How To Overcome Your Demons
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
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We all have demons, but how can we conquer them once and for all? In this video I will help you face your demons, and you may be surprised to learn where they really come from…
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Mark if you are reading this, you have absolutely changed my life and way of thinking I am a much better person now, overthink less and live life more. Lots of love continue what you are doing
Same here!
Same bro
Diddo buddy
Mark saved me from deep shit, i owe him a big fat one!!
Been reading Mark Manson's books for some time now; The Subtle Art and Everything is Fucked. Actually read subtle 5 times and on my 5th read of Everything so it all syncs in. And oh my goodness the difference in my life, I'm much more awake, self awareness improved a lot, few old shitty habits and values are dying down lessening their grip. Thank you Mark truly!
Yesterday I took a "mental health" day, and completely fucking blew it by playing videogames pretty much the whole day. Not the first time this has happened. So, I'm quitting playing videogames for the rest of the summer. I procrastinate a lot. There is a ton of shit I want to do, have started, should be doing, said I would do, bought the shit I need to do it... But I spend more time hating myself for not doing things than I spend getting things done. I think, at age 46, I'm finally making some small strides towards being less of a piece of shit in my life. I quit drinking in May (A choice partially inspired by your videos about drinking). I exercise more consistently than I ever have. Goddamnit Carl!
sounds like you're on the path. UA-cam is my biggest time suck. Quitting alcohol is massive. Video games are pointless. You're transforming yourself in real time
Nice to see Mark giving smaller stars like Morgan Freeman a chance to shine
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"Every Demon has an associated Angel"
-Mark Manson
"If I got rid of my Demons
I would lose my Angels"
- Tennessee Williams
It makes perfect sense now
This video really relates well with "The War of Art,"
which labels those demons as "Resistance," that is like a magnet opposing true North that pushes back harder the closer you get to fulfilling your unlived life. Very helpful book for creatives who struggle to commit imo.
Yes, great pairing!!
Pressfield's stuff is at the top of my TBR list. Arthur Brooks is another great one.
@@smileyginger1 I'll take a look at Brooks, thanks. As someone who already uses playing music as a somewhat spiritual/meditative practice, I really connected with his writing style. The book helped me become significantly more of a pro with what I do, even though it was a pretty short read. Highly recommend it
Hey Mark, last Friday I flirted with a girl for and for the first time I didn’t feel anxious. You’re teaching me a lot about values and being myself, and I hope that one day I am able to be my true, happy self. Thanks Mark. I recommend your book to everyone around me.
I bet that required you to find some bravery that you never knew you had! But then once you were out there doing it, it probably didn't feel that scary (speaking from experience) and you could totally do it again.
It sounds like a big personal achievement. Well done 😊
You dirty flirty spicy little sausage!
Great video! I had to pause it at this one: ""Whatever you choose to value in your life, you are also choosing to experience the failure of that value.""
Same here, KAPOW!!😂
Didn’t notice that during the video, glad I read comments!!
Agreed.
Almost as good is Conan's Dartmouth Commencement where he says, "It is our failure to become our perceived ideal that ultimately defines us and makes us unique."
@@willl5970 oh nice!
This video could not have been uploaded at a better time for me. I needed to hear that. Thanks Mark!
I want to clarify something about the concept of shadow that I think gets misconstrued a lot (I am a Jungian-informed therapist who's been attending a Jungian seminar for three years). The shadow is NOT ONLY things we despise or loathe. They are the parts of us that are *unknown* to us on a conscious level (hence being in the "shadows" - we cannot see them). In order to despise or loathe a quality about yourself, you have to have some kind of identification or awareness of the part you despise. That happens through *projection* - seeing it outside of you. Projection happens when a shadow aspect of ourselves is *on its way* to consciousness - projection is the first stop. Projection can be either an idealization or a hatred of the quality being projected.
The shadow on its own is a thing we could never conceive of ourselves embodying or being - this can go in the direction of hatred or idealization. We can be unaware of parts of ourselves that are actually *desirable* to us, and that we would wish to cultivate if we had the chance. The bright, shiny parts of others can also be shadow aspects in ourselves.
Mark, I encourage that you change your languaging around the concept of the shadow, or do some more reading on it, because it is not fully fleshed out, and can lead people to thinking that they are doing "shadow work" if they just identify the things they hate about themselves. It's partially true, but your way of describing it is incomplete. It takes a fuck ton of work to discover shadow aspects, and if it were as simple as "note what you hate about yourself and befriend it" - I imagine the world would look entirely different that the one we are currently in.
I totally understand where you are coming from here - and I think that while true, so many people are so completely disconnected from themselves that Mark's advice, while incomplete, is somewhere to START. Imagine a world where at least we had THAT. We need to crawl before we can walk. Sometimes just sitting with the aspects of yourself that you dislike can lead to uncovering things about yourself that you never knew - "good" or "bad." One needs to start somewhere to make the space where that can arise.
@@smileyginger1 yes this is a great point! i appreciate this thoughtful input
@@frettymercuryI love your comment. I’ve done some research into Jung, not as deeply as you. So my innocent question is do you think some of our greatest gifts and potentials can also be in our shadow? Like possibilities and drive we may be repressing because of recent trauma? Id love your insight.
When the mushrooms brought me into confrontation with my most hideous & long denied shadows, I wrapped my arms around them in acceptance rather than trying to run. They were immediately disarmed & lost all power to control my future behaviour. They’ve not gone anywhere. But now they work for me, rather than the other way round. Trying to cast them aside is neither wise nor possible. They’ll just take control again.
15 days sober. What a blessing.
keep going King
35! the demons just keep yapping though.
One day at a time.
Congratulations. I don't know what it's like, but I'm proud of you. Keep it up. Your future self will be so proud of you.
Keep going. I’m sorry to say but you’re in the easy phase… a lot of newbies to sobriety get in over their head and as my dad and his AA friends say, “get a little too confident”. Just keep going one day at a time. Stay consistent with meetings. You got this.
The demons you use as an example sound too nice lol. My demons are my temper, my judgmental nature, my criticalness of myself and others, my commitment issues, my selfishness, my habit of manipulation, my lust/struggles with fidelity/wandering eye, gossiping, talking negatively about others, the list goes on… I feel like such an awful person. But I love this video so much (as usual) and I’m a huge fan of Jung and his thoughts on the shadow. I am a huge proponent of shadow work for healing. Inspires me to read one of his books again. Thank you Mark!
My problem is that my demon says I am a loser. That I have wasted my whole life till now. That I will never be able to redeem it because I am getting old and am still not getting better. And even with my most level headed analysis I find that my demon is f**king right.
Start proving him wrong. It’s not easy but worth it
@@leo-loves-life Thanks.
Read Mark's "Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*" He has a whole chapter about why it's "Never too late"
The reason your demons are so hard to get rid of is because they were there when nobody else was.
They were not the demons then.
@@skepticonHGH They always were. They were playing the slow game.
Still they give relief from the chaos world sometimes, when everything falls apart, confusing, they are there present with us even if it makes us more miserable in the long term.
They are us
@@skepticonHGHAlcoholism isn't a "demon"? It's always there when you're down, if you're an alcoholic. By your definition, that means it's not bad. Lol
I can't stress enough how much I appreciate your work.............from the bottom of my heart.
Mark, this timely video resonated with me.
Harsh inner critic as a reflection of enormous ambition
Being distant from people also allowing me to take risks that other people wouldn't.
I am still combating my inner demon to this day, but the wisdom you shared just propelled me so much closer to self acceptance.
I think this can work as your next book title
Basically use "Talk no jutsu" on your demons hahaha
Jokes Apart, that was some great advice thanks mark!!
A mental narrative, I've created:
I'm sitting in a movie theater, with my "shadow self" on the right, and the "mentor/best friend" on left. It took me a long time to see the shadow clearly to shrink him down, and bind him up. He can not be erased, and masking or suppressing him, has its limitations...shrinking by close examination, is what you want to do, and you need to always be a little vigilante, to ensure he doesn't grow, and take over. On the left is my mentor, who usually tells me NOT to keep playing the same bits of film over and over. And just reassures me, "everything is fine, just stop playing the bad parts". The theater is consciousness itself. Technically, nothing in this theater is real...the self doesn't exist. It's just a construct. Sometimes, it's helpful to mediate on this point: the empty theater is the real me.
This reminds me the movie ‘Inside Out’ - When the existing emotion chase away the ‘sad’ emotion thinking that would keep the young girl happy, instead it did the opposite. Only when they accept, embrace ‘sadness’ only then they see the positive value/emotion it can bring to the young girl.
Great video Mark, I've missed these shorter form videos from you. This one hit with me. I've got some things to think about.
Your books have helped me change my life and I have no idea how I didn't know you had a channel. I'm so stoked to binge all of this.
I thought I was alone thinking this. Thank you, Mark.
10 minutes of pure value! Thank you Mark❤
"Every demon has an associated ángel. Our demos are just the other side of our best qualities". Brilliant.
Thanks Mark. That perspective on my Demon doubting everything, helped me Slot today. I cannot want something and not fear loosing it.
"Don't get attached, don't get hurt" that's so relatable.
this came right on time for me. literally for the past 30 minutes i have been feeling the same was as you put "demos"
This is a relatable take on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
That demon claw freaks me out! I'm expecting a nightmare on that shit!
Always enjoy your content, Mark!
It’s called the Shadow work.
In the dark night of soul you encounter your shadow. It would shatter your worldly beliefs, judgements etc. you will also experience mild depression for weeks before you integrate with your shadow and make it your friend.
It is concept when your soul re-enters your body.
I found something similar advice in a book called No Bad Parts which goes like - "Everything u hate about yourself is just a part that loves u and wants to protect you , even the self harming one wants the physical pain to protect u from the unbearable emotional pain and if u just took time to listen to it and love it back it might become ur greatest gift".
In short words don't let ur discipline become yet another distraction .
Don't let ur inner child bulldozed by a drill sergeant.
And just like mark said - Every demon has an associated angel , No Bad Parts folks , Stay safe and happy.
I had the same problem with video games, but lately I kinda learned that those games keeps my anxiety in check when it gets high and gives me a lot of time to think about some new ideas for work, etc. My brain just works better when it gets hour or two of dark souls or final fantasy a day, game a day keeps doctor away I guess...
I think video games are great as a hobby when they aren’t a replacement for life, but another fun activity and vocation that can be a source of recreation and excitement. Kinda like chess, sports etc. I love playing Street Fighter after a day of doing what I need to do
Mark, You are one of the most important persons of the century, Thank U for who you are ❤
Thank you for this video dude, I needed it today
I too am a slave to Fromsoftware's creations.
I believe on Miyazaki's supremacy too 🤌
so real
There is happiness in this slavery.
@@Batzarn82 bro the notification i got from this comment had me so concerned 😭
Better help can help me communicate better with my demons? Even by text? Wow!
I noticed that too. Time to subscribe to that service! :D
They'll also sell your personal health information to the highest bidder.
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It's obviously your own choice, but do keep in mind Better Help, as someone else mentioned, sells your personal information.
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You won me over with the corgi B roll :)
1:40 “My struggle is with my own sense of usefulness in this world” really hammers home the point that my problems aren’t special, they’re universal. I struggle to give myself a break, even if I’ve been busting my ass off or if I just need a quick break from life. It’s that fear of dying knowing I’ve wasted my life instead of focusing on what matters most to me that stops me from enjoying gaming in my free time. Keep in mind I’m only 21, but yet I obsess about “using my time wisely” so much that I forget that taking a break and doing something for fun is ok from time to time.
Probs to the person who made the thumbnail! Phenomenal work
Absolutely marvellous,
One of my struggle is I use to get called ugly growing up so now I think I'm a good looking dude I work out and stuff but it's hard to still get pass that so now it hard to ask girls out bc I always tell myself there is a better guy out there for them
I thought I was the only one with this problem. When I see my image in the mirror and in certain angles that I look I hear that voice that says that I'm ugly. And when a girl rejected me my demon said "it's because you're ugly" and I work out and do self care routine but it's so hard to let go the demon
I cannot tell you how on time this is. I keep asking god, when am I going to actually overcome my demons. I’m hyper self aware so I just think I’m an awful person. Last night I acted in a way I know better than. At the end of the night I asked myself “what could I have done better tonight?” And I had a list. I knew better but I didn’t do better and that’s what kills me.
Heyy!! I'll suggest Jesus to u try him he's a game changer
Other than a demon,
I believe i have an angel. Her name is Angel Apheus. Every night when i sleep, i tell her all the things i was thankful for throughout the day. Subsequently, my day becomes better. Sounds delusional but im living life happy
Mark is like a father figure for me ❤
Mark... Are you hiding in my house or something ?!
All your latest videos are spot on , great work !
This is My favourite episode!!!
My Carl is called the Antagonist. I realised that it is a part of me and it is there to challenge my beliefs and morals. So it went from being a negative part of myself to something that mostly helps me make good choices by reasoning out all the shit choices first.
Avoidant attachment style. Glad you figured it out!
The ego is our main demon; become friends with it.
we love you Mark!!
The Tibetan ritual is the real deal, and I'm saying that without ever immersing myself in one. One of the things so effective about Seven was not letting us see "What's in the box????" If you see something, you take power away. We're always more afraid of the Unknown, which means the Unknown is more likely to gain control over our thoughts and feelings if we let it...GREAT video!
Nice video and valuable insights about dealing with demons. I will say that this line of thinking is covered in IFS, bit it's a bit more broad with very specific recommendations to dealing with various parts. It would be cool if you did a video on IFS.
Mark, I saw this video two years ago in your channel, it changed completely the inner voice in my head, same as you “laziness”. I just wanna say thank you.
Mark , that was a great video. As an orthodox Christian I understand the depth of this .
This one is profound and has just made an impact in my perception of life. Thanks Mark.
I just have to say that all those funny and witty caption on b-rolls and graphic inserts are freaking hilarious and deserve a like on their own! I definitely love this sense of humor 😁
Please keep adding them, Mark!
Perfect timing. Thank you very much Mark ❤
thank u so much mark(i regard us as an angel,please never stop sharing ur lessons,i really wish i could meet u once in my life,manifesting the best and only the best for u today,tomorrow and always
I really got a chuckle when you referred to your demon as a “dickface” then made a point to illustrate that fact. Only to blur it out to reinforce the point. Well played. That aside, I’ll be sure to share this video with my son because the message of the video is something I know he struggles with. His autism and ADHD only exacerbate the problem. Thanks for posting this!
Finally there’s AI. I’m so glad you got the Morgan freeman’s voice. You have come so far. Hello from South Africa.
I needed to hear this today... thank you
Similar to Carl Jung's shadow work. Currently reading Connor Beaton's ManTalks based on Jung's work. Awesome book. Thanks Mark.
Mark, THIS IS STH I REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR, YOU HAVE CONTRIBUTED IN THE BETTERMENT OF MY LIFE IN A WAY YOU CANT EVEN IMAGINE, YOU ARE AN ANGEL MARK ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Mark, i hated my demon, maybe i still hate him and that means i hate myself because he is a part of me that i want to hide.
I feel like my demon is a terrible being and that showing him around the people i know would make them hate me, he seems unpleasant and destructive, but maybe i should stop caring so much about what other people think about my true self and give myself and my demon more love, even though i don't know how.
From today i won't hide him anymore and if he wants to take control and mess things up i guess i have to speak to him frankly and say to not be a jerk. Thank you for the good reflection time, much love
ugh so timely THANK YOU
One can easily tell this was well thought out. Great content.
I don't think I need better help after seeing this, super eye opening, thank you so much for sharing.
I’m glad authors like him are adapting to different sources of media to keep the content alive. Gold move ✨
First 30s cut so deep I nearly screamed. Forcing me to take a lengthy pause and distract from the moment and type out this comment. so imma pretend I didn’t feel that and watch the rest of the video now.
Always learn something important with Mark content.. good stuff
I call my laziness demon “The Sloth-Man” as per Sloth being a deadly sin. It always complains when I push myself to do things that take effort.
Mark broo
U are becoming smarter and better looking day by day😅
I love you mark. You are my biggest motivator
I actually feel like I relate to you Mark on a personal level. Thanks for the video.
Hi Mark, what is your vision on ‘psychological flexibility’?
Ram Dass has much vital info on this as well.
Just try IFS - Internal Family Systems - therapy. It focuses on integrating all parts of you as a whole. It's not talking therapy. It's great for healing.
Mark I get it, Shadow of the Erdtree is definitely steeling some time from my life. Trick is to make sure you dont go overboard. A couple of hours a day is my max for video games.
Great video. I think it says a lot about the acceptance about one self seeing the bad and also the good part
Love your content! Keep up the good work Mark, eager to meet you in the future along my journey!
Great video, felt quite light to consume because of the tone set up in it, fortunately I've been dealing with this kind of thing a bit well than before for some time and you also mentioned things like how to deal with them and the shadow etc that I was thinking of during the video as well
Mark, I cannot ignore nor dislike the inner demon’s voice from now onwards.
For sure he will be presence at all time and giving me his piece using his soothing voice because I love Morgan Freeman voice.
Thank you so much for this video. It has truly helped me understand better.❤️
This sounds in line with Internal Family Systems therapy. Where we have multiple personalities within our minds with different roles. And how to heal our relationship with them.
Well - these voices are the result of our éducation and our need for love and validation. What we have to do, as explained in the video, is gain space and not let these voices decide for ourselves. Impersonating them is a good way. But is not enough. We have to realize that they are reflecting the way we are attached to people
Giving us love… and we have to let go this attachement if it’s toxic
There is more to say on this topic… good luck!
Bomb video. Love it
Awesome video! Mark is the goat 🐐 Love listening to your podcast, and love the channel. Love what you do🤝
It's been a few minutes that this video is released so we are gonna watch it
Watching this right after an anxiety attack episode. Gotta love the algorithm
56 mins ago....i was like whuuaaaatttt i rlly need this now
After some time, The Real Mark.
Thank you for this specific review on Feeding Your Demons (the book), which I have now ordered, and for making it in the single-voice format. While I really like your co-presenters on UA-cam, I find the focus is more chaotic and harder for me to follow. My dyslexia and hyperactivity (which has been rebranded as ADHD, I think? I get it mixed up with HDTV...) make the less-linear presentation harder for me to follow. Or maybe I like feeling like your words are directed only at me, no sharing? Or both.
A format you have used that splits the difference is similar to the one you used for this book/concept review, where it's you presenting them as a subject, sometimes with germane video snips.
Anyway, thanks for another great video.
Damn yet another video that slaps Mark
Thank You Mark for teaching me Internal Family Systems therapy 😂
Really great vid thank you.
You cant truly value something unless you also value the lack of that something. Perfect quote.
When I was seventeen years old, I shouted out into an empty room, into a blank canvas that I would defeat the forces of evil
And for the next ten years of my life I suffered the consequences...
With autoimmunity illness, and psychosis
As I got older, I realized there were no real winners and there were no real losers in psychological warfare
But there were victims and there were students
It wasn’t David versus Goliath, it was a pendulum
Eternally swaying from the dark to the light
And the more intensely that the light shone, the darker the shadow it casts
It was never really a battle for me to win, it was an eternal dance
And like a dance, the more rigid I became, the harder it got
The more I cursed my clumsy footsteps, the more I struggled
So I got older
And I learned to relax, and I learned to soften, and that dance got easier
It is this eternal dance that separates human beings from angels, from demons, from gods
And I must not forget, we must not forget, that we are human beings
-Ren
Bro casually put out the most epic comment
Who's Ren btw?
@@safyullahjawid8592 He's a Welsh rapper, super talented and thoughtful guy. Check out the song Hi Ren, it's incredible. Tim Ferriss shouted it out in his newsletter a few weeks back
@@safyullahjawid8592 ua-cam.com/video/s_nc1IVoMxc/v-deo.html
Well said, straight to the point, calm delivery, noice
Having lunch with your demon reminds me of this existentialist tip for anxiety. Anxiety becomes way, way worse when you try to fight it and get away from it. The tip from this book said instead, sit in the couch with your anxiety and have a conversation with it. Get to know it. Ask why it’s showing up right now and what it’s doing here. This was a huge unlock for me. I realized I was losing to it by running from it, trying to avoid it. Instead, personifying it and having a conversation with it I could understand it better and navigate with it.
And for anyone wondering the book was called The existentialist survival guide by Gordon Marino. A truly fantastic book for anyone.
Regardless of the demons you are very articulated 🎉