Unfortunately, coworkers know what they are doing. I don’t believe in the leading by example or being naive when dealing with a toxic coworker. Go to work, do your job, keep those coworkers at bay (work related conversation only, nothing personal) get paid and go home. That’s it and that’s all.
Having solid boundaries helps! And toxic coworkers are another story, they mean the harm they cause either because of underlying personal issues and/or self hatred.
The 2 main things I learned in the past 15yrs about working: It's not worth being a shift lead or supervisor at a job you're not the owner of. You'll just be a glorified babysitter with a false sense of power. Coworkers will act like they want to be friends only to gossip about you. Just go to work, do a good job and go home. It's important to have a full personal life so you don't get caught up with flip floppy ppl at work.
I had several coworkers not only make me look bad but influenced management to have me be investigated & try to get me fired, they were A-holes, & caused me the loss of a promotion & I ended up with c-ptsd & nothing bad has happened to any of them in fact they got commendations. They WERE malicious & did it with intent. I ended up quitting because my physical health became affected as well. I have years of documentation but I was told it wasn't valid.
Toxic coworkers are a whole other story. Be have to differentiate toxic coworkers and work environment from typical ones were people are annoying but will intentioned 💜
I went through the exact same thing at the hands of a bunch of coworkers - who were backed up by management - so Inhad nowhere to turn. It takes time - a long time to recover but also now wary and keep my distance.
I think that many coworkers just don't see it as bad to mistreat their coworkers. They're just naturally selfish and self-consumed. In their mind: Why would they consider how their words and actions impact others?
Yes! A coworker became absolutely unhinged about something yesterday (where I had done the right thing and been rewarded for it and they couldn't stand it), and I just kept thinking to myself, "I'm learning A LOT about you right now. Not from what others are saying ABOUT you, but from your own actions and what you are SHOWING me yourself". I choose to pity this person. It's really so sad for them.
No weapon formed against me shall prosper any toungue that rises against me will be condemend “Because he[b] loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. Psalm 91
6:00 Remaining calm and professional prevented damage to my reputation. My job has a very flat hierarchy. So my toxic coworker's reputation was already established, documented, and known by management. So by establishing myself as someone who had potential AND did not escalate with the coworker, his complaints were ignored. Management is aware that coworker really dislikes me and immediately assumes any criticism of me is nonsense. It's still not a great situation but the damage is very much contained
I think the workplace is highly competitive, maybe they are looking for a promotion or simply just think they are better than anyone else. I find the best thing to do, is take no notice of them
Hahahahaha yes. This happened to me yesterday, and the aftermath was everyone else in the office consoling me and then I actually felt MORE comraderie from everyone else except the toxic person. And after they went and talked to our boss behind closed doors about the whole thing, my boss came right out and re-engaged me about the work we needed to accomplish that day. And I responded with work answers. To the other person it had this air of, "Well that wasn't important, now that you're done ranting and raving about a non-thing, we've got actual work to do."
Can I tell on a job interview that I left my previous job because of the toxicity of my co-workers? And also that I was bullied and put in a bad situation so other workers could get noticed and phrased making me doing their dirty jobs and sacrifice my mental and physical health?
@@JenniferBrick Thank you so much ❤️ I'm in the situation of handing my notice over just after 5 months because I'm in an extremely toxic environment and I go to work in tears ,I am at work in tears and I come home in tears.
I wouldn't personally, I learned from a teacher a long time ago - that regardless of what your co workers do , you never react and jobs want you to be a team player.. even if your not .. if they ever ask you prefer teams or by your self you choose team work and it Expresses you cannot get along with your co workers . I've been through it before in a job and school .. just make sure you are doing your job and pick your battles.. I actually made them look like fools for them not letting me use a rf gun and pushing me aside to make sure it looked like I was standing around .. I looked at patterns of the product and moved the work anyways and then showed them the labels were color coded .. only once I had to tell a co worker I dont need you to do my job for me and because I stood up to him he actually was alot nicer to me .. as for interviews I usually say I'm seeking out better opportunities. Be the better person.
Love your channel! I would love to see a topic on when you’re dealing with MULTIPLE toxic coworkers. Idk if this has been covered already. But I’m dealing with a super toxic environment in the legal world where it’s one person who is the ring leader and has several followers sometimes even our boss. It’s bad. I’m exhausted from being on edge all the damn time. I just had my 6 year anniversary bc this job is the best I’ve had so far in my career and I’m really good which is why like you said my boss doesn’t pay much attention but they try to sabotage me and all this crazy stuff bc I am the shining star on the team and the Chief of staff so I have to lead. It’s very bizarre.
It's why I do the old fashion CYA (cover your ass). Emails and Slack are good tools. Receipts to back up why you did something, especially if told to me by a co worker or boss.
😂 even the petty/"low class" jobs bring you drama Cashier/janitor/stock "drone" @ supermarkets/ But I was a young dude with a ansgty/hot headedness personality Mind you I'm in great shape & have novice experiences in boxing When I was younger I would risk my "low class" job for some petty disrespect
My boss wanted to get a promoted to Director. Instead they hired a person from outside to fill the position as his new boss. The new Director has a lot of good ideas, much of which involve changes to how my boss does things. I am getting stuck in the middle, as my boss expects me to badmouth the new guy and continue doing things the old way. Now my boss is nitpicking my work and berating me to make himself feel better. He apologizes for going off on me, then readily does it again. I'm done.
I'm seeing the start of this with not just one, but two coworkers. I made a mistake which to be honest, anybody could have made as two boxes were labelled exactly the same but one had an older product inside. When the customer picked it up, my coworker emailed me and made it out to be a huge problem even though the customer laughed about it. Unfortunately, my coworker copied in about ten people into the email, including my boss.
Do you have a video about managers setting you up to fire you? I have a new full time job where the overall company culture is fantastic AND I'm not in a toxic sales environment. #WorkWithComputersNotPeople 😊
I have this issue. Demeaning me. Also tale telling to the boss which resulted me getting a bollicking. I walked oiut. Shes caused me alot of problems now.
Yup, my much younger than me and immature supervisor :)))) Whatever I say or do, not say or not do, is being talked about with others, interpreted and misinterpreted. Nothing but gossip, and it's tiring and disappointing. Moving forward... if you know what I mean.
I prefer the "let them make mistakes" and stay silent strategy. She made herself look bad because I didn't respond, and left 11 momthst later I do like the voodoo doll idea though
please i resigned in march then i withdraw it i was scarred of uknown , now i feel regrett and it was good decision so now i want quit again , i feel it is hard for me cuz i gave my word to my manager to stay , also the company has some internal rules , they are playing between to use reprisal to employees who are troubling or quiting , any advice how i can resign this time without any harm
Unfortunately they know what they are doing u can show them some forgoten duties in order to settle the regular timeline for those duties then they respond: ooh it's a good idea u can do it u're self 😂if u need help let us know😑 as if it's a faver they are doing for u like its not their job😡
Well, I'm getting undermined by an old hag at work and I wouldn't have known about it if it weren't for others who made statements on my behalf. She's bullied others including insubordinating other supervisors and then began to target me initially bitching behind my back that I "don't deserve my job" before I achieved a promotion. She'll hide behind constructive criticism but most see what she's doing. I think she sees me as a soft target because I believe in having somewhat of an interpersonal dimension to leadership and perhaps seem too easy going or perhaps lost. She's the bully type that only see the task although she doesn't know I'm a veteran so I can play that game better than her because she cannot hope to team build with anybody except her nepots.
It's too late... I've already reacted in a way that made me look bad. Edit: I've been put on a "PIP" and I know it's just a matter of time before they terminate me. I work in a toxic environment. They "are out to get me" and I'm not being paranoid. My reaction was definitely not calm and professional. I just "lost it" because I've been dealing with this type of behavior for years. My boss took what my coworker said (that I said) and used it to accuse me and humiliate me in front the entire office. This is just an intolerable situation that will end one way or another with me leaving the company.
I figure a lot of these companies pay so little for the amount of bullshit you put up with.I figure they only pay me $18.50 + benefits which is very little for the amount of work I’m expected to do. Life shouldn’t be this stressful & hard. I just learn as much as I can & do my best. The only thing that keeps me going is my connection to God & prayer for peace & serenity.
We have to deal with a different type of insecure personality with a narcissistic disorder. A passive-agressive bully, basically. She's a restaurant team leader, not mine, but as I cover breaks etc. in the restaurant, I had to suffer her crap. Her trademark is that she has to make a news announcement out of every single tiny thing she does. Probably you know this type of person: dropped out of education at 16, but whatever the topic is in a random conversation, she needs to act as a "subject matter expert" (a "know-it-all" as one of my ex-coworkers classified her simply). In a nutshell, her minority complex feeds her need to "outperform" everybody else in the most sinister kinds of way. She needs to show off her "expertise" in front of others (customers or co-workers), trying to make us co-workers look like an imbecile in comparison. This has lead to a number of confrontations and shout-outs over the years - in those cases, her trick was to always pose as the victim in the scenario, run and cry in the office to our line manager till even she got bored (they are "friends" anyway - that is how she got into a position of some power in the first place, in case you've wondered). Suffice it to say, by carrying on being the drama queen, she ended up with no respect at all in our work environment. Everybody's ridiculing her these days, she even became a constant joke among customers because of her loud mouth and appearance (to quote one, "The restaurant's so quiet today - is the fat one off today?"). As they say, "What goes around, comes around."
Remember Charity begins at home when you brought out to be good person of your parents you will be positive with etiquette inside your office But when your brought up in a house full of braggart bitches by your parents with no etiquette no discipline and a gossiper nosy entitled Karen co worker Surely you will clash the etiquette worker doing her job and a bad mean bitch worker you will end up in a situation They have group of so called hypocrite friends to destroy you some are being personal They forgot to be professional,some are social climbers That's the reason I don't accept friend request in Facebook in the office they're just curious about your status
Some colleague when discussing are good to misinterpret. u need to pay more attention when discussing...and what u're telling them for ex.u can ask:'' can we make a group for our residents to discuss in order to break theirs loneliness ?we can do manicule and all funny women moments😁 then she may respond yes, it's been a while without doing my manicule 😶🙄 to make u feel that u're idea will be instead a relaxing moment for workers more than a moment for those who are suppose to benefite🙄
What tip would you add to the list?
Avoid 1:1, undocumented meetings/calls when possible. When unavoidable, send a summary of the conversation via email and immediately after.
Yes! So important!
@@raquelsaraswati3681 That's a great idea.
Just ignore them.
Anyone dumb enough to judge you by subjective opinions from others is not worth the effort anyways.
@@JenniferBrick call the police have the bully locked up and fire the manager.
Unfortunately, coworkers know what they are doing. I don’t believe in the leading by example or being naive when dealing with a toxic coworker. Go to work, do your job, keep those coworkers at bay (work related conversation only, nothing personal) get paid and go home. That’s it and that’s all.
Having solid boundaries helps! And toxic coworkers are another story, they mean the harm they cause either because of underlying personal issues and/or self hatred.
@@JenniferBrick Yes, I tend to keep strict boundaries between personal and professional. I am not interested in being friends.
It saves a lot of drama. 🦙
Yes!
@@JenniferBrick true!
The 2 main things I learned in the past 15yrs about working:
It's not worth being a shift lead or supervisor at a job you're not the owner of. You'll just be a glorified babysitter with a false sense of power.
Coworkers will act like they want to be friends only to gossip about you. Just go to work, do a good job and go home. It's important to have a full personal life so you don't get caught up with flip floppy ppl at work.
My favorite thing to say to toxic coworkers is, "My work speaks for itself. Period."
I had several coworkers not only make me look bad but influenced management to have me be investigated & try to get me fired, they were A-holes, & caused me the loss of a promotion & I ended up with c-ptsd & nothing bad has happened to any of them in fact they got commendations. They WERE malicious & did it with intent. I ended up quitting because my physical health became affected as well. I have years of documentation but I was told it wasn't valid.
Workplace mobbing. At that point, you have get out to save your life. Not worth it. When a cluster of narcissists go after their target.
Toxic coworkers are a whole other story. Be have to differentiate toxic coworkers and work environment from typical ones were people are annoying but will intentioned 💜
I went through the exact same thing at the hands of a bunch of coworkers - who were backed up by management - so Inhad nowhere to turn. It takes time - a long time to recover but also now wary and keep my distance.
You should also record comversations!!! I have documentation as well as recordings. When its get ugly, they'll be in deep shit!!
@@lamzy3773 be careful, that's not always legal.
It does work when your supervisor believes them
I think that many coworkers just don't see it as bad to mistreat their coworkers. They're just naturally selfish and self-consumed. In their mind: Why would they consider how their words and actions impact others?
Great points! People’s actions are a reflection of themselves more than they are reflection of you.
Totally agree with you!!
❤️
Yes! A coworker became absolutely unhinged about something yesterday (where I had done the right thing and been rewarded for it and they couldn't stand it), and I just kept thinking to myself, "I'm learning A LOT about you right now. Not from what others are saying ABOUT you, but from your own actions and what you are SHOWING me yourself". I choose to pity this person. It's really so sad for them.
I need help transitioning from a toxic work environment to a healthy/collaborative work environment.
Same here
Me too
No weapon formed against me shall prosper any toungue that rises against me will be condemend “Because he[b] loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him;
I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. Psalm 91
This is the only answer!
Amen
be confident ...do ur work
6:00 Remaining calm and professional prevented damage to my reputation.
My job has a very flat hierarchy. So my toxic coworker's reputation was already established, documented, and known by management. So by establishing myself as someone who had potential AND did not escalate with the coworker, his complaints were ignored.
Management is aware that coworker really dislikes me and immediately assumes any criticism of me is nonsense. It's still not a great situation but the damage is very much contained
I think the workplace is highly competitive, maybe they are looking for a promotion or simply just think they are better than anyone else. I find the best thing to do, is take no notice of them
Love this, I have great coworkers but sometimes I get paranoid so this helps, especially the perspectives you give!
I'm glad you work with good people, and that you still find my videos helpful 🥰
Hahahahaha yes. This happened to me yesterday, and the aftermath was everyone else in the office consoling me and then I actually felt MORE comraderie from everyone else except the toxic person. And after they went and talked to our boss behind closed doors about the whole thing, my boss came right out and re-engaged me about the work we needed to accomplish that day. And I responded with work answers. To the other person it had this air of, "Well that wasn't important, now that you're done ranting and raving about a non-thing, we've got actual work to do."
I wish it were true that "when it's a fact, no one can deny it."
Can I tell on a job interview that I left my previous job because of the toxicity of my co-workers? And also that I was bullied and put in a bad situation so other workers could get noticed and phrased making me doing their dirty jobs and sacrifice my mental and physical health?
I have a video on how to answer! ua-cam.com/video/KACBp7tb6jA/v-deo.html
@@JenniferBrick Thank you so much ❤️ I'm in the situation of handing my notice over just after 5 months because I'm in an extremely toxic environment and I go to work in tears ,I am at work in tears and I come home in tears.
I wouldn't personally, I learned from a teacher a long time ago - that regardless of what your co workers do , you never react and jobs want you to be a team player.. even if your not .. if they ever ask you prefer teams or by your self you choose team work and it Expresses you cannot get along with your co workers . I've been through it before in a job and school .. just make sure you are doing your job and pick your battles.. I actually made them look like fools for them not letting me use a rf gun and pushing me aside to make sure it looked like I was standing around .. I looked at patterns of the product and moved the work anyways and then showed them the labels were color coded .. only once I had to tell a co worker I dont need you to do my job for me and because I stood up to him he actually was alot nicer to me .. as for interviews I usually say I'm seeking out better opportunities. Be the better person.
Love your channel! I would love to see a topic on when you’re dealing with MULTIPLE toxic coworkers. Idk if this has been covered already. But I’m dealing with a super toxic environment in the legal world where it’s one person who is the ring leader and has several followers sometimes even our boss. It’s bad. I’m exhausted from being on edge all the damn time. I just had my 6 year anniversary bc this job is the best I’ve had so far in my career and I’m really good which is why like you said my boss doesn’t pay much attention but they try to sabotage me and all this crazy stuff bc I am the shining star on the team and the Chief of staff so I have to lead. It’s very bizarre.
I like you… it’s something cool about you. Thanks for the content
It's why I do the old fashion CYA (cover your ass). Emails and Slack are good tools. Receipts to back up why you did something, especially if told to me by a co worker or boss.
You know I'm all about those receipts!
😂 even the petty/"low class" jobs bring you drama
Cashier/janitor/stock "drone" @ supermarkets/
But I was a young dude with a ansgty/hot headedness personality
Mind you I'm in great shape & have novice experiences in boxing
When I was younger I would risk my "low class" job for some petty disrespect
Is it your "Llama Drama" or your "Drama Llama"? - J/k ... Not trying to micromanage you. LOL, 😂
My boss wanted to get a promoted to Director. Instead they hired a person from outside to fill the position as his new boss. The new Director has a lot of good ideas, much of which involve changes to how my boss does things. I am getting stuck in the middle, as my boss expects me to badmouth the new guy and continue doing things the old way. Now my boss is nitpicking my work and berating me to make himself feel better. He apologizes for going off on me, then readily does it again. I'm done.
Great work jennifer! love the humor
I was in a salty mood when I filmed this one 🤣
I'm seeing the start of this with not just one, but two coworkers. I made a mistake which to be honest, anybody could have made as two boxes were labelled exactly the same but one had an older product inside. When the customer picked it up, my coworker emailed me and made it out to be a huge problem even though the customer laughed about it. Unfortunately, my coworker copied in about ten people into the email, including my boss.
Do you have a video about managers setting you up to fire you?
I have a new full time job where the overall company culture is fantastic AND I'm not in a toxic sales environment. #WorkWithComputersNotPeople 😊
I have one coming soon!!
Great advice that I've put into practice the past 10 years w/ a toxic coworker.
No. I addressed them head on and they flat out said they pretty much hated me without knowing me. 😂
I have this issue. Demeaning me. Also tale telling to the boss which resulted me getting a bollicking. I walked oiut. Shes caused me alot of problems now.
Yup, my much younger than me and immature supervisor :)))) Whatever I say or do, not say or not do, is being talked about with others, interpreted and misinterpreted. Nothing but gossip, and it's tiring and disappointing. Moving forward... if you know what I mean.
I did not get solution how to respond to bad coworkers in this video
Sometimes not responding is the best response
I prefer the "let them make mistakes" and stay silent strategy. She made herself look bad because I didn't respond, and left 11 momthst later
I do like the voodoo doll idea though
this is what m doing right now
When you say alsoooo my heart skips 72 beats
please i resigned in march then i withdraw it i was scarred of uknown , now i feel regrett and it was good decision so now i want quit again , i feel it is hard for me cuz i gave my word to my manager to stay , also the company has some internal rules , they are playing between to use reprisal to employees who are troubling or quiting , any advice how i can resign this time without any harm
G what a nightmare!
I been call on my days off because she winnings so childish
I see frankness with you which is kind of scarce on UA-cam
I call balls and strikes 🤷🏼♀️
Hope you enjoy 😃
Not the “A-Hole Coworker” LOL
Haha glad you enjoyed
Thanks a lot Ms.Jennifer!Good Morning!
Unfortunately they know what they are doing u can show them some forgoten duties in order to settle the regular timeline for those duties then they respond: ooh it's a good idea u can do it u're self 😂if u need help let us know😑 as if it's a faver they are doing for u like its not their job😡
Well, I'm getting undermined by an old hag at work and I wouldn't have known about it if it weren't for others who made statements on my behalf. She's bullied others including insubordinating other supervisors and then began to target me initially bitching behind my back that I "don't deserve my job" before I achieved a promotion.
She'll hide behind constructive criticism but most see what she's doing. I think she sees me as a soft target because I believe in having somewhat of an interpersonal dimension to leadership and perhaps seem too easy going or perhaps lost.
She's the bully type that only see the task although she doesn't know I'm a veteran so I can play that game better than her because she cannot hope to team build with anybody except her nepots.
what if they went to hr and said you were bullying, when you weren't? it's not a good feeling, at all. esp when you were never doing it!
Fear works well if u are a 💪 vet. They think u might go postal
It's too late... I've already reacted in a way that made me look bad. Edit: I've been put on a "PIP" and I know it's just a matter of time before they terminate me. I work in a toxic environment. They "are out to get me" and I'm not being paranoid. My reaction was definitely not calm and professional. I just "lost it" because I've been dealing with this type of behavior for years. My boss took what my coworker said (that I said) and used it to accuse me and humiliate me in front the entire office. This is just an intolerable situation that will end one way or another with me leaving the company.
If i curse them nobody would know😏
I figure a lot of these companies pay so little for the amount of bullshit you put up with.I figure they only pay me $18.50 + benefits which is very little for the amount of work I’m expected to do. Life shouldn’t be this stressful & hard. I just learn as much as I can & do my best. The only thing that keeps me going is my connection to God & prayer for peace & serenity.
We have to deal with a different type of insecure personality with a narcissistic disorder. A passive-agressive bully, basically. She's a restaurant team leader, not mine, but as I cover breaks etc. in the restaurant, I had to suffer her crap. Her trademark is that she has to make a news announcement out of every single tiny thing she does. Probably you know this type of person: dropped out of education at 16, but whatever the topic is in a random conversation, she needs to act as a "subject matter expert" (a "know-it-all" as one of my ex-coworkers classified her simply).
In a nutshell, her minority complex feeds her need to "outperform" everybody else in the most sinister kinds of way. She needs to show off her "expertise" in front of others (customers or co-workers), trying to make us co-workers look like an imbecile in comparison. This has lead to a number of confrontations and shout-outs over the years - in those cases, her trick was to always pose as the victim in the scenario, run and cry in the office to our line manager till even she got bored (they are "friends" anyway - that is how she got into a position of some power in the first place, in case you've wondered).
Suffice it to say, by carrying on being the drama queen, she ended up with no respect at all in our work environment. Everybody's ridiculing her these days, she even became a constant joke among customers because of her loud mouth and appearance (to quote one, "The restaurant's so quiet today - is the fat one off today?").
As they say, "What goes around, comes around."
Remember Charity begins at home when you brought out to be good person of your parents you will be positive with etiquette inside your office
But when your brought up in a house full of braggart bitches by your parents with no etiquette no discipline and a gossiper nosy entitled Karen co worker
Surely you will clash the etiquette worker doing her job and a bad mean bitch worker you will end up in a situation
They have group of so called hypocrite friends to destroy you some are being personal
They forgot to be professional,some are social climbers
That's the reason I don't accept friend request in Facebook in the office they're just curious about your status
Some colleague when discussing are good to misinterpret. u need to pay more attention when discussing...and what u're telling them for ex.u can ask:'' can we make a group for our residents to discuss in order to break theirs loneliness ?we can do manicule and all funny women moments😁 then she may respond yes, it's been a while without doing my manicule 😶🙄 to make u feel that u're idea will be instead a relaxing moment for workers more than a moment for those who are suppose to benefite🙄
👍
What's that sound of talking in the BACKGROUND? It's extremely annoying.
There's a global pandemic and I live and work at home with a collection of humans big and small 🤷🏼♀️
@@JenniferBrick got it, God bless
Sevage
the delivery is very annoying - just saying
Your rudeness is very annoying- just saying.
My I request your email add. To ask certain work scenario that happened to me.