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    00:00 - 00:29 - Introduction
    00:30 - 01:09 - Musical Examples
    01:10 - 02:52 - Current Drama
    02:53 - 04:32 - Legal Eagle's Advice
    04:44 - 05:29 - Let's Continue
    05:30 - 06:29 - Icons
    06:30 - 10:49 - Taylor Swift
    10:50 - 11:09 - Outro

КОМЕНТАРІ • 900

  • @DiegoSita
    @DiegoSita Рік тому +22

    THIS! My ex broke up with me 18 months ago. Since then I wrote an entire album which I believe it's the best work I've done so far. It still need a lot of tweaking but the overall ideas are make me finaly feel proud of myself. I always used to say the best songs are the ones written when the artists are sad, especially when heartbroken.

  • @JasonKnowsPodcast
    @JasonKnowsPodcast Рік тому +42

    You know how smart you are; you scare me! So on target with niche topic, celebrity storyline; personal reflection, and guest tie in with another of my favorite YT personalities! You are hitting all cylinders with this one! The Amazing Mary Spender!!!

  • @benboo6351
    @benboo6351 Рік тому +28

    On a different note, Laura Marling gave co writer credits to her partner because she used a chord progression that he'd practiced over and over

  • @DukeOfTwist
    @DukeOfTwist Рік тому +59

    “In The Air Tonight” by Phil Collins immediately comes to mind. Must be hard for him to relive the emotion of that in every performance.

    • @sapsfm
      @sapsfm Рік тому +5

      Especially with the cans of paint on display with every performance at that time. Kudos to him for the mastery of unsubtle digs.

    • @aburrows2008
      @aburrows2008 Рік тому +8

      I Don't Care Anymore is an even better example of emotion by Phil Collins

    • @jerrypeal653
      @jerrypeal653 Рік тому

      All the way to the bank .

    • @stevem-h3562
      @stevem-h3562 Рік тому

      If you think that one is raw, take a look at the Classic Albums footage of him trying to play a song which didnt even end up on Face Value, but did end up on Genesis' Duke album, namely Please Dont Ask.
      That was decades after and it was still obviously raw. He couldnt finish it. You can see it in his face.

    • @dominantprime
      @dominantprime Рік тому +1

      @@aburrows2008 yep some of the live performances of 'I Don't Care Anymore' I've seen, he really builds up the emotion through the song until it explodes into rage in the end, gives me chills.

  • @j_yh
    @j_yh Рік тому +96

    What a wonderful topic and brilliant execution. There’s probably a lot more that could be said on this and many many more examples. Perhaps someday you can do a part two. Thank you.

    • @robcunningham8908
      @robcunningham8908 Рік тому +3

      Yes please - this was fantastic!

    • @77chickox
      @77chickox Рік тому +2

      Excellent description of the topic and well delivered. In other words good song writing and well sung.

  • @JochenVogel
    @JochenVogel Рік тому +118

    "I'll never date a musician!" I've heard that so often and even said it myself occasionally. And now I spend my life with a wonderful musician, who is definitely at least of equal talent; and I wouldn't want it any other way. We have even recorded two CDs together as "The BirdHouse".
    In my wilder days I did dedicate quite a few songs to my ex-partners, but I wrote them as instrumentals. That helps avoiding the above-mentioned issues. ;-)

    • @frankshailes3205
      @frankshailes3205 Рік тому +4

      Next best thing, date a drummer: the musician's best friend (or just someone who hangs around with musicians, according to some)...

    • @bulltastik
      @bulltastik Рік тому

      Good one👍🏼

    • @vetlerradio
      @vetlerradio Рік тому +8

      @@frankshailes3205 It's a weird saying though, most drummers I know can play at least 4 instruments (voice being an instrument).

    • @weehudyy
      @weehudyy Рік тому +9

      @@vetlerradio Yep , I have always been a singing drummer , I play the ukulele well enough to teach teenage schoolgirls , and busk ... I am a bad guitarist and bass player , love my piano ( which is after all , a percussion instrument ) I have a couple of fine arts degrees too ... but yeah ... drummers . One thing I will say is most people don't notice a good drummer but they sure as hell know when there is a bad one .

    • @frankshailes3205
      @frankshailes3205 Рік тому +2

      @@vetlerradio Yes, it's a bad joke. That's probably a big part of the joke itself.

  • @toneshepherd8300
    @toneshepherd8300 Рік тому +15

    In my approach, despite the hurt I experienced from my ex's "parting", I wrote songs about her strong points and the good times of the relationship rather than the hurt. Also, being somewhat obscure with the lyrics is like a privacy gate to me, the words could be interpreted in so many ways rather than making blatant clues... bad or good relationship, the relationship always started out beautifully, and it is the beautiful parts I keep for inspiration.

  • @courtclimbs
    @courtclimbs Рік тому +4

    The subtlety in this video is amazing.

  • @cloudsanddoubt
    @cloudsanddoubt Рік тому +30

    Got the Legal Eagle in!!
    Heartbreak is so universal, it's why I think songs like this resonate. I like it when they're more ubiquitous, and speak to feelings in your life :)

  • @shaigluskin1225
    @shaigluskin1225 Рік тому +34

    Beautifully coherent video that covers a lot of ground while also being personal. Well done Mary Spender!

  • @hulkslayer626
    @hulkslayer626 Рік тому +24

    Really really like the whole vibe of this video with the piano. And also really love when 2 UA-camrs I watch randomly do a collab 😁 Especially 2 you wouldn't expect to cross paths

  • @richegyud5419
    @richegyud5419 Рік тому +27

    This was great! I really enjoyed the style, the little stories, the minimalist piano music in the background, cutting the video back to the piano occasionally. More like this please.

  • @rbryanhull
    @rbryanhull Рік тому +5

    Your videos are so calm and soothing. Your voice sounds so safe and kind. Thank you for sometimes being a part of my self-care routine.

  • @fred993a
    @fred993a Рік тому +8

    Mary - This is your most intellectually brilliant video. Much of the greatest modern music is about the high and low of love!

  • @familycraftdad
    @familycraftdad Рік тому

    Love how you tied the background music to the flow of the foreground content! The moments of you commenting from the piano as you were playing really tied in the whole thing perfectly. Well well thought out video, color me impressed!

  • @BSPIVEY100
    @BSPIVEY100 Рік тому +2

    Mary,
    I'm not sure what I enjoy more. Listening to your music or your insights on life and the music industry. Keep them coming. These are great.

  • @JamesPorter
    @JamesPorter Рік тому +9

    Wow, this is a really good insight into emotion in songwriting. I do remember hearing something about Adele writing at her best after heartbreak or drama, but it's amazing to see how it can also play out in social media too. The legal implications of this is also quite fascinating, I can imagine that even truths about someone could hurt another person if it's not written anonymously. I'd prefer to take your stance of trying to keep it low key for any interpretation.
    I have played guitar for nearly 20 years, written songs but never written lyrics. However, I recently had a relatively brief but simply perfect time with someone who I'll never see again, and the following heartbreak actually made me write a song about that time. It's not great, but I wrote it in such a short time because I felt my feelings were just fuelling my writing. It was surreal. And I totally get it now especially with context from this video. So thanks I guess ☺️

  • @blakewilliams3702
    @blakewilliams3702 Рік тому +5

    One of your BEST videos. Thank you. And thank you for adding me to your guitar stories 18 months ago. That video was brought up at my uncle’s funeral. You’re the best. Thank you.

  • @davemcginn3794
    @davemcginn3794 Рік тому

    Excellent piece Mary. I think it's part of the pleasure as a listener to assume meaning or understanding of lyrics and empathise with the singer songwriter, your song "Amy" being a really beautiful example

  • @maxblack2347
    @maxblack2347 Рік тому

    The format and presentation was so nice and refreshing, wow, very nice

  • @elderhiker7787
    @elderhiker7787 Рік тому +7

    Excellent video, Mary. I’m one of those guys who is clueless. You explained the relationship connections of songs that I sung along to years ago and, of course, was totally unaware of their real-life implications. Of course, everybody was aware of the Warren Beatty connection in Carly Simons song, but going back in music history, the songs of Hank Williams were certainly a reflection of his emotional tribulations. But, again, this was a great video on your part. Great insights.

  • @xicanttl
    @xicanttl Рік тому +4

    Mary, you are so cool! First, the topic is pretty interesting but bringing in the Legal Eagle is also a pretty cool collab like many of your musical collabs. Great historical background that some of us 67 year old guys remember. Thanks

  • @edphaze6550
    @edphaze6550 Рік тому +2

    Looking forward to the new album, Mary! And, I wish you well.

  • @OliveOliFera
    @OliveOliFera Рік тому +2

    This was such an interesting video! Thank you!

  • @OuterGalaxyLounge
    @OuterGalaxyLounge Рік тому +4

    When two people I subscribe to suddenly collab out of the blue ... always a delight.

  • @bungopony
    @bungopony Рік тому +3

    Mary, this was a great subject to cover. As a songwriter myself, I have written about certain people in my life, but I always kept it poetic so that no one would know who that song, line or verse is about. Many of those are actually complimentary. Sometimes a song can be about a subject and within that subject, feature various people who come to mind. Without ever discussing people we've met through our short time here, we wouldn't have many interesting things to talk about.

  • @richardcamp8301
    @richardcamp8301 Рік тому +1

    A great listen. And very well written and balanced opinion. And congrats on the subscriber number - I hadnt noticed how its rocketed

  • @XOChristianaNicole
    @XOChristianaNicole Рік тому +1

    What a wonderful video, Mary.

  • @narglefargle
    @narglefargle Рік тому +3

    I totally understand this. A recent bad breakup cured my years-long writer's block, and now I hope to record an EP by the end of the year. Catharsis feels nice sometimes...but like you said, sometimes it's best to sit on those songs before entering the studio.

  • @johnhmaloney
    @johnhmaloney Рік тому +3

    Great video. I'm a big Legal Eagle fan, so it was a treat to see the two of you collaborating. I guess there's an upside to being an aromantic songwriter. I may miss out on a very fruitful (and often lucrative) topic for lyrics, but I don't have to worry about any of this. lol

  • @InspiredMoney
    @InspiredMoney Рік тому

    Love the storytelling in this video. Thank you!

  • @peterbondmusic
    @peterbondmusic Рік тому

    This is very thoughtful, and I really like the structure and editing.

  • @michaelenosmusic
    @michaelenosmusic Рік тому +75

    I remember the story back when Matchbox Twenty had a hit with Push that Rob Thomas' Ex girlfriend had the audacity to try to sue him for a writing credit because he wrote of his poor treatment by her.

    • @DeeEllEff
      @DeeEllEff Рік тому +8

      Good Lord. That suit got tossed out, I hope (and presume)?

    • @patrickmckibben1932
      @patrickmckibben1932 Рік тому +3

      I remember that. It made me chuckle a little. Because… how fitting, right? Poor guy and his abusive ex. He never said her by name so there really wasn’t any likeness rights. I don’t believe she got a red cent from that case, but I don’t remember how far that went.

    • @ajhieb
      @ajhieb Рік тому +12

      There was also so mild controversy over the song because some people misunderstood the lyrics. They assumed that _he_ was pushing _her_ around and they assumed this was "glorifying" physical abuse / domestic violence. That's fine. Mistakes happen. People misinterpret things. But some of the folks, upon being corrected _by Rob_ doubled down and insisted they knew better than him what his lyrics were about. Truly a fascinating case study into how one can get so involved with a cause that they end up seeing the world with blinders on.

    • @breifne555
      @breifne555 Рік тому +1

      Yep..I got a legal letter ref a claim on writing points from an ex and her sister. My defence was it was her mother. True story.

    • @drdre4397
      @drdre4397 Рік тому

      @@ajhieb well said.

  • @yacht199
    @yacht199 Рік тому +16

    really a big fan of the piano piece played here in the background...hope you continue to show us your talents on the keys. Additionally the storytelling here was quite good. Loved the introspective cuts interspersed.

    • @pendrew
      @pendrew Рік тому

      I am wondering what that piece was as well. Beautiful

    • @12LongShot
      @12LongShot Рік тому +1

      @@pendrew I believe the artist is David Nevue. He has a lot of beautiful solo piano albums.

    • @pendrew
      @pendrew Рік тому

      @@12LongShot thank you

  • @Just_Me_TG
    @Just_Me_TG Рік тому +1

    To me this is one of the most interesting, intriguing and captivating films you have made. I want to watch it again. Thank you! I'd love to see another one of that kind!

  • @jammergreg
    @jammergreg Рік тому

    Great post. Your are heading in the right direction. Love your writing, singing and playing…and easy on the eyes.

  • @anthonystevens8683
    @anthonystevens8683 Рік тому +6

    Very well done Mary. In these days of (anti) social media there is no stopping some laundry being aired. As a singer songwriter/ actor/ actress/ or any celebrity the general media will explode on anything even with the slightest vague implication of scandal rarely being held accountable for the results. My rule of thumb is date someone who is different from your professional self and you'll have so much more to share and grow.

  • @tonyeagle3912
    @tonyeagle3912 Рік тому +5

    Again Mary, you’ve approached a subject from a different angle and in real depth - brilliant! I know you have acting skills and your expression on this video cover image almost led me to believe you were in hot water somewhere, but thankfully appears not. Certainly you need to keep your guard especially in the music business. As you say, Social media adds to the labyrinth of reactions and possibilities especially in opening up cans of worms when you least expect it.

  • @scottcher
    @scottcher Рік тому

    Fantastic. So good and such a perfect piano accompaniment. Really outstanding content and a great execution. Clearly the result of a lot of work and passion for the topic.

  • @stickman55100
    @stickman55100 Рік тому

    Can’t wait to hear and download your new Album. Love your UA-cam posts.

  • @soulofash2112
    @soulofash2112 Рік тому +5

    One of my old band's biggest hits, "Nothing Gold Can Stay," was written about my previous band's vocalist, and some drama between us. We're famous mates now (was even the best man at his wedding), but be damned if it didn't give me a great song from the anger and pain I felt at the time.
    As to breakups, I've deliberately avoided writing anything about those, as the one time I did... I realized the way I write lyrics coupled with the way that style of song generally goes was not great.
    And say what you will about your song, Mary--it's an amazing piece, and one of my favorites of yours (granted there's quite a few of those)!
    I myself would love to date a songwriter. Then I'd never have to worry about writing lyrics (not my strong suit) again! :D

  • @andrewmize823
    @andrewmize823 Рік тому +6

    There's a line in a White Stripes song that goes something like "make sure you never do it with a singer, 'cause he'll tell everyone in the world what he was thinking about the girl." I think that goes double for famous singers with highly publicized breakups.

  • @fosterern
    @fosterern Рік тому

    Well done. Well said. You beautifully captured the nuance of this sensitive topic Mary.

  • @samfreedman6108
    @samfreedman6108 Рік тому +1

    Great little video essay!! Bravo!! 😀
    One safe subject, is to get ideas from other people's break ups and then write based on how you would feel in those situations.

  • @lewiscrow
    @lewiscrow Рік тому +54

    For years I've thought that dating Taylor Swift pretty much guarantees you'll end up as the subject of a song.

    • @Rick_Cleland
      @Rick_Cleland Рік тому

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @tele68
      @tele68 Рік тому +10

      Probably. But at least you could say you used to date Taylor Swift.

    • @cuber3603
      @cuber3603 Рік тому +1

      Seems like she's settled down now

    • @aitornavarro6597
      @aitornavarro6597 Рік тому

      I would her writing about me or break-up or whatever hah

    • @jokeassasin7733
      @jokeassasin7733 Рік тому

      2 ways to establish your mark on history.
      Do something worth writing about, or write something worth reading.

  • @tylerpalmer8973
    @tylerpalmer8973 Рік тому +22

    This was a pretty interesting video. As a teenager, anything I wrote musically was pretty much always about heartache. Now much, much, older, I don't write like I used to. When you're happy, it's so much harder to get that deep emotion out. But, hey, it's better to be happy and not be able to write, then miserable and writing all the time!
    BTW, I very much enjoy your story telling on the channel! I think I like it equally as much you music! Keep it up!

    • @franklee1205
      @franklee1205 Рік тому

      Which begs question 🤔 ...are artists happier when their going through crap ?!?!..because ...now they got a hit song with that , 🤔.....or is it in the Artist nature .....to stir the pot.....mix up the paint. So to speak...🤔.😳...Hollwood has sure created some..messed up pallets 😏. for family and lives...I suppose for "Arts sake"..😏....🤔....warped...? Or Art....?.... sic🤔....Or both..😳...or is not all "Art" realy "Art" ....The age old first year Art student question..( my thought..🤔 if it realease s a thought , Joy pain(healthily) or feeling that helps or results in at least a bit of Healing for someone else (and does not continually damaging, individuals or society....or if it inspires one to act , or speak out of or for good of a person or group of people,or if it just makes the person give pause to compasion, if only for a moment ITS Art..)

    • @GiraelCS
      @GiraelCS Рік тому +3

      Can't happines get just as deep as the most miserable sorrow? And have you tried writing a happy song during that mood? I'm honestly curious.

    • @tylerpalmer8973
      @tylerpalmer8973 Рік тому +1

      @@GiraelCS, for me, sadness or depression is something I have to get off my chest, and always found it easier to write when in that state. Same thing applied to me for drawing, etc. Not that I drew sad or depressing pictures, but I always seemed to be able to be better at it when it was dark and rainy and I felt a little more down.
      When I'm happy, which is quite a lot, I'm more focused on doing other things. Sadness has a way of making me center in on myself and my feelings more.
      That being said, I can write music when I'm happy, just not lyrics.

    • @Hahnsoulo
      @Hahnsoulo Рік тому +1

      @@GiraelCS I think many songwriters write songs primarily as a form of therapy. Like they write songs to get things off their chest in lieu of going to a therapist. When someone like that is in a period of happiness and contentedness they don't feel the need to get anything off their chest.

    • @GiraelCS
      @GiraelCS Рік тому

      @@Hahnsoulo That's what I imagined is often the case.
      I don't have any experience with songwriting or even music writing for that matter, but I remember my favourite times drawing and how serene or even exciting it felt to get ideas from my head onto paper and it wasn't easy to draw anything when I felt down. Also many of my favorite musical pieces are ether exciting, insipiring or straight up "feel good"-vibes, so I doubt they were written in a mood on the opposite part of that spectrum, but I could be wrong.
      I think to me it speaks more to the way we approach our emotions and feelings, so I will ponder on it further, because it's quite an interesting topic.

  • @timwillis6292
    @timwillis6292 Рік тому

    Great Info & Advise 🌿

  • @rk1362
    @rk1362 Рік тому +2

    Beautifully done video.

  • @yackohoopy
    @yackohoopy Рік тому +75

    @Mary Spender, there’s a saying, “Never break the heart of a musician or a comedian. You’ll end up in the act”.
    I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years. I got 3-4 songs out of my relationship with her, “Deadly Lover”, “Drama Queen”, and “Little White Liar”.

    • @jcmangan
      @jcmangan Рік тому

      Little white sucker sounds like a hit.

    • @gordonmills2748
      @gordonmills2748 Рік тому +4

      I did stand up for a hot minute some years ago. My ex wife inadvertently wrote the set up for one of my best bits.

    • @gregster61
      @gregster61 Рік тому

      I love the title "Little White Liar"!

    • @YYZed12
      @YYZed12 Рік тому +1

      Damm, those title of The songs sounds like something Queen would write

    •  Рік тому

      @@YYZed12 Drama Queen?
      :D

  • @kirkb6329
    @kirkb6329 Рік тому +4

    loved all the references to other musicians and their breakups ! So Patty Boyd is with George then later Eric and even then , George and Eric played so many times together afterwards! Such an interesting subject Mary !!

    • @robinleebraun7739
      @robinleebraun7739 Рік тому +1

      Bro’s before (a very unflattering depiction of women)

  • @ButchWilson
    @ButchWilson Рік тому

    This is an excellent and insightful commentary. Well said, and thank you. And that piano piece is outstanding.

  • @stevep2430
    @stevep2430 Рік тому

    Loved that piano piece you are playing there Mary.

  • @borderlineguitarguy
    @borderlineguitarguy Рік тому +6

    At the beginning of movies based on a true story you see the disclaimer: The following events are based on a true story. The names and locations have been changed to protect their identities. It also protects the writers from legal action. As a writer you have artistic license. No one knows what is in your head or what your intent is. People csn assume all they want but unless you specifically use someones name or likeness they will never have a case. Disguise it as a good writer should and you will always be safe from legal action. That being said, anyone can sue anybody for anything. It's up to a judge to decide if it's worthy of a court hearing.

  • @kjbunnyboiler
    @kjbunnyboiler Рік тому +8

    Mary, how could you miss out Phil Collins? The Face Value album has to have the ultimate “don’t go, I miss you, I hate you” format🤣🤣🤣

  • @JuanCaly
    @JuanCaly Рік тому

    What a great video! Loved the piano soundtrack. So emotional.

  • @tomaswmitchellphotography
    @tomaswmitchellphotography Рік тому

    So true! Great video!

  • @spacemissing
    @spacemissing Рік тому +3

    It is impossible to keep one's strongest emotions out of one's artistic efforts,
    as most of those efforts are made under the influence of those emotions.
    Just be careful to make suitable adjustments before releasing a song.
    And, Mary, you look incredibly good in the inserts of yourself during the Legal Eagle section.

  • @seanhallahan14
    @seanhallahan14 Рік тому +5

    Pretty good! Beyond that really. Very good! Well thought out, well and interestingly presented, poignant and entertaining. Way to go!
    Please do consider a follow up on "I'll never date a musician, I know too much." I think there's lots there that could be as helpful, even more edifying and enjoyable as this one. There was a wonderful quote from some learned musicologist, perhaps Howard Goodall, or perhaps Tchaikovsky or Rachmaninoff about himself, quoting a famous other composer or themselves to the effect "I put in every emotional trick in the book in it". Sorry I can't recall the players and content.
    Please do give it consideration.
    Best & cheers,
    Sean

  • @weepingscorpion8739
    @weepingscorpion8739 Рік тому +1

    Yes, a cross over event I didn't know I wanted but I am totally loving! Great job as always with your videos and your music, Mary, and fair winds with your release! :)

  • @G-Mac-3
    @G-Mac-3 Рік тому

    Hello Mary, Thanks for Posting this

  • @johnsauer9067
    @johnsauer9067 Рік тому +58

    Kind of a imbalance of power when one is a musician with a "bully pulpit" to pronounce their anger at someone and the other person is not. Particularly when the world knows who the song is likely about. As we all probably would agree, there are two sides to any romantic break-up. A huge hit by a well-known artist at the expense of an ex leaves the other person screwed. Funny thing about George Harrison and Eric Clapton - they both remained lifelong friends after Pattie Boyd left the scene. I think I recall George saying in an interview that he wasn't all that upset about it when Pattie moved on to Eric.

    • @samsowden
      @samsowden Рік тому +4

      He referred to Eric as his "husband in law"

    • @400_billion_suns
      @400_billion_suns Рік тому +7

      I agree. These songs are enjoyable on their own, but in the context of their authors, I usually assume they’re a bit neurotic to write them in the first place 😂 For narcissists, a normal part of breakups is dragging the other person’s name through the mud in a very public way to destroy their reputation as much as possible. A popular singer who publicly shames their ex in their music has an above average likelihood of being narcissistic and lacking self-awareness. And let’s face it, musicians disproportionately include the emotional, brooding, neurotic types of people who want others to adore them on stage and listen to whatever they have to say in their one-sided musical stories ;)

    • @michaelboggus9993
      @michaelboggus9993 Рік тому +2

      Maybe and maybe not about being upset. George eventually got over it but according to Patty he broke half the stuff in the house when she first told him

  • @epoch71
    @epoch71 Рік тому +3

    Song For Whoever by Beautiful South comes to mind, as a somewhat different take on the songwriter/ex situation.

  • @billwentz5014
    @billwentz5014 Рік тому

    As always, excellent video. You're the best!

  • @salnegromusic
    @salnegromusic Рік тому

    Peace and Blessings to you. Love you for who you are and how you are genuine about the music. Blessed.

  • @hughmungus1767
    @hughmungus1767 Рік тому +31

    At the risk of being taken for a contrarian, let me suggest a completely different approach. Scottish-born songwriter Al Stewart, probably best known for The Year of the Cat, went a very different way. His songs are about historical events, many from long before he was born. I read an interview with him that asked about that and he said love songs (which include breakup songs) had been done to death and he was bored with them so he chose to do songs about major and minor historical events, including WW II, the Napoleonic Wars, and the death of Buddy Holly. I think it can be argued that writing about something OTHER than affairs of the heart adds a huge level of interest to a song. While love and heartbreak are universal experiences and therefore have a certain appeal, such songs can be seen as so routine that they lack interest. At the very least, it might be a fun challenge to write about something OTHER than a romantic entanglement.
    By the way, I want to make one observation/compliment about Mary's songs that I haven't heard anyone else mention in the comments I've read on this or other videos. The fact is that Mary camouflages her exes so well that I honestly don't know if she is heterosexual, bisexual or lesbian. I commend her artistry in keeping her private life private, as it should be.

    • @rexwave4624
      @rexwave4624 Рік тому +1

      You had me at Al Stewart, then his point about love songs. I've been following a band called The Warning, partly because I'm very tired of the classic rock that is pushed at my cohort, partly because they compose and play heavy riff rock that I loved when I was a youngster (which became classic rock), partly because their current progress from kids in the basement to rock stardom is compelling (Mary's video about ambition is very relevant and disturbing) and partly because they write about very unsettling topics (to your point) such as loneliness, murder/suicide, the angel of death, choking/drowning as an allegory for emotional trauma, etc. - not as a celebration of these topics, but trying to express pain in the soul. Are pretty young girls supposed to feel and elucidate such things?

    • @HackerHaus
      @HackerHaus Рік тому +1

      “She comes out of the sun in a silk dress running like a watercolor in the rain…”

    • @rexwave4624
      @rexwave4624 Рік тому +1

      @@HackerHaus “the ghost moon sails among the clouds”.

    • @wturber
      @wturber Рік тому +1

      Any subject that a person can feel deeply about can work. And then sing it like you really mean it. "What's Up" and "Zombie" are examples that jump into my head. Going back in time, there's "The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald", "Riders on the Storm", "The Hurricane", "Where do the Children Play", "Harper Valley PTA", "Boy Named Sue" and two of my faves, "Sultans of Swing" and "Money for Nothing". The list is rich and long. The world is chock full of things that we care about - all great potential for song lyrics.

    • @TomBombadil515
      @TomBombadil515 Рік тому

      Some of my favorite artists create music based on completely fictional events, using their storytelling and musicianship to draw in the listener. Dream Theater springs to mind with most of their material, especially their concept albums like Scenes From a Memory. Then there’s stuff like Godzilla from Racer X with high-octane, overstimulating, and shred-type playing.
      The whole progressive genre, rock, metal and otherwise, is all about experimenting with different sounds, instruments, and subject matter that makes for engrossing listening. Soen by Lotus also comes to mind.

  • @LysanderLH
    @LysanderLH Рік тому +8

    The thing about this, is that we can all name plenty of songwriters who, through a lack of extreme enough emotional turmoil, sought ever more extreme emotional turmoil and experiential anomalies through abuse of themselves, others and the physical environment around them. Sometimes it was expected and demanded of them. This belies a level of dishonesty; a pattern of thinking, which forces further psychologically traumatising events in order to feel productive as a writer.
    My advice to those who try to outdo their lived experiences by consciously choosing to cause more to happen than nature might have otherwise provided them, is to stop. Sometimes things, life, changes. Sometimes the person you were changes. Sometimes those around you change. Trying to squeeze every last drop out of every given situation is potentially an emotionally unhealthy, psychologically damaging thing to do. Reflection and looking for answers and meaning is not the same thing. Feeling and experiencing emotions and responding appropriately to them, is not the same thing.
    Just my thoughts on this.

    • @DeGuerre
      @DeGuerre Рік тому +1

      In the classical world, Felix Mendelssohn is often singled out as a composer who produced amazing music, but had an unusually comfortable life and was reasonably well-adjusted. Yes, he died early at the age of 38 (of some medical condition that ran in the family), but he had a pretty decent life before that.

    • @nitroanilinmusic
      @nitroanilinmusic Рік тому +1

      @@DeGuerre Not everyone needs to channel some extreme emotional energy to create music. As a musician myself, I love creating music that *sounds* emotional, but never needed a source of said emotion to channel to it. And in the off-chance I actually utilize my negative emotions in my work, it's mostly for therapeutic purposes and probably wouldn't do if it made me feel worse.
      This post wouldn't be the first I've heard of abusing oneself's emotions to create more art, though... That sounds very dangerous.

  • @ZijZijnZijnZoons
    @ZijZijnZijnZoons Рік тому

    Very interesting videos you put together. I've seen about a half-dozen or so in the past week. There's a lot to digest, but it's very profound and thought-provoking.

  • @mathispenel22
    @mathispenel22 Рік тому

    Very interesting video about a topic I wouldn't thought of, thank you Mary !

  • @SunnyIntervalsORG
    @SunnyIntervalsORG Рік тому +7

    It's so weird to see 2 people that I've followed separately on UA-cam or social media for years suddenly doing a collaboration out of nowhere! Pretty cool as well!

    • @rasaecnai
      @rasaecnai Рік тому

      My brain shortcircuited and said "Wait Mary and the LegalEagle are dating?!" LOL

  • @psa110
    @psa110 Рік тому +3

    Mary, I've always hoped your songs about broken relationships were not actually your personal experience...they are too painful and sad, leaving me with the desire just to give you a big, warm hug of comfort. I guess your songs achieved their aim but it is still too bad you had to go through what you did.

  • @RyanMcMusic
    @RyanMcMusic Рік тому

    Thanks so much for making this

  • @andyrharris
    @andyrharris Рік тому

    This is one of your best videos yet. Good work!

  • @dominicsedillo1980
    @dominicsedillo1980 Рік тому +5

    I think the differences you pointed out between “Dear John” and “Paper Doll” are articulated so well and I have thought the same thing.
    I think the level of maturity as a person and as a songwriter show themselves in such things.

  • @theboysown
    @theboysown Рік тому +7

    The breakup songs of ABBA are unique in the fact that Björn wrote lyrics about his break up with Agneta and the had her sing them.

    • @Sam-vy8ye
      @Sam-vy8ye Рік тому +2

      Same for Fleetwood Mac

    • @calewis55
      @calewis55 Рік тому

      Oh, God..... So rough.

  • @rusnsc7622
    @rusnsc7622 Рік тому

    Quite interesting and a very well done clever video. Bravo Mary!👏

  • @tenniswithandy
    @tenniswithandy Рік тому

    creative video, I really like the musical backing as it adds to the tenor

  • @thedduck
    @thedduck Рік тому +3

    Dang, his webcam must be hella expensive. His zoom / live stream must be cinematic af 😂

    • @friendofships
      @friendofships Рік тому +1

      you can plug in your DSLR, mirrorless camera or dedicated video camera and use it as a webcam, that is probably what he is doing.

  • @rayschoch5882
    @rayschoch5882 Рік тому +3

    "He thinks the whole thing is about him…" is just perfect… Humans are… emotional, and emotionally messy. Creative types often more so. Fortunately, I'm far too old to be dating a songwriter, or anyone. This is one of my favorite "Mary" videos - smart, sassy, that lovely Bristol accent, thoughtful. What's not to like?

  • @spaz_ol4485
    @spaz_ol4485 Рік тому

    Amazing video, love this sort of content. Thanks!

  • @seiunbklicky4364
    @seiunbklicky4364 Рік тому

    LOVED THIS!! and LOVE YOU!!!

  • @tauzeroii-jayg1226
    @tauzeroii-jayg1226 Рік тому +6

    This reminds me of a joke told by a friend in radio, who narrated it in an official-sounding infomercial voice.
    "Have you dated Taylor Swift and had a song written about you? You may be entitled to legal compensation." (chuckling)

  • @Markothunder
    @Markothunder Рік тому +5

    This video taught me a lesson. Never get into a romantic relationship if you don't wanna have problems. Stay single and happy forever

  • @antunkatona5674
    @antunkatona5674 Рік тому

    This video was brilliant, Mary! Very interesting and funny too! Thanks!

  • @seandaeley7079
    @seandaeley7079 Рік тому

    A fun, funny, and informative video essay, Mary! Thank you!

  • @DazzleRebel
    @DazzleRebel Рік тому +6

    Carly Simon has still never revealed who "You're So Vain" was really about. As for actually writing and releasing a personal song I'd say it's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission!

    • @robinleebraun7739
      @robinleebraun7739 Рік тому +1

      I heard Cat Stevens and/or Kris Kristofferson. .

    • @DazzleRebel
      @DazzleRebel Рік тому +1

      @@robinleebraun7739 lots of theories but she's never confirmed. Warren Beatty, David Geffen and James Taylor were all in the mix too.

    • @martinwatkins1444
      @martinwatkins1444 Рік тому +1

      @@robinleebraun7739 Widely believed to be Warren Beatty

    • @aaronbenson2767
      @aaronbenson2767 Рік тому +1

      If I was a vain person, I’d swear that song was about me…

  • @leewilson1368
    @leewilson1368 Рік тому

    Bravo! Mary, I’ve never heard anyone address this topic. You’ve done well! Cheers!

  • @edmiller4149
    @edmiller4149 Рік тому

    Always entertaining, Mary. Thank you.

  • @greghalsey3603
    @greghalsey3603 Рік тому

    Really insightful!

  • @FDNY8231
    @FDNY8231 Рік тому

    Enjoyed the piano playing very much.

  • @scottmcbride5514
    @scottmcbride5514 Рік тому +2

    Well done, learned some new things, and love the alter ego just noodling on the piano...

  • @bsvenss2
    @bsvenss2 Рік тому

    Didn't think I'd stay so long, but this was a very interesting and fascinating video. Thumbs up!

  • @paultisme
    @paultisme Рік тому

    Goodness Mary, that wonderful disembodied speaking voice of yours.. smooth as silk.. and your music too of course..🙂

  • @jesushernandezpitito
    @jesushernandezpitito Рік тому

    Greetings from Morelia, Michoacan, Mexico The best to you. Keep us posted of your coming performances.

  • @ssmold
    @ssmold Рік тому

    Love the piano music!

  • @divarachelenvy
    @divarachelenvy Рік тому

    Thank you for this, I always wondered... Love your work...

  • @JamieMPhoto
    @JamieMPhoto Рік тому +2

    Love this video, and Legal Eagle rules! Also, love your piano interjections. ha ha.

  • @busboy3943
    @busboy3943 Рік тому

    Well done Mary. Thank You!

  • @andrewjeffries8721
    @andrewjeffries8721 Рік тому

    Once again you bring up an excellent point, Mary. I dig what you say about the upside of being hurt. It could be an energizer for my muse. On a parallel note: I find it hard to write upbeat hard rock lately because life for me is very laid back. Things are good for my wife and I lately and I do not want some extra trauma just so I can have writing fuel. *sigh* I guess I'll write more laid back jazzy stuff. Keep doing what you're doing Mary! I appreciate your viewpoints!

  • @grimslater
    @grimslater Рік тому

    Very high audio recording of your voice. Lovely top end especially!

  • @mauroverabiran
    @mauroverabiran Рік тому

    Great video and interesting topic.