,shirt hair from are cute too especially if you put flowers in it or a headband or just nothing.
I have never been one to have issues growing my hair . Ive grown my hair to my waist in 1 year Its not hard but I think each person is different tho and alot of things play a part whether you achieve your hair goals or not . Genetics for one and how you take care of your hair for one products not so much but you should get a set of products you like and stick with them. I think with you instead of focusing on having long hair maybe try focusing on having health hair. No matter what the length of your hair is and shrinkage is just something you will have to learn to deal with. Its not the end of the world . If you want straight have maybe do a silk press or relax it then you can see the length better I have seen women with beautiful healthy relaxed straighten hair . Another thing you could try is locs also Something else I you mentioned you keep your hair in braids for 7 months I think thats kinda long time to wear your hair in braids . I know others who do that and swear by it but myself personally I dont think its a good thing to do hair need to be washed and clean frequently
I’ve been natural for over 8 years and tbh, I thought my hair would be longer by now. I’ve started over twice, I’ve tried so many methods and routines. I try to trim regularly and keep my ends in check. I don’t use too many products, I used to be a product junkie. If I could wear dookie braids and not care, I would and my hair would probably be longer. I’m still trying to find protective styles that are both pretty and protective but without added hair. It’s frustrating. I’ve accepted my texture, 4c. I accept the shrinkage, and I accept my fine hair. Can it just be long at least?
I’m like you, I’ve had short hair my whole life and even when I went natural it still got to one basic point and stopped. Ofcourse the general thought is if my hair isn’t growing it must be something I’m doing, but I’ve tried techniques that involve doing a lot and tried techniques that involve leaving hair alone. People praise both methods and yet neither really works better than another for me 🤷🏾♀️ I protective style, I let it free, I deep condition, wash regularly, or don’t wash. Just is what it is
Unrelated to the topic but, Danielle, you are so so stunning!😍
My hair is about shoulder length but my goal is midback, but overall I want healthy hair
I’ve personally given up the long hair part of my journey because it was just adding on stress in an area I didn’t need it. I had accidentally cut some of my hair during a style and had a whole breakdown about it and realized it not conducive to my quality of life. Now I just want it to be healthy and I trim my hair quite liberally cuz it grows back and as long as it’s doing it’s healthy thing idc anymore lol.
And with Covid all of our hair went through it, my hair was more dense pre pandemic than post with a whole two year difference. It just is what it is.
Girl how your hair supposed to grow if it’s in passion twists for 7 months. It’s gotta breathe at some point! It needs a break! If anything that would probably cause some breakage.
My issue with shrinkage is that I miss it. My hair is heat damaged at the root and ends and when I style it humidity makes the ends fall straight with slight bend to it and the middle gets frizzy. I miss you that type of fro
Honestly I don’t even wear my hair in typical natural styles anymore because of shrinkage. I just minitwist and throw it up in updos… I’m waiting for Godiva hair too lol. Then when it’s stretched Godiva it will be shoulder length Tracee Ellis Ross lmbo
I have locs now but my 4c Fro really started growing huge when I understood and treated it as a plant that grows upwards not down. What do plants need?. Water. So I’d spray water on it day and night, leaving my twists ( no extensions) in. Using oil kind of but not too much each week. It’s why my locs are still growing. For bald spot I use 1/6 apple cider vinegar a and water in a spray bottle. I also had to let go of the idea of shrinkage and embrace wearing my hair in its shrunken state so I wouldn’t pull it and accidentally abuse it. Basically 4c hair is like magical clay. For the clay to be moldable and usable and not break you constantly apply water, which ironically is something I as a young black girl was taught to avoid. Hope that helps.
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Rain water!! Helps my hair to shine and makes it unbelievably soft. So I’ll stand in it then rinse my hair. This helps if you live in a place with hard water👌🏼😉
I love being in the rain with my hair out, my hair loves it, I believe it’s because rain is naturally slightly acidic in nature, and hair and scalp is naturally acidic as well
@@vastya.3255 yesss. Lmao do people look at you like your crazy? Cus some of my friends and family don’t believe me and thinks rain water in your head by choice is just weird.
@@mickeydemas lol yea my mom, everytime I’m in the garden with my hair out she is like what are you doing out there! 😂 I won’t do it when it’s cold outside like right now cuz I tend to get sick faster but when it’s end of spring/summer and it’s raining? I’m outsideee!
@@vastya.3255 my mom will just be staring at me rolling her eyes like “where did I go wrong”?😂
When it’s cold I put a bowl outside to catch it and then strain it.
My 4c hair in 10 years retained maybe 12 inches!!! Then I got cancer, went bald, didn't die..yay!, then that 1st year, it grew 6 whole inches and it had grown back as 3c texture (chemo curls!). So easy to manage omg, no breakage. Then it mysteriously fell out started shedding and I had to cut it back to 1 inch and start over. Now it's grown back now 3-4 inches in 6 months and it's now kinda 4a texture. Still much easier to manage and retain length than my previous 4c.
For the longest I didn’t care too much about shrinkage but now my hair is tailbone length and shrinks up to my collar bone and I just wish it would be somewhere along my back when curly
Yeah idc I'm shamelessly not over it. I'm in a race to hit waist length before this year ends.
I’ve truly given up lol. I’ve had my hair in “pro thrive styles and guess what… had to cut off 2-3 inches when I took them out and it’s like back to where I started the beginning off the year so all that for what?? Anyways leaving my hair out for now and just doing wash and go. But the shrinkage omg I can’t it makes me hate myself 😅 I lowkey wanna be a straight natural or “heat trained” but I love my curls and don’t want to lose it. I’m thinking of maybe going back to wigs cause I can keeep them in for a short period of time and take care of my scalp too.
I know you’re saying your hair isn’t stretched but considering it was in twists it would be somewhat stretched.
But your hair grown so much and it really looks great.
I don’t have 4C hair but my hair shrinks a lot. I always look like I have short hair and it does bother me. Over the years my hair has not gotten longer but it has gotten Bigger. When my hair is wet, it can reach bra strap when it dries it it up to my ears. I feel like a poodle dog most days. Plus I moved to South Carolina so the humidity is not on my side.
I’m so over this hair thing. I have fine, thin density hair plus Alopecia. My styling is limited unless I wear wigs & weaves. Over it!
Can you do some fun colors with your braids, like white or light pink?
I’m so tired of my natural hair. I’ve learned my hair does best when natural but blown out or mostly stretched. Unfortunately it’s been mostly a tangled mess since summer. I’ve all but given up. Just ugh.
I stoped worring about a lot of stuff about my hair... I just wash, condition and hair foam 2 a week (with good formulated products) and my hair is better than before almost mid back ... I'm not oiling, buttering it, diys etc sometimes simple is better.
My hair isn't growing either 😢
I'm thinking about just chopping it off again 🤔
I’m thinking about a curly perm. I don’t like the way my hair looked relaxed but I liked how low maintenance it was.
Your hair is growing. Maybe you’re experiencing breakage or your hair just shrinks so it looks like it’s not growing. Just blow it out and see the length every 3 months or so
You are just beautiful🤩👑
For the last 2 years or so my hair has been somewhere between midback and waist length. It just never quite gets to waist length. I trim about 3 times a year maybe 4. I basically trim when my ends start misbehaving. My hair is very coily and shrinks a lot. If I don't stretch it, my wash and go is around chin length. Stretched I can get it to my shoulders. Granted, I don't only stretch for length but also to avoid knots and tangles. I think I would be happy with my length if I could get my unstretched wash& go to my shoulders...how long would my hair have to be for that to happen? 🤷
I am not going to lie, when the pandemic hit and we were stuck at home. I was obsessed with hair length at one point the moment I became natural. I felt like I was doing something wrong but 2-3 years later my hair is halfway to my bra strap (which is my goal)
Eliminate single strand knots, use chebe powder regularly. Just on hair not scalp. Moisturize!
Try a keratin? I love them
miss mam do what i do and thats a perm rod set and stretch it
But shrinkage is apart of having natural hair. It’s what differentiates us from straight hair cultures. I feel that you’re starting to get obsessive about length which is understandable given how much stress society has placed on it. But I feel that if you start feeling the need to conform to societal standards, you start to lose the “fun” and the “love” that you have for your natural hair.
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It is frustrating.
And my hope account is overdrawn.
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I think you should 🙏 and ask God to show you what you can do and what you shouldn't do
Try wearing your hair straight if you want to see length
The best thing to do is invest in some really good weave that has the same or close texture and have a professional stylist install and teach you how to maintain. No shame and will save everyone stress. It will also help with stop constantly pulling on your natural hair and putting countless chemicals/products weighing down your cuticles. Or why are you not using heat or rollers to set and stretch out your hair that will emphasize the true length. It seems like every video is the same, why not try other techniques?
I think that instead of focusing on length try to focus on having healthy hair . There is nothing wrong with shrinkage . Its an issue when you start to obsessed over your hair constantly that isnt good I dont understand those who always worry about length . Focus on healthy hair first Length comes later
Breakage is my downfall. We have to baby and protect our 4c strands with soft manipulation day after day.
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... my hair does the same
So…. It’s been months now… I thought you were going to start doing other type of content. Can you start vlogging or something?
Damn I’m early early
Hi Danielle. My name is Jada. I am a texture expert. I work at Ulta Beauty in Hammond, LA, and I would live to help.
I stopped caring about my hair looking long a long time ago. I care about my hair being healthy. I think its cool that our hair can be waist length and shrink above our shoulders. 🤷🏿♀️
I love shrinkage. 🥰
I just realized the real issue black women need to address isn't our length obsession, every race of women obsesses about length, but our need for our length to present like it does for other races of women. Our need for our hair to look long in the way it does for others, i.e., hanging down our backs.
This! If you have friends of other races (or just watch non-black UA-camrs) you will see that most women of all races desire long hair. Myself included. In my 4C journey, I accept that my hair will not be silky or flowing down my back. That is simply not how our hair works. I'm cool with it because when I step back and see all of the 4C queens with voluminous, puffy manes I am like, "that's so badass and regal." Also it seems that once the hair reaches a certain length it begins to "drop".
Yeah it is something I have to check-in with myself frequently. I want long hair, but also love my hair is big and mostly healthy so long for me is going to be different for someone else
This.
What's wrong with that? 😔
@@annt.7785 there is nothing “wrong” with it, but that’s not how it grows out of most black women’s heads. It gets big it goes up not down.